Sexual Compatibility (Or Face the Consequences!) | CS Joseph Responds

[@privy2322]

Love it!! So true. Me an INFP married an ISTJ mostly due to being members of the same religious organization. It was a safe choice. Sex was very uninspiring. With both of us as virgins we really didn't know any better. Sex frequency went way down after we had two kids, and eventually I got a divorce, after she had threatened divorce multiple times, never really willing to discuss the underlying problems of our relationship. Now I'm engaged to an INFJ, night and day difference in our physical intimacy. She's actually eager to participate and so much fun!!

[@glodazkaloopablenakirium3692]

Se doms vs se inferior is a disaster, but my parents emotional compatibility holds my family together lmao

[@malakashraf2801]

You mean they usually compete outside bed ? how ?

[@glodazkaloopablenakirium3692]

@@malakashraf2801 my mom doesnt want to sleep together with my father at all, due to all of her dissapointment. ni doms restrict ni inferior choice so much. Se doms never believe in se inferior performance.

[@aladdout9454]

what are their types

[@glodazkaloopablenakirium3692]

@@aladdout9454 esfp infj

[@nataliewantscookies]

@@glodazkaloopablenakirium3692 wow. Thats the hard truth

[@sunsetjesus4719]

Being single seems like the best option 🙄

[@abrahiemdash7676]

9:10 I had the same experience. i'm an INTP and somehow i keep attracting other Si users who are emotionally compatible with me instead of Se users. I think I'm doing it wrong lol I'm near the middle east and almost everyone here doesn't have previous experience sooo thanks for the warning

[@FloridaMarlinWrangler]

As an ENTP i have a good argument on sexual relations. Guys and gals in relationships are just like enjoying an ice cream sundae. Every sundae comes with cherries. Can you have a sundae without the cherries? Yes! Most people cant live without cherries on their sundaes. Funny thing is that some people get a sundae, eat just the cherries and leave the sundae for later. Why??? Cuz they value sex so much. The cherries are like sex and the sundae is like the relationship. If guys approach relationships with the objective of just being sexually gratified, the woman feels used and breaks up. So whats the solution? Stop popping cherries at the expense of the relationship as a whole!!!

[@sylviaowega3839]

As an INTP, I didn’t mind the occasional flings for satisfying my sexual appetite, but never had no desire to get into a polyamorous relationship, or open marriage.

[@annl.5512]

The idea of open relationship is absolutely no sense.

[@misscogito9865]

Same here. But I don’t mind being like the cuckoo. Get into that polyamorous nest and kick the other female out 🌚😂

[@misscogito9865]

It makes sense to open a relationship, but just for sexual escapades, but not for emotional connections. Have friendships for that kind of intimacy, but both physical and emotional would just be with me, and that’s what would separate me from the rest of people as this person’s partner.

[@mrod8578]

For women if sex is their goal, it's highly beneficial. Men on the other hand generally lose out on open relationships because it's easier for women to have sex than men (barring a high status guy in the top 1 percent). It's the dumbest crap ever for an average guy to promote an open marriage because his average wife could easily get many times more partners.

[@sylviaowega3839]

@@mrod8578 What many men do, is sleep behind their spouse’s, or partner’s back, especially if she won’t satisfy him in bed

[@qasimimtiaz9668]

i think another issue is that parents tend to try partner their children with those the parent’s themselves are compatible with. first, my aunty tried to get me marry my intj cousin when i was 18 and recently, tried to get me marry my enfj cousin. my both psrents are xstjs so these types are highly compatible with them. my istj mum hates esfj women but i think she won’t mind about entp or enfp women. she likes my male entp cousin a lot.

[@andrewmarman9655]

I'm curious Chase, is it really impossible for these relationships to work? Are there ever situations where if both people are able to achieve enough development of the other sides of their minds/their other perception functions then there may be a capacity for a 'taking of turns' type of approach sexually? A give and take approach? Overall, the way you describe these situations with the painter/canvas analogy and the problems that can arise, it makes a lot of sense. I agree, in general, that the vast majority of people are probably better off getting with the someone of the opposite perception axis.

