The Queer Eye Guys' Advice to Their 17-Year-Old-Selves Is So Important

[@alexg.9772]

I love them all so much but I really want to see Bobby’s self advice because we know he had a really rough childhood

[@shadylioness]

Alex G. I know! I loved this video where Bobby speaks about his childhood and an epi of Queer eye: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKDGgX-Loal7rqs (it’s a snippet of a longer video)

[@Tweetypi16]

@@shadylioness thank you (:

[@kitreadsbooks7718]

this is a similar vid from last year with bobby in kzbin.info/www/bejne/j2TXYpqmj9GHa9k

[@neuroseptember1020]

I love him

[@vp3841]

I get so sad whenever Bobby is not with the group. He always gives such awesome comments and great advice.

[@alyssamelton5287]

i love the casual massages Tan and Antoni are giving each other

[@dramabuff5]

Supportive best friends! They are adorable

[@holliemai4715]

They literally can never keep their hands off each other 😂

[@queerchaos13]

I love it too

[@AeliaReadsBooks]

The way he casually strokes Tan's hair though

[@MM-dq2pi]

Read some interviews Tan has given where he says he is extremely attracted to his husband, whenever he sees Rob he gets a little flutter.

[@despairseatoad3592]

I love that they're just casually touching each other I feel like we don't get much of men hugging and holding hands and cuddling platonically in media

[@Jessie-922]

I was going to say the same thing but is that a common thing with gay men that are friends?? I think it’s great but I’m just wondering! 🥰🤗🏳️‍🌈💙

[@even___]

@@Jessie-922 it’s just like having all your friends be attractive to you lol it’s a very weird feeling

[@ezequielmondada6427]

@@Jessie-922 idk if it is common, but I'm bi and I'm touchy and i like cuddle with my friends, even my straight friends are like this with me.

[@BeautifulDreamerK]

“It’s not a coming out... it’s letting people in...” I LOOVEEEE THAT!! I’m straight but i felt that comment. LGBTQ people should be understood and not be in a box. It’s not the same for everyone I also love that sermon Karamo said about, “no”- success is bouncing back from the “no’s” and also being okay with asserting your “no’s”. Such an important lesson and so hard to do still as an adult

[@Flygirl19]

K de la Cruz karamo is a jewel

[@thgie3258]

i loved that to!

[@galaprabhu8319]

get u a guy who talks to you like antoni talks to tan

And who looks at you the way Karamo looks at JVN (2:44)

[@emmaheart6599]

...Not everyone is interested in guys...but ok.

[@usernotfound1185]

@@emmaheart6599 guy can be gender neutral, calm down a little, it wasn't meant in a rude way

[@y2k8-96]

watching jonathon become a figure skater has been so so wonderful :))) I’m so happy for that angel

[@LuxLisbon26]

Yes!!!! It has been so inspiring to me and made me want to start tackling some new challenges

[@lulomak8329]

I am obsessed with Antoni and Tan together, their friendship is so wonderful.❤️😍

[@Christmasishere24-25]

Me too

[@michelleflood8220]

Ryan Lee yep so friendship goals seriously ! I’ve got a male pal but he’s very Jonathon like to me .

[@Haruman1315]

Ouf Karamo is so freaking wise. It's helping me dealing with my insecurities/fears on so many level. They all have such beautiful souls

[@zetyra8336]

Imen Toumi he’s a real life therapist. People don’t realize this. He’s a professional advice giver.

[@Haruman1315]

@@zetyra8336 I know!! I mean obviously he talks with their heroes/heroines with a sensitivity and knowledge that can only be attributed to a (really really good) professional. In my comment I meant to say that I take his advice to heart and that I appreciate what they all share with us. Karamo especially go above and beyond to create amazing teachable moments that can be applied to everybody. Whether it's self-love, identity, heritage, etc. It's really admirable.

[@evergreencollective9059]

You should read his new book, it's awesome!

[@topazjas]

I think Antoni and Tan sit by each other because they always have to touch each other and I am HERE for it

[@the_nikster1]

they are besties and i love it sooo much!

[@meghanfaught2269]

I LOVE the idea of "letting people in" instead of coming out. Now that is a really important language shift!

