Setting Boundaries with Your Spouse's Ex | Naja Hall | Dear Future Wifey

Are blended family conflicts unavoidable? Naja Hall joins Laterras to offer hope in the storm. After detailing how she fell in love fast with a divorced dad of three, Naja unpacks the mental health impacts and anxiety triggering events stemming from high conflict with her husband's ex. From boundary setting tips to a revelatory distinction between child-centered marriages and divorces, Naja provides vulnerable testimony and hard-won wisdom so others might walk an easier path. Ultimately, Naja issues a gentle challenge-can we break cycles of generational trauma and instead choose generational healing? The possibility of blossoming in the ashes exists, but we must commit to doing the work.
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[00:00] - The challenges and importance of amicable co-parenting
[07:37] - How Naja and her husband met
[15:22] - Early relationship challenges around blended family dynamics
[20:18] - An incident revealing the severity of conflicts
[34:00] - Coping with anxiety from conflict
[37:09] - Establishing personal boundaries
[41:23] - Perspectives on causes of conflict
[50:31] - Tips for mitigating blended family conflicts
[01:03:29] - Final Thoughts & Wrap Up
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"I've seen 0% of child centered marriages work. I've seen 100% of child centered divorces work." - Naja Hall
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[@striving1]

When she said some of our Mother's were our 1st bullies...baby i felt that! Help us!

[@RealLadi228]

That perspective touched my soul.... I don't think I'd use the word "Bully" Bullies truly don't care about you could see you dead...at least most Mom's do love their kids and usually it's fear that can cause us to gain control in not the best ways...when you know better you do better most I would like to think do the best that they know how? Not trying to minimize people that are truly abusive to their own kids😭

[@user-nm6xt5ur9c]

I almost cried, at work, listening to how her husband prayed over her in the hospital. WOW!

[@karenmcgee1869]

Touched my heart too!

[@ajordan1847]

Yes!❤

[@SolidRocEntertainmentSRE]

Young people without kids that are in the dating world, do thorough and proper vetting while dating. Get married and start your own families and avoid all this confusion.

[@missrd395]

I was in a relationship where the childs mom left.. and when I came did everything to destroy our relationship. He was doing better too...vacations/working out/ etc etc. I left in the end. But now I am single and early thirties so I do pray that the next will not have children🙏🏾

[@thedooropenerlajames5602]

@@missrd395Did he allow her to ruin your relationship?

[@stephanielcowart6867]

Everyone should do what's best for them whether that's dating someone with kids or without kids. Everyone needs love.

[@striving1]

Y'all forget...Jesus had a Stepdad 🤷🏾‍♀️Healing needs to occur but broken homes can be healed.

[@RealLadi228]

I agree vetting is important I think for myself it means moving more like a snail I'm that person that moved way too fast within relationships to my disappointment later.....

[@Tanisha255]

I’ve noticed two consistent themes when you invite your friends to the podcast…1. They’re hilarious and very transparent. 2. You’ve been a great friend and resource to these women. This episode was definitely eye opening especially the child support/custody information!

[@jerlynnghee207]

We need to normalize setting healthy boundaries with family. This is good for in laws too!

[@malcole1]

I'm not in a blended family situation, thank God! I'm just compelled to comment because it's nice to hear about another successful marriage that started from Plenty of Fish (POF). I too met my husband on POF😊, both celibate before marriage, dated daily for a month, moved in together, and married after 3 months. We have 2 beautiful kids and now married for the best 9 years of my life. I literally manifested my husband while in an unhappy relationship. God is AMAZING 👏🏾

[@crespeakslife]

I met my husband on POF too! 😂 God is good.!

[@marquitagalloway7168]

Is plenty of fish still popping? I might have to join 😅 I’ve been hesitant to do online dating because I consider it no different than these social media DMs. 🥴

[@ginamou8967]

People need to get along for the kids. My daughter's father ex-fiancé used to go to the parent teacher conferences I couldn't make it to. When he chose to be a deadbeat, she and I still maintained the friendship we developed. She is now married to someone else with kids and we are the best of friends. We are over 20 years in. She loved my child so my family and I welcomed her with open arms. Anything for the sake of the kid..

[@ladytinag4276]

I realize and understand that every situation is different but what she is describing is the exact reason I refused to ever become involved with a man with children. S/O to all who navigate blended families successfully.

