Bride Hates Her Mother's Dress Choice But She's The One Paying! | Say Yes to The Dress

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Kristy and her mother have very different ideas about what she should wear on the wedding day. Kristy wants to make her mother happy but also hates the style of dress that her mother loves!
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[@Smallsappypony]

I actually LOVED how the first dress looked on her

[@dietotaku]

i don't think mom fell in love with the dress, i think she just recognized how much her daughter loved it and she let go of having to have her way.

[@mariesmith1616]

Yes. All the dresses shown were not flattering. This bride could have done a lot of better.

[@Stacyr4567]

I don't think her mom was criticizing the brides body. I think she was critical of the dresses she was coming out in.

[@paulalapoint9885]

She wasn't coming out of the dresses they have to be tailored Mom is a HAG!!!

[@mohammadal-drees3106]

Agreed. I think the bride is a bit too sensitive.

[@itravisoni]

Family is always family giving their views

[@lauraharper6679]

I think mom had her own ideas of what she wanted her to wear.

[@me2cb488]

I agree. The previous dresses were actually bad.

[@nafiulhudapalok]

Surprisingly I agree with mom here for every dress. It's the consultant who was pulling out weird dresses

[@bmwfraulein1538]

Agreed. Why do all the dresses have all that extra material? It just looks ‘heavy’ and (IMO) not flattering. And there are 10,000 ball gowns - the one the consultant picked was ugly (but not all of them are). At least you can’t see her belly button indent in the one she chose.

[@googleuser8338]

imo many Kleinfield dresses are ugly I hate all Pina Tornai dresses personnaly

[@mariesmith1616]

Yes, I agree. I don’t know why this consultant had to keep showing the same curtain/comforter dresses. They were really weird and didn’t fit the bride well.

[@BasicYTHandle]

I do not like satin - not just b/c it is "old." I never liked satin when this was filmed in 2012, nor at any other time. Also, Kristy is short-waisted & Allison kept pulling dresses with wide belts that negatively emphasized this.

[@lindamusser7370]

The weird stuff makes an interesting show.

[@JosephineOliver-qh1te]

I was cranky with the mother at first but she knew what suited her daughter 👍💯

[@misspurplebrown]

Even if mom didn’t know what she wanted she knew that Kristy hadn’t found her dress yet. You could tell by the last one that the feeling was what mom was looking for!

[@leeperrybender5811]

The mother only expressed her opinions. Even the bride liked the final dress best, and they wouldn't have gotten there without the mother's honesty! ALSO, if you aren't prepared to accept the opinions of the one paying for the dress, you should be prepared to pay for the dress on your own!

[@nancybriand889]

This was one of my favourite episodes, I wish a world of love and happiness for Kristy and her Husband.

[@francesfehrman741]

Tell mom leave... she's lost weight. Tell mom shut up and say yes no matter what mom says and wants..

[@seriliaykilel]

Weight or not, it's heartbreaking that she ever doubted how beautiful she is and was. Congratulations on your wedding and I hope you continue to realize every day how stunning you are.

[@Kelly-hh7jz]

The mom was spot on, and her honesty lead the daughter into the actual perfect dress. I don't have an issue with the mom at all

[@bunnyslippers191]

That "princess dress/ball gown" was *not* a regular ball gown. That skirt with the layers and ruffles was not the kind of skirt one usually sees in a ball gown. It seems the consultant picked that one because it looked, well, pretty ridiculous, tbh, so Mom wouldn't like it.

[@CC-zf4yv]

@@bunnyslippers191exactly. Very odd choice of princess gown

[@snowmiaow]

She made scary faces but her heart was good. I wanted to see a real princess dress too. The one that came out had a Minoan skirt.

[@margaretriley9146]

Girls, It's your day..NOBODY ELSES..!! You pick what makes you happy...!!!!!

[@lisettegarvin5030]

Wedding was in 2013. Bride is a soccer coach and has a little boy.

[@neilbrie8972]

She is beautiful and such a sweet daughter. Wish her happiness and all the best! Congratulations.

[@SomewhereInTheMaidenverse]

The mom was criticizing the dresses, not her daughter. She wanted to see her in something that really flattered her and suited her personal style.

[@elizabethdixon4784]

This is the first time I cried watching say yes to the dress. I love you and your family.

