She Got STOOD UP. See Why

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[@scarletlady3727]

I once had a date scheduled with a guy, he called me the morning of the date and said he had to cancel…when I asked why, he said he didn’t feel well….I came to find out from a mutual friend that he had just been fired that morning. He canceled because we had reservations at a very nice restaurant he picked and wanted to impress me ….when he was fired, he knew he would be able to afford taking me out ….I felt sooo bad and asked him over to my place for dinner…..we ended up getting g married

[@AbaNPreach]

pin worthy.

[@FLBoyCanScrap]

You're a real one.

[@ACoustaDC]

@@AbaNPreach Is that a POS??? Pin of Success..... BTW.... good woman right there!

[@mysticflow467]

nice

[@ManBoy349]

Definitely a real one here

[@americancapitalist9094]

“You’re not that important” More people need to accept this.

[@joeltaylorthethird5443]

yess!!!

[@MusMasi]

@@Johnyjohn-mc-jonjon Brah even saying 7-8 can land you in hot water lmao

[@brycewilson1741]

The scale for women isn't 0-10, its 6-10.

[@onlyawomanisawoman2052]

not more....everyone

[@thaikhan1262]

Everyone needs to accept this.

[@Mista.Sir.]

I had a date planned with a girl and she actually texted me before saying she wanted cancel and stop talking cause she still wasn’t over her ex. I wasn’t even mad I respected her for not wasting my time energy or resources .

[@kiwik2951]

Used to use that line on people I just wasn’t that interested in. Thankfully I am not an asshole anymore.

[@jaketheripper7385]

Wish my last gf gave me that same courtesy lol. Unfortunately she didn't come to that realization until a good 9 or 10 months into a serious relationship with me. I mean we're close friends now (some weird stuff happening between us right now actually if I'm being honest), but 4 or so years ago when we broke up it left me pretty headfucked. I mean I was WAY into this girl and it seemed as if she felt the same way, however apparently she was only with me in an attempt to get over her ex who she literally broke up with to be with me. Naturally I wasn't aware of this at the time, but apparently it really messed her up and she was more or less just dating me for a variety of entirely selfish reasons, so when we finally did break it off she was allegedly doing so entirely for my benefit because she felt she wasn't being honest with me and she was also still reeling at the loss of her ex. Granted she did leave him, but it was more so the fact that she was so upset that it couldn't have worked out with him otherwise coupled with losing him. He offered her certain things like stability, comfort, and he was a total pushover for her in almost every situation. However there were a few particularly important areas that he fell entirely short with that acted as proverbial deal breakers, so even if he did have some benefits to offer she was pretty unhappy. I guess I filled in most of the areas he wasn't able to for her, so she thought a change was in order. It became pretty apparent shortly into the span of our coupling that she hadn't at all considered the deeper implications and long-term repercussions of her decision and/or perhaps thought that the new relationship with me would be enough to mask any potential emotional toll that would arise. In either case she was drastically mistaken and sorely miscalculated because I swear it was like a friggin' switch was flipped, and suddenly she was practically insufferable to be around and developed quite the proverbial "Jeckyl and Hyde" complex, unpredictably jumping from caring, endearing, and endlessly affectionate to being temperamental, cold, mean-spirited, even downright deliberately and aggressively adversarial and cruel. It would even happen mid-conversation when we would be spending time together and I could literally watch her entire demeanor shift inside of a second or two. Her facial expression, vocal tambor/cadence, posture, even the ambiance within the local environment would just suddenly change and in some ways begin to dull, even "sag" if you will. It was fucking freaky man seriously, and as an empathic/INFJ personality type myself I was always especially sensitive to such things and it would always begin to make me literally physically ill if I had to sit and friggin' marinate in that toxic-ass shit for any extended amount of time. In some cases she would then start drinking of course thinking it would help her feel better, but all it did was make her more malicious, vindictive, and petty in her attempts to get a rise outta me or try to make me jealous or whatever only to have me end up holding her hair back and comforting her at the end of the night while she ralphed her guts out. It seemed like a phase and I knew something was going to and just HAD to give if we were ever going to work out, so fortunately we split when we did. Clearly she had quite a bit of self-work and introspection to do before she could ever be in a healthy relationship of any kind, not to mention some untreated mental health struggles to address (she'll admit this herself, although she's yet to actually seek out treatment for what is clearly major depressive disorder; I would know I've been doing the same dance and seeing all manner of shrinks and therapists since the 5th grade on and off lol). I love her to pieces and we talk almost every day, but since we've been reconnecting more and more over the last year or so it's become clear that she's still really struggling and frankly I'm quite worried about her. I wish I would have kept in better touch with her over the last few years and been there for a few particularly bad periods. She just seemed so upset with me when we split that any communication since then had been rather sparse and misleading. She seemed so happy otherwise. Now I come to understand that she's literally barely holding it together and regularly talks about hurting herself and shit. Like the other day she's throwing herself at me and talking really sexual and everything (which is weird for her in any context really, so immediately red flags are going up for me), then a day later she's talking about deleting herself and how her family doesn't care about her and such. We spent like almost four days together - 3 or 4 days ago at this point, and no NOTHING happened beyond some cuddling that was entirely initiated by HER - so now we're talking about all this emotional stuff remaining from the past, though that's mostly on me; it's a long story. Idk wtf to do honestly, I'm just worried about her. Definitely not trying to be with her again or anything, at least not right now. I just want her to AT LEAST seek out some professional help and maybe begin to deal with her depression, but she just won't. I can't say anything about it anymore because she just gets upset and shuts me out right away, but idk what other help I can offer beyond the rest of the advice and reinforcement I've already offered, which she just tends to brush off as empty platitudes and rhetorical bullshit. Kinda feeling pretty helpless in this situation and at a loss honestly because all things aside I DO care for her and want to see her happy, healthy, content, and fulfilled. I hate these situations man, truly I do. Jeezus tapdancing friggin' christ; that escalated quickly... Sorry, it's been a long few weeks dude. I just read your comment and with everything going on with my ex right now I was like "Man, I *feel* you right now bro!" lol. Just immediately felt some radical empathy with you there, an entirely ambiguous and faceless stranger. Again, my personality type is prone to such phenomenon on occasion haha. Pretty crazy bizzare how that can happen though right? Cool, but bizarre nonetheless...

[@marcusj17]

@@kiwik2951 colossal W, cheers on the character development

[@Mista.Sir.]

@@kiwik2951 lmao well damn 💀

[@Mista.Sir.]

@@jaketheripper7385 Hella late but glad the comment could relate to you fam. I read the entire thing and honestly it’s a lot but I understand sometimes you got to just get those things off your chest. I understand from observation and personal experience how painful those situations can be. I’m sure you care about this person a lot and obviously we l hope she would not hurt themselves . I understand being there. But on the other side I think you have to weigh what’s best for you solely along with the fact of what she’s done to you vs what could have been / what could be and which paths you can take in life that will lead to a spectrum of results on both sides. Take your choice and accept the consequences good or bad , it is at the end of the day your life and your choice to have someone in your life in any form but after a certain pattern of behavior I beleive you become somewhat responsible for the results they bring as well upon your life. Whatever you choose to I really wish you the best friend in this part of you life and other endeavors , Godspeed 🤘🏽👊🏽

[@robertparks6115]

I cancelled on a girl because I was depressed that day and couldn't bring myself to show up and half ass it. She wasn't entitled to an explanation but I told her anyway and we went our separate ways. Not everything is exciting sometimes both people are just average and doing average stuff

[@jaybee8862]

True... I done this too... Like some days I'm feeling it... I'm good... other days like...fuck... my bed is home and I really don't wanna be anywhere else

[@nero.unleashed]

I disagree imo, its common courtesy to let the other person know why. Otherwise thats rude imo, like respect the other person and let em know whats up

[@silververnallbells191]

@@nero.unleashed An explanation of what you're going through absolutely stops the other person thinking it's them that they're not good enough or did something wrong.

