Should you have a second child? I Coach Answers

[@BhanuPartapSingh-be4mc]

Time has changed and how much, earlier people used to have so many children without even thinking once and now every one has to think 100times before having a second child,all got to do with expenses now a days,I suppose

[@AuthorBooksReader]

A single child can be happy and mentally fit. look around and you can see lots of successful one-child kids. I know at least 30 people who have single, parents have chosen a single and are happy with their decision. the children are happy and are doing extremely good in their studies compared to those who have siblings. The parents are so dedicated to their kids and without any pressure provide them best education along with undivided attention. The parents are also taking them on tours and making them travel. The one-child kids are happy and have no signs of loneliness or mental issues. they are very good in academics and sports as well. This is for all the parents who want to plan a single child. if you want to have a single child please go ahead with it. the things heard so far about having a single child is all myth. the world is changing and many couples are opting for a single child also that they can give their best and also live happily without any pressure.

[@rutujasiras7593]

Very truly said

[@monithaneha]

We as children I always wanted to have a sibling no matter what our financial issues are. I always used to go to houses who have 2-3 children to play with. I was always lonely irrespective of how active I am in academics or sports.

[@ambiamz]

This was good this was deep and precise at 30 I have an 18 month old and It’s just been confirmed I’m carrying #2 the fear comes from not knowing what’s next which creates doubt/uncertainty thinking is this going to be to much even with an active father and the support of a whole village it’s mentally and physically exhausting from start to forever but I truly appreciate motherhood it’s all the cliché things people say and things words can’t even begin to describe but it is worth it every second of every moment counts

[@rupak47431]

This is called clarity.. a big thank

[@mannurandhawa5011]

I decided to be child free… best decision

[@vaishaligandhishah]

Morw power to you. Let us also acknowledge that there is no 'right' decision. Everyone should make the decision that works for them 😊

[@mannurandhawa5011]

@@vaishaligandhishah 💯

[@ihate4413]

Lol. Yea right! Then why are you here watching these videos.

[@Lizzifer7]

@@ihate4413 to shout into the internet void that they don't want kids l guess...

[@ramayanam100]

@@Lizzifer7 😂

[@payalkumari7100]

Thank you so much! It was clear somewhere in my mind but i needed to hear this from someone else.. This question kept on arising in my mind as my first born completed his 1st year. Ofcourse i am not planning yet but has this question if i ever wanted to have another may be after 2-3 years or so but had little doubts about that. Now your video gave me full clarity that i do want one more child at some point when i am a little more settled down in some areas. But yeah i want one more that became clear with this video. Thank you for such clarity.

[@vaishaligandhishah]

I am so glad it helped. Lots of love and power to you!

[@deepabalaji2786]

Mam I have a son, 7 yrs old.. I'm 36 age now.. As we decided to have only one child., due to family situations. But why the society is forcing to have second child?? How to overcome this stress?? Do we really need to have two kids? They making me fear tat my son will be all alone entire life.. Why a single child can't live happily? How to handle this pressure with these people?

[@vaishaligandhishah]

It seems you are clear you dont want another child. A single child can live happily and be mentally healthy. Focus on giving him a positive and happy environment to grow. Regarding the society, if people are forcing, remember they dont have any right to. It is your body, your life, your family, your decision. The stress comes when we make it into a personal identity. If I listen to society only then I am a good enough daughter in law or daughter or wife. Remember this too shall pass. Today they are saying, tomorrow they will forget. Knowing this, smile through it. I know its hard, but you will be proud of yourself that you did not cave it to pressure

[@user-qb5ne1zz5o]

Don't mind the society

[@Scaminquirer]

I wanted a second kid but my husband said no. It has created so much anger and sadness in my life. Im not in a position to have a career. Everyone’s saying I’m making a big mistake by not having another kid. Im sad my kid won’t have a sibling. My husband is a good man but nobody can change his mind. How do go about this? I don’t want to go into depression every time I get my period. I just don’t want to be sad or angry anymore. I just want to be a good mother to my only kid. I can’t afford therapy. I don’t know why I’m ranting here. I just don’t have anyone to talk to.

[@vaishaligandhishah]

Bless you dear for your strength to speak up. I cant even imagine what you must be going through! This video is for people who lack clarity, but in your case it seems you have the clarity. The answer you need is of another question- How to convince my husband? Subscribe to this channel, I will upload a new video answering your question, soon.

[@Scaminquirer]

@@vaishaligandhishah like I said, there’s no convincing him. Even family members have tried. I’ve subbed to ur channel. I understand that all life’s questions don’t come with answers . You make the best of what you have. Even if it means putting an end to your personal dreams.

[@yourweeklydose7691]

How did it go?

[@xlissafx]

What an amazing video! Thank you so much! 💜

[@trishadey5092]

You one child has been a great problem for indian economy of becoming older before becoming rich under the government survey. I m soory if I hurt anyone !!!

[@saikatpandit9744]

Child free by choice

[@Lizzifer7]

Absolutely love this thank you.

[@lalitkumar-ny9co]

Mentioned no is not reachable. Kindly provide ur no I want to discuss something on call.

