r/Relationships My Girlfriend's Family Has a Weird S** Ritual

[@IDKndIDK]

The wife of the EMT is insane. She needs someone outside of that small family circle to explain the concept of EMT calls to her.

[@PurpledaisyShasta]

That and she needs counciling. Like seriously how can she think that it’s okay to constantly keep doing the one thing her husband has explained time and time again to not do?

[@emocutie4]

There is an update to it

[@TheTankClips]

@@emocutie4 what is it

[@adamcooper4891]

GothicRaven blood what happened

[@calebdavey1700]

TLDR of the update: the officers who responded with OP to the CPR incident showed OPs wife the crime scene photos and explained how important it is for him to get out in time. She admitted she thinks she has OCD and is going to get into therapy.

[@sinakirainine1719]

Wife "don't overreact about me messing with your shoes" Also wife *screams and throws a tantrum when her shoes get messed with*

[@shadowscall7758]

In her defense, OCD is very irrational and I am not talking about the "Oh, I have OCD because I like to seperate my skittles into the colors and then eat each color down evenly" or something harmless like that, I am talking REAL OCD.

[@michellemorgan3667]

I literally read this comment as it was spoken 🤣🤣😂😂

[@justsomerandombananawithin3705]

@@shadowscall7758 well I'm not sure if I have real OCD or am I just a perfectionist like I like organising things but only if it's my stuff because i dont want to organise something just to go into a rage when that persons mesess it up sometimes I make a few exceptions if have nothing to do or if it's just too messy and I wash my hands a lot if I touch somethings that's a solid but is wet like for e.g. Ice what do you think?

[@dragondog9597]

@@justsomerandombananawithin3705 that ain't real OCD

[@guaperryz596]

Ironic

[@KillamriX98]

Husband: I know I was in the wrong here- No. No he was not.

[@uncrunch398]

Until he said he was. That was his wrong.

[@ReigoVassal]

some people are being manipulated and gaslighted

[@jplayzow]

The words he chose weren't helpful but his snapping was perfectly understandable

[@TheLars6109]

He was totally in the right

[@emiliaholmberg3320]

Sounds like the wife in the first story needs some therapy to handle her cumpulsive cleaning

[@isabellasansome2814]

There was an update that implied that the wife was suffering from OCD (it wasn’t said directly I don’t think, but it was made clear that the wife didn’t have control over it and decided to go to therapy for her urges to clean things).

[@cunningman45]

Lol "cumpulsive"

[@emiliaholmberg3320]

Isabella Sansome well good for her and her husband, hope that she got the right tools to cope with her compulsive cleaning

[@emiliaholmberg3320]

Cunningman45 Oops didn’t see it until you pointed it out

[@cunningman45]

@@emiliaholmberg3320 By all means keep it, it's hilarious lmao

[@kod-s]

The wife sounds like a clear-cut case of OCD. Not the fake OCD that everyone seems to have, but a real one, when you can't control your compulsions.

[@apatheticandaesthetic3882]

Exactly. She probably does it on auto pilot. She needs a psyche eval, not her husband screaming at her. And the entire time I was listening, I was thinking 'why not just hide them, in the closet, under the bed, anywhere'

[@isthiscereallife]

with the way she acts it may even be like... ocpd? not to be an armchair therapist or anything, but people with ocpd are pretty rigid and refuse to believe anything is wrong, which is par for the course with a lot of personality disorders.

[@lycheesaft503]

I listened to this story on another video and it was resolved with an update that she was gonna go into therapy and stuff and was probably having ocd

[@napalmprice9170]

@@apatheticandaesthetic3882 with the way she would be on autopilot, hiding them would not help. Because in some cases IF you are aware that something has been moved that was normally untidy, you would still go to clean it up Op might have to buy different shoes for the time being if its that bad. OR have a key to a room for his stuff only then his stuff doesnt get as much of a chance to be sorted by her

[@Just-For-Fin]

That's my thought

[@CptSyphilis001]

I'll be honest and say the first persons wife is a huge problem, she cannot accept fault for anything and has basically admitted that someone life is less important than her being a neat freak.

[@isabellasansome2814]

There was an update that implied that the wife was suffering from OCD (it wasn’t said directly I don’t think, but it was made clear that the wife didn’t have control over it and decided to go to therapy for her urges to clean things). The OP also got a police officer friend to come over and explain what her husband does (with pictures and examples), which seemed to get through to her. From what the post said, the wife thought that he (being a volunteer rather than a full time employee) wasn’t doing the life or death stuff, just the minor stuff, and she thought OP was exaggerating. I think she just needed a third party to explain it to her that it finally clicked, as opposed to her deliberately putting someone at risk for her need to clean.

[@CptSyphilis001]

@@isabellasansome2814 I think the only valid part there is OCD. My fiance is a midwife, I have two kids now so I see what they do first hand but before that all I really knew was it was medical and involved the birthing process. I took her word for it regarding her work and how difficult it could be and that sometimes lives are in her hands. If she ever got called away then I knew it would be for a good reason. Literally no need for me to belittle or dismiss what she does. I'm glad the wife is getting the help they need and at least no one was injured. The whole exchange between the two was quite childish but I've been in similar situations where yI get so annoyed I become petty haha

[@lissaw4]

@@CptSyphilis001 I'm also a midwife! I had my own practice before getting so sick. You'd be surprised how many people think we don't do much or that it's an exaggeration. I'm not sure who they think is in charge and required to fulfill the things we do, but clearly not us lol.

[@CptSyphilis001]

@@lissaw4 midwives have my utmost respect. At the birth of my second son Ruaraidh the midwife and her student kept the doctors at bay as they knew he was coming any minute. They did everything together and my son was born naturally using only gas and air with no concerns. I was so proud of literally everyone in that room 😂. All I did was wipe my Fiance's brow and let her bite my hand in pain haha

[@xavier5192]

Chicken Permission at first I thought you said white midwifes have you upmost respect and I was trying to figure out why only white people then I realized it’s lissa white

[@personified3500]

The boyfriend that is supposed "royalty" is a joke. Nah, drop him

[@myopinion69420]

Definitely a cut and run situation. if he is going to get all holier-than-thou over such a distant relation to "royalty" It cant be a good sign for the future. He will probably turn into some kind of male mega Karen.

[@santacruz939]

Seriously 😂 she even said her family is more wealthier than his. An he quit his job idk if he thinks he will receive some royalty check in the mail or what 😂 his parents obviously didn't so idk what he is thinking 😂

[@YosiahW]

Without knowing - much less understanding what brought about drastic change in an adult with a pattern/routine obsessed brain? Sounds like you're worth leaving tbh. A lack of compassion and sympathy in relationships is guaranteed to fail.

[@elenarodriguez3005]

He out here thinking he's big shit cause some old, raggedy inbred colonizer birthed his bloodline. He ought to check himself out before having kids with anyone.

[@yat_ii]

its not even rare to be part of royalty

[@tracieday8661]

The EMT guy had me laughing to the point of tears. He needs to hop in those boots and get to a good divorce attorney.

[@hazardous8301]

Ah yes, everyone’s solution for any kind of marital problem. Divorce 🙄

[@Felwinter999]

@@hazardous8301 Based on the story it’s clear she doesn’t really care about his job and is underestimating the role he plays in someone’s life not only that she does not care about his belongings as even when he asks her to stop she still messes with it there is a severe problem there.

[@hazardous8301]

@@Felwinter999 yeah, problems that can all be solved via other means. Which btw were. You can find this story updated on Reddit. He had one of his coworkers explain exactly why her doing that can cost someone’s life, and it got through to her and she stopped. They also went to a dr and she was diagnosed with OCD and is receiving help. Immediately jumping to divorce to solve marriage problems is ignorant and stupid as shit. No ones perfect, and with two people involved that’s twice the flaws. All marriages will have problems. Thinking every single one spells the end of the marriage is ignorant and lazy as fuck.

[@Felwinter999]

@@hazardous8301 I didn’t say that was just pointing out the severe problems and not everyone can deal with it properly

[@andrewvelonis5940]

Laughing? I did not find it in the least bit funny. She's a whack job and he's stressed out but still loves her. That's not a fun situation to be in.

[@Qibli154]

This reminds me of a previous episode where somebody posted how their boyfriends family had a strange ceremony where the mans family checks her virginity.

[@youssefabadir3210]

Oh I remember dat

[@lexainnit2751]

@@youssefabadir3210 SAME

[@theprokoking7156]

How one checks virginity I still have no idea

[@Qibli154]

TheProkoKing you don’t wanna know

[@jessierose5319]

TheProkoKing it doesn’t work because you can break your hymn from sports. This tradition disgusts me like crazy

[@bluebados2179]

For an update on the first story: OP finally explained to her what he does on the job and invited some friends from the volunteer EMT station and they casually talked about how they saved people's lives and showed his GF pictures of a gruesome car crash from which OP saved a woman. The GF apologized and admitted she didn't really understand what OP's job was about or how important it was. She agreed not to tie his boots and to go to therapy for her OCD.

