How to HEAL Your FEAR of ABANDONMENT with Manifesting/Law of Attraction

[@Jazlunaxo]

I’ve had fear of abandonment my whole life. That changes today! I came into Manifesting to manifest a SP but it’s become more of manifesting a better version of me ❤️ thank you Shelly

[@ShellyBullard]

beautiful

[@chrissy1503]

These feelings of abandonment are very real and play out exactly how you described. My parents abandoned me during my early teen years to comfort my sibling who was sick. During those formative years, I did whatever I wanted and I turned into a typical "Wild Child" but what I wanted most was my parent's attention which I never really got. Fast forward to my adult life, I have now turned into a typical "People Pleaser", needing to be the perfect daughter in my parent's eyes but in my personal relationships, the fear of people leaving turned me into a needy and weak individual. I see all this now, with the help of an amazing therapist, of course. But the manifesting part, that I could only see when it was too late. I pushed this person away with my fear and expectations for them TO leave. Lately, I'm not sure what's been happening but I have been making a 100% effort to live in the end. An email that was sent almost a year ago was suddenly read by my SP, the ring I wanted him to buy me is actually on my finger as I type this, his name is everywhere I look. I know it's happening.

[@SublimeLullaby]

You deserve it! =)

[@ganapatikitty]

Any update? How are you doing??

[@shajwansworld]

Hello , any updates? How are you?

[@athomewithhollie]

I'm intend to heal this. My parents were not there for my emotional needs. I want better for my inner child and I want better for my future kids.

[@ShellyBullard]

🙏✨

[@MegaLorenzo35]

Trueee i'm with you

[@lionesssai5957]

Absolutely I've experienced this before.. my man in full passion pursuing me and then when I was invested in him he started ghosting me.. 😂 I'm no longer that version neither my man

[@lionesssai5957]

@le la I started affirming that he loves only me and he has nowhere to go but to come back to me every time. I'm the only woman he's madly in love with. I kept affirming for two months and he contacted me. I had positive assumptions about him about getting back. And also I wasn't too much focused on him I did my work I enjoyed my time. We're long distance and I had very bad insecurities that he might have got someone else etc all negative thoughts. So I decided not to think all that and rather redirect my thoughts. Mental diet is important.

[@ShellyBullard]

good

[@alfarisegail4323]

@@lionesssai5957 This is very interesting. I hope your wish fulfilled. I want to hear good news about your relationship and manifestation sooner. 💓💝💓

[@lionesssai5957]

@@alfarisegail4323 Thank you so much for your kind words and motivation, means a lot to me. Everything is always working out in my favor. We must have firm beliefs about what exactly we want to Manifest. In my imagination it's already done deal I'm married to my beloved and yes it is Manifesting in my 3d sooner. ❤️❤️😊 I intend for you to Manifest all that you desire at a lightening speed . Sending you Loads of Love and Peace ❤️❤️

[@alfarisegail4323]

@@lionesssai5957 lt's my pleasure. I am crying right now and so emotionally feeling a lot of love and gratitude. I am so happy you got married right now to your SP and I am feeling my wish fullfilled and getting the most amazing marriage to my SP right now. Thanks you so much for sharing your story with us. It's so inspiring. I feel all my manifestations come true to the 3D reality. 💝💝💝💝 All love

[@charliemaryann1654]

God Shelly it hurts right?.. I had this my whole life, but now I see myself as someone who is held cherished and claimed. The people in my reality wanna be present in my life forever! 😍

[@ShellyBullard]

YES. Change your self concept and you'll change your whole reality.