[@snowmiaow]

Same

[@TieyaJ]

The dress she picked was beautiful on her.

[@barnesCh430]

Perhaps the best thing would be to save and pay for your own dress, that way if your relatives don't agree--tough luck! They can't hold the "I'm paying!" thing against you.

[@ReneeOfTheFae]

Or, if someone wants to offer to help pay they should be doing it because they want to help, not because they need to control some facet of someone else's big day. My fiancé and I are completely funding our own wedding, aside from three lovingly offered contributions (which were offered, not requested.) Of those three, not one of them has said they need to be a part of a decision. Two of them are even just giving us the cash and saying, "Use it on whatever you need to use it on." That's how it should be - no strings attached.

[@glancycorner7425]

This soooooo true. Save up and buy your own dress.

[@r.bellbottom8964]

A “gift”should never have strings attached or conditions. If you want to have some control in the wedding plans be upfront and say “I expect XYZ because I’m paying or contributing”.

[@sharpay33]

Beautiful bride she looks stunning on her wedding day

[@sandisteinberg731]

Is the mother capable of smiling at all?

[@carolynworthington8996]

Well, she nodded, and I saw a little smile!

[@sandisteinberg731]

@@carolynworthington8996 she must have been working overtime...

[@9094nancyj]

No

[@lhyllianamarseilles]

At least the mom cried in the end and told her she was beautiful. Must be hard to have a mom like that.

[@user-qg8qu6gg4s]

Yes! That's why I had to go wedding dress shopping alone. I knew what would happen.

[@grievousangelic]

@@user-qg8qu6gg4s Same here. I also paid for mine so I could get what I loved.

[@ReneeOfTheFae]

It is.

[@ReneeOfTheFae]

@@user-qg8qu6gg4s I still had to have mine along, otherwise it would have turned into her going to family behind my back saying, "Can you believe she went wedding dress shopping without me? ME, her own mother?!" But, to distract her a little, I also booked an extra hour at the same salon just for her to try on MoB dresses. That way, she still got her attention that she so desperately needs, but also had something to look forward to after my appointment. Sad we have to do things like this with narcissistic moms just to keep the peace.

[@WhirledPublishing]

I'm glad the mom gradually softened up and let her daughter feel happy

[@angelic8026]

Actually I liked the toga dress which was the first dress. One shoulder top is unique 😊

[@darleneengebretsen1468]

iT WAS THE MOST PRETTY.

[@jojobee42]

"It's always been 'Kristy has big this.. Kristy has big that.." ~ YET that's exactly what she did herself too when she was showing those old photos of herself !!! She was pointing the double chins, fat rolls etc etc.. even though she looked perfect fine in all those photos.

[@tanmack8655]

She looked fabulous in all the dresses 😍😍

[@ceceliamoreno1845]

there are some ladies in this video that are in need of a great hairstylist! Chicago must be full of talented people.

[@ATLCheerBoi]

This is from like 2012. These hairstyles were somewhat in back then. Hopefully, they have changed them.

[@Nero_Jero]

Her sister looks like she's straight out of the early 90s haha

[@anotherpenny1942]

I came here to say the same. All the sisters and the friend had the same haircut. Which I never liked, personally. So glad it’s pretty much gone out of style.

[@babycherrypie87]

Honestly, she looked great in all of them. But the ivory mermaid was my favorite one

[@nicolewilliams403]

IT'S NOT UP TO HER MOM. I DON'T CARE OF MOM IS PAYING FOR IT.

[@joyunderwood6988]

Interesting dynamics between mom and daughter...glad she held out and got the tighter fitting dress, it looked amazing on her.

[@bethaniejify]

There’s a lot of body/shape hate going on with mom and daughter. Even daughter’s description of her past self. It’s sad.

[@mariannemilkshines2390]

I've been there when mom's self hate about her body gets passed on to the daughter. Times have also changed and women can show off their bodies tastefully and look beautiful

[@wildwalker44]

Her homely mother is jealous

[@shirleysenkler781]

Agreed with mom on dress #1 and the princess style. She ended up with the perfect dress.

[@findyourpassion8722]

Mom sounded harsh, but she did it from pure love. She knew that her daughter was beautiful and she wanted her to pick the very best dress. 🎉

[@HeronCoyote1234]

That last gown was perfect! I wouldn’t change a thing about it.

