Secret# 586~ Txiv Yawg Txaus Ntshai~04/08/2024~

[@TubLaibVaj]

Q#1- never make friends at work and hangout outside of work. Never works out and it creates awkwardness if there are ever issues. I never hangout with people at work after for any reasons other than a company hosted party.

[@kevinlee2791]

q1, koj ua yog lawm. phooj ywg zoo li ko ces nws khiab yim deb ntawm yus ces yim zoo xwb.

[@Niamtswv00109]

She’s not a good friend or a good mother you did the right thing by telling her no

[@PM-oe5mk]

Q1: Tell her to hire a babysitter! She's using you to party, and if she's turned her back on you just because you refuse to babysit her rude, naughty kids, then she's NOT that good of a friend, not grateful, and not worth keeping. Move on...real good friends don't use each other rudely!

[@zoolikuv]

Q2. Once gifted to someone, they are more than welcome to do whatever they want with it. We can only control what we will do, but not what they will do

[@chiliayang5832]

Koj ua yog tshaj plaws li sister txhob nyuaj siab cov phooj ywg zoo li koj tus phooj ywg ntawv tsis tas ntsia thiab tham nrog lawm li lawm os

[@philadelphialor732]

To the vegetarian people. There's nothing perfect in this world. Only the creator God is perfect. Do your research brothers and sisters.

[@7stars2love]

2nd secret, nrog koj tu siab. Tus txiv yawg zoo li ko ces txav deb2 xwb. Yog nws tsis taus thaum twg ces xa mus nyob tsev laus xwb os

[@shouavue-vang173]

koj ua you lawm nyias yug nyias zov nyias.

[@thaoyang5575]

Q1: Tsis nyiam yus mas yeem zoo xwb just say thank you.

[@maivang6987]

Koj txiv yawg coj li kos mas ceev faj nawb .

[@miabhlub63]

Secret 1. That's too hilarious 😂 😃

[@myaloveyaj3573]

Tus phoojywg siv yus li ko xwb tsis need. Nkim sijhawm!!

[@hlinagsiabhaam4169]

Q1: koj ua Yog kawg os nws siv tsis tau koj lawm ces nws thiaj coj li ntawv tsis tha muaj Phooj ywg los tau li os

[@you_r_my-world2288]

Last secret. Me too, loooove animals.

[@maivang6987]

Cov me nyuam zoo los kuv yuav tsis kam zov thiab os.es yog txhoj puab li kos yog koj zov ntau yuav muaj teeb meem rau yus nawb .

[@atthao5631]

Qhov nws ua ces yog yuav ua kom tau nkag mus tau ua poj nrauj xwb.

[@houaxiong9996]

Story 1. You can learn to have better communication to avoid any friction.

[@keith23615]

story #2 koj niam pog tsis nyiam koj nws thiaj siv koj cov khoom

[@nkaujmoon]

As a good friend, you told her. If you weren’t a good friend you wouldn’t say anything.

[@maylblu1655]

Don’t worry, if you don’t say something, she wil keep taking advantage of your time . I cannot stand kids who don’t have manners. ❤ No do not buy no more, waste of your money, if she don’t appreciate your effort, then don’t. ❤

[@1PinkPanda]

#1: Sister, you're a friend, and she should of treated you like a friend. It's not your job and you didn't have to take care of her kids! You're just too kind and nice. She doesn't pay you, doesn't bring food to feed her kids, and her kids are so bad with no manners! I am surprised you've helped her so many times. Don't be her friend anymore, now on, ignore her, pretend she doesn't exist, and when you see her at work or elswhere, just keep on walking, because you're so much better than her! I hate people that have so many kids and still party, and most importantly, has no home training for their children! Smh.

[@chiliayang5832]

Viv ncaus tus niam pog zoo li ces tsis tascquav ntsej yuav rau lawv os nws twb tsis nyiam yus es nws thiaj tsis xav tau yus cov khoom tsis tas yuav lawm os

[@tonyvang5395]

Lol... plants have life too.... 😂

[@atlasanyaandamazingplaces8597]

#1-kuv mus work ces yeej tsis ua Phoojywg zoo. Hauj lwm ces yog hauj lwm xwb. #2- cov laus ces yeej zoo li yog lawv tsis tshua nyiam yus ces yeej zoo li. Yog muaj special day ces muab kiag ib qho nyiaj pov rau xwb.

