Sahar Speaks ft Spencer Barbosa: bullying, gen z teenagers, facetune, true confidence

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[@janeelizabeth4216]

22:15 I’m 12 exactly and I totally agree with this… I’m constantly comparing myself to 20 year olds which is crazy… I feel like I need to have my life figured out when I’m a literal child… luckily Spencer has changed my life with how I think of myself!!!💗

[@iwanttotakeanapnow]

i’m so glad!!💞

[@georgiamaystandbyukraine5581]

Thank you so much 4 saying this, it helped me realise that I shouldn't compare myself to 20 year olds or anyone ❤❤

[@thankunext5602]

same I’m 15 and feel so weird when i see girls my age that look way older

[@Idk-qf2sc]

Well said ♥️

[@aahna3971]

Same..thanks for posting this comment..I never realized that I did this too..

[@dopevibez.__]

They are like that supportive friends who always got your back❤️

[@rollingwithmoore]

Right? I just started watching today and I already sense that

[@annapetrucci7973]

You guys are the most perfect duo I love listening to you guys and you make it feel like you guys are my big sisters or something and you’re both so fun and bubbly omggg!!

[@shadowqueen8042]

Same. I love ALLL her friends. They have good advicd

[@mitaverdi7353]

Let's not confuse terminology here: being humble is good, and it doesn't mean being insecure, those are two very different things. Just like being confident and cocky are very different. That's why you can be insicure and cocky. And also confident and humble.

[@pakiraju786]

So true, it took me a while to learn that.

[@taylor7335]

One thing I hate is how adults will tell you that if a boy is bullying you he has a crush on you, we need to stop excusing bullying because of this, my own parents told me this it’s just horrible and not right, and if it’s true they need to be taught different. I’m tired of adult excuses.

[@blueshift231]

Same thing with "boys will be boys" when a boy is bullying you or being mean to a girl. It's literally excusing their behaviour, not holding them accountable and brushing it off cuz their boys. I'm a strong believer that this leads to men feeling like they can do whatever they want to women sexually and harassing them. It's this mindset that they can get away with stuff cuz "oh thats just how they are, boys will be boys".

[@obviously_phoebe]

say it louder for the people in the back

[@aislinnmcmurtry5893]

16 and I didn’t even realize how much I was seeking validation and wearing things or sending things that were just for attention. Thank you sm ❤️

[@idk-lu6uy]

Just because someone has a boyfriend or girlfriend in high school doesn’t mean they are having you know what.

[@nayshaprasad8318]

@@idk-lu6uy what does this have to do with the comment

[@idk-lu6uy]

@@nayshaprasad8318 it’s true. People assume so much about high school couples. It’s actually sad.

[@nayshaprasad8318]

@@idk-lu6uy but like how does that relate to the actual comment lmao

[@idk-lu6uy]

@@nayshaprasad8318 doesn’t the comment kinda represent that? Someone reading that is gonna think everyone’s like that.

[@Userr.jz0]

"someone elses beauty doesn't take away from your own" - spencer barbosa 2022

[@channelgotbanned7159]

I love how Sahar and Spencer have opposite personalities, and yet they both are teaching us how to love ourselves

[@venustalgia]

please turn this into a podcast, we love to listen to you two talking

[@maria_ribeiro00]

I think there's no such thing as thinking too highly of yourself. As long as you're not shaming or hurting other people, loving yourself will never be wrong

[@mnxtdr]

I love watching your girl talk series it feels like I’m literally in the conversation

[@Name-xv2fx]

Is it just me or does Spencer speak so well like she never says anything wrong and she is always just so like idk RIGHT like omg I can’t she is perfect and so are you Sahar

[@PrincessGummy]

I’ve always been a confident person but I always hide my confidence in front of my friends (ex. my friends will say “I’m ugly” and then I’ll say something about me I think is ugly) because I’m scared of coming off as “cocky” these podcast videos have really helped me act confident in public.

