Self Care Page and Mental Health Chat - Letting Go | Anxiety and Overwhelm | The Happy Planner

This is a long one! I didn't want to cut it down too much because I had a lot to say. If you like chatty videos, this is it! I am feeling so overwhelmed and I need to stop putting so much pressure on myself. So in this video I created a self care page in my Big Happy Planner basically all about what I am going to try to let go of in my life.
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[@PlanningwithBumble]

Thank you so much for all your warm comments. I always read them all and you guys have made me feel so accepted and cared for. It makes me so happy to hear I’m helping you in some tiny way ❤️❤️❤️

[@lisasheridan5482]

Very greedy with the ads. Just found your account. But very greedy

[@PlanningwithBumble]

@@lisasheridan5482 this is how I make my income, plain and simple. It’s my full time job. This is not greed. A lot of work goes into these videos. If I didn’t put ads on my videos I wouldn’t have time to give you videos because I’d have another full time job. Feel free not to watch.

[@polyglotmona]

I love your videos and I like coming back to the “chatty” ones. When I lived in France last summer, I rewarded myself with one of your videos when I completed a task. Now I watch your videos when I’m stressed out because I find them calming and comforting. Thank you for making them and thank you for being you 🌷

[@TeamM344]

"Growing old is a privilege." Wow. I needed to hear these words. I have been struggling with the concept of getting old for a few years now, but hearing you say that and that you lost your husband when he was 45, those words immediatly changed my perspective. You are right, I get the privilege of seeing my family grow and spend time with my husband, etc. So Mary Ellen.....THANK YOU!

[@ruthbarmore5211]

Thank you for this video! I am 69 years young and believe me when I say, we are all going through the same struggles in life. I suffered a heart attack last September and the experience made me realize how fortunate i am to have a second chance. I too, worried about insignificant things. It is difficult to break habits of a lifetime, but with work and determination, you can keep them at bay. All the best, Ruth B.

[@stitchbudgets3031]

PTSD is a daily struggle as well as depression and anxiety. Yesterday in therapy I actually talked about you and your videos! I'm adding a gratitude section to my planner

[@charleneprince5305]

Mary Ellen, thank you for being so transparent...we can ALL relate. And this is such a creative tool to give ourselves permission not to be perfect. Love it. Also, I dont know what the drama was in the planner community about you (nor do I want to) - but I can't imagine why...you are one of the sweetest and most creative planners on You Tube. I can't recreate your spreads but I love watching you and listening and seeing Bumble. Be encouraged and just DO YOU!

[@PlanningwithBumble]

❤️❤️❤️

[@suzib.6602]

Charlene wrote my own thoughts. You are one of two favorite YTers. Please hang in there. I get so petrified by perfection and you are really helping.

[@eusews]

Mary Ellen, I am just finding this and want to say you are so right. I am closer to 79 than 78 and totally agree. My husband of almost 36 years passed at the day before his 71st birthday 17 years ago. My 2 year older brother passed 5 years ago and my mom 8 weeks later. I had no children that broke my heart, so now I am the last of my generation. I too have felt like this way, it all of a sudden dawned on me that I am Brenda and can’t be Loretta because I am not her. I have different limits. Thank you Merry Ellen and I hope now things are better.

[@jessannbeauty7600]

I really, really needed this video today. I'm only 10 minutes in and so much of what you're saying is speaking to my heart. I very recently got into this hobby due to stress about juggling my job, college, gym, and social schedules on top of planning my wedding next June. You're one of the first YTers I found that I really enjoyed, and all those things I have felt so stressed about? I am now reminded of just how lucky I am to have them. Thank you ❤️

[@PlanningwithBumble]

❤️❤️❤️

[@kristina4272]

Sorry for so many comments. It took me until I was in my 60's to realize that not everyone is going to like me. My 30 year old daughter told me! There is so much wisdom in this video. I, too, am an introvert with anxiety. This is a wonderful reminder of what's important.Again, sorry for the comments, but this video moved me.

[@PlanningwithBumble]

Thank you! Don't apologize for commenting too much!

[@paigegraham9715]

In the last couple of months, I have learned that at least two of my favorite content creators have ADD. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and it's so refreshing when I learn that people who inspire me also have it. I sometimes watch planner videos to get motivated, but it's helpful to remember that a lot of us experience similar challenges, even when it looks like we have our shit together. Thank you for being so open and for being such a positive part of the planner community.

[@paigegraham9715]

Edited for a typo 🤦‍♀️

[@lakicreations2094]

It's so amazing that I just wrote in my journal that "My happiness doesn't have to look like everyone elses" before I watched this. Great inspiration.

[@muzzable]

That’s a fantastic statement. I’m going to write it in my journal and give you credit😊

[@jenniferbrooks--planj5459]

MaryEllen I can hear the pain in your voice. Please know that you are loved and you are enough. ❤

[@PlanningwithBumble]

❤️❤️❤️

[@missybundrage218]

I wanted to cry watching this ..because everything you said and described resonated with me. This time I thought I was alone. Thank you for being so transparent. I felt like you were reading my thoughts. I appreciate you!!