[@kleec0203]

That dress looked gorgeous on her. She sparkled as soon as she put it on.

[@chericoffman6321]

This is not the time to be a witch, Mom.

[@yolandastavropoulou5318]

The first dress was the most unique and chic. The others dresses were too ordinary.

[@mariesmith1616]

It was horrible

[@elenadiamantides2875]

Mothers are always right!😂

[@aishaupmanyu9677]

The mother is opinionated for sure but she loves her daughter and I could see she kept a lot of those thoughts to herself 😂

[@hlondon2408]

This mom has no clue how to express love. She knows one thing: NEGATIVE.... 😡

[@JustGigi319]

She didn't keep nearly enough of those opinions to herself.

[@hlondon2408]

@DayDreamer1968 no kidding. If I were her daughter, I would have called a cab to take me to the airport to fly to another city to buy my wedding dress. Adios, mom.

[@Pipppo]

Looks like all her body issues are from her mother. Not good at all. And that comment about her backside looking big in one dress?? Awful!!!

[@deshagyal5637]

@@hlondon2408i agree

[@lauraharper6679]

Moms always say that’s not you when the daughter likes the dress lol.

[@niman00]

Kristy, you look beautiful. Mom - let go!! Congrats.

[@angelbulldog4934]

Hard to imagine a bride at this age needs mom's permission for anything.

[@mariesmith1616]

Yes, I agree. Non sense that anyone over 30 years old needs her mother’s approval or finance to get her wedding dress.

[@9094nancyj]

Or mom to be paying for it

[@adabell1833]

I love this mum. She wasn’t being horrible. I actually agree with her on the dresses not being good enough and in the end , bride didn’t choose a very good gown!!!

[@mariesmith1616]

Absolutely 💯. So sad for the bride. The consultant didn’t do a good job for sure.

[@roriegilbert8304]

Mom can you please just say something nice!

[@smejia8874]

When the bride's family members say "that dress is not her" but the bride obviously loves the dress, I think that makes it 100% her style... what the family member really means is, it's not my style or my way so I don't like the dress

[@ReneeOfTheFae]

EXACTLY! I think her mom is stuck in the idea of who Kristy was at some point in her life. The thing is, it seems a lot of mom's don't get that their children change. Children aren't little dolls that stay the same and never grow or change as people. Honestly, it's an issue I deal with from my own mom regularly. We didn't talk for a period of 5 years a decade ago, and in that time I did a lot of work on myself. No matter what, though, I'm still the me I was way back when I was a self-absorbed tween. Didn't matter that we had a relationship and I had even changed a bunch before our split, I'm still the same kid I was when I was 12 as far as she's concerned. Point is, some mom's really struggle seeing their children as the people they've become (for better or worse), and assume their tastes have also remained the same. So, when they don't like something, instead of just coming out and saying it, they pin it on this fixed image of who they knew decades ago. That person, and those likes and dislikes don't exist anymore. People need to own their own opinions. Thanks for coming to my TEDTalk. *steps off of soapbox*

[@sm3296]

Kristy looks amazing, she can wear just about anything.

[@ddwro1]

wow she is hearing things her mother never uttered.

[@personalchefservicesofsues4362]

Most of these women are adults. Why dont they buy their own dresses to ensure they get the dress they love. These Moms are ridiculous.

[@absatwell8163]

Why would a mother be so critical?? 🤦🏻‍♀️ If my 23 year old ever gets married, she would look beautiful in a burlap sack!

[@mariesmith1616]

Is this bride 23 years old?

[@NH-tb2sm]

No way this bride is 23 years old. She's definitely older than 23.

[@TheScarlett618]

@@mariesmith1616 No. @absatwell8163 said "If MY 23 year old.." not the bride in the video.

[@TheScarlett618]

@@NH-tb2sm OP said "MY" 23 year old -not the bride in the video.

[@NH-tb2sm]

@@TheScarlett618 well if a comment compares her 23 year old to the bride then it insinuates that the bride is 23 years old.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

Glad they finally found a dress they all agreed on.