[@IntuitiveWanderess]

This one made me cry. I’ve been doing this practice and it helps a lot. Thanks

[@ShellyBullard]

beautiful response

[@daisy_scream9411]

Feel the same … i have suffer a lot

[@maureenburke3717]

Shelly I believe this video is life changing. I dont remember the last time I really cried but THIS video peeled away layer upon layer of hurt and I have been sobbing for the last hour like a hurt little girl. The layers and layers of protection that my mind must have created to deal with my dad leaving were peeled back after watching this. My dad left when I was 13 and my mom to raised us 5 kids alone. I NEVER realized UNTIL NOW how HURT AND ANGRY I am at him for leaving. Hurt and angry kit just for me but for my mom, my sister and my 3 brothers. I literally became that 13 year old girl tonight, and for the first time she confronted my dad in my subconscious for leaving my mom, my brothers, my sister and I. I yelled cursed and sobbed as and I confronted him as if he was still here. I had NO IDEA how hurt and angry I was with him and his choice to leave until right now. I realize I have always been looking for my dad in every single failed relationship i have been in and I also discovered I always feared and expected my man to leave me because my dad left me. I am absolutely stunned at how this came up to the surface tonight when I had NO CLUE it was even there for DECADES. There will never be enough thank yous to you for helping me uncover this. I am absolutely stunned and still crying. It ALL makes sense now. Thank you💜💜💜💜💜

[@ShellyBullard]

So glad you’re here💙💙💙✨

[@giselle_carly]

I literally have tears coming from my eyes, Shelly. Such a beautiful video. I 100% know what you're talking about and what it feels like. It's time that I show up for my inner child in the way that I want my SP and others to show up for me❤️

[@ShellyBullard]

YES. you have to show up for yourself that way first, then others naturally will, too. My current partner is SO DEEPLY LOVING and has so much space for all parts of me. i manifested him primarily by learning to have space and love for all parts of myself.

[@sweetsue4204]

You hit home so often, Shelly. 😄 I was thinking this morning while drinking my morning coffee overlooking the bay, that I used to get panicky when the feeling of abandonment hit. My history from infancy set the pattern that I’ve repeated up to now - father left when I was 2, son walked away with his family, beloved husband died at 62, and here I am, working through this discordant energy to get to clarity at the ripe age of 67, because the man I pushed away at the end of our second year playing together is sooooo worth the effort to get it right. 😄 So..the first couple times I soothed my inner child she was pretty panicky. By the 3rd or 4th time she settled almost as soon as I touched my heart and started talking her back to equanimity. Around our 6th visit HIS little boy showed up asking for a hug. I mean, how do you turn away a child asking for love? Of course I invited him up onto my lap to join her. The gathering has become so sweet. 😊💗 When they’re sufficiently soothed they jump down from my lap and dash off across the field to explore the natural world together. He’s 8 years older, and knows everything, as boys do. Lol! He’s very caring of her. They’re having fun. This having his energy join the meditation, is that a normal or common thing? I’ve never had such a transformative meditation cycle come to me in this dynamic way. I figure that vibration tuneup must be working. One last share about this…..last night I had a fleeting thought that he might not be interested in me anymore, or will choose to force himself to give me up. At that moment, when the warm rush of panic and tears hit, both children appeared in our inner space and threw their little arms around me to tell me how safe and loved I really am. I still get moved writing about it, in a joyful way. It was a totally unexpected experience, but one that mirrored what my own children were trained to do if I lost my temper and turned into the Dragon Lady, so I wasn’t completely surprised at the emotional manifestation. Yes, it worked immediately, and off they went to play again. 😄 At night I kiss them both goodnight and recite the little singsong poem we used with our children when they were small. In the morning I greet them first thing. It’s a sweet little world of loving we’re creating together. I peg most of the credit to your inspiration. Keep it up, you’re doing good work. 👍🏻

[@aileensavage4431]

Ugh..... I knew there was a fear of mine that was making the scenario you described if our SP/partner pursuing us a ton at the beginning of the relationship and then distancing themselves..... this has been a pattern of mine sadly for a long time... and I never saw it as a fear of abandonment for some reason. And now I realize, this is exactly the wound I have yet to really heal. So thank you for this video ❤️

[@ShellyBullard]

Beautiful. Finally realizing that is a big part of the work.

[@aileensavage4431]

Shelly Bullard how are you doing this coming weekend’s self love event? How do I sign up?? Because I realize now that this needs to be my top priority after coming to this new realization and wounds I am in need of healing..... so again, thank you for all your videos and helping me acknowledge all this ❤️

[@ShellyBullard]

@@aileensavage4431 Oh beautiful. You can learn about about the Self Love Workshop and sign up here: love.shellybullard.com/self-love-sunday-workshop

[@preethidsouza1]

Omg this is all my past relationships!

