Signs Of Emotional Cheating - 3 Surprising Clues!

[@drwyattfisher]

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[@nietwojinteres7278]

Great video. My wife should watch it. But she would probably call me insecure, power-craving and controlling. She did that when I told her she's crossing boundaries with her work "colleague" she's carpooling with.

[@drwyattfisher]

Yikes, sorry to hear it! Perhaps she would respond better coming from someone else.

[@RushFan84]

This can't be jealousy. Remember, jealousy is coveting something that isn't yours. Your wife is yours and you are hers. What you are is territorial...something every man should be with his family. Plus we know what other men are thinking and what they really want.

[@nietwojinteres7278]

@@RushFan84 yeah, I know. But I also already know, that she's cheating me. So I no longer consider this filthy person to be my wife.

[@nietwojinteres7278]

Yeah, I know. Also already Know that she is actually cheating on me. And trying her best to paint me as an abusive asshole... Even though she's been abusing me psychologically for almost a year now.

[@RushFan84]

@@nietwojinteres7278 So sorry man to hear. My heart breaks for you. Don't let her gasslight you. Stay strong brother.

[@MuhammadAli-gj6ss]

Clearly defined about emotional infidelity, and well explained in this short video, thank you!! My wife was in contact with multiple men online sharing our personal problems with them and one of them was flirty. She also had been dating online with several men for over 2 years which I found out recently after digging into her account's history. I don't know what she was up to, well I only heard her say "I will earn money the wrong way, I want lavish life" during our fight.

[@drwyattfisher]

Yikes, that’s concerning, glad you discovered the messages!

[@judithhartley8905]

He is married, i have walked away. Yes , you are so right.

[@chucky6367]

If l made my partner watch this he'd run straight to his female bestie and l'd be in the doghouse. He has no idea how much emotional damage he is doing to me. He is doing everything that you stated. I've never looked thru his phone but a msg popped up when l was next to his phone and she was gushing on about how much she missed him, even though he saw her 2 weeks prior. If l ever say anything he sticks up for her, not my feelings. It's created a big void in our relationship, l get anxiety attacks just at the mention of her name and he says lm overreacting, he's known her longer than me, obviously her feelings are more important than mine.

[@drwyattfisher]

Very sorry to hear this! If things aren't addressed and corrected, this will probably only get worse.

[@SaystheTruth3]

Are you leaving him? Unfortunately it won't get better..... I'm sorry ❤

[@Tbn48ibp]

Leave his sorry ass!!

[@lalaa555]

Did u dump him yet?

[@VishnupriyaMagen]

trust me, leave him. it will only get worse and one day they may even have sex.

[@ockertolivier6474]

Hi, Thank you so much for this, I am going through this right now. I am not emotionally attached and always put my guard up no matter what. On the other hand, my significant other does and it has caused many a problem. Will give it another try by showing her your video. Do not know if she will see the light as so far she refuses to. Can only try. God bless.

[@drwyattfisher]

You're very welcome, hope your significant other finds the video helpful!

[@esl3096]

Thanks for this Dr. Fisher! This is “on point.”

[@drwyattfisher]

You’re welcome, glad you found it helpful!

[@drweetabix]

Plus the partner will need to start opening up to talk. If someone is looking for that connection somewhere else then chances are they've tried and there partner just wont talk or connect up then boom you'll find it somewhere else. Usually takes 3 folk to create this problem.

[@drwyattfisher]

Yep, cheating is always a choice. However, the more deprived we feel in our marriage, the more temptation we'll feel to cheat.

[@dotsyjmaher]

Happy well cared for spouses do not do it.