[@brother_of_bruh]

I felt this on a deep level.

[@Jinkypigs]

Wrong dude, it is your right to cancel a date but you DO owe her an explanation as a decent human being. No need to go whole arse into the entire grandmother story, but a brief explanation will do a lot and more importantly, makes you a decent human instead of a douchebag

[@jamesmason7979]

Her: "He canceled on me. But I don't really care." Also her: Records video about getting canceled on and broadcasts it to strangers on the internet and asks "why do guys cancel on their dates?"

[@nickb6425]

Ah yes I remember when my father warned me about dating as a man, about my predisposition to always cancel just for no reason

[@LoneStoneMaalik]

Attention seeking at its finest.

[@MusMasi]

need that validation hit.

[@nasraabdullah6935]

You are using logic and common sense.... I feel triggered

[@jsmith2609]

She’s definitely pressed 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@EmisoraRadioPatio]

I got stood up on a Tinder date. She texted me 3 months later to say she was sorry. I guess her first choice didn't work out.

[@bxi1547]

And your lame behind probably went for it too.

[@MusMasi]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 and the second, 3rd, 4th, 5th and so on didn't work out as well.

[@Draven7970]

3 months? I hope you left her @$$ on read

[@uncledaddy9207]

@@Draven7970 he’d better

[@EmisoraRadioPatio]

@@MusMasi Lmaoo good point!

[@thedingus5171]

TLDR: I was stood up once. But I found out why a year later, and it changed my perspective. When I was in college I hit it off with a girl in one of my classes. We were talking for a couple days and i really liked her, and she seemed interested in me. I asked her out to a study date at the library and she said yes. The day of I confirmed we were still on, set up at the library with books and coffee, she told me she was five minutes away and that she'd be there soon. Five minutes, ten minutes, an hour, goes by and she stoped responding to my texts. I finally understood I had been stood up. It's an aweful feeling I would ever wish on anyone, mostly confusing. I sent her a nasty message and decided to forget it but It still bruised my ego for a long time. However about a year later I was talking with another girl who I found out just so happened to be best friends with the first girl, obviously she told her about me because one day out of the blue she asks "do you remember Jane doe?". Begrudgingly I say yes and that I'd rather not talk about it. But she then goes on to explain how the girl really did like me and wanted to so badly to see me that day, she was even telling the truth that she was on her way to the library. But she got cold feet last minute because she had just gotten out of a terribly abusive relationship with another man, and she was afraid that if he found out that she was seeing someone else that he'd try to hurt her or me. He had hurt her before. Rather than try to explain the situation she just gave up. Obviously it still wasn't fair to me, but she was in a terrible place mentally, and was unable to think logically. She was scared. In that moment I felt terrible for sending her a hurtful message, and learned a valuable lesson. You can never truly know what thoughts are behind the actions of others, you never know what someone might be going through. before passing judgment on others for offenses against you, consider for a moment that there are truths and reasonings that may be out of your control and understanding, and stop worrying about them. Stop worrying about how others act, and worry only about how you act. It will make you a stronger, more caring, more loveable person, and nothing will be able to faze you. Not even being stood up :)

[@jammijam_]

And your message most likely validated her fears, for men in general.

[@happygolucky9004]

Oh no, you can and absolutely should make a judgement. That doesn't mean judgemental but you can make a logical inference from the situation. If the person didn't have the decency to let you know it tells you they are not respectful. You may not know the reason why but it still says they need work on their character. It doesn't mean they are a bad or good person but you can make the judgement that they are not good for you. My Dad had a heart attack and while I was driving to the hospital I still called my date to cancel and tell them why. I was in an abusive relationship and had a similar situation which is why I didn't date anyone for a while after and went to therapy.

[@NopeNotToday26]

Oh wow. Thankyou for sharing that with us…I really do mean that. I’ll take what you said with me. ❤

[@everythinggoodsfeckingtaken]

Wow... that just hit me hard because I have been there when I was younger. I got stood up in that same way where shes saying shes on her way - then ghost... and I too sent an angry message because I thought it was a cruel prank and shes probably even watching from somewhere thinking this is funny. I never thought about it this way and I feel guilty right now that I never considered maybe she wanted to but was just scared or whatever. I was too wrapped up in my own insecurity and anger that I'd been stood up.

[@joane24]

If I was waiting for someone and they'd be sending that they'll be there soon just minutes before the scheduled time, and then didn't come, my first reaction would've been that something happened to them, and I would be worried if they're ok. It wouldn't even cross my mind that they would stood me up. I'd rather give people credit before I assume the worst of them. But thanks for sharing the story, it looks like a valuable lesson👍.

[@mikeg3728]

It can sometimes work out for the best, girl I was interested in we chatted over e-mail for like a month, were totally pumped about finally going on a date. The morning of that day, she e-mailed saying "can't make it, will explain later so sorry". Turns out she was being arrested for cannabalism. Cannabalism! Of all things. I was a vegetarian then, so... dodged a bullet in a way.

[@detritus3676]

Woah, that was a plot twist

[@everythinggoodsfeckingtaken]

Love that being a veggie is a detail in this story. "Like damn dude, If I at least liked my steak rare I could have turned a bline eye"

[@Ciel069]

@@everythinggoodsfeckingtaken 😂😂😂

[@ebbunny]

Nah, bro. You dodged a whole mf train wreck.

[@shirochan420]

Bro you were gonna get eaten. You dodged a whole ass land shark attack in my mind

[@takoen_taotaan]

I once had to cancel a date and i even cancelled it a day before the date. Told her that some pressing family issues came up and she ended up berating me for cancelling. So i told her mu grandpa was in the hospital and would die during that week. She just blocked me after that never even apologized. I'm happy that i dodged a bullet, but damn.

[@MusMasi]

The grandfather thing reminds me of my friend, his granddad died, they where close and on the way back from the funeral he was t-boned, broke ribs, collarbone, needed shoulder surgery, while all this was happening his girlfriend complained that she was not getting enough attention from him, She cheated, she even tried to cheat with me, when she was caught out, she tried to blame him, and expected him to take her back, She was very pretty physically but not really a nice person once you got to know her.

[@laly2482]

She showed her true colors, and they weren't pretty. The ego and blatant lack of basic empathy some people have, I swear. Been there with my grandpa as well, those last visits to the hospital were the worst so I understand how you felt.

[@oni1261]

Damn that's what I call having top tier good luck, if she's going crazy in the "honeymoon" phase imagine how she is after that phase has ended...

[@YesJellyfish]

That's messed up. She probably blocked you because she was embarrassed and she better be, but that's weak man.. guess you dodged a bullet, as they say.

[@kiwik2951]

You and your hair deserve so much better

[@Hekinsieden]

A bruised Ego will always take home gold in the Olympics for mental gymnastics.

[@enmanuel1950]

Damn, that's a bar.

[@MusMasi]

@@enmanuel1950 so true.

[@TheUnkindness]

If Asmon says it, it's true.

