Roman Kemp - Our Silent Emergency

This film came out yesterday evening and the moment I began watching it, I knew I had to share it.
I have had one of my own mates take his own life, so I related intensely to this message of checking in with your mates as often as possible. I have also struggled immensely in the past with my own suicidal ideation and depression. This is one of the many reasons as to why I am involved in the many things I do today.
I have the great fortune of running a mens podcast called "Modern Maskulinity" designed to support mens mental health + mens personal development. I also support my fellow brothers in a private, safe FB group for men called "The Awakened Man."
For all the men watching this, how are you?
No, really. How are you?
I am here for you in any way I can be. As long as I have breathe in my body, you will never be alone. You are NOT less of a man for speaking up, for sharing, for asking help. All that makes you is a human being. Its okay to struggle. Its okay to have negative thoughts. Just always know that you have a space here or in the communities I mentioned above to feel supported, loved, and cared for.
We can do this together my brother. I love you mate.
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Please note that I take no ownership of this video and I am not affiliated with this video in any way. I am sharing it for the sole purpose of supporting mens mental health and the movement of suicide prevention.
Full Credit goes to Roman Kemp and BBC.

[@marcandreyko4251]

Roman Kemp is an amazing young man. He did this to honor his friend and it will end up saving dozens, if not hundreds, of lives. what a beautiful way to honor Joe's memory.

[@angelaglanville9377]

But will it though? His friend would never have told him how he was really feeling. Some people cry for help, in which case they get help. People like Romans friend didn’t do that. Robin Williams was a prime example of how people hide their true feelings.

[@jarangi1]

​@angelaglanville9377 so tell me what are you doing to help in this area? I would be interested in your solutions

[@marcandreyko4251]

@@jarangi1 one: talk openly when you are struggling to those around you, two: be there for your friends 24/7, even if they don't talk, knowing you are there can help, three) if you think someone is in immediate danger of self-harm, do not be afraid to ask offer them your support and love. and, yes, if someone really wants to die, there is only so much you can do, but depression is a sneaky monster and sometimes a moment of overwhelming sadness is reacted to emotionally, whereas it often will pass, look, i'm no psychologist, these are not medically approved ideas, but i have been on both sides of this issue and knowing, no matter how sad i was, that i had people around me, and articulating my feelings gave me some power over the darkness and made me feel less alone. just be present for your loved ones and never be afraid to ask for help whether it's from a family member, a friend, or a doctor. there is no shame in mental illness and we need to erase the stigma because we are losing far too many people. thanks for coming to my TED Talk.

[@melaniewingar7520]

If someone doesn't want to share they won't. Trust me. I have no intention of ever sharing my struggles. There isn't always anything you can do. This human race bring in on themselves for the way they shame and judge each other and there isn't enough trust. So that's the solution!! EVERYONE accepting EVERYONE and to stop shaming!

[@marcandreyko4251]

first, you say to trust you then you say there isn't enough trust in the world? and i am sorry you are struggling, but how is holding it in and not getting help working for you? getting help isn't judging you or shaming you. it can make a difference.@@melaniewingar7520

[@1903chrisholden]

It's so so important to use Roman Kemp's ask twice rule Ask once " are you ok " Ask a 2nd time " are you really ok ? " By taking that special extra few minutes you could save a life

[@angelam886]

Its hardly his rule

[@mboaten8657]

Should be shown in schools. Well done Roman.

[@turquoiseturtle7664]

…..& everybody could make a safety plan as mentioned at 23:44

[@DB-nw4gk]

Roman has produced a lovely homage to his dear friend, you can see the heartbreak in his face. God bless both of them 💚

[@johnflynn5044]

I have an aversion to the children of celebrities.. Roman is the exception. Hes a humble sensitive decent compassionate young man No sense of entitlement about him and no airs or graces.. He could be the son of anyones next door neighbour Oh and unlike most children of a celebrity hes actually very talented in his field

[@sliffs]

Totally agree. Definitely brought up well and naturally a nice fella

[@LittleMilkJug]

His mother seems such a strong woman. Helping him and what she had to go through with his father.