[@drwyattfisher]

@@dotsyjmahertrue, the happier you are the less desire there is to cheat; however, no matter how unhappy someone is it’s still a choice to cheat

[@Ryno814]

I disagree. If you had the respect, to go to your partner to begin with, about problems and you couldnt resolve, you wouldnt just go and get it somewhere else...out of respect, you would just make the choice to leave. "It takes 3"..are you crazy? Youre responsible for your own actions and choices. 2 wrongs dont make a right. Theres no excuse for emotional cheating. You either make the choice to leave or you make the choice to lie and cheat..pretty simple and its on you.

[@DaveSmith-nb2gi]

Describes my wife and her bff’s relationship, same words used.

[@drwyattfisher]

Yes, that can happen

[@mickboyce386]

Add in limerence to this topic

[@drwyattfisher]

True, that could be a helpful addition

[@mickboyce386]

@@drwyattfisher Until it happens to you, you don't comprehend how common or destructive it is.

[@drwyattfisher]

@@mickboyce386 True, it can be very common and very destructive

[@ligaverhoeven2091]

Very helpful

[@drwyattfisher]

Thank you, glad you found it helpful!

[@tnikaghanri9078]

I totally agree with you Sir. Thanks you.

[@drwyattfisher]

Thank You!

[@nikitadaisy8992]

You are welcome!! Thanks

[@PassarinvanderWal]

You are so accurate!!!! Thank you.

[@drwyattfisher]

You're very welcome!

[@mbkumar5742]

Same happened with me....Aparna one coworker was emotional attachment with my husband

[@drwyattfisher]

Sorry to hear it!

[@karilyons1045]

Would it be also considered “cheating” on your partner if one does this but the person they confide in and hide conversations that they have is with their adult child who dislikes current partner?

[@drwyattfisher]

HI Karilyon, I wouldn't consider your partner having private conversations they hide with their adult children cheating. However, it certainly would break trust and need to be explored to see what's the cause and the solution.

[@beulaprakash3498]

Happened to me

[@drwyattfisher]

Very sorry to hear it Beula!

[@SetFreePodcast]

Accurate and true

[@drwyattfisher]

Thanks for the feedback!

[@marcelo2169]

I had an emotional affair, I didn't mean to. She was a friend going through marriage problems and I was there listening, the conversations become more and more personal and inappropriate. How do I stop this? I feel addicted.

[@drwyattfisher]

Thank you for your honesty. The first step to affair recovery is getting the person 100% out of your life. Anything else won't work. You're right, it can feel exactly like an addiction, which is why full removal is the only path forward.

[@banderson5676]

Just stop talking to them. Pretty simple.

[@lak1294]

Extremely painful, but it's the right thing to do when the other person is married.

[@banderson5676]

Is an emotional affair adultery? My wife had an emotional affair for 2-3 months and i found out 2 months ago. She cut ties and We're going to counceling and trying to work things out but she is being very distant.

[@drwyattfisher]

Yes, it’s a form of adultery. Glad to hear she has cut off all contact and you’re working with a counselor.

[@mrsmarvl]

My husband of 24 yrs emotionally betrayed me all these yrs and I just found out. It's with a woman he has called his mom for more yrs than I have known my husband. There is only 9 yrs age difference. He has lied to me over an over. I'm a mess. Now I know why our relationship is one sided. He would never connect emotionally with me. All I ever got was ,it's not u it's me, I dnt know what to say. That's all he has ever said over the yrs. HELP

[@drwyattfisher]

I'm so sorry for this extreme breach of trust you're experiencing. If you decide to work toward healing the marriage, the first step is for him to cease all contact with the person and prove it to you by opening up all accounts and his phone. If he refuses then get a separation with no contact until he cooperates. Here's my affair recovery article for guidance. www.drwyattfisher.com/blogs/marriage-blog/8-steps-to-affair-recovery

[@brandonmoskos9149]

I am in an emotional affair. Without even realizing it.

[@drwyattfisher]

Great ownership Brandon, the goal is to cease all contact with the person to end the emotional affair.

