Dr. Michael Gervais - How To Stop Worrying About What Other People Think Of You

[@jackiehoman77]

This episode could not have dropped at a better time for me. Thanks, Ryan, for continuing to put care into what you are doing here.

[@PaulaDTozer]

All mastery is self-mastery. If you don’t master yourself, you’ll never truly master a craft. I understand the breakdown to which Dr. Gervais is speaking, but I believe the two cannot be compartmentalized. Granted, you can go a certain distance on talent and/or intellectual prowess alone, but you cannot have true, sustained mastery of craft without self-mastery. Gnothi Seauton - Know Thyself. I’m also wondering if the Barry Manilow t-shirt story is conclusive evidence of the Spotlight Effect. Ego-centralism is real proof that many adults haven’t progressed beyond adolescence emotionally. I would tentatively include university students in the adult category, but are they mature? How about you scientific types conducting social research on those who are more advanced in age…like 30 or 40 yrs of age? I believe you may observe different results. Interesting how behavioural scientists are observing the participants in a social experiment based on observation…could that skew the results through confirmation bias? My point is 100 students does not point to conclusive evidence. However, I believe there is another factor…something I’ve observed over and over and offer here for your consideration…it’s slightly off topic but may be a mitigating factor in the outcome of this type of experiment…how many of the participants had some sort of significant traumatic experience in adolescence (closer to the stage where an individual is “ageing out” of childhood, so 13-14 yrs of age) as this is the stage of human development where ego-centric thinking is most prevalent, when a public identity is being formed. Dr. Gervais alluded to stunted growth…I’d love to hear the results of research with this specific theory being utilized. It would be fascinating…. FOPO is everyone’s challenge, at some stage in the game, and understanding how this becomes prolonged and intense could help any psychologist to help their clients, and actually help individuals to help themselves. “Get over yourself” is frustrating and defeating when a person doesn’t have a clue who they truly are. These are simply my thoughts and observations as I’m not a social scientist. 😊

[@DJSTOEK]

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