[@sikwitit773]

@@enmanuel1950 more of a haiku

[@NixLotus]

Adding this to my notes 📝 😂

[@TheRockStar04261999]

I had a date planned with a girl when I was 18, prob one of the first dates I had actually planned and worked up the courage to ask someone out for. The girl tells me she's on her way in 10mins, stands me up then ghosts me. Haven't let it define my dating habits but it's definitely one of the more memorable moments of hurt

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

Shiiiit, this was probably her first rejection and her ego is BRUISED. get on my level woman, I've learned to verify the date the morning of the date just so I don't get stood up. I also learned to set up a date near something I like doing like batting cages or bowling so we can either go together or I can go alone of she ghosts.

[@kingofgrooveness]

I invite women to do errands with me. Target bed bath and body works the bank oil change you name it

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

@@kingofgrooveness This is really clever because you're going anyway

[@jimmyjams962]

"Why do men...", "Why do women..." Why aren't we past this yet? A single member of the opposite sex offends you in some way and immediately it is the fault of every single human being who shares that reproductive organ. We constantly express the need to stop generalizing but as soon as something affects us we are so quick to do the very thing we speak out against out of emotional insecurity.

[@ddanbeatz186]

why do KZbin commenters act like any of this shit is real life ? jk it's harder to genuinely analyze than generalize

[@andrewsilva9721]

Let's not act like there aren't general behaviors that men and women fall into.

[@jimmyjams962]

@@ddanbeatz186 I agree that it's harder to analyze than generalize but I do think that social media has a pretty palpable effect on "real life". Maybe not in all arenas but it is definitely effecting some pretty drastic changes in how we interact with each other.

[@jimmyjams962]

@@andrewsilva9721 You're right, and I didn't mean to suggest otherwise - only to highlight the hypocrisy of exclaiming the virtues of avoiding generalizations when they affect you while simultaneously generalizing everybody else when it suits your needs.

[@courier4529]

@@jimmyjams962 If you let social media effect you, you deserve it. We deserve the ruin we will bring about on our own species. Not through terminators or a planet of the apes, but AI and social media glorifying and normalizing stupidity.

[@deusvult4920]

I once asked out this really sweet girl from work. We had been chatting daily for months before I pulled the trigger, and I was so stoked when she said yes. About 3 1/2 hours before the date I had to cancel, and I explained the situation and was very polite about everything, and she LOST IT!!! She was screaming and swearing, threatened to have her cousin "beat my ass", and called me a homosexual with an f. Needless to say, I'm so glad I dodged that bullet. She really had me convinced she was a nice person. Smh

[@calumbarry1829]

Some people become entirely different people when their ego gets damaged. Can be hard to tell which ones the real them but I sure as shit ain't sticking around to find out.

[@MusMasi]

This is why its sometimes best to not get involved with people from work, I would hate to go into the office the next day with her there. Hopefully you are in different departments lol.

[@1mattbutch]

Some women hold that in all the way until after marriage. Then you’re really fucked

[@laly2482]

This is why it's best to not shit where you eat, can't image how awkward going to work after that must have been. Also, she really went there calling you an homosexual with an f. I find that a lot of women who resort to insulting men by calling them gay are the type to then turn around and be all about pro gay rights and anti-homophobia and all that. I always found that so hypocritical that they use gay as an insult... It's not homophobic when they do it apparently.

[@randomcomment6068]

You got PTSD from this. The woman is a psycho.

[@Swampfox612]

Love you guys. Straight-shooting, tell it like it is. Glad I found your channel.

[@bendywilliamsonbissainth7593]

Yes I agree with not keeping your eggs in one basket . I went on a date with a girl on bumble , first date went well , the second date was okay , but after a day or two she ghosted me , I knew someone already and I asked her on a date we had an amazing . If I had put all my energy into her I'd have been very disappointed in myself.

[@mrscourtneyward]

Talked with this guy, on & off for like a week. On the morning of the date, we confirmed a lunch date. The second I confirmed, my boss asked me to come into work…I said yes to my boss & immediately called the guy to explain my work situation & to ask if we can reschedule for dinner. “I totally understand if you can’t make it,” I said. He agreed to dinner…so anyway, we’re celebrating our second wedding anniversary this august. 🎉😍🎉

[@johnsmith-kt7ef]

look at you two handling things like a mature adults... congrats on your upcoming wedding anniversary

[@shoazdon7000]

Comments like yours restore faith in humanity

[@redfather5342]

Congrats

[@notacompleteidiot...1285]

For some reason... I feel this is suss... 🤔 🤷

[@mrscourtneyward]

@@notacompleteidiot...1285 I mean, fair. But it’s the truth 😊😊😊

[@naayg7956]

Look i would respect someone who tells me they have to cancel instead of ghosting me 😂 , i agree with preach stop thinking about yourself for the moment things happen! lol like girl it’s okay.

[@Jorendo]

Amen to that, a hour notice would be nice, I have had it several times now that we would go on a date, and then days before the day they just stop any form of contact or suddenly unmatch me without anything being said or done that would explain why o.O

[@mint_soup9743]

How are you commenting 11 days ago? Lol

[@naayg7956]

@@mint_soup9743 patreon lol

[@wandilemgcina1291]

How are you pinning from 11 days ago, swear to God man these time travelers always playing games

[@fezzzost950]

@@mint_soup9743 he broke the matrix

[@ElderScrollsAssassin]

Cancelling might actually be the best way to weed out the crazy ones.

[@gutz1982]

I've been ghosted so many times by women, I no longer respect their "Word" anymore. Had one say to me she would never dog a person by ghosting them and would at least say goodbye or give a reason... Yeah, she ghosted me too.

[@silververnallbells191]

I'm a woman and I've been ghosted sooo many times... I don't trust anyone to show up tbh.

[@Yum_Yum_Delicious_Cum]

​@@silververnallbells191how does that work for you guys?

[@shanegrayson7068]

At the end of the day, this girl has more than likely NEVER gotten stood up or ghosted, let alone cancelled on. Who ever she says "yes, I will go out with you" to will be there either early or on time. I feel like this girl just has never experienced rejection, and this may be the first time.

[@nasraabdullah6935]

Nahh my gradma " died" a lot while on the date or before date just to cancel when the girl have attitude like this one she definitely got ghosted before but I see your point.

[@EvolianTiger]

“The audacity for someone to be upset that they were treated poorly. Women, am I right”

[@Tential1]

Nahhh dudes definitely show up late or ghost her. Anyone she says yes to, she's not that important to. She's hot to you maybe, to me sure, but to dudes she wants? My friends ghost/pump,dump girls like her on the regular. She's definitely been rejected.

[@user-nq8nw7nv6k]

This just happened to me recently 😂 (my first time being flaked on last minute) and I basically had the same reaction as this girl and used Aba’s and Preaches reasoning to calm down my ego. In a few days she’ll probably be able to a lot more honest and calm about it.

[@MusMasi]

@@EvolianTiger who was treated poorly here?

[@spaceo8568]

I'll never understand how people can just volunteer for their own embarrassment/humiliation. What was the point of posting a video about a guy canceling your date? I don't get it.

[@MrChewable1]

Starving for sympathy attention is why!!

[@shiro2400]

Validation from simps or ‘YAS QUEEN’ mob.

[@MusMasi]

So the sisterhood can rally to her to buoy up her Ego while trashing *men* while the white knights and simps can join in.