[@mindyw2411]

When I was dress shopping with my mother (yes, in the last century) I tried on one that she just loved. I knew it would look ridiculous on me, but I wanted Mama to see it. She took one look and said “oh my God! Take that off!” 😂😂😂 Nobody cried, no hurt feelings. I trusted her to be completely honest and not let me make a fool of myself. When I put “my” dress on, we both knew it was the one. I wouldn’t trade those memories for anything. It wasn’t about Mama controlling the appointment or my dress choices. It was about love and trust.

[@JamieJosef]

The consultant didn’t seem to understand that a princess gown (which mom asked to see) is not the same thing as a princess cut

[@CS-ow4gl]

I always find it ironic when the mother isn’t rail thin yet criticizes the daughter on weight ! I think these types of thing s are projection

[@ReneeOfTheFae]

I especially dislike the moms that were once rail thin, but time, hormones, and gravity got the best of them, and now they criticize because they miss being that size. Almost like they're trying to make their kids feel guilty about their part in what happened to their bodies.

[@susank2463]

Christie's figure looks amazing.

[@carnationemerald]

At her age, she should be paying for her gown, not her mom. Having the bride's parents pay for the wedding should've gone out of style. Especially when a lot of brides nowadays aren't teenagers anymore like back in the 70s.

[@mariesmith1616]

Exactly my thoughts…why would anybody over 30 years old counting on parent’s money and approval to buy her wedding dress?

[@r.bellbottom8964]

@@mariesmith1616It could be it was a “gift”-but gifts should be freely given with love, not conditions or insults!

[@sharonkaczorowski8690]

I hope that young woman can distance herself from her abusive mother after she’s married. This is why I did not involve my mother in the planning of my first wedding. Way too much opportunity to be critical and mean spirited. We were students and had very little money. My father gave us a few hundred. We held it at the student center with a female minister. We chose a western-ish theme and I made things like flower arrangements in mason jars for each table. We served the best barbecue in Austin at that time and had an amazing banana cake cooked from scratch by a European trained chef and friend. My father in law brought a lot of wine. My mother criticized everything and some if my other family members behaved like jerks. Everyone else said it was the best wedding they ever attended. My second marriage of now over 30 years was very simple with only friends attending. A lot less stressful!

[@AkireMaru]

Abusive? Lol. Your story is also irrelevant, too long and strange to share in response to a video like this. Another chronic oversharer without sense or tact.

[@jadaglean3546]

What I don't understand is why offer to lay for a Wedding dress...a dress that is of UTMOST importance to some brides on their wedding day and then want to dictate what she wears. I feel like if you're financing...you should do so free of any attachments. Noone should have to dictate what you wear on your wedding day

[@r.bellbottom8964]

Yes, it’s a gift so either offer it kindly without strings or don’t do it at all! It’s kind of sick, really.

[@denize7139]

It seems like Donna needs to let her children be adults. It’s not about you dear. It doesn’t even matter if you are right. It’s about letting your children find out who they are and supporting them.

[@julieannthegreedyvegan8420]

Satin isn't my fave but wow@this dress she looked amazing! Beautiful ❤

[@RevLeigh55]

I would like the sisters to defend the bride.

[@r.bellbottom8964]

They’re all afraid of mommy-my siblings (male and female) are terrified of ticking off our mom, who is 92. Truth is they’re afraid of getting cut off and out of her will. It’s ridiculous…I’m always the bad guy but I don’t care anymore at 59 and it feels great. Respect for a parent is one thing, being terrified of them is just wrong. Live!

[@mrs.anonymous6291]

The mother new what she was talking about from the get-go, she knew her daughter best!! It was just coming across as unfeeling, she was just getting concerned about the sales girl's choices.

[@hlondon2408]

If that mom smiled, her face would crack and bleed.

[@birgitgschier8006]

She has got a beautiful figure and every dress looked nice on her

[@whitelacey333]

These mothers who hold the fact that they’re paying only if they like the dress should be ashamed of themselves. It’s not their wedding!

[@r.bellbottom8964]

THANK YOU!

[@patirvin-bz9pg]

I'm surprised that others praised the mom. She expressed her opinions unnecessarily rudely. Thankfully, she relented on the final dress.