[@better_than_pig_physics1261]

You’re like the uncle I never had

[@maxkojin]

Uncle Rick

[@blake1337royale]

😂 dope

[@feliciaspeaks8663]

Young ppl marry who is “familiar” and they have so much comaradarie they are the reason why the divorce rate is so high. Statistics show ppl usually that marry young get divorce and those are the same ppl who get married again and are of high risk of divorce again. My mom an ESTP is with my ISTP stepdad because she was lonely. This is very true that ESTPs get very lonely.

[@matthue9419]

Thank you. I've been trying to figure this out for ages, maybe now I can actually verbalize some uncomfortable truths.. I'll keep you posted

[@mrod8578]

Well if we were to go by the theory of Si/Se sexual compatibility something close to 35-40 percent of women are ESFJ/ISFJ alone (I think something like 70-75 percent of women overall are Si users). This might be great for Se user men as there is an abundance of Si user women but that also means there is a dearth of Se user women which puts strain through a hyper competitive environment if Se user women are the only types Si user men should pursue romantically. In a game of romantic musical chairs a significant percentage of Si user men will be left out. It's simple math that is not all that encouraging.

[@monikap8777]

Well, who says there are not more Se than Si males?...

[@forestfrog5960]

In my opinion I don't think this is a big issue. Se-user women are intimidating anyway and scare off a lot of dudes because of their masculine energy. Even as an ISTJ I find myself attracted to ISFJ women, because they are not that intimidating. I'm sure there are plenty of se-fish in the sea.

[@mrod8578]

@@forestfrog5960 True I never thought of it that way. I tend to find Si user vvomen much more attractive myself as Se vvomen can be highly emasculating and take charge (which western society also promotes which probably enables them to be even more masculine through nurture). Their personalities are too strong for me or perhaps I'm not man enough for them and I certainly don't want the aggravation of trying to make such a relationship work. I want peace in a relationship because I work hard outside of it (coming home battling for dominance and leadership of my household is not my idea of fun). For example I much more prefer Melanie to Scarlett from Gone with the Wind for example in a relationship (looking with a Red pill lens Rhett became an emasculated man until he chose to walk away). However Chase is talking sexual compatibility which means an Si user like myself is supposedly meant to be with an Se user type. Feminine softness (as opposed to masculine hardness looking to take charge) is much more alluring to me when looking for a woman. Unfortunately if what Chase is saying is true, I'm meant to be with an Se user vvoman. I might rather be a monk lol! I'm sure it might be different with Se vvomen overseas as some of them have cultures which trains and promotes vvomen in femininity regardless of type so that might be a future possibility.

[@forestfrog5960]

@@mrod8578Unfortunately even an ISFJ wife will try to dominate if her husband lets her get away with it. There is an ISFJ x ESFJ marriage in my family, and the ESFJ husband won't stand up to his ISFJ wife, which just makes her even more unhappy and toxic. Men have to establish boundaries no matter what, but it is a mind game that many of us don't want to play.

[@mrod8578]

@@forestfrog5960 True any vvoman is capable of it and will test (sometimes for good reason) but some are much more inclined than others because it's inherent to their personality which can make peace in the household difficult. My mother is an SFJ and she was quite good at deferring to my dad before his recent passing (in fact she preferred it). They had a good relationship. Watching all the divorced couples from my peers parents overall (and now my peers approaching 40) over time, I now realize how rare my parents relationship was as an adult in the western world. My mother would shake her head when she saw vvomen constantly usurping their men in public and the men taking it (I grew up playing sports and I saw such things and saw plenty of parent gatherings and get togethers...never thought anything of it because it was so common for men to step back and vvomen to test them...their subsequent divorces was not surprising thinking about it now).

