Sex positions with paralysis

[@jimhilstad5227]

I have huge respect for you both, it’s such a pleasure to see a couple that work so well together, and hasn’t let a disability rule your lives. Thanks for being so real.

[@katieclemence9888]

I was paralyzed due to a hemmorhaged cavernous malformation in November of last year. My mother-in-law introduced me to your videos a couple months ago and I impatiently wait for the next one each week. I have learned so much from you and your honesty is so refreshing. I am so glad you did this video. Great job!

[@EmpoweredPara]

You are exactly the reason I make videos. I am here to make you feel less alone than I felt when I was newly injured so if I am succeeding at that then that makes me happy! Anything you want to see just say the word and I'll try and make a video! If you want support or have personal questions feel free to DM me on Instagram or email me at [e-mail]!

[@melodieg2007]

This was my diagnosis as well! I've honestly haven't encountered much people with the same sci as me. A cavernous malformation in the spine is very rare so I don't know much people with it or can relate 🤕

[@talesfromtheleashexpatdogl1426]

She's amazing....this channel should have ALOTTTTTTT more subscribers!!!

[@fireisle]

I'm not sure why KZbin thought I needed to see this, but I'm glad they did. You are an amazing inspiring couple. You tackled a delicate subject with grace and style. Thanks for your strength.

[@EmpoweredPara]

That algorithm lol. Glad you found it helpful in some way!

[@colleen6106]

KZbin did the same for me. I’m new to this site but so grateful for the content. Especially this candid video. And glad KZbin didn’t take it down. Cudo’s to both you and KZbin.

[@EmpoweredPara]

@@colleen6106 Thanks!

[@threefourths404]

You two are an awesome couple! Very courageous of both of you to help empower those with disabilities!

[@EmpoweredPara]

Thanks!

[@rebeccawiens4224]

Watching this for educational purposes. I'm a recreation therapist and will likely encounter people with SCI. Sex is a form of leisure! Thanks so much for being open to sharing. I watch a lot of disability content on KZbin and this is the first time I've seen a couple on the bed talking about how they make it work.

[@EmpoweredPara]

I think it's the only video lol. That's why I wanted to make it! Not enough content on sexual health with a disability!

[@JustMe1u2]

Have you ever thought about teaching at a hospital that specializes in paraplegics and quadriplegics?, I truly believe you would be a great asset to a team to help with new people that have been paralyzed. Thank you for your sharing, you guys are amazing. .

[@EmpoweredPara]

I teach at my local rehab hospital sometimes!

[@JoshG8408]

I don’t think I would have the courage to put myself out there like you guys have. Love the show!!

[@EmpoweredPara]

Well I didn't have the courage for 2 years lol. But I've gotten braver the longer I've been on KZbin

[@delphinium5555]

I do hope that disabled people find you here. So informative and helpful for others and so very empowering for those who might be affected in a similar way.

[@EmpoweredPara]

I hope so too!

[@chenellewhite3053]

Thank you so much for making this video I was injured when I was a kid so obviously sex wasn’t even on my mind but now that I’m an adult now it’s a very awkward for me to discuss so it’s always helpful to watch videos like this!

[@EmpoweredPara]

You're welcome!

[@Liz-Biz]

Great “how to” info! thank you for the refreshing point of view as a disabled/paralyzed woman.

[@travelingperfusionist9646]

Hi Liz, what level your injury?

[@itsme-notyou]

In the KZbin cesspool you are actually helping people. Lovely couple doing good for the world.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Well I'm glad I'm not in the cesspool! Thank you!

[@eswarikamireddy260]

Great respect to both of you for being there in every step with each other.

[@IxAmxOlek]

Never really had the chance to interact with people who have any kind of disability but this video broadened my horizon. Really interesting and educational. Thank you.

[@EmpoweredPara]

You're welcome!

[@rhuulu110]

As someone who has a genetic form of lung disease and is fearful to try dating as its been around 8 years since I was diagnosed even though Ive had it all along and its slowly getting worse it makes me smile to see a disabled person having a full life.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Time to get out there and date!