[@portaljulia]

This video literally got me in tears as I watched it. I've experienced fear of abandonment my whole life and couldn't exactly put my finger on why. And then it hit me during the video that it was when my older sister moved abroad with her bf that I got my wound, because I was sooo close to her and too young to understand that she was leaving until the day she did (I was 6years old). She just disappeared and I felt that she left me,our family. But she was just following her joy and loved us, of course. Understanding that was freeing!!! I'm gonna heal myself now!!

[@ShellyBullard]

I'm so happy you received that insight while watching.

[@portaljulia]

@@ShellyBullard me too! Thank you for the video 💓💓

[@norsolehamohddali1500]

I experienced it before and now. Now he abandoned me and got to know other woman. I always wondered what did I do. Now I understand why. I am crying.

[@ShellyBullard]

So glad you understand now.

[@melc8388]

..I've always felt anxious in my relationships. They chase me then they slow fade then I start to chase them...and from there it goes down hill. Thanks for the video

[@Dinah5822]

Mel C ...you are my twin

[@melc8388]

@@Dinah5822 Haha. That was me a whole year ago. Time for a change you know

[@Dinah5822]

Time for deliberate change 🥰

[@NamiiiiWatts]

This has been my exact experience with all my relationships, a pattern that I just couldn't understand why it kept happening over and over again with different people. I started to believe that there surely is something wrong with me that they discover and run away from. If I'm honest I still believe no one will stay. The guys always said it wasn't me but would immediately jump into other relationships and stay in them, so how could I not feel its me. I've watched your other videos of manifesting and meditations and I have been able to manifest contact with my SP, but that fear still exists and I feel him pulling away again. This video was so helpful in making me realize I need to heal these deep wounds and learn to show up for myself if I do want to receive the love I've desperately been craving and searching for.

[@Dinah5822]

Make the change ..the aspect is as serious as youve experienced ...

[@TrishaAyshe]

This has always been my number one issue and because of the long distance it became an internal struggle for me despite knowing how much my sp adored me. I followed a guided meditation a few months back for inner child healing which helped a lot. Things are looking better again since we reconnected and I'm manifesting us being in the same city so that the unfolding can be complete. ❤️

[@thejesylee]

Hey lovely I'd love to know how you went with this as I am in the same situation x

[@michellecrocco2588]

Good stuff! My father cheated on my mother for their entire marriage and was never there much for me or my sister. This has played out in EVERY relationship I’ve ever had and has caused so much strife in my life! Thanks for helping me take my power back 😊

[@birrahbani7403]

I am feeling progress.... i am feeling good job by myself

[@nellynel3027]

Shelly I love you. This video is so helpful and came at perfect timing. I called off work today because the person I was with left without saying anything or responding to my calls/messages. I’m so sad and very confused cuz things were going so right between us. Since I called off work I plan on doing this work and being with my little one, my inner child that feels abandoned. Again, thank you. I also got “Free yourself” this is going to serve me so much ❤️

[@ShellyBullard]

So beautiful you're doing this deep inner work.

[@MsPensandpaper]

Shelly! I actually cried while watching this!

[@ShellyBullard]

💙

[@mandyparkhurst9734]

Made me cry...thank you.

[@ShellyBullard]

beautiful. you're welcome.

[@presentfuture7563]

Thank you for this, and for making it a longer video. I suspect many of us present probably struggle with this issue. I could make my own Dos Equis meme saying "I don't always get into relationships...but when I do, I get jettisoned almost immediately."

[@ShellyBullard]

you're welcome for making the video.

[@dangerzzzone2925]

But yes, I had this. This is a general belief about love I have that I need to work on🥺 but I'm so much stronger now💛💛💙♥️♥️♥️ Common theme in all my relationships. It hurts so much! I've had this with almost every guy I've loved. One even passed away... It's showed up in everyway possible. But I will fix my mindset!