[@morefaiththanever]

You saved me, I have a common law marriage with an incompatible partner and we keep missing the exits to get out of it. The only reason to exist in the relationship is loneliness and millions of dollars. I see the ridiculousness of it all now . 😂

[@schmitzkaylee]

Dissatisfaction may be a good thing to maintain novelty in a relationship. The push/pull dynamic is important, otherwise it’s boring. I like inching closer but never quite getting there. It’s like “play” or “dance”. Two canvases encouraging the painter sides in each of them. Growing with a person is top of my list in desirable traits, thus we’d be pushing each other to perform. (speaking from experience with se-se)

[@honor9lite1337]

Do you have the same experience with si-si? It's dead.

[@rowansaro2458]

Oof, this hits close to home. My partner and I are both Si dominant and have only been with one other person. I wouldn’t say either of us are unsatisfied with our sex lives though it maybe have to do with our lack of experience. My previous relationship was with an Si inferior and I was unsatisfied with the sex life though not for the reasons listed in the video. Using the painter and canvas metaphor, my partner felt like a canvas masquerading as a painter and never let me be a painter. Things felt stale pretty quickly. In my current relationship, we joke we’re switches because we genuinely enjoy when the other person takes on the painter role. There’s a lot of give-and-take and blurred lines in roles. Things don’t feel stale is what I’m saying. Outside of the bedroom, I do wonder if he’d have more fun with someone more spontaneous and less canvas-like. It could be because of my previous relationship, but instead of getting down about how I am, I prefer to think about ways I can grow and develop. Maybe we’re not an ideal fit, but I care enough to try to make this relationship as satisfying as reasonably possible.

[@joannahughes8944]

I have often wondered at the number of STJ men married to SFJ women, I think I know a number of these marriages - they seem very stable, but STJ men look outside relationship for sex.

[@aladdout9454]

"they got married in the game and then got married outside the game" lmao WHAT💀

[@Ruu555]

How do I attract Si guys rather than other Se guys who take interest in me? Anyone have any (subtle) suggestions for an Se inferior? 🤔

[@CSJoseph]

Read Get the guy by Matthew Hussey

[@aladdout9454]

u infj or intj? also whats wrong with being with an se user? by ur own experience?

[@Ruu555]

@@aladdout9454 I am an INTJ woman. Although I like and accept my personality type and being an Se user, because it’s my inferior function I have struggles with it. It’s difficult to find the correct balance. It’s like I have instincts to be noticed, go out and get what I want by myself. However, I have anxiety of making mistakes and failure to get over. Also I am reluctant to take risks that other Se users with Se hero or parent would have no problem taking. Due to personal experiences, I’ve found that people (especially guys) get intimidated by someone like me because I can’t find that balance between staying loyal to my Se or staying loyal to societal expectations of females. Generally speaking, society tends to view women as Si users and men as Se users because Se qualities are seen as more masculine and Si qualities as feminine. I don’t wanna get too personal with my next statement but for the longest time, I’ve been aware that I enjoy the idea of harvesting desire and other positive emotions from someone I love. Even when I fantasise about love, in my imagination, I am the one who is pursuing, finding my target who will become my ‘canvas’. Other Se users have that same raw instinct (even if they are unaware), they still want someone to be their ‘canvas’. CSJ is right about his painter canvas analogy. There is a person who desires (harvests - normally this isn’t done with bad intentions) and a person who wants to receive that desire (donating to the person harvesting. It’s a concept I came up with recently but haven’t examined my concept enough to see it’s flaws.

[@sientwa6102]

Is an infj a painter or a canvas? And what about infp's?

[@Chalupasandfupas]

This lecture kinda terrifies me tbh. Before my husband, I've only been with one man, pretty sure he was an ISFP. Good times were the best I've ever had but at worst he was verbally abusive and had anger issues throwing stuff around the room and punching walls. I broke that off before it escalated regardless how much he begged me to stay. I didn't learn about jungian psychology until recently while I was already married to my INTP husband. The first year was extremely difficult since we didnt start living together or were intimate until after we got married. Listening to compatibility lectures now has me take initiative in the bedroom and I have to be blunt in what I want my husband to do, and it has to be frequent. He's learned so much about me too with these lectures and really try our best. I'll rather drop dead than leave my marriage because I don't think it's that bad. Hiccups in communication happen here and there but I have a lot of patience and we don't really argue. I believe my husband is happy too, I think if I were to give him the option to leave the marriage or see other people, he would get upset and rage. I do appreciate your honesty about what you think about being with incompatible types and how respectful you're being with how you say it.