[@PlanningwithBumble]

You’re not alone, I see you!!!

[@jeannedeshazer-ellsworth9995]

I am SO like this...theboverwhelm, the perfectionism, the feelings of failure. I can't seem to be patient with myself. Burnout usually hits about the second week of February. I am turning 70 next month. I'm hyper organized and have ADHD and I'm still feeling like a failure. And yet, life is good really. My first husband died in 2010 from leukemia. I married 6 years later and he's wonderful and patient and we laugh a lot, and i have kids and friends...but I just want to feel like I'm improving. I need to let go. This was good foralthy! me. I'm very lucky. And I'm he

[@raisingStarsgramma]

You are not alone! I feel for you and with you. I had a miscarriage in my 20s between my oldest and youngest. Totally not the same thing you are dealing with. At around the same time I lost my older brother. He was 1 1/2 years older than me. He was killed in a car accident. It devastated our family. I watched my parents hearts and spirits whether. Us three girls and my two sons were the only reason they even tried anymore. I fell into a deep depression. A few years later my mother-in-law was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor. After a year of treatments she was cancer free. Unfortunately the radiation caused brain damage. She ended up bedridden with early onset Alzheimer’s. After 6 years of home healthcare (my father-in-law & myself as primary caregivers) she passed away. Three years later my mom developed uterine cancer. My middle sister and myself were primarily caregivers again. You know how this effects a person. This past year I had emergency surgery for a ruptured intestine and two ruptured ulcers. Long story short (lol) I want to recover me. Back before the bad and the depression colored my entire world.

[@deborahglover0112]

Im a lot like you. "All or nothing" ex. I was watching You Tube and saw a channel on scrapbooking. I went out and bought all kinds of stuff and then tried to make the project, when mine didnt look like or better then the one on YT, I got frustrrated and angry. I didnt do anything again until 6 or 8 months ago.Thats when I got into planning. I started small, with a a9 3 ring binder. I started having fun and found it relaxing and also a place to vent. It became therapy for me. Then I found the Micro mini. I really love the disc and Happy Planner makes an array of planners and the supplies that go with them. Then I decided to get a planner, I found the happy box Finding Your Balance. It was on sale so I didnt spend too much mony. I am waiting for it to arrive. I think its a great place to begin and theraputic as well. Sorry for rambling but I just wanted to let you know that youre not alone. TY again for sharing❤❤❤😊

[@good_juju_studio]

Mary Ellen - one of the many talents you share with your audience is your ability to connect as your authentic self, and while that comes through in each video, it's most significant and valuable here. You are absolutely allowed to feel grateful for your work, your life, your relationships, etc. and also feel anxious and overwhelmed by those same things. You are so good at reminding people to practice gratitude, and it's because of you that I include a gratitude list in my planner/journal every week. When work and life overwhelm me and make me feel anxious, I turn to your videos for comfort, inspiration, laughs, and of course, Bumble sounds and sightings. You are a gift to many - thank you for being you and for all that you do.

[@PlanningwithBumble]

Thanks so much. It’s sometimes tough to feel grateful and overwhelmed at the same time

[@ashleyowens1093]

Thank you for being so open about your life. About how acceptance and letting go is such an important part of self care. The Serenity Prayer says it all "God grant me serenity to accept things I cannot change, courage to change the things that I can and the wisdom to know the difference." To me this mantra applies to all of us, not just the original audience.

[@anabeanonamission]

I just can't put into words how much I love and adore you. YOU amaze me. I have a million things in my head I want to say and no idea how to write them. I pray your heart supernaturally is filled with peace and joy. Thank you for sharing your heart with us. You are such a blessing to this planet. I'm working on falling in love with who I am and your inspiring words are a part of my journey. Blessings to you Mary Ellen!!!!!!! ❤️

[@lindamarshall754]

There comes a point in every You Tuber’s life where they’ve grown their channel beyond what they can comfortably handle on their own. You are at that point. That’s a good problem to have. An assistant would help with a lot of what you had on your list and give you the freedom to focus on creating, innovating and growing. You are one of the good ones to watch so keep moving forward.

[@PlanningwithBumble]

I do think my daughter Heather us going to help me again soon. You do have a point though.

[@lorendaschwartz]

So happy I found you! I have had a running TO DO list since 1993 that I have scratched things off and copied it over every week and I feel crazy because my head spins and the list is always there

[@letstalkplans1211]

It is around 11pm right now in India and I'm listening to you talk on this video..it's like night time therapy on the radio. I relate to all the feelings, even though I don't relate to the events exactly. I remember pinging you on IG about 7 to 8 months ago saying I'm an introvert and how do u manage life. I still struggle. But this somehow helps to know that it's okay to let go. It's a good thing to let go. Thank you so much for this video.