[@margotcaspar_]

oops didn’t mean to comment that

[@abbyc6566]

I need to find the tan to my antoni

[@ax6175]

Abby Carpenter oh my gosh, me too girl!

[@shennensahir2202]

Same girl

[@collagecult]

Hi honey, she’s here 🙋‍♀️

[@unlocked6352]

okayyy so I'm a 28-year-old straight girl and I needed to hear *all* of this today.

[@jorelai]

I'm a 17-year-old straight girl and I needed to hear all of this today

[@deadtonk5527]

You should watch Queer Eye then ! It's a bundle of laughts and cries. They don't only make makeovers, they genuininly care of the person they are helping, they give so much good advices and can relate to them.

[@unlocked6352]

@@deadtonk5527 I've watched every episode, before I watched this video.

[@kimdracvla]

unlocked im a 16 year old straight girl, and my ears needed to be blessed like this today

[@mimik.5426]

Girl me too twinzies

[@LPdedicated]

They're literally the best, purest, kindest and most generous people ever and no one can change my mind!

[@iridescent9254]

Nice pfp

[@lewisellisweiss]

“It took me 31 years to come out as a figure skater.” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I love you Johnathan!

[@CaitlynSpencer]

I love that Tan and Antoni are always sharing some kind of touch. They are so sweet, and it's great that they normalize platonic touch/cuddling :)

[@aceofspades4930]

I'm so proud of Jonathan coming out as a figure skater

[@NoSri]

Antoni's advice seems actually genuine and self-critical in a healthy way. It's good to admit when you were not being your best self.

[@sometimesitbelikethatallth7234]

I bet Karamo can talk about anything in a room and make it super inspirational

[@gracieharding608]

whats really inspirational is the way u spelt fettuccine u uneducated swine

[@sometimesitbelikethatallth7234]

GRACIE what’s really inspirational is the fact that I’m Uniqua and your just Tasha

[@gracieharding608]

@@sometimesitbelikethatallth7234 finally spelt something right, however from first grade you should know that only the first letter should be capital.

[@sometimesitbelikethatallth7234]

Gracie Harding no u

[@sometimesitbelikethatallth7234]

All caps for dramatic effect 😼😼😼

[@RogueCassette]

*cannot concentrate on anything but on Tan and Antoni massaging one another*

[@shennensahir2202]

I feel the exact same way

[@berrybread7215]

I love listening to Antoni talk.

[@gaysara]

Tan with the truth TEA. I'm in my early twenties and I just recently came to the realization on my own that I needed to follow more wholesome, positive accounts and stop looking at things that make me upset. It was so life-changing for me. I recommend it to all

[@jaylen6625]

they’ve done so many interviews and jonathan still has yet to say “we the fab five from netflix’s queer eye” in one take lmaoo

[@lulomak8329]

Jonathan is such a mood.

[@radish1395]

Can we have more men just holding hand with their male friends

[@nichollehoward9502]

""Don"t be afraid to hear 'No'" I will emphasize this to all my students that want to be actors. Very encouraging

[@karieoki]

Tan and Antoni...I love how u guys support each other by rubbing each other's forearms....u guys are precious

[@aceofspades4930]

I read you guys as you gays

[@marianafagundes7374]

Tan and Antoni can't stop massage each other, it's adorable

[@blahzaze8073]

tan went somewhere deep into his past during this...wish i could send him a hug.

[@speckofdignity2487]

As an actual 17 year-old, this was a such amazing advice. Especially for me, Antoni's "you don't need a label" since I've been struggling with thinking people would be mad if I "changed my mind" again, since I've already done it once. Also here's some random advice for fellow 17 year- olds (or just anyone) get a pet if you can, even if its just a fish or something, because I've noticed that since I got a cat, I feel much more appreciative of nature, and you will always feel loved by someone that way.