[@mint_soup9743]

Everyone experiences rejection. I’m not embarrassed for them working it out even if it takes a few steps. It sucks and people can overthink. I imagine many people probably reminded her that it’s not always personal. I’m personally grateful for people who are authentic. She didn’t state his name or anything aggressive like that. Misguided in her assumptions but still. It’s a very universal experience.

[@souijaboi3198]

thats what wmen with entitlement do

[@Joke1136]

I remember in high school. I got stood up by a girl. She was interested and I got all excited. I planned out the date. The restaurant I used to work at time is pretty nice so I got a table top for two. Showed up to the restaurant(I planned on my day off). Got a table for two. Ready to say “order whatever is on the menu.” Because I get the employee discount. I dressed casual but enough to make a impression and my boy helped me out with clothes because I wasn’t as wealthy at the time either. I probably felt confidence for the first time in my life. 7 o’clock rolls in, time to start, I get my complimentary appetizers, my coworker who is a server was watching my table, and I started prepping. An hour goes by and nobody shows up. I paid $15 dollars and left. Came back the next day to work. Only to see the $15 and the same coworker/server Feeling bad after cashing out at the end of that night. Moral of the story, I hate that I expected this fairy tail and happy ending. A few weeks later I saw her again during passing time. I asked “what happened?” She Found out I don’t believe in a religion and specifically a church and beliefs that I don’t practice everyday.

[@halinaqi2194]

Shouldve at least have let you known, cuz she just wasted ur time, spending 30 seconds to text shouldnt have been hard

[@ahnnhi8433]

Wow, that's sad and pathetic of the girl. I'm sure you'll find your lady if you haven't already!

[@fragrantbloom]

Pathetic. Better to pass on religious people.

[@Blue-eu5qn]

I wish I had you guys around when I was younger. Your advice is always on point.

[@SousukeAsuka]

An hour in advance and she complaining? Yo, women don't even call half the time let alone show up to a date they made online if they change their mind

[@igobyplane]

yeah I don't get these, often quite attractive, women complaining about getting stood up on tiktok - average dude by 20 has probably been stood up 10x more than the average woman by 30+

[@marybean2231]

@@igobyplane She didn't even get stood up - He told her in advance! Getting stood up is such an insult because it's obvious they didn't even value your time enough to let them know. (Girl, he let you know an hour in advance, probably much later than you had to leave.) It shows he was responsible enough to be honest, and punctual enough to know that whatever came up would affect his date and let her know accordingly. It's massive stupidity I'd say.

[@2masterofpuppets2]

I got a girl comin at me in another comment telling me it's my fault for going after "those kind of women" and to find better ones😅😪

[@alexandergrey3119]

She probably was still doing her makeup and still sat at home 🤦‍♂️

[@maineman5757]

@@2masterofpuppets2 How TF are you supposed to even know what kind of women any of them are before you even meet them???

[@gwenrichard7507]

I've only canceled 6ish times. 1: Had family situations 2: Transportation issue (rare) 3: Found out new information about the person and figured wasn't worth my time. 4: They wanted to confirm I was to pay for THEIR ideal date. My guess is she knows EXACTLY why he canceled.

[@halojeff15]

ngl what's 5 and 6 dawg

[@PrincejayFit]

@@halojeff15 read

[@MusMasi]

@@halojeff15 he said canceled 6 times not that he had 6 different reasons for each time.

[@masterb2663]

Lies, you have cancelled more than six times

[@snakejuce]

Only simps need a reason. You can cancel if you want, just because you don't want to do it anymore. Period.

[@diypictures]

She said "stood up" instead of cancel for a reason and even though its been going on for a while, its running rampant throughout society. She "among the many others who use this tactic" said she was stood up because she knew it would create a greater emotional reaction from the audience. Call it manipulation, propaganda or whatever but it literally happens ALL THE TIME in every avenue and spectrum of society. Once you start to notice it, you can't unsee it and can call it out every time even if its from your own "group".

[@uk9383]

Jup. I never take people seriously. Especially women. I have learnt that there are so many manipulative reasons for women to lie and manipulate the truth. Any time a woman says something that evokes emotional reactiin i assume there are alterior motives

[@silviar.7438]

100% agree with you guys. As a woman who was quite attractive back in her prime that is exactly how it works. We all have our preferences but it's about what we can command in the dating market. And as you age or if your personality or social skills is underdeveloped you're going to struggle and people do look at you as a second option. It hurts but that's life. The sooner we all realise, that until you form a proper bond with someone you don't actually really matter to most people, the more resilient we can learn to be. Harsh reality but if we are honest with ourselves we know we treat others exactly the same. Until you show your value to someone and them to you and you mutually appreciate what the other brings to the table it's all shallow stuff. That's why dating is so hard and frustrating but it won't get less frustrating with a lack of awareness.

[@Lightflames85]

well social skills can be learned if you put in the effort and so can your body to a point. Style, body language is all something you can work on to be more attractive too the opposite sex. Also your own selfasteam through that can take longer then the other stuff i mentioned.

[@FrenchSaladMac]

Let me introduce you to the wall, you're old now bitch

[@RichSmithson]

If she was stood up he wouldn’t have cancelled. Just would have not shown and ignored his phone. The fact he cancelled and apologised proves he wants to see her another time. Of course she needs to go to social media for validation. Just avoid the girls who are obsessed with social media.

[@MusMasi]

Idk, it could also mean the man has manners and might not want to see her another time? Or is that rare in this day and age?

[@bluejaysmedicmike6831]

Facts now if the guy see the video, he should text her and say I wanted to reschedule a date, But since you automatically think I’m A A**Hole, Screw You

[@MA-df6pj]

But they need social media to “keep in touch with friends”

[@jamthacreator]

Facts

[@rainygamedays5873]

That's true though, every girl I've ever been with that has some form of "local social media famous", some form of large following on atleast one social media platform.

[@canadianchungus701]

TLDR : She’s bored and need some attention/validation, so she start a rant of “all men are bad because…” and Aba & Preach about to critically analyze her video to politely say why she ain’t sh!t

[@gamecrab1015]

More like she feels lonely and is butthurt about it, which is fair tbh. Aba n Preach are right tho in what they said

[@AndresGomez-ct7qb]

Bit harsh. Getting cancelled on last minute does suck. Like they said in the vid it is a flaky thing to do. And even if it's just with your friends, to get cancelled on 1 hour away is always annoying

[@MENACE-km6bd]

She did her make-up in that hour before he cancelled. That's why she's mad. As a woman too, I'm pretty sure she's just mad she got dressed to look pretty and "no one got to see her." It's not wrong to feel that way. But push that thought aside and go about your day. Don't make it someone else's problem.

[@electroevolution5777]

THIS SHOULD BE SECOND PINNED!

[@mimijoseph9036]

@@MENACE-km6bd this

[@neelyohara8317]

Preach said it when he said the cancellation isn't about you. Big facts as someone who flakes on plans a lot🙊 in my experience it's usually due to overthinking and feeling self-conscious and just feeling way too anxious and in your head about it. Some people don't know how to communicate that so they just shut down or might end up ghosting you or in this case flaking.

[@thebronzedempress]

“Boo-boo honey chicken cherry chil’ honey bunch” Every time Preach drops that I bust out laughin’ 🤣😂🤣

[@Graveyard-Senpai]

This girl is reaching man. Dude at least gave her the courtesy to let her know an hour beforehand, hence why she was not stood up. Either way, it sounded like dude dodged a bullet 🤷‍♂️

[@killaswing1000]

It's the mere fact that a man could even cancel on her that is baffling. I realise women only understand certain things when they are in the situation. If a woman said we had plans and I didn't show up because he creeped me out. This wouldn't even be a topic. Seen multiple videos online of dudes with flowers at a table by himself.