[@DanielleBatog]

A wonderfully authentic video. No worries… you are growing beautifully ❤️ Starting to say no in my fifties was an amazing turning point for me as I now settle comfortably and contentedly into my sixties on my terms 🤓

[@karenrich9092]

This video reminded me of a tip I read. If you think you want to do something, but you don't have 3 reasons why, then maybe it doesn't belong on the list. If you have more than 3 reasons (pro or con), it should be a priority.

[@tallgirl270]

When I’m looking for matching socks, my daughter always tells me life is too short to worry about matching socks 🧦

[@kasandrashay3040]

You are SO not alone! I tend to put way too much pressure on my myself. I’ve adopted “so what?” I didn’t get to the vacuuming? So what. Am I going to be killed by dust bunnies? Probably not. It can wait a week. Btw, you’re doing pretty well too! We all need to give ourselves more grace.

[@hellokittylynntx]

Hi ME! I watch you daily, never have commented. You had me at "getting 10 self help books from the library"! I was crying with you and I try to never cry. I remember doing that when I was 10!!!!!! Making the list of things for everything. You are strong, beautiful and vibrant, do not let the enemy destroy your beautiful heart and soul. You are unique and exquisite, the enemy targets souls like yours... fight back. Put your thoughts on paper, wipe your tears and ask God for armor. He will give you that, most reassuring He is fighting next to you. I repeat, get up and fight. We all.....ALL.... feel that sometimes. You are Beautiful ❤️! Thank you for having the courage to share your thoughts and feelings. I'm praying for you to get over this hurdle but I think "letting go" is everything we need to do sometimes. Sweet slumber, Lynn Villarreal

[@PlanningwithBumble]

You are so very sweet! Thank you ❤️

[@shazsam8309]

12:43 - I’m not even halfway through but I’m choking up… this is exactly what I needed to hear today! Thankyou for being real! God bless! ❤

[@LuanaCupcake]

Thank you for sharing your heart, Mary Ellen. You are loved and appreciated. Blessings to you.

[@PlanningwithBumble]

Thank you ❤️

[@equestrianesse]

I watch absolutely no other planners, and I don’t even plan the way you do. I just stumbled across your videos one night when I couldn’t fall asleep, and I just found you to immediately be soothing and interesting and mesmerizing and calming all at the same time. I love your creativity, and I feel so invested in seeing how each spread turns out! I went back through and have watched all your videos, often as background when I’m working away at home, and you just are so soothing. (I do try to watch ads to help offset the fact that I’ll never use your affiliate links since I don’t plan ☺️) Anyway, I am certain it makes me a weirdo, but I wanted to let you know that someone totally not in the planner community thinks you’re pretty amazing. I loved Bob Ross as a kid, and I don’t paint, either, and you have that same soothing and creative feel to me. Thanks for being you.

[@PlanningwithBumble]

I love this! I’ve been told that maybe once before, that someone didn’t plan but watched me. I think it’s so flattering and no I do not think you are a weirdo, I kind of get it!!

[@sherrievibes5991]

How crazy are we? Not literally but we could be twins from another mother. We are the same age, both have ADD/ADHD, both have chronic pain, we’re both introverts with anxiety, always tried to save my kids from making mistakes, (learned that that is not smart), both love planning… so many similarities. I can totally totally relate babe. Just keep on keeping on and letting it go! 😘

[@cat_king15]

Mary Ellen! Please keep doing videos like these!!!! I love everything you talked about and it felt like I was listening to a friend giving me life advice. You are very emotionally intelligent and it would be amazing to share that with the planner community. I feel that it's something the community is missing. Talking deeply about mental health and life struggles. We are with you ♥️

[@cpowell626]

One way I’ve learned to be happy is I don’t do anything I don’t want to do. The power of the word NO is amazing for self preservation. There are things we have to do, work, pay bills… but we have control over how much of our time and energy we give to other people and things!

[@PlanningwithBumble]

For sure! That’s why it made my list

[@reneejennings2225]

I usually watch all your planner releases and unboxing videos, but this is one of the best videos I’ve seen on KZbin PERIOD. We get so caught up in buying all the pretty things that we forget what’s really important. Life happens to us all no matter how much we try to plan. Thank you for letting go and being honest. 🙏

[@alisonrocha19]

Thank you for sharing this. You sound like you were listening to parts of my therapy session yesterday. The timing of this video feels like a blessing. You are enough and you are one person who has the right to decide what is truly important to your mental health. Make YOU a priority. Let go of guilt. 💛💛💛

[@eivetjafrasenja]

Thank you for sharing. I think many people feel this way, some more some less. Some all year, and some in periode. My mom use to say, creative people ofthen have this issues. Creative people are more senitive, we see others and care. We worrie more. It is a good thing to be open and share like you do, not only for yourself but also for others who have same issues.

[@gma904]

Loved this video discussion along with the added cuteness of Bumble’s pitter pats back and forth playing catch ☺️🥰

[@launaford4185]

You are an amazing lady! I appreciate everything you do. I appreciate you being open and vulnerable. You are amazing! Thank you once again.