[@lawestphilly]

Salute to you sis . You aren't missing a thing especially if he has daughters. It's alot and most ex's not all but most will never support the new wife when she has daughters by that man trust me.

[@yvetteshokere7818]

So true

[@sarahsimpson9848]

I am the product of a blended family, and I can see WHY my parents weren't together. I am grateful for them both and how they tried to navigate it. As an adult now I never wanted a blended family cause it is stressful on the kids unbeknownst especially when other siblings have different fathers/mothers. The jealousy my sister had towards me because her father was absent and mine was present is a damn Lifetime movie. I am mature and open enough to accept having a blended family but currently being single with no kids and marrying a man with kids/co-parenting will be a major adjustment for me. I truly enjoyed this episode and truly looking forward to others on blended families.

[@Francie315]

I grew up watching an Uncle and Aunt embracing my Uncle ex. They collectively decided to put their children needs ahead of their own interests and hurts. It was very interesting to watch. The kids had a lot of issues! Particularly the children who had come from the divided household. Blaming, measuring how their father was treating his younger children by my Aunt with how they were treated! It was a potential hot mess! But, if you watched the three adults, in how they got along. How they acted as mediators and buffers for each other’s! How they laughed together and showed all the children love! Hearing them out and mostly important validating their feelings and beliefs! All of that and more that I can’t list right now! Doing it without attitude and with long suffering and tribulations! Today, all of the kids get along with one another and love my aunt! They thank God for sending her to their father and their life! The adults have to be the adults and validation goes a long ways!

[@tylynn256]

This is beautiful!

[@tiawilks]

That is powerful, I’m grateful you shared this ❤

[@ishyagordon]

30 minutes in and she is talking about my whole life. We've been married for over 11years, one child is a whole adult and we are still dealing with crap, but I thank God for His grace and favor.

[@arvelynlewis]

Now, this is the conversation the church should be having in the midst of "Vow of Celibacy." While you have promised to keep yourself, what are you going to talk about when you come into the company of a suitor? How crazy are you, your momma, your daddy, step momma and so on? If we make a person and we break, how will we behave in pursuit of raising this person. So important.

[@danagrappie4942]

This episode so so relatable. We were a blended family. My ex hubby and I were married for almost 23 years. His ex-wife, mother, and sister made my life a living hell until I got fed up and put my foot down. The only reason I had to was because he wouldn’t. They would come to our home, my parents home, or the kids school with drama and confusion. Then the children would fight because of what was going on. It was horrible, but I fell back on the principles I was raised on and got my house in order. He and I divorced and did not get along at first due to years of infidelity on his part. Our oldest daughter sat us down on behalf of her siblings and said y’all need to get it together one way or another because we will not pick sides or separate events because you two cannot coexist. Today we are really good friends because our children and grandchildren were more important than our inability to get along. I made it my purpose to regardless of what happened. When we think of the greater good, you will always find grace to give….great episode as always Laterras ❤❤❤

[@gailphillip8135]

Wow! This is amazing. Your kids are so wise. You taught them well

[@danagrappie4942]

@@gailphillip8135 thank you….❤️

[@halftimepromiseswithneibert]

Mothers bullying their daughters are a real problem! Some of them are jealous of their daughters, therefore they bully them. They could have been bullied by their own mothers. It is a sad situation, and it is at epidemic proportions. May the relationship between mothers and daughters heal!

[@lisagraham135]

Mom being our first bully... that's such a truth for alot of us... I gentle parent my kids but I can also be abrasive and I don't like that feeling at all and try to be mindful for my babies

[@Ellana317]

If there were ever an episode that I wanted to forward along, this is THE ONE. Blended families are extremely tough to navigate, especially when the ex has unresolved bitterness or feelings involved. Ultimately, the goal is to raise children who are well supported and well loved. We have to be willing to leave our egos and adult issues out of the equation for the sake of the children. Unfortunately, a lot of people lack the wisdom and emotional maturity required to do so.

[@terrynnjohnsonfranklin9028]

This is the comment! As much as it should be about the children, a lot of people make it impossible to be strictly about the children.

[@mith5271]

❤❤❤ I'm hoping my daughter and her ex-husband could get to this healthy place. Why is it when the spouse divorces his wife ,they divorce the child as well.