[@MusMasi]

hes like Neo from the matrix lol.

[@th3epcplayer958]

Dang a whole hour? The amount of times I would’ve loved an hours notice, because it would’ve saved me the prep time, drive, waiting, and drive back… to go with the ego hit. But as you guys put so well, you don’t really realize how minuscule you are. That’s something I’ve learned now as I’ve gotten older, and it’s helped me process a lot of the things I’ve had to navigate while dating. Thank you for getting that message across again, and I hope some younger men watch this video and learn something from it.

[@MusMasi]

yeah the inhumanity of it all!!

[@justfun2203]

What's next?

[@gummybearvitamins1211]

Damn u took an L multiple times?

[@Anubis_-_]

@@gummybearvitamins1211 there’s no Ws without the Ls

[@gummybearvitamins1211]

@@Anubis_-_ cap

[@robr2303]

U guys hit the nail on the head 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@lecorps2588]

When ya’ll drop that Sweet Mickey I died 😂😂😂

[@RuslanKD]

“the cancellation isn’t about you” 100%… This is so presumptive on her part. She has no clue what could have been going on 😂😂😂 putting it on social media in an attempt of cover how much she doesn’t “cares” is next level irony.

[@MusMasi]

Her ego took a hit, so she needs easy validation.

[@jake51515]

And it probably ruined her chances with him entirely assuming he sees this.

[@MusMasi]

@@jake51515 he dodged a bullet like its the matrix.

[@jimmyjams962]

In that same vain it's also "presumptive" of us to assume that "it's not about her", right? As Aba said, it very well could be that she's just "not that girl". I get what you're saying, and I know I'm being pedantic, but I don't think we should be doing the very thing we're calling her out for.

[@veronicaana]

Actually it is completely about her. She is not attractive enough to make him want to make that date by any means necessary.

[@taybaybay5553]

It showed he respected you, a stranger enough to text you and let you know

[@DyedInTheWool]

Ya imagine being the guy, and having something actually come up and he was going to rewrite her out the next day and make it up to her. And he gets shown this....

[@MusMasi]

@@DyedInTheWool lol if he sees this he dodged like neo

[@Xsawerus]

I'm surprised when I don't get ghosted, rejected, cancelled and someone truly sees a human in me. Poor girl I hope she will be okay after that traumatic experience and maybe someone of hers 100 matches will be able to comfort her.

[@everythinggoodsfeckingtaken]

Id be willing to stake money that you are a dude though. We get ghosted and screwed around because we are many and women on these apps are few and so get to have their pick. I saw an article how some people tested it and in a large metropolitan city, created female profiles with plain jane profile pictures - 1000s of likes in a day. say she matches with just 1% thats 10+ a day every day. They cant even talk to all these guys (ever notice some matches take forever to reply? You are one of many and not high on her list). The occasions where I get quickfire back and forth is a rush though because shes clearly in to me, but even then she could be chatting to several other guys. Doesn't mean im her first choice.. and thats happened too, I'll see real rapport build, shes replying almost instantaneously with long verbose messages and think this is going somewhere only to be ghosted in the middle of some seemingly real connection and deep chat. Reason? I wasnt her first choice. Sucks a bit

[@jasonmiller7800]

I fullheartedly agree it's better to find the people that reciprocate your interest, problem is finding those people :')

[@ajtaylor8750]

This LITERALLY happened today at work. Some girl was complaining about her boyfriend not respecting that she didn't like him liking pictures of other women on IG, and then goes on to say "Why are men so dumb?" and I'm just sitting there thinking "She's gonna go back to this dude, so she needs to STFU."

[@TheForbiddenOne55]

Typically whenever a woman asks that question is because she can't control him with her feelings.

[@frieza2235]

The whole “stop liking other girls’ pictures” thing is dumb. More likely I’ve known the girl longer than my gf A lot of the people we follow on social media are friends from school

[@SpliffyHusk]

Best way to tell them to shut up is “you can leave or live with it” if you’re gonna live with it stop bitching, you’ve accepted things as they are

[@KJ-kd5rx]

@@frieza2235 😂😂😂

[@MusMasi]

@Fenrir I doubt he wants her either, he would be dumb to, considering what he is just witnessing, but I guess its best to not to just assume.

[@voiceluckan]

He was nice enough to let you know an hour before, you should be grateful

[@tiffanykim2773]

True

[@champ7139]

Most of them don't know what being grateful is or means.

[@VolTheProducer]

There can only be 1 green V...lets highlander this shit.

[@blunt2416]

She is grateful that she now has an excuse to go to sonic. I see a future fat chick in the making

[@TomikaKelly]

That's not being nice, that's basic human courtesy. By your logic, I didn't run into your car thus you should be grateful. 🙃

[@mrsilver8517]

I've been ghosted multiple times by people who I would have thought wouldn't do something like that. Instead of berating them, I literally just completely stopped trying to converse with them. What do they do? Flirt and try and get me to pay attention again. It's like, I'm a person too ladies, and I'm not here to flatter you. If you need me to like you to feel good about yourself, I guess you're going to be feeling bad about yourself.

[@Cheekycrypto11]

🎯🤘🤘🤘🤘🤘. Lats talk

[@shad3115]

Damn I haven’t watched you guys in months! Glad to be back.

[@jinpharn]

Whenever I hear a lady asking the question "Why do men blah blah blah..." my mind starts wondering how many times whatever they are complaining about happened to them, because as Preach stated, if it happens a lot boo boo the common denominator is you... it may not even be related to anything about who you are, it could be that the type of person you're attracted to is well... not good? I dont know I just have this feeling some folks are seeking a partner for their looks and then hope their personality would match the fairytale that they conjured of them in their mind

[@SuperMurray2009]

Or you just have really bad luck.

[@JukemDrawles87]

Well yes women live in disney world. Her female ego was so hurt

[@dangerousdiscourse]

It's like when a certain tribe gets exiled from 109 countries over 3000 years, and then claim that they are persecuted - the *most* persecuted mind you - and *boy* do they remind you. All I know, if my boy comes to me and says: man I just got kicked out the 27th bar, these bars are oppressing me!! Ye, no

[@nebojsavelickovic5388]

@@JukemDrawles87 Some, don't generalise

[@JukemDrawles87]

@@nebojsavelickovic5388 A large percentage live in a fantasy world. There are good women out there

[@Miketsosie13]

I got stood up after waiting for 30mins. I took my L and moved on.

[@Thiiink]

Lol

[@r.lamont8120]

There is a difference between standards and having a type. For a lot of people the type that you want doesn't want you. Change your type, don't lowering your standards.

[@boltman1195]

This just shows how important communication is and to educate people and their naive mindsets. Doing this is exhausting af tho... why does everything have to be a cycle.

[@Leigh-lq2uf]

Dating really helped me realise my ego problem, which was huge. Not just in dating life, but in life. I really like what you guys said about ego, always on point.

[@Alpha_apex]

Are you a girl or guy?

[@Leigh-lq2uf]

@@Alpha_apex girl

[@Alpha_apex]

@@Leigh-lq2uf you a real one for having this level of self reflection. That's rare for women today.

[@Leigh-lq2uf]

@@Alpha_apex Thank you mate. I'm glad I learnt it now, not just for a healthier relationship, but also for gaining a better mindset which leads to a healthy life.

