Self Love and How to Achieve It (Real Advice)

[@AshaChristinaFoster]

THANK YOU TO EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU FOR OVER 12k !!!! You guys have no idea how much you all have changed my life. I cry tears of joy at the thought of how amazing each and everyone of you is! Thank you for believing in me ! LETS GET THIS VIDEO TO 1,000 likes !!!! And our next goal is 15k Angels !!!! Let’s do this ! 💕

[@corazonspeaks]

You're simply amazing. Your channel is doing so well. Could you please make a video on how you grow your channel within this short time. 🙏

[@AshleeRoss]

2/22/19 22,000 👈🏾🎉

[@AshleeRoss]

Edit: 23,000 wow 😮 👑🙏🏾🦋💥

[@daneillewagner8507]

I just love how your voice give me that " it's okay, I'm here " vibe . Your voice sounds so relaxing 😊😢 I just love you ❤❤❤❤❤

[@daphneepaul3737]

I’m glad you say that. To love myself I decide to 1) create a vision board 2) listen to Les Brown motivational speeches 3) wake up at 3:30 am everyday and get 1 hr at the gym. 3) write down my goals for the day 4) block all of my exes and guys who don’t text back 5) listen to you and Sheraseven1 on KZbin 6) stop watching TV or the news or love and hip hop or get in Facebook or tinder. 7) seeing a male therapist

[@ToxicWaste991]

Yess I love Sheraseven1

[@trecyyyyy3691]

Awesome !! Thanks for the ideas

[@bruciavernellenkima6074]

Also read self improvement books. It will help you

[@ms.b2220]

can we do it together? if you don't mind

[@svenja1174]

Why a male therapist?

[@JulietNifemi]

Asha is the finest sis ever ,if you agree with me like this comment

[@39JayL]

I definitely agree with you. I liked your comment. I was #45. lol

[@lindalovehearts]

agreed

[@luulips]

It’s so important to study yourself. Most of my life has been about other people’s needs and wants. Now that all of my immediate family has passed away and I have had to distance myself from the people I thought were good friends I finally am taking or even forced to look at myself and get to know myself. Its a rough process especially at my age but I’m gonna do it. With God I know I can.

[@AshaChristinaFoster]

yes babe you will get through it !!! you are strong ❤️

[@lindaalice6137]

I really love doing a face mask at LEAST once a week as well as a hair mask. I put lotion on an perfume everyday after I shower and I keep a clean room/house and it really helps my mood.

[@kxenia7852]

Thank youu!

[@kathydorismond4238]

GIRRRRRLL I just turned 20 and I knew I wanted to improve my self but did not know how. And this video just CLEARED everything up for me. My 20's Motto is self- LOVE, self- DISCIPLINE, self- IMPROVEMENT, and self- DISCOVERY. And don't worry I am DEFINITELY going to write it out big and PLASTER it in my room. U help me every time you post. KEEP GOOOOOOOOOOING

[@daphneepaul3737]

kathy dorismond exactly. People always say LOVE YOURSELF but they never told you how. But she just did. Yes about your plans and plastering t in your room. I just create da huge vision board I’m getting it laminated tomorrow and put it on my ceiling so when I sleep at night I can stare at it before closing my Keyes and it will be the first thing I see when I wake up.

[@kathydorismond4238]

@@daphneepaul3737 yaaaasssss girl that sounds amazing I think I am going to do that tooo

[@erigtv380]

absolutely needed this, i’ve tried and tried to “just love myself” and “love myself before i love someone else” but ITS HARD. it’s so much easier said than done. again, i needed this

[@suras8984]

@Eriana George .... meditation is huge in attaining/feeling and inner love and peace. If you do it every day you will never feel better I promise you. Even just finding a guided meditation on youtube. There are so many things you can do in the external world to make you feel great but this is the one thing you can do from within and the results are almost immediate.

