Sam Morrison Identifies You by Mouth Feel | Gay Comedy Show | We’re Having Gay Sex Podcast

[@Eyeswide39Open]

Fuck, I love Kate so hard. It’s not even any one thing, they are just an all round a+ human.

[@EyeconicLaura]

Realized I’ve never heard a glucose monitor go off outside of real life. Diabetics don’t get a lot of representation in any form of media, so to have that in a queer space especially, and one that I regularly watch… that was just really cool, man. Made my afternoon.

[@katsayle8520]

Literally I barely see diabetic rep anywhere and was so cool to see!!

[@Eyeswide39Open]

I don’t know if it’s the rosé, but I found this hilarious.

[@EyeconicLaura]

@@Eyeswide39Open why

[@Emily.Ann.96]

Ugh, same, so excited to see the representation. I’d love to see him live!

[@circleofleaves_zigzag]

Kate evil-cackling at Betsy just "booking you girls at the same time", and Sam pointing at Kate. I laughed so hard.

[@KosmosKnight]

Something I heard recently, "closure is just two people agreeing on a narrative" and that has helped me realize that I don't necessarily need that from people. It's okay if we don't agree on the narrative bc we aren't the same people

[@rloach067]

i know you said that not many people watch the episodes with men on them, but as a queer trans man i love the episodes with men and masc peeps as guests!! so i hope you don't stop doing them even if they aren't the most popular

[@saggguy7]

Fellow queer trans guy and I second this

[@ashgavs]

never gonna stop. i love diversity of perspectives on the pod. i think its what makes it work!

[@ninin11]

@@ashgavs dude yes. also you and kate make it great every time

[@joanneferraro3854]

kate’s reactions are literally one of my favorite things on the planet, the cackles kill me 😂

[@ananyakallianpur4956]

I'm especially loving Kate's laugh rn

[@ninin11]

i gotta admit i don’t usually go for the pods with dudes when i’m listening to the older eps, but i’ve been so hooked that i couldn’t miss this one and holy shit am i glad i didn’t. you guys always knock it out of the park, and i loved sam! even subscribed to him. keep it up guys!

[@ashgavs]

truly some of my fav dude episodes: fumi, gus, jared fried, they are top tier episodes regardless of gender. I wish I could convey this to everyone.

[@ninin11]

@@ashgavs thanks for the recs!!!!!!! i don’t know why i usually don’t go for the ones with the dudes man

[@leia710]

@@ninin11 James Tyson episode is GOLD.

[@ninin11]

@@leia710 thanks lia, haven’t watched that one!

[@EmmetttalKing]

ASHLEY!! Thank you for being so vulnerable. This was exactly what I needed. Also I love Sam and Kate!

[@fortunatefruit]

37:08 just breaking and opening my heart at the same time

[@chelister27]

The beginning was so chaotic 😂 you can tell y'all are close friends

[@ArchaeoV]

Wow 3 years in a closeted relationship, I tried it for 4 months and it was so stressful and exhausting! Can’t imagine how it made you feel 🌼

[@lucyn9168]

I found this podcast after seeing Sam at Stand Up NY months before. His set never left my head. Crazy and beautiful to learn after the fact that your guys' friendship birthed this material in the first place!

[@dismurrart6648]

Oh man the stuff about closure was so valuable for me. I realized I'm never getting closure from my sperm donor and will never be enough for him so I said goodbye but it sucks so hard

[@beatricefox937]

Good for you- I know stuff like that is hard

[@dismurrart6648]

@@beatricefox937 tbh this was January and its still hard 5 months later but 30 years of suffering wasn't worth spit from him. I'm focused on heaping now

[@lottiebeard1638]

I know this is not a new podcast, but I’m going back and watching old episodes. Every single one seems to have something that just speaks to me at just this point in my life that I really need to hear these things. Having just dealt with this ‘door slam’ type of closure from a parent - I cannot tell you how much I needed to hear that it is also a valid type of closure despite how painful it is. I can’t spend my whole life trying to make myself as small and quiet as possible and hope that the future holds more for me.

[@anger101]

I will be putting “lol. all good” in vinyl on my wall. thank you.

[@howdyshell123]

Hi from Patreon! Just here to feed the algorithm. Great episode as always!

[@Hollymodz]

I cannot wait to watch this, this podcast always brings a smile to my face and I am eternally grateful

[@liza4289]

You and Kate always make my day so much better, I fucking love you guys ❤️

[@danielasalazar5289]

Loved this episode and loved Sam. Honestly some of the most vulnerable and funny episodes have been with men so definitely highly recommend them!!

[@Queerbbby]

This ep was magic to my wounded soul. Thank you.