[@N-A-uw5fp]

I believe everyone needs to focus on the bride having a fun time trying on dresses and letting her figure out what style looks best on her body and what reflects her personality. Ask her questions and support her process. Nobody should be critical. Gentle, kind words only so she feels loved, supported, and is having fun planning her wedding. 🎉

[@deebirdee]

is this Sandra Bullock's long lost sister?! she's gorgeous AND funny and so sweet ❤

[@juanitasterba7675]

I preferred the first dress.

[@John_Enrique]

Was the dress for her mom or for her? Or better yet, who's getting married? I mean seriously... one thing is to give an opinion, and the other is to wait for someone's approval when you are the one getting married. Ridiculous!

[@l2sunshine173]

Mom is tough but she has a good heart and was kind of right :-8

[@caspianblue4141]

She picked the right dress and looked amazing.

[@momma8954]

Oh my God, I can’t even imagine having a mom like that. I would crawl in the corner and never come out.

[@alexandralewis554]

The mom blessed all her girls with her nose

[@carriejmichael9377]

What a bundle of laughs this mum is ...NOT !

[@jojobee42]

I'd rather pay my own dress if that's the only way I could pick the one I want for MY day !!!

[@dafdfasdfdfasfdfadfd]

Anyone who has to please their mother is not old enough to be getting married.

[@ela178]

Don’t seek validation from anyone. Give it to yourself. Trust me, life becomes easier and more enjoyable:)

[@kimberlyheibel8759]

Mom needs to understand her daughter wanted her to love her dress as much as her. But her mom was being to critical.

[@avengernemesis7990]

Oh mum- it's your daughter's wedding. You had your turn last century... Be happy for your daughter. Australia ❤️

[@nicolefox777]

I hate when women are always looking for their mother’s approval 😢

[@karenlenoury4156]

I would have said, Mom, you may be paying but guess what, I'm the one Wearing the dress, it's my day!!

[@horsepegasus]

I like the first dress & fourth dress on her....

[@mariaferreras4369]

Poor girl wonders why she gained weight? Every criticism was a mouthful. Awful! She’s lovely.

[@erliebernardo8144]

I know mom's can sound tough and difficult, but deep inside our tough persona lies deep love and care for our children. I have so much respect for the daughter on how until the very end she respected and wanted her mom's approval.

[@susaneglinton2184]

Mum wasnt critical of her shape it was the dress choices.

[@mariaeussen1265]

Love the Red shoes with the wedding dresses!!!

[@katya4802]

It's bad to take someone with you who wont even smile.😢

[@Fazerella]

I think the bride is struggling with self esteem issues big time. She's over thinking every little thing from the consultant maybe going to pick larger size dresses to her mother's fair criticisms about a dress' fit.

[@1loquaciouslass3]

That's a great Mom! Not letting her daughter settle for the first couple she tried on which turned out wonderful! And she didn't have to be the least bit rude.

[@DIOSAISIS39]

Very nice

[@margaritaasparuhova5292]

I think she looked stunning in every single dress. :)

[@graceprais9814]

honest mom!

[@onemercilessming1342]

Mom, et al...IT ISN'T YOUR WEDDING!!!

[@verasamburova6000]

Mom's comments were to the point! This mom wishes all the best to her girl

[@boredginger6084]

One jabba the hut looking mom 😂

[@alisonfraser8231]

This episode reinforces so many unhealthy attitudes. The fact that she describes requiring a larger size dress as scary, and that they feature her shaming her heavier self... Not to mention the underlying message that you have to be slim to find love or have a wedding. It’s everything I despise about this show in one clip. I wish her well, but this girl is far from “healthy”.

[@carolinejohnson845]

Mama has no room to talk about being big anywhere. The bride is beautiful.

[@wenayyyyy1289]

i love the first dress on her 💖

[@dianekennedy7034]

Omg she is so like Sandra Bullock

[@r.bellbottom8964]

Here’s the thing-if a bride loves a dress, she loves it and ultimately it’s her day, her decision. Why do you care if it’s not what you’d pick or what you “think” looks good on her? I just don’t understand why people, particularly other women, can’t just be supportive and KIND. I think if you are sensitive, might be best to go shopping alone. If the bride says “I want total honesty” from her entourage, then she’d best be prepared to take it with grace and not get upset.

[@4legs4paws55]

That’s why I rather paid for my dress on my own - I had a smaller budget but I got what I want 💪 she doesn’t look like a teenager she could have paid for her own dress it’s her own fault