Self Indulgence: How Much Does It Cost To Love Yourself? - Inner Work Library [172/500]

[@jordanthornton]

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[@lauradelafuente6173]

“Does this heal my heart and does this sanctify my soul?” A great question to ask ourselves before we fall into indulgence. 🔑

[@wownicole81]

I've been repeating that quote a lot! I love it.

[@Xtreme_Buddha]

If you would have posted this video 5 minutes later, i would have indulged in some popcorn, and not in the good way 😉 Synchronisticly, i just happened to finish writing and reflecting upon indulgence when the video appeared. I have a feeling this message will resonate with me for the rest of my life, as they say "Once you see, you can't unsee." To discern between the positve and negative polarity of indulgence is perhaps the most important message i've received in a long time. Thank you🙏

[@jordanthornton]

If today’s video leaves a lifelong impression, then I’ll take that compliment as sincere. Stay steady in your leisure, brother.

[@Xtreme_Buddha]

@@jordanthornton It was intended as so, keep up the good fight brother. Now time to relax... with boundaries 😎

[@meshavillar]

This 😭 Hope you never get tired of hearing a "thank you" from me. Love you brother

[@william_griffin]

"I'm indulging in an organic carrot" this might be your best quote yet! 😂👏👏

[@jordanthornton]

Man… need to get this shadow under control, it’s starting to get out of hand brother 🥕

[@MaknaEXMachina]

It's also helpful to be able to identify one's indulgences, something I didn't realize I struggled with until I watched this. I thought back to how I'd buy some random tasty snack at work for lunch, where I wasn't totally hungry but I just wanted to play with a new flavor for the heck of it. "I'm working, it's time for my break so why don't I indulge?" That consideration never crossed my mind...in that way. It was always passive and benign to me, but I just didn't notice it. Recently I've also been binging a KZbin comedy channel, video after video with years worth of content that perfectly matches my present comedic taste. I didn't see any reason to limit myself so I just kept going, without even considering the level of indulgence. Thank you Jordan, I'll be more mindful about things which I previously viewed as just something I "passively" did. Awareness implies feeling every moment, and not letting hours of one's day blur for the sake of random, meaningless pleasure.

[@ThePathOfEudaimonia]

Oooh, David Graeber. I would not expect to see his books on this channel. R.I.P. to this great and interesting comrade. Thanks for the video. Seeing self-love as both self-respect and self-compassion. Does it heal the heart, and does it sanctify the soul? I love it. Liking and commenting as an offer to the Gods of the Algorithm.

[@jordanthornton]

Yes, the book was very enjoyable and insightful - might check out more of his work 🌲

[@yinglan9606]

Insightful angle to come at indulgence… interesting. Thank you!

[@jordanthornton]

Thank you, always 🌲

[@michellesecrett1]

You trigger me! Thats good. You help me see the parts of myself I need to look at. Thank you.

[@jordanthornton]

Thank you for being here in the triggering, you got that ability to trigger and then transform ✌🏻

[@TheWasthereonce]

I've been thinking about this too. I think part of it is what role neglect plays in the approach. Is the action being taken truly in your best interest? Also weighing the timescale of the consequences is important, because for example it may feel good to eat a chocolate bar within a minute, but you may not have the foresight to understand how that could give you a stomach ache or how it could affect your health. And the repetition of those small choices may seem like a good idea each time you do it, like you are appreciating yourself, but the real consequences over time will speak against those justifications. I see real self-love is compassion and respect like you said, and being able to map out a longer timespan for the actions taken. It starts to juxtapose discipline and self control with hedonism and impulsiveness, relating that juxtaposition to another which is self-love with self-indulgence. I think part of true self love is being able to be uncomfortable (sacrificing the comfort of who you are) to be able to do what is beneficial for yourself. Having some level of growth within the context of loving yourself instead of ignoring or shielding yourself from your own feelings, perhaps as some sort of attuning to who we really are.