[@andybernal9690]

It will take a brave souls to share that experience for the sake of education. We appreciate your sincerity, thank you.

[@EmpoweredPara]

you're welcome! Only took me a 2 years to finally get the nerve!

[@sandrafuhrer7747]

Thank you so much for your honesty! This is so important for someone newly injured or maybe even after several years of injury! But it needs someone who’s talking about it. I just love it! Lots of appreciation from Switzerland, Sandra

[@EmpoweredPara]

Yes! intimacy with a disability needs to be a bigger conversation for sure!

[@deliveriesrus4723]

I just found and subscribed to your insightful channel. Most comments talk about how great this is for people with disabilities. I think this is great advice for everyone. Most couples don't get as intimately aware of bodily functions or needs of the other person. I can see how close this challenge has made you two. It's all about having the confidence in yourself and your partner to try new things and put yourself out of your comfort zone. I gained a lot of weight during our marriage and was very self conscious. Well we have been married 43 years. Thanks for the great life lesson.

[@shadowr2d2]

Thank you for posting this video. I have learned so much. It’s great to know. That you, & your husband. Are still enjoying this part of life. You have done a great video. In a very respectful, & kind way. With you taking charge of this. I’m glad I found your channel. I hope that you get a million subscriber..

[@EmpoweredPara]

Me too lol! Thank you for watching!

[@a.b.creator]

He's strong! You both are so lucky ☺️ I am not paralyzed but I have degenerating spine, with some degenerated disks which cause mobility issues and chronic sharp pain..so this is very helpful for me also, as I'm engaged and was wondering what I'd do on my high pain days. I try to adapt during my high pain, low mobility days in order to keep living. I spent about a year super depressed when it got worse because I used to be so active and docs said over the years there's less and less I should do now because it makes my spine worse. I had trouble accepting that. I'm hoping to find maybe a back brace or maybe more intense physical therapy,but learning what I can do on my bad days truly helps . (The bad,low mobility/high pain days I'm in bed most of the time. Maybe if I watch more of your videos I can learn how to work around those days. The pain gets me..and I can't take any pain pills because of a digestive issue I have. I know, it's a pickle. But I'm a tough cookie) Sorry this is so long, I just don't talk about it often as I don't know anyone personally who can relate.

[@EmpoweredPara]

I recommend cognitive behavioral therapy. It works to change your perception of pain and reduce the brain centers that sense pain. I also recommend Dr. Joe Dispenza. He teaches how your thoughts can create disease and/or health. Powerful stuff!

[@irenedavo3768]

Tens machine

[@irenedavo3768]

Heat rubs?

[@XRos28]

I am proud of you (both) for making this video, it is needed AND I know many people would appreciate (I am not in your position, but I do have a disability.) Respect is a given.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Thanks!

[@michaelwilliams5234]

Thanks for sharing, not sure why I’m here, but appreciate both of your comments and obvious love you have for each other. Blessings to your family!

[@EmpoweredPara]

Thanks for watching!

[@SweetTooth8989]

You guys are awesome and such great sports. I've learned so much watching your content about how paralysed people go about their days. You're definitely helping a lot of newly paralysed people that are probably already overwhelmed and trying to come to grips with a new way of living and I can imagine your videos are really helping ease that transition and alleviate a lot of stress for them. I can see your channel growing a lot more in the next while. Keep doing such great work 👍

[@EmpoweredPara]

Thanks! I hope that I'm making that transition easier. I know it was a difficult one for me. Wish I had youtube back then!

[@vickenator]

You guys are hilarious and this video will help so many people. Thanks for sharing a sensitive topic with such humor and honesty.

[@EmpoweredPara]

You're welcome!

[@kristinastrano4321]

This is actually brilliant and so informative thank you for posting this !

[@EmpoweredPara]

You're welcome!