[@PlanningwithBumble]

thank you so much

[@step4delta862]

Girllllll, we are Wonder Twins!!! I have to tell myself to live in each moment. I use to skip moments for big events and I missed a lot of moments rushing through to "check things off" trying to accomplish the BIG thing. Live each moment, sis! ❤

[@stephanieblake4618]

I have always felt like I am the only person that has these same feelings/issues. Because of being a perfectionist...I don't get anything done. House, ( I want it to be clutter free & peaceful but...) stickers/Planners, (but I keep buying because I love them..then beat myself up for the money I spend & not putting them in my planners) There is so much more..I've always been a list maker..and nothing becomes of it. Thank you so much Mary Ellen for this video. I will try & stop beating myself up..but also continue to make changes.

[@PlanningwithBumble]

Yep you sound like me.

[@dawnhawkins9719]

Right there with you lady. I have great plans and vision....never get anything done. I need Sheldon Cooper to clean my house 😝😝😝

[@yesiamsharon]

Yes!!! Same

[@elenasigman07]

Same! It’s helpful to hear that someone else feels the same and understands. ❤️

[@launaford4185]

Wow! Thank you so much! I needed to hear this. Thank you! Thank you! Thank You!

[@christinejones2235]

This video actually brought tears to my eyes. I feel seen. I don’t wish the overwhelming self-doubt or frustration with my lack of perfection on anyone, but it’s almost healing to know it’s not just me. ❤️ You’re one of my favorite creators on this platform and your transparency is part of that reason.

[@afrikurl]

This is a much needed conversation. Perfectionists are often all or nothing. I have also struggled with cleaning my whole life. I have found a system that works for me. But it challenges me not to be perfect. About the socks. I get it. All of my socks are black. Underwear too. It just makes my life easier. There’s a lot of stuff I just don’t do anymore. I donated all of my plates because I don’t want to do dishes. I told my friends that I don’t want to do gift exchanges anymore. How folks respond is not your concern. Maybe you can get a virtual assistant or a manager to take some of these responsibilities off off your plate. Your kids might be perfect for this.

[@sbrown8937]

Oh, Mama, Let me just say, you are not alone. I feel you. I actually do have Adhd and I am in a icky (health) season right now as well. I am keeping a gratitude journal, and remembering that comparison is the thief of joy...that helps me so much with my icky seasons. Talking it through helps so much. Social media gets very heavy. I am so sensitive to others opinions as well. There is no doubt about that. Sometimes we need a break and to just step away for a moment or day or so if you can. Sending❤❤❤((( hugs))) and so much peace to you. (Not sure if this is a recent video, I forgot to look at the date. I do hope you are feeling better now.) I think you're on the right track minimizing things with your lists! I do that too and it helps. You do what you have to do for your mental emotional health your true supporters will understand and if they don't, then they are not your people and you don't need them. As a person with adhd, myself, I don't know how you manage all of this...but I do appreciate your work and thank you for all that you do. That is such a pretty page, btw!😊

[@tiggrrr007]

Thank you for being vulnerable and open. I haven’t been planning too long and the reason I am following you is because I appreciate your creativity, I like your style and it inspires me with my planning. I don’t know what the planner community drama is but I will say I enjoy you and appreciate you and from what I can tell I like you! Not every planner I’ve found on KZbin is one I personally enjoy but they aren’t my style and it’s ok. Everyone who is here appreciates who you are and what you do. Thank you!! ❤️

[@yesiamsharon]

Excellent video. I'm in my mid-50's and I'm so much more content with how I view myself and life. It took time but getting there is possible!! And drama is a big no for me. People think everyone wants to die on the same hill and that's so far from reality. I honestly never mind Bumble's version of participating in your planning lol. I had a Yorkie for 15 years and I miss him beyond words. Side note: I have Crohns and titanium in my neck and so on but dang I'm content.