[@YouTubeSupportSucks]

Good. Crazy C U Next Tuesday.

[@PsyLady86]

Yeaahh...how can somebody be this stupid and not know this 🙄🤦‍♀️ First of all she should respect the things her partner said, respect his boundaries. And the thing where he apologised for screaming, automatically meant for her that he has taken 100% of the fault on him, shows how stupid she really is.

[@kardellious]

That's great, poor education and neural problems are a bad combination.

[@yelyahfan88x94]

I have OCD and even I contain it to not mess with people's things. ESPECIALLY an EMT omg. She's just stupid

[@Harmthuria]

I came back to this video to comment about the update. Seems like you beat me to it, lol.

[@seandoesgaming147]

Who in the world even ties shoes when they arent wearing them...

[@someonewho]

It was an EMT so-

[@meep1433]

Demons do that like wtf

[@MinaeVain]

OCD people maybe

[@themanifestmage]

Sounds intentional to me. She knows it bothers him, but continues to do it anyway. She expects the eventual blowout and has a speech ready that she wouldn’t feel “safe” then does it AGAIN despite her previous words of “I wont if thats how you’ll react.” It’s a trap, designed for her to emotionally manipulate her husband. Hope he gets out, and fast. And if anybody who reads this has no-win situations like this popping up in their relationship(s), leave them. Your only purpose it to feed their delusion, and that isn’t love.

[@nemo227]

@@themanifestmage I've read almost all of the comments and I'm 80% sure your assessment is correct. I'm only 80% sure because I'm not a mental health professional.

[@mukkaar]

Oh man, how in the hell can ten times removed "royal bloodline" go on someone's head so much? It's just *really* weird that someone would suddenly alter their behavior because of pretty insignificant information like this.

[@dustyrose192]

He needs to focus on the now, not the back then

[@ShinningCrys]

*10x removed* Are you even related at that point?

[@marcellXcatalyst]

He may had suffered from some inferiority complex his gf never realized about, once he got the news, plus the distant relatives making a huge deal about it, it became a inferiority superiority complex. I heard a lot of ex-KKK members explain it as so.

[@JUMALATION1]

I mean, I could claim the "super important lineage from 400 years back" in my family (but tbh we have had so many poor but super hard-working farmer generations in between), but in today's society that kind of "lineage" doesn't mean jack sh*t. It's what you do for yourself and your immediate family that counts. Just because one family was more important in medieval times does not matter the slightest in today's society :D I don't get how some people get so hung up on this

[@greenaum]

Basically everybody is related to royalty if you go back far enough. For one thing, there's only so many people who were around to be your ancestors then. Some of those are illegitimate though. Until the last couple of centuries, kings were allowed mistresses and illegitimate kids. "Illegitmate" meaning exactly what it says. Not legitimate heirs. They don't get the name, the accreditation, or any of the money! Some kings kept their illegitimate kids around the palace and looked after them, some didn't. There's also Great Houses that diminished over the years as the peers ran out of favour. As well as cadet branches of cadet branches, eventually spreading so wide there were no titles left to give to them. They usually have a bit of royal blood. Basically everyone does. In Britain, everyone has a number, and it represents the line to the throne. You know that, should so-many thousand (or million) people die, you'd be on the throne! When a child is born, they take it's parents' numbers, and figure out the best bloodline to give the kid it's own number. It's like a lottery except you don't have much chance to win. Obviously right now the Queen is '#1, Charles is #2, etc.

[@CadentClock39]

So OP Actually Updated The Story Regarding His Boots And His Wife: "I've gotten a few requests for update but didn't want to post until I felt like I really had anything to say. A lot has happened in the past two weeks so I'm going to try to go over it as best I can. My wife and I started talking again. We had a very serious conversation and I did apologize for what I did to her running shoes, and then I told her I had to speak some truth and I wanted her to promise me that she wasn't going to roll her eyes, interrupt me, scoff, or get sarcastic with me, which she did. I told her that I was not kidding about my boots, that while most of the time I caught geriatric transports, falls, and nausea, there were instances where response time was of the essence and I didn't have time to play around with my boots in the middle of the night. I told her that there have been times when my intervention has been critical in saving a life, when my training has helped me recognize an underlying emergency, or when a call I made ensured that a patient was prioritized upon arrival at the hospital. I explained that a lot of the shit I see, I don't tell her about because I don't want to give her nightmares or make her worry about me. She actually listened and didn't dismiss what I had to say. She responded that she was trying to help by keeping things neat. I responded, "But you're not. Sweetie, I'm not trying to be mean, but you're not helping. You're hindering me. One day it may be the difference between life and death. I need you to not touch my gear. It's where I know where it is, it's where I can easily find it in a short amount of time, and if you move it, you are impeding an emergency response. I don't care if it looks neat. It serves a function, it doesn't look pretty. If you want to help me, please leave my gear where I put it." A few nights later I had my friend Officer Rich come over. Officer Rich was one of the two cops that did CPR on the victim that night. The three of us sat on our deck and had a few social distancing beers. He talked about getting there, doing CPR, giving Narcan, waiting for the ambulance and getting her back shortly before we got there. He then pulled out a few photos of car accidents that I had worked. He showed them to my wife and pointed out, "This car went into a tree. Your husband crawled into the wreck, put a collar on the driver, and stayed in there giving him oxygen until we could get him out." "Your husband pulled a three year old out of this wreck." "Your husband recognized that the driver had a stroke and took her to a stroke center, which likely saved her life." After that, I told her I had something I wanted to show her and I asked her for the same promise I'd asked earlier. When she agreed, I showed her a video on KZbin of a police bodycam from an overdose. This video showed how critical time is in getting someone back, and the training someone goes through in order to give the drug, do CPR, and utilize an AED. I told her, "I'm not trying to attack you, I don't want to have a fight, but I want you to understand what I go through. That I hope every call I go on is transporting a boo boo, because otherwise it means that if I don't do everything right someone could die. If I don't get out that door as quickly as possible, someone could suffer brain damage while they're waiting for me to give them oxygen. If I'm upset and shaking because I had to waste time opening my boots, I might miss something critical and someone might not make it." She acknowledged that she understood and told me she hadn't really thought about the danger of what I do until the other night when she saw the photos of the wrecks. I told her that I think she has OCD and needs to see a therapist because it's hurting our marriage. I listed examples of her throwing important things out, moving things without permission, and messing with my gear. I offered to go together and said I'd be willing to work on things together. After I pointed out the pattern, she agreed that it was time to speak to someone. She wants to think about whether she wants to go together or go by herself, but she has promised me that she's going to try to change her patterns. I brought up her saying she thought I was going to hit her, and she acknowledged she'd been with guys who flew off the handle with little provocation and scared her. That she'd never seen me get that angry and it triggered her because she didn't think I was capable of blowing up like that. She's been very emotional lately and has been going through mood swings. She's been worried about me going out on calls. The other day she started crying and said, "I hope you know how much I appreciate what you do." Knock on wood, since we had the big talk, she hasn't touched my boots. Is everything resolved? Not by a longshot. But she seems to have a new appreciation for what I do. Thank you for all of your responses. I wound up not showing her the thread, because a lot of it was pretty harsh towards her. I recognize I cherry picked incidents that didn't put her in the best light, and there's a lot more to her and our marriage than that. She is the person I chose for the rest of my life, and I want us to work. tl;dr Let my wife into my world a little more, she let me into hers, and she hasn't touched my boots since."

[@limiv5272]

Thanks! I really wanted to know how it ended

[@mooncak3488]

Yes.

[@erikaadams1414]

Thank you for posting this

[@THExRISER]

Oh that's nice,glad they're at least making progress!

[@princesslulu5795]

I am happy that they were able to have a serious conversation and she has recognized the problem. Even more so, I am glad she has agreed to talking to someone, because it sounds like more than just liking things neat. She has consistent, severe difficulty controlling her compulsive behaviors and handling her emotions, and it is having a profound, negative impact on her marriage and other aspects of her life. I sincerely hope she gets the help she needs

[@christinedrummond4040]

Love how the wife is upset she missed her run, but is okay with continuously tying an EMT's boots and it nearly cost someone's life. Hope she's getting the help she needs because her behavior is unacceptable. I don't blame him for snapping, because his job is very time sensitive and he had already tried explaining it to her.

[@gabrielaleon9087]

The guy found out she had OCD. She was compulsive on having everything neat and perfect and when he undid her shoelaces, it wasn't perfect and it triggered her. I'm not saying it isn't her fault, I definitely think she could have handled the situation better and tried to understand him and feel sorry for what she did, but it isnt entirely her fault.

[@Nik.No.K]

She sounds like an incredibly frustrating person. Someone who won't listen to reason can be infuriating. Reminds me of my mom...