[@Evelyndijkstra]

Thank you so much for this video! I experienced this when I was around 7/8 years old. When I was holding myself, I felt the tears flow down my cheeks while I was telling that I am here for that part of me. I can give myself the love and I won't EVER abandon me. It is amazing what you do with these videos. I am sure lots of people can get so much out of life when they heal this part themselves.

[@ShellyBullard]

Yes. this is one of the most healing techniques there is. Truly. So beautiful you held and spoke to your Inner Child. I love hearing you're doing the practice and that it's healing for you.

[@vintagesparkles4289]

i started crying when you gave an example of what you could use to comfort oneself. those are words I've never heard from my own parents before and it's what I've needed all along. i had resurfacing struggles with my manifestation, worrying if this other person will distance themselves from me or stop talking to me, but now I know I just need to do work from within and change my beliefs and be there for myself. I need to understand that I will be alright and loved no matter what happens. thank you so much shelly, you are wonderful!

[@Rachel-iSverige]

This was one of the best videos I have ever seen on KZbin. You are pure love.i had tears in my eyes. Thank you for your energy and you are amazing

[@Vienna-qi9pt]

Omg! Yes I never realized this was happening in my relationships because of feeling ignored and not important as a child. I have to work on myself concept and tell my inner child that I will always be here, I’m never going to leave ever and that I am loved and important. Amazing video!! Thank you for this. I will be listening to all your videos ❤️

[@djamb117]

Thank you Shelly I raise my hand😂😂😂 I started doing that and it works I learnt it from you

[@ShellyBullard]

beautiful. so happy to hear this.

[@djamb117]

@@ShellyBullard thank you Shelly You are such a beautiful soul❤

[@Cabbage33]

i've experienced it in the past with an unwanted version of myself but im all healed now

[@ShellyBullard]

beautiful

[@Cabbage33]

Shelly Bullard also I have a question, my sp and I were talking last week and his disappeared in the middle of the conversation. Yet ever since he’s been one of the first to see my social media stories and he started liking my Instagram posts. I see this as a sign but idk why he has yet to answer my texts

[@michellemckenzie8724]

I’ve always had a fear of abandonment since I was little. I thought I’d lose my parents, through a violent situation. The love of my life adored me, when we finally got together after 20 years, just 3 years ago. But now he wants out, after promising to always look after me. I’m so devastated and I’m scared I made this happen. 🥺

[@G29W30]

Cried listening to this.

[@syky1837]

Shelly you are a great teacher

[@ShellyBullard]

Aww thank you!

[@catherinesdiary2928]

Real problem for me and experience again and again in friendship and love. They left when i need them. I feel panic so strongly. When i use ur method to heal my inner child i feel secured and safe. When i was a child my mum always lock me at a room and she go to buy food. She leave me stay on the street for hrs and she go to buy food. I finally realise that create feeling of abandonment. I feel scared i feel alone i even cry. But when i call for the existence of myself to stay with the inner self me, i feel so much better. Time to heal myself first thank you. This happens again and again for over 20 years. When i was in long distance relationship, i feel the abandonment and it ends. When i rotate at job, i feel abandonment with my original colleagues. I cry and scare. Now I understand what is happening.

[@angelasmith2809]

Yupp. My parents and lovers have left me😭 i have sent the intention to heal and prosper and through alignment your videos have came to me. Thank you, you're an angel and doing the right thing!!! Thank you!!!

[@divinefeminine9474]

I can understand Sending lots of healing energy and love !⭐

[@kaushiksn1207]

I have experienced abandment. It's the worst feeling ever. I always had the fear. Such a powerful message to overcome this fear. Thank you Shelly 🙏

[@ShellyBullard]

Yes. It's a horrible feeling. It's so empowering to know you can heal it on your own... just you and your Inner Child.

[@bryanfuchs1512]

Yep, this has been my experience pretty much all my life. This video has been extremely helpful. Thank you!

[@ShellyBullard]

I'm so glad it helped.

[@marirose2032]

Sadly this has happened to me time and again😞 and it took me this many years to finally put it all together. Thanx for shedding your light and expertise on this.