[@IamStefanieD]

I'm realizing very quickly to not take a drink of anything until there's a commercial or your ads pop up in your videos because three times now since last night I have almost spewed shit out my nose and that never ever ever happens to me I don't normally laugh that hard. Thank you

[@theembersinside1420]

I was refreshing my feed all morning just for this! Mondays are so much better now. 😋💜

[@AsiaTr3asur3]

Agreed!

[@Nathan-yu7cu]

Me and Sam Morrison are the same, I'll just leave it at that lmao

[@junelliesilva7520]

Well this is my 2nd time hearing this episode ❤️ y’all are great! I love the fact that y’all are so relatable 🧡

[@circleofleaves_zigzag]

Ashley, I think it was big of you to continue to be so kind to that ex of yours. It might have been equal parts being a simp, and equal parts just having a hard time processing a difficult situation in the moment, and equal parts learning and growing from a fucked up situation, and having it NOT make you bitter. Ok, we all know JK Rowling sucks now because of her transphobia and other problematic bullshit, but I think of the character Luna, how she dealt with grief, bullying and being made an outcast, and she didn't end up bitter. She wasn't oblivious, but above it all she chose kindness and it made her really insightful. I'm hoping that this ex has - or will - learn from you, from how you reacted in that moment. I remember you talking about the healthy relationship you had with Jen, and how during an argument Jen had basically said "ok, THIS -- *gesture to whatever freak-out was going on* - has nothing to do with me", just didn't engage, and you said yep, you're right. It sounds like - probably through the work you've done on yourself, and from having a healthy relationship - when you saw the closeted ex, you gave her the opportunity to essentially say "yep, you're right, that's on me". But she didn't and that's really disappointing. I have a slew of rare diseases (essentially a full time patient, and on disability/not working) and so I have a lot of medical experience. With that, I actually have a lot of medical PTSD. I've had to address a lot of errors and I've been incredibly diplomatic and forgiving. But it's really fucking heart-breaking to just not hear those words "I'm sorry, I was wrong/I made a mistake", ESPECIALLY since I put the effort in to approach these things maturely and diplomatically. It's disappointing - and I swear, disappointment is a heavy feeling, heavier to me than anger or annoyance - it's disappointing when someone doesn't acknowledge the reality that has caused you pain. By saying "were we closeted?" she did just that, swept it aside. I don't think you'll regret choosing kindness in that moment though, because even though you were baited so hard and so unfairly, you didn't fall back into that cycle of abuse and that's awesome. You can be sensitive and forgiving and not lose your integrity. Your forgiveness might not have been expected, maybe she dealt with processing that in the moment by deflecting, and hopefully she'll do the work now. Clarity doesn't need to be reciprocated for yours to be any less clear. Don't doubt yourself my dude; you did good.

[@themrs9407]

Great episode, defintiely need Sam back again. Kate's cackle was fantastic

[@ML-yr9nr]

I’m half Puerto Rican and Sisk’s laugh is so authentic to me

[@jenniferholmes9552]

Getting home on a Monday it is always great to be greated by another episode

[@Eyeswide39Open]

The bit about closure hit home massively as well. When you were saying about sending the text, I was like, obviously a horrific idea, don’t do that. But we forget just how consuming those moments are when we aren’t in the thick of it. Last year, I genuinely thought the heartache I was in would kill me. Entirely. And all I wanted was for this human to communicate with me in a manner that I needed, which she refused to give me. We take for granted the fact that we are able to communicate so vulnerably; it’s not a skill that everyone has. So, ultimately, I get it. That last ditch attempt to put your words out into space and have someone take care of them. No matter the current state of the relationship. But yea, she definitely didn’t deserve to have you acknowledge her in that moment. I appreciate your unrelenting candour, Ashley. It’s a sign of hope that that level of honesty is out there.

[@madisonblood9434]

Makes Mondays so much easier:)

[@LoMo-jd5tp]

Sam's socks matching his cardi🥰

[@sannevanbeers]

You sound like a very strong person Ashley, to have come out of that relationship and choosing yourself😊

[@valpulaski8298]

I had a huge crush on Lohan too. Yep.. red heads Forever will be my weakness. Love you both. Thanks for doing what you do.

[@thefoolmountain9481]

Ashley as a fellow Libra moon simp I needed to hear that story, especially as I got a text from my ex while listening to this podcast 🤙 big thank you to you and Kate for everything you share with us, it's appreciated 🙌 💞

[@NE8675309]

Such a good episode! Sam is so adorable and funny. So excited.... just got my tickets for Sacramento!