[@Itssimplyaisha]

And some people might think the perfect podcast doesn't exist

[@taylor7335]

11:11 this is actually so true everyone that bullied me was popular and people just went along with because the wanted validation from all the popular kids.

[@whoisfaith__]

frrrrr

[@madz4258]

I love both of you so much I'm a huge fan you taught me how to be confident and thank you for that

[@midnightrain7399]

"People get bullied into being pretty" OMFG THIS THIS THIS FUCK YES

[@nevie-doodle]

what i struggled with was that if you weren't a "mean girl" then you were being bullied, I had a friend who was one of the year girls, but all of my other friends were the ones being bullied, so I ended up being bullied, but then I got pulled out of public school and am still to this day homeschooled. My mom (who I love to the ends of the earth❤️) pulled me out of school because she didn't want to see me come home from school broken and crying every day.

[@thegreatdays3756]

please do more episodes together! i love you guys together so much, it feels like a real conversation.

[@Sravan.Allopi]

As a guy, I have to say this is insane. I knew that girls can be bitchy but I didn't realise it could be THAT bad, especially now with the accessibility of social media. I'm pleased to see that you've not become bitter from your past, I was bullied as a young boy in school myself and it affected me a lot, I'm now 28 and I've had a lot of anxiety over the years but I can happily say that I'm over it and I can talk about it now on my platforms. I promote self improvement for young men and women, I'm really pleased to see that you both have managed to get over your issues with a sense of stability now. I'd love to run an episode on a podcast together giving the male x female dynamics and how we dealt with our emotional damage sometime! If you're interested please let me know. Wishing you the best from the UK!

[@marinachristodoulides3914]

hi why were you bullied ?

[@Sravan.Allopi]

@@marinachristodoulides3914 typical skinny brown boy problems, I also was made fun of because of my accent, I'm South African and had a strong accent when I moved to the UK. My friendship group at the time laughed at me when I said I wanted to join the military and become a medic because "skinny brown kids aren't strong and would crumble." Right after university I joined the military, trained and became an airborne support medic and developed the armoured mind that too few possess these days.

[@marinachristodoulides3914]

@@Sravan.Allopi i am skinny girl too and everywhere i go people say " i should gain more weight " and skinny shaming me . its too sad that people comment on our bodies .

[@obviously_phoebe]

this means so much honestly

[@Sravan.Allopi]

@@marinachristodoulides3914 hey marina im so sorry i didn’t see your response to my message and i know it’s a year down the line but i wanted to say i hope you’re doing better with your relationship with yourself. over the last year i’ve realised that a lot of what people say and criticise is mainly due to the insecurities they have and they have not found a way to cope with it. i say this to all my clients “your internal perception becomes your external reflection” i hope you’re keeping well wherever you are!

[@camparsons]

You should make a monthly podcast/pep talk because this helps is much! i love you both and this duo is the best!!

[@singingwithbecca]

I'm so happy that thanks to you guys I don't have to go through all the things you both did when you were 15, cause I'm 15 right now and I feel like I love myself so much and am so happy with my life and my only problems come from my friend circle, which honestly I'm probably never gonna see these people again after I finish school, but like I have no like problems with being insecure or stuff likw that cause you both have made me so confident in myself!! Love you so much girls!!! 💖💗💖💕💓💗💖💕💖

[@singingwithbecca]