[@ShellyBullard]

❤️

[@amanykhater6138]

Thank you shelly... al what you said happened to me, we create our reality, I now know how to create Love

[@taylorchase2346]

Love this video! This is something I have struggled with majorly in the past. I have seen it over and over again the same patterns, everything you described. I always kind of knew what was being done wrong producing undesired results and circumstances, but I could never put my finger on it until recently. Thank you!! Blessings! ❤❤

[@ShellyBullard]

so glad you finally put your finger on it! ;)

[@arvj123]

yes! I love this so much. psychotherapy and manifesting combined again. thank you

[@ShellyBullard]

yes. my path. ;)

[@thatgirlbrinna7927]

My mom and dad left me, so I always feel every one will leave me even with my friends

[@ShellyBullard]

You have to change your story, love. Regardless of your history, you have to learn to believe and know that you won't be left.

[@thatgirlbrinna7927]

Thank you! I took a class from you like 5 years ago about building confidence and it helped me so much! I really appreciate you ❤️

[@melanieleone436]

This is 💯 what I emailed you about yesterday!! Lol I keep manifesting videos from you Shelly 💕 Loving the “Claimed, Cherished, wanted and Adored” program!!! Xoxo

[@ShellyBullard]

Awesome. Love that you manifested this video too. ;)

[@emic8666]

I know what you are talking about! Thank you ❤🌈

[@nikolhilario6249]

THIS WAS TO REAL FOR ME

[@IammilliondollarmonthMauimama]

I love this!! I have put a guard up because of my childhood and I am going to start this every day 😊 I started to get emotional after I said this to myself.

[@swatiduhan8963]

O my god Shelly you are so right. I've faced the exact problem in all of my relationship and that's why I haven't had any long term relationships but now since I know the reason I'm definitely trying to heal myself and manifest SP. Will definitely come here to Thank you as soon for getting him back

[@morningstar9756]

🧡 this one really stirred my emotions ... which tells me everything I didn’t kno I was still carrying around inside

[@ShellyBullard]

Glad you liked it🤍

[@JustBeingAwesome]

I lost all important people in my life (my grandmother, my godfather, my cousin that was only 3 months older) at the age of 5/6. I probably experienced my parents not being fully present because of all that. What a way to start life...

[@susanerickson9273]

Thank you for this video!! I could probably be a poster child for abandonment. My mother died when I was 3. My father tried unsuccessfully to leave me once in Holland with family while we were visiting and another time with a church family we were friends with. By the age of 8, the court took me away from my dad because they felt he was not able to properly care for me. I lived with a foster family for 5 years. They were my family. They were my anchor. Even after I went back to live with my dad. They taught me so much. I struggle with romantic relationships. I have been working on manifesting my SP. I see him coming around but want to keep him this time. Your videos have been so helpful. Thank you!!💜

[@porciadaweti8385]

Thank you soo much Shelly for all your videos...i practiced this and it made me cry,it made realised that i have been abandoning my self for far too long...i feel very light on the inside know that i deserve love, i deserve to be appreciated. Because it all start with self love.thank you very much...when i was doing the practice of healing your inner child i was crying....i now know that what i create on the inside is what i'm going manifest on the outside...

[@louelizabeth71]

Wow Shelly this couldn't have come at a better time! All of your excellent videos resonate with me. This is literally my life RIGHT NOW!! Really rotten experience. I already signed up for your self love workshop, really looking forward to it xx

[@ShellyBullard]

Beautiful. We'll dive deep into healing this in the Self Love Workshop. As, the Self Love workbook has great exercises for healing your Inner Child.

[@t3rriblethings]

yes, i would look for him to respond a certain way in order to soothe me

[@ShellyBullard]

classic response that unfortunately doesn't work.

[@paulasmith3577]

You are amazing and you explain better than anyone. You have more class and grace than anyone on KZbin!

[@ShellyBullard]

Wow! Thank you so much!

[@awhiterabbit5488]

This just happened. Had a moment with myself. Showed up in 3d as fear. I did this real time. It did melt away. So simply and effectively. Thank you. I have some of your courses which is greatly helping me. I am thankful to see my empowerment. Thank you

[@ShellyBullard]

beautiful. I'm so glad.