[@juliareichel9364]

The anxiety that people will call you a liar or attention seeker if you "change your mind" about your label is real. But never forget it's THEM who require you label yourself so they'll know how to treat you (differently). Once you step out of cishet space, there's endless discovery to be made, so relax and enjoy it. I'm reaching 30 and I still have moments of "oh, this is also part of my identity/or this isn't as much part of me as I thought it was" and that's okay. And if on some days you don't feel like it, just give your new kitten extra snuggles. :)

[@smudgerat9624]

When I was 17-19 I changed my “label” several times and continued to develop my understanding of myself into my 20s. I definitely felt like I had to have a label in order to explain myself to people, and you are changing so much up until your mid-20s that your self-identity is bound to change in some ways. I felt awkward/guilty/“fake” for having to correct what I’d previously come out as, I wish I’d been confident enough just be myself without having to announce myself. Also what you said about pets is very true, my anxiety calmed quite a bit when I was finally able to have a cat again. Having pet rats did actually make me more anxious though (I had a lot of dreams where they were escaping/in danger/dead) so it’s not universally true that pets make life better.

[@ARG7856]

I love how they're all just holding hands and being so affectionate throughout the whole video, I wish everyone would be okay with displaying affection like that, especially as friends

[@carmensaintjames]

Antoni shows his love through touch. I love him.

[@taylortiwari7118]

I just want a platonic bond with someone like the bonds the Fab 5 has.

[@mycahnicholson4506]

The affection they give to one another is honestly beautiful and i love it so much

[@gregory7958]

These guys and Bobby changed the way that I perceive people in general, but specially LGBTQIA+ people. I used to have extreme prejudices about them, and they are day by day going away. I'm not completely free of prejudices, but I'm doing my best to work towards it. I'm forever grateful to the FAB 5

[@Inominifia]

I have the same identity as Antoni and I love him so much, and I'm so thankful for him talking about this!! I always kinda refer to myself as bi but I feel like it doesn't fit me very well, and I struggled so much with trying to find a label when I was younger, thinking "maybe I'm straight afterall" when no, I'm not straight and also no gay. It annoys me a lot when people call Antoni gay, or call them "5 gay guys" when he's repeatedly said that he doesn't identify as gay. The show is called queer eye, not gay eye! let him be Not Gay please

[@maeva9008]

I know right this is so annoying

[@irosmeifinda1451991]

What Karamo said about people shouldn’t be afraid of hearing “nos” from other people and giving “nos” to people hit close to home. A really important and relatable message for everyone.

[@MissGeorgiex1]

wtf i'm wearing exactly the same lilac jumper as jonathan, it's fate girl

[@elisejcooper]

omg where did you get it I HAVE BEEN LUSTING AFTER THIS JUMPER (since antoni wore a similar one in the new series it is to DIE)

[@aishymoo5]

Why do u call it a jumper, you jump with ur legs :( aka pants

[@elisejcooper]

@@aishymoo5 that's a good question! In Australia we call them jumpers (sweaters are specifically for gym wear/active wear) buuut you got me wondering so i googled it! "The word "jumper" when used to mean a sweater comes from an obsolete term for a large, loose men's jacket called a jump. "

[@MissGeorgiex1]

@@elisejcooper hahha that's very interesting, actually never knew that! nice one :) and yeah i associate sweaters w/ hoodies/ gym stuff

[@hinokihoney]

WHERE’S IT FROM?!

[@juliafowlie]

i strive to have friendships like this where you just have the most amazing supportive conversations while holding hands.

[@holymaccaroni8190]

You can really tell that Kurano is a Dad, he’s just so wise and loving💛

[@yougogirlphinney28]

Ahhhh they’re all so cute holding hands. They always say the most positive, lovely things but they could be talking about like paint drying on a wall and it would still fill me with joy.

[@biasseokjin1257]

They were all holding hands the whole time that’s beautiful

[@ThePurpleSheep]

Bobby's always working!

[@aviirose9743]

It's his earth sign self lol

[@maryp9923]

I’m mad

[@savvy140]

Little virgo 😂

[@maddyfeinauer3935]

Tan rubbing antoni’s arm was adorable 💕💕💕💕

[@michaelaNkristin]

Tan & Antoni’s reaction to Jonathan’s Joel Osteen comment... I laughed out loud!

