THE MIND GAMES THE NARCISSIST PLAYS IN RELATIONSHIPS by RC BLAKES

[@rebirthed1274]

"They will declare their love for you and never follow it with actions"....so true

[@brees5697]

The worst part is when they say it often, and occasionally follow it with actions. They know they're keeping you on the hook, but you don't know you're on the hook until you try to assert yourself, or leave, and then your life is destroyed.

[@angelawoods1890]

@@brees5697 those type of people are only capable of manipulating people who like being manipulated from my point of view you have many people who like being mistreated from those types that's why those types exist because some people like those type of people we myself personally I don't like anyone who's not nice to make you not nice to me I start to ignore you right away so I am not they tight so I don't have to worry about those type of people approaching me thinking that they can control me anyway and then to hear you say that they know they are beneath you that's really a good thing to know that they feel they are beneath you that's why they get involved with people they can't control them make them feel bigger and not smaller thank you for your Insight and I listen to you talk a lot of times so I would know what they think when they think about a approaching a person like myself I do not like abusive people I don't even get involved I had to learn the hard way but now that 61 I am recently learning about those type of people thank you for the information that you are providing thank you for your Insight

[@leyamariebooth7890]

The 1st time I witnessed my ex narcs mask come off was a life changing moment for me. He turned from loving to cold and demonic in a split second. It was as if he was possessed and nobody was home inside of him. It was so frightening that I said to him....babe its me...babe its me! I thought saying that would snap him out of the demonic state of mind he was in. Little did I know....that was who he really was. Lord help us all...we live amongst human demons. Thank you Pastor Blakes for doing Gods work and giving his ppl the armour of God!

[@Anerial15]

narc survivor I can relate

[@omgimover4075]

narc survivor my ex narc actually had a demon attacking him in his sleep. I had to shake him awake because he was yelling out in his sleep. I should’ve ran left his demonic behind then. But no I had to stay with him a few months after that. Strangely Bizarre

[@lyndiex4215]

narc survivor yikes😡😶 u dont have to give details...but what happened before the mask slipped??? Were yall arguing or something...very creepy to witness. smh Another thing...cause hindsight is always 20-20: Can't believe i wanted such an empty Loser...I remember times we would converse n he'd give that devil smirk" like yup...jus got one Over on Ya...fuckin COWARD. U dont have the balls to be yourself so u got a billion masks!?? This world.....or what's left..

[@leyamariebooth7890]

Lyndie X he was upset about something he felt that I had done weeks prior. He pretended that he wasnt mad and then bam!!!! One morning Demon boy showed up...he was emotionless, had dead dark eyes, and his voice even changed. Lord, I couldnt accept what I was experiencing. In my mind...it wasnt really real. How could someone that displayed themselves as a sweet, loving, person be this damn evil???? I have nvr seen anything like it in my entire life. It was like what you see in horror movies.

[@SquirlieMcSquirrel]

narc survivor oh i just got out of that mess. He used to b so nice in front of everyone so everyone even his family wouldnt believe me when i talked ab the abuse i was going thru. He exposed himself recently tho and even his own geandma dont wanna talk to him now 😂

"THEY PLAY THEMSELVES..LET THEM DEMONS GO"💯💯💯

[@bartaandel7798]

Ignore them, its not worth your time to entertain a bogus low life..

[@Anerial15]

Pastor, you are spot on. I was in a relationship with a narcissist on & off for 4 years. Confusing? Yes! Very confusing. It’s a never ending cycle of hurt, pain, confusion & deception.

[@lunahmoon8286]

Did you make it out of that relationship OK?!!!

[@Godislove818]

Yes very low self esteem , woman gives them attention , declare love and no action, i believe his words so dumb , stood by him while incarcerated did everything for him a place to stay and six months out and now my use for him is useless hes gone on to one of his baby mother's he has four and keeps going from one to another...hurts like hell but i,m healing with God and Pastor Blakes..

[@sharonartis3176]

Shereece Jackson me too for 3 years of hell. I thought she was my one , she vowed never-ending love for me, then would seem possessed ,dam shame ,left her 6 months ago no contact for 3 ,both my doing, yesterday I found out she moved on, why did it sting, not hurt just sting , I guess I revert back to great times ,I know she will treat them the same 😣😁

[@Anerial15]

Lunah Moon I barely made it out! If it wasn’t for God literally snatching me out of it, then I would still be in it today! I can’t really explain it but at a time I could not function without him. It was crazy. I literally could not eat without him, sleep without him or anything. Our soul tie was so demonic

[@camilogonzales4953]

Pastor I saw your videos , they are great and very helpful I suggest to consider that narcissist affect both woman and man I met a malign narcissist woman that played me for 3 years in an on and off relationship almost drove me crazy

[@thepuppetboyzjr.5589]

They check your phone, accuse you of cheating, make fun of you in public or in front of your children, ignore you at important times, don’t deal with your pain, and accuse because they are the actual ones they don’t trust.

[@TheMonica82]

Exactly! They accuse - because they are the one who is cheating! I like what you sad too - they can't trust themselves! #Blessings

[@taztytaz101]

My ex husband in whole paragraph...thank you God from delivering me from this toxic soul draining individual

[@balkangetaway]

Mine aways said 'i don't even trust myself'. I should have acted on those first red flags after a few months about how i was cheating though i weren't even talking to other men

[@sharonbrown4939]

They are demonic pastor ,they need the cleansing blood of Jesus. Amen.

[@hopelessromantic1763]

Whhhewww....story of my life for the last 6 months. Accused of something I didnt do. Went through my phone and made all these things up in his head. I was clueless to what was going on. Til this day he has never been honest for why he left. Didn't know that grown men still went through phones. Read messages from before we met and used that against me.

[@liztaylor6546]

Narcissists are masters of confusion.

[@TheLockhartPerspective]

Liz Taylor just like their father, the devil.