[@HappyHibee]

This is a brilliant video and such an important topic. Thanks for covering this with such great humour and openness. Disability and sex is still sadly a huge taboo subject and this will really break down barriers.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Thanks for the feedback! Yeah, sex and disability isn't talked about enough. I'll keep doing my best to normalize it!

[@carriekliethermes4628]

You guys are such a cute couple! It seems like you are a perfect pair. You have embraced your situation and Joe is so accommodating & understanding.

[@EmpoweredPara]

He's definitely the guy for me! I think we're pretty cute together too lol. Thank you!

[@briarrose5208]

I love you for keeping it real! You’re doing a beautiful thing for women with spinal cord injuries and for their partners. And Joe is such a trouper about it too! When there’s a will there’s a way. Your ease and level of comfort with one another are wonderful. Wishing you all the best!

[@markthaggard3323]

Hats off to both of you for doing this video and for being so candid.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Thanks! I truly think this kind of information is needed, even if it's uncomfortable for some!

[@tedwardfox]

Again, your candor and ability to present subjects that might make some people feel strange about comes to the rescue. Bravo. Not certain about the educational system in Canada, but your channel ought to be mandatory viewing for both the disabled and their families. Noting mysterious ought to get in between loved ones.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Well if I have anything to do with it my content will be strongly suggested for all newly injured individuals 🙃. Working on it! Thank you for the kind words!

[@strad.philippines]

Brilliant, big thanks for the education. A display showing a great depth of character. Sincere best wishes to you both

[@EmpoweredPara]

😊

[@christinathehawk]

Love your videos! Helpful and informative about all aspects of life, which includes sexuality. I admire your candor and openness. Thank you for sharing, you will help many people with these videos!

[@SeraVicki-cq5tz]

I'm not paralysed, I just can't walk so am in a wheelchair. Thank you for this, I was wondering if I could still have an intimate relationship. Now I know I can.

[@May-gq7wn]

You two are great! My husband suffered SCI 7 months ago. So much to learn. I hope to find a male version of you. Thanks for giving us hope.

[@korkunge]

This is so great for all people to know this shit is absolutely possible as a person who is paralyzed stuff in the bedroom is absolutely possible

[@dawnr714]

Your vid showed up in my feed and I just want to say what an inspiring woman you are and have a beautiful heart and soul! 💜❤✌

[@EmpoweredPara]

Thanks Dawn!

[@westiepower2020]

Great to see and hear Joe again! We didn’t expect a 2nd sex video so soon. My wife is cringing right now, it might take her awhile until she watches the whole video. An older generation issue.

[@EmpoweredPara]

yeah definitely harder as older folks lol

[@westiepower2020]

I thought it was nifty how you put up the “caution” for your parents. I think Deb took that to heart LOL!

[@EmpoweredPara]

@@westiepower2020 well she isn't required to watch lol. You should ask her before putting on videos lol

[@westiepower2020]

@@EmpoweredPara True enough LOL! So far, I’ve only watched it on an iPad on our new deck. The sun kept washing out the screen. Tonight I’ll watch it on the big screen.

[@westiepower2020]

@@EmpoweredParaHooray! I finally got my wife to watch part of this video, on the TV version. Our apologies to Joe, but she laughed hard at the kneeing him part!

[@SamuelBurnett-qw6uy]

This was a fantastic video. I love how funny this could be at times. Sex should have laughter. You demystified the whole thing and just presented it as a loving, joyful thing.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Glad you liked it!

[@allenstark3530]

You pair are amazing and so funny. I can see these video's helping so many people. Thank u

[@EmpoweredPara]

Thanks! I hope they are helpful!

[@JD-jg6ov]

So I impressed that you guys have gone to the effort of making these videos. Well done. Aside from the important practicalities, really demonstrates the strength of relationship and what really matters.

[@vandela177]

Thank you for being so brave.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Brave or stupid lol. Not sure which haha. Just trying to answer questions I had when I was first injured but was too afraid to ask!