[@mariemuhammad7983]

I love Naja’s spirit. She is so mature. Her turning up and thinking her husband was going to be scared away was 😂❤. This was a great episode. I pray God continues to bless and keep your family. Numbers 6:24-25. I’m so grateful you didn’t miss God because he had kids, like you said, he brought you into your purpose. God doesn’t make any mistakes. When the angel came to tell Mary she was highly favored and would conceive Jesus, her circumstances surrounding his birth didn’t look or feel favorable in the natural. Some things MUST be spiritually discerned. ❤

[@ajordan1847]

Wow, thank you.❤ Needed to read this today.❤

[@mariemuhammad7983]

@@ajordan1847 ❤️

[@d.c.4706]

For those of you who do not yet have children, normalize dating and marrying people who do not have children. "No children" was always a top requirement and something of which I was unwilling to compromise. I'm sure there are plenty of people who have managed to blend families quite beautifully. I just haven't met any. And as a result, I was thoroughly uninterested in any ready-made families or the chaos/confusion that often comes with the territory. If you don't have to walk this walk--DON'T.

[@focused7786]

Completely agree! We live in a culture where celebrities start trends and make up words such as "blended", "co-parent ", and the latest one " bonus mom/dad". These words assume both parties have the same values, morals, habits, priorities, faith which are the foundation of a child's upbringing. The words stepchild, stepmom, stepdad are already defined. If all parties had the same mentality they wouldn't be divorced. There is no blending when the family unit is broken. Co-parenting is an illusion. Bonus mom/dad implies that the family came as a set. The best thing we can do is respect each others space.

[@LD-mv3bk]

Ummm this is very hard to find . I’m 39 will be 40 in March it’s rare okay so trust me I want to

[@kristinajohnson-ward4441]

Some people are so committed to chaos because that's all they know how to be! Wow, that was deep!!

[@rhoshedagayton5117]

I wish my parents were able to heal. My parents still don’t talk to each others and I’m 50 years old. My dad is still in denial about happened in their divorce.

[@alexandrialemon]

Looking forward to this because I’m a new stepmom and this is definitely a needed topic

[@lawestphilly]

Unfortunately step mothers never get the love or support that step fathers get. Especially when your a step mother to girls. No matter how nice or loving you are. They will always ride hard for their mothers

[@GoldenGraham25]

I can see why people would envy her - She’s dope! Her husband saw a genuinely amazing woman and committed to her ❤ Many blessings to the family!

[@kenyaleatham8535]

I just love that you are covering this topic. My parents never found healing with their past and it's impossible for them to put their feelings aside despite them both having new partners. I believe that parents that don't take their relationship or the possibility of a future relationship off of the table, emotions supersede all logic for their kids. I have fought my mom about guest lists for my wedding, graduations, holiday gatherings, and loyalty. I have fought my dad over house guests, his partner and her kids, and his lack of effort to acknowledge how he's contributed and still contributes to toxic interactions and inappropriate behaviors. Heal for the sake of your kids. This foolishness has made it down to my kids. Grandma and grandpa will never support them in a unified capacity.

[@knl5330]

🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@greatnation4328]

Asking the right questions in all situations ALWAYS ALWAYS exposes /reveals/orientates/ throws necessary light. It's the best place to start before taking decisions.

[@MorePreciousThanRubies.]

Hi. It would be awesome to see you do a series with a guy who messed up and are genuinely sorry. Share what he did wrong and what he would do if he could get a second chance to prove his love and will make it right. How he has learned from his mistake. How he has matured and wants a second chance at the love he lost. Maybe they broke up or divorced but want her back. Then, contact her to see if she is willing and bring her on to surprise him on the show. Then, let both share where they fell and what they would do differently. Everyone loves a happy ending. Call it "There's No Love Lost, God Can't Restore."

[@dkgnew]

I can relate…I thought my ex spouse was all chill! 😮was I taken off guard! Distance can help, but Exes who have NOT moved on and remarried (or are vindictive) are very problematic! #1 Red flag 🚩 if that previous spouse is not remarried or in a committed relationship!

[@kdellison43]

Absolutely!

[@janicetaylor1272]

Not always. After my X was in a relationship i thought i was in the clear. He flipped out when i brought a man around and he had a girlfriend. Fast forward,,,,,My son is 42 years old and i blocked his father a few years ago. I finally closed the door to the need to stay in my life. Now my son tries to complain about his father but i am sure he complain to his father about me. I shut that manipulation down too. My peace is top priority. I appreciate this episode because i will pay attention

[@kdellison43]

@@janicetaylor1272 but you just proved her point…in this case your ex hadn't moved on and still had access to you, and you eventually you had to set boundaries, which means it caused issues in some way and that is what the episode was about. Ex spouses and partners who do not set boundaries are asking for trouble. The new person coming behind your ex should not have to deal with all of that.

