Serious Questions YOU asked US!

[@nmrn672]

I am not doing the Bible memory but I'm doing something that I have found to be extremely beneficial to my own spiritual growth and hopefully help my children. As I read each book of the Bible, I make an overview of the book adding my "ah ha" moments of things that stuck out to me and how I saw God's character displayed. I try to incorporate some cultural customs of the day which helps explain the significance of the events. Eventually, I want to have this for each book and then compile it into one book for each of my kids as a keepsake. I've been working on this for about a year but I've learned so much about God's character and this activity has really made God's word come alive. I don't know if anyone else would be interested in doing this but i thought that i would share. God bless your sweet family.

[@hannon092]

Hi John and Alyssa! 😊 I have been watching you since 2015 on the Bringing Up The Bates! Thank you for being willing Vessels that God can use to help others. You are genuine and honest about how you need God’s help in your everyday lives. You are a true blessing to the Kingdom! Blessings to you all ❤

[@marsihopkins1995]

Rhett is absolutely adorable. I think y’all are doing a great job with all 5 babies. God bless you all

[@L.M.P104]

I think it’s incredible that are willing to put all these honest answers out here on KZbin Thanks for sharing you are doing wonderful with sharing almost everything on KZbin with us who love watching this channel !! I pray to healthy and safe lives always to your whole family Alyssa and John ! Keep doing you I will forever be glad , happy and full of thanks to get to watch your channel !!

[@teresaspringer4129]

I just love how positive you both are on your videos. Thank you for sharing your sweet family

[@alicedavis573]

Rhett is so adorable.I love how honest you two are

[@TeressaJ1960]

I love the way y'all cuddled up to answer the questions. Alyssa, I think the tv show portrayed you as a little stuck up but after watching your youtube videos it's easy and clear to see you definitely are not. You have a wonderful personality and share plenty with us. I enjoy your videos very much!

[@bowersmack5212]

Great on the Bible memorization. I love to go to bed after memorizing a verse. If I wake up in the night the verse will be on my mind. And it will come come into my mind at random times and I think Where did that come from? Learn as much when you’re young. It’s much harder when you’re older.

[@mom_first4601]

The way I have always approached the birds and bees topics with my kids is with the mindset that its only as awkward as you, the parent, make it. Its a natural part of life and isn't something that should be embarrassing, especially because I want my kids to always feel comfortable coming to me with any concerns or questions...whether it be inaccurate things they hear from kids at school or even something medical.

[@linak7155]

Hear, Hear! n Amen!

[@randomroz545]

Great q&a. You're definitely not snobby. It's ok to be guarded and have boundaries when it comes to fame and social media. I think the perception comes from your level of perfectionism when it comes to cleaning and matching clothes and how well you are put together. People tend to stereotype that that's a personality which is snobby which is unfair and untrue. You are a wonderful person, mom and wife. My complaint with the videos is constant music playing and it's not even background music the volume is up. Why editor, why? Thanks for sharing you guys are awesome!

[@jillmoran5972]

I love these sessions so much, they are my favorite vlogs of yours. You have such a peaceful way about you, that it just calms me. Thank you for your honesty, we raised three sons ourselves and they are now adults, it goes fast, treasure these days. Thank you for sharing!

[@teribartusek1125]

Yall are so kind to share, you are loved and prayed for!

[@ck337]

The days are long but the years are short! ❤ We have 7 currently. 0-1 was super hard. 2 was easier. 3 and 4 was pretty easy. 5 was also really hard! 6 and 7 has been easy! It’s easier the past 2 I think because we have like the 3 older ones who can help so much more now which’s is honestly so so helpful! Y’all have a beautiful family! I hope y’all continue to be open to having more children. They are such a blessing and you will never regret having more! ❤

[@deborahb3664]

Love your videos! Keep us posted on scripture memorization. Love the tips and updates! ❤

[@kathiegreiner678]

I am using the charlotte mason scripture memory way of memorizing scripture. It is the only way that has worked for me and has built in review which really cements the verses in your brain. I highly recommend!! There are a few videos on KZbin to explain it. It’s super simple and basic.

[@cynthiawhitaker4538]

SO thrilled Allie is in ballet!!! BRAVA! And little Zoey is Alyssa’s mini me!