[@myaloveyaj3573]

Question #2 muab nyiaj xwb zoo tshaj os. Kuv yog niam pog mas kuv xum yuav nyiaj xwb vim lwm tus yuav khoom kuv tsis haum kuv siab

[@7stars2love]

Q1: koj qhia qhov tseeb tsis txhaum li os. Just be glad that she's not interested to hang out with you anymore.

[@SuaVwj-n8f]

?1: less friend less drama. Amen.

[@OppoA-rx3yk]

Koj tus best friend poj niam tsim nyog koj yuav tau hais qhov rseeb kiag rau nws thiab muab nws brock tshem ntawm kev phooj ywg mu

[@TouYang-kl3es]

Yog tus niam pog uas koj yuav rus tsho rau nws, tabsis nws pheej tsis kam yuav los khaws cia ces koj tsis tas yuav ntxiv lawm vim nws twb tsis pom qhov tias koj hlub nws li.

[@TouYang-kl3es]

Koj txiv yawg xav that koj ov, ceev faj zoo nawb. Tejzaum nws ua txuj ua li ntawd rau koj xwb.

[@hmongremark2686]

Story 1 - Me nyuam tub yeej txhob pob. Lawv niam thiab txiv tsis qhuab qhia lawv ces lawv thiaj tsis paub cai pheej nyiam qheb luag fridge thaum txog luag tsev. Koj tsis muaj cai qhuab qhia directly face to face kom koj tus best friend qhuab qhia nws cov mi nyuam kom paub cai. Yog koj coj li no rau koj cov best friends, koj muaj tsawg tus best friends los lawv yuav tsum khiav koj. Story 2 - Koj niam pog tsis nyiam koj tus xeeb ceem ces nws yeej tsis nyiam koj txhua yam koj muaj los yog koj pub rau nws.

[@piamoua3649]

Don't buy her clothes, but give her the money and see if she give the money to someone else. 😂😂😂

[@atthao5631]

Aub tej koj kuv tsis xav hnov.

[@iTek14]

Q1: Yog koj tus zoo phoojywg tsuas nyiam koj thaum koj pab tau nws xwb ces yeej tsis yog phoojywg zoo tiag. Yog nws muab ib zaug uas koj pab tsis tau nws los xuam tagnrho 10,000 zaug uas koj twb pab nws lawm ces tus phoojywg ntawd yog phoojywg noj xwb.

[@pameelee1398]

Q1: peb hmoob ces yus pab 100 zau , muaj ib zaug tsi pab xwb ces 99 zau ntawd muab lwv tag tsi muaj nqe lis. Phooj ywg zoo lis kod ces tsi ua py lawm los tau

[@visibopath1412]

Q1 tus niam tsev nws tsis pom nws qhov phem es koj twb zov nws cov me nyuam es nws ho ntxub koj ces koj yuav tau nrog cem nws muab nws lub qe tswl lwj hais kom kev ntxub tu tag nrho. Tus niam dev zoo li no koj yuav tau tsa koj lub qhov ncauj cem kom suav daws paub tom haujlwm tibsi tias koj zov nws cov me nyuam li cas rau li cas es ho tsis kam zov es nws cia li xwb tim ntxub koj ces muab nws cem kom txaus sib ceg los sib ceg es kom kev phoojywg tu nrho es yus ho zoo siab kiag nawb. Yog kuv ces yuav ua li no ntag ov.

[@ourherfamily7582]

Muaj ib cov neeg mas tsis paub txaj muag yuav kom yus zoov nws cov me nyuam tag li xwb, me i cant do that kuv txaj muag rau lawv tus husband even though we are besties or no kuv tsis xam lawv zoov kuv cov kids li os, U don't need a friend like her, good thing she don't like u now, u lucky. Take your luck and leave her alone

[@7stars2love]

Q2: No need to buy clothes or anything for her. Just give her the money if you want to give her a gift.

[@tongyang6314]

Q 1 cas khub niam txiv no es tsis paub kev cai ua luaj li thiab os....me nyuam coob ua luaj los pheej yuav mus party heev tag npaum li na, peb ua neeg nyob yuav tsum paub kev cai thiab yus cov me nyuam coob2 me2 txhob mus ub mus no heev2. Tsis muaj neeg zov ces yus yuav tau zov yus vim yog yus cov me nyuam, koj tsis thas zov nws cov me nyuam rau nws mus party li os....nws yuav chim rau koj los nws chim nws tsis KK.