[@janicetaylor1272]

That was over thirty years ago. The man God has for me will not have to deal with ex

[@simplysalla]

“Our mothers are our first bullies“ I felt that so much!

[@destinyj23]

Okay!! And they dare you not to say otherwise...

[@lorinakers7934]

Wow! I totally relate to this and spent 10 years in trying to resolve via courts, and spent so much money just trying to see my child. Parental Alienation. False Allegations. Had to write a book for men to focus on the child relationship. 🙏🏾 Now, I approach relationships differently. I have a great relationship with my child...but, that was rough and such a waste of time.

[@chanelmitchell1632]

So happy for you. I hate when people put children in the middle. That money could have been spent on the child.

[@lorinakers7934]

@chanelmitchell1632 Thank you much. You are so right. All moments are precious now. Undoubtedly, I appreciate the efforts of all single parents.

[@katherinekamaria]

I love the 0%/100% comment regarding child-centered marriages vs child-centered divorces. Agreed 100%!

[@komeogbedobor6774]

I love how real she was . So many gems 💎 dropped. I’m in a new blended family situation so this is very helpful.

[@ishabothwell4016]

Laterals R. Whitfield, Naja Hall is awesome and she rocked your podcast. Everything she said was true from the Ex-spouses inspecting the new home for what they didn’t get, to the police assistance to meeting the other spouse’s children. Blending families is a unique ministry all to itself. Counseling should be required as well as continued therapy for either spouse or minor child involved in the new combined family. Additional family members: grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, church members and friends should be extended the grace of the same counseling to help cultivate beautiful marriages and families. There is no law against family members and their comments but as Christians ( full time Christians) WE should hold ourselves accountable for what we say and do ( Life and death is in the power of the tongue, Proverbs 18:21). It is very important that we align our thoughts, comments, and actions with the Word of God. Children watch our everyday actions and even when we are not paying attention or we think our comments or actions are “no big deal” we are still in training mode of raising our children. No need to say, “Camera, lights, action”. The training starts as soon as we awake each morning.

[@susanakaan810]

This is really really good. "We can help our children avoid trauma by us just been adults". When we go through situations, take accountability and heal, then the children involved are better off. Two healthy individuals should be able to agree on how they can co-parent their children. And yes do a thorough research on people if possible before marriage, so you don't see wonders😀. Great episode.

[@lawestphilly]

Unless a man's ex is remarried or in a healthy new relationship. Ladies run run run 🏃🏽‍♀️ 🏃🏽‍♀️ 🏃🏽‍♀️ it takes a very well rounded mature woman to except another woman as her kids stepmother. Thank God my mom was over my dad and was always cool with my stepmother . Because my stepmother ended up becoming one of my best friends. Now i have two moms.

[@RisingMiracles]

Queen is speaking facts on facts! Choosing generational healing is imperative! In 7 years of counseling I learned choosing Jesus, they Counselors of Counsel is key!!! Forgiveness (that 70 X 70 type)!!! Way to speak on a topic as this!!! 🔑💯 I loved hearing about the love for Jesus you all shared!!! With Jesus all things are possible!! This podcast provided a lot of truth and insight on this topic! Love the vulnerability!!!

[@KarinaSmith-KKK22]

This is exactly why I no longer want to date men with kids. Too much drama… Bless the hearts of those who can do it. I tried it twice and I’m straight. Y’all gone head and have at it.

[@jackiewanjiku3162]

I appreciate the perspective she offered on blended families and meeting ex spouses/partners: regulate and set boundaries based on the two parents (health or unhealthy)relationship.

[@debo1853]

“They hate their co-parent more than they love their child.”

[@ethelchambers9698]

Definitely love this topic…my parents never healed from their relationship. But I broken that curse from my parents with my children father. We are best of friends now. We lost our son to gun violence in May 31, 2020 in Crowley TX. We are still waiting to have my son trial. We are coparent and raising our daughter together.

[@t.p.anderson1833]

This is so applicable if adults get out of their feelings.

[@giadetroit]

This is a testimony that I needed to hear. 🙏🏽Thanks for bringing this interview to your platform.