[@virtuous_committed]

Liz Taylor

[@virtuous_committed]

Oh my God yes. If you are not strong they will literally make you crazy.

[@queenj7720]

I have been stuck in mental games with this personality for 7 years thinking I was crazy. I gained strength by showing no emotion and got the heck up outta there.

[@tarahvega2094]

Liz Taylor i

[@godschild1300]

You can go from a beautiful woman of GOD...to being a Jezebel in no time with these people.They love tearing you down.

[@chiketabrownwest6682]

Yolanda Brown So Very True...Im living this as we speak. Trying really hard to get my life back im order 🙏

[@monika8520]

Yolanda Brown A crazy person can drive a sane person crazy

[@JR-ze3nn]

Yes He would call me a virtuous woman of God ... to being a jezebel when I went against anything he said.. Lol They don’t change.. I stood by him Time and time again went through the cycle.. probably over 20 times.. I finally got tired of being treated like a toy.. filed for divorce

[@flostep9887]

That was exactly what happened to me

[@natashajefferson8626]

This happened to me also..I don't know who I am anymore

[@CJ-hv7bu]

He twisted my wig when he said you start looking up to somebody who is beneath you, I will comment once I get my wig back on straight. Lord have mercy.

[@atiyathompson2564]

C J 😂😂😂😂😂

[@j-fit677]

@@atiyathompson2564 great quote and great comment!

[@blessings28]

😂😂😂

[@natashaduncan2112]

My side hurts😂😂😂🙌🙌

[@alicemahomes6976]

Buy you a new wig.. Get new information. Ask God for Widsom. In your Life.

[@buzzingbee6380]

Narcisists do not apologize. In 15 years I've never heard I'm sorry ever

[@kirmoramolone]

So true, this whatever don't . But when he do its smart tone and very nasty. Then expected me to accept it.

[@pamelaredd5967]

My dad - who is a narcissist- has NEVER apologized for anything! He’s 83.

[@eyeoffthetiger2691]

Sheri H true only for the supply

[@lvncsr6166]

Monica Hurd he constantly apologized but always got worse in his verbal abuse and behaviors.

[@Anerial15]

Monica Hurd or they will apologize & try to use you up again!

[@lashondaspringfield779]

You are spot on Pastor. I’m healing from this roller coaster and revolving door. I was a victim too long and I find me beating myself up saying what in the world was I thinking? NEVER AGAIN!!

[@almajones9447]

*BEEN THERE TOO* ✋ *I THANK GOD* *I'M FREE NOW* *I SURVIVED* 🙌 *BY THE GRACE OF* *GOD* 🙏

[@Dlovely516]

I know it's so Over whelmingly surreal. I can't even wrap my head around this about a person than I so called loved. I questioned everything about me. WH WAS I? WHAT DOES THIS MAKE ME? It just makes you feel so bad inside. And they just play these mind games So easily and sometimes you have no idea what's going on what's about to happen. That your soul is in danger. Lord Help us. I am swirling. But my Mind is Looking toward Me and My Life.

[@never4saken165]

ME TOO!!!

[@bigwomenstretch-2789]

Meee too!

[@killerstress]

I have been living this nightmare for 25 years in marriage. Only recently have I discovered the madness behind it all. Unfortunately, the long term abuse has destroyed my physical health and I am struggling now to heal from the extensive damage, physically, mentally, and spiritually. If anyone listening to this video is suffering from narcissistic abuse, please take this seriously and put a stop to it, no matter what it takes. The longer it is allowed to continue, the more the destructive and devastating it becomes to the victim and the more difficult it is to recover.

[@kathyr2800]

killerstress I had 25 years of the nightmare too. Finally filed for divorce with no contact after the narcissistic abuse almost killed me, because even tho your mind says you can handle it, eventually your body will break. Our society needs to be better educated about these individuals.

[@chelceasurgenor598]

I pray you are healthier now my friend. Im still with my narc husband. And we have a 9 year old little girl together. I left once but of course he stayed in her head and i couldnt get her so i came back. Which was exactly his plan! Please pray that we can get out soon. We live in a small town and everyone sees him and hard working Christian man. And it makes it even harder to get out for good. It has made me physically sick with my hormones and now i have autoimmune disease too. Chronic stress is very bad.

[@1010QUEEN7]

My physical health is not good he is the reason I'm disabled

[@aLightShines]

@@chelceasurgenor598❤

[@diannahminefee8400]

I have 2 children by a Narcissist!!! 19 year old son & 8 year old daughter! I could write a book on this subject!!! I remember when he left me,he told me that the move he was making to be with this other woman wasn't about Love!!!!! He said it was about making life better for himself because she could offer him more than I could material wise! He said he loved the lifestyle that he was living with her! I am a living testimony of the power of God's healing!!!! The Hell I went through was unimaginable!!!! God can give you beauty for ashes& I am a living testimony of that!!!! I don't engage the Narcissist, I keep contact at a bare minimum, I set boundaries & I am aggressive to maintain my peace of mind! And, I ignore irrelevant rhetoric!!!! I been through too much hell! And, I refuse to give my energy to dead issues!!! Some people are a GOD job!!!!! And, the Narcissist fit's that category! If you continue to allow a Narcissist in your life, you will continue to go through a perpetual cycle of pain!!!!

[@stephanielewis6788]

Diannah Minefee yess!!! DO I KNOW

[@user6d2a05]

Diannah Minefee I'm so sorry to hear that you had to go through that sister. :( Yes, only God can change them and our Father can Heal us!!!

[@diannahminefee8400]

The Bride of Christ Everything we go through will be used for our good,to strengthen us,used to help others& for God to give us beauty for ashes!!!! I am whole& healed by the grace of God!!!!!! And for that I give God Praise!!!!!

[@kellydorsey8983]

Diannah Minefee can you email me [e-mail]

[@diannahminefee8400]

Kelly Dorsey is there anything I can help you with?

