-The loss of family members and close friends certainly makes the holidays seem more melancholy. As I've gotten older the magic is gone and I think that is natural because of those losses. I was just saying to someone today, "remember how it used to be", so I guess a part of me is stuck in the past too. It's probably my age - 77. It seems important to acknowledge our feelings and take care of that fragile spirit inside of us. Staying clear of the hectic world out there. People talk about holidays like Christmas being the same year after year. They never are. Children grow up and move away. Grandchildren arrive. They grow up. Parents die. Change is constant. Taking the best of the holidays and memories and holding them close while recognizing that grief is my way of coping.
@DanielleComesBackКүн бұрын
I miss my grandparents a lot this time of year. I was lucky enough to have them for a long time. My grandfather died when I was 40 and my grandmother 2 years later. When I get down about that loss, I always end up going back to how, in their own time, they were each very ready to go. It's easier for me to see, in those moments, that I'm really only sad for myself. They're having another experience now, having left their bodies which were worn out. Nobody's ever really gone, but bodies need to be abandoned eventually. I don't know if that's helpful in any way, but I wouldn't want you to suffer any more than necessary. Thanks for the comment. You're loved.
@bigmike2298Күн бұрын
Perfect message!! It's taken me several years of internal inventory to be able to discover thst everything has happened exactly the way it was supposed to for me to be here where I am now!
@DanielleComesBackКүн бұрын
Exactly! You wouldn't be here now unless everything else happened the way it did first.
@ilish253 күн бұрын
Your videos showed up just tonight in my feed. This is "our" 12th holiday season alone. It's just myself and my adult, mentally ill daughter. No family wants to be with us. My ex husband hasn't seen our daughter in over 20 years. Mentally ill people were not supposed to be part of his life. So, he left. I don't enjoy the holidays anymore. Haven't been able to do gifts, special foods, or even any holiday decorations for many years. My daughter's illness has bankrupted me. Life is sad, hard, but, I do know that God loves us. Every year I look at pictures of items I would like for my daughter, but, can not have. Once, I was married, happily I thought, my daughter was healthy, smart and beautiful. I knew that God had good plans for our future. I never dreamed my husband would leave us, I would be unable to pay for all my daughter's care, and it would be just the 2 of us living together. Her mental illness is difficult to be around. But, I'm her mother 💔 I will never desert her God Loves you dear ones 🙏 ❤ 🙏
@DanielleComesBack3 күн бұрын
That’s really tough. I’m hopeful that it can start feeling better a bit at a time. I’ve lived through bankruptcy and mental illness myself and it is a massive strain on all relationships, not just with your spouse. Thinking of you! ❤️🩹
@annpatrykus363710 сағат бұрын
Omgawd, girl, i resonate so much with this. Your honesty and vulnerability is appreciated. Thank you.
@DanielleComesBack10 сағат бұрын
I'm glad it helped you! Thanks for watching!
@carsonl.87883 күн бұрын
Your are certainly a very strong lady. To be able to share your past and present situation with others takes alot of courage. Please know that you are helping many others in simular situations....you are helping other people. You are an inspiration to others also. Wishing you the very best. Thank you. 😊
@DanielleComesBack3 күн бұрын
Thank you for letting me know this is helpful! Sometimes it’s hard to know because you’re just talking to the camera, you know? 😅
@heidipillhofer8552 күн бұрын
Hi Danielle, I also had a very difficult life experience that still does pop up every so oftet and it hits me like it just happened recently. Thank you for your words and sharing your insight.
@DanielleComesBackКүн бұрын
As they say, “healing is not linear.” It’s normal to have good and bad days with stuff. It’s nice to meet you, btw! 🤗
@jonesygirl342 күн бұрын
Oh my gosh girl your telling my “Story” much love to you and your path of growth ❤
@DanielleComesBack2 күн бұрын
Glad to resonate with you!
@cheryl13382 күн бұрын
This really resonated with me. I went through some very challenging times the last few years and I felt that I lost my connection with my son because I was so shut down emotionally. Earlier this year I told him what had been going on and that I felt really bad that I was so distant and wanted to reconnect. He has been really sweet about it, he is also in a better place in his personal life, so we are slowly getting more comfortable with each other. For me, being patient with the process and nonjudgmental with us has helped.
