Self-destructive Narcissists and Psychopaths

[@OlympianVenus]

Sam Vaknin has helped me through very sad moments. He explains things like no one.

[@fredifeinkost1985]

True...❤

[@NicNicole808]

By far the most intelligent, knowledgeable, and engaging person I follow. I never stop learning from Sam Vaknin.

[@JemalAmos-j3n]

Very useful information that explains so well. 😂😂😢😂😢

[@SMA57880]

You get more entertaining with each passing year, lol. Love your humor..... I started watching you back in 2014 and you continue to educate me like no other. The interview with Richard Grannon about the idealization / devalue phase and how it relates to the unconditional love of the mother is absolutely brilliant, and spot on. Thank you for helping us to understand and heal.

[@forgiveyourenemiesnow]

I survived 7 suicide attempts as an adult, and contemplated suicide as a child many, many times. I am extremely self destructive but still here at the age of 41.

[@forgiveyourenemiesnow]

@@AnnA-tu3ig Thank you Ann, I am still here :-) hope you are well.

[@Tarotcooks]

You're meant to be here 😊

[@forgiveyourenemiesnow]

@@Tarotcooks thank you, I've been told that but can't figure out why I am here. These days, I live a very solitary life because most of it has been insane and difficult. I am the happiest I have ever been, wish I had a good husband to share my happiness with. Hope you are blessed and happy with your own life. 😊

[@forgiveyourenemiesnow]

@@NMTDelightfulMusic I've done mantras and affirmations for years and no longer need to. Medicine and psychiatric care helped the most. Thank you for the suggestion though 🙏🏼

[@forgiveyourenemiesnow]

@@NMTDelightfulMusic yes, it helped in the past but these days (for the last 2 years anyway), I have the mental inner peace due to getting proper help from psychologists and psychriatrists. While I did get help from new age, spiritual books, it was ultimately modern psychiatic care and medicine that helped heal the most. The other stuff helped but I would always go back onto the hamsters wheel. It was a temporary soother but no real healing happened until I got real help from modern medicine. All the best to you.

[@FedericaBressan]

This strikes me as the most brilliant lecture I have ever heard on the topic. Kudos.

[@shanelaing3464]

Thank you for the brilliant lecture Sam, I'm learning so much for your wisdom.

[@lightseba]

Most people mistakes the narcissist ego trip with self love! The hardest thing to do ,is to remind them to love themselves all the time! Thanks for sharing 🙏

[@AlisonMgggg]

"enjoys being envious of others" 24:15 😳

[@anebauer9249]

Thanks Sam. I am so massively grateful for your truthfulness. Bless you!

[@Tarotcooks]

Yes 😊

[@sandramadrigal6320]

it sucks youtub is spamming these valuable videos with 5 minute commercials every 10 mins. It makes it so hard to follow.

[@samvaknin]

Click on the Skip Ad button.

[@susiebachez]

The way you have layered out can transform, transmute anyone! It is an awakening, a feedback, a reflection and the realization of what we never were. Thank you Sam.

[@strictlyhighvibe]

Thank you "Father" Sam for all your lectures of impacable wisdom. Although I abandoned religions knowingly about 30 years ago, I´m happy to visit your channel almost every day, To quote a song from the 90s: This is my church This is where I heal my hurt...

[@cornell753]

“Father” Sam? Be careful High Vibes, parentification is linked to disorders as well. Sam is not a god nor father, and if he were, neither he nor any other god or father knows best.

[@lingrajbpattur7777]

I have survived narcississtic abuse by my wife…even after 3 years of No Contact still I feel revengeful becoz she is hurting my children by alienating them from me and sabotaging their childhood . Why are there no laws to identify such narcissists and isolating them from healthy people when there is so much researched evidence of such disorders.Police and courts did not act on my complaint of my wife’s NPD… Thanks sir your videos are great n life saving Namaste from India 🇮🇳

[@oscarvazquez869]

I can identify completely with your comment, it seems to me that removing the fathers physically and emotionally from their children is the best interests of this society, they also want to destroy the fathers so they don’t come back , it’s about money and control, they don’t care about the kids but use them . It’s sad !!!!!

[@amyedwards1215]

Every psychopathic, narcissistic, abusive father is claiming his ex is a narcissist and has alienated him from the children.

[@chad7789]

She's grooming your kids to be pathological lying narcissists just like her.

[@zarinabostan7753]

This lecture is so intense. I had to stop and will come later again.

[@josegonzalez-np7oz]

Ur work will change the world !! I did not realize I had done tht thank you

[@TH-vj1pt]

One of the most excellent of your videos. Thank you.

[@andrewcerrone4096]

Amazing video you are helping me so much thank you

[@fivenighsatgirls3291]

charming and full of humor, great Sam Vaknin

[@nin3755]

Such a relief from the click bait trash

[@SB-zk9dn]

Wow Sam Vaknin, thanks for that direct hit, brilliant.

[@shawn1582]

If I'm saying yes to a lot of these things, and manically laughing, I think its a step in the right direction... I've been there. Its a dark reality to live in

[@boblee2682]

I hope you see this would you please make a video helping young men who are recovering from narcissistic abuse from there fathers

[@noweifog5011]

Seconding this

[@chris-vo1nh]

No Contact was solution at 58 , my mental health and life is be much better , work on self work , awareness live the kindness best life your can

[@boblee2682]

@@chris-vo1nh thank you very much

[@mariabolla5032]

Thank you Sam.

[@sitascott8446]

I appreciate your covering these topics.

[@Tarotcooks]

Very intelligent guy 👍

[@tryingnottobeafallenorforg4029]

it feels like shit when you were at the top then you have so much anxiety you can’t go outside

[@boblee2682]

thank you for your videos

[@yourpetyourway]

My narcs are ALL family members and I'm suing them over my grandpa's will. I'd like to hear more about narcissists who aren't man and wife.