[@brandonmoskos9149]

@@drwyattfisher Not easy! 😞

[@drwyattfisher]

Yes, ceasing all contact is the hardest step

[@brandonmoskos9149]

@@drwyattfisher Starting with small sex talk now. Feel like I am between emotional and physical at this point..

[@lak1294]

How could you not know, when you're having sex talk? My goodness, people are dense. 🫣

[@renegranados8050]

She refuses to admit to me about emotional affair she had with a male coworker. What about the male coworker involved with her emotional affair what will be his consequences? He knew she was married!!

[@drwyattfisher]

Very sorry to hear about her emotional affair! Some people choose to contact the other person directly so they know you know.

[@nikitadaisy8992]

Thanks so much doctor. I will try my best to let it go. I believe him because I have been with him 29 years on 5/19 and married for over 26 years doctor. We have so much to loose if we file divorce. I love him and he loves me too. He admitted that at first he did t know about her thought it was just a biker friend but till I mentioned it to him and he start to wake up and said I was right about that lady. If he decide to cha he his mind and I have to let him go. Thanks again doctor. I love watching your videos

[@drwyattfisher]

Thanks so much Nikita, I wish you the best!

[@nikitadaisy8992]

So my husband had an emotional with his female friend. They used to ride the bike together but since I confronted him and he stopped. I blocked her and stopped talking to her but now coincidentally they both are ride on the same day and once a week with a group. She first saw him and she texted him to let him know about the link for the group ride but he deleted. So my question is am I over reacting doctor? I can’t stop him from not ridding cuz he love riding the bike. How do I move on for not being so hurtful? Just the thought they see each other on Tuesday it hirt but he claims he has no feeling for her. I trust him but not her. Thanks

[@drwyattfisher]

If they had an emotional affair previously then there should be zero more contact because the temptation for the feelings to come back is always there and you won't be able to heal.

[@nikitadaisy8992]

@@drwyattfisher thanks so much for replying to me. I agree with you but he told me he doesn’t care about her. He just want to ride with the group. I think I’m done doctor. Can he still go ride a bike with the group! She still say hi to him and he waived back that was all he did he said. I guess i need to work on myself? I was one my ex was cheating with my best friend and maybe this is why it hurt me a lot. Thanks again for replying!

[@drwyattfisher]

@@nikitadaisy8992 You're welcome Nikita, our previous wounds can certainly influence our fears with our partner. Perhaps you could go on the group bike rides with him.

[@nikitadaisy8992]

@@drwyattfisher sorry Doctor I was too busy and didn’t see this. I agree with you. 30 years ago my best friend took my ex boyfriend from me and I was pregnant almost 5 months and I had no choice of to have the abortion🥲I know it was a long time ago go but it’s hard to trust anyone especially women. I don’t mine if having a camel friend but not like this lady. She didn’t like being friend with women only men. She is married. I feel bad for my husband because of my insecurities doctor. I do bike with him but only on the bike path because I don’t like being on the road. Thanks so much for all your replies

[@drwyattfisher]

Sorry to hear of your previous betrayal Nikita!

[@amyfyffe8158]

im a single mum happy single doing my thing concentrating on my kids i just thought we were friends but apparently he wss cheating on his wife emotionally. im quite hurt i thought were just work friends ive quit my job they kept trying to call turning up at my house my work my kuds sports im not the married person ive just tried going underground trying to avoid cut contact ive found out the hard wsy at 40 perhaps males and females can't be friends

[@drwyattfisher]

Sounds like your heart was innocent Amy but he was falling in love with you.

