Secret# 620 A special story zais ib tug~12/13/2024~

[@miabhlub63]

Be a man and tell your parents the truth. There's no such thing as "secret." I'm sure your parents will get mad and disappointed, but they'll eventually accept the reality.

[@NtxhaisHmoobUSA]

Oh No you are in big trouble. Why you quit school. Dating others racist it doesn't matter but Why Quit Your education OH NO OH No

[@atlasanyaandamazingplaces8597]

You need to continue your education. It doesn't matter what racist you're dating.

[@dianeyang5999]

Agree. you need to continue your education. your family has a lot of hope for you.

[@luvinniceboxers]

If you are from a traditional family, and you are the youngest son, then you have much to consider. You've crossed that path of consideration. It's best you be honest about your relationship to your family. Living a lie will eat you up. Man up and own up to your actions. You are still young and naive. I agree with Niam Neej Vam's advice.

[@Aurora-cb2ji]

Brother, You have not struggled enough to truly understand why your family is so proud and hopeful of you. Education is the key to unlock a future for YOUR WHOLE FAMILY. I come from a family that worked hard to become well off but it started with my uncle who became a medical doctor. Growing up, my parents always told us that my uncle is our bank of knowledge and support so we must not let him down. Now my whole family is either nurses or doctors. A family looks to have someone within the family to set as an example for the WHOLE FAMILY. You need to go back to school. If I were you, I wouldn’t tell my parents yet. Use your child and family as your motivation to work hard in school. Best of luck to you.

[@katrinashong8171]

Tell your parents the truth that you quit school & why you didn’t continue your higher education. Let them know you have a girlfriend who is not Hmong & pregnant. If they’re mad or angry, then you can move on with your life with the girlfriend & your child. Love yourself more along with the GF & your child.

[@whiteranger3836]

There should be no shame when it comes to love. Your gf is right. You can’t hide the truth. If you love her then you need to tell your family the truth. You shouldn’t hide her. Start by telling them you have a gf. Once they accept that, then introduce your gf to them.

[@shouaxiong4168]

Your parents are not ashamed of you, therefore you should not be ashamed of your unborn child, nor its mother. You are an educated person, from your shared story- you should be confident with yourself and your life choices. Be honest with your parents and family. It doesn't matter what ethnicity of your partner. We all bleed red when cut. I hope this comment finds you well. Best of luck to you.

[@jasmineflower7115]

Oh my you’re going to be a big disappointment. Not because you are dating outside your race but because you QUIT school. I know you are probably very stress and has affected your education but I advise that you go back to school. Let your parents be disappointed for 1 thing only.

[@shanetawr]

The truth shall set you free

[@levieyang]

As a parent myself, knowing the truth won’t hurt as much as lies coming from my children. I always tell my kids, no matter how big of a mistake you do, always be honest with me. If you tell me the truth, I will not be as mad as if you’re lying to me. I know you’re scare to tell them because they all have high expectations for you but sometimes it’s better to just be straight up honest. It is what it is. It’s not a crime to date other race. They will learn to accept your girlfriend some way somehow but go back to school if you can.

[@MXhX88]

It's always u against the world. Just be positive. Stay educated and be supportive. Good will come!

[@hlivaj721]

Go back to school. You can have both. Tell the truth and continue with your education. You don’t want your kids to do the same to you. I if your kids matter to you then you are going to tell the truth it will be good for everyone’s peace of mind. . I trust you will do the right thing. 🙏🙏🙏

[@vickykool6163]

I don’t usually comment at all in any stories but after I heard this story of yours, I couldn’t resist so I’m going to share a little bit of my thoughts, very plain and simple, follow your heart because only your feelings can tell you the truth. Be honest with your family and yourself, the truth does hurt but eventually it will slowly go away. If you keep it in, you’re only hurting yourself. Don’t do that to yourself.

[@rockNloaded]

IM TELLING MOM.......lol

[@chorlee6835]

Tell them the truth son you will be happy and your parents will be happy too!!

[@siavang9857]

Time has changed…as much as parent want to hold on to Hmong ways and have our children only marry Hmong, in this time period we can’t control this. Most Hmong family today has a member that married outside our race. As parent it’s hard seeing our kids married outside of our race, but at the end if this is what makes our child happy we’ll learn to accept it. In our family it was a challenge to accept our vauv kej dub (black son in law) at first, but since the years we get to know him, he is one of the most respectful, genuine and kindest person. Son you are making this situation harder on yourself, girlfriend and new baby, be honest and tell your family the truth, it may hurt them at first but as time pass they’ll learn to accept your decision. Go back to school because this your future to be able to care for the baby, girlfriend, your parents and yourself.