[@BaggoBites]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I have some of my own, but feel free to disregard should they not be helpful currently. I think its important to recognize that happiness is incredibly individual, it looks different for everyone. For you happiness may be about peace and contentment. For me, happiness is about authenticity and care. I spent the vast majority of my life hiding and being hidden, so for me I value stepping out of boxes and living fully and unapologetically. It sounds like you value security and comfort. This doesn't mean that either one of us doesn't care about the other things, and neither priority is wrong, my point here is that there's no formula for happiness that will work for everyone. Another thing I want to mention that a lot of what you talked about felt, to me, like rationalizing depression. I am no professional, but my point with this is that I think it may be helpful for you to see a professional therapist. I know for me it has helped immensely to be able to process with an objective third party, and to get tools and strategies to improve myself and my situation. I truly believe therapy can be a useful tool for anyone. I hope you'll consider it as a part of your journey. I also heard you talk a lot about your adhd and anxiety. Its important to realize that you are more than just those two things. We all are so much more than the sum of our parts. As someone who struggles with chronic depression and anxiety and has adhd that was diagnosed late, I know how easy it is to define ourselves by these things, but its dangerous I think to define ourselves and others by any one thing. I do love how much of this video is a permission slip to yourself to release what you need to release and to be as you are. I love that. I also want to remind you to not only release things but to also invite in what you need in order to thrive, whatever thriving looks like for you. You mentioned multiple times this idea of focusing on what you'll remember on your death bed. To some extent, I love this. Its a great way to release anxiety and it sounds like it's been helpful for you which is amazing and I'm so glad your letting yourself do what is helpful. I would also mention though, to not let this idea of focusing on the wonderful things that will matter later hinder your ability to celebrate and look for the things that matter to you now. You matter just as much now as you will later. I've been writing this while watching and there's so much more I could say but I want to end here with a few gentle reminders for you and for anyone who makes it to the end of this monstrosity of a KZbin comment. You matter, no more and no less than anyone else. You are worthy, of love and happiness. You are enough, just as you are. All of these things will be true as you change and grow as we all do over time. Thank you for making space for my thoughts, be sure to make space for your own as well. Best wishes.

[@Antarctica_leo]

Wow, awesome perspective. Think it’s helpful to a lot of us here, it will be me, going to reflect on it.

[@PlanningwithBumble]

Thank you ❤️

[@isgromance2012]

I just started following subscribing and watching your videos this morning. Then this video was played next. I am trully sorry for your loss, I can feel and hear the pain on your voice but also how strong you are. You are one of my top hero females!!! 🎉❤ Happy new 2023 and new you! I am taking deep breath relaxing and listening and watching you!!

[@PlanningwithBumble]

Thank you, This was actually the week before my son died

[@tiffanymcghee4184]

Loved this video! Just listened as I washed my dishes … needed to hear this today! Thank you for putting your honest thoughts out there because I relate to everything you said…You are not alone!

[@kristina4272]

Thank you so much. I am bipolar, and my medications keep me very level, no ups and downs. But you made me realize that I am HAPPY! And have been for years. Again, thank you.

[@PlanningwithBumble]

Yes!!!

[@caycollie8284]

OH MY GOODNESS Mary Ellen!!!! I have SO been feeling the same way❣️❣️❣️😩 Stressed, negative, & overwhelmed, but at the same time I am grateful for my family & my life. I think it is an excellent thing to write stuff down & focus on what is good & get rid of the things that make us feel bad. I am working on this in my planners & journals. Love you & this page❣️🥰🙏🏻

[@sunflowerspirited4974]

I’m neurodivergent as well and I really felt for a lot of what you said! I really liked your philosophy on happiness and being in a state of contentment. I also liked your thoughts on the self help community and how toxic it can be. I’m already amazing and I don’t need some book to make me a better person lol. We need to shift our perspectives on that because that kind of mindset only makes people with mental illness feel worse about themselves since sometimes we genuinely can’t change our behavior patterns - it’s how our brains are wired and it’s not our fault. Coping isn’t changing completely, it’s learning about ourselves and the way we think and living with it.

[@nbmcla2]

Often the things that are on my “give up” list are about the things I do because of what other people might think of me. I so worry about perception instead of what is really good for me. Thanks for the video.

[@PensAndAPlan]

I appreciate you 💙 Thank you so much for sharing that. Feels like you were taking about me. I’m comforted in knowing that I’m not alone. Beautiful page and wonderful idea. 😍

[@alicepr1970]

The world is as it is, negativity is away of people lashing out their own pain. Brush it off be who you are and take it one day at a time. Sending good and great vibes. Amor y paz ✌🏻 cuídate!!!

[@astablebeginning]

Thanks for sharing! I got a little choked up when your voice quivered... people are mean and hide behind social media, but a lot of people really, really like you. Keep being you and sharing your gift! I appreciate it :-)

[@thekatplans]

love love love this conversation. thank you for sharing this part of you - I can see in the comments how much its resonating with others, myself included. i deeply appreciate the "realness" of this video and your words - as a new baby planner, there seems to be a lot of artifice in the planner community and as someone who's using planning to deal with anxiety, grief and to feel like i have control, it's videos and messages like this that make me feel less alone not being able to "do it all." so thank you for sharing this side of you, i'm so appreciative and hope you feel inspired to keep having conversations like this. 💖💖💖

[@tracyburcham7350]

I totally understand how you feel. The world today makes me want to stay home and be left alone. It’s a struggle, but we’ve got to keep on keeping on. Thanks for sharing.

[@launchinstyle]

Wow, I feel like a 33 year old version of you, Mary Ellen. I just went through a divorce this summer and am now a single mom of 2 young boys. I thought I wasn’t happy and although we don’t regret our decision, I realize how much my “pursuit of more happiness” has completely derailed my entire life and has spurred up so much anxiety about what my future looks like. All this to say, I’m so glad I found you as I’m embarking on my creative planning journey which has basically turned into a new form of therapy and self-care for me. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@lorinousen4982]

I can relate to everything you shared. I am my moms caregiver and as a result I have no energy for me or the things I need to do. Then it becomes overwhelming and I say f@ it . My life becomes a standstill. Thank you so !!!

