10 Style Rules (That No-one Is Talking About!)

[@TheReelDealFilmReviews]

I love a roll neck or a crew neck but told it wouldn’t work for me. I use necklaces or perhaps a scarf to create a line, like a v neck would. Pearls look fabulous with black and a bright lip if black isn’t one’s best neutral. What words come up most frequently when looking at our clothes if we were to describe them, especially our favourites. You give amazing advice. I was looking at a necklace yesterday against a cooler toned sweater and whilst I love the necklace and it looked alright, I noticed the cooler tone bracelet I have paired better, melted was the word you use. Whilst the necklace was fine and I was at home, it was fine but I am mindful now to implement this technique. Thanks Sarah, you are really helpful and I agree with not listening to the constant noise.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Thanks for sharing :)

[@livbyron4150]

Excellent insight, nice vid, thank you! For me, at 71, I think having an "outfit" most every day is important -- not anything fantastic but the idea is to fix the hair, a dash of makeup, and dress to feel "put together". And always a pair of earrings! This approach helps on two counts -- it makes me feel ready and able. to be productive, not just slouching around half-assed, as it were. Being put together helps me think -- I noticed this when I started to work from home. Also, if someone stops by or I have to pop out to the mailbox or the store - I look appropriate (& invariably I'll run into someone I know!) Looking as if you've given some thought to your presentation to the world is an important part of confidence and the ability to interact. In one's 20s, 30s it's easy to look great, now it takes a bit of effort, but it's worth it.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

It's so true Liv. How we present ourselves undoubtedly impacts how we think, act and perform. A little effort goes a long way!

[@helle_larsen]

One thing that has worked for me when shopping, is that if I find something I like, I tell myself "If you go 3 days from now, and still think about the item, then yes you should consider getting it. But if you forget it right away, it wasn't meant to be". I saw a dress the other day that was in my seasonal color palette, and I was unsure whether to get it or not, so I decided not to. But I kept on thinking about it, so I went back to the store yesterday and tried it on, and it looked really good on me, and it was the kind of dress I could use to a dinner party but also to dress more formal at work, so I knew I would use it often. I am happy I went back at bought it. However, for items I rushed to buy, some of those have been hidden away in my closet for years... never used them.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

That's a great way to shop and avoid those impulse purchases! Thanks for sharing :)

[@Mamaki1987]

Yes, this is great advise. Especially the browse frequently, buy infrequently. This is something I started to do this year. You can also do that online with a wishlist (and be surprised, how few of the items you actually buy, if you think it over. Also, just because a clothing item wasn't expensive, one shouldn't treat it as expendable. You can still take good care of items that are not that great of a quality but still lovely.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

I totally agree with that, we should treat our clothes as valuable items, whether they cost $5 or $5000! :)

[@MaryYoungblood-xy8vg]

This is so true. I am on a very limited budget as a substitute teacher, so my purchases have to count. This advice is very sound and something I had to learn the hard way. Now my pieces work better in multiple outfits.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

@@MaryYoungblood-xy8vg I also learned the hard way. At least we know better now! :)

[@nbo9026]

advice😊

[@franziskani]

Another tip. Take your personal assistant with you ;) A friend that enjoys playing around with fashion, maybe can give their opinion, maybe challenge you to try out sth out of your comfort zone. Someone that does not mind bringing you the next size or the other colour of a garment, or a matching belt (and you wait in the dress cabin in your underwear so you cannot easily run out and grab it yourself, and you should watch your purse and shoes anyway.) A willing "assistant" that also hangs back the many clothes that you put on (so the staff will not curse you -or insisting you may not take more than xx pieces into the change room.) Some boyfriends or husbands can be trained to be helpful in that way. Well, to a degree ;) And maybe they accept the same service for themselves. Which is another issue: the man that walks into the store and does not have the patience to try on a few things - even though they get excellent service and would get the garments brought to them, either by sales staff or a friend or a partner)

[@marcusboyes943]

I love the lunar necklace, it suits your cool colouring and is cohesive with the theme of your depth of chromatic characteristics as a Cool Winter. 😊

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Thank you so much!

[@Margaretcs0103]

Best fashion advice I’ve heard in a long time. I have two white button down shirts with the labels still on. They don’t work for what I’m comfortable wearing!

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

So glad you liked it! Thanks for watching.

[@HB-xw6im]

Thank you! I’m 35 with a wardrobe crises! Not an elderly not a teenie also, but don’t want to look like an old lady also omg 😨 seems nothing in my wardrobe make sense anymore 😞 that’s why I landed here. Thank you for your tips!

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Happy to have you here! 💕

[@janitapanos240]

I absolutely love your style wisdom and gentle advice, thank you, Sarah!