[@skarletgamer867]

@@gabrielaleon9087 hey mate can you link me the post

[@notkaitlyn5368]

The emt guys wife sounds actually insane. I feel like he deserves better. She also sounds manipulative. He sounds so nice and caring.

[@breadfan_85]

Yeah that story really paints her to be highly narcissistic.

[@16-hsuw88]

Fr she’s putting lives at risk and she cries when he does the same thing

[@XMaster340]

I actually think she has some kind of compulsive disorder and that she laughs it off because this way she won't have to admit that she has no control over this. I agree with the Narrator here. A professional is probably the right way to go. And you are all horrible people BTW.

[@Probably_my_Alt_Account]

XMaster34 while I agree with your conclusion, I don’t think insulting everyone else was the right call. In this context, you know nothing about them other than their input on a single story. Maybe they have a justified reason to feel the way they do, maybe not. That’s beside the point though. Either way, if you don’t care enough to read until this point I won’t blame you as it is kind of a textwall and likely doesn’t fall under your confirmation bias. For all I know, you could have deleted your account within the last couple of hours. Regardless, have a wonderful rest of your night.

[@XMaster340]

@@Probably_my_Alt_Account Yeah, you're right. I probably went too far with that last statement. I've seen far to many premature judgements even in real life to not get worked up a out things like this. Have a good night as well (it's already morning for me)

[@adamdjamaa]

That dude acting all regal and entitled despite having some of the most diluted royal genes 😂😂 He quit his job like he's gonna get inheritance or something

[@adiuntesserande6893]

Even for the vast majority of direct noble heirs these days, the only thing they get to inherit is a title. If that.

[@dizzybeast2999]

The wife in the first one actually pissed me off, even if she is a neat freak there are literally people’s lives on the line and then she gets angry when she gets a taste of her medicine, smh

[@jinkubs-4538]

Turns out that they had a talk and that has been resolved. Someone in this videos comment also posted the aftermath

[@superpork1superboy771]

Death Playz ‘divorce her since she doesn’t get it’? Um, weren’t you just saying ‘if I was her’ the sentence before?

[@gamingunner128]

ツDizzyBeastツ I laughed at that one lol.

[@ibcheel9021]

That's not just OCD, it sounds like covert narcissism... But my personal experience may be influencing my feelings.

[@Fo4assaultriflefan92]

Its obviously an un treated mental disorder. Most likely severe obsessive compulsive disorder

[@shadowman7307]

The first story: OP: "Honey, please leave my boots alone. I need to be able to put them on in less than a minute, people might be dying." OCD Lady:" Okay, sweetie. I promise I won't do it again." (Time passes) *OCD Lady finds a little note inside a boot tied to one of the laces. "I told you to leave the boots alone and you agreed. How are you reading this?"* Last story: OP: "Why did you quit your job? We need money to live you know." His Royal Douchiness: "It's all right, my dear. We will just start collecting taxes from Our loyal subjects." *OP has left the kingdom.*

[@chosenuwu]

lmfaoo

[@pollypockets508]

Run OP Run!!!

[@darkwarriorprogram6546]

I have OCD and even I wouldn't do something if my husband asked me not to do something. Would I have the compulsion? Definitely, but I'd make a consciousness effort not to. I'm not saying I'd never do it since sometimes I get lost in my own world when cleaning. That being said, I'd have more of a problem with the boots not being in the same spot than them not being tied. XD

[@breadfan_85]

@@darkwarriorprogram6546 exactly. People keep trying to justify her behavior by saying it's OCD, but OCD doesn't explain 95% of this woman's vile behavior.

[@NightEyeStudio1995]

The first guy did an update. He had a hard talk with his wife and he made her realize that she was in fact the issue and she opened up about having been abused in the past and that she may have a case of OCD. They’re working on things and she’s leaving his laces alone now.

[@ScyutsBlckCloud]

Link to the update because he already mentioned she DID have OCD.

[@revengeprod.4528]

Frigg Fluff soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@schizophwenia]

onderdaan zwabbáh check on reddit.

[@Basil2737]

@@revengeprod.4528 What

[@JanEngelbrech]

This shit is actually a tradition from the middle ages like with lords and Kings and stuff. I just read a book in which the exact same ritual took place, that took place during this time

[@harrymichaels3877]

What was going going through there beads? Ah yes let’s have them screw in the master bedroom and cut a bit off the sheet and hang it on a tapestry, in my opinion that’s just a waste of good sheets

[@okloopy]

I’ve heard there was a similar old Hebrew tradition where a bedroom was added to the family house to accommodate the new couple. After the wedding the family and entire village were nearby to hear the consummation, and the best man actually witnessed the consummation and announce it.

[@Enderslegend]

@@okloopy I think you're conflating more than one culture. Hebrew tradition is the Yichud, where a bride and groom seclude themselves in a room and spend time together, not necessarily for sex. The family members guard the door to prevent the couple from being interrupted because, traditionally, this is the first time they're allowed to be alone together. There are no witnesses and that in fact would be completely against the point of the tradition.

[@bladerunner3314]

Just shows how back water some people are. Oh, we also had traditions where we drowned women on accusations of witchcraft, good ol times. Wonder why we don't do that anymore.

[@bostonrailfan2427]

the best man at your wedding was the one to ensure that you went through with it

[@Jayanason]

The first story has an update from 10 days ago. The wife’s stopped and they’re gonna go to therapy

[@nono-qj9pm]

I think this is the original comment about the update. UNDERRATED

[@revengeprod.4528]

Jay Anason soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@Paul-dh3cg]

There was a update for the first story, she stopped tying the shoes after they showed her videos of OP saving a life. Edit:I don’t have the link I just remember seeing it, and it’s sad that it had to come to that. Also thanks for the likes! Link in the reply’s

[@chaeminkim5914]

Glad that ended well.

[@SaroDantra]

Thanks for this comment!

[@alexpert2377]

Link please?

[@sunniedayz2450]

@@alexpert2377 theres a link in another comment

[@alexpert2377]

@@sunniedayz2450 where? I skimmed through about 100-200 comments looking for the blue text and all of them have been time frames.

[@aimreyne8487]

The first story: Short term solution: Boots with no laces Long term solution: Divorce

[@sanjarsocool]

Lmao

[@its-laila9867]

Divorce imo is a bit far, he obviously loves her and you can't get divorced over such a stupid quirk. He just needs to get it into her head to stop messing with his stuff

[@KittyTwitty9876]

As somebody on the reverse side (tidying up after hubby) she just needs to work with him to have a designated place for him to dump his gear. Like, "if it's in this wicker basket or this corner of the room, then me no touchy. If it's not in the basket/corner I will put it there." But that might be more sensible than I think wifey is capable of being 🤷‍♀️

[@nidhalsormali3051]

Also the shiddiest solution: Divorcr

[@its-laila9867]

@THE HOUSTONADERTLDR; I AGREE WITH YOU but also she's not doing it for OCD or neat freak reasons. other youtubers who have done this story have looked into the edits on this, it turns out that he tried many ways to hide the boots and she went out of her way to find them, he locked them up before and she would unlock whatever held them and then put the keys somewhere else. he had to wake her up to find out where she had put them, she was clearly doing this on purpose and not just because she needs to be tidy.

[@TheOfficialTarynTots]

The marriage bed thing reminds me of the story where the future FIL was supposed to check the bride to make sure she was still "pure" before they got married and his family all acted like it was a common thing that they told her last minute. I think if anyone has any of the werid family traditions they should tell whomever they are dating straight up before the relationship gets serious unless they are willing to skip their family traditions.

[@jdcunnington]

"Get a title from Scotland, invade his side of the bed and blame it on your heritage." Absolutely the greatest comment I've seen on R/ anything.

[@wingracer1614]

I prefer the one about demanding a dowry in exchange. I'd gladly do their tradition for some goats and a tract of arable land.

[@LaSirenita08]

I would have created a “soundtrack” to play and escaped out the window

[@theuglykwan]

@@wingracer1614 That family sounds like they might actually be able to meet that demand.

[@Nik.No.K]

I don't understand this at all. What's a title from scotland? Is this a UK thing?

[@jdcunnington]

@@Nik.No.K - Yes, you buy a square foot of Scotland for $50, then get yourself a patent of nobility, and add a title to your name. Lord/Lady of whatever. Get a credit card with that on it, and suddenly watch how well you're treated. (So the ads claim)

[@khalanbase3680]

3:18 He maybe shouldn't have yelled at her, but the AUDACITY to say he was overreacting is just too much. if he can't get to work on time and a patient dies because of it then that's a big deal, not an overreaction.

[@nidhalsormali3051]

Fr doe, if my job was literally to save people from fuqing dying then i'd be screaming 4 times instead of 1 time.

[@NotLaura-Baka22]

I don't think he was wrong to yell at her .... he asked her multiple times to not touch his boots and why but she did anyway and even after the yelling. Anyone no matter how chill would have gotten pissed off there is a limit to patience.