I've been bullied for years but I don't personally look at it as bullying, cause I don't really feel like it is... even tho there's some nasty and mean stuff that has been said to me, I just look at it as teasing? Idk if that makes sense, but soon enough when I started feeling bad about those mean comments from my classmates I understood that it's actually bullying. Fortunately I am so freaking confident thanks to you guys helping me find myself and helping me find my worth so I don't literally care about those who bully others, they're probably just having their own issues and insecurities so I just ignore and go on with my perfectly beautiful life 😍😍 Also can we talk about how like horrible cyber bullying actually is? I think cyber bullying made me feel worse about myself than I've ever felt about ANYTHING. Like it's so bad! It just feels so disgusting and like I don't even know how to explain it, but I guess I have more confidence in real life than I do on the internet. Which makes sense to me, cause that's the thing with social media, everything you post WILL stay there forever unless you take it down, but even then someone could've saved it, screenshotted it, screenrecorded it ect. So it's really like ALL of your mistakes will stay on the internet, which is why so many people got "cancelled" during quarantine. Cause someone just founs something bout their past and how they acted in the PAST and thought it was a good idea to cancel a person for something they did 10 YEARS ago. That's a long time. Don't you think they changed? Anyways I'm off topic, but ILYSM MY QUEENS! I'LL ALWAYS LOOK UP TO YOU BOTH! YOU'RE SUCH AN AMAZING PEOPLE AND I LOVE THOSE PODCAST TYPE OF THINGS! JUST LISTENING TO YOU TWO TALK MAKES ME WANT TO JOIN IN AND IT MAKES ME FEEL Y'ALL ARE ACTUALLY HERE WITH ME! IT MAKES ME FEEL INCLUDED! LOVE YA!!!!!

[@toriaperez9821]

Please keep this podcast going forever 😂

[@karenpolice824]

I can’t put into words how much I LOVE LOVE LOVEE these podcasts. I was super popular in primary school and now that I’m in high school I have literally 0 friends.. yAy! I suffer from anxiety disorder and panic attacks have really spiked up lately and this episode helped so much 💗 I would die for u guys to start an actual podcast on Spotify!!!!! Have a great day everyone:)

[@maddie9093]

i’m in love with this friendship and the amount of confidence in this AHHH❤️please post more videos like this!

[@auraezahra]

I just found this podcast series bec I only saw Sahar in YT shorts. I'm so glad. Spencer is the epitome of gentle positivity, like that one friend who gently lifts you up and brings you fluffy blankets when you feel like shit and Sahar is just that one friend who grabs you by the shoulders and agressively tells you that you're loved and beautiful. I'm here for this gentle + agressive combo of positivity 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

[@drewp4016]

I literally love these!!! I had to go back and watch the other 2 but like so worth it. I love both of your guys channels and I cannot believe how much you guys have helped me be more confident and like love myself, so thank you for giving the best advice ever. Love you guys ❤️❤️❤️

[@rakshana4827]

I watched through the whole podcast & it’s just made my day so much better💕your both such an inspiration!!

[@babybunny218]

Honestly you two made me feel so confident in myself!! I feel confident now to call myself beautiful and pretty!! You guys are amazing thank you for helping me and so many other people 💜💜💜

[@tessrennell]

the way I have taken so much advice from you guys is crazy! I actually do the things you say and it has changed my whole life for the good so much. I'm so thankful for both of you girlies, you also make me laugh and smile so much xxx

[@belleandbug]

omg can we just talk abt accepting complements like when ppl complement me i genuinely appreciate it sooo much and i just don’t know how to show that

[@liza_9462]

You guys make me feel SOO MUCH better about myself TY FOR EVERYTHING you helped me a lot for middle school and I think you guys are the best people ever and TYSM for helping me with body positivity, friendships, and overall just life I live you guys I hope you guys never quit🥰🥰💕💜😍😊❤️❤️

[@singingwithbecca]

YES MORE EPISODES WITH SPENCER!!!!!

[@idkwhattonamemyself9326]

Don't ever stop collaborating 😭✋i love this vid youu guys make me feel confident about myself. I love Sahar and Spencer. 💕

[@haleyaldrich9436]

Spencer has one of the sweetest most likable personalities ever. I don’t ever understand how anyone could genuinely find her annoying. You girls are amazing! Keeping shinning

[@bestys_forlife5081]

Omg y’all make me feel so much better about who I am and to do the right thing

[@lilliandonnelly9629]

I’m happy I get to grow up watching empowering messages from these I love them

[@gabrielakedzierska3762]

Omgosh! Your posts especially ft. Spencer make my days so much better! Seriously consider starting actual podcasts or something on a platform. I would pay to listen to these genuine conversations

[@sunshine6350]