[@rockettt6722]

hey, Ash, Neanderthals were pretty cool; they had a language, deep beliefs and performed funerary rites and also, they loved fashion (they made necklaces), so you can rejoice in your ancestors, hehe

[@avball79]

As somebody who's been working for major cloud providers for the last eight years, I'm really disappointed in your lack of responsibility there Ashley. Now we have to change the password on everything that connects to the cloud.

[@Taylor-di1rv]

I would LOVE to see Sarah Schauer on this podcast (if they are interested)! 💗💗

[@nicolewirth6931]

They were on awhile ago, it's not on KZbin but you can listen to it (I just googled "were having gay sex podcast sarah schauer") but I think a return video episode would be awesome too :)

[@AshleyEhSMR]

Living the gAy-DHD life 🏳️‍🌈🙌🤣 I feel both validated AND attacked 😂😂😂😂🥳

[@chloe.d178]

I like, "it's okay that it sucks"

[@PARADOXsquared]

I have ADHD and I had at least 8 metro cards 🤣 Until they introduced virtual cards, so now I just have one on my phone

[@raha704]

I missed Kate 😭😭 can you please bring Kate back as a guest?🥲

[@Dicen_Delirio]

I think this one's my new favorite

[@kiram.3619]

Around the 36 Minute mark, I think the woman meant it in a 'looking back it was pretty obvious. Being roommates, sharing pets, not dating, etc' way. Your dating & gayness probably was an extremely well kept secret, especially from a (non-queer) outsiders point of view. But looking back as a fully fledged lesbian, what you did seems pretty gay. And looking back & knowing how immense of a relationship you had, it probably seems like such an intense relationship couldn't have existed between two straight girls, it had t have been between lovers, therefore it was "obviously" a gay relationship. And she forgets that people didn't really notice that intensity, because she is so focused on the strong gayness (because that's the most important part of her memory of that time). Of course I'm heavily projecting here, as I am currently in a phase of joking about how obvious the lesbian signs I missed about myself are. Staring & admiring that one girls eyes? - They are objectively beautiful, everyone would do that. Stuff like that. I think it's very affirming. I didn't suddenly decide this, I've always been a lesbian. Especially since I didn't want to accept that back then, I'm now retroactively accepting myself & my gay thoughts. Maybe the woman you talk about is in a similar phase: Just now fully accepting their gayness & being fine with the world knowing.

[@gimme_something_c_mon]

my favorite episode ❤️❤️

[@dismurrart6648]

I went for adhd testing and told the tester the story about the sign and she found it hilarious

[@pappythe1st]

come for the gay sex stories stay for the cat

[@JuMixBoox]

Ashley still being so considerate about not outing her at the hair dresser's is just so nice to hear. I know it's human decency, but I could see a thousand scenarios in which you could have been petty or even just not cared at this point.

[@kalahstpierre1675]

10/10 recommend having Sam back on the pod again.

[@kenziewenzieasmr9800]

Watching this again because it’s fucking hilarious

[@neiyuwnserpent7646]

This is a great episode

[@saddo7694]

"Were we really closeted" I was thinking they meant that were you closeted as in that people probably already knew or that you guys weren't as secretive as she might have wanted at the time. I didn't get the impression that she was trying to gaslight until you explained your feelings to her response but who knows

[@valpulaski8298]

Omg. Betsy is my cars name. Nice

[@mariannetfinches]

This was a great episode. I'm going to be thinking about Sam almost getting shot because he forgot about the cloud for a while. Following him immediately

[@CB-fq2ye]

Love this episode!

[@jd9785]

LOL all good

[@junelliesilva7520]

Amazing!!!!! 👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@emmagination444]

Another riff idea after sam said he was the goal keeper: “it’s Sam -the hole keeper”

[@EternalGalaxies]

Semi-Spoiler Alert - Kate's story reminds me of a similar, successful version of this scenario in an amazing scene from Mae Martin's Feel Good- one of the best shows I've ever seen. If you haven't watched it, I highly recommend it!

[@bripk9598]

Man, that story took me down memory lane. I remember thinking in middle school when I started dating and knowing that I was bi and my family was uber christian conservative (My grandpa is a baptist preacher and we lived in south texas) and I just would not subject another girl to that. I would've been putting them through exactly what you went through. We'd have to hide or be shunned. I almost punched a girl in the face for bullying me by calling me a lesbian in 8th grade because 1. uh rude and 2. I was so terrified of my family finding out and isolating me completely and my home life was already so abusive. I just couldn't think of ever dating a girl, not because I didn't think I could take the heat from my family but just because they were never going to love her, or us, and I'd be bringing her into this super toxic thing. I didn't come out to my mom until I was 23 and it was because she was talking shit about the guy I was dating that was bi. Like not even to defend myself but because I wasn't going to let her talk about him that way. She outted me to my entire family at 26 to cover her own ass and its almost unfortunate that I was in a really happy healthy relationship (still am) with that same bi guy and unless he dies I get all the repercussions of being outted... and none of the titties.