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Thank you so much! So kind of you to say ☺️

[@sestricaanutka]

Amazing purple colour on you❤

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Oh thank you! I'm loving purple right now!

[@lynnfox8376]

I would add considering where you live, physically and socially. I can put together city style outfits, but would look and feel very out of place as an older person in the countryside. I'm not sure what the difference is, but it seems more subtle and less flamboyant.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Sure that would be a great addition!

[@annie-sc]

I loved that quote from Epictetus. Stoicism greatly influenced my minimalism approach when it comes to spending money. Every item should have a purpose. I'm thankful for my younger self for acquiring classic and good quality pieces that I still love and can still wear to this day!

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Love that! It sounds like you made great choices early on which has paid off! Nice!

[@SN-wi6nn]

Thank you and great points!!! I haven’t followed any trends for decades! I know what looks great on my body and what I also feel comfortable in and I’m going to stick to that even if it isn’t in fashion at the moment! The only thing is I still haven’t found my perfect undergarments nothing just feels comfortable and beautiful at the same time!

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Ah yes, the undergarment struggle! I hope you find yours soon! Thanks for watching!

[@dorisdrcar]

Very healthy way of thinking

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Glad you like it! Thanks for watching!

[@AnneLindsey1]

Every color I see on you is gorgeous! It makes me wish I was a winter. I am a warm Autumn ❤

[@danielaazevedo7341]

Such great advice. When I was young I was very picky of what I wanted and my family would always either force me to get something or buy something they liked for me. It ended up me not really wearing that clothing. Now when I shop by myself I always follow this rule of if I don't like then I don't get

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Love that! Glad to hear it! Thanks for watching!

[@avgiam]

Great video! I have found really helpful Kibbe's body style system. It made my life much more easier when I go shopping!

[@celiathirlwall3329]

Hi Sarah! Great video! I love all of your tips. I've been a discerning shopper the past couple of years (if it's not a wow it's a no!) and come home empty handed. My husband used to be surprised by this but not any longer!! Have a great week!!

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

This makes me happy Celia! It's nice knowing that not every shopping trip has to end with a purchase :) Hope you have a lovely week too!

[@Celeste-.-marie]

I'm a winter and have been trying to achieve a make up look like this. A natural everyday look. Would love a tutorial.

[@franziskani]

AVOID clearance sales - or at least factor in the temptation. If you would not have bought it at full price you likely do not need it at the lower price (and will not wear it anyway). Understand the concept of cost per wear. Train your eye and then invest in some really good, really flattering and versatile basics. Learning to alter garments (or finding a skilled seamstress with a good eye !) If you find one be generous and tip her. You want her to stay in biz, and if they have to reduce their client base, you want to be among the clients that she keeps.

[@MaryYoungblood-xy8vg]

Love you in that color. Stunning

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Thank you Mary! I'm going through a purple phase right now :)

[@BeaunaturelleFeb11]

Fantastic tips as always Sarah. HOWEVER with regards to point #5 going shopping without any money for me would be absolute TORTURE, because invariably I’ll see something that I 😍, as opposed to the millions of time I go shopping with £ and find absolutely nothing. 😩 So it’s a no from me with regards to that one. 😆 And thanks to you I’ve begun to view returning empty handed from a shopping trip as a very good thing, and also very empowering (I didn’t settle). So thank you very much for that. 😊

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Haha I can totally understand your point. At least it would give you some time to go home an get the cash and have a good think about it ;)

[@BeaunaturelleFeb11]

@@sarahryanthestylecoach And then I’ll return only to find that the item has gone!!!! 😬 No way José!

[@janitapanos240]

I’m so excited about following your channel because I believe I have similar, if not the identical, colouring and personal style as you! 💜

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Yay! Thank you!

[@saramaloney6082]

This is amazing advice! Actually, you hit so many points I needed to hear. Especially not having to have a spectacular outfit daily. Thank you! Here is something I struggle with, I have pieces I love that are dated now, maybe a certain wedge bootie or a long sweater. I would love to figure out how to restyle them, I try and mix with modern pieces. Any advice there? I am not too concerned with being on trend but don't want to feel like I'm in a time warp either!

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Good point Sara, let me have a think about it and I might do a video on that soon. Thanks for watching :)

[@tetyanalove6186]

Style your mind is the best advice!