[@christadesrosiers211]

Omg! This come out at the right time for me. I started dating a divorced father who is very involved with his child but reported to me coparenting with his ex wife is not great. I am really nervous about it because like she said I have a peaceful life. I have been trying to find some questions I could ask and how to prepare myself and I couldn’t find any information! Thank you so much for this.

[@lawestphilly]

Pray sis because if you love him, it's going to be a bumpy ride. His issues will become yours.

[@PerpyLove]

I wonder why Christians refer to the zodiac. Why? To believe in the power and authority of astrology, is against biblical wisdom. Why reduce your human personality, moods and one's whole being to a horoscope? Deuteronomy 4:19 And beware lest you raise your eyes to heaven, and when you see the sun and the moon and the stars, all the host of heaven, you be drawn away and bow down to them and serve them, things that the Lord your God has allotted to all the peoples under the whole heaven. Deuteronomy 18 also speaks on such practices..... Wanted to put that out there first, now that it's off my chest.... what topic are we on again 🙈

[@knl5330]

Amen

[@shaunien.3284]

Wow that’s a blessing that he was praying & crying out to God for you while you lay in the hospital bed🙏🏾

[@SedSays]

Best thing about my GF I had her read, watch literally everything regarding my ex. She's witness 1st hand the ridiculousness of my bm & thank God she knows I'm not just trippin....

[@takiyahchew5743]

Memphis recognizes other Memphians! Love the humor in this interview!!!!!

[@Ms.Butler1988]

Ooooooooooooooo she nailed it!!!!!!!!!!!!! Se those boundaries and stand firm on it!!!!! I looooove her!!! High five Naja!!!!!!°!!

[@cynthiagale6794]

Our commitment to healthy coparenting helped our family heap following our marriage separation. It also ensured that our child wasn't caught in the middle of our "war", which allowed us to pick or even avoid some battles.😊

[@dkgnew]

I have lived everything she mentioned with the court systems and my ex; we couldn’t agree on the color of the sky! Wasted almost 7 years back n forth to court. Having a lawyer doesn’t make a difference or how much money u got if the other parent is VINDICTIVE they will use all types of emotional upset to TRY to get under your skin! 😢

[@aminatasesay191]

Living it

[@SyvilleJosephine]

"Let's nature a garden of memories where the roots run deep and the blossoms of joy are everlasting" My God in Heaven! If that's not love...

[@knl5330]

I saw Naja on Laterras' timeline before and she peaked my interest so I started following her on IG. So glad she came to the podcast and shared her story. This woman said some of the exact same things I have said. I am in a blended family situation too and as the step parent coming in, this conversation was helpful in letting me know that I have been handling things right. I have been preaching boundaries with his ex since the beginning and have required him to make adjustments for the betterment of all of us involved in the situation. Period. The only thing she didn't talk about was where their family is now 2 years after that incident. How are things going?

[@estherphiri764]

Every episode I have watched one or two have learnt out of all the conversation is a jewel in my hands I must treasure.

[@erynd.9911]

This Episode was everything ! I can personally relate bc my son is 8 and I coparent and it hasn’t always been as peaceful and unproblematic as it is now and for that I say Thank you God! I remember getting on my knees and praying on the floor in my closet…I prayed for peace , respect and communication in my coparenting and I prayed my son’s father would find a wife(he is married now)bc I did not want a revolving door of women around my son ! God is truly amazing ! We have to be willing to do our part and we have to trust God and know he will handle the rest ! I’ll never forget someone told me God will change you or he will change the situation and before he changed the situation he changed me and changed my heart ! I had to heal because I was truly angry and bitter and once I went back to therapy and started working on me..God turned the situation around and for that I am forever thankful because now we can celebrate my son’s birthday in the same place , go to school events and go to sports events together as family unit for my son ! We have to put our personal feelings aside and do what is best for our children ! Our babies deserve it!

[@LakissaJ]

I had to send this video to my brother. My brother wife got married two months after their divorce. Now she uses his only child against him with visitation rights…. This video just opened my eyes and set me free on somethings while divorce and moving on with my life. She is so right about everything she said, I was in a marriage with someone who had kids and I didn’t.

[@MultiBnine]

I can relate to mother's hurt.

[@dancemomerika]

In a perfect world, the mother and father would be in a good and healed space before new people are brought into the dynamic. That would help a lot. But even when they are, yes, other partners are normally agitators on this already sensitive situation. Well meaning people (like Naja) may not fully know the history or personalities. It's the trickiest of situations. I appreciate her sharing!!