[@kyriss12]

@@NotLaura-Baka22 not to mention her response to break don in tears and claim she was a afraid of being hit kinda sounds like gas lighting.

[@adamdjamaa]

God if someone's life was on the line and I was delayed like that people's ears would be bleeding

[@poison_raine5219]

if it was me WHAM BAM, SIGN THE FRIGGIN DIVORCE PAPERS, MAN

[@rSlash]

What would you do if your girlfriend's parents asked you perform in that sex ritual?

[@WitherGates]

I would walk out and wish them well because I am not into that

[@CAUGHH]

Hi rslash

[@squidrw2486]

Say nope

[@Xiiki]

Uhhhhh ØK

[@tyleradams542]

idk. i havent had a gf in ages lmao

[@introplays9613]

The second one the father threatening OP to dump the girl is just insane “Do it or we disown her.” If you really loved your daughter you wouldn’t force her to date who you like but she may dislike. That’s just so bullshit

[@bronxcheer031]

That last story reminds me of a Robert A. Heinlein quote: "I once knew a sad little lizard who told me he was part dinosaur on his mother's side."

[@envoxity9544]

I heard/read it in a "royalty" voice, but then i thought a 5 year old playing with dinosaurs would say it lmao

[@Spartan11117777]

I imagined Ron Perlman reading it haha

[@laynewyman3160]

I'd believe it if it was a bird

[@hardlineamerican8495]

For me it reminds me of a Socrates quote that's something like "All slaves descend from a king and all kings descend from a slave" Everyone is royal if you look back far enough.

[@wingracer1614]

@@hardlineamerican8495 Especially the guy in the post. You would have a real hard time finding anyone that was born in the UK to at least one parent born in the UK that is NOT related to royalty somewhere back in the line. Heck, even if her parents are immigrants, she probably does too.

[@thetardislegilimens]

There was an update to the neat freak wife. They talked. OP explained to her why her messing with his gear isn’t helpful, but a hinderance, and even showed her some pictures of previous severe wrecks he had to save someone from. His wife understood, and opened up a little that she was just trying to be neat and tidy, and her fears of him when he got angry was because she’d been in previous relationships where the guy got so pissed with her at the slightest provocation, and they’ve both agreed she may have OCD, and she’ll be trying for therapy for it. They just haven’t decided if she goes alone, or if she wants OP with her.

[@lilytherosey8383]

thanks man

[@sammyisback9134]

Thanks

[@acairconditioning5666]

Yea, it said she went to thearpy and got dignoised with OCD

[@revengeprod.4528]

TheTARDISLegilimens soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@AJDaniels5298]

Thanks for the update, yo!

[@8BitShadow]

"it's tradition" so was slavery...

[@someonewho]

I'm-

[@SubconsciousDeviant]

So was death

[@raphaelschmitz4416]

Time to end that tradition with a rehearsed performance containing screams like "shit on my face", "suck on my eyeball", "puke in my mouth you hobbit" etc, you get the gist. A dose of "OMG your parents listening makes me so hard" also wouldn't hurt.

[@jeromejomon6716]

So is existing.

[@professionelleranfanger5745]

@@jeromejomon6716 we all accept that some traditions gotta change right?

[@gentlestickman3680]

Ugh... This is the grossest tradition I've ever heard of. Who knows, more "traditions" might start popping up if he actually gets married into the family.

[@kimdupont3731]

Things like " in my family, the bride need to ride ( with pants , of course) her new FIL/MIL and scream bloodymurder." It's tradition!

[@MrValterjeronimo]

Better find out before hand, because there are some weird traditions around the world. Also the tradition they are saying is supposed to be applied when the girl is a virgin. It's the purpose of the whole traditon, to prove that she married virgin. (Source: Live in a country with a lot of weird traditons, like different regions of the country has some weird tradition)

[@bladerunner3314]

"We sacrfice the first born sons to the lord, it's tradition and you obviosuly don't understand the importance of family"

[@bostonrailfan2427]

it’s actually an ancient tradition, but as she’s not a noble it doesn’t matter so they’re out of line

[@user-ge9cw7ti2g]

That wife needs some help and I don't like her emotional manipulation. His marriage might be pretty happy, but if she's never going to admit her faults and work through them, something needs to be done.

[@whatisahandlebruh]

Lolita I’d send you the link, but I’m too lazy. All you need to know is that she accepted her fault and she probably has ocd. The boots are fine now.

[@revengeprod.4528]

Lolita soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@WobblesandBean]

@@revengeprod.4528 Stop spamming everyone's comments!

[@breadfan_85]

Exactly. If this guy is really happy in this marriage, it's only because *he* is so unreasonably patient and kind.

[@your_average_blanket_lover3732]

You know the first story had an update where the wife admitted she can't control herself,then she went to therapy with the help of her husband and now 'they're stronger than ever',I heard the story and update a few weeks ago

[@insertcharacternamehere4295]

Yeah, i feel bad for that one, everyone is knocking the wife even though she has obvious issues and is trying to get better. Kinda upset the update wasn't read :/

[@mariem8705]

Damn, I feel bad now. Ugh, I hate getting the first part but not the update. Thank you for telling us the update.

[@TheRuneTail]

Doesn’t change the fact she underplayed how important EMTs are

[@M_IAWIA]

@@TheRuneTail she didn't realize before. Now, after being shown pictures of the scenes and heard stories from a third pary about how her husband saved lives she has finally realized how important his work is.

[@TheRuneTail]

IAWIA that’s truly pathetic. She didn’t know or understand before? Seriously? I’ve never met an EMT but know how important their job is.

[@medchan5810]

Everyone is talking about how the wife in the first story has OCD. No. That's NOT the main problem here. Granted, maybe she does, maybe she doesn't. But to me, that doesn't sound like OCD. She specifically goes through his desk and throws things out because SHE assumes they aren't important. She specifically rearranges his things, to the point where he can't find them at times. And now the issue with the shoes. She's literally making his life harder and harder for him, to the point where it's slowly breaking him down, and refuses to stop. She ISN'T open to any form of discussion whatsoever. SHE BRUSHES OFF WHATEVER HE SAYS, GASLIGHTING HIM. "It can't be helped!" When he yelled, she IMMEDIATELY played the victim. Scared he was going to hit her? No. She was mad to be called on it YET AGAIN and deliberately found a story to make HER the victim in all of this. And when he finally DOES react, she AGAIN finds a reason to be the victim. This is straight up psychological ABUSE. She is breaking him down to her WILL, so that SHE can do whatever SHE likes. Don't give her a pass on that. It's deliberate and manipulative.

[@insertnamehere799]

Yes, her behavior is irrational. OCD isn’t just being a neat freak, it IS completely irrational and even dangerous. For example if someone has a tick where they NEED to wash their hands a certain number of times, it can actually damage their hands, BUT IT DOESNT MATTER BECAUSE THEY WILL STILL DO IT. She probably rationalizing her undiagnosed disorder and wants to believe that she’s normal. Mental health issues aren’t pretty, they can seriously mess up your life when unchecked.

[@insertnamehere799]

Yes she is exhibiting abusive behavior, but not everyone who displays abusive behavior is a monster, some just need therapy. If I were him I’d say, you NEED to see a therapist or we’re over.

[@pigeontoes5421]

@@insertnamehere799 It sounds a lot more like narcissistic personality disorder ngl. If she had actual compulsions rather than just normal neatness it'd be a lot more obvious; she's just a perfectionist, doing perfectionistic things to suit HER needs instead of listening to what her husband needs. Narcissism.

[@thatdeadgirl]

I agree, it seemed more like gaslighting and narcissism + borderline personality disorder

[@brynlara6374]

Pigeon Toes My friend had OCD and anxiety and would constantly ask questions in class and managed to get quite a lot of the year to hate her for it unintentionally. I’d say the husband can’t tell from his side if it’s a compulsion or not because she does it when he’s not around. She needs to go to a therapist for certain.

[@TheOvervoid]

"yOu wHeN oUt oF yOuR wAy tO hUrt mE" Lady you almost cost someone their life. EMT's wife isn't just a neat freak, she's entitled beyond hell and is showing zero respect towards him, his job, and the people she could be putting at risk.

[@bigearl1624]

She has OCD

[@user-dc4yr2ev5h]

@@bigearl1624 Hitler only murdered us jews because we all don’t look the same. He had OCD so it’s all fine right? But seriously doing something on purpose that you know can cost a life is horrible and having OCD is not an excuse. I have a mild OCD and Bipolar but If I knew my actions might cost people their life I would get therapy? Your logic makes no sense.