[@leeyang26]

Listen Son. You are lucky to have a family that stands behind you and gave you everything they got. For most people, it takes a life time to earn a fraction of the trust and support you have been getting. Since you got these without having to work for, you don’t appreciate and not taking it seriously. You knew from the beginning the values and expectations of your family but you chose to divert, and worst, you dropped out of college! That alone says a lot about you. Regardless, the truth about your girlfriend will come out one day and you will have to face the consequence. My advice for you is go back to school and graduate! You may lost one thing, but at least you got your degree.

[@ncouazooxwbya1552]

Please be honest to yourselves , tell your parents the whole truth, face your worst nightmare now!! Your parents needs to know your confession! Learn from your own mistakes and continue love your parents and teach your future wife to loving your family! Love covering all things!!

[@Beautifulliesnamee]

Just tell your parents the truth, she has your baby! If they don’t accept it, you’ll have to be the man and move forward with your baby mama!

[@chang3568]

Brother, I know it's hard but the longer u lie, the more u will be stressed. Please complete your education and do what makes you happy. Live for yourself and be honest. Listen to your girlfriend. I guarantee you will regret later if you choose to live for your parents.

[@beethao4145]

hey, I used to be like you, a nice guy and hmong hais tias mloog lus. as long as you and her love each others your parent will learn to except it. it's not something bad that you did. many hmong guy married a Caucasian women if she loves an respect your parent then there's no problem but og, we have to be a little patient. doesn't matter what race, it all depends on the puzzle. I believe when they get used to your wife, she just like any other nyab to them. remember, your parent, their duty is over when you turn 18. after it just a wishful thinking and wants you to have a better life than them. listen to your heart. good luck.

[@Love98fire]

I agree with your girl you should tell your parents. No matter what your parents decide it’s not their life it’s your life. Your girl and baby don’t deserve to be hidden.

[@goodbecky7677]

Kablia, always giving good advice!! I agree. You heave to be honest with your family. This baby is coming with or without their approval! The reality will be that the baby’s mama will always be in your life now. So be a man and face your family. Accept what is about to happen good or bad.

[@hlublosntxub]

😢wow..if I'm your parents will be disappointed with this world 😢

[@musibsim2151]

Me tub yuav tus neeg koj hlub zoo dua os

[@DVBYLY]

Aww man just follow your heart let your family know who you really are it's not like you're a criminal

[@vavang9626]

Qhia qhov tseeb² xwb os koj thiaj forgive koj

[@yerxiongvang931]

Lwm haiv neeg lawv tsis nyiam yu tsev neeg lawv yuav koj ces yuav koj ib leeg xwb o mi tub aw.

[@saykaomee]

You need to come clean sooner than later. They'll be shocked, but they'll find their own ways to accept your choices. What you did wrong was quit school. You should return to school and finish your credentials, especially when you have a family to support.

[@kubhlubkoj]

Man... you have to be honest and face the truth!! I just shared your story with my son in college as a Junior. He's got a good head on his shoulder. He really want a girlfriend but I advised him, you'll have plenty once you finish school. I have a son in college studying to become a medical doctor, and if he lied to me, I probably going to go numb!!! He lived on campus. I just trust him and give him the benefit of the doubt. I'll be devastated and disappointed. Probably, I cried my eyes out, heartbroken, and felt used and take advantage of if my son does this to me. Good luck! Worst is probably lots of yelling and why!!!!!😢

[@hlubyang4072]

Q#1....do what you like...do what you want don't care about the OG...