[@cothciepie]

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[@cothciepie]

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[@supermanfan1315]

She forgot to add: Enjoy The Process. In the beginning it’ll be difficult and hard to figure out but in about 9 months when you notice a big difference from where you were, you’re gonna smile because you’ve gotten the hang of it and know you can only get better from there. You’ll become the best version of yourself, and you did it for you. And you’ll love being selfish. Whoever destroyed you, you’ll never feel that anymore 💕

[@daphneepaul3737]

I’m so happy you made this vid cause people always say “you need to love yourself” but they never tell you HOW to do it.

[@SisandaCJ]

RIGHT! I actually made a video recently based on the HOWm I, too was tiref of love yourself without showing me how

[@nalbantovanikol1]

Shes just smart and knows people want those direct little options "WHAT EXACTLY TO Do". Thats how the human brain works. Subscribe for sure!

[@Shanta_barron_]

If y’all don’t feel good talking to a therapist or can’t afford it 🙋‍♀️ just write down your problem *bonus if you write a solution. Now throw it away, PRAY your worries to God and tell him that you leave it to him. Lastly have faith and move on.

[@birdie1086]

Yes girl I love what you said❤️❤️

[@daphneepaul3737]

Is it good to talk to a male therapist about men problems?

[@shaniceshanice1191]

Yes give it to God.

[@Shanta_barron_]

BabyGirl Thank you

[@Shanta_barron_]

daphnee paul Do what ever you feel that works best for you. Not mine or anyone’s opinion, start making these decisions yourself to feel more empowering 💕.

[@daphneepaul3737]

You have nice teeth and you talk very articulately

[@theladybossempress4997]

My teeth are out of place. I don't smile.

[@gracelikerain5039]

@@theladybossempress4997 mine are too i smile

[@yolounironically8200]

Cool Nyce please remember to smile :)

[@onelife5302]

Laugh, smile , enjoy life and stay away from those who bring you down.

[@officialnormag]

I'm going through such a hard time right now and your videos are literally opening my mind and saving me. Thank you thank you.

[@sairaailia8691]

Asha c, is firm but fair. Straight to the point. The way she speaks to her audience, is very "hey ladies, you're flowers...But you STILL haven't blossomed, and here's why! 😾". She doesn't request us to like/subscribe her videos, she just comes on, and is like "hey guys...Fix up". These are the type of KZbinr's I subscribe to. I'll be praying for this girl, imagine the millions of females she's helping through her advice. 💓💗💖💝God bless her and her loved ones, Ameen.

[@tinaweekes2988]

Very impressive...as a mental health Professional I second all the comments stating that you should come into the profession! Keep up the good work, I admire your drive.

[@ShereseNicole]

It's so so important to envision your ideal life, write things down and review it daily📝 great vid girl

[@miumiu8394]

I trust you people to be vulnerable enough to admit these things I will list : so I'm 20 y / college student / from a middle class family but always wanted to upgrade in the social ladder / well spoken and smart / cute / ambitious / active YET I have issues I never felt that I can rely on anyone besides my mum even my dad as he does not understand the importance of being there for your child and giving him/her love. my heart breaks a little every time I see my mum sad because of my dad's behaviour and cheating. growing up knowing that you'll end up cheated on no matter how loving you'll be is sad. my mum raised me good and my dad terrorised to stay out of trouble so here I'm trouble free / educated and respected by others. when it comes to boys I'm the worst at asking for stuff and being spoiled ( I don't ask my dad for stuff so I'm used to having my needs ignored by males ) and I settle for way less than I deserve. now i want to be spoiled and cherished but I don't want to give my body in exchange ( men want sex 99% of the time ) . I feel like I'm stuck in the pick me / bob the builder / 50% role !!!! HELP ME