[@jodimurar4602]

I’m sorry you’ve had a tough time within the planner community. Keep doing you; that is your gift!!!! Love watching your videos and hearing what you have to say. I often feel the same way about being overwhelmed and then not wanting to do any of it. Or caring so much what other people think or if someone is mad at me. I’ve made myself physically ill from worrying about those things. You are not alone, and thanks so much for sharing.

[@PlanningwithBumble]

Yes, I often make up scenarios in my mind thinking someone is angry and then it turns out to be completely false

[@muzzable]

This is relevant to so many of us. I think one of the reasons I’m enjoying your channel is because of your honesty as your artistry. Thank you so for sharing your life and talent with all of us.😊

[@SimpleClarityCo]

Loved this video. We have a ton in common. I suffer from searching for happiness and you just taught me something at 32. Thank you! Also I'm a worry wart and full of anxiety and crap. So I'm glad you gave me a sense of community in regards of knowing these faults and overcoming them. If we could ever have a little chat a develop a wonderful KZbin friendship that would be amazing! But thank you for being so open and allowing us to be a part of your stress cleanse 🥰

[@jennyallen1091]

Thank you for bringing up your thoughts and feelings as a single female trying to do it all. That is also me. The struggle is real, give Grace to yourself. Your words really resonated to me today. Thank you so much, you are not alone!

[@jennifer_beaulieu]

Mary Ellen, I have loved every single video of yours that I have had time to watch ever since I found you a couple years ago. I have no idea what the drama it is you spoke of recently in the planner community (because I am apparently oblivious) but I just wanted to let you know that I have always appreciated your videos, and whatever it is that you choose to talk about. I often put on your videos just to hear you talk while I am doing something else, and I peek at the spreads as I can. Your work is beautiful!

[@jeannedeveau3711]

Over the course of my 62 years I have thought and felt everything you just shared art one time or another. I've also read self-help books, sought out counseling, tried medication, and many other things; and looking back I can say what had helped me the most has been learning that Jesus loves me, not to worry about tomorrow because today has enough worries of it's own, that God prepares those He calls, and especially that His light shines in the darkness, and the darkness cannot overcome it. These thoughts have pulled me out of very deep despair and healed my heart of brokenness, grief and self-condemnation. I am praying that you will also find comfort in the Scriptures and in the peace and joy that I truly have learned can only be found in Jesus.

[@kathielightfoot1380]

My Mom taught me “First things first”. You can tell yourself this in every category life gives you. This is why I love brain dumps or “feeling” brain dumps. Brain dumps help with letting go. Also, and especially in the social media arena tell yourself “it’s none of my business what others think about me”. It really helps. Most people are projecting how they feel on to others so they can feel better about themselves. Lastly, happiness comes from within. It’s not all the outer things in the world. I raised a child with extreme ADHD and it was very important to me to teach him that ADHD is not a bad thing. It’s not an excuse either. There’s many wonderful things about a person with ADHD. I built up his self esteem. ADHD people generally have low self esteem. But also know ADHD people are also some of the most intelligent people. They have a lot to offer the world. Just like you who shares your creativity. It’s really important to learn to love who you are and all the wonderful things about yourself. When you become your own best friend you will have your happiness. I adore you MaryEllen! I love your content and you’re my favorite planner babe! It really saddens me to see you struggle because you are so gifted. You are amazing! You are loved by so many! I know I’m a year behind on seeing this but sometimes we still need reminded that we are enough. You are enough and you are a talented wonderful lady! Don’t forget that. ❤

[@jodihanzak3137]

You are such an amazing, inspirational person. I will tell you, you absolutely are not alone. I can totally relate to everything you said. You are in my prayers!

[@PlanningwithBumble]

❤️❤️❤️

[@patriciazimmermann5717]

I really enjoyed “our talk today” I am getting rid of guilt I put on myself when I take time for myself.

[@katpraeuner9794]

I so needed this today. I have an inward battle daily with all these things, saying no being the hardest. At 66, you'd think I'd have it a little more together. Planning for me helps me remember things I need to or want to do. It keeps me more on track than just bumbling through every day not sure what's going on. lol I keep track of where I put things in my planner so if I can't find it I can look and say, yes I cleaned and put it here. OMG! yes it's that bad some days. Part of my fibromyalgia is pain and brain fog. So some days are better than others. You are the first person I search for on you tube! That said, never feel obligated to crank out 7 videos a week. I can't imagine.... peace of mind is terribly important. And I too dislike drama and confrontations. Hate them. Avoid them at all costs. Trying to get better at speaking my mind though.

[@Antarctica_leo]

Kat, I am 61 and also thought I would be smarter by now. I’ve got the chronic illness, fibromyalgia and pain issues as do u and it’s a struggle. I’m a mess, sometimes even misplace my cell phone and have to send people msg on messenger app to please call me so I can find my phone! All we can do is 1 day at a time!