[@youavu1433]

6 kids is alot..my 4 is alot for me already

[@pkcyang2910]

Q1: tus ko tsis yog koj tus phoojywg tiag os. Peb nuaj2 menyuam peb yeej paub tias peb cov menyuam zoo li cas. Yog kuv mas kiv yeej tsis lam coj mus rau phoojywg zov li os. Yog coj los tej yam emergency mam thov xwb.

[@greentortoise4629]

To the sister not wanting to eat meat. Please watch all the Vegan KZbin videos of supplements to take and how to get enough protein in. When you don’t eat meat, drink milk, eat eggs etc. only strictly vegetables and fruits. Please take the right vitamins and supplements to help your body. There is nothing wrong with being vegan.

[@moniqueh9893]

Question 2: save your money, don’t bother getting your mother in law anything, don’t need to give your money to ungrateful people.

[@END0RA]

Q1: Take it as a blessing that she no longer wants to be your friend. Friends like that were never truly your friend from the beginning. She was only keeping you around to see if she can use you when she needs you. A true friend will understand and respect your decision. Who cares if she wants to talk about you etc, sooner or later those other people will know her smelly egg too when she wants them to watch her kids as well and they don’t want to. I applaud you for being smart about your decision and standing your ground. Q2: Maybe try giving your MiL money, or taking her out to eat etc instead of buying her clothes. But simply put it in the way that the other nyabs already buy her clothes and you’re not sure what else to give her at times so here’s some money that she can buy whatever she likes. As for the times that she gave the clothes you bought her away, just take it as you gave it wholeheartedly so it’s hers and she can do whatever she wants with it.

[@Uatushlubkoj]

Ho yo thaum koj tus txiv los yuav koj e nws 36 niam no nws muaj 40 xyoo e koj muaj 24 koj muaj 26 pob yom😂😂😂

[@xavieryang3348]

Nyias yug nyia zov nyia xwb.

[@asiane]

She's a user. Yog lawv zov tsis taus lawv tej minyuam ces txhob sib sib-tsoob xwb mos. That's why you hired babysitters.

[@macymango4134]

#1 secret : you don’t need a friend like that!

[@jasmineflower7115]

Question #1: you did right by being honest with your so called BFF. She clearly was taking advantage of your friendship. You don’t need that kind of friend in your life, less stress for you and your family. Question 2: stop buying things for her, just give her money. Old people are hard to satisfy them. My own parents are just like that too.

[@maivang5846]

Question #2: From experience, old people are very picky about clothes. Stop buying clothes and just give them money instead.

[@michaelf2700]

Q1: Dont be so desperate for a friend. U dont need friends like her. Be friends with other people. Q2: U need to stop buying clothes for ur mil then. She keeps giving ur gifts away, but u dont learn, u keep buying. Once u give a gift, she can do whatever she wants with it.

[@maysyvaj9391]

You did your friend a favor and if she doesn't want to be your friend because you can't be her full time childcare provider for her on the weekend then time to let her go because she's only using you. NEXT!! friends come and go, she's not a real friend.

[@atthao5631]

Hoj yauj lawv twb muab nej tsuav ntsuag tag lawm

[@shiaxiong3302]

Tus me viv ncaus aw koj tus phooj ywg ko yog phooj ywg xiam hlwb xwb os yog nws txawj xav ces ntshe nws twb txaj muag rau nws tus kheej lawm os nws tsis tsim nyog nws chim rau koj li os pab nws txaj muag heev li

[@TouYang-kl3es]

Txhob nyuaj siab rau koj tus phoojywg ntawd vim koj twb qhia qhov tseeb rau nws lawm, tabsis nws tseem ua zoo li ntawd rau koj ces nws yog tus muaj teeb meem ntag vim nws tsis qhuab qhia kom nws tej menyuam kom paub cai thaum.mus nyob rau tom luag tej tsev. Tsis tas li ntawd koj tus phoojywg yog tus tsis paub cai thiab ntag.

[@pajdawb2081]

Q1: Thank you for setting boundaries with this “friend” of yours!!! The biggest problem here is the amount of continuous expectation (“help”) some of these irresponsible parents want from others. To even think that she’d call you up regularly to drop off her feral kids on the weekends --The entitlement is absolutely surreal!!!!!! GTFOH! You are not a free daycare! It’s alright that she doesn’t want to be your friend anymore. She’s a user. The trash took itself out. ❤

[@myprecious6751]

1st question...Sister, that coworker isn't your true friend. She's a fake and a user. As long as you benefit her she is your friend. She's using you to babysit her bad ass rotten kid's. That way her husband they can go party. RED FLAG when she said no one wants to watch them not even his own families nor hers. Even the grandparents won't watch them. After the first time should've been the last time. Those children have no discipline and doesn't have no manners and they're rude. She knows how they behave.