[@ItsMePMK1]

Struggled to hear everything you said as the music was so loud. Is it possible to resubmit it without the music? You guys are terrific and I would hate to miss a Q and A.

[@ameliaabrams4839]

I love q and a vlogs with the websters of any of Alyssa's family you are always so honest and open

[@kimcopeland2746]

Y'all are so adorable. Loved the q & A. Maybe spray Febreeze in the trash can after you toss the diaper??? Have a dog that had a similar issue but with Lady things... GROSS.. The febreeze stopped it.

[@bpgk2007]

You two are doing great! Do whatever you need to do to survive and enjoy this stage of life. You got this!

[@helendavidson3042]

Enjoyed your Q&A. You have a beautiful family.

[@bakedvegan6379]

I like how honest you are, Alyssa!

[@elizabethhamilton8388]

I don’t think you’re stuck up at all. And I’ve always sort of had this gift that when someone talks to me I can listen to them for about two minutes and know if I should get to know them better or if I should be praying for them. Sometimes not everyone is going to be a great fit as a friend. I can be cordial and nice to people when they speak to me but it doesn’t mean that I’m going to become their best friend and that’s ok. Someone left that on a Q&A that Katie and Travis got a little while back and I felt so bad for Katie. She told the person that it made her feel very sad because she doesn’t think that she’s stuck up. You just have to know to ignore those things that people say on your channel, when you do a Q&A. I think that you and John are wonderful parents. My husband and I had two boys and then along came the little girl I had always wanted. I was so used to having boys that when they told me she was a girl I remember telling the anesthesiologist, I ended up with a C-section on my last baby, I told the anesthesiologist no, I have boys. I told him I didn’t know anything about raising little girls and he said to me well, you’re a girl and I said I know but, my mama raised me. After I got to come home from the hospital I started thinking about how dumb that sounded. All three of my kids are grown now and I have seven grandsons. The youngest is five. I have no problem with them being all boys. Y’all have a great weekend. Hugs from the southeast coast of Florida😎🦩🌞🦩😎

[@jerrilovesjesus]

You are doing a great job! Maci is adorable with her pacifier. Thanks for sharing your adorable family. May the Lord bless you with joy and favor.

[@cmak1212]

I love Maci's feisty spirit. You're doing fine with the pacifier. Enjoyed the video.

[@ammyreyes1910]

❤❤yes making it out is the best!! lol and is so true I been married almost 12 years and you do run out of things to argue 🤣. God bless you all the baby is so cute!! currently pregnant with our second ❤️❤️

[@KimBuffington-hf8gt]

I agree with you on choosing your battles. The days of a pacifier are not long. You guys are doing great 💕🙏🏻

[@aubreyhofgren8594]

I so enjoy watching your Q&As!! The music made it hard to hear this time. Just wanted to mention that in case you do (and hopefully you do ;) future Q/As.

[@koreensanders4281]

I agree about the music. I think it’s distracting and not necessary. Keep up the great vlogs.

[@robinhood4670]

I think first names are absolutely perfect for the in-laws and the married children. you're all adults and if they tell you to call them by their first name, then that is what would make them most comfortable. I'm sure they understand and appreciate that you respect them all. But the grandma and the grandpa monikers do work once you have kids.

[@deborahhopper2682]

Thanks for answering the questions! I think y’all are doing an awesome job raising your children! Love Y’all! Love and Prayers Always

[@AarinJPearson]

You are NOT a stuck up person Alyssa and John! I wish I had more friends like you guys to hang out with and to learn from! You guys are a wonderful example of a Christian Couple and Parents! Honestly I wish I had a friend like you John in my younger years. John, I'm still working on Proverbs but slowly but I have the Man Cards you're brother law (Chad Paine) made that I'm still working through as well. Plus some more. Keep asking about memorization and I'll let you. Have a wonderful weekend you guys. Blessings. Keeping you guys in my prayers! 🙂

[@AarinJPearson]

Also, John what types of books or authors, or people do you usually listen to or read. For personal/spiritual growth, Christian Living etc. More for Christian Men in general? Or aid in your Bible time?