[@rsunday4784]

You are both so brave. There's such stigma, so much shame and hush hush when it comes to sex that a lot of times people don't feel like discussing it, or will but only in the form of gross talk, foul language or that'll be fifty bucks mister, you've got 10 minutes, time starts now! It's nice to see just an average young couple explaining, showing how it is they or others with the same or similar conditions might sometimes do it the way they do. It was fun, lighthearted, playful, informative, educational without being boring all textbook medical - yawn, or leaving me feeling like I was watching a porn movie about to take off. I think this short video strikes a healthy balance.

[@joeyslush]

Love your stuff. The two of you are such an inspiration. Thanks.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Thanks!

[@johnavery1367]

Hi and congrats on the content, looking back to 1980 we could have done with some of this therapy I am Single 63 m and was in a MVA that caused a fracture of T6 and C4 luckily C4 was stabalised. This sort of content should be part of all SCI patients recovery plan, as it is a big part of life to both sexes, feeling like you are not "Good looking, Sexy, Lustful, Horny, and Undateable". An to all them normal (lol) people get to know someone disabled they might just shock you!

[@lsdwarrior4967]

Proud of you both,, thanks Joe for being there with Britney and family…

[@EmpoweredPara]

thanks friend!

[@jasonthomas12]

I’m crying I’m laughing so hard at the doggy section of the video.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Trust me, we've laughed many times during the deed as I try to get in new positions lol. I look ridiculous lol

[@tansiewalker5249]

I am a n LMHC ... I applaud you for bringing so much knowledge to interabled couples. This video was informative without being crude. I do wonder if some people would have found it helpful to hear a little more detail from Joe how he then positions himself for both entry and movements since you are immobile during the active parts. Again in your graceful and appropriate wording .... ob obviously there are things that happen once you position. Thanks again for this informative video.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Not much mystery once we get in position lol. Joe does most of the work unless I'm feeling ambitious haha.

[@Salty_Knuckles]

Absolutely facinating. As much as I dispise the internet, a video like this would have never been possible without it. I'm 63 and have many times wondered what this process looks like, and its pretty much like I imagined. I'm sure there's a little more that Joe has to do, but we'll leave that to the imagination. 😄 Great video!

[@EmpoweredPara]

lol Joe definitely gets a workout some days 😉

[@user-wh9qp8yb2r]

For doggie-style for someone who is a T6, we were both amazed on how you were able to get up on your knees all by yourself..We were sure that you would need help from Joe. And we admire how you insist on doing everything yourself. I guess all those workouts you did when you were learning how to get back in your chair really built up your upper body strength. We applaud how strong and fit you are!!

[@EmpoweredPara]

Thanks!

[@atomipi]

Lucky man, look after her, she is amazing, inspirational, smart, funny, courageous, honest, pretty, and sexy.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Thanks you're sweet lol. I'll remind Joe that I'm a keeper!

[@NBay_]

Thank you for sharing , I think your videos are very educational

[@SherryLopez-zp3nr]

Thank you for sharing this with us

[@choochoochooseyou]

You guys are brilliant. I'm sure a lot of people will be helped by you.

[@EmpoweredPara]

I hope so!

[@om617yota7]

Love the disclaimer at the beginning. If the title didn't give it away.......

[@EmpoweredPara]

lol yeah had to warn em!

[@ChronicallyMichelle1995]

My doctor always says “just because you’ve got a lot going on doesn’t mean your not getting nailed” he’s been my general doctor since 1997 when I was 2yrs old I’m 27 unfortunately he’s wrong I’m not. I’m not paralyzed by I have many chronic illnesses and have lots of pain, I’m a part time wheelchair user but it will become more full-time. I haven’t had sex since I was 20, I’m 27, or even dated because I fear I couldn’t give what most men want and I want to find someone that is willing to work with me. At this point I’m actually afraid of sex due to how severe my health has gotten.

[@EmpoweredPara]

I believe you can find someone to love and who loves you no matter what your condition!