[@jeanrehani4774]

@@Alpha_apex let’s keep it a buck a whole lot of men aren’t self reflective either. Whether it’s red pill or feminism, most people stick to their guns without questioning them.

[@Dogapillar4Lyfe]

"Focusing on one girl as a Young man is a bad idea" I wish as a young man I knew that because that happened to me.

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

It wouldn't have mattered. I knew it as a young man and STILL fell into that trap lol

[@Kate-is5mz]

🙄

[@Dogapillar4Lyfe]

@@Kate-is5mz you dont understand

[@Kate-is5mz]

@@Dogapillar4Lyfe So why don't you explain?

[@HypeJutsu]

@@Kate-is5mz can't, you actually have to be able to experience it.

[@y0shimoshi]

I love the honesty on this video

[@aufwiedersehen483]

Thank you! alot of people need to hear that they are just not that important. That's life.

[@mitchf1862]

When Preach said "you can't say 'I love you' on the first date" it reminded me of this one time I matched this chick on tinder from a city over. She was attractive, into the same shit as me & incredibly wealthy so I'm thinking I hit the jackpot. We started talking on a Saturday, I already had plans that night to see a close friend I hadn't in a while, so when she asked for me to come over that night I told her I couldn't. So that night she's drunk and texts me "I love you" & I told her that's waaaaaaay too soon to say that. Anyways fast forward to the next weekend I'm getting ready to go meet her for dinner and she texts me to tell me she fucked a dude that Saturday night she said she loved me. No moral of the story, just that bitch was nuts and I dodged a bullet.

[@Nicholenickinicscott]

I love how she felt the need to record herself and trash men in the process, girl you need to be rejected more till that big head of yours deflates. I rather a guy cancel and see me another time than to be stood up, it makes me sick that some women have huge egos and when it gets bruised, their world gets set on fire.

[@TomikaKelly]

You sound bitter and miserable. That girl will be able to bounce back from this. You? You sound like a lost cause.

[@njmfff]

When women like this get rejected, it's like most significant event in her life, but for guys, it's just Thursday.

[@evashimaj3304]

she was upset to have a date canceled. where are you seeing this huge ego jfc ? but pls don't miss an opportunity to shit on another women.

[@Nicholenickinicscott]

@@njmfff true shit right there

[@aaronr.ballantyne1313]

You a real one 💪🏼

[@AsianPersuasionnnn]

She must not practice casual dating. Holding people who are basically strangers on a pedestal leaves so much room for error.

[@martywaters7404]

you don't even know them 🤣

[@AsianPersuasionnnn]

@@martywaters7404 thats natural law… the proof is in the pudding. Don’t need to be a rocket scientist to see social queues

[@summerrose8110]

2:05- You know I'm so fortunate I found you guys' channel last year in 2021. I've learned a bit from you and reflect on some of my ideals as well. This cabròn blaming the entire male species just because her date was cancelled make ME jaded. And I'M A FEMALE. This reminds of that other potato girl from one of your videos who called a man "mediocre" just because he rejected her. I don't have much dating experience, but even I understand the common denominator is me. God bless you guys, Aba and Preach for your common sense, wisdom and humor. The world is brighter because of you. Thank you. 0:38- At least in her case, the dude had the courtesy to give her a heads up. That's not being stood up, news flash sweetheart THE WORLD DOESN'T EVOLVE AROUND YOU. Life still happens to other people. It doesn't stop because of one person. 0:55- Her head must be so far up her asshole if she actually believes that her being cancelled on had something to do with her. I don't know her nor the dude, but I kind of hope he sees this video and sees this girl's true colors then ghost her. 2:06- Because life happens. In case you don't realize, you're not that important booboo.

[@pitbul2877]

"cabron" is a male term, something like "fucker". don't use words you don't understand

[@perlitalaguna6622]

@@pitbul2877 it's probably a typo. Everytime I text my mom in spanish, my phone auto corrects and then my messages don't make sense. It's annoying. OP probably did type "cabrona".

[@veronicaana]

Honestly, men in general are not the problem. Its the men that women want that are the problem.

[@Morbutt]

@@veronicaana don't hate the player, hate the game. these women go for the top shelf dudes every other woman is going for, and the woman has this expectation she is the only one he is talking to.

[@summerrose8110]

@@pitbul2877 Actually it means dumbass and you trying to scold me makes you one too. Cabròn.

[@I-DEPRESSIONIST]

I'm now at the point that relationships mean nothing to me other than very close friendships, been hurt too much and now I'm just here

[@StocksNShares]

social media 100% made dating worse. As the 10/10 be running through hundreds of partners. Where as back in the day, the 10/10 people did not have 100s of options they would be interested in. But now location is not a issue.

[@beebee_0136]

I hope she's not planning on suing for "intentional infliction of emotìonal distress" and "perjury" like the lady the other day lol!

[@MusMasi]

that woman was wilding lol, and the judge was too lenient on her, zoom call regardless.

[@Alpha_apex]

Lmfao foreal. How ridiculous was that. Smh

[@MusMasi]

@@Alpha_apex Litigatisha sure was wilding with her spongebob no lenses glasses, "DONT INSULT MAH INTELLIGANCE!!! "

[@danielrobert4219]

I'm a guy and an occasional introvert so if ever I cancel a date it's because of a mixture of two things: 1) I am not in the mood to be someone's entertainer for a few hours. 2) I feel that person is expecting me to be their entertainer for a few hours. If I'm not really in the mood but the person has showed a genuine interest in me as a person I see them as a more long term prospect potentially and I will be likely to go ahead and honour the plan I made regardless. End of the day, although first impressions are important, they've also got to be compatible with me and the way I like to chill.

[@minianoiz6492]

Wow! You literally just described my personality. Strange.....

[@masterchief9291]

@@minianoiz6492 get a room geeze... (jokes)

[@beambooi6431]

I think if ur arranging a first date and give vague responses or none about if/why you can’t go on a date despite what you described and they don’t go out of their way to make it seem like they care that much about your vague excuse or reasons or don’t care for your flakeyness and than unmatch or unfollow you I don’t think that’s unreasonable. I think especially when it comes to women having poor/vague/no excuses a lot of dudes are quick to grovel and be too permissive and give too much credence to women who by allowing such behavior will realize the guy giving her all this leeway to flake doesn’t value himself or time. The only thing someone ought to care about when it comes to you on a first date is you showing up for that date and/or respecting that persons time by cancelling accordingly if you can’t make it. If you give me any of the above I’m not going to pretend i care or be bothered to read someone’s mind and be permissively allowing them to waste my time and energy by not being forward with me. If you can’t even dignify a response I’m not going to bother with a second date. Too many s!mps out here pretending to care about some chicks vague excuse when the chick doesn’t even value their time nor respects enough to be forward about going out.

[@TomikaKelly]

You don't have to cancel if you simply don't book the date. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to entertain people. There is something wrong with knowing that you can fall into a mood of not wanting to entertain people but you still book meetings, dates, ect with then.

[@forrealforreal588]

Damn I feel like an entertainer alot 😂.

[@yang2382]

I love these guys, clear headed arguments without unnecessary yelling

[@Najobajo]

3:03 Boom. Well spoken preach

[@ibizawavey8630]

How did we get to this point in society where we can't even give people the courtesy of letting them know we aren't showing up to a DATE?!?!

[@devilslayer3548]

Entitlement OverSize ego The lost of respect Everything have to be about him or her

[@houseofhas9355]

But he did in this story. A whole hour before. An hour is huge amount of time.