[@malakashraf2801]

What's your type

[@15hotchi]

That makes perfect sense honestly. I’m an INFP who’s been with an INTP for a little over four years now and while we aren’t married we are very attached and committed to one another. Even if it isn’t objectively the smartest if you’re already involved and it’s working and you’re willing to work hard and communicate, I see no reason to call it quits.

[@Chalupasandfupas]

@@malakashraf2801 ISFJ

[@aladdout9454]

dont fall for this poly relationship bs, thats actually what destroying western society not monogamy

[@aladdout9454]

ok so... ik of an infj-infj couple and they make it work really good since both of them had shit relationships before finding each other. Its like when u go thru trauma of some kind and find someone morally good, eventho u are not traditionally compatible with that person...u r likely to make it work

[@danihaiden890]

What if the female is se user and the males is si user , and the social norm is when men initiate sexual contact. Isn't that a problem?

[@abrahiemdash7676]

Nope what idiot will think about social norms in the bedroom? okay if they both are pragmatic they wouldn't care but they are both affiliative types the male Si user will know that and initiate because its expected from him

[@15hotchi]

He posted a video on that two weeks ago! It’s called “How Do I Approach Women as an Si User?” Super informative stuff

[@danihaiden890]

@@15hotchi saw it !thanks!!👍

[@15hotchi]

@@danihaiden890 sure thing!

[@RaffertyMBTI]

As an ISTP, I love ENFP’s, but they’re not challenging enough for me. That would be INFP’s. I have my highest highs and lowest lows with my superego. I don’t want children, but I relish the Se parent-Si child dynamic. I was relieved when you recently said the reason the refinement relationship doesn’t work is because both parties are seldom willing to do the work to improve themselves, for the relationship. I have read that 8’s (enneagram) need a sense of the divine, intensity and a challenge to feel fulfilled and like their life has some direction and eventfulness. Sources have implied that we need some sense of kinesis and even a metaphysical triad - some third entity - to feel fulfilled in our lives. Could it be possible that the challenger relationship is moreso a third entity relationship than other types? As an 8w9 with object permanence issues and a schizoid nature, a refinement relationship seems like it could benefit well from the permanence of Si child physical presence and attentiveness. In addition to this, the third entity nature of a refinement relationship may be an agnostic 8’s key to supplanting the divine.

[@imgoingonholidaytovietnam3631]

I am dying to know more about the ENTJ (female) and INTJ (male) romantic pairing - what is it called? You categorise all the pairings, but you avoided that one (or I can’t find it). A great representation of the ENTJ female and INTJ male romantic pairing is in BBC’s Sherlock - S2 E1 “A Scandal In Belgravia”.

[@00Klingon]

Both are Se users sharing all the same functions in the Ego so according to what was talked about here that wouldn't fall into a naturally sexual compatible category.

[@sonofhibbs4425]

‘’…It’s like the epitome of the most BORING sexual relationship you can imagine…”. Was it insensitive to have burst out laughing at that? Oh, the misery. No joke though for many people finding themselves in such a marriage, and with kids. It’s creepy how some people will end up breaking apart their needs to be fulfilled outside of the ‘’relationship’’. What is it then? It’s like relationship schizophrenia. How can that stand? I’m so glad I found this video, even though it’s not my question, mine is very similar. I was wondering how MBTI had to say about sexual compatibility. I am new to MBTI and trying to learn. You’ve hinted at the answer to that here discussing Se/Si users and the functions….I don’t know much about that yet, but intend to devour any info I can learn from. Thanks!

[@emaanalharthy318]

As an ENFP - an INFJ or an ENFJ would be my most compatible types in a marriage correct? Are there any other types or only these two?