[@daphne614]

I'm a few months behind, but I appreciate your transparency SO very much. You are NOT alone. Thank you for sharing yourself. ❤

[@terrisNM]

Dangit this is a bit creepy. 99% of what you said could be me. I’m saving this to watch whenever I’m feeling alone and overwhelmed. And I’m going to do a version of this spread. I’ve been in therapy over a year and it’s helped tremendously. And reading books by Melody Beattie. And I so get the fog and loosing words, I’m 62 so it’s real. Then it got noticeably worse after c0vid ugh. Thank you!

[@PlanningwithBumble]

It’s hard for me to tell whether it’s grief, ADHD, or Covid related. I guess I’ll never know, but I’m just trying to improve it one little bit at a time.

[@terrisNM]

@@PlanningwithBumble yes, after looking thru your IG I'm sure it's a combination of all. You've certainly had a hard few years. That is why I so appreciate you sharing your thoughts and feelings, I can't imagine how hard it is to put that out there. I'm thankful YT picked that video to pop up yesterday. It is somewhat of a comfort to know I'm not the only one that just feels icky most days. Thank you again :)

[@ashleyduff8344]

Your message is so relatable. I have struggled with anxiety and perfectionism my whole life. I love this idea for creating a planner page. So creative!

[@royramsey8428]

I love - *love* - this. Such excellent, heartfelt content. Will be doing a version of this page myself this weekend. Thank you for being authentic and bold.

[@walkingwiththelord777]

That's so true about happiness and what it really is. I've been a happy type of person for several years, despite having had chronic fatigue for years but I find that I am happier now, living a simple life in an RV in the middle of the desert without any fancy stuff. I've never really been into fancy stuff anyway but I love nature and animals and the simple life.

[@clairdeluna70]

I also wanted to mention, I got the classic Spoonful of Faith and plan to use it as a self care journal. It is so lovely and peaceful, I knew immediately that was how I would use it.

[@betheppler3051]

I agree with all these comments! You are amazing! I understand exactly what you are saying. I am a all of nothing person. You're doing great! I aspire to be more like you! You will never know how helpful you are to me. I appreciate you so very much. You are changing my life! Thank you for all you do!

[@PlanningwithBumble]

Thank you thank you! That is my intention and I am glad to know something I say is helping you.

[@SereneSoul41]

Thank you for sharing from your heart, Mary Ellen. You are definitely not alone. I am a few years older than you and am battling the same mindset. Beating myself up constantly & feeling overwhelmed with life. This video really spoke to me - I am right there with you. Sometimes the best thing we can do is step back & re-group for our own well being and set new boundaries. Sending you relaxing & healing vibes. ❤️ ☮️

[@jeniferdelatorre5296]

I’m feeling you Mary Ellen! My eyes would tear up listening to you because I feel like that as well. I’m sorry you dealt with negativity. Hang in there and take time for yourself! Those weekends should be all about you, your family/friends, and taking care of yourself!

[@sondraparker1036]

I’m a fan of your planning style because you are thoughtful and creative and put pride in what you do. I’ve seen other planners slap stickers down crooked and keep moving on. You are talented and entertaining. Keep doing YOU MaryEllen!

[@grownwomanplans3929]

What a powerfully courageous message! You dropped so many gems but my favorite was about happiness being about peace/contentment versus excitement! I loved this video. I’ll still be watching no matter how many videos you post a week! ❤️🖤💚

[@JessicaLemmon]

Totally relate! Being an entrepreneur (I’m a multi-published author), there is a never-ending list of to-dos. I worry about letting down readers too, but I make sure to prioritize when I can. Your true fans will stick with you even if you don’t post on Instagram as much or miss a vid or two. Balance is a myth, or at least it comes and goes. I adore you, and your content, and I want you to know that you can prioritize yourself and be successful. You’re worth it! 💛🍋

[@PlanningwithBumble]

Thanks Jessica! Balance does come and go. It is one of my words of the year so this is part of that.

[@chevyschell7531]

Thank you for your frankness and vulnerability. I feel myself fall into depressing states, and I I don't let work suffer, but all I wanna do is sleep. I watched your wellness journal set up, I think I'm gonna start one too. Thank you for all your lovely ideas.

[@dedestaggs5093]

Letting GO...This is such a pretty page❤ I LOVE the peach and green

[@Rachellemiano]

Mary Ellen, thank you for sharing such a personal journey with us. I appreciate your honesty. I have OCD and I stress myself over so many little things… Writing out a page in my planner like this would be so helpful!! Thank you ❤️

[@planwithkellye2926]

Thanks for sharing. I’m a very all or nothing person as well. Perfectionist- sometimes. Get in a hobby and become obsessed then burn out? Check. It’s very hard.