[@ChronicallyMichelle1995]

@@EmpoweredPara thank you

[@bubba283]

@@EmpoweredPara Im a guy who deals with this with my boyfriend, he's paralyzed, I've found just riding each other is easiest.

[@jasonthomas12]

I absolutely love your videos!!

[@woodywoodlstein9519]

You’re amazing. So strong. In body and mind. This really shows the world. This is so valuable Beyond That im speechless and moved.

[@westiepower2020]

Oh my goodness, you are so strong, flexible, and determined!!

[@peytonr9969]

What a cute couple ❤ with practical advice. 😊

[@lookin4ward1]

Good on you both

[@chandahagen5119]

So cool of you to do this!!!! Good job by the way!!

[@EmpoweredPara]

thanks!

[@alanpage4641]

You are both fantastic!!!

[@merryladdo6556]

"You don't even need batteries" loool. Love this Chanel. Kudos guys x

[@user-sc8tl3ll9m]

You guys are awesome!!!!! Thank you

[@EmpoweredPara]

You're welcome!

[@jennifermusser5716]

As being paralyzed on left side with no left arm control. So the first 2 positions are impossible for me.

[@JuliusP.W.D_33]

Very informative content

[@michaelamiss1828]

Love you’re honesty.

[@ChristopherLRussell]

Oh goodness I feel so bad for asking this, but according to your other video where you said you couldn’t really feel anything down there, how are the sessions? I mean it’s got to be tough for him to not hear you “enjoying“ what’s happening because I would guess that you’re probably silent. Conversely, it would be crazy inauthentic to hear you fake any sound.

[@EmpoweredPara]

I'm not silent lol. Lots I can still feel and enjoy. Plus I have a great imagination lol

[@davelynch2532]

LOL I just found your vids and watched many now. I love you guys. Good Luck to you.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Welcome! Thanks for sticking around to watch!

[@michaeladoptactivate1562]

Great learning

[@gipszjakab7437]

I love how open you are about this :D

[@danieltaylor4819]

Beautiful! You're both very fortunate to have such a loving, caring partner.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Yes I sure am!

[@rogersawyer70]

Don’t really know what to say, but you guys are awesome!!😊

[@EmpoweredPara]

thanks!

[@Jaggededge112]

Great video. Y’all are so candid and it’s awesome.

[@EmpoweredPara]

thanks!

[@brittySS]

Thanks for sharing!

[@EmpoweredPara]

Thanks for watching!

[@amyhull754]

Thank you so much for sharing!! This is very helpful!

[@EmpoweredPara]

You are so welcome!

[@prettydisabled9060]

Do you use any assistive equipments such as wedges or slings? Or have y'all tried on your wheelchair?

[@EmpoweredPara]

We use pillows as wedges lol. And we have wanted to purchase a swing for years just haven't done it. It's gonna happen though and when it does I'll make another video lol!

[@ridgeridin]

I've watched several of your videos. First of all, thank you so much for being vulnerable enough to share this. That is super cool of you. Second, my wife and I have another couple who we hang out with where the wife is paralyzed from her mid back down. We have talked a bit about sex with them and one of the questions that has come up is... uh, backdoor. Are you able to do that? I believe it was you in another video that said you have to be more creative and open to things, so I'm just curious if that is a benefit in your sex life? Thanks again!

[@EmpoweredPara]

That was on the rotation when we were first married lol. But we are less wild now that we have teenage ears in the house lol. It's a special occasion kind of thing now haha.

[@ridgeridin]

@@EmpoweredPara Thank you for your willingness to reply. That was awesome of you. Love your channel!

[@latanyafrancois6108]

I believe Joe is good to be in vlogs 💯 funny 😂 and sweet

[@resilientoctopus3359]

Hats-off for both of u!! 💜

[@robertchula1]

Thank you for your intimate self exposure.

[@kevinspeiss8004]

Thank you thank you for demonstrated the position. Thank you 😊

[@EmpoweredPara]

You’re welcome 😊

[@marktanario1405]

I saw this on your TV show today "Push" it is called. It is very informative, and I initially started watching it because it is a Canadian program.