[@daphneepaul3737]

mar iem.k me too. I graduated from college. I have a nice body and I’m a good person. So you would think I get what I want. Nope. My self esteem is so low that I dated homeless men, men with mental issues, men who work at Berger king. Men with kids. All I want is to date someone who is in the same level as me. Someone who has at least a high school diploma. So you see? I’m not asking for much right? But these types never talk to me. So I just settle for the homeless, McDonald worker and so on. Iike you, my dad never helped me either so I’m used to do things for myself. Even when I go on a date I’m expected to pay for my half of the date. None of the guys I’ve dated ever paid for my meal or my movie ticket. I just want a guy who’s gonna pay for dinner and spoil me. But it has yet to happen. Like you said, in order to get spoiled by these rich men you have to give up the goodies. I guess that’s y I settle for dusties. Becaus at the end of the day they can’t dare to ask to sleep with me cause they don’t do shit for me. I can easily cuss them out. Whereas a rich one expects you to have sex with them in exchange for them spoiling you. And of course they’re usually old men. I would feel disgusted sleeping with a guy 30 years my senior. So I don’t know what to do. Date dusties and keep my sex or date old rich men and give my body.

[@miumiu8394]

+daphnee paul we're in this together add me on insta mariem.km

[@badgyalsia]

mar iem.k literally cried reading this cause I’m going through the same thing.

[@yasminchowdhury3909]

use what you want as motivation to not settle for anything your not happy with you know your mum hasn't been treated right now you know and seen exactly what you don't want so as soon as u see someone else trying to do that to you LEAVE. enrich your life with hobbies and goals keep yourself busy so the good men will chase you instead of you chasing them

[@miumiu8394]

@@yasminchowdhury3909 sending you love

[@daphneepaul3737]

Asha you should be a psychologist/therapist for women. You mentioned you went to college. Did you major in psychology or social work?

[@tinaweekes2988]

As a mental health professional...yes I Agree! She's amazing! Good advice!

[@ronniec99]

2 seconds into the video and I already want to hug you. so much compassion and loving kindness!! ♥

[@AshaChristinaFoster]

Awwwwww 😆🥰

[@maybetomorrow561]

this video came at the right time ❤️

[@kierrabazilio4254]

Liyahboo for real though 👏🏾

[@jackyneves9199]

Can you please make an video about how to have an closer relationship with god 🙌🏾

[@kimoyauthurs84]

Read the Bible and pray for direction

[@badgalkia10]

You are such an inspiration! Sometimes I feel as if God is speaking to me thru you 🙌🏾

[@AshaChristinaFoster]

Omgosh wow I felt this !!!! I’m just a vessel I always ask God to help me help you ladies !!! Tell me what to say, and guide me so that you all can receive it in love and grow and be the best you 🧡

[@parispeony23]

@@AshaChristinaFoster you're doing a wonderful job, we thank you 🥰🙏

[@karolinausar8902]

Asha, just need to let you know- of course your content is always incredible but I want to really applaud you for the way you speak, use phrases, how magnetic of a speaker you are. I recently led a presentation (webinar) on a topic that I am very passionate about and it was recorded. Then I rewatched and it was full of repetitions, monosyllables, weird pauses and overall not as great as I thought I did. I know it’s different when it’s live but you are truly an inspiration with the way you speak!

[@jessicasantiago279]

🗣️Asha girrrlllll. Yassss. Cheers to being connected to God and yourself. Testify sis 🙌. Ladies don't be afraid of these tests that come your way. Pass or fail you learn and add to that gold print you leave and pass on to your daughters sisters friends. And she's right when you are completely aligned mind body and soul...look out!!!! You just glow so different. It's that inner peace that God in you that no one can touch. Another good vid A.

[@halleanne8826]

I’m having a difficult time obtaining motivation to do these things mentioned. I know I probably need to, yet I’m so drained mentally I can’t find any drive. I’m still extremely young; almost 18. I know myself mostly, but still have areas of unknowns. I wish I could turn those obligations into passions but it’s becoming more and more difficult. I don’t know what to do anymore.

[@suras8984]

Find a guided meditation on youtube and meditate. It will change your life.

[@ginalienn1112]

Beautiful message Asha ❤️ Writing is my passion and I aspire to be an author. Your words came at the right time to help me not give up on that goal. Thank you 🙏🏽 ❤️

[@gingermorgan1650]

This is so beautiful and spot on! I love Asha!! ❤️

[@skindippedingold]

I'm new to your channel and I must say that I really enjoy your content. I'm 31 currently and I have been obsessed with self improvement since I've turned 30. I think everyone has the potential to be great but working on oneself first is crucial. Your videos are a very helpful component in my journey.