[@glodazkaloopablenakirium3692]

Anyone with Ni might help. As an infp i really want the other person to want me in her life. (Entj intj infj enfj) even isfp esfp estp istp

[@00Klingon]

For ENFP: 1. INFJ - Golden - Most sexually compatible. 2. INTJ - Companion - Most sexually compatible. 3. ISTP - Natural 4. ENFJ - Respect 5. ENTJ - Trust/Benefactor 6. ESTP - Refinement 7. ESFP - Kindness 8. ISFP - Intrigue

[@nicolegulino]

Do you think compatibility changes based on the gender or sexuality of the pairing? Like does the functional compatibility change based on whether or its a man/woman, man/man, or woman/woman relationship?

[@CSJoseph]

No, because this is nature, those all matter greatly for nurture, however.

[@t-man5196]

I don't know I mean I'm an INTJ and I've been consistently sexually attracted to ISFPs despite sharing the same functions

[@Crazychick80876]

This was a great topic I think we should all pay attention to. Curious though why my best sexual relationship ever with no emotions was an Istj being a entp? Hmmmm thanks for the content Chase

[@CSJoseph]

Someone was mistyped

[@malakashraf2801]

You said before that istj is the only type you could consider having a relationship with as an si user

[@CSJoseph]

And ISFJ

[@malakashraf2801]

@@CSJoseph are you making fun ?

[@glodazkaloopablenakirium3692]

@@malakashraf2801 no. Istj and isfj is si dom and they can use se suited to his si inferior needs

[@malakashraf2801]

@@glodazkaloopablenakirium3692 yeah I understood that about istj , but when he said isfj , his dual , it felt weird

[@qasimimtiaz9668]

@@CSJoseph interesting 🤔

[@maniaalkim7487]

this has confused me. i am an INTP but i don't really care about whether i am sexually satisfied or not. in fact, i would hate it very much if my partner tried to satisfy me, so much that i can even rage because of it. thats not what sex is about to me, i solely focus on what would make my partner feel good and absolutely crave that "sexual reaction" that you get from your partner, its like a feedback on whether they like it or not.

[@maniaalkim7487]

bruh never mind, i'm not an intp. lmao.

[@malakashraf2801]

Exactly , intj maybe

[@nemesis27]

​​@@malakashraf2801maybe entj, enfj or infj

[@PA007]

Good advice CSJ.

[@Cuspofrevolution]

What about infp female and istp male?

[@rachelhunter541]

Enfp here. Infp mum, not sure about dad- intp or maybe entp, but certainly 2 Si users. They've been married nearly 50 years. 9 kids. They're best friends. So, it can work but They both have unresolved childhood trauma - and they seriously enable each other to not deal with it. As for enabling- they never grew up. Psychologically that was damaging for all 9 of us. Particularly my infj younger brother, who mirrors them so well he's literally a 30 year old man child. He may never get a job or be self sufficient. Not sure about previous experience, but my mum is very religious (Christian). Her loyalty to Jesus prob the strongest glue when sexual compatibility not strictly there. So, I love them. It's a relationship of emotional tamponage, but can't say it's optimum for growth. And their house is a mess!! OK, IMHO... don't go there if you can avoid it!

[@privy2322]

That sounds awful!! I'm an INFP and was dating an INTP female and I could totally picture us in a messy home just acting like grownup children. So even though it was fun, I knew I had to end that relationship for a more relationship that would give me more long-term fulfillment. I'm quite confident that I found it with my INFJ fiance.

[@malakashraf2801]

They did not compete outside bed a lot for who makes the other more comfortable or who has the pressure to make choices or didn't feel undesired thus hurt ?

[@adrianb4486]

does hypergamy ignore sexual compatibility? i'm very sure my best friend is an Se Hero and he is desired by the Se girls i hang around with. The girls try to give him Se experience and flirt, but it's only my friend who rejects them and not the girls rejecting him. Even tough the girls say to me that they having a hard time getting him to like them back, they still show desire and flirt with him. is that because of him being masculine alpha? also for context i'm young intp

[@Entyipo]

Yeah it does. He mentioned that in a recent video how to approach women as an Si user

[@CSJoseph]

It can, but for a time

[@qasimimtiaz9668]

@@CSJoseph true

[@qasimimtiaz9668]

you just need muscles, confidence and money to satisfy hypergamy

[@denissesantillan6218]

He said emotional tampons 😂😂😂

[@sonofhibbs4425]

😆Love it.

