Signs Your Wife Is A Serpent (Narcissist) - The Benjamin Zulu Show

[@abigaelbetty633]

Having a relationship with a narcissist is the worst emotional torture anyone can go through 😲

[@DJWOLFLIVE]

Facts

[@jacklinekirungi5488]

Please, never stop this show, it’s soul enriching.

[@faithkwatsima2793]

Very true I learned alot by watching the show

[@Unknown_junction.]

An apology without change is just manipulation

[@esther_ninsiima]

Its true most counsellors don't handle the subject of narcissistic abuse right....while at university, I visited two different counsellors explaining the situation of my bad relationship with my father which was hurting me badly...hoping to get some help...only to be told... "u see that's your father, his behavior is because he loves & wants the best out of u" which was total nonsense to me..I felt that nobody could ever understand if the counsellors had failed...I later found all my answers on the internet & I'm still seeking to learn more. I now understand situations better & I'm much happier.

[@pearlregis8007]

Benjamin delivers every time . Can't stop listening to him. Enlightening always

[@msjo1jjjandt821]

I have always known this guy Benjamin Zulu is God sent. Well done👍🏾

[@wardaclassic8379]

“A narsicist will make you sound mad!” How true

[@SoftRod]

Dr. Zulu I am laughing because You are describing my wife Word for Word; I mean Word for Word including Isolating Me Using Manipulation, I have been separated from all responsible relationships recently my older sister was barred from Visiting despite not having seen her for Years. Thank God if You've are clueless of existence of Such people. Am not sharing for sympathy but to say; Narcissist people don't even believe they are narcissists they have Perfected the art of Playing Victim.

[@KobeCorona-uj3zb]

Did you escape ??? I’m in the same situation ! 😢

[@agathamacharia1983]

Sorry

[@judymburu8898]

It took a counselor to point out to me that I was suffering narcissistic abuse and I started to study it....I cried for weeks coz it became clear as day

[@thipimotsoare4228]

Please don't fight back you will never win I pray that you find healing and a way out of that situation

[@faithkwatsima2793]

Am also a victim of a narcissist.. wueh Ile matusi nilipewa after tumewachana 😂😂 but I thank God am safe and far away from him

[@Momo-lv4kn]

Ya, I know one with a narcissistic partner. He creates drama to any friend she gets or you have to be his friend too so that he can study you whether your on same level.

[@drkips4757]

This show should be aired in more national tvs. Many people are perishing because of lack of knowledge

[@peninahmwende368]

Mental health is a greatest wealth 🙌🙌🙌

[@ruthgitau1285]

Aki thanks alot Zulu,i used to date a guy with funny character.Was so stressed n never used to understand him until...you started teaching about narcissistic abuse,now am enlightened and free from him.

[@patriciapat9156]

I like that... " the heavens will not crown you for dying in your marriage "

[@jeremymwanikofficial7430]

Non-victims cannot understand when it comes to narcissists. I find your description very exact to my situation from cutting off one's social network, unapologetic and having a grip of you. Benjamin now they have upgraded after they note you have realized and they would tell you the situation needs a counselor. They suggest to you a list of people and you choose the one you think it could be hard for them to be communicating. Only to later realize she pumped him lies for you to come out of the counsel room enslaved to them.

[@ruthgitau1285]

Mental peace is the greatest wealth.Wow...!

[@3danimation464]

Thank you! Please consider a session on narcissist mothers or potential future narcissist mother-in-laws!

[@annahkimani4458]

Benjamin Nzulu, you are an enlightenment to this generation. You don't respect old held notions about human relationships and serve the brutal truth. Every time I listen to you I laugh alot, acquire wisdom and get validated on some things I have known to be true. You recently stated that some disputes between couple can't be settled by relatives sitting to discuss. Such like abuse, neglect, irresponsibility, infidelity can't be discussed away. These symptoms of.personality disorders and can't be wished away but dealt with or discarded.

[@queenlyne2363]

Zulu is a jewel.

[@nzisam8178]

Undoubtedly, the old adage of "Ndoa ni Kuvumiliana" is completely out the window. He also brings it out very clearly how all these bad marriages affect the children's physiological persona long term.

[@freddyopana5663]

Benjamin Zulu is a blessing to this generation. You can please do a video on how a narcissist can try to improve and change behavior without hurting others.

[@favouredanittah]

These B guy's hits the nail on the head ... Thanks to us that listen to your snippets of wisdom.. Your God sent at such a time

[@joanchemutai9759]

Benjamin I feel like you are talking about my mother

[@olgamashedi7981]

Benjamin and Bramwel next you should talk about Religious Narcissism/ Pastors who are Narcissist. Keep up the good work. We have to unlearn a lot of ingrained systems in order to heal and change the narrative.