[@iamacatperson7226]

@@user-dc4yr2ev5h you may have mild OCD, but I believe she had really bad OCD, to where she couldn't control it. Heard it in another video that mentioned an update the guy made. And she did get therapy, hence they finding out she had OCD

[@coolkidshinji5696]

Hey so like as someone with ocd this is 100% ocd, if she panicked that much and cried and broke down when her laces were out of place then this is a common ocd reaction to your routine being disturbed

[@LMSPetRescue]

Coolkid Shinji it’s also possible it’s just severe anxiety, worrying that her habits were going to cause someone to leave and then over thinking someone’s mild pay back until it blows out of proportion in her head and causes and break down. I know I’ve had those and it’s not because I can’t do things differently or have things a different way but things that other people do to my things gives me anxiety as it feels like a critique on me even though I know rationally it’s not

[@lissaw4]

@@LMSPetRescue there was an update - she has OCD.

[@Moni-ob7xi]

@@LMSPetRescue that's exactly how I feel

[@revengeprod.4528]

Coolkid Shinji soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@lasagnalovingcat5335]

The MIL-to-be didn't seem to understand that coercion isn't a "tradition." It's a crime. Imagine if a landlord told someone, "Sleep with me or I'll evict you." Pressuring someone to do acts they aren't comfortable with after they've said "no" is sexual assault.

[@Legohaiden]

actually in many foreign countries that IS a tradition... and one that is carried on to this day. Only in America does something like this seem absolutely out of left field... mainly because of our Puritan Cultural Heritage. Even Native tribes used to do this in America before the Settlers took over. Its actually more common then you think.

[@lasagnalovingcat5335]

@@Legohaiden You are conflating their family custom with the MIL-to-be's criminal act of attempting to pressure an unwilling participant into a sexual act in an attempt to excuse the MIL's behavior. A tradition that may seem strange to some isn't the problem. Trying to force or coerce someone into doing something they don't want to do IS!!! Understanding that sexual assault is a crime isn't "Puritan Cultural Heritage." If "only in America" means understanding that "no means no" then I am PROUD to be an American!

[@hitmandahl]

@@Legohaiden The rest of the civilized world does NOT do this! And before you claim that "I'm a prude" or something along those lines you should take into consideration that BDSM is my lifestyle.. Forcing someone to do something against their will is NEVER okay!

[@_extrathicc]

@@Legohaiden Are you nuts? WHERE ON EARTH IS THAT A TRADITION?! Surely the American bullshit about sex bad is a thing, but that particular thing isn't a tradition in either Europe, North Africa or Latin America.

[@lilFaeBun]

@@_extrathicc it's an old Jewish tradition, though like his fiance said, they no longer expect anyone to have sex anymore. The quilt represents the union of the family you join. They were teasing him, it got out of hand, and obviously the MIL didn't know they were teasing him that he was supposed to have sex.

[@ivoryholliday670]

The "royalty" boyfriend sounds like he just wanted an excuse all this time to feel like he's better than people. Needs to be thrown out because he's becoming toxic and delusional. Also the wife in the first story really needs therapy. She sounds like something is off in her head, and she literally cannot stop doing all these tidying things. If she's able to be a good partner in every other aspect, then this is probably just a more singular issue that needs to be addressed.

[@THExRISER]

Someone else posted a comment with an update,they had a good talk and she agreed to try to work on her issues by seeing someone,she also haven't touched his boots since.

[@buttlicius2026]

The first wife also had an extreme reaction when her routine was interrupted, the jog i mean, so its def a mental ilness

[@breadfan_85]

It sounds to me like she's a pretty crappy partner in other ways too though, beyond what can be explained by regular mental illness. It's one thing to have the urge to tidy, it's another to completely disrespect another person's boundaries without guilt or remorse.

[@TRak598]

Buy a glass safe, put the shoes on them. Now she can't touch the shoes because they are locked away and can't ask for access to something that clearly just holds a piece of your clothing.

[@ryanlutes9833]

when you go back that many generations, pretty much everyone in the UK has a royal ancestor somewhere. Most people in europe, in fact. It's just an outcome of population mechanics and math.

[@shaunalennon3144]

I'm related to king Edward III.

[@VenomQuill]

I'm related to the only Queen of Scotts. No one's ever paid me in taxes or goats before, so fat lot of good it does me now. :P I mean my ancestors also raped and pillaged the European coastline, but no one's ever come to for retribution. Lineage is like a necklace of plastic beads. Pretty, but useless and ultimately cheap.

[@SubconsciousDeviant]

Holy s*** really?

[@axolotlmoshpit]

sup raincoat killer 😳

[@pultsari9036]

Yes, another youtuber gave a good example of this. If you think only 40 generations back, which would cover maybe roughly a thousand years, the amount of ancestors for each person would be 2 ^ 40 (2 parents, 4 grandparents, 8 great-grandparents etc.). The problem is, already this amount of generations produces an amount of ancestors which is greater than the amount of humans ever lived on earth. So the only explanation is a lot of shared lineage along the way and even downright inbreeding.

[@made.by_noah]

The first guy needs to run. The fact that she was so quick to assume he’d hit her, despite him never hitting her, I wouldn’t put it past her to over exaggerate details or lie to make her sound like a victim of abuse. Good luck op

[@Richard_Nickerson]

Seriously

[@Larrysoileau82]

She sounds like an obnoxious child.

[@jaywolf845]

Yeah that definitely sounded strange like you are married, never been hit but got scared that he might after years of it never happening

[@your_average_blanket_lover3732]

Dudes,I saw this story a few weeks ago but estasi didn't read the updates,the updates go like this:the wife admits she can't control herself so,with the help of her husband,gets into therapy for possibly ocd,and now the guy says that they're relationship is stronger then ever as they have talked things over and over again and that they have a great relationship,I wonder why he didn't see the update

[@oliverwroten8708]

In the update it turned out that she was a former abuse victim. She also has OCD.

[@debbie3762]

The EMT guy should tell his wife the patient died to his delay. She's insane.

[@caliqm2199]

That's a bit too much ngl. There was an update and the wife now understands how important OP's job is and is gonna get therapy

[@kiza94bg]

@@caliqm2199 And letting it happen isn't much?I would probably just run from the crazy bitch.

[@gayghst2877]

@@kiza94bg, saying someone died is far.

[@kiza94bg]

@@gayghst2877 No, letting some one actually die or have lasting damage is what is far.Image your loved one dying due to psycho bitch wife of e.r. tying his shoe laces together even doe she was told of danger and not to do that before hand several times.If it was my loved one and i were to find out i would find and kill them both.Him for letting t happen and her for doing that insane shit.At very least he needed to threaten to leave her second time she has done it since she did not listen to reason.You can't play with peoples lives like that and what she was doing was attempt of murder.

[@tullamorejameson480]

@@kiza94bg plot twist. the bitch also tied your shoes so you'll get delayed

[@SarashiBlackrose]

As someone who was at one time an EMT, theres been times you could get to a call mere seconds too late, someone choking too long, heart attacks, serious bleeding, drug overdoses, so many dituations where LITERALLY every second matters, and while the relationship may seem great, it seems more like she's more focused on what you give her, than what she gives. If I had a spouse doing that, then I'd definitely break the relationship. I care too much about peoples lives to have not given it my all to sace their lives, and if soneine died because my boots were all tied up by my spouse, it'd literally haunt me forever. Its one of the reasons I stopped being an EMT, i just couldn't handle the next call being a dying kid or someone bleeding out all alone... I wish you the best, and I wish your wife gsins some clarity on the impact her actions cause.

[@missdionysius4675]

me: Opens youtube rSlash: My Girlfriend's Family Has a Weird S** Ritual me: that's enough internet for today (proceeds to watch the whole video anyway because i want to know now)

[@matt309]

Lmao what about when Hitler and stalin was trending in the UK on twitter

[@barbarastorball2117]

Listen to the story it was kind of hilarious but kind of messed up. I can understand it's a tradition back then but now it's just creepy to do that and your in-laws bed. What are they going to do while I run stands outside the door and cheers, if I were him I would just cut my losses and run cuz that family seems weird just imagine if they have kids. Traditional continue then

[@revengeprod.4528]

Miss Dionysius soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@jessicascrivin6637]

Was anyone else slightly disappointed thinking it was more fucked up

[@alexanderrahl7034]

That first woman infuriates me. What got me was "she never thought i was capable of getting that angry." Thats when it clicked to me with her earlier comment "well, you know me!" and constantly laughing off the guys concerns, requests and boundaries. Its not that she thought he would hit her. Its that she has gotten used to taking advantage of his impressive self control, and therefore never learned you cant just *try* to piss people off. Ive been in similar situations before. Its infuriating when shitty people walk all over you, because they assume you dont get mad. And when you finally do, it puts the fear right in them. Not because of what you might do, but because they realize youve been holding back the whole time and are afraid they pushed into "going postal" territory.

[@Alfhilde89]

There was an update posted. Turns out she has OCD and history of abuse from ex boyfriends. She's getting therapy and they're doing ok.

[@revengeprod.4528]

Judge Tater soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@melissadunton3534]

Alfhilde89 BULLSHIT!