[@tinKerBellll3]

Mary Ellen, I rarely commet but I felt I needed to say something! I only watch and follow 4 planner gals and you are one of them. I absolutely loved this video. I'm right there with you in my life of feeling completely overwhelmed. I loved this letting go page I will be making one! And can I just say that it broke my heart that people say mean things about you!!! You are a sweet sweet caring person. I can't imagine what negative things have come out of people's mouths! But I can tell you they aren't worth it! And they are not you! I'd love to see more of these videos. Self care or whatever different pages to put in your planner! Keep being you Mary Ellen! Love ya hun 😘 💗 💓 💕 💛 love, Shanon

[@zechariah4663]

I agree. More of these type of videos would be welcome!

[@buckeyethor]

I’m a perfectionist too. I nodded along with so much of what you said. Definitely hard to learn to have grace and compassion for yourself in the way you would for family and friends. That’s what I’m learning.

[@jamieb7]

Thank you for this video! I love it!! I've always learned that happiness starts within myself and then it allows me to enjoy my happiness elsewhere and with others. I'm a total NO DRAMA MAMA! Can't stand it and don't want it entering my quiet and peaceful space!🥰💜

[@sandraulerick2472]

I love when you talk about life and how honest and real you are. I feel we have so much in common with where we are in life. You help me feel like I'm not alone in how I feel and what goes through my mind. Thank you for your honesty in what you vo through and, of course, your wonderful planner spread! 💜

[@jumds]

It’s always a pleasure to listen to you and this video is no different! I could listen to you for hours. Thank you for sharing this and for being so genuine! So much of it resonates with me! Also this spread is absolutely beautiful and gives me peace. ❤️

[@sarah_not_perfect_life]

Love this !!! Thank you ❤

[@tishc5392]

This is something that I have been working on. I've been working on letting go of things that stress me out, I was literally loosing my hair. I'm not pressuring myself to get certain things done because it was robbing me of my peace and self esteem. I'm not a horrible person because I'm not perfect. So glad to hear that you're going this route, you'll be so much happier....I know I am.

[@PlanningwithBumble]

I AM losing my hair! Haha

[@walkingwiththelord777]

I love what you said about if someone doesn't like peaches it doesn't mean they're bad and it's okay if you're not for everyone. That's so true and I hadn't thought about it that way.

[@bedilliasosa4388]

Thank Mary Ellen! I really needed to hear this. I loved your spread. I might make one myself. I too am so hard on myself, I forget to give myself a break. Procrastination is self love! Take care!🥰

[@annareynolds7911]

Thanks! I needed to hear this sooo much! I came to KZbin to browse happy planner videos, because I have taken a hiatus with decorative planning for about three years now. I want to be able to slow down and enjoy things a little bit more in my planning routine. This was really timely and much appreciated.

[@scoutlaceharding]

I completely connect with the notion of "happiness is boring." I'm bipolar, so awareness of my mood state and my emotions is really important for me. "Exciting" happiness is often the result or the cause of my mood tipping in a manic direction. Lots of people enjoy hypomania but for me it takes very little for that to turn into intense anxiety and agitation- and then you crash into depression afterwards. I pretty much always have a depressive episode after a big holiday or vacation (it doesn't make those things not worth it, but man it can be frustrating). My best times are the stretches where I'm on an even keel. It lets me do the things I need to without anguish and it allows me to enjoy my hobbies. There's a clarity in that calm contentment.

[@katrinacole6741]

I so appreciate you being real about your mental health and your need for self-care. I think I've mentioned before that I am president of a small nonprofit that supports people in my community with mental illness. Coming out of this pandemic we have found an increase in anxiety. Giving us suggestions on how to deal with that and how to take care of it is phenomenal. Thank you for being such an advocate and for being so real.

[@pennybast3953]

Just one of the reasons we love Mary Ellen so much.

[@lavonnickens2883]

This was soooo helpful. I wish I had this as an outlet when I was feeling pressured and burned out from work. I realized a meltdown was coming and I felt paralyzed in the moment. Self-care is one of the hardest lessons learned this year. You expressed things I was thinking in my head. I love this spread as a form of releasing anxiety and stress.

[@vdebroeck]

Big hugs, I would recommend getting lost. Flip a quarter for every decision, car ride, walk, meals, and see where the day takes you. It taps into different parts of your brain that help release dopamine.

[@KatieKat667]

I think it’s great you opened up like this. I recently came out of a slump and I gave myself permission to do what I want to do and it was game changing. Lots of things you’re stopping I stopped forever ago. Like the socks, and emails. I hope things get better for you.

[@bearin29]

Thank you for sharing this with us. I, too, feel so overwhelmed right now, I don't even know where to start, where to continue, where to reset, where to regroup, what I could let go, where to let up, where to stop. It's all together in a big bowl that knows no end, essentially bottomless. I have already started saying "no" to things for quite some time, and that has left me with no social life, as those are the things I have been saying no to, what I feel are the only things I can sya no to in this period. It's nice to know I am not the only one, although, it certainly does feel like it sometimes. Again, thank you.