[@Cici07xxx]

I adore how close he is to his mum,dad and sister ❤

[@JanNan]

My heart broke watching this, I did not realise how many young people feel so desperate . I hope and wish for every person who are struggling Love , Health and Happiness BUT most of all PEACE of mind

[@vickimaccallum]

Other ways that suicidal ideation may be expressed: I just want to go into a coma for a while I wish I could disappear until …. I’m having a hard time knowing why I’m here I’m sick of being here

[@pauljordan4452]

I have had this for 25 years.

[@bblake5116]

It affects every generation. I lost two friends when I was in my 20’s. I’m 46 and a mum to teenagers, and I struggle hard, but mums are suppose to be the care giver. I had my breakdown lying in bed with my then 8 yr old while she slept, I planned how not to be me anymore. I was lucky that I have a chronic illness and I see my GP every month and she simple asked me “ are you ok” and it all came out, she could see I was on my tippy toes on the high wire. It’s a cruel illness. I would rather my physical illness at its worse then a tiny bit of depression

[@cristinaburmeister5400]

This brought me to tears as I have a young adult son & wondered if his friends ask him twice if he's OK especially after a recent break-up. I am always asking him if he's OK especially now that he's away at college & don't see him as often. It is tough knowing that many people struggle with this in silence. I do understand some the challenges our youth & many adults face can be overwhelming but as Joe's mom mentioned the saddness those remaining on this earth after one takes their own life will be carried for life by those who remain. Just take the time to reach out to someone you haven't talked to in a while or in my case my son to make sure they're OK. Thank you, Roman for bringing more awareness on this subject and sharing your personal story.

[@annettefitzgerald2965]

Many years ago I was in a not so good place for a long time. Eventually I joined a Christian church, started reading the bible and gradually I experienced being changed on the inside becoming more joyful and positive, then I committed my life to jesus christ, the best decision of my life. There is power in God's Word. It will take the fear off your life.

[@ruthtruthinireland]

My goodness, this is one of the most amazing productions I have EVER seen and listened to around the whole tsunami of psychological health challenges. I hate saying "mental" health as we all bandy about that word in humourous ways and in derogatory ways. I could totally relate to so much of what was shared and really appreciate every aspect of what I heard. I struggle often with my own psychological health. I have both clinical AND situational depression that hits me out of the blue from time to time. While watching this I texted my adult kids.... just because... asking how they are and hoping things were going well for them. I didn't tell them I was watching this OR that I was in tears. The boys texted back with lots of love and hugs and positivity about where they were and what they were doing and my daughter rang and caught me right in the middle of bawling my eyes out. We had a great chat.... I'm fortunate that she's studying Psycho-Therapy (and even if she wasn't.... she's amazingly clued in) so she was able to really reach the core of what's going on with me today. To be 100% honest.... I was already miserable when I saw this Roman Kemp video on my feed and I said to myself "don't watch this, you don't need a reason to feel worse"... but I'm so glad I did. Thank you Roman for making this video, thank you for sharing it with us "the great unwashed" out here in the world... you've made a difference to this Irish woman in her 50's.... Keep on keeping on.

[@Linda-gw5pm]

Thank you for this story. So important. I lost my brother in 2009. No one suspected how he felt.

[@jometcalf1357]

Thank you so much for this film. And Huge Thanks to brave Roman for sharing. My husband has suffered with depression nearly all our nearly 40 years together. When he first went to see a Psychiatric nurse he told her he had suicidal thoughts but not me? He is a lot more open now and has said that because i'm here for him (Caring & loving him after 2 Liver Transplants) he wouldn't do anything even though he has been at his lowest. The Government has pushed Mental Health to the bottom of the pile which is so terrible for all those that are desperate for help. 😞

[@katy433]

Mental health makes trillions in tablets tablets that are addictive and humans are just guinea pigs to these pharmaceutical companies the powers that be give maximum 6 counseling sessions 6 hours over 6weeks to save a life 6hours to make a difference that's how much the government and pharmaceutical industry value life even though they make trillions and trillions daily they don't want healthy humans it doesn't make money and god help us all if they get the health business and it is a business goes private

[@daniellenichols9757]

My best friend drank himself to death on Oct 11th of 2023 and I am demolished and angry. I loved him on every level. He carried me through the absolute worst time in my own life where I myself was suicidal. I am 48yrs old he was only 35 and I don't allow people in so I know I will NEVER have anyone close like that again.