[@insertnamehere799]

Melissa Dunton no it’s real, she literally just has ocd and a history of abusive partners. Someone reposted the update in the comments.

[@1wolsk]

@@melissadunton3534 Yup, she got diagnosed with OCD. OP reported that she's finally left his work stuff alone and they're stronger than ever since she started going to therapy.

[@flemardo]

Hah, I'm imagining a crusty quilt now, the mom going up to it, rubbing her face on it, sniffing deeply and saying "You can smell the tradition."

[@ghastlyattentionspan]

OH NO

[@someonewho]

i refuse to accept this

[@Legohaiden]

LOL that's so nasty!

[@smarti1809]

Ewww!

[@nicpus6891]

For the last one. She should just sometimes blast "SCOTTLAND FOREVER" and run towards him tickling him or in hes mind "Stealing hes precious royal dna" lol

[@gustavoluciano3902]

U like the way it tastes huh?!!

[@Theo-uk8wv]

As a French writer once said: "Every man is descended from both a king and a hanged man" (sorry for the shaky translation). Statistically, quite every French has Charlemagne as an ancestor.

[@30803080308030803081]

Théo Yes.

[@RealSekator]

yep i trace mine too to Charlemagne and it did not change my life

[@BeckBeckGo]

facts.

[@cactusgamingyt9960]

But not every austrian and hungarian is a Habsburg.

[@Brayslayer]

@@cactusgamingyt9960 No every European is a hasburg

[@TheDerpyDeed]

"I know I'm in the wrong" DUDE - if your wife is getting in the way of you literally saving lives and doesn't change it despite you asking, but then cries because you did it back to her to prove a point.... snap out of your sleep, stop being a pet and start being a person oh my god!

[@shadowscall7758]

In her defense, OCD is very irrational and I am not talking about the "Oh, I have OCD because I like to seperate my skittles into the colors and then eat each color down evenly" or something harmless like that, I am talking REAL OCD.

[@crackgoat9780]

Yes but that doesn’t mean she needs to be so dismissive. OCD makes you irrationally perfectionist/doing a specific action repeatedly like a ritual, it doesn’t make you an asshole.

[@sirkiz1181]

Crack Goat the problem is that to her, her actions were normal. She couldn’t think she was being mean, to her, she was doing the right thing and he was getting mad at her.

[@breadfan_85]

@@shadowscall7758 lol OCD is the least of this woman's problem. Seems like a pretty clear cut case of narcissism to me.

[@breadfan_85]

@@sirkiz1181 that's exactly why it isn't OCD. People with OCD are very aware of how irrational we are and would never react the way she did to someone who calls out our irrational behavior.

[@gokai976]

The royalty guy is insane. CGP had an interesting video where he said that basically everybody with white Western-European heritage is in some way related to the British royal family, so he’s just showing how silly he is.

[@Predated2]

Well, practically anyone alive is in some way or form related to the british royal family. And German royal family, and even though the French thought they killed everyone from French royal heritage, even they have been known to screw around. Essentially, thanks to royal bloodlines only marrying other royal bloodlines, while also practically raping peasants, or having mistresses. Its almost a certainty that everyone is connected to all European royal families. Let alone the fact that its almost a certainty that practically half of the world will very likely be related to Ghengis Khan. It is why we dont tend to check beyond great great grandparents in terms of heritage. Which is why people love claiming "I am 1/16th Cherokee" or some shit, while never really someone claiming "I am 1/32nd Haitian". Or "I am 1/1024th Ghenghis Khan". Yet the likelihood of having those exact numbers is actually more frequent in the population than being 1/16th of something. TL:DR; If your great great great grandparents were considered royalty, but your great great grandparents werent, then you're not.

[@im_salty4901]

She has everyday to go on a run, he doesnt have all day to save someones life.

[@Mapache095]

I feel like the wife is abusive here, not the EMT. She keeps not respecting his boundaries, even when other lives are at stake.

[@Meredith34567]

I agree, and one of the comments repeats the update.

[@patrickkeller2193]

@@xXCoookieMonsterXx Yep, there is a later continuation of the thread, where it says she got therapy now.

[@breadfan_85]

@@xXCoookieMonsterXx lol that's not OCD. OCD might explain the initial urge to tie the laces, but literally nothing else after that can be attributed to OCD. That's all straight narcissism.

[@brayden205]

If she has ocd why don’t she ever explain it to op? Maybe op wouldn’t get so mad at her or something if she told him as telling op before hand could resolve into finding a way for both of them to be happy But then again the way she treats op about the boots I doubt they would end in a agreement

[@ksis1749]

Me: _hears about sex ritual_ Also Me: _visible confusion_

[@revengeprod.4528]

• Kezeseke • soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@ruck1119]

Revenge Prod. Dude, just stop

[@wafusai]

@@revengeprod.4528 It's like every comment has a reply from you. No one wants ur link here🤦🏻‍♂️

[@calebdrawsstuff4446]

@@revengeprod.4528 I listened to that music and it was so mumbled that I couldn't understand what you are saying at all. Lyric translation from what I heard" mskdfjkmmmmm, mmmfmfmdmmmkm, fdfmfmdfmmmmmfdkmffm, dfmkmvmmfmmmmmm, mfmdmmerfmrmfmf, efmemfmcmfemfmmm." Honestly great lyrics.

[@prunabluepepper]

It's a tradition in Spain. rather archaic, but still done actually.

[@richardearldearyjr.9951]

OP you did the right thing to snap at your wife for tying boot laces up in knots! Get a shoe rack with a lock on it!

[@TheMysty46]

You know that he'll still loose time when he'll open the lock

[@xientau9028]

And have to go looking for a key in the middle of the night because his wife has moved it? Nah. I'd say seeing a therapist who specializes in OCD might be the right course of action here.

[@revengeprod.4528]

Richard Earl Deary Jr. soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-wate

[@its-laila9867]

I feel like that would also delay him, imagine not being able to find the keys to the shoe rack 😂😂

[@m.struck6535]

The first Story is (one of the many) the reasons many emts in germany have a little strip of cloth with a zipper, that attaches to your boots via the ties allowing them to be zipped up. But, otherwise: yeah, that wife sounds insane. She needs help and she needs it from a pro. Edit: on the username there is an update. Seems like they talked and, this time, she got it. She also got, that she needed help and is on her way getting it.

[@kristhebrownie]

The problem goes further than just OCD, she very clearly does not respect OP. They need couples counseling on top of treating her mental health issues if the relationship is going to work.

[@O0FB0187]

The boyfriends dad is the Nigerian prince who lost all his money and fame

[@alexandermendozalehmann3142]

“They’re stealing our jobs” Well if you were better at doing your job then you wouldn’t have to worry about that

[@revengeprod.4528]

alex mendolehmann soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@ThePC007]

@Whatever JustGoAway Well, I don't think it's as simple as that. Maybe _she_ wouldn't, but there are people living on the streets who would be happy to find a job, even if it's cleaning toilets, but they can't. Of course, as long as an immigrant immigrated legally there's nothing wrong with him "taking other people's jobs", but the narrative that there are jobs that nobody would do if it weren't for them is kinda flawed.

[@maizee3018]

Emt here, i can understand the first story. My gear is my lifeline, and messing with anything can mean unneccessary searching and prep. My bag is specifically organized for how much i would require everything from asprin to stethescope to cpr mask, to bg kit. When i sleep at the station my pants and boots are prepped for immediate response at all times.

[@ShimShamFimFam]

The first story actually had an update awhile back where the guy had his boss sit down with him and his wife and walked her through a couple of cases he’s worked on with pictures and everything and she apologized

[@flordeamapolita]

The last story! OMG! I actually know someone who found royalty in their bloodline hundreds of years back from doing the DNA thing. They also got uppity for a hot minute. It happens more than one would expect and then they get brought down when they find all the cousin marriage and axe murders when they actually do genealogy!

[@revengeprod.4528]

flordeamapolita soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@flordeamapolita]

@@revengeprod.4528 i listened and I liked!

[@flordeamapolita]

@Rusty Shackleford I won't do DNA. They're not getting my genetic material. So they can clone me! Oh hell no! So until they make home DNA labs and home liposuction kits. I'll just have to remain fat, anonymous and slightly infamous in my own mind!

[@AtotehZ]

6:15 Completely agree. I was already thinking somewhere around the beginning that she needs a psychologist or psychotherapist to deconstruct whatever fantasy world she's built for herself so she can see the hurt she is causing.. and it only became more and more evident as the story went along.

[@shadowscall7758]

In her defense, OCD is very irrational and I am not talking about the "Oh, I have OCD because I like to seperate my skittles into the colors and then eat each color down evenly" or something harmless like that, I am talking REAL OCD.

[@Extraxi274]

Silent treatment and ignoring someone is a massive deal breaker for me. I want to he with an adult, if you need a minute you say it but not ignore someone.