[@victoriahines2125]

Loved her point of view. She also sounds like Beyonce to me.

[@clarapeters6583]

I told my ex in the beginning stage of the divorce process that he can come see or get our kids daily just respect my household. He didn’t do that but he came or called often…after a couple years he decided to move out the state since he couldn’t have me anymore but I gave him over 20 years and was tired of the abuse. I hate seeing how the man or woman use the kids when the kid(s) has nothing to do with your relationship. Love this episode ❤

[@Mrs4loves]

Wow… I’m dealing with this right now. I am the mother, and the New wife is the one that crosses boundaries. The crazy thing is the things we didn’t do in front of our children or allow because of our children, happens now and is done by the new wife . Daddy has No words for her and excuses her behavior. He also doesn’t follow the court ordered parenting plan. He’s an officer and enforces the laws for other families EXCEPT his own. Shameful

[@SimplyKea]

I think the meeting agreement will be greatly determined by the healthy relationship that the parents have. My ex husband wanted me to meet his new wife but I was not about to do that because he married her just a month after our officially break up. Yes I was in my feelings but I think they were insensitive. If the circumstances were different I would have met her. Their maneuver gave me an inside into who their are, they lacked integrity, kindness and love. I was not toxic in any way. I allowed him to see his son etc but I did not want to meet her.

[@lydiaheelu2681]

I understand your feelings but it’s best to meet her because she’s going to be around your son and she’ll be an influence on his life. It’s best to know the type of person she is so you know what you’re dealing with and how to handle the situation. She could be a genuinely great person who just happened to have fallen in love with your ex-husband soon after you broke up.

[@SimplyKea]

@@lydiaheelu2681 she was not great after all. The ex husband passed a few months after their wedding and the same lady abused my little baba. Thank you for the encouragement though.

[@mariemuhammad7983]

Very interesting topic! Can’t wait to hear this one.

[@kairosunltd130]

This was a great episode. It's important for children to have a healthy relationship with both their parents whether they're together or not and I can relate to Naija's story of her and her mom having a frictional relationship. Some parents cannot use their words and can project their own toxicity onto their children. And pass down trauma to their children. We really need generational healing to be passed down to children. 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯This was a good one. Thank you Latteras. Loved it! 😍😍😍🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@thelifeofcar8119]

I am so happy this was a conversation. I’m blessed to have a healthy and respectful relationship with my husbands ex. One day hoping my ex will be able to blend into the family better

[@larhondamurray2208]

I truly enjoyed this episode, I know someone dear to me that is going through a custody battle that is beyond necessary. There is so much disfunction on the child’s mother side, I believe if there isn’t any conflict she doesn’t know how to function. It is beyond sad! She misses visits. Your guest was so correct, sometimes these judges do not have the child’s best interest at heart. I could go on and on. I also agree that some Mothers are bullies. I believe that regarding my Mother. I just had my epiphany right before my 55th birthday. I have always stepped up when someone else was being bullied. Now that I know I have set boundaries with her and we are making it. Blessings on Blessings to you.

[@chavillamartin]

I love how she said that this man was on his knees crying out to God on her behalf. Similar to Jesus Crying out to His Father with sweat like drops of blood. "That what I'm talking about. A man who will be an intercessor on my behalf ❤

[@Erika-be9hq]

I loved every minute of this. Thank you 🙂

[@aprilstravel7733]

This is sooo good, thank you guys. "He who promised is faithful."

[@maryannnelson3401]

Sooooo this one right here tho!!!! This hit home for me . I’m a divorced woman of two. And my ex and I do not communicate well. He’s not consistent with his visitation,doesn’t paid his child support,and I relocate to Texas about year ago. The case was unfair I think but I’m responsible for sending my son to see him. He didn’t follow through wanting the kid last year which he should see every July and odd holidays . This coming Christmas he wants our son and I’m so bothered about that. Listening today I got some gems . .. thanks again. And your letter was beautifully written.

[@debbiieesmiles]

I absolutely love this podcast. This episode was sooo informative. I have the same exact sentiments as Naja. I didnt land on this episodes by mistake. It's everything I needed to hear.

[@tlwilliams-boucher6866]

This episode was such a blessing. I have more tools for consideration in my divorce process and as I consider love and relationship again.