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Glad you like it :)

[@LeighMerrydayPorch]

I love this video. Such good and kind advice. Since getting draped a few months ago, I've been in the overly tempting process of transitioning my wardrobe (True Winter). But you've got me thinking more analytically about my closet and making wiser purchases now. :)

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Delighted to hear this Lacy! Wishing you well on your style development journey :)

[@catherinelauda6948]

Great ! Best advice I have ever heard !!! Thank you.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

You are so welcome!🤗

[@eileenternullo8077]

Great advice. I look a lot more than I buy. Then I notice what works best, as a petite, oversized , has to considerd carefully, it may actually be normal sized works better. Maybe camel is popular, but I’m a true summer, and it doesn’t suit me, so I have to skip camel, and come up with something else.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Glad you like it and glad to hear that you are staying away from camel as Summer ;)

[@melodygardner6169]

GREAT ADVICE!! You go girl!! I LOVED this video. You are so right on, and I need to take your advice!!

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Aw thank you Melody. I'm so glad you like the advice :) Thanks for watching!

[@markjordan433]

Love your advise, thank you!!

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

So glad! Thank you for watching!

[@janinejohansson5195]

Excellent rules. Quality over quantity.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Couldn't agree more!

[@sherrytzasherrytza4793]

Oh wow, you look stunning in that colour! ❤ Best use of your colour analyst skills, though you look beautiful in anything.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Oh thank you! I'm going through a purple phase right now :)

[@robrobben6066]

Love love love your take on style ❤❤❤

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Aw thank you! I really appreciate you saying that :)

[@darjadrake4210]

Good points.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Glad you think so!

[@janicemorton7581]

perfect sense!

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Thanks Janice! Glad to hear it makes sense. I appreciate you watching my video :)

[@lemmings6516]

I actually have done this all my life on accident. I just was always super picky about colours and textures and the way clothes act on my body. Also they need to accommodate my need for warmth or have a cooling effect. I pretty early landed on silk and wool and cashmere and know what exactly works, so I buy it secondhand from depop. Now I have the rather strange issue of looking too well put together for my age and field of work. The only thing I still struggle with sometimes is being pale olive and not being sure about what season I actually do belong to. Haha but that’s okay I guess

[@ClaireKeefe-o6l]

Such great style rules , very considered advice , I will try and be a browser rather than a buyer

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

So glad you like them and great to hear that you will try to be a browser :)

[@kerynmartin6454]

Love this advice! Thank you 🦘

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

You're so welcome! Thanks for watching :)

[@carolreece9950]

Thank you ❣

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

You are so welcome

[@franziskani]

Ideally you find a boutique with staff that have good taste, will challenge you to try out something and they will tell you if something does NOT look right on you. They do exist, even though they are rare. But if you happen to come across such a gem, reward them with visiting them often.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Nice tip!

[@nicoles5852]

Makes perfect sense!

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Thanks Nicole :)

[@unniqq]

love all of it, thanks ❤❤

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Thanks for watching :)

[@barbarakorczynski7133]

Thanks!

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Wow Barbara. Thank you so much for your generosity and support. It is very much appreciated! I hope you have a wonderful week!

[@franziskani]

Go shopping (without money) with a patient friend. Wear some make-up and shoes you can easily remove, and practical (but flattering if neutral garments). Well if you need neutrals you can get them from the shop. And the friend should be willing to bring you the other size or the other colour .... And make it a rule to try out things that are not in your lane. Lighting is usually awful in the stores.

[@myssangela4872]

That's why I hate to buy stuff with a shopping assistant trying to help me out... no offence but I hate the pressure! If something doesn't convince me I don't need you to convince me, it's just a no 😅

[@notbroken4342]

I have always assumed the goal of the assistant is to make a sale, not to actually help me.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

I am not offended. I am not a shopping assistant. :)

[@myssangela4872]

@@sarahryanthestylecoach oh no sorry I phrased it the wrong way! I meant if I were in a shop and the assistant was trying to convince me, I wasn't referring to you 😅😅😅😅

[@myssangela4872]

@@notbroken4342 Yeah that is true, but in some places they are less pressured to sell

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

@@myssangela4872 Sure no worries :)

[@dorothyj2151]

Such great advice, thank you so much!

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

You are so welcome!

[@sestricaanutka]

It last something a few years till I find a perfect piece I am looking for. Now I know it’s ok)

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

:)

[@g3andrea]

My body shape is difficult to fit (under 5'2", shorter middle body with a menopause middle on top of a rectangle shape). I browse frequently, but I only buy when I need something. Therefore, if I find something that suits my coloring and fits my proportions, I will purchase it immediately. Once I get home, I will try it on again with other items in my wardrobe. If it doesn't suit me as much as I had expected, I have no problem taking it back the very next day. I have learned to walk away from things that have "my colors, but they are not truly my style". And, I go through my closets every season to purge what doesn't suit me anymore, while also assessing what I can keep by doing some alterations while losing weight.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Sounds like you are a very thoughtful shopper. Love to hear that!