@DanielleComesBack2 күн бұрын
That is great news. Patience is definitely key with reconnection. I try to remind myself that things didn't happen overnight that caused any distance to grow, therefore reestablishing closeness can't be reached overnight either.
@pattydixon65102 күн бұрын
This is such a wonderful message. I think when you live long enough you go through these dark seasons. I struggle with forgiveness, to be honest, some things are very hard to get past. But I can be imperfect and still do my best. Thank for the reminder, you are a warrior! ❤
@DanielleComesBack2 күн бұрын
I think most of us struggle with forgiveness! We're taught that it's "weakness" by society. Quite the opposite is true. You're correct about being imperfect and doing your best. We're never perfect, so the idea of needing to be so in order to forgive is an impossible standard. Thanks for the comment!
@shauncasey82953 күн бұрын
New subscriber. This is the second video of yours that I've watched. The other was the one on being alone on Christmas. I'm on year 5 of being alone on Christmas so i can relate for sure! I wish you all the best, you are a very beautiful person!
@DanielleComesBack3 күн бұрын
Thanks! Nice to meet you! It’s working out well to have a quiet life both during Christmas and in general. Glad you’re enjoying your time too.
@shauncasey82953 күн бұрын
@@DanielleComesBack Nice to meet you too! I'm binging on some of your videos and realize we have a lot in common. Our upbringing, marital situation, and even the situation with the child. I hope you have success with your channel and life in general! I for one would like you to stick around! Now let me get back to your videos 😂
@debbieharlow74842 күн бұрын
Your videos are helpful for moving forward along the twisty path of life. 🌲
@DanielleComesBack2 күн бұрын
Thanks! I hope they help others as well!
@tomtroy3792Күн бұрын
🤔 happy holidays!🤩
@DanielleComesBack9 сағат бұрын
And to you as well! Thanks!
@luciamixon41562 күн бұрын
Thank you for your video. I needed to hear that I am more than how I feel. I go to mass and need to spend more time in prayer with the community. I am sorry. You're right it's life and we can learn and find some peace. What is it teaching me ? 👍🙏 Logic. Someone said stop trying to figure it out. Yep. My sad story or finally awaken to horror was 2010. It had to happen or I guess everyone get a cross. Perspective. Btw, Bezzy app is a community of very supportive people.
@DanielleComesBack2 күн бұрын
Sounds like you know what you need to feel better right now and that's great! Acceptance of the past is imperative to have a good present and thus a good future.
@thecregs4665Күн бұрын
Absolutely you are not defined by the past ..of course we wish things could have different and yes their will be some consequences to our actions. The great thing is Romans 8:28 tells us ALL things work together for good to those that Love God. I love this verse! Because I see how He has used some things that I have done ( not so great ) and turned them around for good in my later years. You ..talking to people on things you've gone through is also helpful and kind ❤
@robinfarmer47872 күн бұрын
Honey you are not a failure you are a beautiful person maybe your son is just going through a faze your not a bad person he should forgive and forget this time is too short
@DanielleComesBack2 күн бұрын
I was doing my best at that time and for that I forgive myself. I know how hard it is to forgive family, so I am willing to leave space for time to help with perspective.
@DanielleComesBack2 күн бұрын
These things take the time they take. All I can do is allow that.
@paulamartin6049Күн бұрын
Baby girl i feel for you . we have similar stories to tell if i am reading between the lines correctly. i have 3 daughters 20 19 17 and i have been healing myself and our relationship with them for past 2 years . Its been so hard but its so much better now. my no means perfect but getting there . Gone is the hate disrespect phyiscal and mental abuse . All of which i never blamed them for they were turned against and were simply to young to know any better. they are with me now not because they have to but because they want to . I missed their childhood but i accept i cant dwell on that nor can i get it back however we are building adult mother daughter relationships and i couldnt be more proud . Anything is achievable if you set you mind to it px
@LonelyGamr2 күн бұрын
Good job on weight loss 👍
@sheilab49782 күн бұрын
❤
@LucitaBrown2 күн бұрын
I hope that your son watches your videos. He will come around.
@DanielleComesBack2 күн бұрын
In time he might. It took me 20+ years with my father, so I understand the struggle.