[@tinaellis9751]

Only just come across this video of Roman. Wow, listening to him on his breakfast show and learning he’s on antidepressants because of depression and anxiety, who would have thought he had these issues. Well done for highlighting this sad issue 😢

[@RhondaBuckley-hz9ch]

A wonderful young man to bring this to us that there is hope

[@patriciaschmitt6448]

To Roman: this was such a great video. You are so blessed to have a mom that seems to have a sixth sense about you and your dad and the feelings you carried. Suggesting your dad go and talk to a specialist, being there for you & pointing out indicators about your mood and feelings - she is incredible. It is wonderful people like you to bring this out in the open and stress that there are always people who care and will talk. Depression shouldn't be a stigma in the 21st Century and it is getting so much better. Stay well and know that what you have done and created out of this video is wonderful and touching - you are so awesome and brave!

[@ronnieochero]

Respect him so much more for doing this!

[@Lolo-wh1pc]

Sending lots of hugs to you all! You are opening the last barrier of men not talking about their mental health. 🌷🌷🌷

[@donaldfoster6113]

Thank you so much Roman for making this video. God bless you

[@kasiaisolde6527]

that male policeman was wonderful - so tender and calming with the people - non-judgemental and kind.

[@eveapple4928]

A large amount of police work is now deployments to mental health crisis - either talking someone down or when someone is a high risk misper because they’ve phoned a loved one saying they are going to take their life. The police spend a significant amount of time doing this work and those who are often in crisis quite often seek this input as they know the police will listen, will care and be with them in that moment. The amount of people who specifically want the police to help them rather than other agencies is surprising. I don’t know if it’s a feeling safe, parental thing? Anyway most cops are kind and empathetic. Christ knows they see enough suicides to know it’s worth doing everything to avert one. But yes, burglaries don’t get attended as a result and this is what is visible and is complained about.

[@marygilligan8459]

The best segment I have seen regarding suicide. Awareness. Roman! Your openness will help others. 😊

[@Tom_murray89]

This needs to be shown in schools

[@paulharrison7968]

Roman, that was an amazing video, I’m nearer your Dads age and have had my own mental challenges … that somehow I have successfully overcome on my own … I think that yes I’ve survived … but now need to get help facing my demons professionally which I will now do. I feel you have showed an exceptional level of maturity in discussing this very difficult subject, it’s reinforced the importance of friendship and mates, thank you .. your friend was blessed to have you as a friend

[@markhooper4532]

Winnie Wallace... Thank you Roman. I can tell you really do care.Seeing the looks on these young lads faces said as much as any of the words spoken. Well presented, should be shown in schools.

[@Owen-ne6pe]

thank u for posting this in good quality

[@furlycee]

Thank you for making this. I am a mental health worker from across the pond in California and am so encouraged by this. The hardest step I think is always asking the hard questions but you did it so beautifully. Talking to that man who tried to kill himself and asking him where he was at mentally could NOT have been an easy conversation to approach, but his answers were so lovely and honest. Really god bless you and your work.

[@kathytyler7592]

So hard to watch but so needed to see. Thank you Roman

[@fernandapalacios8578]

Thank you for posting this. Hope it reaches people, it sure did to me ❤❤

[@therelationshipcoach_]

Thank you for the love. I am so grateful that it did reach you, and I’m grateful that you took the time to watch. 🙏🙏

[@pilks7615]

I have shared this to many friends Ronan and also for ya all too check in on each other properly 🙏🙏

[@therelationshipcoach_]

@@pilks7615 thanks for sharing Jason. Grateful that you came across it and are spreading the word. Your light is much appreciated in this world 🙏💫

[@deirdregahansuttle5698]

Excellent video. Well done Ronan, family and friends.

[@abbigailpattison1427]

Thank you for sharing this, I never had the chance to watch it before now. This has made me more aware now I have more male friends. I will now use the twice rule with them

[@margaretotoole1534]

What a great programme Roman thankyou for airing it I've been in that dark place but got help, it's so important for lads to reach out and talk help is out there

[@brian.7966]

you have done more good with this film. well done. you are a great guy, thank you.