[@mslolab6343]

11:49 Declare their love but will never follow it up with action. I can def relate. All the empty promises....

[@emmettkepler2331]

I am going through this all you said it feels like eating broken glass

[@asiangirlmob]

Some of them are so prideful and pretend like they didn’t do anything wrong that they rarely apologize. The narcissists that I dealt with rarely ever apologize or never do. The ones that do apologize are only doing it to get you back and your right about nothing changing.

[@deschainerideaux]

Doreen Augsburger Facts! My ex did what I consider "half-apologies"... He'd say sorry followed by a lame excuse, & then turn around & tell me I had fault in it too...but when I ask for an example of how, there was no evidence to back it up....😒 Thank God that ended 2 years ago 🙌

[@sincitybarbie3749]

Doreen Augsburger-Lane my ex husband took this to the extreme. We were at Disneyland with our young child (probably 3 or 4 years old). He walks so very fast and bulldozes thru the crowds leaving me way behind. He always walked way ahead of me allowing doors to slam in my face even when I was carrying diaper bags, purse, toys, shopping bags, car seat and or my child maybe pushing stroller but usually just holding our son. He wouldn’t think twice about whether or not we were ok back there- he is almost 6 ft 3 whereas I am only 5 ft 2. His legs much longer than mine so he covered ground a lot faster. Anyways, on this particular trip to Disneyland he was especially hurtful, inconsiderate and mean. He wanted to distance himself from me I guess and barreled his way thru the crowds so forcefully that he actually pushed an old lady down! I am not kidding or exaggerating. She stumbled and fell to the hard concrete. He did not even so much as skip a beat but kept on. I see this unfold infront of me and as I get to the woman to help her up I apologize profusely for my husband. I do not recall what excuse I made for him but he must have heard me or noticed other people stopping. He got in my face and with the angriest most hateful voice screamed at me not to ever apologize for him. I’m not certain but think he said something about it being a sign of weakness. I was so horrified by it all and by how distorted and angry his face was, his knuckles white, he appeared to have been shaking a little. It was scary. I’ll always remember that moment. That’s when I realize how truly evil and fucked up he was.

[@StardustSJ_]

Oh my love...my heart goes out to you. I can only imagine how horrifying that was. I'm going through a divorce with my soon to be ex that I believe to have NPD. Some days I think I'm doing okay and then other days I cry thinking about our good times and the pain. How did find the courage to leave and get through your divorce?

[@cdhmhm9024]

Oo9

[@sabrinahilton8957]

@@sincitybarbie3749 God bless you I know exactly what you are going through they are heartless,evil & cruel they don't have any sympathy for you or others my Narassitic husband cursed at a elderly man in Wal-Mart(what the f**k" I had to tap on his arm to calm him down before the cursing get any worst because it will & I said nooo don't do that the man said excuse me he is an old man he didn't mean any harm he is just trying to get by my husband replied "he couldn't wait til I f**king move" Lord I was embarrassed the guy on the aisle stocking was looking like oh goodness something is about to go down & he looked scared too & shocked smh I had a friend with me that day as my witness because I'm afraid to be alone with him ANYWHERE EVEN IN OUR HOME I always walking on eggshells around him because anything will set him OFF I'm praying for you & your child & everyone that is effected by a toxic & these emotional vampires are not our supplier & we are not theirs ANYMORE I'm Jesus name I pray Amem

[@intentionalgreatness]

It's the cycle of dead love because it only provides the illusion of "love". The funny thing is that just when you make progress your mind goes into preservation mode and yearns for the "comfort" of that relationship again...which is really self sabotage. So you can want better for yourself yet do things to sabotage your peace at the same time..and this adds to the craziness you feel.

[@eamos30]

This is exactly how I'm feeling now!!! I was healing, doing so well, so many blessings pouring out, he begun hoovering and now I feel like I'm going backwards. Definitely self sabotaging behaviors, because I KNOW HE HAVEN'T CHANGED, I KNOW BETTER!!! So, I start over... TODAY!!!

[@JR-ze3nn]

👌🏼perfectly said

[@luvingmerevivedandblessed8520]

Yes!

[@jazzyjazz2749]

E Amos exact same happened to me it’s never too late to start over❤️

[@faluqdah30]

Wow

[@Onalenna_Thobega]

I did a study on a narcissist when I did psychiatry in 3ed year and you are very right in the things you say. lastly I've experienced them. and it's so funny how they can alter your emotions just like that. it took me a while to notice the pattern, that once they set in, you lose control over your emotions. and it's always been a problem with me, because I'm super strong willed, I don't like losing control over my identity. so i put my guard up and many of them have attested to how I'm hard to crack. I won't lie sometimes I realize after a while. but God has always made me wiser. I learnt to pray over every encounter of relationships with men & God's been faithful. I'd urge you to pray all the time before engaging in a relationship. because on your own, you won't identify these toxic minds

[@ledonahentley4488]

onalenna thobega You are spot on sister. There is a past wound within that makes you vulnerable to a narc demon and the only protection is to pray about a person the minute you feel an attraction! You have to let the Lord protect you. Do not lean on your own understanding- you cannot see in the Spirit until you ask for the Holy Spirit- the bringer of Truth.Put your trust in God- when you ask God to show you who someone really is right at the start no man can fool you.

[@Godislove818]

@@ledonahentley4488 testified to this i prayed and ask God to show me signs and immediately alot of things were revealed it got worse while things were revealing but today i keep praying for peace..

[@tashaequeen8935]

So true. Yep thats what i said i was gon do just start praying before and after because its tough trying to identify someone at first. And i ask God to keep them ones away thats of no good in my life. I been attracted to the wrong ones which sucks because i get attached when all they do is hurt you smh if they are the wrong men

[@dinaarthur9329]

Very true

[@patriciawhite9509]

true true

[@kirmoramolone]

If they don't act like a REAL MAN, send them back to their mommies.