[@tylynn256]

I have always wanted to be raised with two parents. I find myself, still to the day, gravitating to, seasoned, married couples. Edit: I used to supervise the visits of parents seeing their kiddos. There were times I've had to cut the visits short because parents were acting out of order.

[@LakissaJ]

I had a blended family and I should’ve done some homework but when you’re only looking at the guy. Single women with no kids. Tends to avoid what we actually see, when I say. The moment I got married to him. Everything came out slowly In my divorce marriage. The would professional stay up and create noise in knowing I got to work in the a.m etc.. I tried to be the best wife and stepmother… wow all keep me in prayer because I’m still healing…

[@chernaesaka8115]

Beautiful!! Enjoyed it!

[@chantaeumunroe8206]

Absolutely loved this! She's so humorous. 💜

[@tabithasmith179]

I’m laughing so hard when she stated he had children so her lady like went out the door. This happened to me when I found out my crush had two little children I was no longer acting my extra girly like because we weren’t going to be together. 😂😂

[@dimitricollins2658]

Mrs. Naja Hall is the TRUTH!!! I really enjoyed this episode.

[@serenityp2872]

Great discussion on this underrated topic! Definitely relatable. Kudos to Naja for being a support and change advocate with her platform👏🏽

[@feliciapettiway5369]

Ooh I needed this.

[@dawnjones6752]

Loved this interview, powerful, lots of gems shared and a little comic relief. Thank you ma’am, I wish I had this knowledge when I was raising children in a blended family. Thanks again DFW for another great episode. You are touching lives one episode at a time. God bless you!🙏🏾❤️

[@114Patty]

There are so many gems in this conversation. Dating - Thanks for sharing your information. We need to ask more questions as we get to know each other before marriage. Explore the metal health within yourself and the other person. Don’t lead with your loins. Parenting and custody - It’s incredible that a woman can get a felony for caring for and protecting their children, but the other parent can disappear randomly with no recourse (in some cases). I experienced the disappearance of my ex often. The only time he would show up was if I started dating. He would randomly show up in the restaurant. He was never consistent in their lives. Lack of nurturing - As a woman raised children after divorce, it was hard raising children and explaining the absence of their father. They are still healing from this absence today. These conversations are so important and I appreciate the space to share these tough conversations.

[@Ericalcarr]

Great episode! Great information!

[@andreamiller9748]

Thank you for this interview. I can relate.....

[@winniejean-pierre9605]

Great episode!

[@elanamcghee7817]

To God be all the glory of your testimony!!❤❤❤

[@cherylturner2291]

Loved this so so much! She is wonderful, you have such great friends! 💖💖💖

[@ladyt3182]

My husband and I dated for a year, and then got married! It’s been 33 years! My parents have been married for 56 years!😊😊. I met my husband in the same location as my parents met one another! Dillard University. Praise God for His many Blessings!!

[@whitney7063]

I’m not even in this situation but I really liked this episode. U know the episode is good when you start following the guest on social media ❤

[@user-nm6xt5ur9c]

I broke off my engagement because my fiance refused to set and maintain boundaries with his baby momma and ex-wife (kids mom). I have 1 adult child and has never had issues with her father, that was not a life I was going to sign up for.

[@2B-Steele]

This was another one of my favorites👏🏾👏🏾

[@kinder7513]

Loved this episode and topic.

[@chrissyECee]

Great Episode!!

[@rhondawade9229]

This was so powerful, I absolutely love this ❤❤💜💜

[@jamiamason5173]

Naja is very authentic. Im glad this has been touched on

[@deborahcooper2528]

Thank you Latarrus for staying in your alignment, doing gods will may he send you your wife soon❤

[@kdellison43]

This is a great episode! Although this is not her situation, So many times we are invited into situations we have no clue about, only the word of the person you’re talking to. Her questions to ask a potential person to date were excellent

[@onijones8188]

This is sooo good

[@CulinaryCutie]

This was really good

[@monicasaffold9405]

I really enjoyed this episode, I’ve nvr dealt with situations like this before but it’s good info . Laterras you’ve created such a safe space for ppl to express freely . I hope you come to Orlando bc I’d love to pick your brain , & Naja is so dope , love this podcast , keep it coming !

[@lady_better]

Great conversation. S/O to Naja for her transparency and just tackling this issue within the community its very necessary.

[@asiac8505]

This is so good