S07 Ep08: Facing the Fear of Man, Intimidation & the Fear of What People Think

[@paulinemutandwa7056]

Amen. Oh Lord deliver me from the fear of man. Restore my relationships and intervene in my marriage in the mighty name of Jesus.

[@perfectmessorg]

This really blessed me, "I'm shaking in my boots 👢 " but I'm gonna face my fears.

[@joi4705]

Y’all are putting language to things I’ve wondered about for YEARS!! Thank you & God Bless🙏🏽

[@marktdejesus]

So happy to know that!

[@jod6370]

This podcast/video really helped me because I constantly seek validation from people especially when I evangelize and talk to people about God. I need go change that and stop being so tolerant when people treat me like a peace of crap . Thanks a lot 💜

[@jmh8510]

Again, absolute pure gold!! I’m facing a huge talk tonight with a family member..and so need this at this moment.

[@ferireshad]

I think for me is to the fear is rejection and I am extra nice to people to be accepted I cannot Handel rejection as I was rejected

[@leliaberra8632]

I thought i was the only one dealing with my inner unexplained fear of man. But u explained it very well. I found it helpful. And i will surly keep up with u. Thankyou and God bless u! From Ethiopia 🇪🇹

[@jessief5017]

Thank you for your videos! Fear of man can be so crippling.

[@DarleeB119]

My husband and I just recently discovered you guys. Y’all are so real and genuine. Your videos have been so helpful to me as I’m on my healing journey.

[@mmommo-hx4dx]

Stand Firm on the Word of God

[@jimharrer582]

One of my favorite episodes! SO helpful for me! Thank you!!

[@marktdejesus]

I am so glad Jim!

[@jessicalove143]

This message is so on time. It’s so uncomfortable when the one you have to confront is the apostle of the church 😮‍💨 Being immature (babe) in Christ, can be difficult. It never feels good feeling like I’m being manipulated and not knowing better to truly understand. Lord I want Your peace 😫🙏🏽😣 I know that He will never leave me nor forsake me, in Him I will put my trust.

[@iw9338]

I listened to a few of your presentation & they were Amazingly helpful! Great job. And thank God, I stood up for myself with a boss this wkend, it went well.

[@carmenseguridad7105]

Wow just praying about this

[@marktdejesus]

So glad to know it's good timing!

[@gracenorcott1]

The book “When People Are Big and God is Small” was recommended to me. I prefer audiobooks and that title isn’t available on audio. So I searched KZbin and this is one of the videos I found. I really struggle with the fear of man and it has a negative impact on my closest relationships, especially with my mom. I found you have several audiobooks that are just what I’m looking for. I’m so glad I found your channel. Thanks so much!

[@barbaramoran8690]

I was sometimes treated badly because of people’s beliefs about me.

[@RichieDee773]

I’m afraid. I’m afraid of turning 30 and I don’t know what I will do with the rest of my life. I’m afraid I’m not good enough for a significant other. I’m just afraid and tired

[@JCBurdenLifter]

It’s ok my friend! I’m 37 and still figuring it out! Keep moving hand in hand with Jesus you’ll get there! 😃

[@RichieDee773]

@@JCBurdenLifter Appreciate you, likewise ! onwards ! Happy Easter bud !

[@AnnaCheek26]

I love her! I love both but I really like how she puts natural words to it, makes easy to understand it and makes you feel understood but motivated to allow God get rid of it’

[@aawrnnc]

I am so encouraged hearing this episode. It makes me realize that we are not 8:25 in a lot of the things that we go through. Thank you guys for being so open and sharing not only what the word of God says, but also your struggles in the midst of learning to obey God, and to not fear people.

[@rahawa774]

Aren't they both wonderful?! Thank you for encouraging me to man up and actively ask my friends for the intimacy I would like/need x

[@marktdejesus]

I am grateful for your encouragement.

[@michellezareas8276]

This is beautiful, thank you! It is exactly what I needed to hear! 😍🙌💕

[@marktdejesus]

Thanks Michelle!

[@Lily_1010]

I appreciated the honesty about the convo replay and analyzing etc as well as some practical steps for giving yourself grace if you don't say everything right and knowing that God is with us and it's a process. This was timely for me as well.

[@marktdejesus]

So glad to know that

[@dianaweare1646]

Wonderful timely message. Thank you.

[@tramseyplanter2]

Very good stuff, thank you!