[@ЛанаЛана-э1ц]

Моя любовь Сем Вакнин!

[@active96]

Deep down they know who did what and that's all i care about

[@kim_yong_un]

My narc is selfdestructive, it’s hard to deal with. I’m so tired of trying to support him through his own stupidity. He’s an alcoholic, it makes it all unbearable. His bordie mom endulges him in opportunistic behaviour and expects me to do the same; i do believe now she doesn’t really want him to heal. She just wants him to remain dependant on her to control all aspects of his life. And he wants to keep his mommy around to buffer the consequenses of his behaviour. He recently started using her as a weapon against me. I know she’s not stupid and it seems to give her pleasure to degrade me. I started keeping distant from her, i am pondering how to deal with him and their situationship. Their relationship and dynamic is quite unhealthy. My respect for his mother and their “bond” is ruined, i remain polite but i start feeling disgust. I need to stay away from this freakshow.

[@chad7789]

Get away! Mommy/son narcs feed off each other's bull shit, niether will ever accept responsibility for anything they do. Pathological liars both of them.

[@DevoidVoid]

Sounds like youre the narc deflecting and in denial, and are devaluing your object rn. Youre the problem 🤷

[@renee4882]

They decline truth and reality.

[@Dominatorforex]

No one willing to do hard work any more. Check out how everyone is looking for easy money. How can we expect people to work on themselves if they trying to escape any hardship in reality by all costs. Mental sickness grows directly from how much free time you have on your hands. If you don’t occupy your mind with activities that help others to live better lives then your life will become more difficult to the point of failure and mental illness. This is clearly seen from inmates experience if you get locked up for very long periods and you just sit there with nothing to do, you will get mentally unstable and ill. The only way to avoid is to keep your mind occupied with useful activities- books, crafts etc.

[@Michael-cb3uw]

I think it's reasonable people skimp out on construction jobs and warehouse jobs where joint erosion and physical threats can be common and serious. Who cares about the lack of safety and genuine well-being for the working class anyways

[@chillywilly4126]

Timely topic

[@annamariagoldschmied2592]

Thank you!

[@trutilldef]

Can you talk more about interpersonal hostility and interpersonal offensiveness?

[@alisawinn171]

You have saved me from my own sense of well being, as toxic as could be. Thank you.

[@stixsta6007]

This public trial is the first time, since experiencing first hand narcissist behaviour and its impacts, which your self and Mr Grannon were most helpful in exiting. Taking away the celebrity aspect, it's been a weird education in law, because thankfully I never had to take the stand. What an experience that would have been, who knows?

[@tryingnottobeafallenorforg4029]

i have done the cycle 6 times and it’s hard to let go

[@Dailyprophet777]

So how does one stop punishing others because they are not meeting ones needs Sam Is there a way out of this because its only stopping my growth?

[@JoseCastro-nr8pm]

Make one on silent treatment

[@itsamerrylife9128]

Victimhood does not only belong to the narcissist does it?

[@tryingnottobeafallenorforg4029]

how do you stop this downfall everything you say is right.. how do you stop from losing touch with reality

[@alisongreene2354]

Did I hear you correctly when you said there is no such thing as emotional flashbacks? So you disagree with Pete Walker? Can you do a video on your claim?

[@samvaknin]

Can you search the channel?

[@ЛанаЛана-э1ц]

Это правда

[@spencilvania]

stop calling me out, man lol. jk, good to see you, sir

[@RalucaDit]

Why in the adult relationship the narcissist doesn t give anything in return for the love and affection, if it is transactional? thanks

[@alisachaise3]

Control he did what he needed to hook you and believe he no longer needs to anymore onto the devaluation stage then discard

[@HerbertGoldstein-gy3gy]

@@alisachaise3 dont borderlines do the same?

[@AnimosityIncarnate]

​​@@HerbertGoldstein-gy3gy no, but bpd can be co-morbid. Only narc/psychopaths discard 🤷 BPD is more likely to be extremely anxiously needy, like Cover narcs.

[@sharonmcclintock6727]

Both narc and psych disgard. But a psych will leave after a long term relationship...or a short one...no matter, as a theif in the night. It was just a fantasy and you have only played a role in it. No more. The narc may leave like a theif in the night. But a psych will have no issue with you waking up to them having just...gone. A narc will de-value you first. Psych...just disappears with no looking back or concern for you...ever. They are done. A narc...no matter his past behaviors, will in some situations attempt to hoover you back into their fantasy as a source of supply for them once again....another cycle. This is my understanding.

[@matthewolson3309]

Interesting all the way through ,if you could disguise the title it could be a Hallmark movie. But it seems to be working I’ve seen over 90% of your stuff. Your almost family.

[@yasmineelmarini345]

Being in an comfortzone means feeling pain🤯 how

[@chiliart8056]

This sounds like me.

[@mauj2844]

Prof Vaknin one question, can a secondary psychopath become a primary psychopath via mortification / collapse and other way round? Cheers!

[@samvaknin]

No.

[@mauj2844]

Thank you.

[@claudeducharme2490]

@@mauj2844 ok

[@JoseCastro-nr8pm]

Thank you Dr. Vaknim I used your teachings in my school assignments as white people used paprika

[@maryfrances1307]

Funniest thing I’ve read today.

[@JoseCastro-nr8pm]

Does you tube has a better Boton than like?

[@Marta-ct6lr]

XD love it to .... to listen about my ex-border-boyfriend how he is going towards all those things that will make him more and more incurable sth-being XD justice does exist

[@truthteller1973]

Thank you💜