[@marystefanyalegre4932]

You are my inspiration. Thank you for all your videos

[@AshaChristinaFoster]

You’re so sweet thank you so much ♥️♥️♥️

[@ekaterinaveleva5386]

I felt the urge to tell you, how inspiring you are for me, I just feel this loving and encouraging energy that helps me a lot getting through my anxiety period. Right now you are my magical force that helps me love myself and be happy without a relationship!!!🙌🏻🥰🙏I love you, thank you for everything and never stop inspiring people, because your voice matters! ❤️❤️

[@maitrivlogs3060]

I literally saw one video and subscribed right away because I needed ur girl power to help me for the rest of my life

[@nalbantovanikol1]

I love your directness. You'r so smart and caring! Those kind of people are real :} thank you, long ago had no that kind of inspiration.

[@Shanta_barron_]

You legit made the video to start this year right !! Thank you 💖💖💖 this is my final step to become great !!

[@karenolivarez2773]

Hi, Aisha. Sometimes, when I listen to your advice, I feel guilty because I feel kind of powerless, as if my situation is too difficult to apply these truths to. This video is touching on these feelings I experience. Self love is empowering, so if I feel dis-empowered by the challenges I'm facing it's because there is a HUGE opportunity to uplift myself to "weather the storm" even if I have to be alone. Thank you for this video! I am adding it to my daily KZbin playlist.

[@Wachera]

So far this is my best video on this particular topic. Thank you for sharing

[@zoeamerica4675]

I am going to give you ALL the credit. I’m grateful I stumbled upon your channel. I struggled whether I should date and just try different methods or just really focus on myself and put dating on hold and embrace being single. The latter is what feels right. I’m going with my intuition - Holy Spirit speaking. And you are confirming healing here! Thank you 🙏🏻🧡 thank you for the transparent, honest, loving wisdom/guide you share to so many who these type of videos change their entire lives! You are God’s gift - work. He’s using you for all good and greater purpose. Blessings

[@queenofthesouth4205]

As a Mental Health Practitioner....I think that you are so amazing, many women give away their power, in their quest to become what their mate/husband desires them to be......

[@rossleenmaesarne4265]

I thank God that there are people like this woman, motivating people who are drowning with thoughts abd confusions abt themselves. This is the 5th or 6th video i watched from her chanel keep it up 🙏

[@AshaChristinaFoster]

Awwww Omgosh thank you so much I really appreciate this!

[@rossleenmaesarne4265]

@@AshaChristinaFoster i am dealing with heartbreak these days and your words are so powerful. Dont stop doing motivational videos like this. Im from the Phililppines. God bless you Ms. Asha. ❤

[@kimberleybentley7670]

I tend to always like the video before i watch because im confident that it will have some healthy advice. Im still trying to find myself and im so far away from it. Sometimes i get fearful of just tapping into me, to sort of the chaos and find the root that i need to find within me for my stability. Thanks asha😔

[@dchrysostom]

❤️ all young women need to listen to you.. you are a great young lady .. stay awesome/ love from Canada 🇨🇦

[@techrookie2pro]

I came across your channel a week ago and I literally love all your videos 🥰🥰🥰 very helpful

[@jennifermiranda8969]

Love yourself know your value it just the 🔑key when you love yourself nobody can't tell you shit thank you asha to remind me certain things🌺

[@momentswithpearl4798]

Thank you sis for this video. Love how you level up and still got Christ at the center of everything. God bless you. Love from Ghana

[@TheAryChampagne]

Literally just discovered you today and I am so glad i found you! You remind me a lot of myself in many ways. Anyway, new sub here! I'm excited to continue to have more positive reinforcement in my life! Like attracts like. You are golden💕💙

[@prudentpauline]

Wow Asha, your love for God and how boldly you say it is so great, may you always thrive, and thanks a lot I really needed this video.