[@hlh9393]

Koj los Mloog zoo zoo kuv zaj story yuav pab tau koj: kuv muaj tib tug tub ua tshuaj kuv yeej Xav kom nws yuav nkauj hmoob. Kuv yeej tsis nyiam tau ib tug nyab lwm haiv neeg thiab. Ib hnub kuv tug tub los hais tib zoo rau wb ua niam ua txiv tias nws muaj ib tus hluas nkauj tawv dawb ces thov txim pub rau nws. Ib yuav tau ib tug nyab lwm haiv neeg. Wb chim kawg cem heev kawg. Sib ntxiav tag. Nws hais tib zoo tias muab lub sib hawm rau nws tus hluas nkauj. Yog wb paub nws zoo ces wb yuav hloov siab rau yam tom ntej... 2 xyoo no wb kuj tsis cem thiab wb tus nyab tawv dawb los kuj nyiam peb hmoob kawg lawm... Qhia qhov tseeb yog qhov ncaj ncees rau nej sawvdaws mi tub

[@LT-sg6rr]

Just beef up and go tell your family. Expect an earful, long lectures and parents crying. Some day, they will get over it.

[@MaiLor-md3gf]

I agreed with your girlfriend just tell your parents. But just don’t give up on school. Go back to school when it’s a good time.

[@ninalor1206]

Brother. Just tell your parents. If they upset but not for long... we live in a diverse world. We don't choose who we love.

[@crystalsong2039]

You need to go back to school and finish your degree. And tell your family the truth. Instead of having two disappointments in your families eyes, there will only be one. Your family will eventually accept your girlfriend.

[@Huabtaisdav1972]

Bad son

[@leevue5409]

1. You need to continue your education. In America education is important. 2. You need to tell your family about your gf and on the way baby. Don't matter what they thing. 3. Do not liar to your parents and be yourself, be real to yourself.

[@sandyvangyang110]

At the end of day, be a man. You have a child on the way. Don't run away from your problems!

[@KevinVan-Kresnik]

Just send them this story to listen. Then tell them the truth. But, also, go back to school and achieve.

[@paylythao22]

2 questions! Regardless of your situation, you are hurting your family. Would you hurt them with a LIE or hurt them with the TRUTH. Plus I don’t think you are hurting anyone except yourself. Your family is prejudiced!!! You are just living your life in main stream America! You should teach them. Open their eyes! You are the educated one. Making a difference depends on YOU!! Yet you are afraid and rather hide than face the truth! My son the only way to live a better and happier life is to face adversity and be honest with yourself! Good luck!!

[@yolimoua72]

Ohh as a parent if my son lie like that I would so sad n angry … just tell them the truth.. it will lift your karma.. think if u have kid.. they lie to u how u feel … my blood already boil

[@mouavang3371]

All my daughters were married to other races. To me, just tell your parents straight how you feel and how you want to live your life not your parents lives. listen to your heart, whatever make you happy go for that. Furniture more, education is a big investment in your future don't quit, go back to school.

[@yinglee8513]

Be honest. Tell the truth. Being mature. Being a "man". Don't quite school. This is for you, for your own future, not for them. It's ok to date/marry another race. These days Hmong girls (los ua koj nyab) are not always better. When you make a mistake, take responsibility, correct it and move on... No one is perfect in this world.

[@mayyang645]

Mes tub os,tsi xob ua rau koj niam thiab txiv mob hart attack. Maj mam ua zoo hai rau lawv .remember at the end of time you need your family end you need your love. Be strong. Tell the truth set you free.

[@msyngseer5560]

Hey, young brother, I would recommend for you to go back to school and finish your degree, while maintaining your relationship with your girlfriend and preparing to be a father. You rather struggle now and be rewarded later. Your college degree will take you far in life and open so much more opportunities down the line, do not let that opportunity slip away, especially you sound like you’re more then half way to graduating. Regarding your parents and siblings, you can tell them when you are ready. So don’t feel ashamed or afraid. This is your life, and now that you are bringing another life to this world, focus on be the best version of yourself for you and your soon to be child. One day your family will understand, and if they never get to that point, it’s okay, because you’re an adult now, but be mindful and certain of your decision going forward so you don’t regret it in the future. Become a man of dignity and be the change that our Hmong society needs for our future generations to blossom. Bless you and your soon to be family.

[@WhiteFlower2050]

Is better not to hide your girlfriend

[@Gardendev]

Son! tell the true, if your parent get mad it will not last long, they will forgive you. I know it mother love is different from any other love, they wouldn't mad for long, because I am a mother too. Son this is America, please don't let anyone choose a love one for you, you have to decide who you will love and spend the left of you life with. Son you need to go back to school and finish you degree this is good for you not for your parent. Parent we shouldn't force our children to do as we want all the time, that is a bad practice.