[@miriamporterfield852]

Maci has been the baby, until Rhett came. I wouldn't be concerned about the pacifier for awhile. She will give it up eventually. You are doing a great job with your family.

[@colleengreenwood7686]

Regarding using first names for in-laws (or your elders in general). I used to struggle with calling my elders by their first names until one day an elderly man from my church said please call me by my first name, we are all brothers and sisters in Christ. That changed my mindset! Blessing to you all!

[@skrall9366]

What is the purpose of the music...which are we to focus on you or the music?

[@kariannkirk]

I love watching your channel and feel we have a lot in common. We have 4 young girls as well, no boy… yet 😂 idk if we will have a 5th I have extremely difficult pregnancies as well. Can I suggest you turn the background music off or down Or wear mics. I could not hear this Q&A hardly at all. I’m 34 and I know I’m semi hard of hearing but at a lot of parts in this video the music was super loud. I almost stopped watching but then somewhere in the middle it got quiet and then picked up super loud again. I know it must be strange editing this and just listening to yourselves talk and you may think you are boring us but you aren’t! We clicked on it to watch and I’d love to be able to hear it lol. I’ve struggled to even memorize just verses of the Bible, that’s inspiring that ya’ll are memorizing chapters and possibly books. I may need to try that.

[@patriciastarkey4951]

Love you guys and family!

[@samanthaaleo]

You can also add a room downstairs off of back door next to bathroom! Just use back door as door to bedroom.

[@TimeForASandHeart]

I have just joined your family, though I've known the Bates Family since you started!❤ I celebrate your birth of Rhett & just adore y'all! I have been watching the Stew Crew too! I'm catching up. Y'all are just so fun & sweet!!😊 I'm from Ontario, Canada 🇨🇦🍁EH!lol

[@mommalisas]

Kudos for answering some of people's questions. I feel the public will ask certain questions to trap KZbinrs for a smear. Blessings to your family!

[@annreed6977]

I love your videos. I feel like I have gotten to know both of you better from your videos. You came across more aloof when on your parents' show, but your personality shows through in these videos. You guys are doing great!

[@lisatrelstad4690]

I totally agree with the statement of not knowing when someone is sincere. That is hard for almost everyone but even more for someone in the "limelight."

[@elizabethharrison7306]

Hi Alyssa and John you tube channel Love my favorite one fan Big 💖💖💖💖💖💖🎶God bless you family and

[@loricarlson8823]

I enjoy hearing updates on your family. It would be even more fun if the "background" music wasn't drowning out your voices.

[@blossombolton9829]

I agree about the music!

[@savedbygracesavedbygrace8308]

Agree, your voices were competing with the background music.

[@breannakrauss5568]

I don’t see anything wrong with their music. Music is life!

[@stephaniecooper332]

I also wish the music was quieter.

[@lelanoel3499]

Yes!

[@cathycahela7233]

Such a beautiful family and always live watch Alyssa being a mom but John your the coolest dad.

[@louisesproul8493]

I'm not memorizing Proverbs but I am working on memorizing Ephesians. Every day, or almost every day I read the ones I've already memorized too. My Bible is full of paperclips marking the verses I have or am working on.

[@carmelabarosso3155]

God bless you guys taking care of five kids Im sure your doing great.

[@eaglea657]

Psalm 119 ALL the benefits of the Word! Great TO MEMORIZE Proverbs you have inspired me❤

[@KristinWilloughby]

You guys a great ..doing amazing🎉 ❤❤🎉

[@omirasantillanes5150]

Can't wait to see the new vlog and hope you guys have a great Friday evening and night with the kids and a wonderful weekend ahead and can't wait to hear about the q and a and can't believe Rhett is one month and a half also two months old.

[@karenminckler4198]

Love you guys. Look forward to your videos.

[@ashleighburroughs3581]

Thanks for sharing all these things with us!! Rhett is so adorable!! ❤

[@infamouszxnicky]

My little one had paci's tucked everywhere. Just when I thought he gave them up I'd find more. He spoke beautifully and gave them up before school so I was good with that. Sometimes you just have to give in. ❤

[@christinas9376]

Would love to do the Bible memory thing but I can't remember to well is my problem. But so glad to hear you are doing it

[@thomasbrosnan9966]

Sorry about mia' habit. Ww had a begel that would get in the trash. We put a baby lock on the lid that was like a strap that attached to the can and the latch on the top of the lid. No trouble after that

[@crystaledwards7649]

I love Proverbs and Rhett is getting so big!