[@Manifestwithsha]

Would love more courses on how to show up for ourselves!! I think that’s so important and why most of my relationships fail. Thank you for your knowledge!!

[@aureliecasier297]

For the first time, I understand what it is to really show up for yourself and how to heal this wound. Thank you Shelly ❤️

[@BrisaniAshley]

Shelly thank you so much. When you started talking to your inner child I bursted into tears. I can't remember the last time I've ever taken a second to talk to that inner child. I've neglected her too, and as a result I've avoided healing for all these years. I'm going to start this healing journey. Thank you for your amazing videos.

[@nessar5104]

Wonderful video. I've experienced this abandonment in the past. Now that I don't have an SP, I'm focusing on working on myself. Thank you so much for this very enlightening video. Love it. 🙋💐❤️

[@ShellyBullard]

you're welcome

[@sharonthomas865]

Thank You So Much Shelly for sharing your Video 🌹⚘🧸💕

[@vivianmontgomery9082]

Yes I've definitely experienced this. And even before I became aware of LOA and manifesting I suffered from depression and used this technique to comfort myself and to basically talk myself out of that feeling. So I know that this would completely work, it's funny how I've never used it on my relationship fears. Self love is so important and the key to having that wonderful relationship we all desire. I want to thank you Shelly, you along with other manifesting coaches have brought me out of the deep funk...I was treating myself so cruelly from the negative self talk and creating all sort of damage in my life. But now every area of my life has changed just by changing my inner world. Thank you so much for your help.

[@patriciasapegasus-lebensbe2726]

yeees, it is so confusing and hurts like hell. First he was the one pursueing me, and - knowing that I am afraid of Opening up to a new relationship - telling me Things like; you should just open your heart, give me your hand and trust me, we will do this together, blablabla.... But at a certain point - when I started Opening up - he got lazy in writing back to me, or gave me bla-bla messages back. But still saying Things like: you can Always text me, do not hesitate to tell me, how handsome you think I am etc. (Little narcistic, isn't it !?). And he triggered my fear of being abondened like crazy. I started chasing him energetically (not with messages), but after a short while also this got on my nerves a lot; I do not want to chase anyone anymore! But this weekend it all turned. Even I had to cry a lot, was feeling unseen, small, not worthy, I decided to immediately stopp it! After having had a mental breakdown, as everything of the past seemed to repeat again and again, I was getting very angry and decided, to switch it all over NOW! I had to die somehow to got back to life. It still hurts, but with babysteps I go back to: what can I do good to myself to feel better etc. Who will love me, when I don't !? And, I guess this is a first little sign, that it works: This late night - for the first time since weeks - he put in a Status on whats app. And I KNEW it was for me (before I Always thought it could Maybe eventually be for me, but was afraid to think so, as I could get disappointed when it is not so...) Insecurity on two legs ;-). By the way; I made the experience, that it is not only the outer world showing us, what is inside of us (fear of abondenment), but we also attract people with issues, that are reflecting (on their side Maybe with slightly different fears) our anxiety. My SP for example also has fear of abondonment, but also fear of loosing his liberty. This, coming from childhood experience with his mother. Fortunately I have my Cards I can ask in such cases as I am a Card Reader. And this time it is the first time, I am able to read them also for myself, usually it is a bit difficult as the own emotions "Play" in. But I guess, it is time for a total renewal, so I get all the help it takes to go on. And I am very, very thankful for all the Videos you do for us, dear Shelly! And I am very busy doing and redoing the selflove course

[@missgaegyan]

Just this evening I asked universe "I don't know how can I heal this or release this in a good way please help me". And here I found this 😍🙌🔥

[@ShellyBullard]

So glad you’re here ✨

[@shreyasaranathan7849]

I’ve experienced this before. I am ready to deal with these negative emotions. Thank you so much, I love your videos

[@Sharollchand]

This was really helpful. Thank you so much. I literally cried when I did this practice. I have me ♥️

[@kharenc5118]

I had this feeling the whole day😢 and i saw this video.. Thank you Shelly this really helps me:)

[@ShellyBullard]