I just wanted to say thank you! Honestly sincerely genuinely thank you! You just made me realize i was insecure and that helped..thanks a lot♡

[@mspotato4689]

okay yes we NEED more podcasts/youtube videos (whichever is okay for u) of you two cuz you guys are literally the best duo with the most helpful, meaningful, and fun discussion topics

[@maggiebean4125]

You have literally changed my life. And I just want to say thank you because idk if you know how much you have truly helped me. ❤❤❤😢

[@javarie3968]

This is a girl on her big bro account and omg love your videos wish we were real friends, you guys help me alot

[@danielle147]

You guys make me confident.❤️ You are the most incredibly kind and caring people.💕

[@singingwithbecca]

You both make me so happy! Ilysm! My queens! 💕💕

[@jhayroseb7701]

i honestly think you guys are the best

[@stillwithjk2914]

17:09 I love their friendship... 💕 Honestly both of you inspire me... But both being together is just a combo YK 🤌👏🦋🦋✋✨😌

[@isabellagonzalez2000]

Literally love this duo ❤ If you guys made a podcast everyone would be all over it, inviting different people and all. Just an idea, but love both you guy’s channel 😍😍

[@marenstewart4184]

ANOTHER PLEASE I WATCHED THE LAST ONE 4 TIMES AND THIS ONE I HAVE WATCHED 2 TIMES!!! I need more please loves

[@hannadaisyschulz1104]

I love listening to you guys! And also there is something in Spencer’s laugh that makes me happy

[@thelanieffect7030]

Im so grateful For the fact that you guys make me feel genuinely Better about myself♥️

[@jce9579]

Man I love you guys! You guys have actual good advice and I dig that ❤️

[@hippie_0755]

Every time that I watch you guys you make me feel like I'm getting advice from my older sisters I love that

[@crazypuglady5639]

I love you guys! I absolutely love hearing your guys' advice. Ever since I started following you last year I have felt so much more confident. I also love just being able to have girl talk. I don't have many friends rn, but I would rather be confident with no friends than insecure with fake friends. Love you guys, yall are so beautiful, don't let anyone alter your minds! Luv you!

[@anastasiaseivert]

this is so off topic but i love how she's wearing the "red" ring from taylor swift lol :D

[@nadeenaljabari4048]

this is going to help so many people and i wish i knew all this throughout middle school it would have helped me so much and im in high school now and i literally love myself and you guys help me love myself even more and it takes a lot to love your self sometimes.

[@mihaela2680]

I love you guys so much and everything you said was so well spoken and insightful. you guys are mature and wise beyond your years and I love love love your videos. 🥺

[@jahanavig16]

you guys really madean impact on my mindset positively.wish you guys nothing but love,good energy and happiness

[@cassie_h]

thank you so much for this !! you guys are so inspiring xx

[@valeriapoop]

I love these kind of videos! It reminds me of when i talked about this stuff with my older niece but she has been very busy lately so i havent spoken to her in a while. I love how positive you two are it puts me in a good mood please make more of these videos :)))

[@sophie12334]

Omggggg when I saw another video is up I got so excited!!!! You guys are amazing!

[@maggiemac8102]

PLEASE DO MORE!!! I love guys so much! ❤️❤️❤️

[@lilly07190]

I love these video sm idk why but they make me feel so calm, you need to continue doing them (also I love that they are so long)

[@elisasimsek5600]

I love you guys so much. Thanks to you guys I got a lot more confident and I accepted who I really am. Thank you a lot!