[@buzzingbee6380]

kirmora molone Should have he was always a mommas boy.

[@kirmoramolone]

Monica Hurd yup DON'T NO WOMEN HAVE time for that. That was his mom JOB!

[@eyeoffthetiger2691]

kirmora molone mine discarted me and went back to his mother. Never a mommas boy again..finallyy i feel free..🎉

[@missfeminine2998]

*MaceoPatterson~kimoramolone+monicahurd+BrianFrancis+Rosie0727+YellowSynth+GTharoMcScrooge+TerryGates+Zagon7+fhfts+StevenXenoKnight+OldImpotentFool* That's what happens often you end up with a BOY like yourself rather than a MAN! Investing any time in a fool *This is YOU MACEO The hallmarks of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are grandiosity, a lack of empathy for other people, and a need for admiration. People with this condition are frequently described as arrogant, self-centered, manipulative, and demanding. They may also concentrate on grandiose fantasies (e.g. their own success, beauty, brilliance) and may be convinced that they deserve special treatment. These characteristics typically begin in early adulthood and must be consistently evident in multiple contexts, such as at work and in relationships*

[@krissnovak1892]

kirmora molone yep

[@Elainemykal]

You are like the father I never had ! A true blessing from Jesus Christ! You have saved my life on many of nights. I usually watch you every night while making dinner 😂it’s my ritual. Your voice calms me and I feel like I’m having dinner with my father! Praise God for the gifting of spiritual mothers and fathers ❤️🙏🏻

[@RCBlakesJr.]

I do not take these words lightly.😊🙏🏽♥️

[@christybird9258]

Yes, Amen and thank God for you!

[@aqueelabowie5946]

Same here. I listen to him to bring myself back to the truth.

[@lovelight2919]

They always have crocodile tears! When they cry, tell them to shut the croc tears! Then watch them laugh! It’s crazy

[@luvingmerevivedandblessed8520]

Oh wow! Such evil!

[@vikashkshatra7759]

Scary....

[@Tluv_1955]

Wow lol 😂

[@saleencrowell2600]

That's so real..

[@BrittneySamoneSilver]

Love & Light, you are right. I know my share of narcissists, and they are great actors!

[@SquirlieMcSquirrel]

I almost married a narc. Wedding was gonna be in october of this year. I asked the universe / God to reveal his truth. And it came out that a girl got pregnant from him 2 wks after he proposed to me. Now it turns out that they dont know if the baby is his or his cousin's. But im just glad to be out of that low class mess. 🙏😰🙌

[@longislandny696]

Good FOR You 👏🏾🙏🏾

[@djwendy]

😂. So glad you escaped! Consider yourself lucky

[@patriciawhite9509]

Hallelujiah!!!

[@patriciawhite9509]

@Tony Pajamas Oh Hallelujiah!!

[@virtuous_committed]

Bishop Blake's all I can say is that you have described my 5-year marriage to the man that I was married to. You were so detailed, in all your description about him because that's exactly what he was like and is like. And when I came to myself I had to divorce him because I realized that he would NEVER change.

[@eyeoffthetiger2691]

So true..they are masters of confusion👏👏

[@berninahunter8520]

Spent to many years in a narcissistic ( marriage). I'm free now and I'm very guarded. Dated a narcissist years later and he slowly got very upset about not being able to make me feel like I was less than him. I heard what he said and how he said it, I also saw what he did and didn't do. His words and actions spoke volumes to me, and what I saw was not the image he intended me to see. I decided to show him that he could not bend me left or right emotionally, I can show you better than I can tell you, so that's what I did. I began to spew out my emotional strength in my actions. Verbally I only let him know that I thought he was emotionally void, and he still did not realise I saw him for who he is . When handled it this way I didn't have to go through the process of him wasting time trying to make me feel unfit for a better man. He was glad to bail out. He was so smart, he was to stupid to know I saw him. What he did know is I could not supply him with fuel. Game over and I'm Cracking Up. You MUST take the time to get to know you and love you for who you are. Know that without them being whole enough to at least like themselves, if not love who God has created in them they have nothing to give you. Know that without you being fuel to keep that demon running and ruining your environment they have no need for you. YEA, tell God thank you!

[@ladybugbrack2834]

I appreciate your breakdown of a Narcissist from a Biblical point of view. I was married to one & I am in the process of healing. Thank you for your videos.

[@TheLockhartPerspective]

LadyBug Brack how long has it been? I KNOW I am Not going to be able to be any relationship after this one, from sidechicks calling to outside kids I am good on relationships. It's sad cause you know you are supposed to be in a marriage, if you follow the Bible... But after THIS ride. I don't want another person around me, my trust level is so low now.

[@TheLockhartPerspective]

LadyBug Brack how long has it been? I KNOW I am Not going to be able to be any relationship after this one, from sidechicks calling to outside kids I am good on relationships. It's sad cause you know you are supposed to be in a marriage, if you follow the Bible... But after THIS ride. I don't want another person around me, my trust level is so low now. I wouldn't any worth to a man now

[@ladybugbrack2834]

Felicia Lockhart Abram I know how you feel. It will be a year in August & even though it's been a struggle, I thank God that I am getting better everyday. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think about why me?what did I do wrong? but knowing what I now know, that's how the Narcissist wants us to feel. I'm like you, I don't want to ever marry again , or date.I'm just too afraid to let anyone get close again.

[@TheLockhartPerspective]

LadyBug Brack That is exactly how I feel. I think to myself, "How did I let this happen?" normally a great judge if character, I overlooked the quiet type... I didn't know he had so much evil in the resesses of his mind. Creepy. Really, really creepy. When speaking with him, he's absolutely and intentionally clueless, as to what I'm talking about-and the lying is OFF the chain!