[@adadr9419]

The Queen has finally blessed us!!!

[@odeciagayle4699]

u r absolutely AMAZING...i needed to hear this at this specific moment.I cant thank u enough...u rock!!!

[@AshaChristinaFoster]

Awww thank you so much Angel ♥️♥️♥️

[@danashaw8463]

Chile, your smile is contagious. Tfs Being spiritually grounded is everything and it helps to be active about it..Even as we get older the journey continues. Keep up the good work.

[@thewarriorwithin5248]

Such great wisdom Miss Asha.

[@Joycoleeeeee]

👏👏👏👏👏 I made a list the other day and I’m seeing the improvement. I have some work to do but with God I’ll get there.

[@QueenRoni28]

Be content and happy as a single women. Find your purpose and increase your personal growth. Be ready mentally, emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually and intellectually before God brings that wonderful man into your life

[@dreonthetube]

Thank you for making this video Asha. I come back and watch this every few months as a great reminder :)

[@jojoschwartz7692]

I literally feel like I'm dating myself and I'm so fun!!!!!🥰🥰😂😂😂😘😘😘😘your just so cute

[@passionategoddess2793]

I saw your notifications and I got madddd hype 😄

[@ellapark8770]

honestly, my fave channel on youtube

[@CNatividad2024]

Such a classy and wise gem. 🥰

[@kierrabazilio4254]

Great tips girl 💕 Found your channel through love your natural, your channel grew super fast! Congrats 🎉

[@najah45]

Ouch, people can since brokenness! So true sis!

[@AshaChristinaFoster]

Oh yes babe !!!

[@watercoIour]

You remind me of youtuber breeny lee a bit. I really like your self-improvement videos. You should continue doing them!!

[@chisomokose2148]

Can you make a video about the books you've read that have helped you in one way or the other? I'm on a hunt for good books😭😭

[@Wearethechamps]

Another awesome video gurl. 🧡💐

[@graceanne7899]

Wow I really really really needed to hear this :')

[@sababaloch4757]

Girl you r unbelievably amazing person😍

[@trishaapolot5192]

Needed this. Thank you for posting this video ❤️❤️❤️🙌🏾

[@AshaChristinaFoster]

Your so welcome !!!!☺️

[@luwandanobuhle2984]

Asha thanks so much, u hav changed my life from low quality women to high quality women,, I was unconsciously a cheap girl that would go crazy with just sweet words from guys without action...

[@93londongirl]

Can I just say it ??? Best channel ever for one ❤️2. I’ve never seen a channel grow so quickly . Absolutely adore you ❤️ #85thsubbie

[@jasmineferdinand2168]

This video was so helpful! 💕💕

[@hannaazarkan6152]

The big sister I never had... I love you so much ❤️❤️❤️

[@monymil687]

I have been watching your videos for 2days now and trust me I am so so much in love with you and your channel.❤❤you inspire me in so many ways....I love you so much❤my new mentor❤❤

[@AshaChristinaFoster]

I love you so much !!!! Awww you are so sweet !!!!☺️

[@officiallyKES]

This video is loaded with divine wisdom.

[@larissadana7437]

Love this and love you! You’re my favorite KZbinr for sure

[@sophiab5260]

😭 omg I'm just shocked of how it was ACTUALLY REAL advice (unlike all other materials videos and articles on similar topics), in depth and comprehensive, on not just how to love yourself, but how to reassemble yourself from scratch, also after a major period of being mentally down and losing all your mental and spiritual base. I've been dancing around these points for a while, trying to concentrate and be consistent and proactive. My only issue is craving for tenderness and me aging is really distracting and it seems like I won't get there while I'm still young enough anyway :/

[@AshaChristinaFoster]

Awww thank you babe !!!! I honestly feel like that’s normal we crave companionship but I think there’s so much magic in really focusing on building yourself up and just loving yourself and that just shifts everything where the right person will find you. I think sometimes we tend to focus on what we don’t have and really want, that we waste time not doing the work to prepare ourselves because we want it now, but I’m telling you honestly, you can and you will do this ! I believe in you ♥️

[@sophiab5260]

Asha C. 😍 Thank you so much! 💛I will and I will rewatch this one to keep me focused!