Glad you liked it💙

[@MindGymMeditations]

I had a dysregulated nervous system which ended up affecting my self-concept and manifesting. Thankfully I am aware of it all now and rebuilding

[@ShellyBullard]

Here's your ebook @MindGymMeditationslove.shellybullard.com/free-3-self-love-journal-prompts-to-change-your-lifeeoxmsqhj

[@alfarisegail4323]

First of all: your voice volume is low ; please in the next videos use another microphone or whatever method to make your voice clear for us ino order to grasp your amazing messages. Secondly: I experience abandonment many times during the last 4 years. I run my own business and it seemed my mom misunderstood me in some points so she abandoned me. Later on many of my friends also abandoned me when I shared with them the idea of my business and how they could become my partners. Later on one of my closest partners abandoned me and this time it hurts me very deeply. I agree with you, the fear of abandonment is in my subconscious mind and may be I don't think about it, but eventually it rises to the surface somehow. So your topic today is very interesting and helpful to me as usual and I benefit from it so much. I think I am on the right path of enlightenment because everyday I learn new important things about myself and my life and I appreciate this. You probably changed my life. I am so grateful to have someone incredible persons like you in my life. I wish to meet you sooner to say thank you to you. Best wishes, Yours, 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@PS-tz5ir]

I am healing from this fear of abandonment by self loving consistently!! Thank you for this video. I FEEL the healing energy already 💕💗Thank you again!!

[@ShellyBullard]

You’re welcome❤️

[@tmc1373]

WOW!! This is the stuff that should be taught in elementary school! This video is truly life changing and what I've needed to know and hear for soooooo many years to make sense of my own experiences and feelings. I, literally, broke down listening to you. You are absolutely spectacular at teaching and explaining. Thank you so very much for this video! You have no idea how much you've helped me this very day!!

[@qitae]

It amazes me sometimes how much manifesting teaches psychology principles of having a healthy emotionally mature relationship with self and others. O remember an old therapist told me " no one can make you feel any way" and i was like what do you mean, what if they are awful to you? And it took me a while to get the concept

[@yaarahaim6143]

Thank you Shelly🧡

[@navyant8415]

This is so true. The fear of abandonment stems from your childhood and transcends into adulthood if not healed. I have been dealing with this since my childhood and it isn't easy at all. But I've never thought about showing up for myself and have always expected it from others (especially partners). And this could be the main reason none of these relationships have had a great ending. Thank you so much for this perspective, Shelly! Will surely apply it from now on. Self love is indeed everything. ❤

[@ShellyBullard]

You’re welcome 💙

[@wonderwoman624]

You saved me today Shelly - thank you so much from all parts of my heart ❤️🙏🏻

[@avc6455]

Surely this is what I'm going thru right now. Thank you for this video

[@ShellyBullard]

You’re welcome 💜

[@kariberry9214]

I felt all of this. For as long I can remember I have felt this - everyone always leaves - Due to that I literally pushed my husband out the door, now that I am starting to understand LOA I can see how I created it all - from bringing him into my life to his exit. thank you so much this just got me all up in the feelers

[@tiaandrawis8634]

The most revelatory video on KZbin - Shelly you have saved my life! And I mean that quite literally thank you ❤

[@ShellyBullard]

You're welcome!

[@frankkennedy2768]

Oh yes went through this and it about ended me. Thought she was my happily ever after.

[@AxleBoost]

I do know this feeling. I’m going through it now. Your inner child playlist is helping me heal!

[@johnguss6087]

I’m a guy, but just hearing you say that makes me cry. This video is priceless. Thank you. 🙏

[@MarielLV21]

Currently experiencing this. And I’m now healed, thank you for this!!! 💖💖💖

[@thassan530]

"What is wrong here that people try to create it with other people before themselves..". Really stood out.

[@jen9930]

I can't believe I'm just now realizing how my childhood fears of abandonment are the reason for the cycle I've created in my 3D. When I was really young, up until about 10 years old, I was TERRIFIED to be left alone. I was never actually abandoned but for some reason I had extreme anxiety around my parents taking off forever, even if we were in the house together. I couldn't stand to have my dad be in the garage while I was upstairs without checking that was still there. Up until today I convinced myself I had no fears like that but it's deep rooted and was never properly healed. Now I can fix it, thank you!