[@V01D72]

I'm going through this right now with my girlfriend. She has gone out 1 on 1 with her male coworker on multiple occasions (we have a ldr so I couldn't be there) and I have repeatedly told her I don't feel comfortable with her spending time alone with another man (he is single, and straight, that makes it even worse for me). They have also exchanged numbers and text nearly every day. She thinks an affair will never happen to her because she loves me, I keep trying to warn her about emotional closeness turning into physical closeness and the damage that will bring to our relationship. Now we agreed that I will come along to the next few meetings of her and this coworker so she can keep seeing him but I will also be able to catch the vibe and establish myself as her boyfriend. It's a tough situation to be in for sure. I want her to have this friend but I'm also afraid for the consequences down the road if this goes south

[@drwyattfisher]

Hey Mark, makes sense that would make you uncomfortable! Here's a video on boundaries you both may find helpful kzbin.info/www/bejne/mYCwg62Ijr6mlc0

[@jensbornagain]

I am so confused. My husband said it was not physical or emotional. And he was nit attracted to her but his affair lasted for 2 years. And he had pet names for her. He says me he never had sex with her but messages say there was. He was talking about me at the bar I heard it for my self. What I think happened was he was talking about our marriage with her and it was emotional then turned sexual. Please help !!!

[@drwyattfisher]

Hi Jen, so sorry to hear of your betrayal. Check out my article below for a free resource on affair recovery www.drwyattfisher.com/blogs/marriage-blog/8-steps-to-affair-recovery

[@donk9189]

My father in law got really sick so my wife turned to her coworker for support went to her office and found a bottle of vodka hidden in her cabinet and Red Bull in her fridge he came over to her office after hr and they had drinks checked her office phone history she would call him 3 to 5 times per day and it was only outgoing which tells me she was hiding him from her employees after I collected all that information I presented to her she was shocked her jaw dropped and she admitted to everything now we are working on rebuilding our relationship!!

[@drwyattfisher]

Wow, very sorry to hear of your betrayal. Glad she admitted everything and you're trying to reconcile.

[@michaelford8147]

My wifehides her phone,sneaks out in the middle of the night and talks to people and refuses to show me her phone. She says me even suggesting she is cheating is the end of our marriage of 11 years. We have a 4 year old together. How do I get her to admit what's going on without pushing her out the door totally?

[@drwyattfisher]

You start by not worrying if you're going to push her out the door or not. Instead, you do the right thing and let her respond however she chooses to. Otherwise, your fear of her reaction is controlling you and enabling her. When a partner has highly suspicious behavior like this it's recommend to request transparency with phones/accounts. If they don't cooperate, a separation is recommended until they do.

[@RushFan84]

Dude...she's cheating. Sorry.

[@f.b.8700]

100% my feelings but I am the betrayed one. "Its just a matter of time" .... :((((

[@drwyattfisher]

very sorry to hear of your betrayal!

[@eliciaandamelia3123]

After checking my girlfriend's Facebook massages,i found that she has been having an emotional affair with her co worker,they were both very flirtatious calling each other the sweetest of names,but in 1 of her messages she tells him i want to have your babies. The question is,was this an indication that they been having a sexual affair as well? I look forward to your reply. Thanks. Chris

[@drwyattfisher]

Hi Chris, I'm very sorry to hear of this betrayal! It's hard to say if this indicates a physical affair too. Most emotional affairs turn physical in time.

[@thepenismightier8120]

If they weren't having a physical affair then that was definitely her way of telling him she was willing. The real question is how did he respond to that comment. A lot of the times we don't realize we are being "flirty" but if it is unintentional, as soon as someone says something like "I wanna have your babies" we will address it and tell them we don't feel comfortable with that kind of talk...but if they don't address it then there's a chance they want it too, on some level.

[@Angel-e6j1z]

How to rebuild trust in our partners once they do this.....thats my issue. My husband has several females he grew up with that he had emotional affairs with and we live in such a small town. I desperately wanna trust him again. Im struggling

[@drwyattfisher]

The first step to recovery is for the wayward partner to get the affair person 100% out of their life. The healing process will be severely crippled until this occurs.