[@MaiProject2024]

Q1: I personally do not like it when parents don't tell their kids to behave. I have friends and family over and am surprised how they just watch their kids jump on my sofa. People need to respect other people's property and remind their kids to be mindful. So annoying! You did the right thing by telling her "no". Plus people like her will put in a lot of trouble if their kids get hurt at your place. So don't be hurt about your friendship.

[@bliaxiong9563]

Q1 your friend is not a true friend, it’s good she avoided you, let her go.She try to take advantage of you.

[@BB01138]

Q for the friend who babysits her coworkers kids - you are not in the wrong. Your friend is the wrong one. If she even appreciates you one bit, she would bring food/snacks/drinks for her kids before she drops them off & come home timely, not midnight, especially when she have 6 kids. I would not babysit that many kids either if they are not my nieces/nephews and have a bad behavior. She's mad and guilty. Dont worry about her. She just wanted to use you.

[@phouathao3722]

Tus niam pog zoo li ko ces nws tsis nyiam koj os tus sister… es txob yuav khawb ncaws rau nws lawm os..

[@NtxhaisHmoobUSA]

The secret not eat meant, last generation you are owner of many kinds animals you are a animals takecare.

[@kuvxwb9466]

Q1: you don’t owe your fake friend anything. She’s taking advantage of you. Be glad the trash took itself out. You don’t need to be friends with someone like that. Q2: It’s obvious she secretly doesn’t like you. If it was me, I would not gift her clothing or things anymore. She showing you that she doesn’t appreciate you so why waste your money? My ex mnl once used the shirt I bought her as a rag to wipe the floor. After I saw that, i stopped buying her things.

[@SnjsJeje]

Tug phooj ywg no xav siv koj xwb og nwg siv tsi tau koj ceg nwg thiab ntxub koj ma

[@missSHIELLA]

#2 question. I would not buy anymore clothing. And not care.

[@yeryang-thao3078]

Q#2 your mil don’t like you silently. Anything you gave her, she give away mean she don’t like you, but never say in front of you. Stop buying her stuff. Money, she won’t give away. Gone through that road. Don’t try to make her like you, she will influence/manipulate your husband one day, and your life will be ruin, if he’s not strong enough to protect your life.

[@missSHIELLA]

If your so called friend wants to go attend parties, it's not your responsibility to take care of her mf kids period. Thiab yog nws tsev Neeg twb tsis xav zov lawm ces that means alot.

[@henryyang6294]

Secret #2 tus sister aw lwm zaud koj txhob yuav khaub ncaws os yog txog nws Birthday ces koj mam muab meme nyiaj ua khoom plig rau nws xwb os

[@maithao1139]

Q1: she is your coworker not ur friend. Coworkers only like you when they can benefit from you. Good friends dont have you babysit their kids, they party with you. Their siblings and parents are there for babysitting. Q2: I don't want to jump to conclusions that your mil don't like you. But I can say old ppl are pretty hard to satisfy. The best gift to give them is money. This has been the main thing I give my mom and mil.

[@PinkMang0]

First Question: It’s ok. People come and go out of your life. She was never a friend to begin with. She only needs you when she wants something that benefits her. Do not feel bad about telling her the truth. You’re not wrong about telling her how her kids behave. It’s not being rude but having boundaries and sets of rules. There’s no good in being her friend if all she act is ignoring you and acting like you don’t exist. Forget about her; it’s not worth it to rekindle the friendship. You’re better off without her. Second Question: Maybe you should take her to go pick it for herself. The one you buy may be her style but there might be something there that she doesn’t like. Maybe the fit or color or pattern? Plus, it never hurt to ask your mil either. Sometimes it’s better to just give her money and tell her that you don’t know what to buy for her, and for her to go buy the things she likes for herself.

[@jcx321]

Q#1: Don't worry, she's not a true friend

[@kxiong9030]

Q1: she’s not a friend. She was just using you. I can’t stand people who chooses to go out and party rather than take care of their own kids.

[@KouLor-g4i]

What happened in Vegas stay in Vegas 😂😂😂😂

[@miabhlub63]

Q1: she only uses you Q2: your mother in law doesn't like you. Don't buy any more.