[@rimasoosamir8167]

Im infp cant imagine marrying an estp holy

[@malakashraf2801]

What if I am an se pessimist that usually gets attracted to other se pessimist , is that normal usually cause pessimistic functions are not as intimidating or loud ? Does that happen ?

[@daffling]

I was attracted to an ISTP once, being an ISFP myself. This got sexual and it was fire 🔥 I guess it’s because of our shadows. Me being extra attracted to ESTJs and him to ESFJs. But his ESFJ girl won the fight 😅

[@daffling]

I remember him telling me once that he can’t concentrate around her, that she automatically gets all of his attention. That’s how he is attracted to her

[@malakashraf2801]

Did you compete for choice or performance outside bed, especially being both males?

[@daffling]

@@malakashraf2801 A little. We had our pack of 4 (both of us + 2 other friends) and sometimes we competed for their attention. Both of us wanted to amuse them

[@d.o.9072]

I might be mistyped- chaotic transitions , so pound of salt, and it would come from a INP relationship.1) Trauma yes+ going it to ENJ during NI intensive tasks (AI study work) turn on, elements of game, as an example .2) INFP more selfish, INTP "sportsmanship interest " plus SiFe, " I am a good boy, did a good thing" can lead to good results, as in you can teach Si to remember ques and look for them , and perform as part of a scientific endeavor (TiNe), for often unilateral but still results, then INFP knows that an unfulfilled contract is a liability and amends will be made, in simple terms, take turns. 3) Never underestimate the power of comfort, in all regards. If anything, it just proves even more what Chase was saying adding to that the stagnation of personal growth, but if your have to chose : In a canvas on canvas situation , if it don't work and you want it to, you learn some new tricks, the question then is " Is skim milk still milk?" , On the other hand in a painter on painter situation, one will have to fake it. What's worse...?

[@malakashraf2801]

I am thinking the same , but what about the competition outside bed , I mean perceiving functions have a bit of emotionality, too , right ? So you 2 don't compete for comfort ? you deal with it easily using judging functions , through dialogue I mean ?

[@d.o.9072]

@@malakashraf2801 In my experience it is more of a dance around each over, plus : Tamed Ti hero to Te inferior and Fi hero to Fe inferior , there where a lot of problems in the beginning, but now it is more about taking care of each over Si child loyalty both ways . Not ideal, not sure I can recommend it, but...

[@shayansalamat6612]

Hi, would you tell your opinions about that which type is the best sexually compatible with ISFP( I'm male) , mbti wise and also your experience??? Tnx🙏❤🌷

[@00Klingon]

Based on his previous lectures - For ISFP: 1. ESFJ - Golden Pair (Highest Highs and Lowest Lows) -Most sexually Compatible. 2. ESTJ - Companion / Pedagogue (Typically recommended) -Most Sexually Compatible. 3. ENTJ - Natural 4. ISFJ - Respect 5. ISTJ - Trust 6. INTP - Refinement 7. INFP - Kindness 8. ENFP - Intrigue

[@Tumi_2000]

@@00Klingon remove Entj from there. They have all the same functions in their ego so no compatibility. Maybe you meant ENTP, which would be the bronze pair. Statistically the highest for marriage

[@00Klingon]

@@Tumi_2000 yes, thank you for the correction. It’s easy to think one thing and type another when writing a whole lot of letter soup at once. Haha.

[@Tumi_2000]

@@00Klingon haha I understand

[@nicolegulino]

What if this person was just talking about casual sex or encounters with sexually incompatible types? Is there any ability to have fun with those encounters or is it just bad sex?