[@_itsmejanae]

Absolutely love this 💕

[@catherinejackson8799]

You look so pretty Asha and I love that background just as much as I love watching your videos nothing but facts and good advice you mentioned your so inspiring and uplifting i wish it was more people like you in the world thank you for sharing this video with everyone your amazing and I wish you nothing but happiness and success love you Asha # A team always 😘❤

[@korinadorr8249]

Looooovveeee this video, thanks hon!! I am a very successful person, but have had a very difficult life. Hard childhood, lose of a parent, and lots of moving etc. Long story short, no matter what I kept going, went to the Navy, went and still going to school and got my RN. Been through some major heartbreaks. But, I feel even though I have shown myself love, I never fully healed before getting into another relationship. And I found myself more and more broken. Thanks for the advice, I am truly ready to be the best version of me again, a queen!

[@Laura-kv7bl]

Girl you’re so beautiful and so helpful with empowering women

[@melissaworld91]

I needed this video! The level up is real!

[@joliearytravels]

Do a video on how to discover yourself 🙃

[@NequaSweet05]

Asha is amazing!

[@AshaChristinaFoster]

Aww Thank you 🥰

[@AveryFrances]

Girl you are dropping gems 💎 amazing video

[@alexandriaj7344]

you a REAL ONE...God Bless YOU!!!!

[@lunaviv]

God bless your soul, best advice ever . Thank you

[@lunaalechiyota100]

I love your videos... you are so inspiring ❤

[@sarahmicro]

Thank you for your useful videos Asha and for your smile 😘. Love from Switzerland

[@JDVIBEZ4REAL]

You're Very Genuine And ❤️ Unique 💖💖💖 Am 17 and Learning alot From You❤️🥰💖

[@2PUDDINS]

What if you heal up then you let someone in and they hurt you. Then you need to heal again? Is there a way to avoid that, or heal up stronger?

[@AshaChristinaFoster]

Well unfortunately there’s no profound answer for this, life will teach you the same lesson over and over until we learn. So yes, you have to heal again! Continue working on yourself ! That will never get old ! You can stay broken you certainly won’t attract someone good that way ! Heal again babe ! 🧡 you can do it !

[@dhruvapatel304]

love! Needed to hear this today. Have an amazing day!

[@DreamerBishes]

That was a beautiful word sis. 👏🏾👏🏾❤️

[@chikondin]

13k🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥❤❤❤❤ love u so much👑 ur the best friend we always needed😍

[@AshaChristinaFoster]

Awwww I love you all soooooo much !!!!!☺️

[@valeriewalsh4900]

Amazing video 😍 quality content

[@nicolef4535]

Love you! Also please do a look book soon you always look put together!

[@dajiahwr8830]

This was a bomb video. Thank u Goddess 🙏🏽

[@Kdivinity_]

Another amazing upload I’m glad you did this I’ve been working on this since last year and I feel like everything is coming full circle now

[@summerwright9365]

I’m struggling with self esteem and I don’t know why I get like this lol it’s so annoying but it is what it is so these videos help me❤

[@pure-pisces9470]

The sad part is thinking that u are ok & healed until u are in something again & the pain is triggered by someone or their actions again & u feel so overwhelmed, hurt, lost & dissapointed with yourself that u attracted the same pain or situation again!! Its very hard to know when u have healed, how do u know??

[@mercedeslong4178]

I subscribed after this video and I’ve watched right around 4 videos

[@tyopmail7157]

one of my favorite videos on KZbin

[@bintazang5353]

Damn girl, you’re good 😩🤞🏾

[@ToxicWaste991]

Thank you love ❤ this video came right on time. I needed this

[@nusulax3952]

“Can I say this thing” ❤️🥰