[@364anw]

Best advice I've heard

[@netramukherjee7446]

I am having a 7 yr. Old son and unexpectedly today got to know that I am pregnant 2nd time. I am worried about their age gap. Is it ok to go ahead with this pregnancy? I am confused please suggest.

[@vaishaligandhishah]

Heyy, First of all many congratulations! The age gap according to me is managable. What matters is the environment you give for both the kids to thrive and bond. I have seen cases of siblings being best friends when they have a big age gap and even cases where siblings who dont see eye to eye when they have less age gap. So what matters is the love and nurturing you guys provide.

[@babalanca]

I will forever regret not giving my daughter a sibling.

[@debra05]

Thanks. I am coming out of a tough time. My brother and I don't talk. When the test was negative, I was relieved. Suddenly it changed to positive and I have been freaking out. I am just trying to adjust. It's been a tough time.

[@rupalirose8827]

​@@debra05I hope everything is ok now

[@shwetalirajput1572]

Wow this video did give me a perspective..thanks dear👍❤️

[@vaishaligandhishah]

Thank you for your encouraging comment. Means a lot. More power to you for choosing

[@chandupatel9352]

Hai. Iam pooja This is a complete mind wash video about the 2nd pregnancy. Thankyou very much for great suggestion. But I have a question for self suggestion. That is I don't want to have a baby soon after 1yr of my 1st child. But i have convinced nw. So I want to know that can i have a pill? I'll b waiting from r ur answer. Thankyou

[@pratikgupta3785]

Better if we talk to the point

[@nitikaanandmukherjee]

We have a 6year old. I am expecting my second and it happened naturally. I am 44year old and am petrified to have another baby. My age being a factor and the fact that by the time baby no 2 is 6 i will be closing in to 50. So health and my energy levels are not on my side. But at the same time i feel not wanting a sibling for my daughter is such a selfish thought. She would love to have a brother or sisiter and its more important that i consider her well being than my own. I am utterly confused and also feel people these days take all the pain and make all the effort to have a baby and mine has come naturally and if i decide not to have one ,i would live with that guilt forever..I am so stressed that i dont know what to do

[@vaishaligandhishah]

Your health is a natural concern. Consult your gynac who will give you a realistic idea. If at all you decide not to go ahead with it because of your health, don't be guilty.. it is not selfish.. your child will be fine as long as you give it a loving environment. Hope this helps.

[@lakshmichandra2864]

I have a 20 months old baby..now iam pregnant again..i dont how to react on that..iam so much stressed about my future.what should i do..i was planning to abourtion but my in-laws are telling that this was completely wrong..can you please understand my problem and please give me a suggestion for what should I do..

[@Rabbaterimehr]

thanks 😻

[@VishalVishal-oy2fi]

Mam mera ek hi beta hai .or kuch health problems ki vajah se conceive nhi kr paa rhi hu. Kya m second child adopt kr skti hu . Bcz mera beta lonely feel krta h bhut . please reply mam . help me 🙏

[@vaishaligandhishah]

Ofcourse you can adopt, if you and your family really want to. But with or without the sibling, help your son cope with loneliness. Spend quality time with him and help him socialize. Hope this helps

[@VishalVishal-oy2fi]

Thank you so much mam 🙏🙏

[@mridulaponath2058]

Thankyou

[@vaishaligandhishah]

Hope this helps dear. More strength to you

[@PlayingWithWilson]

VHEMT volunteer today before it's too late.. have you ever wanted to make a good difference in the world? Well you can by simply not being shelfish and choosing not to breed

[@Lizzifer7]

Hahaha 🍤🦐

[@yashmehta6436]

Hindi mein hota vedio to achhe se samj jaati main

[@vaishaligandhishah]

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[@nazar5316]

Thoda phad liya hota

[@hilarywilliams4946]

Wow❤

[@aninditabose2340]

My son is 13yrs old...can I think for 2nd child now??

[@vaishaligandhishah]

This is a very honest question.. according to me the siblings adjust no matter the age gap. Small age gap or large both have their pros and cons. The real reason for you to have a child should be for you, not your son. If you want to have a second child now, you should go ahead. Hope I answered your question

[@debra6933]

@@vaishaligandhishah I want to have another one because I don’t want my daughter to be by herself when I leave this world! Is this a good reason to have one more??

[@vaishaligandhishah]

@@debra6933 sweet of you to think so much about your daughter. Also some things to consider: - do i want to raise and love another child? - do i and my partner have a desire to do the entire process again from carrying the child to child birth to upbringing? Does it fulfil us? If the answer to the above questions is yes, then that should be your primary reason. Secondary reasons include for the sake of my child, my family etc. Sometimes siblings may not have fulfilling relationships and we cannot control that. Whatever happens in the future is not in our hands, but we can definately think about the now. Enjoy and have fun now with your daughter and the new born, and thats all that matters. If you need to speak to me, DM me on insta- @vaishaligandhishah

[@ShivaKumar-jz4tm]

My son is 12 years can i plan for second child

[@margretdionese493]

Jesus is coming repent