[@jordanthornton]

Fantastic reflections here, thank you for taking the time to share some of your insights here - great first paragraph especially 🌲

[@madhuryabalan4118]

Fantastic, Jordan. Your intuition is spot on. I sense a difference in the style of content and delivery and celebrate it as a receiver. It 'pushes' me as a student.

[@jordanthornton]

New era has begun, here we go ✌🏻

[@JemmaLouise-p9j]

Thanks!

[@VictoriaCoachEspiritual]

Always a pleasure hearing your lectures 🥰 Thank you Jordan!

[@jordanthornton]

Thank you for being here ✌🏻

[@seppukuhiphop]

When the clouds are removed, the sun shines forth.

[@jordanthornton]

🌲☀️

[@chrischurcher2326]

Amazing video Jordan! The gesture towards self-love really reminds me of the act of Will in psychosynthesis which I've been working with this year. Something I practice is first making the decision neutral and stripping away any narratives between act A and act B, and then feeling into what the 'right' one is ie. which feels more 'self-loving'. Your concept of compassion and respect is something which really helps me in this process but often it's a process easily ignored when really deep into your concept of debt.

[@jordanthornton]

Beautiful engagement with the everyday practice of decision making here, I like your style.

[@Akashb71]

Sometimes, when you dearly seek to know the truth... it does find its way to you, thru' a video maybe. Thank you

[@gailaltschwager7377]

Thank you, Jordan! It's all about balance.

[@jordanthornton]

🌲✌🏻

[@primaballerina84]

Indulging in sobriety ❤ wonderful. I should start thinking about it in that way. I've been clean and sober for 10 years and I should indulge in my sobriety a bit more🙏🏻 😉 Interesting with your dive into financial history, have you read about "debt saturation"?

[@jordanthornton]

Enjoy the healthy indulgence there!

[@tybowesformerlygoat-x7760]

How about 'rest'? It costs time (and so, money). Is it pleasure? Is it indulgence? To answer these questions seems to require a 'pure' choice, and so seem to highlight this issue.

[@jordanthornton]

No fully right or perfect answers for these questions it seems!

[@nontrivialhuman6732]

My ADHD brain wondering if there might’ve been a deeper meaning for the band “Mindless Self Indulgence.” 🤔

[@Ivy-o6p]

On the topic of sensory indulgence, what are your thoughts on personality typing? I've always felt like im an INFJ and somewhere on the axiom of having a dominate Ni intuition and weak Se sensory experience. Im somewhere on the INFJ/ENFJ spectrum myself, but I think the lack of one particular cognitive thing leads to compulsion on the other side of the axiom. I guess everything in moderation, including moderation, is something i learned that I resonate with. I don't mind indulging my introversion even if it means an era of over-indulgence in extroversion

[@jordanthornton]

Personality typing isn’t something I focus on myself, not my area of expertise but I see value there for some people 🌲

[@7erruckte5till3]

I feel like having weak sensational preference is due to dissociation in a way. I believe as humans we inherently use all of our dimensions, bodily, emotional, rational and spiritual, to have a fuller and more fulfilling existence. If you are more dominant on one side than the other, to the extent that it creates such an imbalance then that's dangerous and paralyzing, and certainly due to a coping mechanism of sorts. If I'm correct, Jung used such typology not to "categorize" people but to find which areas one ought to work on to attain individuation.

[@Ivy-o6p]

@7erruckte5till3 yes, in the more advanced typology channels, they talk more about the cognitive functions and how they might toggle and develop throughout life. It's less about categories and more about distinctions for development. Although, many people use the tool in the categorical way which Jung didnt believe in.. Different "personality types" might be more prone to introverted dissociation as a default, wheras some might be more prone to extroverted impulsively as a default. A tool, not an identity

[@ZeldaFromTheTerrahawks]

This channel reminds me of @PsychodynamicPsychology - the male version. Similar mood to the videos. 🙂

[@jordanthornton]

Ah yes, I’ve exchanged some comments on Alina’s channel - found her few months back and her videos introduced me to Karen Horney. She’s great at what she does 🌲