[@revengeprod.4528]

Arcadius soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@CuteLilEldritch1010]

Revenge Prod. No matter how hard I look, I can’t seem to find the purpose of your advert of a comment.

[@evanislost]

Does that guy not realize just how many people are distantly related to royalty? That just had my eyes roll into the back of my head. It means absolutely jack shit.

[@byp4ss514]

I mean I'm half Iranian I'm probably distantly related to Dschingis Khan or some shit

[@RevokFarthis]

The last story's BF, has a Greatx10 Grandfather with ties to european royalty... I don't think I've laughed this hard in weeks... ok, let me explain; Let's assume that's English royalty, because, ya know, noneoftheothersreallymatterallthatmuch That boy would need to kill (depending on relations) 2000-4000+ other people for his "bloodline" to mean jackshit. and even then, he'd still have to deal with 1000-2000 other people who'd have just as legitimate a claim to the throne as him.

[@adamdjamaa]

Bruh half the people here are descendants of ghengis Khan

[@knightwing5169]

And besides, the English Crown has limited the possible future monarchs to just the descendants of Sophia of Hanover.

[@Zamolxes77]

You clearly don't understand how British monarchy works. Is a constitutional monarchy, Parliament approves or disapproves the new King. So, even if he kills every single person with a drop of blood royal, he still has to be picked by Parliament. And I doubt they'd pick a nobody with 4,000 murders as their credentials. Now for other monarchies, I dunno, it might work ? But then you would have to consider the Regent or who is doing the blood testing or whatnot, why they would not pick themselves to be next King instead of this poor arse with a deranged look on his face (murdering hundreds of people HAS an effect ).

[@RevokFarthis]

@@Zamolxes77 I also clearly don't care in the slightest.

[@donwald3436]

First story: The problem was ignoring the red flag before getting married.

[@revengeprod.4528]

Don Wald soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@BayHarbo]

Revenge Prod. You made this?

[@hatz5125]

The problem was the wife and emt ignoring a clear case of OCD for far to long imo

[@littlesunshineamvs5838]

This is the first time I've heard of people tying their laces on shoes other than when they put them on. Is that really a thing? :D

[@penguino8185]

LittleSunshineAMVs actually yes a guy i know had his shoes tied but it is for convenience

[@ajb9150]

thats just stupid

[@MikeStavola]

Yep. It was a thing like, 100 years ago. My great grandmother used to do it, because apparently leather laces from when she was young were very stiff, and it would be really difficult to tie if they weren't left tied most of the time.

[@janani1826]

@@ajb9150 no it's not if u do it right, my shoes are already tied but they aren't tight so I can put them on without tying nice and quick 😂

[@FizzieWebb]

@@ajb9150 If the knots are left somewhat loose, it would be possible to slip your foot in and then just tighten the knot, making for an overall quicker procedure. From the sounds of it though, the op's wife did it just to keep the laces out of the way, for appearances sake.

[@Loona_helluva_boss69]

This may be more information than you need but I struggle with depression on and off and your videos make my day thank you❤😁

[@duck5843]

People have said that the wife in the first story is going through therapy. I sure hope so because she was insane and I would've probably divorced her if this kept happening.

[@revengeprod.4528]

Duck Clone #17 soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@richardladd4581]

I mean honestly, same. I have actual OCD, but if it meant ruining my relationship with my fiance, I'd try to find a way to fix it, like tell him to put his boots in a different area so I couldn't see them or something, but even with my severe OCD I would never ever disrespect my fiance like that, or laugh at him for being "overdramatic"

[@amypena1342]

I’ve had the same flip out swear storm OP did over his boots. It’s not the thing itself that they’ve done, it’s the disrespect. You asked them not too, they acknowledged it, then disregard it. That is what pisses me off, no matter how petty the act itself. If it were so small and petty, wouldn’t it be simple to stop doing it?

[@milkbox4524]

For the last one yeet him, who need a self centered guy like that

[@revengeprod.4528]

Angel Herrera soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@rosielow527]

Revenge Prod. Could you actually fucking not?

[@hermionesvillage]

Revenge Prod. Can you stop spamming the comment section?

[@no-ro6pu]

Hermione Tobias just report his comments as spam bc they are

[@Kait_B_]

@@no-ro6pu I've reported every one of his spammy comments that I can see. Edit: I reported at least 30 comments. Got a little obsessive with it lol

[@missdelaney7340]

I pray that girl leaves the guy whose is “royalty”!!!

[@revengeprod.4528]

Miss Delaney soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@StarlightStella613]

@@revengeprod.4528 Can you stop self-promoting for five freaking seconds?

[@user-mama_thomas]

@@StarlightStella613 just repot them for spam

[@sgtjonmcc]

Pause at 2:41 he's totally justified, when ask, plead and beg someone to stop something and they don't and your fly off the handle, it is 100% their fault for ignoring you when you made it perfectly clear that their actions were harmful. Especially in this context

[@BlatantlySwedishPGN]

That first boot story sounds like it could potentially be something like OCD. I suffer from mild OCD and while I don't tie the boots of EMTs, I have other problems like this with things that I just need to do or that things have to be in a specific way. So far, though, it hasn't really impacted my life negatively. But I think she should go see a psychologist or something to get that checked out.

[@skysmash9310]

Yeah. One more thing. That wife was an abuse victim. She had been in relationships where the guy would just explode and get violent with her so when OP snapped, she flashed back to her bad relationships.

[@BlatantlySwedishPGN]

@@skysmash9310 yeah, I read this in another comment as well! Thank you!

[@maxsupernova]

The wife in the first story sounds like she needs a lot of help. Like, a lot.

[@revengeprod.4528]

Miguel Martin-Garcia soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@Richard_Nickerson]

The delay COULD have cost a life. You have asked, begged, told, demanded... she IS inconsiderate and stupid. And the fact that the first thing she said was some condescending "don't you have to go on that call" when 1. It was literally her fault you hadn't left yet, and 2. You had explained that this exact scenario was why you asked and told her not to do it, combined with the stress of the situation and actually understanding how dangerous she had made it for someone makes your response completely logical to me. Even though I keep censoring it in different ways, this comment just keeps getting deleted! Edit: His shoe revenge was perfect. Edit: The next time you get delayed in the middle of the night, just lie and tell her she killed someone that night.

[@jjohnston94]

Drag her on the call with you. Have her hold a bloody dressing on an injury.

[@potat04]

The First story actually has an update: He called in one of his friends who worked with him, who showed his wife pictures of the wrecks they worked on. Then they showed her a video that laid out just how important time was when it came to being an EMT. The wife is agreeing to go to therapy I believe, she hasn't touched his boots since.

[@molybdomancer195]

That blanket tradition is based on a really icky way that people used to know that a bride had been a virgin before her wedding night. It's the sort of thing that started in the Bronze Age and honestly belongs there.

[@lizanna6390]

Best spill some pigs blood to keep them happy

[@JamesterIsDivergent]

"What would you do if your girlfriend's parents asked you perform in that sex ritual?" I would draw the pentagram

[@revengeprod.4528]

Jamester soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@CadetFD]

I would (and yes this is a jojo reference) NIGERUNDAYO!!!!!!!

[@KORONEVIRUS]

The FutureGamer kzbin.info/www/bejne/jWXVeGSYjq-hi68

[@shane658]

The FutureGamer SMOKEY!!!

[@KingDarius48]

If my future wife's family wants to hear me consummate the marriage, I'll feel obligated to give them something worth listening to. Can't be any worse than Midsommar. 🤣

[@30803080308030803081]

Darius Evans Yeah, if I can make it really good, I would feel proud. People are too shy 😅

[@DaggerSecurity]

Yeah, the OP of that story was a prude 100%. Its not like they wanted to watch. The girl even said they could fake it. I don't see what the big deal was.

[@kimdupont3731]

@@DaggerSecurity maybe because....it's private? They shouldn't push OP in a sexual act he's not okay with. At this point, it's sexual harrassement

[@NeoLotex]

Story 2: No idea why this guy feels like he needs to fix or do anything, just show her the messages her dad sent and that's it, the rest is in her decision. Story 3: Grow some balls and tell the family that you won't do it, why is it so hard for people to actually say what they think. OP could also bite the bullet and just do it.

[@bluelad370]

He also seems to worship the ground she walks on.

[@daniellaalouf]

That wife is beyond flawed, she's not healthy. He shouldn't suffer like this.

[@KayBbyXOXOXO]

The first story has a follow-up! He managed to get through to his wife after showing her examples of the life-saving calls he does have to go on. She finally understood and has agreed to go to therapy!

[@Zwhsnduiwmsnxjsl]

I have familial ties to nobility but I don’t act like a snob because of it. Because I forget about it 99% of the time.

[@dr.mystery5791]

I think I know what happened in that story I already commented about this but I think someone showed up that had the same last name or someone he knew was related to the OP.