[@ladybugbrack2834]

Felicia Lockhart Abram Oh yes, the lying is ridiculous. Thank God we found out when we did. I pray for your healing & your peace.

[@LIZARDMAN101616]

Pastor . Rule number 6 should be. Go no contact and Never look back. You will find the strength in God.Amen.

[@maylee4832]

Very true. I left a 20 years marriage of abusive relationship. I am at peace now.

[@Ladyjojo83]

I'm currently married to everything you just described. I'm praying for a peaceful exit from this toxic, dangerous situation. Keep me in your prayers, that God will create a permanent way out for me that won't include any violence against me, or that he decides to just leave for good.

[@TheDevineFempress]

I planned for that and I woke up 4 days later in the icu he nearly murdered me…when they have you for long enough they believe they OWN. You …I hope you are alright

[@LeiRoses]

You are saving lives!!! Thank you! May God Bless You!

[@kirmoramolone]

Thank you Pastor Blakes What you are saying is music to my ears. Narcissist are irritation to my aggravation. He's frustrated behavior is very childish. I am so done.

[@luvingmerevivedandblessed8520]

And it frustrates you when they are soo childish!!

[@farfromaverage_5333]

Association Direct, is the mans name. He is very detailed just like you, i enjoy you both immensely. 🌸God bless🌸

[@rtex4472]

I found out that my narcissistic husband married the IDEA of me and not ME. He married not me but the things that came along.

[@SuperJesusislord777]

Its been 2 years for me, my resources are almost depleted, everything is chaotic and I want my peace. am in so much debt and he still wants more.

[@virginiagatiw-an1939]

If you’re married, how to cut him completely?

[@patriciawhite9509]

@@virginiagatiw-an1939 Call on God, surrender to God Ask God to remove the serpent. God will ANSWER you.

[@darlahenderson4734]

So relate to this.

[@darlahenderson4734]

@@SuperJesusislord777 you will win you will heal . I wish you lots of self worth love and beautiful caring friends in your life . I am there too but packing . I will use my credit if I must . I am going to live my best life now at 58 I have awken from my paradigm of codependency and narc abuse they sniff us out.

[@yachiyd1842]

"They will declare their love for you PROFUSELY, but never follow it up with action".

[@Kpleaides]

Wow

[@I.am.H.E.R]

"You dont even know what youre apologising for" did anyone else's humour kick in here?

[@mjc3587]

Yep

[@Dlovely516]

I told this man that. Saying I'm sorry and dont know why is Ludricous. Just to say I said it. Just to br able to get back in with you. It's so Pathetic!!

[@dinaarthur9329]

They are more than the word SMART. Before you utter a word, they already know what you wanna talk about.

[@cookiewoo2344]

Yesssss

[@melaniesmith1022]

Love your transparency and honesty. Thanks for your compassion for hurting women.

[@GodsKingdomStudios]

They usually only apologize in the beginning of the relationship until they have you where they want you then no more apologizing and as you say the roller coaster. SMH May God help these individuals. Great channel and may God continue using you. Amen.

[@chavonroyal2173]

Lord cover me and remove any narcissist trying to enter in my life

[@cr4228]

You are also amazing. Through the trauma bond and gas lighting, the target also gets upset when after the idealization, devaluing, and ultimately the discard occurred, the target suffers and wants the narcissist back. But it only gets worse if the target goes back. TOXIC.

[@suzannedominogrl886]

I have listened to a LOT of speakers speak on narcissism....but NONE have come close to how you portrayed and discussed the reality of this type of individual....I am a christian and I have found it very difficult to label my boyfriend with this tag and I find it even more difficult to hear people say they never change and never will because I know that God can change everything that being said I can honestly say I don't think there's any hope for my narcissist boyfriend and I now call him a narcissist simply because he fits into the mold and the description so perfectly I continue to pray for him and I am still trying to get away from his grip on my soul I have a soul tie with him and I am desperately learning how to lose myself from this demonic hold please put more teachings on KZbin about this I have subscribed and hit the Bell I will be looking for more of your teachings thank you

[@RCBlakesJr.]

Suzanne Dominogrl 🙏🏽 Thank you. I will.

[@jenniperkins4260]

Suzanne Dominogrl if you don’t get out of the cycle it will destroy you. Please get out. They will kill you somehow w/ Depression, low self esteem, and it’s a vicious never ending abuse. Anxiety will make you lose your mind. Get out.

[@lilmisslegal3018]

My husband is a narcissist... I was so confused... Jesus...jesus.. that is really the spirit of jazabel.

[@UnknownUnknown-yl1lt]

Mines too..smh.

[@samgtabu]

How do you deal with him?

[@lesliesmith3452]

This man divorced me then turned around and told people I was sleeping with the organ player which was a lie they try to ruin your character after you leave lol

[@lesliesmith3452]

@Diva RNow that he knows he can't control me he says he doesn't know who I am anymore I'm not the women he fell in love with lol

[@crystalcason6749]

My ex narc did the same thing to me.

[@teetrustyah1849]

leslie smith hey sis if people truly know you they know he was lying

[@never4saken165]

A narcissist is blind to their own ways, literally

[@katherlenepatterson5243]

We Were blind to their ways. They Know Exactly what they are doing. Just leave them be and Thank God for the lesson 🙏

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

If I was a failure my whole life w a huge brain I be mad 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤

[@Jazzedup521]

I been with a person like this for 14 years and I can't take it anymore. Thank you for this strength.

[@ghisellesimon162]

SMH it's alot ...

[@taralilarose1]

I'm so glad you're talking about this subject. I was born into a narcissistic family and sadly it set me up for attracting them. Horrific. Their core is self-hatred and shame. They rarely apologize.

[@skwilson34]

Satan...... the original Narc!!!

[@kathylewis7543]

Even worst with a whole family when they are like that!

