Why rejection hurts and how to deal with it

[@Sachzilla]

I was just talking with my therapist about how to deal with (job search) rejection and this was the first video that popped up on my YT app when I got home. Thanks, guys!

[@charleshamilton3992]

Note to self: Don't type a comment late at night. Sorry for the long comment. I do really like your channel, however. You guys are charismatic, smart, funny, and, like another commenter said, you have good vibes.

[@ash21111]

this is so real. I am still dealing with anger over rejection that I was dealing with for months trying to win them over!! THANK GOD for my therapist and friends, Im working through it all but wow that caveman brain and need to be accepted/respected is crazyyy

[@bethanyray6421]

well i listen on the podcast and see that you haven’t posted your most recent episode on youtube yet but i paused the pod and came over here to say PLEASE never become the podcast who doesn’t record EVER in the summer 😭 i listen to podcasts year round because in the summer i go on walks and i LOVE listening to podcasts and you are like one out of two that i ACTUALLY like that post year round!!!!

[@shawnbay2211]

rejection & the feelings attached (like uncertainty, unfairness, inferiority) is what kept me in a depressive phase [6 years]. Exercise except walks & dance made me feel worse. Writing poetry made me feel worse. When ur deep in circumstances of exclusion & dejection, ignoring it or overthinking it doesnt work. It rlly matters who actually gives u the time of day or make u feel valued 2 keep u grounded. personally, I had 2 reject / cut off 99% of my friends & interactions. its not smth 2b ashamed or nervous about. I think ur happier when u dont keep urself in spaces of persistent rejection. If u r in a depressive phase from social rejection like I was, u must b strong by setting boundaries that'll keep ur peace. yearning & lonliness might b caused by socially dissatisfying environments that u can choose 2 cut off.

[@shawnbay2211]

i feel like i just said smth smart 😝

[@Lilconnections]

Been binging all day, happy to get a new episode too!

[@GrandHoopla]

What's that shame vídeo?

[@gabriellenorris8695]

just found your channel and i love it!! very informative and great vibes :) also- wondering if either of you are neurodivergent? I am AuDHD and relate to a lot of your guys’ (especially mitch’s experiences). much love 💗

[@charleshamilton3992]

Great video--and great channel, but I disagree with your point about the "sexual hierarchy" of gay men. There's totally a sexual hierarchy of attractiveness with gay men and really all of us. But I think it's more of a "Both / And" situation. I am a fat, bald gay man who grew up as a chubby / fat man in general. I have many other physical and personal attributes, all of them (including the weight and baldness) of different levels of attractiveness. But I grew up and came out into populations where great numbers of people rejected me automatically based on my weight. There's a very harsh reality to some kinds of rejection that can't be just dismissed as "not being someone's cup of tea" because denying the truth of any situation is a big set up. Whether or not that's right or justified? That's a whole other thing. But we all live in a world where we can be completely dismissed based on strong prejudice and bias