[@mlee6092]

Bro, do you have a good relationship with your mom or a sister or bro? Confide in that person first and maybe start by asking the person to break the news to your mom and dad first. Stay on campus while this is going on. Let the news settle, then go from there. Don't hide it anymore. Meanwhile, I don't understand why you're out of school and not finishing. You need to finish what you started. Focus. Go finish your degree. This will help your family accept your situation more. But know that your family may never accept your gf abd if you marry her, be ready to take her away in order to protect her. Be ready to fight for your marriage. Marriage is hard enough with out your family sabotaging it. You'll most likely experience their sabotage all your life, which could bring the end of your marriage. Soon, your gf/wife will get tired of it and she'll leave you. Good luck.

[@tapangaher]

This!!! Agree 100%. Or that one person who has a good relationship with you can be there with you when you tell your parents so they can help calm your parents as well. But always always remember, don’t let your education fall behind. Go back to school and get your degree. At least this will still make your parents proud. Talk to them soon so this doesn’t eat you alive. You’re still young, you got this. Please update us after you let your family know. Would Love an update.

[@PhilChang-j6d]

You already know what is the ethically and morally correct answer, but you need others to validate your experience because you feel guilty. Take responsibility by telling your parents and respect your girlfriend by taking responsibility for the life you two adults created. Chances are, your family already has an inkling of you leaving school AND you having a girlfriend. You need to stop underestimating peb cov laus and give your family a chance to prove they are loving and understanding. They deserve that at least. Additionally, you should both go back to school. This won't come without a lot of sacrifice and late nights from the both of you, but the U.S. has a lot of support systems for young parents, take advantage of that. Best of luck.

[@kaxiong957]

Be honest with your parent about your girlfriend and school

[@ginamoua9989]

just think of it like this...if your child did the same to you as you are doing to your parents, saying you felt the same as your parents...will you prefer to know the truth or prefer your child to keep lying to you, just to give you hope that will never happen....you already dug your deep hole already now go lie in it and man up!, your about to have a child! having a family shouldnt stop you from pursuing a education especially when you have both parent supporting you financially. dont even matter if your parents like your girl or not, prove to your parents you can do both and if you believe so you did education for your parents and your girl for you...win win...

[@khotsev]

Admit it and tell the truth. Your family will accept it.

[@dohcvtecboy]

Better get back to school, once the baby comes, your gonna be more busy. And just tell your family.

[@alisonyang6698]

Youre being very inconsiderate of your partner and the mother of your child. Your parents will be disappointed for your decision to drop out of school but they will come around to your partner and you baby. Your girlfriend deserves respect. And you need to be accountable for your actions. Time to grow up and face your consequences

[@dub2465]

Go back to school n tell them the truth. Don’t keep it to urself. No good will come from this

[@yeryang-thao3078]

Your mom bad dream is you lie to them. Mom have her instincts and spirit tell her when kids do bad things. Be honest, you have a child now that will carry the way you do too.

[@minalee6453]

The UNIVERSE give the Most Ultimate test to people who have the BIGGEST Secrets, racist. Gives it up! Son. Live your truest reality. Don’t think about suicide for this little lies you are trying to refrain from the world. Once your family knows, it will be OK! They are not going to cill you. Live your LIFE. The heart wants it want. Nobody can/will go against the Heart. The Heart is powerful; it’s the Mind of your LIFE. Let it live ! Let it love freely.

[@jadedpa68]

Just tell the truth to your family. But before you do, become a man and go back to school. Your girlfriend is already scarificing her education to take care of the child, you should do what you can to help. Go to school and get that degree that way your child and family will be proud of you. Your parents and family will be hurt, but their expectations are too high for you. Do what you can with what you have. Supporting your little family should be your biggest priority right now and going back to school will hopefully help you get back on track.

[@douayang1435]

you have to tell the true to your family, marry her and be a good husband and work hard to have a good family and then continue your education at your own pace to get your degree....

[@kuvxwb11]

Be honest to your family. If they love you they would accept your girlfriend and the fact that you dropped out of school. If you don't tell them the truth, you are hiding 2 things from them and soon to be 3 after you have your baby. It's better to be honest now then for them to find out on their own later. Your family love you and want what's best for you. They expect you to graduate and married a hmong girl but things don't always end that way. Do what's best, tell them the truth. Lying to your family isn't good.