[@aurikene]

thank you. this is so important. especially because men and boys are conditioned to not ask for help. mental health is health. asking for help is ok. ask anybody, parents, siblings, friends, colleagues, random people in the coffee shop. most of not all of them have experienced something of that sort. they will help. talking helps. estonian saying: shared burden is half a burden.

[@sophie-emma]

watched this last year in school, it was so emotional to watch

[@davidpratt6616]

this was a great watch especially after losing a few friends in recent years, thankyou

[@matricci2256]

This was very powerful and helpful

[@sinceiwas16honey]

Thank you Roman 😌 You are a wonderful person 🌹

[@Harvey-sm5qi]

Roman thanks so much for * highlighting * the hidden mental health issues amongst the male population, following the loss of your best friend & soul mate Joe. This video is amazing, I've been through lots of trauma recently, but have kept my issues hidden, so I don't become a burden to others who are in a similar situation.

[@user-by8pg7rb9x]

Wow can I say well to Ronan Kemp for doing , last night was the first time I had seen this. After watching the first thing was get into touch with someone who is special to me and I knew they are going through a really bad time at the moment. We talked for ages ,so a big thankyou .

[@bevwhitty]

You are amazing Roman Kemp... I bet your late best friend is looking down on you and proud of what you are doing in helping others! Very inspiring. Great work, very emotional. Ask twice are you OK? Are you really OK? Was perfect from the lads.

[@AMYV3]

Mother “I still don’t believe you would do something like that”. Don’t say that. Please. It’s not her fault. It may be her way of saying. I know you I’m a good mother. I’d know. Because we don’t know. If he’s telling you he was thinking about it. He can do it in the right circumstances

[@lorrainelyons3783]

You are helping Roman 💙🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[@tinastagg6258]

This documentary rightly points out that there is help available. It’s important to know that some people don’t seek help until they reach such a low point they’re incapable of seeking help. To feel so worthless that you fear the suicide phone line people will hang up on you because you don’t deserve their help and other, better people are on hold ... and then what will that do to you, just break you even more? It’s clearly irrational thinking to anyone who hasn’t been there. Some people do a great job of hiding it, like Roman’s friend Joe, and in others the signs can be there. If you do see a friend in trouble, sometimes the only catalyst for change is you. There is also help out there for people who have family and friends struggling with their mental health, such as resources, advice and support to help you help your loved one.

[@pixiehematite8391]

Thankyou Roman. I am just going to ask my friend 2 times if she is ok. Thankyou for a😘 exploring and airing a subject that is misunderstood and pushed under the carpet. Talking and caring are key ❤️🙏❤️

[@kennethrush9363]

Thank rRoman what a amazing guy you are for being really concerned about all these tragedy’s .And the lost of your best friend I know how you feel Lv you xx. Take care Roman xxx

[@1903chrisholden]

Such a powerful heartfelt amazing documentary thankyou for sharing what is a very important issue and message

[@verabolton]

Why did this video not go viral? 🥺

[@verabolton]

@Nicky L It seems I live under the rock 🙃

[@vyvienvp3413]

Roman is anything but, a celeb kid. What a creative and deep soul he is. A pure soul. He is going places, but in unusual ways - quite unique humane person really. Bless him and bless Joe X:)

[@IONAPINKMOXIE]

Thanks to Roman for being vulnerable...

[@shanelennon7397]

I lost one of my close friends to suicide in january of this year and i can deeply relate to what roman said about about missing his voice i feel the same his girlfriend shared some voice messages she had saved from him and i listen to them regularly i just miss his voice. i just miss my friend

[@Teenibash1969]

Do not regret taking Cetraline. Modern life is tough and we all need some help. Remember you are so loved Roman.

[@lenkaklepacova2167]

Youre a lovely guy Roman, thats what people need to do and thats to show feelings without any shame. Id be tremendously happy to be surrounded by honest and hearted guys like you.:)

[@michellegerrard6623]

Should be doing these awareness classes/safety plans in secondary school.

[@Planty1986]

This is such a hard thing to go through… from both sides. It’s hard to lose someone but it’s also hard to feel like life is bleak. People hide it. Please just be kind. ❤

[@lorrainelyons3783]

We’ll done the bravery of the Scottish guy👏👏👏

[@tabithalawrence1518]

Roman your amazing

[@mral8145]

She’s a good mum! Just like mine. She saved me too, like him!