[@EmpoweredPara]

Cool, thanks for watching Push! Were you a subscriber before watching Push?

[@user-ss4xt1ui1g]

The spoon is good. I've had to use it on older ladies who have bad knees or their legs cramp in missionary.

[@gracepataky3402]

I love you guys and this channel!

[@EmpoweredPara]

Thanks !

[@DavidMcbrady]

Your channel is so awesome 👍😍

[@rodsacreage7218]

So proud of you to share this content! Needs more man handling! Hehe 😅

[@EmpoweredPara]

lol I'm lazy most of the time so I get man handled plenty haha

[@SuburbanDon]

Well I've seen everything now. Thanks for sharing

[@EmpoweredPara]

You're welcome!

[@mackenzietuckcovers489]

I learned so much as I though people who were paralyzed were limited to being on there back so supine

[@EmpoweredPara]

That would het pretty boring lol

[@LandofMert76]

Super fascinating stuff. The awkwardness just makes it more fun

[@EmpoweredPara]

Awkward? Us lol?! Never haha!

[@javantedavis1999]

I love this channel!!! Keep doing yo thang girl!! U had me laughing 😂 i subscribe

[@EmpoweredPara]

Welcome to the club! Thanks for subscribing!

[@Sherry-jx9hs]

Just wondering if oral is a thing for you. I know some people view it unfavorably (dirty) and don't want any part of it :) I am not a disabled person but this is how my life is with a normal partner it is frustrating to have a partner who doesn't like doing it but getting it (from me) seems to be OK. I'm too old to care about it anymore so as for the last many years I just suffer in silence to avoid the conflicts. Then it feels like the doing it (is) because of the conflict and ruins the mood and makes it difficult to have a climax. Many blessings to you

[@tlccromwell3058]

You are a beautiful loving couple enjoying a healthy sex life ,thanks so much for sharing. As you probably well know there is not a lot of information out there for those living with spinal cord injury ,so this is great information to have out there.Power to you!

[@EmpoweredPara]

There definitely isn't enough information so trying to do my part to change that!

[@chrisphillips6479]

No idea how or why the YT algorithm brought me here (like everyone else), but you guys are great. Neither myself nor wife are paralyzed, but she does have MS, and sometimes sex is difficult for her. We still find ways and have a healthy (frequent) sex life. I would add the backrub position with pillows under your hips and missionary with hips on pillows. Both of these are great for the man side, and my wife enjoys them too! Just food for thought...or positions for trial and error...or success!

[@EmpoweredPara]

We do the missionary pillow thing sometimes! Never tried the other position! We all seem to figure things out in our individual relationships, but it's so much nicer when we can have conversations like these and share our experiences with each other! Thanks for the suggestions!

[@woodywoodlstein9519]

I’ll be donating for a cure. And praying for advancements I hope everyone does. It’s just a matter of time and money. It’s going to happen. In the meantime there’s these tutorials!

[@williamashworth8538]

This is definitely one of the neatest videos I’ve seen this year. I’ve never really thought about it. I’ve had a girlfriend that was 100% blind that Ive been intimate with though. 😅

[@jimtaylor2443]

You are amazing.

[@jennyi6u6]

Awesome video and new positions for us; lazy lover and upright randy. We will at least try the lazy. Good point on how that would likely lesson spasm risk. We try to embrace all parts. For a sensory complete it is good to also have a hand in the action. Thanks!

[@EmpoweredPara]

lol I get a hand in there all the time! Great minds think alike lol

[@jennyi6u6]

I am a sensory complete so that is really important for me.

[@buster531000]

Do you not have a wedge ramp combo witch makes doggie style very easy..

[@EmpoweredPara]

No but it's been suggested many times!

[@netgirl1807]

Thank you

[@richardmayo9885]

Thank you for the video I'm very proud of you

[@EmpoweredPara]

you're welcome!