[@deschainerideaux]

Kathy Lewis I come from a narcissist family smh

[@UnknownUnknown-yl1lt]

My ex and his entire family were narcissistic..smh..it was the worst years of my life.

[@yvonneharris2222]

My family I didn't understand until I got older

[@lg8wood]

You have described my ex-husband of 17 years...serial liar and cheater. So thankful that I got the strength to leave him...never looked back! Thanks for your wisdom and teaching!! Lives are being transformed...mine included...God bless!!

[@jazzieluv76]

Yes!!! The guilt trip gets me every single time and I fall right back into the cycle. You are spot on Mr.Blakes!! 🙌🏾

[@sunshyyne]

This is one of the Clearest descriptions that I have ever listen too!

[@amoore1286]

Listening to this is like he just read the 9 years I was with my kids dad..it was hard to leave all those years but I’m glad it finally happened for me..

[@jernisharichard5033]

amoore1286 Congratulations it’s soo unbelievably

[@shontemartinez7826]

Thank you very informative, I liked how you compared the narcissist to a used car. Spot on. Narcissist dont apologize ever. They are always right.

[@mjc3587]

Never apolog6

[@walkinginvictory51]

This is 100% truth!

[@lexwill4122]

Pastor do not underrate your knowledge of narcissism, God has anointed your mind to break these bonds off the minds of his people who has been manipulated, controlled and abused by these demons, I love your wisdom and it is practical, it is not to be compared with those who have attained a degree of study on narcissism, you have been anointed, appointed through CHRIST JESUS NO COMPARISON,POWER BELONGS TO GOD ! God bless you pastor, love you and your ministry sincerely, NICOLE

[@CatherineWoodruff-ri7vn]

12:27

[@JF-xj1hz]

In my experience! They don't apologise. They bully YOU into an apology! A 'Sorry' from these 'Soliders of Satan' is like your speaking a foreign language to them ..! IT AIN'T NEVA GONNA HAPPEN. They are truly are Evil. When I discovered the truth about my relationship and narcissism I really felt sad for him at first... I actually wanted to help him... but the more I researched this disorder and analysed his past behaviour, and treatment of me of things became crystal clear for me. I'm healing it's hard, still have work to do....God's Grace, I will.

[@mjc3587]

I hear that

[@stacyramirez5302]

They will never apologize!! Never!! They could kill you and never be sorry!! My husband would go into a abusive rage and after he got done with his rampage he would look at me and say Now I have to ask God for forgiveness or you made me mad now I have to ask God to forgive me. Never apologized to me just blamed me. He attends church and claims to be a Christian that's why he says he has to ask for gods forgiveness because he is never responsible for his word actions or behavior it is always someone elses fault. They have a sick twisted mind.

[@breakthrough1019]

“ WHEN you awaken from Consciousness coma .. they charge you with abandonment “ … spot on PASTOR RC BLAKES .. blessed and grateful for your wisdom

[@godschild1300]

We are a narcissist supply... we're not looked at as human beings.

[@NostalgiaVibes420]

You just described someone I use to know spot on! People like this really disgust me! so glad I'm not involved with that person anymore thank God I finally got my wake up call! So I thank you pastor blakes you are a blessing!!

[@durgamuhammad792]

Everything you said is 1000% on point. The only thing that was different for me is apologizing. Out of the five years I’ve dealt with a narcissist I did not receive one single apology or nothing. Not my bad, I’m sorry.... NOTHING!!! He would die first before he apologized for his behavior. But thank God I am months in my no contact I feel like I am finally getting my breath back and my sanity. But I still have days that I miss him so much it’s unbearable and I don’t understand why. But thank you for your words and information and I need that book you were speaking about at the beginning of the video please

[@user6d2a05]

Durga Muhammad you should break the soulties in the spiritual realm since there is no love in a narc relationship! The hurt you feel and missing him is bonds made in the spiritual realm coz when one goes to bed with someone you share a covenant spiritually AND on a soul level!! Narcs are demon possessed!!!

[@KeyLoLoKye]

When they apologize, it’s like pulling teeth. Loved every word of this pastor!!!! So much insight and I thank you! 😊

[@teresadavis9557]

I’ve been listening to your talks about Narcissism. Honestly, you’re just as good if not even a little better and more thorough than any professional I’ve listened to. Thank you for sharing

[@melvoniajohns8772]

WOW ! Bishop Blakes you're speaking the absolute truth !

[@dinkyluvsmusic]

I CANT TELL YOU HOW MUCH THIS HAS BLESSED ME AND OPENED MY CLOSED EYES

[@yemedemure414]

Thank you Man Of God for another powerful word!! Ending the madness right now. Can't believe I was thinking of going on a picnic date with this 😈. He's blocked on all social media. I have a new phone number. But he knows where I work and live. I called fire down from Heaven on the thought of me taking the narcissist back. God will give me the strength and courage to move on. I pray where im weak the Lord make me strong. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@AdairCty]

Spot on Pastor! You describe this individual so accurately! Very helpful instruction here...

[@QodeshLYahuah]

My son's father is a narcissist. Before I met him, I was the sweetest person. After creating a soul tie with him, I began to take on his characteristics. I went through post pardum depression for a year and a half after my son was born so I was already in a weakened state of mind and I would constantly reaffirm him while he would put me down. I helped him further himself and fell into a bad place financially and now he looks down on me as though I am the scum of the earth. Thanks for sharing because this is real and needs to be exposed.

[@alainachapman9605]

I’m pretty sure narcissist are the ones who disliked this video lol....thanks for WORD RC Blakes

[@redmoon7706]

Then after they found new supply after you take them back they discard you. That way they were not the ones that got dumped. When they discard you they let you know how deficient you are as a human being.

[@eyeoffthetiger2691]

Moon River this happend to me..4 days ago..