[@loveadams9733]

Y’all- pls pls pls make more vids! Like I need them, they are helping me get over my insecurities and helping me be more confident! 😮‍💨

[@acousticguitarra6319]

I NEED MORE OF THIS, PLEASE DO MORE, THAT IS AMAZING, I PRESS THE LIKE BUTTON WITHOUT WATCHING IT IN THE FIRST PLACE, I WATCHED TILL THE END AND SUBSCRIBED, IM IN LOVE WITH THE PODCASTS

[@ahri_nevadasunset9589]

i know this is late, you girls changed my life! you are such good people! please keep doing this 🙏🏽🥰

[@annienajjar8516]

These is the only podcast I will watch tbh!!!❤️

[@brigidh.828]

Ok, this is going to take a lot of typing but here’s my story: So I’ve always had like a lot of drama happen to me- well I thought it was drama at the time, but I realized it was bullying. So let me explain the first story. I had this group of friends and my birthday was next week. Another friend in the groups birthday was 2 months away and they made a huge group chat planning all the presents and surprises for their birthday. They were so over the top with her birthday and didn’t care at all about mine. When it came, I was so happy and wore a little plastic crown and a pink jacket. I asked them why they were planning my other friends birthday day that’s so far away and literally didn’t even say a word about mine. They got mad and made a whole group chat behind my back without me just to talk about how I was “bragging about my birthday” and I’m so “rude and mean”. My only true friend sent a screenshot to me and I was really upset. I confronted them and they spent the next week yelling at me and spreading rumors. The other story is someone I’ll name her Lily and she liked this guy who I was friends with. She hated me and was SO rude to me for no reason except that she liked him. She talked so bad about me behind my back to my friends and made my only friends hate me. There was this point where she was being such a jerk that we were talking about a book at school and a character died and she walked past my desk and said. “You should too.” I got a rush in my head and it felt like something hit me. I was so shocked that she did this. She took it too far and kept doing stuff like this. I told one of my friends and then Lily lied to all of the people in the class about what happened and tried to Make them hate me even more. Third story! Sorry it’s getting long. So I have this friend who is also Lily’s bff. And that friend would only talk to me about what people say to me behind my back. Like she would tell me that my she thought all my other friends were fake and tried to convince me that everyone hated me. I was getting tired of this until she decided she was going to CHOOSE between me or Lily. She was telling each of us all the bad things about us. She called me a crybaby because I hadn’t eaten or drank anything all day at school because I had gotten braces so I couldn’t chew well that day. On top of that, she twisted the swing that pinched my hand so hard I started bleeding inside my hand and my hand turned purple. She said I had to stab my self with a needle for it to stop and I was really scared. That whole day I felt like I was going to pass out and I asked her if she could come with me to get a teacher that would get me a band aid and she wouldn’t stop saying I was a crybaby and only complained. She then told everyone else and all of my friends that I couldn’t suck it up even though I wanted to fall over. I couldn’t go home that day because my parents were away in the city until an hour after school. And there you have it. My life is filled with stuff like this and the anxiety keeps filling me so I tell my friends who get mad at me because “all I ever do is complain about my life”. That made me always look for the negative side and think the worst. I really need a break from all this!!

[@vikasokol7396]

I'm so sorry that this is happening to you... Just remember, God loves you❤️

[@sarafathima4664]

kinda late but stay strong bestie ♥︎✨

[@user-hf2qz1rm9s]

I hope things get better, and good luck with lily!

[@sand1919]

About the part where you were talking about confident vs cocky. So I have a friend who would 100% fit the definition of cocky because she always tries to prove herself to me and other people. (Now personally I have never really liked to prove myself to people because I feel like its a waste of time like who the hell cares what people think as long as I know that I'm amazing). Like showing how she's "better" than everyone else at certain things, and honestly I believed that she really was better than everyone else for a long time. And by a long time I mean four years. You both helped me realize that she is just cocky and insecure, not confident. And you also helped me realize that what I'm doing is being confident and not arrogant. So thank you so much I really appreciate you both. ❤❤

[@Kimberley.C]

OMFG NO FUCKING WONDER I LIKE YOU SO MUCH. I just found your KZbin shorts and I was like “oh she’s so cool she reminds me of spencer of Mai Pham” and I was just scrolling through your channel and I found this video and I was like “NO WONDERRRRRRR”. This helps no one but😭💗

[@ivyyandbrooklynn]

hi sahar, i love you and spencer’s videos sm, tysm for posting and collaborating

[@eveningyay6462]