[@alskarmode]

Watch the video

[@blunt2416]

Young pretty girls have the ego the equivalent of a celebrity. So many attention & compliments on social media & dating apps, that when she selects a common peasant of a man than how dare he cancel on her...Even if its a family emergency( Likely just a hotter chick) then how dare him.

[@beambooi6431]

Say hello to social media in the modern era . I had some chick i met at the bar literally flake on a date today and asked her to confirm the night before and she doesn’t respond for 16 hours only to reply with a nothing burger response couple hours in advance and then leaves me on read when i essentially tell her to cut the bullshit in the nicest way possible and let me know if we are going out later or not. Safe to say i unfollowed her and removed her when i see that she was out with her friends later that night

[@UndergroundZone]

"im not hurt"......*buys ice cream*....."why do men" typical

[@jasminroyal3617]

Love the shirt Aba.

[@ongagaden911]

As a female who routinely puts all of my eggs in one basket, I need to learn how to have multiple baskets. Im tired of that one basket breaking on me constantly.

[@Vivacomunismo]

That’s pretty sad, a lot of men would kill for a woman with that trait

[@phljawn]

I always have a plan B, usually the heads up is great and checking up a day head is the best way to give someone an opportunity to think it over and possibly opt out. It is what it is.

[@dangerousdiscourse]

You seem sweet w common sense, two things that seem to have vanished amongst the 'fairer' sex. These young women have become so unbearably abnoxious, they can be an 11 outta 10 and I still wouldn't suffer through a meal w them.

[@aceboogie7832]

I like to keep a plan B in the glove compartment too, just in case.

[@dangerousdiscourse]

@@aceboogie7832 my mind went there first too haha

[@jrcolacola]

@@aceboogie7832 you don't have to do allat fam, just never trust them. A thot gon be ah thot regardless.

[@coldheartedsnake2302]

Oh I got plan b c and d and even for hookups. Like this A gonna flake well backup A in the area and so is this one. Hell I been greedy and ran to A then B. 🤣 like some behaviors refuse to totally die I guess even when pushing mid age af 40 (im 35 but gd same difference to me even tho mirror doesn't even say skin of a 35yo tho I dye these damn greys even if salt and pepper daddies in)

[@noblegalifreyan4551]

A lot of girls who complain and use generalizations basically wouldn't stand for guys to do the same thing. They would label them "man babies and incels".

[@everyone1liesd459]

"Well that's not the same, that's not the same" - Women

[@aristotle9243]

@@everyone1liesd459 lol

[@rapgamevale]

Lmaoooo. I lost it when you yall said "Master Bastion Goblin" 😂😂😂😂 always enjoy y'all social commentary

[@TyHybrid]

Take yo time preach u hitting on this point Aba and Preach Gang

[@citrinewitch1882]

Preach really understands women, he knows exactly what's up 😂😂😂 "so I'm at Sonic eating my feelings" 😭😂😂

[@jrisbak]

The point was he called but she felt hurt because why would a man ever do this to someone who looks like her, basically she’s the prize

[@M.j.7]

She’s pretty, but very basic looking IMO… Like there’s a billion other upper-middle class Caucasian blondes who look just like her🤷🏼‍♀️

[@masterchief9291]

@@M.j.7 prob 25 million at best.

[@beambooi6431]

@@M.j.7 literally even by those standards she’s not that impressive. I like my blonde women, they’re my favorite kind but geez there is tons of generic looking blondes out there with awful personalities. She’s not among the most impressive of any of them. Her face looks incredibly stupid and annoying

[@TomikaKelly]

Everyone should think they are the prize. Do YOU believe you are the consolation trophy? 👀

[@TomikaKelly]

@@M.j.7 She's a pretty girl. Is that you in your avi/profile picture ? 🙃👀🤡

[@HonchoJC]

Aye man the sonic burgers be hitting 😂 you could find me there too!

[@peterdub22]

The Sweet Micky reference!!

[@paninthedada]

Girlie, it’s Hinge. Why are you expecting serious dates on Hinge? I’ve stopped taking dating apps seriously a long time ago. If I was serious about finding a relationship I’d rather find one through fostering my career or hobbies and take to real life because I see more long term potential there. She’s too gullible.

[@briant7265]

Very underrated comment. Real life is an amazing place to meet people. Join a club. Take some classes. Make friends.

[@kingmedjai9433]

Have to disagree from personal experience.

[@outlaster3431]

Maybe for you , personally would tell people to leave the dating sphere entirely especially men

[@TomikaKelly]

Dating apps that you pay for and aren't flooded with teens are actually pretty good. The issue isn't whether she's serious about finding a relationship or not, since she's clearly still rather young. The issue is that canceling an hour before on someone who doesnt know you is a bad look.

[@djtoxicdhg]

Imagine having the luxury of getting an hour advance notice and calling that being stood up the level of privilege this lady has.

[@TomikaKelly]

That's not a luxury that's basic human decency. If you're supposed to meet someone, romantic, platonic, business, or otherwise, you're SUPPOSED to call in advance. This is the baseline bar.

[@djtoxicdhg]

@@TomikaKelly you would think soo sadly seams like it's a lugshery nowadays

[@chavonjames8941]

@@TomikaKelly w the way dating is today, looking more like a luxury...

[@Nameandaddresswithheld]

As a man, this happened to me 100s of times and I never once thought “yknow what? Let’s get clout from this”

[@Yasu-ye3fh]

One of y'all gotta do stand up in southern California lol I would go to that

[@2masterofpuppets2]

The dude actually cancelled, not ghosted, cancelled. I have never seen that kind of consideration from a female EVER in any dating/relationship context.

[@TomikaKelly]

There are 4 billion women on this planet. If you've never experienced a woman who was courteous in her cancellation then you need to pick better women. This is your fault.

[@2masterofpuppets2]

@@TomikaKelly That is magnificent!!!! Ya know, you may be on to something but do you see how easy it is for you to read a general statement about how women, not woman, women usually treat guys, see how many guys agree with me and then COMPLETELY dismiss that and conclude that myself and all these guys just need to pick better women. Do you know any single girls possibly for myself and some of my dawgs up in this comment section that wouldnt just take the simple exit strategy we usually see when the bigger/better deal swoops her away... (Understand also that being an avg looking woman on a dating app like tinder vs an avg guy is Night and day for the rate of matches) ....for one of these divine exceptions to the rule who say, "hey buddy, i know we had dinner plans but not anyore"🙏🙏🙏

[@pingu6028]

come on...we all know what you mean but to be fair a good portion of women lets you know. Also, male or female, always check up on the other a day or at least some hours before. If they dont write back guess what. I had many times where this would happen but never was I actually at the date and her not showing up.

[@dakota9821]

@@TomikaKelly Not everyone has the time, or energy, to dig through a *mountain* of trash to find a penny. An ever growing number of "modern" women are strait up unbearable.

[@TomikaKelly]

@@dakota9821 So stop dating women.

[@nathanosaka3977]

Free game : * tell dates punctuality matter , arrive on time, give dates at least 20 mins then dip immediately. They will know why 😂 * only have. 2 strike policy for disrespect. This has been a staple for me and repeatedly saved me headaches

[@capo4270]

No lies detected here

[@TomikaKelly]

He wasn't punctual because he didn't show up at all.