[@devondetroit2529]

How can this happen in our country? How can the biggest killer of men under 50 be suicide.. HOW?!

[@WALTONCHIEF]

A lot of young men feel worthless these days, we evolved to provide and hunt and be useful. And now we get told how worthless we all are

[@deborahostmo]

I can only think that an upbeat environment and being that jolly type of person can get exhausting- if and when we cant confront any other emotions with others ----- a remind for us to allow yourself to feel .... and not rush to show friends the side they know you for ,.... It takes time to process emotions us humans have layers to us - we all feel sad and we need space to process emotions .I encourage us to speak about our feelings and be open to have serious conversations .Thanks for creating this type of material for young this generation. I'm dedicating time to make my KZbin channel about Feelings and Emotions.

[@redgirl38]

I love you so much Roman xx

[@eveapple4928]

I always find when people ask ‘are you ok’ you often feel pressured to say you are, it’s an auto response. Asking someone how they feel at the moment or if there is anything bothering them that they would like to be listened to about can be a more effective way of opening communication.

[@blondie9422]

This makes me so sad 😢

[@aussietrekker]

great quote from joe's mum, 'please stay, don't go'

[@CPunicorn]

Here after reading a news article that Roman tried to take his own life after appearing on I'm a celebrity and his mum stopped him since then I've started having feelings for him, I'm sorry If this may offend some people but It's a very weird way to get a crush on someone but after I read about It I couldn't stop thinking about him all day then I remembered about this documentary and I love him one thing that we both have In common Is that we both like the simpsons and I think a couple weeks after this aired he got surprised by Nancy Cartwright who voices Bart Simpson and his reaction was just priceless I think she's been on once since then but that's just a little weird thing that's happened to me this week that led me to watch this documentary

[@amandahaskin7230]

I’ve struggled all my life with my mental health I get a lot of pain I have complex regional pain syndrome,fibromyalgia,and bulging disks in my back,seizures and at times I find it really hard with the pain I have a black Labrador and he is amazing but at times I can go into such a depression

[@pt4005]

I work in mental health for the nhs. They make it out you just ring up and there’s help There isn’t.. that help is a waiting list 6months to a year away im afraid

[@pt4005]

And the turn over… the turn over of staff is mind blowing and there’s no one to replace them. But you just think I have to listen to some of the most darkest moments of peoples lives - truely harrowing. It takes its tole. It’s rewarding but 1 patient after another it’s exhausting.

[@pt4005]

One last point… if your going to give a thank you card to anyone or do a kind deed those who volunteer at samaratins- you are absolute angels or any mental health support line/ charity

[@tabithalawrence1518]

I will never 4get my mate Tom who killed himself and my best freind Kate you never get over lives lost to soon All the life they had gone cut short

[@victoriagraham6470]

Unfortunately it's the same across the board; no one wants to bother anyone with their problems so staying quiet even desperately wanting to talk with someone is what is done.

[@nefertiti2009]

thank you

[@heidi8284]

❤

[@sliffs]

What a lovely family. Im quite cynical about celebs but they are an exception.

[@vickimaccallum]

Not the target market necessarily, but I lost a (male) friend years ago to suicide. Was always the happiest, jokiest etc. and I think the big shock was learning that the person is likely happier than normal once they’ve made the decision to do it. So the week or so leading up that could be a missed flag. I guess the tricky one is how to ask in that case

[@Mcfreddo]

You've got to talk about intimate stuff. Let someone know someone can talk to you about anything, but always check on your friends. You've got to engage with your friends really closely and not always to have a laugh. You don't know someone truly if it's (the relationship is) all just having a laugh.

[@jt.8144]

ALL LIFE CHOICES IN THE END. YOU CHOOSE THE HOLE YOU WANT TO CLIMB INTO OR OUT OF. REGARDLESS OF EXCUSES.

[@Mcfreddo]

Right, so that's bullshit.

[@51504.]

The bit with his dad gets me. It’s like he blames himself! No! It’s not your fault kid!