[@jeaniebird999]

Don't tell your girlfriend she needs to choose between you and your family, tell her you would never ask her to choose between you and her family, which is why you have no choice but to break up. If she's ok with that, then you don't need her. If you're more important, to her, she'll choose you. EDIT: HAHA! I wrote that before finishing the story! I didn't know the father was going to do that! DAYUM! I'd show the gf what the father said and let her take it from there. Poor guy should run away as fast as he can. Doesn't sound like a nice family to marry into, anyway.

[@nightcorelucario2218]

15:25 "They may take our lives, but they'll never take our £20 worth of land in Scotland!"

[@paranoiarpincess]

First OPs wife is flying an entire battalion's worth of red flags. He needs to gtfo of there YESTERDAY! She needs drastic therapy. Edit: what I said originally, was mean. I found another comment with an update to the story and I am happy she got the help she needed.

[@ciarangale4738]

yeah nothing against you mate and im glad you realised, but i feel like people need to chill with saying stuff like "red flags" and telling people to leave after "toxic behaviour". this is, i feel, a problem with the internet. people forget the human more than just in arguments/telling people to kys. these are peoples relationships and it can really fuck people up if theres some dissagreement and the person seeking advice gets barraged with "dump them, get rid of them," etc etc

[@IDK-fv3hu]

Bruh you are overreacting by telling him to leave

[@paranoiarpincess]

@@IDK-fv3hu I've been in too many abusive relationships to advise people to put up with how she was treating him. Yeah, it turned out that she was receptive to his teaching and the option of therapy, but had she not been, her attitude toward him, and utter nonchalance toward his feelings absolutely should not be in their relationship. There comes a point where working on a relationship is just not worth the struggle, and with what OP gave us in details with the story he told, it seemed they were way beyond that point. I'm genuinely happy he was able to get her to finally understand the importance of his situation, but it honestly should not have been that much of a struggle. In a healthy relationship, one party says "this is how I feel" and the other should say "I respect that. This is how I feel" and then come to a decision that suits them. Instead he said "this is how I feel" and she basically said "yeah, well I don't really care hoe you feel." If that's not a reason to end a relationship, I don't know what is. That all said, I'm glad they were able to work things out, I am glad she is getting the help she very badly needs, and I really do hope for the best for them. If she truly wants to change for her, then I believe they still have a chance, so long as the only time she completely disregards his opinion and feelings is when it has to do with her potential OCD.

[@_extrathicc]

Dude, you have to quit your toxic behaviour towards mentally ill people.

[@breadfan_85]

@@ciarangale4738 sometimes that's actually the best advice though 🤷‍♂️.

[@Joe___R]

First story OP's wife definitely needs to get some therapy for her ocd about having everything neat & organized to that level. OP would also be best to buy some boots with side zippers so they can stay tied all the time so he can get to a call quickly without having to untie them first. Third story The best solution is that OP & his new wife can spend their wedding night in a private suite away from her family then they can have the sheets the next day to do what they wish with. This still keeps the generational blanket aspect of the tradition while giving OP privacy.

[@baptistevilla343]

Will the wife triple knot his boots? Find out next time on....... dragon ball Z

[@revengeprod.4528]

Baptiste Villa soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@bridi0821]

The guy actually posted an update saying that he had a long talk and he showed his wife videos of incidents he’s saved people from. She actually went to therapy and discovered she has OCD and has stopped tying his boots.

[@THG_thehumangod]

I like to imagine Rslash was counting out how many greats he was supposed to say on his fingers as he said them.

[@swaginton1180]

it honestly does sound like OCD and an extreme case at that as well too

[@mingi1489]

The wife in the first story: “so you want me to stop lacing your boots so it doesn’t delay you from saving people? No thanks”

[@matthewdiaz25]

First story: get some boots with side zippers. easy and fast access and the front is tied and neat

[@basvandooren3841]

ez sollution

[@joshua50101]

Prolly those boots are partof the EMT uniform.

[@sourisvoleur4854]

Get a wooden box with a hinged lid. Put the boots in the box. Looks very tidy.

[@KG-VanityInKnickers]

@@sourisvoleur4854 Yeah, that was my thought... Just move the damn things out of her line of sight. No more issues unless he finds them tied tight in the box... then he'll really know if she's fucking with him.

[@KultFyre]

@@KG-VanityInKnickers or… velcro

[@macaroni.5032]

in the second story i hate racists and how their main argument is “they’re stealing our jobs” as if they really care. It’s just ridiculous. Btw i’m asian.

[@barbarastorball2117]

It's crazy that the dad didn't bother to tell his daughter that he wanted his daughter to break up with her boyfriend. Yet he called the boyfriend and is trying to make it seem like it's his idea. It's messed up but I wouldn't want to marry into a family of racist because just imagine if they have children

[@thanos8077]

When i hear stories about racist parents who constantly say stuff i always say cut them off op and their partners are better off because that is disrespectful and unnecessary and if they dont change their behaviour then cut them off permanently

[@nightigal]

I'm a training to become a tradesman (tradeswoman?). The way I see it if someone gets the job over me it's because they're better then me in our shared trade. That's just how the job is. We need the best people doing the job because people's lives are at risk if we don't preform up to code.

[@BaSingh2006]

The job opportunities in the us are almost endless , their complaints are unconstructive .

[@barbarastorball2117]

@@BaSingh2006 they are validating their complaints by the fact that some jobs are being moved overseas or in places where they can pay people less of a wage, most likely

[@chriiiiis]

EMT guy was in the right, time is of the essence and lives are on the line. His wife is putting her feelings over other people's life and she freaks out over her shoelaces being taken out.

[@iamacatperson7226]

In the wife's defence, she had full on OCD

[@chriiiiis]

@@iamacatperson7226 ok? What if he can't get his boots on fast enough and someone dies because he had to spend an extra minute or two getting his shoes on. You realize how critical time is to paramedics and EMTs? Seconds could make a difference between someone dying. I'm sorry but OCD isn't an excuse for putting the lives of others at risk

[@TheZipperDragon]

5:30 Sounds like gaslighting, or atleast what I've been told gaslighting is by my therapist. My mom used to do similar shit. Some people are just bored without drama, so they pick on their spouse, or in my case, their kid, causing trouble wherever they can. It got to the point where my mom would lie to other parents & insult them, which would somehow drip down & get me beaten up. The last time I saw her, I was helping her babysit my autistic brother & she caused another fight, insulted me in every way possible, then picked up my switch & almost tossed it across the room. Most people would say they aren't proud of what I was about to do, but I'm not most people. After all the abuse, all the shit she put me through, I slammed her against the wall & told her that if she touched my stuff again, or said one more word, she'd be choking on her teeth. I told her that she's not a woman, she's a monster. That she's not a mother, she's a womb donor. My throat hurt from how loud I shouted at her...Sadly, when you have someone that gaslights, this is exactly the kind of thing they get off on. She proceeded to 'call the cops' (I know she was lying because I heard what she said & it was along the lines of 'my son is terrible, but I'm just calling to check in.' which I'm pretty sure would be wasting police time), then called everyone under the sun & cried about how horrible I am, before coming back to me, smug as ever & told me I just ruined my life. It worked out for me, because anyone I cared about eventually listened to my side, but op needs to be careful. A gaslighter CAN ruin your life. Sorry if I made my example a bit too long, but I wanted it to be an example, not a 'someone gaslit me. It could end poorly for you.' kind of thing.

[@1wolsk]

So the wife got diagnosed with OCD in an update, is receiving help, and quit messing with his laces.

[@bris3582]

almost every european has royal blod from one kingdom or another, so why does it mater

[@revengeprod.4528]

simon myrvang soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water

[@SupaSayinSkitch]

2:20 Good! Geez I was getting annoyed. Tuck the laces in the shoe or put them under the shoe, holy crap do a loose over and through knot to keep the laces together. There is 0 reason to tie them tightly after being told far too many times not. I would've yanked her pillow given her the other boot like"Untie this damn knot so I can leave!" 0/5 buttholes dudes. Sure the language was harsh but how many times do you need to be told something politely?? Glad she ended listening to his EMT buddy and getting therapy. That had to be infuriating for OP, good on you for working through it.

[@shadowscall7758]

In her defense, OCD is very irrational and I am not talking about the "Oh, I have OCD because I like to seperate my skittles into the colors and then eat each color down evenly" or something harmless like that, I am talking REAL OCD.

[@goromajima7677]

4:55 this reads like a AITA post, mixed with a petty revenge post

[@huskysilverdog]

Based on my life experiences, the wife has psychological issues such as OCD and some level of anxiety that needs addressed. The OP needs to leave that relationship if she doesn't seek help.

[@1wolsk]

Update said that she's getting help in therapy and finally quit tying the boot laces.

[@arcious60]

That sounds like ocd, every time I take off my shoes I leave the shoes tied but loose enough to take on and off. At least I don't do it to other people. I just put people's shoes straightforward and next to each other in a line to organize them.