[@sharpiesarecool814]

Can you help me? Idk I was with 2 Se users as a definite INFP. But they didn't match my kinks (Dom/sub). I recently have been getting to know an ESTJ who has the same exact kinks but in reverse (to a tee), so basically we are puzzle pieces. We haven't yet had sex or met in person, he won't have sex before marriage (I know what a trap lmao) but I've never been so, so turned on. So, my question is: are trauma based kinks/sexuality an exception? Both of our Si's desire and need it to be that specific way and it just happened to be compatible. I might be getting ahead of myself cuz we haven't actually done it yet, but I feel like he is truly the only person who gets my sexuality, like he can read my mind (we have the same functions, so he basically can lol). Thinking of the future, you said it could just turn out to be a fling. In the long run would an Se user be needed to keep sex fresh? Idk I'm just so confused and don't know if your theory holds up cuz I've never been so mentally perfectly stimulated. He knows exactly what to say it's scary. He's a Dom and wants to have pleasure selfishly (not directly correlated to being a top, it's just his personal slant/kink) it's all about his Si and Fi basically, and my kink is to be used exactly in the way he wants, I want to Te and Ne, like give him freedom and to take it how he wants, like using my Te to make the whole operation work. It's definitely duality. I'm not an INFJ or anything. You know how you can feel that you use the same functions just because it's relatable? It's like that so yeah he's definitely ESTJ and I'm INFP.

[@malakashraf2801]

Try another estj first without telling him + men have more pressure to perform in bed whatever type they are , but you are ging to compete for literally everything outside bed .

[@mahdimalak1354]

How about INTJ and ESFJ

[@cynthiajuma9006]

Its great, they have the second highest sexual compatibility after ENxPs

[@malakashraf2801]

Natural/ bronze pair , most successful marriages .

[@vj21oq27]

@@cynthiajuma9006ESFJs are like exposure to the Sun . They are warm and nice as long as you don't get too close to them but they will burn you if are too close to them for too long.

[@qasimimtiaz9668]

i love esfjs 🥺

[@malakashraf2801]

What if the 2 have same sexual functions in the middle , you said the child can interact with the critic to an extent , can that work here , too ?

[@CSJoseph]

This video applies to that scenario. Asking someone to use their critic function at all times is unrealistic.

[@Mugzchunch]

B-but my two biggest crushes in high school were se users... is this just because of immaturity? Or is it because I'm gay

[@qasimimtiaz9668]

Emotional compatibility maybe.

[@Mugzchunch]

@@qasimimtiaz9668 well one of them was the same type as me

[@CSJoseph]

Someone was mistyped

[@Mugzchunch]

@@CSJoseph thanks for the vague answer

[@daffling]

Well, I had a crush on an ISTP man, being ISFP myself. We got pretty close emotionally and after some time we had a sexual episode. But we did not get along very well, I think it was because of my immaturity though. Anyway, my point is you can have a crush on your type but did you got into relationship? I think that would verify if you would get along

[@nadeemlakhi9206]

Would like to know your opinion on asexuality

[@CSJoseph]

It’s false

[@pepecorotopo]

What about the pair of objective personality?

[@malakashraf2801]

Shannon can't be more entp than that for God's sake

[@pepecorotopo]

@@malakashraf2801 Chase itself says Shannon looks like an ENTJ

[@malakashraf2801]

@@pepecorotopo I never heard him say that and to me she's very entp-ish, she's movement, initiating and she was talking very ti-fe in the last interview I saw of her .

[@ER-oc7xx]

I know of 3 cases of enfj male and esfp female relationships, they're all young. One of the couples are getting married

[@BrandonWristband]

I've seen that same pairing have a horrible divorce.

[@ER-oc7xx]

@@BrandonWristband no doubt that's where it's headed

[@malakashraf2801]

@@ER-oc7xx ok but like all that time dating of course they had sex , right ? why did it work then and not after marriage ?