[@redmoon7706]

Lynn H-Town I am sorry to hear that. Yes it is not fun and it hurts to know someone can be so cold. Remember though that all this is actually a reflection of how the feel inside. They are confused and void beings that can never be happy. You are better off without them. The best way to pay them back is to value and adore yourself as the queen that you are. Do not settle for mediocre treatment. Keep learning and growing. I also like Melanie Tonya Evans. She is a good teacher about this kind of stuff. 🦋❤️

[@eyeoffthetiger2691]

Moon River thank you for your uplifting words. I feel so misunderstood. Im glad that i'm not alone in this. Will check out melanie tonya💕

[@SquirlieMcSquirrel]

Yes but now let someone else deal w that mess. Narcs dont change!!

[@SquirlieMcSquirrel]

Lynn go no contact on him and do not show any emotions at all. Act like his departure didnt effect u at all. Thats the best revenge. He might try to make u jealous w new supply like posting ab her photos etc but just act like it has no effect on u. Dont show any emotionsat all bc that is what feeds them.

[@elissetteg58]

I came across your channel last night..I've been asking God for help, I married a narcissist...didn't realize it until it was too late. I am beyond grateful and blessed God has sent you to me 🙏🏻

[@Chocqueen1c]

Man 9h man!!! This was exactly my last relationship. All I tried to do was help the man and he still manipulated everything. That's how I know you know exactly what you're talking about. It was a play by play description of what happened! I enjoy you much. Thank you, God bless you brethren.

[@DoctorCarrieHall]

Pastor thank you for posting this. I'm beginning to believe that only when all of us stand before God, then the truth will be revealed about all of us. As long as I have peace in my spirit and relationship with God personally I refuse to allow anyone's opinion of me and my truth derail me. No one's opinion of me has ever cut me a check. The acid test to faith is rest, and I'll continue to allow peace to be my umpire. Blessings Pastor to you and your family.❤

[@tamelacole478]

Yesssss been through all of that with men trying to play mind games those days are most definitely over ®®®!!

[@missfeminine2998]

*MaceoPatterson~LizTaylor+FeliciaLockhartAbram+QueenJ+ChristinaHaftman+Rosie0727+YellowSynth+GTharoMcScrooge+TerryGates+Zagon7+fhfts+StevenXenoKnight+OldImpotentFool* All of those games you played Maceo Patterson but haven't you noticed that Black men who live like you end up with nothing! LMAO You're 10k profiles never hcanges your plight your still the same FOOL!

[@edithcritchlow6014]

Females do that also to successful friends, not just men!

[@missfeminine2998]

*MaceoPatterson~LizTaylor+FeliciaLockhartAbram+QueenJ+ChristinaHaftman+Rosie0727+YellowSynth+GTharoMcScrooge+TerryGates+Zagon7+fhfts+StevenXenoKnight+OldImpotentFool* All of those games you played Maceo Patterson but haven't you noticed that Black men who live like you end up with nothing!

[@esotericjunky1050]

Two choices step away or play the game better

[@TheLockhartPerspective]

I rented the car, because it was available... But if I had to own it... I wouldn't pick THAT one. Wow, I get IT NOW... Painful though... Cause I NEVER KNEW, until it was too late, now I'm getting out, SMH

[@lavellestewart1106]

Extremely painful to know you didn't mean to him what you thought..😔

[@queenj7720]

Pastor, thank you so much for all of your videos. I discovered you in January on KZbin and you have been a blessing ever since. You have been touching on this personality type way before you started calling it what it is, " an energy sucking narcissist." Thank God for giving me the clarity that I needed to see this person for whom they truly are. I have escaped and don't intend on looking back.

[@shekinahfire5936]

Just got out of this type of relationship quick when I saw the fruit of this spirit, praise God. Run for you life!

[@nobodysomebody2719]

Never down grad your knowledge. Your top knotch!

[@christinagarcia8166]

You are the best in describing these individuals!

[@nikkyshamz2696]

Absolutely

[@sherrijohnson9692]

It is not about who you are ...it is about what they can get from you.

[@cathy_clarinet]

Fantastic video. My fav line of the day " a PhD woman with a GED man". That's it right there.

[@sispeepgame]

ASSC Direct, he's AWESOME!

[@ladybugbrack2834]

Kathy Pierre Yes he is. Quinn is everything.

[@stephdee3811]

Kathy Pierre yes he is... He's like the NARC WHISPERER...... OH MY GOODNESS...

[@sunsetnights778]

Go to "Knowing the Narcissist" on u tube.

[@derochemiles4136]

Kathy Pierre yes girl he has great insight

[@creatingdigitalassets]

Yes and the worst are the “religious narcissist or spiritual narcissist” ASSC Direct Quinn Holiday has a video in this sacrilegious person lurking in churches and bible study. Bible toting scripture quoting liars. Very scary. They are there to blend in and be trusted. It’s so wrong !

[@norekoescada3202]

It’s borderline personality disorder which include narcissism. It’s a cluster B personality disorder.

[@shantal5515]

Can they be healed from this??

[@ashg4045]

@@shantal5515 It depends on which disorder they have. A Borderline is driven by the fear of abandonment and there is therapy that can help them. A Narcissist is addicted to drama and they have very little hope. A narcissist can get therapy, but usually uses therapy to get better at manipulation and other tactics. They need a therapist who is very familiar with narcissism. It takes self reflection, the want to change, and actual repentance for a narcissist to change. If Borderline is comorbid with narcissism, it depends which disorder is dominant and other factors.

[@mrs.bernard5415]

Pastor, you are a beautiful and blessed spirit. Much appreciated, as always. Great video.

[@CJ-hv7bu]

Thank God for a life reserver because I jump ship with just the clothes on my back and Jesus. Praise God.

[@phoenixencoded9210]

Narcissists tend to see you as an extension of themselves. They have lost touch with their sense of who they are and what they're about, so they look to others to give themselves that sense of self. However, they only want to see the best of themselves so they "throw a fit" when you call them out or point out their flaws.

