say no

[@Tebbsy71]

agree completely . enjoying your rants Evan

[@evanswildrants]

Glad you’re enjoying em!

[@shawnsh]

At the time, what factors do you think led you to say Yes vs No? Were there any similarities (financial/personal constraints) that led to say Yes vs No? I'm asking these questions to figure out ways to avoid such mistakes (unless saying No was/is not a practical option)

[@evanswildrants]

So at this point of my life I have a lot of stability. I definitely recognize it’s harder to say no without said stability. That considered it actually took me a lot of time POST stability to basically be like “nah doesn’t work for me”. The wild part is, even though I’ve taken on more risk by saying no, I haven’t had to “use” the stability yet if that makes sense. I think what I’m trying to articulate is it’s mostly a mindset thing where you can’t control others behavior but by changing your own you can absolutely influence how others perceive and then thus behave towards you. In the past I’ve always said yes to please other people. The switch flip happened when I started putting myself (and my immediate family) FIRST. No exceptions. Let me know if this doesn’t make sense. Feels a little word salady!

[@realitydesigners]

talk more about how to put yourself in a position where you are more leveraged

[@evanswildrants]

Sure I can definitely go on a rant about this topic.