[@sweetsquirrxl]

you have no idea how much this video helped me in this moment, thank you 😭❤

[@ShellyBullard]

You're welcome!

[@dc5372]

Yes this exact scenario happened to me after 6 months together!

[@Magical_Makeup_UK]

I worked out what I needed to do to heal myself with this video, thank you Shelly, so much

[@maggiecastro9791]

Thank for these video , I needed more than thought ,

[@ShellyBullard]

You’re welcome !

[@richalfernandes7726]

This is very relatable and painful 😣 too. Thank you so much Shelly for brining up such important message and sharing it with all.Your amazing ❤️ much love to you 😘

[@ShellyBullard]

thank you

[@richalfernandes7726]

Your welcome ❤️

[@oranjenijntje8368]

Yes, I do know what this is like and wow, how you described it is so spot on. I’ve been caught in that loop and lost some great people that way. I don’t want to do that anymore. I want to allow myself to be loved and not push people away because of old fears. This is a new moment! I’m going to focus on inner child work and expect positive changes in me and in others. As always, thank you so much Shelly 💗

[@ShellyBullard]

You’re welcome 💙

[@user-sv6dy8xb9r]

I've had that exact feeling from my SP.. My fear of her leaving came true eventually!!

[@ShellyBullard]

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[@laurenmichelle1782]

Thank you. Just thank you. I know I've heard these words in so many places but this was unbelievably valuable for me to hear... I'm favoriting this video and never forgetting it. I'm taking this fully to heart today 😭 😭

[@ShellyBullard]

beautiful

[@valandrea1976]

Thank you so much for this moment Shelly. ...you change my life ....really. have a wonderful day💜

[@ShellyBullard]

so beautiful to hear. thank you.

[@andreafarrington2367]

This was the perfect video today 💟

[@DFP79]

Yes, Shelly, this is exactly how I feel and the chasing...spot on. However, I've never ever in my life experienced abandonment in any form. Maybe it's just something I fear could happen.

[@wildflowertarot5418]

This literally always happens. And I watch it and am aware I’m doing it, it’s so automatic.. will look into your workshop, hope I can join yay 💕💖

[@dangerzzzone2925]

Oh I love this! I have had serious abandonment issues due to absent father issues. I had a weird upbringing. I thought my dad didn't love me and he was just an absent father who was still alive. Recently, found out my mom confessed to my younger sister (we have different dads) that my dad actually passed away when I was a couple months old baby and loved me very much. She just never had the heart to tell me. Now, I have to re-structure my mind and forgive myself for how I viewed my dad. That he did love me and would have been there for me if he could. Thank you for this Shelly!♥️

[@ShellyBullard]

Wow, what a beautiful and profound story. Yes, restructure your beliefs to know you were (are) very loved.

[@dangerzzzone2925]

@@ShellyBullard Thank you Shelly♥️ It has been quite the journey.

[@karlashmeedavlasta6365]

I experienced this...and most times it happens directly after a thought by myself: this is great...I really love this person being with me. This very moment they actually blow me off.

[@ShellyBullard]

beautiful

[@amolhatolkar9415]

Thank you very much for sharing such awesome video on Self Love!!!

[@ShellyBullard]

you're welcome

[@goldenluver33]

This is absolutely my experience! It happened with my old, long term partner, who was one day talking about marriage and kids and a future and the next left very suddenly to move across the country and ended our relationship. Now, with my new partner, I am constantly hyper-analyzing every second of our relationship, and essentially expecting to be rejected or abandoned. It's exhausting, and it makes me fear that I am manifesting the abandonment!

[@lauraangelicalomeliraya4623]

Thank you, Shelly! This is what I needed, girl! 💐💐💐💐💐💐💯

[@ShellyBullard]

You’re welcome 🙏

[@blissfulnaturesounds]

Ohh gosh, I so need this! Just thinking about that pain makes me want to cry... abandonment has ruined so many parts of my life