[@ER-oc7xx]

@@malakashraf2801 nope they're part of a Christian belief system as chase predicted

[@ivey2k71]

You know what I find funny? ENTP’s have Fi trickster meaning they have no moral awareness and YOU made A social engineering series and once said(in the cognitive attitude of the trickster function video) that Fi trickster caused the nuclear bombs being that someone made them so that they would solve A problem but ended horribly and you making social engineering videos to solve A problem but leading to something horrible(people having access to manipulate everyone around them) sounds remarkably similar to your remark about Fi tricksters unawareness of morals and also the nuclear bombing comparison was very comparable to that video

[@rogerbee1234567]

i’m only able to pull si user women by pretending to be isfp or entj and it’s exhausting se women think they deserve all the best in the world and i’ve given up on them

[@15hotchi]

What’s your type? And wow I’m sorry I’m sorry about your negative experiences with se user women

[@rogerbee1234567]

@@15hotchi the negative experiences aren’t because they are se women i secretly worship se women i hate what the machine of society turns them into we feel each other has nothing to offer and it feels like the end of the world because of it

[@15hotchi]

@@rogerbee1234567 that makes sense breeding of entitlement is happening easily all around and se user women seem to get hit pretty bad with it just because I think it combines with their masculinity and shows a lot more

[@Ruu555]

I’m an se woman who ends up attracting other se users but never the si users I actually want (e.g. INTP or ISTJ etc.)

[@15hotchi]

@@Ruu555 I’m sorry that you’re having a hard time attracting si users! I wonder what vibes you’re giving off to attract se users to you very interesting. My suggestion is make the desire factor strong we want to be wanted so put on your best I want you eyes you know the ones I’m talking about with the fluttery thing 👀 look up some body language videos as well that will help a tonnnnn I promise they’ll definitely go for that. Also we’re more on the boring side than you are my INTP boyfriend does not do the funnest of things either. I suggest looking in quieter environments (make sure you look your best and are alone when you go) and I think you’ll have more success there than at clubs, bars, and parties. Places like libraries, museums, cafes, parks, basically anywhere there isn’t too much noise those are your best bets imo. You can definitely do louder environments as well obviously but I find they’re harder to spot there. Initiate the conversation first if you think you see one because they’re not as forward as se user men.

[@aplethoraofme2056]

Would it be fair to say, that if a partner or lover isn’t wanting or needing sex from their significant other, the relationship is probably best that it ends? Mostly due to fear of pregnancy. Both partners don’t want kids. Any suggestions?

[@CSJoseph]

If you aren’t willing to have his child then you shouldn’t be with him.

[@aplethoraofme2056]

@@CSJoseph maybe. It takes time to get to know people yah know?

[@SS-bu8ez]

Not every guy wants kids. Many men get vasectomy.

[@Samwise108]

Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait... Hold up. Wait a second. Somethin' ain't right. CHUCK PALAHNIUK is an ESTJ???? Chase, almost all your celebrity typings seem accurate. There are a couple that come to mind that I personally am skeptical of, but only a minor (as minor as possible) difference, for example there are a couple individuals you have typed as ENTP that I believe are INTPs, similar types - BUT - my point here is that seeing Chuck P typed as ESTJ is a SHOCK. I've watched multiple interviews with him and he just does not come across as a Te hero at all, or an Outcome type, or Affiliative. How confident are you of that typing?

[@CSJoseph]

Your opinion is noted but without evidence to contradict me, I may be forced to dismiss it.

[@hamilton4969]

do more INTJ videos!

[@JB-qg3iw]

No

[@daffling]

You know what is triggering to me? That in most of the recent episodes I see you smoking 😂 I don’t know if every ISFP is trying their best to live a healthy life, but I do and that just triggers me 😅

[@CSJoseph]

What is so unhealthy about it? It’s organic non-gmo, doesn’t touch my lungs, increases testosterone.

[@Amrrkevin]

4:35

[@ashuranero5721]

First

[@sylviaowega3839]

Btw, have you ever dated an INTP? Lol

[@annl.5512]

He said he never date si child

[@sylviaowega3839]

@@annl.5512 Well … as a Ti dom. myself never believe entirely what people say, especially regarding matter is the heart. Lol 😝

[@annl.5512]

@@sylviaowega3839 why someone should lie on the matter? It's make no sense.

[@CSJoseph]

Once

[@saavyz]

He’s been with every type iirc