[@lorrainelyons3783]

So sad, a distant family member lost his life last week the same way, left a partner and 2 young kids, no one knew he was suffering started with covid and loss of job, Tragic😞

[@leigh7507]

For me, it was thinking that there is more pain than happiness in the world. And a lot of things we are supposed to want - house, wife, kids, promotions - I just didnt want. I didnt see the point of living. I think the only reason I didnt kill myself was because I didnt want to let my mum down while she's still alive. People will look at me and say why does he want to kill himself - but for me, it wasnt that I wanted to die - I just didnt want to live.

[@great10toes40]

Because people don't know why they're living I'm religious so that emptiness is always filled for me and I always have a community, belonging

[@cidmendonca4465]

No one can understand the person whom they took their life....!.Most people advise us to talk and ask for advice but when people ask for advice ect they are not attentive or busy to care until its to late....Then most people ask why they didn't ask for help! But you will find most people have if only they had they eyes open and not their devices likes most of us are on.! Please keep more eyes on people that technology and maybe it will say more lives! Amen

[@lisamartin2768]

No words

[@meganclaridge2235]

This is so hard to watch. As someone who made 3 attempts on my life in my teens, this was rough. I don’t know who would have missed me. This is so frustrating to watch. People who try to end their life DON’T always want help!!! Telling them to talk or get help is just impossible to process. In that depression, you don’t want help, you want to die. There is help to give them without putting it on them to ask

[@TheSpiciestGinger]

Been struggling since I was 14 now 37 and still awaiting anything resembling mental health care ...the system is fucked and the more we make it a male Vs female issue the more lives we lose not realising it's a human issue. We all bleed the same blood, half the reason we don't speak up is the campaign's like this that shed light for some but push the ones in waiting for help to the back of the queue and police treat sick people like criminals now in Scotland police are asking for guns to "handle us" this will never go away until it's about all of us, the part we all play.

[@jesclifford88]

I dont agree with your view on the unfairness of gender with this campaign. It disproportionately affects men and they are less likely to seek help thats why they make up 75% of suicides. That doesn't take away anything from women at all. It's a good campaign. The big issue that everyone faces is getting help. Gps aren't equipped to deal with it and the nhs isn't good enough for mental health needs. I hope you get the help you need. I struggled for a long time and had to take it into my own hands because the help just isn't there for the majority of people unfortunately.

[@TheSpiciestGinger]

You don't have to agree, you're not the one experiencing it, simply an ill informed member of the peanut gallery trying to minimise a woman's pain knowing she's already been ignored 19 years straight while men get the care ahead of me Their life is no more valuable than mine and for a woman to ask for men to have more knowing it affects both sides shows your mentality and it sounds unhealthier than mine Men disproportionately attack women physically and mentally, hence most of women's trauma stemming from bullying by men. Men run they system, men at the forefront of the campaign. Do the math simple one

[@kiwi0019]

@@jesclifford88 Yes i agree with you

[@great10toes40]

There needs to be focus and help for men

[@jayharper7327]

The stigma attached to going to therapy is too much.

[@martinduggan4077]

we all have down days where we think of suicide my advice to anyone out there trying to help someone is to just listen say nothing just listen

[@sadface]

I understand why we should talk but the "im fine" strategy is pretty damn effective at getting people to back off

[@mariepichler9344]

🐉

[@teresapaskell5459]

Shirley is a strong common sense woman

[@csharpe5787]

What do you do when you can't talk to someone?

[@MariaAnimallover]

I hate seeing those masks again but aside from that what a great guy and great family.

[@BossySwan]

Handsome lad

[@VladyslavKL]

🦋

[@zzfreddy]

Because people who struggle with depression have been told for centuries, don’t talk about, people will think your weak, your crazy etc…

[@kennethrush9363]

Roman you such beautiful intelligent guy have you not got yourself a boyfriend ithink that is something you really need be true to yourself and make you happy and all those people around you especially family take care beautiful xxx

[@pearlhall3787]

cc please

[@jack-fc8oq]

The amount of views in this video is just amazing. All because we are men.🤣🤣🤣

[@bod3699]

Men have rarely confided in others ever, so i dont think that alone is the reason for increased suicide. Recreational drugs have been proved to have a negative impact on mental health. More people use drugs than ever before so there maybe a connection there

[@cherylbaker4290]

Roman is really handsome 😍

[@jaggass]

Funny how he looks more like Gary than Martin