This video made me feel so much better. I always though that only people who are somehow "less" than others and there is just something wrong with them can get bullied although it can happen to anyone

[@randomhead670]

YES!! I literally was almost screaming when y'all were talking about how our culture is lowkey trying to normalize pedophilia behavior! Girls shouldn't have to dress overly sexual just to 'fit in'. It's not being sexist to say that, it's actually supporting and protecting young girls from getting insecure!❤

[@Ollita_925]

I love this so much I hope you two will do more girl talks together in the future it makes me feel like I’m a part of the conversation you two made me so much more confident and less insecure I love y’all so much🥰❤️🤍

[@ranjeetaboban563]

U guys are just making me overcome my insecurities and i feel so fucking good after just watching u so...THANKU💚❤️✨

[@_.abby.starr._]

Embarrassment is only in the mind honestly.... recently I've found that to be so true especially after I watched one of your TikToks about it. Thank you 😊 it really helped alot

[@hafsasalman2489]

Going to watch this today, I already know its going to be real good. You don't understand because of you guys, Im so confident now. Its been a long journey for me to get to where i am and most of it is because of you guys.

[@Waterwave37]

I love your dynamic, genuine female friendships are actually the best. I’m lucky to have my little group of female friends and watching you guys makes me feel happy. I hope you guys just keep doing what you’re doing so young girls can see it and learn what healthy genuine female friendships look like, and help them realize they can have that too :))

[@derya7031]

yess!! we need more podcasts with Spencer!!❤️ i love you guys

[@skywalker4155]

I get so excited when I see a new video posted of you two 🥺❤️❤️ Lots of love from a South African supporter 🇿🇦💓

[@OctopusMom]

Spencer being a minion is so true tho- btw i looveedd this video

[@aieyan8740]

i was not expecting part 3 to come so soon but still happy

[@lattealeachiatto]

You guys are the best, I definitely need more parts

[@jessicabmorris9072]

i love this duo, please keep doing these together!!! love y'all x

[@khushisolanki3830]

I love the way you give advice I wanna have friends like you who can help and advice. It's so helpful have people like you who can give great advice.

[@AlishbaBajwa]

Sahar you are honestly so lucky to have someone as great as Spencer and Spencer is super lucky to have you too.

[@giusalmeron8055]

I love watching their videos 'cause they feel like big sisters giving advice!

[@pink.y7290]

20:45 OMG FINALLY SOMEONE ACC SPEAKS ABT THIS. LITERALLY.

[@machii3290]

I love the spencer and sahar duo. Please make more!! make it a weekly podcast please. you guys are really good for my mental health

[@earth2grace107]

Lowkey i cried to hearing this because i been bullied for the stupidest reasons.

[@Venom..L1]

Oh my god finally a second episode!! This is the f*cking podcast ✨💛

[@chelseamixon5929]

Sahar is the "I'm cutting you off" boss Spencer is the "ok ill forgive you sweethart" And sahar loves that she's a sweetheart but she doesn't like that she forgives everyone Love y'all Y'all are bosses

[@singingwithbecca]

I LOVE THAT SPENCER IS A MINION I LOVE IT SO MUCH

[@zaraworrell7402]

thease podcasts are literally the best thing on earth

[@salamaalshamsi948]

I am so grateful that I saw your page and Spencer's before getting bullied ❤🍀

[@singingwithbecca]

LOVE YOU BOTH SO FREAKING MUCH

[@csehanna1696]

OMMG when i seen yall did another podcast together i litereally was about to cry LOVE YOU GUYYYYS

[@Koolkid-cx6ib]

I just got a Botox ad in the middle of this😭😭😂caught me off guard!

[@singingwithbecca]

YES OMG YOU'RE BOTH THE REASON WHY I LEARNED TO NOT GIVE A SHIT OMG ILY BOTH SO MUCH CAN'T WAIT TO WEAR BIKINIS IN SUMMER WITH CONFIDENCE AND CUT ALL OF THE TOXICITY OUT OF MY FREAKING LIFE POINT BLANK PERIOD 😘😘