[@penguinlove66]

I really needed to hear some of this right now, especially what they were saying about not worrying if you don’t have your life figured out right now. The Fab Five are inspirational, and beautiful inside and out. We need more people like them in the world. ❤️❤️❤️

[@LOVEisPRESENT]

love just like. watching them all hold hands and casually massage each other like. the world needs more casual intimacy.

[@TamingTaylor]

These lovely men really have such sweet friendships. Holding hands and sweet lil massages. I love them

[@EssiBunny]

Antoni saying LGBTQIA-community just increased my already immense appreciation for him SO MUCH.

[@sandylane4776]

As a 17-year-old gay, I’m loving this 🥰

[@lorrainecarroll271]

Antoni and Tans friendship is literally friendship goals

[@zonaldzuck1859]

Bobbys stuck helping their last client remodel their whole house :/

[@SeventeenMagazine]

😂

[@amandarogers5668]

The comments for this video are so positive, supportive and bravely vulnerable. So many KZbin videos are followed by hateful comments, but everyone here seems to be seeking their best self. There's something about these guys that makes us all better people.

[@TarotMom86]

*Waves* hi...33 here, aaand just now in the process of discovering myself. I have a husband and 3 kids who rely on me. I want to give them the very best of me I can. I spent my whole life living up to someone else's standards, and I'm just now realizing that it's ok for me to be my own person, and the breast version of my self as possible. The fab 5 influence me positively in so many ways, and I hope that someone else is impacted just as much. It's never too late to embrace and find who you are meant to be in your heart. Lots of love to all ❤

[@queenng354]

You’re amazing. Proud of you.

[@emilyb3902]

The breast version of u

[@robotaholic]

"You can change your mind on your label" is the best advice, thanks Toni

[@cecesvids4897]

I’m 17 and I’m so happy that these angels are here to give advice to teens like me!! I was missing Bobby a lot though 😭❤️

[@Jessxodayum4ox]

They are all so affectionate to eachother in a non sexual way. So much love, friendship and light. They make me so happy!

[@bluetrapp9502]

Look at them holding hands they are so comforting and sweet they know this talk can be hard for eachother and they are so supportive and intimate and emotional.

[@shriyakhanna9425]

That color is so fab on Jonathan, he’s so radiant

[@margaretforsey7763]

I love all of these folks, but I especially love Antoni. I love how seriously and gently he speaks, and how soothing his voice is. 💕

[@carlabrogan4825]

I hate that Bobby isn’t in any of these :(

[@danielleswafford4904]

I agree but hes building his Empire

[@Cameron-sl2cw]

Can we just talk for a second about Tan massaging Antoni's arm throughout most of this video??!!! That looks so amazing 😍 Their friendship is so adorable 😭😭👏

[@Cameron-sl2cw]

It started around 6:15 BTW. I only mention it because I found myself staring at Ant's arm for the rest of the vid 😂😂❤

[@ponypants8]

The fact that this is so popular and out there for teens now fills me with joy. I’m straight and count myself so fortunate because teens of my era were assholes. Seeing this, is like watching a wish come true that I wished for 20 years ago.

[@kayisfunkyfresh]

Ugh I absolutely love the intimacy of their friendship. It's so wholesome and sweet.

[@edw8889]

I love the loving way they touch each other we could all use a lot more of that affection in our lives

[@nonotthatone1778]

The “no” moment is so important for my rn bc college decisions just came out and I was rejected from a lot of them, but now I’m going to a school in a different country and imma live an exciting life, like one you see in the movies. Wouldn’t have happened if I hadn’t threw a Hail Mary at this college 3 hours before the app was due, and took that risk. Thanks queer eye for inspiring me and bringing me comfort 🌸🌷💕

[@annakulbashny4941]

i totally agree with Antoni!! couldn’t have said it better. we don’t need labels. just live

[@emmacook5286]

'through conflict comes growth'...this is why i love Antoni

[@pumpernickel7765]

They are just one of the best human beings in the world. I love them so much. Honestly they make my life better.