[@pahniayang8574]

😂 lol to the women getting breakfast in her bra and underwear at the LA hotel.

[@mindy9845]

#1, tell her to keep her legs closed if she can't be a mother and take care of her own kids. Its not your job to take care of her kids while she goes out and party.

[@xX1siabXx]

For the question in the beginning: it is wrong of your friend for frequently burdening u to watch her kids when she’s just going to parties. It’s not important enough to attend if u have no sitter. You are wrong to say that her kids are too naughty. If anyone says that about your kids, you would be upset as well. U could have just leave it at if she’s not attending an important event then you won’t be able to help watch her kids because you would like to spend time with your family on weekends.

[@crystalsong2039]

Q1, your friend/co worker is only using you. I would not babysitter her kids that many times. Especially if the kids have no manners. Maners starts with the parents.

[@xayxiong1061]

Q1: She’s not your friend but only using you to babysit while she party. Just be glad you’re no longer friends. Q2: Your mil don’t like you so whatever you buy her she’ll give away. Stopped buying things for her and loved your $$ and give to your own mother instead.

[@missysmart8620]

Q1: No worry. Your friend is just a user friend and not a true friend. Shame on her for acting a @#$% toward you after you helped her so many times. I weren't dwell on it too much. Be friends with someone who truly cares about you. Q2: Just give your niam pog money if she doesn't want clothes from you. Story1: How can you not realize you have no clothes on! Dag dhaus lawm os.

[@piamoua3649]

It's not what you say, but how you say.

[@lisaxiong1039]

You should just tell her you're busy.

[@MSMAIYANG]

#1: not your problem. If she has a problem then let it be her’s. You helped what you could. For me, I’m not afraid to tell naughty kids my house rules. My house my rules and if the parents are not happy then don’t ask me to watch them. #2: stop buying her clothes. Just give money during special occasions. She’s not appreciating you.

[@Vangrsky]

Question one: she is not your friend. She is a user. You are better off finding yourself some new friends. Question two: stop buying her stuff. You should confront her gently and tell her that you are no longer going to be buying her things as she always gives them away. There are other ways that can express your loveyour love.

[@mrsfabulouslee2995]

But yeah once ur not available to them they won't wanna be ur friend. You can say no and ur not wrong. Cause just because u dont have nothing to do does not mean u wanna babysit. But not necessarily to criticize her bebe kids. That's a little too harsh.

[@tajyang5546]

Q2. For your mother in law, I would subject give money or gift card Because everybody have their own style.

[@7stars2love]

1st secret, nej cov nkauj nrab nraug nrab txoj me kev haus dej haus cawv ua kev lom zem ces kawg liab qab tawm li ko xwb tiag

[@kuvxwb1591]

Q1-just b happy that user friend left you! Q2-next time just gift your mil cheap clothing from 99cent store and more, she’s just gonna give it away.

[@ax5717]

I take care of my fil like a baby. I wipe his butt and all.

[@zoolikuv]

You can't hate or criticize people who eat meat the same way we cannot hate or criticize you for being you.

[@yingvang1276]

Story 1: Good riddance. She's not worth staying friends with.

[@kenxiong5540]

Q-1 koj tus phoojywg KO nws vam koj UA pub nws xwb os phooj ywg li no ces tsuas t'as UA phoojyli nawb

[@MTlee-zr4oh]

Question1 what you said to your friend is right, that’s it. No need to explain moree. Don’t feel bad if she doesn’t like you anymore.

[@sandyvangyang110]

q1: she's immature, smh. Not a good friend. q2: Some mil are very picky, if she doesn't wear it, stop buying clothes. She prob likes other things

[@baoher4277]

Secret story #1: really? I do not believe it. There's water inside the hotel room or drink water from the sink, smh

[@maitvang1]

U didn't do anything wrong about not babysitting your so call friends kids. She just trying to be friends with u so she can used u. So don't feel bad about speaking the truth to her. And her kids have no manner I wouldn't watch those kids either.

[@atthao5631]

Nws ntxub koj tab sis nws qhia tsis tau rau koj xwb.

[@pashvang5394]

Question 1: if you wanted to keep the friendship, be smart, be strategic and speak less. I think you over shared the truth and hurt her feelings when you said how naughty her kids are. Some parents get really offended when other people criticize about their kids. You should have said only a few words.

[@aymaaeesaaangva7079]

Question 1: she was never a friend. She was just using you.