[@maiyang3659]

Me tub, Kuv ces pab Koj niam thiab txiv tu siab kawg. Cas ho tsis noj birth control pills es Koj txhob muaj menyuam naj. Tsau2 siab kawm ntawv maj. Hais li lord Koj ho nim tabtom kawm doctor degree los?

[@Duefant]

What a coward! You did not need to quit school. Go back! And tell your parents about your pregnant girlfriend and go back to school! Omg smh

[@chongxiong340]

I think your parents are giving you too much pressure and the family expects a lot from you.

[@maiyang7845]

Tell your family the truth about you not going to school anymore , and tell them all about your girlfriend not being Hmong . Whether they accept your girlfriend or not it’s your choice .They should be happy for you ,if they really love you. If they don’t accept the choices you’d made for yourself. You need to move on and be happy without them in your life. It’s your life not theirs.

[@chiliayang5832]

Yog li ces koj siab phem tshaj li me tub

[@doogvang]

You need to be serious and tell your parents the truth, man. Otherwise, if they find out later, they would be very angry. You so disappointed your parents.

[@sxiongg6647]

Please just be honest. You won’t be able to continue living a double life. Tell your family the truth and be ok if you don’t get their support. I get that you don’t want to disappoint your family but life is too short to live your life for other people. Best of luck to you!

[@yinglor8962]

Tam sim no ces nug seb koj tus poj niam puas kam zam txim rau lawv thiab seb nws puas nyiam koj niam koj txiv lawv li no xwb ces koj muaj chaw tawm lawm los mas me tub aw

[@colleenchan9872]

Oh no! You are creating hell and heart attack news to your family!😢😢

[@colleenchan9872]

Just tell them the truth don't waist their $ supporting you! Your degree is your baby's birth certificate!

[@adoralor7728]

Wow! Son you totally failed yourself, getting a good education is not for your parents, not for your siblings and definitely not for anyone else but you! The greatest sin is deceiving your family what a sham you brought upon yourself, good luck untangle yourself from the mess you made.

[@yl7495]

You were wrong for dropping out of school. There’s nothing wrong with dating another race, your parents will eventually come around to accepting your companion. But the dropping out of school is a big deal. You have to come clean.

[@gynnsworld]

Just be a man and live life as you need/please. Why you living your life for your parents. To hide this is so immature

[@sayvang6608]

Its ok that you dated another race. Its ok that you quit school. But it is NOT ok that you lied to everyone. Especially yourself! Wow! Your family put a lot of pressure on you. I can't imagine how you feel. But stop the lies!

[@tommyxiong471]

I think it doesn’t who you are dating, you must tell your families the truth about your relationship with other’s. If you don’t you will be sorry in the long run. You are not lying to your families but you are lying to yourself.

[@mainengvang1314]

It’s not wrong loving someone out of race, but it’s wrong when you lied to your mom about your education. Be a man and take it like a man. Just have to be honest.

[@trulylee9055]

Wow you’ll disappoint your family very much. I worry for you. You need to go back to school asap! At least they only disappoint about your wife not your education. You can’t fail them on all of their hope for you.

[@hlubyang4072]

The OG IS NOT YOUR PIONT...YOUR GIRLS FRIEND IS YOUR PIONT

[@menavue9633]

I believe u are full of excuses. U have dump excuses to quit school. And now u have excuses not to tell ur parents. And then u have excuses to tell ur woman to keep it as a secret until u both do marriage. I believe even if u marry her, u will still hide ur marriage from ur parents. Stop making excuses!!! Always excuses one after another. Please understand we are the new generation. Things will have to change in the family tradition, however, it does take a strong person to make changes.

[@Hmooblubneej-y7j]

You said kuv yog tus tub ntxawg, last child, kuv tsev neeg npaj kuv los ua tus thawj coj, what a dream. Guy, you are very ignorant. In Hmong culture the elder of the family is the thawj coj. No wonder your life is screwed up, you have so many misunderstanding in your life, including dating. Also every extended Hmong families now have at least one college graduate. You are the dreamer, not your family members dreaming of you. You also said kuv kawm ntawv txawj ntse. Guy, 3rd year in college is not kawm ntawv txawj ntse. You only study your degree subjects, so don't confuse with the word txawj ntse. I think you fool yourself too much. Until you understand real life, you will never understand your parents and yourself