[@ogonebasiamang2163]

Thank you so much for sharing, I heard the Lord speak to me through you both

[@agapen7454]

Preach! Thank you! : )

[@soulsearcher71]

Hey Mark and Melissa, I know this is old and not sure you’ll see this, but can you address recovery after things don’t go well, specifically in situations involving the dynamic between women and men in the church? Women struggle specifically in this area because women have historically been oppressed in society, but even more so in church (as so many churches believe women should not teach a man in any way). I think back on a situation where a man was teaching a series about the love of God. Sadly, from the pulpit, he stated several times how much he hated some people in the church, so even though we don’t like people God calls us to “love” them. At a later date I spoke with the pastor about much the words of this new minister wounded certain people in the church, but the pastor’s response was to literally sit there and scream at me to the point of veins popping out on his forehead. That was over 7 years ago (I go to a different church now) but I still occasionally have panic attacks at the thought of addressing honest issues with leadership. Oh and in my past I also had a prior pastor tell me the only thing I was good for as a woman was “to get pregnant and give some man babies”, which at that point in my life I was very successful on my job, working with politicians, and involved in leadership within our city community, but was made to feel worthless in the church because I was single. Thanks for all you guys do! 🙏🏼

[@kbschannel2355]

Oh my gosh finally someone explains exactly how I feel thank you

[@barbaramoran8690]

Mere mortals can cause extreme pain . They can take things away which you can never get back.Mere mortals can make you cry and then give you “something to cry about”They can demand you “get well” but treat you in a way that makes you sick.

[@mmommo-hx4dx]

yep I take the poll before I confront someone....not anymore....I try to cut to the chase.....divorced after 37 years to a guy that never stopped cheating.

[@tafadzwamunezvenyu7623]

Powerful message and testimonies

[@BenevolantBusinessBeauty]

This is awesome!!! Thank you guys!!!

[@AMELIA10041]

This has to be the Bottom Line -- me trying SO HARD to get 'it Right' SO nothing goes wrong -- I wanted to be able to Say YOU CAN NOT GUILT ME (like you have my whole life because I did 'this' to Not let you get mad) - NOW what I need to understand & say is - You really did not need that table or whatever happened to get that person's approval - INSTEAD I want you to know that We ONLY NEED OUR HOLY SPIRIT - We only need GOD to accept us - GETTING MAN TO LIKE ME is NOT MY GOAL ANYMORE - MY GOAL is Listening to my Spirit voice & Pleasing GOD

[@CC-ze2ky]

AWESOME!!! KEEP DOING THE GOOD WORK!

[@barbaramoran8690]

We need to advocate for people trapped in abusive environments.The worst kind of abuse is the kind done for someone’s own goood.CS Lewis said that.Better to be under robber barrons .Lewis said at least the abuse from them stops.When they get what they want they are satisfied.But “benevelent “abuse is relentless because it satisfies the conscience.AND IF SOMEONE COMPLAINS THEY ATE TOLD THEY NEED TO BE GRATEFUL.THERE IS NO WAY TO SAVE FACE.

[@staciestaniszewski9977]

This was great!! Just want I needed ! I am going to order your book . Looking forward to reading it. Blessings to you both from Delaware . 🤗🙏

[@jocelynbrooks5230]

i feel like all the points you both mentioned i can relate

[@gilberttakyi3265]

Very insightful and amazing message

[@Ruth-vy1qj]

I’m dealing with fear of man it usually people that are prideful, judgement, controlling freaks, people that will abuse their position. I had seen some karma came into their life. The Bible talk about judge people.

[@CakesDontLie]

Yeah it’s hard. But pray for those people and show Jesus’ love to them. I do want to say as well that karma is not a biblical principle. Consequences happen because of sin and God’s justice. Karma is a Buddhist idea

[@faithfreedom4084]

What will happen they will ghost and blame shift and make up some landish story or accusation against me

[@barbaramoran8690]

Mental hospital controlled everything .they watched me constantly and punished expressions of what they called my mental illness and some things that were important to me they waged war against.Forbidding me to talk about what i loved and I even got in trouble for facial expressions they didn’t like. Mark I’m sure you dont try to create a false self in your son and make his life miserable if he cant appear unautistic or un whatever part of his personality you decided to ban kept being there.You would never look at his disability as an abomination. In Freudian culture they took things I said and twisted them into made up meanings that THEY made up. Autistic people are usually literal.They don’t talk in metaphors .I was told often that they thought I meant different than what I said.They often had their minds made up.Crazymaking worse than in a reallly bad church.At least for adults the exit door is open. My ability to clearly to communicate was poor but even the obvious could be twisted. Once I was fixated on the Pope because he represented power and I wished I had power to improve my living conditions . My therapist believed I was fixated sexually on my father.I didn’t like the way my father treated me because he enabled all the thumbs I was under .and I didn’t like how he treated me and blew off my complaints.Dad was disappointed in my failure to become a convincing false self. My normal sisters couldn’t please parents either.They were harassed about their grades .Parents wanted them to be high achievers but to keep a low profile.

[@AnnaCheek26]

Just let her talk more tho!