[@silmuffin86]

not sure if it's too late, but if you have too much milk with a strong let down you can pump or express for just a minute before the feed, so that when he nurses the milk will come out slower. and btw first names for the in laws are good imo, I just CAN'T do mom and dad, sorry, mom and dad are very personal names reserved to my real parents... but they are from the midwest and apparently it's common there

[@carolwhisenhunt7504]

Love the Websters and the Bates.

[@stitchingme]

Your little boy looks so much like his daddy! Congratulations!

[@natashaw401]

Enjoy these vlogs. Enjoy what you share

[@barbhelle5481]

I am new here. I also had 5. You both are doing great.

[@rachaelnuchols764]

Great video, thanks for sharing ❤

[@janieadames8453]

Thx for sharing 😁

[@DorothySpringer-e4t]

Thank you for sharing your lives with us. Please don't worry about other people's opinions of how you should do things with your kid. They don't live your life.

[@lindamiles5253]

Love your family ,God Bless

[@susanelmblad2844]

I really enjoy your videos! One little thing though, this video was little hard to understand because the music was too loud. Just something to keep in mind.

[@carolnichols2869]

Wow! Doesn't it amaze you how your parents did 19. I only had 3. 2 in diapers at the same time was difficult. So glad my mother in law was a huge help.

[@kindnessmatters4068]

I did night sleeping schedule and habits the same way!! My Dr told me how and my mom is so good at schedules and it clicked for me and all my babies slept through the night by 5wks, 6hrs then 8hr then up to 12hrs around 18mo-3yrs.

[@arielwatt2122]

Hi, I am doing Colossians 27 series. I have started memorizing five versus throughout my small group. Some days are better than others but I really enjoy it.

[@robertarobinson3360]

So sweet!!! Glad to see you all!❤❤

[@natashaw401]

Consideration communication comprimise what makes a relationship

[@donnaaldridge9473]

I loved the video. I can't remember scripture off by heart, my brain just can't do it. I have said this year, every month with 31 days I'm going to read Proverbs. I missed March but have done January and now May.

[@mariekastigar2294]

Loved it! ❤️🙏🏻 to you all.

[@deelopez4609]

The paci: my daughter sucked her thumb until she was 13. People would constantly ask me about it, pushed me & I would say, “she self soothes and my other two didn’t take a paci or suck a thumb and needed braces. Her father and I had braces. She’s fine”. She’s 29, a wonderful woman of God, well rounded, great mom and business owner. She had braces and is stunning. They’ll be fine w a paci or thumb until they’re ready to stop.

[@carolnichols2869]

How right you are. It is amazing to me how the older you get, the more sense it makes, but I remembered being criticized for letting mine keep their bottles for a long time. Both of my older kids felt a little jealous that the baby had a bottle and they didn't, so I started a once a week baby night for them. I would each a bottle and carry them and put them to bed like a baby. They tell me that is some of their best memories and they are now in their 40s and did the same for their kids!

[@deelopez4609]

@@carolnichols2869 the little things, we, as parents, know because God entrusted us with these children. Ultimately, I, as their mom, had to follow my heart and not let the other people and their opinions get to me. Having three, well adjusted, successful adult children with families of their own, now. I get to reap the rewards of doing my best. Certainly I made many mistakes and they’re well aware of those. They’re doing better and I ham quite certain their children will do even better. I broke many generational curses in our family. Through the grace of God, constant sanctification and many prayers, I’m so blessed to have the three children and their beautiful families in my life and have them still come to me for tips and help when they need it. What a blessing to have. Parenting is such a difficult yet the most rewarding thing I’ll have have experienced, outside of my relationship with God and my husband.

[@fairebianca]

I always enjoy your Q&A videos, but the background music on this one almost drowns your voices out. Hopefully a softer volume on the music next time. Also, thank you for all of your family videos, it is very heart warming watching your children grow up.

[@rah2209]

You can also donate your milk. My niece-in-law use to do this.