[@limabean3870]

17 in a couple days.. and this actually helped a little becuz my anxiety has been at its peak and this was a slight bit of reassurance that everything will be ok 😊

[@amandamusic80]

I love the chillax of it all, everyone's holding hands and touchy feely, Tan rubbing Antonis arm muscle and JVN and Karamo with hands and feet intertwined. I just feel comfortable even watching. And where'd Bob's go!?!? He's been missing in a few of these videos! Dont think we don't notice

[@treedragonfarm]

They said in another video that he was in China creating like his own brand or something

[@amanatee27]

the little massaging btwn antoni and tan

[@elektracity205]

Karamo and Antonie I agree so much with what they said.

[@SeventeenMagazine]

Who's your favorite Queer Eye guy? Ours is a 5 way tie.

[@maeva9008]

WHY DO YOU MAKE US PICK? rude.

[@abdulrahmanmohamed2836]

TS music video brought me to these guys. I haven’t watched their show but already falling in love. I noticed Tan first, and can relate to him for being a gay Muslim, Antoni being quite reserved just like myself , JVN taught me you don’t have to be afraid of showing feminine side of yourself and embrace your vulnerability, Karamo’s talking about emotions and all really gets me and finally Bobby I really wanna give him big hug after learning about his childhood upbringing. All of them are my favorites.

[@marisolrosali]

I love them ALL! They’re all just super special people that bring something to the table that the rest of them lack 😩💕

[@eclipsemidnight]

they all had some really good things to say, but the one that struck truest for me is what antoni said about labels--teenage me needed to know that and learning that much more recently left me hurting myself and sometimes other people. it was really cool and validating to hear that from a public figure like this, because that was a message I didn't see at all when I was first figuring it out.

[@naaven12]

5:22 Tan and Antoni's faces though

[@suzyq8850]

I love how your always touching each other, it's so sweet & supportive & comforting, I wish I had cuddly friends like you all are! ❤❤❤

[@mlee68]

I absolutely love you all together and individually! So much to share from your life experiences. Your touching and affection with each other is heart warming. And there is not one single episode that’s hasn’t made me cry for the pain people feel and the butterfly you find within them! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@erinmacarthur7336]

I love how Tan said this was supposed to be a serious conversation for all the kids out there I'm so sorry, Johnathan is so funny and incredible but where were this guys when I was in high school they would be in my squad. Love u Johnathan Tan and Anthoni

[@caroline456]

YES THE CROSS THING. I’m sixteen and double cross and I’ve always been told to uncross them and NEVER AGAIN

[@soniabaron6252]

Damnn I would have loved to see Bobby in this interview. But he’s busy building his empire.

[@chrisr1803]

Can we just appreciate how utterly lovely Tan looks here? ~sigh~

[@kh5709]

He always does. So much beauty.

[@rainbowlover2752]

Roses are red Violets are blue I was not first And neither were you

[@katiee628]

Tan and antoni have the most beautiful friendship 😍😭

[@vickypedrazzoli1871]

I love how they hold hands during interviews ❤️

[@jammeblue5949]

Tan's color palette 😍

[@alexandraaponte5436]

I really needed to hear Antoni's experience about the pressure when you r trying to find a label for yourself. I m felling right now and it's so confusing and exhausting.

[@DontMindLena]

I love my dads so much! The Fab Five are huge role models for me and always will be.

[@shreeyakumar8997]

You know, I will never get tired of them giving out advice to me, just never!

[@monionlee4012]

This is sooo useful. I cannot thank the channel and the fab five and every crew member who worked on this video enough

[@Chithrasp]

This is such a personality class for all.. I love Jonathan crazy...

[@kaykold2004]

I find it so cute how jvn always holds Hands With someone. Like, i love that

[@mcook6005]

The discussion of boundaries is so valuable. That's exactly what I would tell my younger self :)

[@katriannakaskinen1908]

they are so pure and amazing

[@firewheels90]

YES, Karamo! Letting people in/coming into yourself is priority!!

[@Christmasishere24-25]

I wish I could have a close friendship like the fab five

[@naiaminino]

OMG I LOVE THE QUEER EYE SERIES 😫😫😫😍😍😍❤️❤️❤️

[@TheBlueninjaranger]

This looks like a group couples therapy.

[@jujubean8870]

Jonathan: "I can't act straight." Also Jonathan: @1:02