[@bwilliams4266]

I feel it’s wrong for anyone to date a narcissist gladly I could hack my spouses phone on time with the help of a hacker and didn’t get to marry them because I saw their conversations with people and how entitled they felt! Contact mike if you need any hack help! He will help you hack whatsoever you need to social media phones you name it his contact details are: Instagram @MIKESWILFRED WhatsApp/text [phone] and email [e-mail]

[@taranapier3296]

This is BRILLIANT. I know this person. I have lived this treatment. Wowwwww..... Thank you.

[@reneerobinson5974]

Gods hand is in me everytime you bring a message that tells me to runnnn!! Its like you know this person personally describing his actions to the core

[@coraproctor9100]

U have definitely opened my eyes, keep helping women get through these hard moments

[@annisabates1087]

Many are sexual deviants. After you've fallen prey

[@LelaPittsbeseated]

Damn I believe this

[@heavyjoechipman3594]

You're an awesome, more-than-qualified, pastor. Thank you for the prayer. I weeped so much because i'm trapped in a house in Pearland with 2 narcissists. My 74 year old mother and 50 year old brother. They've broken me down so much for so long. I feel a sad ending coming for me. I love you Pastor Blakes. I need Jesus so much right now.

[@nancyconey5973]

Praying for you.

[@demigaines5644]

I'm So Very Thank Ful That U Shared This.I Have Been Struggling For Over2 Yrs Of Being Emotionally Beaten Dwn From A Narcissist..I'm Still Struggling..2 Get MySelf ToGether.From The Abuse I Was Diagnosed With Tinnitus & Anxiety Narcissists Are Very Dangerous Ppl.....

[@AnAn-wp5rk]

Wow. The car analogy is so good and gives me so much clarity.

[@honeybee7201]

All You say is Truth..Some mens trauma of not being raised by their Mom can be a Nightmare plus other tragedy in their life causes personalities to split to protect the little boy that was harmed..Like Sybil..They give you Intellect, but noo emotion..cause if they allow themselves to " feel" then they would have to feel all that trauma they blocked out cause they wouldnt be able to bear it..so they comfortable and embraces them demons..if You see through them some will drop you..and groom/ seek out someone who dont know who they really are..as long as you stroking ego they fine..if you have to bring to their attention how you feelin there lack of emotion then they feel like that scolded little boy who endured untold mental and emotional anguish..We cant Love them past that Pain

[@raeanneegan6191]

Honey Bee wow you explained that so well. May God have mercy on their souls. It’s sad but true.

[@michellek2946]

Honey Bee! I have stayed your words exactly. I knew why my partner was narcissistic. His childhood was horrific. It’s why I stayed so long. I felt so bad for him. But The pain and humiliation he caused me was so unbearable, I had to leave. I realized my love could not help him see the truth. I really feel sorry for him but I needed to save my own life.

[@honeybee7201]

@@raeanneegan6191 Ty and You Soo Right May God Help them🙏🙏

[@honeybee7201]

@@michellek2946 It's a Cycle for Sure If We didn't get Out.. 🙏🙏🥰

[@raeanneegan6191]

@@michellek2946 That was the same with me Michelle, I understood all the trauma and pain he endured as a child and so I stayed. I thought my love and prayers would heal him but things got worse, his behaviour and treatment became worse. They can’t help themselves, even if they mean to treat you better they just can’t. In the end I left, I had to save and love me ❤️

[@crystalh81]

I’m only 4 minutes into the video and you’re blessing my soul. I’m still dealing with the effects of a narcissist a year and a half after the relationship ended with domestic violence. Very dangerous and subtle...

[@mhisb1]

Thank you, you just spoke my life. That is truly a draining situation.......but God

[@jasminecarter8998]

All of this hit the nail on the head! I fell for the words without waiting for actions to prove this person. If I didn’t do what he wanted then here comes the guilt trips. He constantly projected his mess on me and used me as his emotional punching bag. Every. single. Word was true. Even the abandonment mess smh I didn’t even know I was back in another narcissistic relationship until right now 😓 I knew many things were wrong but this person could never get me to neglect my self awareness. God kept me!! And I got out! Praise God 👏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽

[@qiiandii]

Pastor Blakes, your honesty as a man with a past, willing to help teach and help us reach, a better, God centered future is beautiful. I wish my father, who is now deceased would have been as open and concerned about my soul ties. Thank you Pastor! You are blessed!

[@ladylilo6044]

Pastor, you have no idea how much you have helped me, I broke up with a narcissist. He is always trying to contact me to get me back. After hearing this, I am now cutting out all means of communication... blocking, completely disconnecting and disengaging with this habitual liar, selfish, narcissist man. God bless you, and thank you so much.

[@derochemiles4136]

Pastor you have added spirituality to this and that is genius because it is that as a person that delt with these individuals in my family and romantically so and your hitting the nail on the head keep going! God continued blessings to you.

[@vrussell6428]

Everything Paster Blakes says is so true. Down to each and every point! Even his last point to a tee (even the words used....it is so scary!) Thank you Pastor Blakes for affirming this and for helping me in my healing as I no longer blame myself or worry about what I did or didnt do that could have made the difference. I am also truly blessed I have gotten the courage and strength to have no contact whatsoever with him. I feel free and relieved.

[@Bakari02]

There are always signs! When god shows you something please believe it!

[@makaylahollywood3677]

You have it. I have grown up with Narcissitic abuse, it's good to understand it so to heal. Anybody can help others. Thank you.

[@sharonm.9908]

Thx, great teaching 🇨🇦

[@deliyla15]

Thank you for sharing your interest in this topic. I have been dealing with a man of this kind for more than ten years and through videos like these I am coming to understand why it has been so difficult to break free. Now I know it is not due to being a weak woman as others on the outside may view the cause to be. I just keep praying and seeking God to break the chain.