[@balfourgrl]

I LOVE your Q&As but your background music is too loud and heavy. I'm somewhat hard of hearing, so it makes it difficult to hear your words! Blessings to your beautiful family!

[@breannakrauss5568]

There is nothing wrong with the music in my opinion. Personally, I love the music Alyssa chose for her intro (the one with all of the applause). Let people have as much music in their lives as they would like to.

[@valc2313]

Great vlog!!!

[@ElizabethRodriguez-lj7ys]

Such an amazing and beautiful family ❤

[@cartersusan]

You should do a part 2 next week and answer other questions.

[@heidiholom8086]

You’r not stuck up Alyssa ! Your so nice ! Your a wonderful wife and mother to Allie Lexi Zoey Maci Rhett!

[@carolynwilson5662]

Please, guys! I have such a hard time understanding what you’re saying because the music is way too loud. You don’t NEED music. I love your videos and look forward to seeing them. Just have pity on your elderly friends. Thanks so much. 😇😇😇😇😇🐶

[@michelemcdowell9221]

Agree

[@victoriarussell7799]

Amen 🤣

[@Seikalou]

I totally agree! I love your videos, but the background music is too loud. 😅

[@SandraBaldwin-h7k]

Yes!

[@elizabethcarney3608]

I never noticed the move music until you said something

[@bethpittsiirjdjdb1028]

Love the video. Zoey has change so much. She growing up so fast. You guys might have to move the trash 🗑 under a cabin ❤

[@debj4life478]

Thanks for sharing. Blessings

[@LadyJane975]

I've been so blessed in that my in-laws have been Mom and Dad nearly from day 1. My husband and I celebrated 18 yrs married in March.

[@sharonbontrager2994]

Same.

[@rosemarieg6296]

We had the same problem with our dog with the diapers. We had to save store or bread bags and double bag the diapers.

[@Jakori1977]

He’s so sweet

[@famservingyah765]

Your comment about Maci was almost word for word something out of a book by Gary Chapman called "The 5 Love Languages of Children"! I'm a mom of 8 and just now reading this book - oh, how I would love to have had this book with my first. I've made so many mistakes in not realizing my children's love languages at times and now strongly encourage parents to get this book. Many things I've learned already over the years, but it's still been a great read!

[@denisehamilton701]

No music please. Very hard to understand.

[@Nikig1978]

I only have 4, but 2 to 3 was definitely the hardest for us. 4 just kind of added to the already chaotic day to day 😂

[@bakedvegan6379]

Can you give more information on the Bible verse memorization?

[@hollyrogers1678]

We have a huge cat that we are on the 3rd style of trashcan because of him. Thankfully this last style works great! It's hard to explain but it tips out from the cabinet style thing it's in.

[@sallysmith155]

Rhett is so adorable so are your girls.q &a was lovely.Have a lovely weekend.😊

[@sallysmith155]

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[@jennyboge5003]

I had 5 under 8 years old and it was absolutely overwhelming! You are doing a great job!

[@rachaelsmith7924]

Everything will be fine and everyone will adapt

[@Momof2_91]

My husband and I are so alike that when argue we react the same way! I say something sarcastically, he just goes off by himself. We both have to have time to ourselves and then we always talk about it! We just get mad at each other but we've never had a full fight or argument.

[@chessyharris6200]

Let Maci be little as long as you can, time goes by quickly. She will give up the paci when she's ready. 😊 Try getting a trashcan with a lid that locks. Had to get one when my Grandson was younger because he was always trying to throw away his shoes and socks, among other things. He loved putting stuff in the trash can for some odd reason. I am happy to watch what you share

[@maddywolff3534]

The Bible memorization is so admirable! Keep it up

[@robertaskversky1482]

Always a good family 💗😻😻

[@itscmznews180]

I get that Rhett will need his own room eventually; but why not convert the school room or guest room and have the girls in 2 rooms instead of all in 1 big room? Idk just a thought ! Maybe more cost effective ! School can be done anywhere or at dining room ! That way they have a little more room and not resentful that Rhett gets his own digs 😊

[@sycamoregirl1554]

No way would I call John’s dad “ Mr. Congressman “ that’s taking his power trip to a new level