[@antoinettejoubert]

Great advice!! Good to be reminded again👍😜

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Absolutely! Thanks for watching Antoinette :)

[@Kim-uu8fc]

Some good tips, thanks

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching!

[@franziskani]

have someone make a video from you in certain outfits and have two mirrors (one in the front and the other in the back. so you can see yourself easily from all sides. also: understand the concept of layering / visual interest.

[@denachen4921]

Could you do a video of matching lipstick to outfits? 😊

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Great idea!! Watch this space!

[@gaspitsher]

As a hijabi who started wearing it this July, I'm updating my wardrobe to get more modest outfits. I appreciate all your insight and this is super helpful to me!! Thanks Sarah

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Thanks so much for being here!

[@franziskani]

A good hair cut / hair style (sometimes colour) is key, find the most flattering hairstyle you have the skills (and time) to maintain. Some women are invested into growing their hair, but it is rather thin and sleek, and they would need to have volume at the top and the sides of their face or it should end at the chin to be more flattering. (Just saw a video recommended, a colour consulation, the client has strawberry blonde hair,). The long straight thin hair is not doing the client (her face shape) any favors. The colour is an asset. Maybe she could learn to have a flattering updo ? (so it would create the right volume for her face shape and it would look fuller, and she would get the full benefit of her hair colour). Her hair may break if she gets a perm - It takes skill and time to create the waves that would create the volume she needs. Else another cut (layers, or even a bob) would be much more flattering). Of course a bob means more expenses for the hair salon ....

[@sonjai3600]

Nice

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Thanks

[@ingridpear1882]

Sarah,can I please ask if you've ever viewed Kettlewell colors, clothes? I'd like to know where you think each of the colors on there falls sub-season wise. Trying to figure out why things like the 'stone' color are sitting in all the seasons. It's higher budget than is typical for me,but on a good point a lot of their clothes don't seem to be made in china. I prefer that they be 100% natural materials if feasible for the item, directly sourced rather than manufactured obscurely ,fit well,be my style and color if it's perfect. I'd love a video categorizing the colors on their site ,please. The "damson" purple for instance appears autumnal to me.

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

I have no experience in the Kettlewell clothes unfortunately. I have noticed that some of the colours that appear in certain groups are surprising to me so I personally, I prefer shopping with greater choice from other shops and choosing colours for myself.

[@MaryYoungblood-xy8vg]

Kettlewell is under the Colour Me Beautiful company but in England they use the Tonal system (they are seasonal here in the states) They give you your dominant characteristic and put you into a palette accordingly. Their system has six palettes: warm, cool, deep, soft, clear,, and light. They will tell you your secondary and tertiary characteristics to help you wear colors effectively in your palette. So I am a warm spring. In their system my dominant is warm so that is my palette. My secondary is clear and my tertiary is light. So I can wear the warm palette pretty much as is but may need to avoid any dark/soft colors from outer reaches (remember warm palette would be a combo of warm springs and autumns) and I can pull in some colors from the clear and light palettes as needed to fill out my palette. I use them sparingly (clears as accents in prints or in lipstick and lights in colors like blush or eyeshadow as clear can get too bright if worn head to toe and light tends to wash me out.) It isn't that different than the flow/true system Sarah uses but they call it different name and have different way of getting people into their palette. All of these systems are based generally on the same concepts of undertones, value, and chroma (intensity) and are based on the work of Munsell and others

[@marywicks9334]

Kettlewell want to maximise their sales so that’s why they allocate colours to more than one category whether seasonal (House of Colour) or tonal. I was given a Spring rating by House of Colour and sometimes take what they’re saying is a Spring piece with a pinch of salt. If I want to be really sure then I look at pieces that are given just to Spring.

[@ingridpear1882]

Thank you

[@nanavango9374]

Thank you. May I ask where you found the beautiful shade of violet top you’re wearing? It’s fabulous!

[@joanlim-choong7828]

Buy less, choose well, make it last

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Yesss!! :)

[@madsquishy3410]

That's one thing I hate about fashion is when you look around and all the women are wearing the same exact thing. I've never had the desire to look like anyone else. I feel like style should be personal and not just what you see on social media and run out and buy without a second thought. Also I think style should be broad and not putting yourself into such a narrow box. I wear different stuff in different styles all the time. Some days I'm feeling more laid back and some days I wanna make a splash lol.

[@Helga-fe5xl]

You look like Cassie from Good Witch mixed with Marilyn Monroe

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Ooh interesting! I had to google Cassie :)

[@mrnt1257]

Thank you. So tired of “Don’t wear this, don’t wear that.”

[@sarahryanthestylecoach]

Thanks for watching!

[@DeepWinterQueen82]

Exactly I wear what I like don’t care what others think