[@nathanosaka3977]

This is it has been my exact strategy for these situation, and it never did me wrong

[@BlackCultureNetwork]

@2:15 “women cancel because they have to. Men cancel because they have (2)”

[@franciscolaurean8550]

While letting someone know you have to cancel 1 hr before is bad it's even worse to not say anything/ghost someone. Maybe he was just waiting naked in the other room waiting for her to come in and smash like that other girl😭

[@user-ex9ti7ds3m]

I had to learn "its not about you" the hard way around 5 or 6 years ago. I really liked this girl, I got an idea for a great date because she mentioned wanting to try a certain food she saw online that wasn't in our town but I'd just been to a place that had it in a nearby city. I asked her out and she said yes. I hadn't been that attracted to AND gotten along with a girl that much in a long time so I was super excited. The day before the date, she canceled, offering an excuse I could tell was a lie, so I was mad. I didn't cuss at her, but I messed up really bad and let my anger at her not being up front known. After that, even though I wasn't mad and wasn't going to pester her for a future date, she didn't even want to talk to me as a friend anymore and when I asked if she thought I was going to trip with her, she said yes. I later found out from her friend that she was genuine when she said yes, but later realized she wasn't as over her breakup a month before as she thought. This girl went from hanging around the front of the store she worked in to talk to me when I passed to walking to the back if she thought I was going to pass by on the way to a different store. It was completely unnecessary, but ultimately it was on me for lacking the maturity to take the L, get upset privately, and keep it moving. If I hadn't overreacted, I probably would have got another shot after more time. At the very least, I wouldn't have lost someone I liked talking to at work.

[@ThaFashionAssassin]

Are you a merchandiser?

[@mikeh197]

Here’s the thing though. Why would you want another shot at her? Sure I agree be angry in private but still why are you worried about how you could have got another shot after more time? Personally the fact she wasn’t honest with you about why she canceled and you had to find out from a mutual friend would tell me that I wouldn’t want to date that girl if I was you. A date is the first impression. It’s like a job interview. That’s the absolute BEST they will ever act around you, and the fact she couldn’t be honest from the start means it wouldn’t have been a good way to start a relationship. I’m not saying hold a grudge, or that she didn’t have a valid reason. But if someone isn’t willing to be honest, you still dodged a future breakup. This is the only time I disagree with Aba and preach. Getting flaked on is rude behavior full stop. Not being honest or forthcoming of why you’re flaking is also incredibly rude. Don’t tolerate rudeness.

[@atex6175]

Bro if someone pisses in my face and calls it rain (lying to me) I get mad you got every right to be mad. Fuck another chance she obviously didn't even respect you enough with the truth. For me it isn't the lie it's you think I'm so dumb I'd believe your bs

[@Relhio]

If you were attractive enough for her, the excuse that "she wasn't over it" wouldn't even exist. Usually these excuses are bullshit if the other person doesn't reschedule, just move on.

[@dfredankey]

Damn talk about reflection and accountability sheesh you got it!

[@fireproofhail]

Modern dating is like a show or anime where everyone wants to be the main character the plot revolves around but got side character energy 😂 Also edit- def true a overlooked red flag about putting all your eggs in a basket on the first date too many people get caught up like that💯

[@mouadrimwind8839]

Faxx

[@Undeadhalfelf]

Oh my shoot, you guys got me with the time warp back to the days when social casts were bigger thing then they are now. (Comparative to what level it was in like the nineties)

[@Dee-cd2uo]

He's going to cut me up and turn me into a lampshade had me sooo weakkkkk

[@jorgeoviedo870]

I’ve been stood up once by some broad when I was younger and It sucked. but when someone cancels a date because SHISH happens, it’s not being stood up. This chick is just starting drama and making herself a victim because her ego got bruised.

[@venomking3602]

Facts

[@adrianchatman5734]

Aba: "when you're an option amongst many, you get treated as disposable which you are." This chick got a taste of what it's like being a run of the mill male. And I would bet my next paycheck she's stood up multiple dudes and without the courtesy the guy gave her lol. I got zero sympathy for her.

[@Morbutt]

bingo. guaranteed she's ghosted a few dudes before, too. ghosting is worse, obviously

[@Michael-yd7nt]

She likely swiped on the best looking profile out of thousands - and probably hundreds of other girls did too. Those few guys can basically do anything they want, because women let them. If a girl ever says "no" he can just pick another of the hundreds he has in waiting. Supply and demand.

[@mint_soup9743]

Not every pretty woman is out there ghosting people, quite an assumption on your part. You sound bitter.

[@adrianchatman5734]

@@mint_soup9743 Nobody said every pretty woman, but it's a lot of them. Most males have been ghosted at least once. It's almost a right of passage. That's why men are taught to lower their expectations when asking for a date because of the fact that being ghosted is very possible.

[@bahamasbroyt]

@@mint_soup9743 It might aswell be all cause lets be honest they have THOUSANDS of other options😂

[@shauno_420fam3]

I cancelled a date a hour before i hurt my back at work but that same girl was super understanding and now were been together over 3years now

[@thatonefox5885]

Never dip, always follow through.

[@frostyphenix]

Y’all’s content is always thought provoking and spot on. Gets conversations started. Definitely agree that “love” and “kids” can be brought up in 1st and 2nd date convos. They could even be spun into questions about them, their friends and family. Do your friends have kids? Are you the fun aunt/uncle? Stuff like that. Depending on the vibe though. Knowing the conditions of the moment is very important.

[@Ihatemyusernamemore]

I've been attacked by three Pacific Islanders in one incident. Imagine if I'm going online like "why are Islanders so violent, they're always attacking me brah" but not only would that be rahcist, it'd also be illogical, out of the thousands of islanders I"ve met, passed in the street etc just THREE have done sh1t. Yet s3xist women ask "wHY Do MeN"

[@p0ush]

As a Pacific Islander I want to say sorry… :(

[@Ihatemyusernamemore]

@@p0ush I appreciate the thought bro but like I say it's got NOTHING to do with you, like there's no reason to be sorry, just like I got no reason to be sorry if a man attacks somebody or like I'm white but Brenton Tarrent had nothing to do with me

[@p0ush]

@@Ihatemyusernamemore try to be kind with strangers maybe they won’t beat your ass…

[@Ihatemyusernamemore]

@@p0ush Oh in this case I didn't even talk to them, it was a surprise attack.

[@p0ush]

@@Ihatemyusernamemore I don’t give a sht, like you said, it has nothing to do with me.

[@gnarlyleah3332]

Y’all always help me when I go into dating you remind me that it’s okay and shit happens.

[@skroodup]

2:08 had me rollin! Preach my man preach!

[@_Lunanella_]

People need to chill. If you're going to date you can keep your standards, but relinquish expectations. But also stop going into every date thinking the person is "the one." It's weird. We have very little control over the outcome of these dates. The only thing we can control is ourselves, our responses, and what we accept. Just chill and talk to people. Whatever happens, happens.

[@paulofaquin]

Women, specially good looking ones, have this strange sense that the whole world revolves around them. It would be strange if they didn't have this distorted sense of self, even the most average ones are showered with attention since they were kids.

[@c0nc3ntr8d6]

Much like a large man being more aggressive and dominant, they realize their looks give them power and feel entitled in everything they do. When they get old, reality kicks in for them.

[@anthonymetellus57]

Love the Sweet Micky reference.

[@ontime7482]

Love the shroom shirt! 🤘🏽🔥🤘🏽

[@yungflo60]

"I'd be willing to fall in love again" is a very good way to say your feelings for somebody are getting a bit stronger. Thanks for that