[@Tbn48ibp]

Same Exact thing for me here. They all Grew up together in a tiny town. It’s almost like a cult and he wants a future with me but I’m not ok with the fishbowl and he has an emotional attachment with his cousins wife. It’s creepy as hell

[@Angel-e6j1z]

@@Tbn48ibp gave mine an ultimatum and he supposedly agreed to drop an avoid them.......but the moment they need help moving or their oil changed he goes! Said he's known them forever an feels like their family. I call BS. Can't imagine how he would feel if I ran every time a male would hit me up. I don't because I have no male friends an I wouldn't do this stuff to my husband. A cult/fanclub is how I describe it also! One female stalked me an my kids for a year....... he said I made it more then it was. She literally peeped in windows. Stalked my job etc. I'm at the point of leaving. He won't even move with me to a new town. Though his job would allow a transfer..I see no hope at this point. It's emotionally drained me.

[@BapanSarkar880]

❤

[@jvillalobos9795]

Dude, Fortnite will ruin your life, I got the same shit going on with my high school sweetheart that I’ve been with for 23 years. She cries to the dude, she’s messaging him till 5 o’clock in the morning. She’s never had to forgive me for that kind of stuff. To be honest, I don’t even think she cares, hurt feelings, are just words to her.

[@drwyattfisher]

Yikes, she is lacking boundaries and her behavior could easily slip into an emotional affair with him.

[@jvillalobos9795]

@@drwyattfisher it already has

[@drwyattfisher]

@@jvillalobos9795 Very sorry to hear it, be sure to read my article on 11 steps to affair recovery here www.drwyattfisher.com/blogs/marriage-blog/8-steps-to-affair-recovery

[@Eniclac]

My wife don't believe what you preach, I unfortunately have seen it multiple times - then I found out that she had already fallen.

[@drwyattfisher]

Very sorry to hear it!

[@genizacamoro1271]

😢

[@drwyattfisher]

Sorry for your pain!

[@yepitsme7237]

How about online pen pal lol

[@drwyattfisher]

😂

[@chrisdrummond8893]

It ain't adultery until physical intimacy happens. A lady needs her emotional needs met.

[@drwyattfisher]

Thanks Chris, we'll have to agree to disagree on that point.

[@DouglasMoreland-qd5cz]

That’s right..with her spouse..you need help if u think this is okay

[@Xanaduum]

You might not consider it adultery, but it's still cheating. Switch this around and talk about how a man's emotional needs need to be met as an excuse for emotional infidelity and you see there's a double standard there.

[@emmarae4322]

Its cheating.

[@norbiealpanta3874]

You are so true. I am glad I was able to watch this🥲🥲🥲 This just sum it up..

[@drwyattfisher]

You're very welcome Norbie, glad you found it helpful!

[@Champa9800]

Dr I love your show so much. My husband has an emotional affair with his female biker friend and I was able to pulled him out but he still wants to ride with her cuz he enjoys riding with her too and please advise me of how I should convince him to stop being around her because he accuses me for trying to destroy hi friendship with her🥲

[@drwyattfisher]

Thank you for the kind words. He should have no more contact with her. Here's an article that can help www.drwyattfisher.com/blogs/marriage-blog/8-steps-to-affair-recovery

[@jeanjoseph7905]

Emotional cheating leads to SEX.... my husband had a co worker who was just 'very good friends' with her so after work hours they would go hang out as friends until he started lying about everything.....until I had nothing to do with him....until he retired and got sick so all I do is take care of him...but he messed up our marriage of 50 years.

[@drwyattfisher]

So very sorry to hear of the betrayal Jean!

[@ika19]

Going through something similar right now.. my boyfriend is confiding in my best friend, I went thru his dms and came across their chat and then confronted him abt it, he said he was sorry and that he has stopped confiding in her but it broke my heart that he chose her over me.. and he would even occasionally complain abt how I'm not good enough.. he hid it, but she would sometimes tell me about how he keeps whining abt how I dont treat him good enough.. I recently found out that this is indeed a form of cheating.. and I'm very confused.. should I break up or should I continue.. he absolutely broke my heart and my trust