[@kerredderrek]

Ashley/(alternate interpretation/speculation of 'were we really in the closet though") Maybe she meant that to the people looking in from the outside saw/assumed you two were lesbian/gay couple(on the DL) after the length of time you two were together? or maybe roommates (wink wink). PS love the pod you and Kate are golden. LOLs all the time.

[@jyt74]

Sam is a treasure.

[@nixxah2966]

fuck yea let’s do dis!!!

[@mrh1594]

The air horn sound is the ultimate soundboard contribution 🤣

[@pmp1340]

9:26 15:19 22:58 23:05 24:18 25:10 26:00 29:26 31:00 45:22 51:20 JUST LMAOO 52:02 DEAD 59:30 1:04:10 1:05:57 1:08:24

[@toosolidcuuj]

Neanderthals generally weren't particularly tall. Because their species developed in Europe, they became short and stocky, which gave their skin less surface area to expose to the cold climate. Also Neanderthal brains were on average a bit bigger than ours.

[@sam-mz9ld]

COME TO SPOKANE!!! im already signed up for your email list i really wanna go to a show!!

[@tuttiFrutiikawaii]

Spokane... Spokane... Man

[@LamAnopro_]

Landslide

[@endertptm]

When his video coming out with you on his channel?

[@bluepursue8542]

This comment is under the assumptions that you may not view your riffs on this episode as bountiful as I do. Yes some times you Hit others you miss but dam you have these Michael Scott moments the camera even turns to you, as you add your 2 cents to a convo not about you, that is literally priceless. I get to hear a side convo about horses fucking on Instagram or to know dual improv does not have your stamp of approval Its superb you should be the next Ellen (but actually funny) 👀

[@babybunny420]

recently lindsay lohan said "i'm not queer, i was just living in LA", re: her and sam ronson. so that's a bummer

[@AlakaxamM]

Why?

[@withhernosestuckinabook2507]

Everyone knows the famously gay human ancestor is Homo erectus lol

[@neiyuwnserpent7646]

YEAH

[@trinaolson6072]

"sloppy paleontologist"!

[@EeyoresGloomyPlace]

I don't know about horses but cow breeding works exactly as Ashley described the horse video. The semen is then taken to inseminate a female cow, it doesn't have to happen in the same time and place. Fun fact: they often use two bulls for that, as they are in fact quite gay (don't know about horses though)!

[@mariannetfinches]

Haha! Horses are usually straight, at least when a fleshlite is concerned. Other than that it's exactly the same 😂

[@nubian_queen4471]

I'm a bottom Denise for u, Ashley looool

[@saggguy7]

guest suggestion: Sarah Schauer

[@EternalGalaxies]

You have cool hair :)

[@mikaelapowers5196]

What is sams KZbin channel

[@2nd3rd1st]

Hi, Ashley, can I interest you in co-writing and producing a TV/streaming pilot with me for an original show set in a downstairs gay bar in Boston, called: Queers. -- The premise: A place where everybody knows you're queer, and they're always glad you're here. The owner Sam (short for Samantha), a headstrong, brash cis gay white woman with issues, tends the bar and has frequent messy public encounters with her numerous exes. Norm (short for Norma/n, viewers can submit a gender of the week), a white bisexual lesbian dyke, is the bar regular and an occasionally-employed soccer coach, usually occupying the corner of the bar facing the door. Another regular is Casier Tane, the beautiful psychiatrist and will they/won't they fling of Sam's, to keep viewers hooked. Honestly there is much more but I want to hear what you think of it first, cheers.

[@ML-yr9nr]

14:00 or more Neanderthal than 80% of participants?

[@chinacetacean]

I don't trust the rich n daily spon. It doesn't seem genuine 😂 not like the matress

[@steffanvierirs2239]

Damn, the ADHD jokes, just like the queer jokes, should only be made by the people who belong to those groups 😴seriously tho. My situation is the same: i was diagnosed as a kid but my parents didn´t tell me and made my life harder. I´m glad if Tiktok helps at least somebody, because not the goverment, doctors or our parents, etc care at all most of the time.

[@JuMixBoox]

Ashley still being so considerate about not outing her at the hair dresser's is just so nice to hear. I know it's human decency, but I could see a thousand scenarios in which you could have been petty or even just not cared at this point.