[@eunicenjoki6006]

Hae zulu n bramwel....this is great teaching....it's true nercissist are always right n they never loose battles no matter the cost and to leave them is another tougher battle....thanks for enlighting. keep up good work.

[@KidCrowder]

Narcissism, overbearing folks and many other generational curses aren't embraced in Kenya (Africa) as much because they are engrained as culture norms, as a victim of control and overbearing folks and I can tell you it can really mess your life if you choose that path, that's why self awareness is so essential. I haven't taken therapy yet but still I have a channel enlightening the young adults age group about this issue. won't take it no more

[@anifamango6756]

I agree... Some people are just fostering abuse in the excuse of customs. Even if you grew up in a traditional conservative set up, if something is wrong is just wrong and if you are enlightened enough,you simply need to use your common sense and break away from such customs.

[@selfieswithapurpose2398]

Kick u out of class made me burst into laughter. 😊🤣🤣

[@ruthwambui7591]

Men suffer in silence and they think it's a strength

[@KobeCorona-uj3zb]

6 years of suffering

[@florenceojowa7706]

Wisdom indeed. Thank you, Benjamin

[@naomisagina3123]

You have really taught me a lot Benjamin,,,will always follow and listen to your shows,,,,,how I wish I could have listened to you 8 years ago,,,,,,,

[@queenlyne2363]

These victims are very rigid ,their self esteem is very below, they have zero will power ,they suffer but at the same time they do nothing about it. The cycle repeats itself until they die of related diseases...

[@ndumisokhabo5663]

I once dated such a woman. She was just a living hell. Demanding commitment and gaslighter. I pray she doesn’t get married

[@evalynemuthonimusic]

Men should watch this.very informative

[@bongetpinto2742]

if men watch this many marriages will break

[@geoffreykalume333]

This was an excellent one!I just like how you counter the anti-Creator proponents with hard hitting truths!

[@ruthwambui7591]

You know

[@jesseombok6481]

@ Geoffrey What do you mean

[@johnmwangi8706]

Boy child must stay alert

[@marggyowino5650]

These people messes with our mental health..... I refused.....and am still refusing..... They are big pretenders......

[@sistanice2782]

Excellent Mr Nzulu

[@sarahbirungi1631]

I love this show!

[@finnlandaa]

I just came here to laugh with you🤣🤣🤣

[@shade_ofnite7autopsychogra411]

I will say one thing here and it may sound counterintuitive but I feel it is a another side of the coin to what Benjamin is talking about. It is not enough to identify that you are either a narcissist or someone who's suffered from their abuse. It can happen in all forms of relationships family, work, places of worship. But if and especially, the victim once the realization sets in, do the work to unravel and unlearn what forms of behaviour displayed leave one vulnerable to narcissists. Otherwise one either jumps from one extreme to another or repeats same harmful behaviour. My advice do the work

[@nzisam8178]

Benjamin and Bramwel, please have a discussion on moving on after narcissistic abuse in marriage, from parents & at the workplace and especially the importance of professional help to undo years of abuse, wrong beliefs in calculated and fear.

[@dollyjoy6614]

Oh my! This is naked truth... sitaki kushout

[@susanwangui4181]

Mental peace is the greatest wealth

[@judymburu8898]

Yes. Be happy you don't understand!!

[@monicanyamu2207]

Thanks Benjamin you have educated me.God bless you.

[@chemtaiobwaka7107]

Jumping out of the bathroom 🤣🤣

[@AA-qy4jz]

Great to see you Bram....avid waumini listener

[@carolinemuthoni818]

Very true.I became diabetic at 24.Married at 23.Doctors keep asking me,who is diabetic in my family and there's non bcz both of my parents went for check up.They re both okey.

[@sharonochieng4699]

Hve been in a narcissist r/ship and it was hell on earth...Thank God I escaped from it

[@judymburu8898]

27 years later am trying to rebuild my broken life.... Benjamin please tell them

[@ronaldojohn3394]

So great 🔥🔥🔥

[@annieo7656]

Great conversation. I'm just here wondering how people become narcs. Is it inborn, is it acquired..how can we train our children in a healthy way in that they never become narcs. Could you handle that next time Mr. Benjamin

[@yourstoplossismyentry]

Narcissistic personality disorder stems from bad parenting. Either 1. The child is neglected and ignored. Like how we tell our little boys to toughen up instead of acknowledging their feelings. 2. Telling the child they are too special. Eg soccer mums and child celebrities. All the above scenarios lead to the child seeking external validation because they have no inner sense of self value. This was not nurtured. Hence why narcissists act like kids. The tantrums, seeking attention and validation, silent treatment, staring at people and so on. Because there's a child whose needs were never met. Watch Dr. Ramani ' mirroring, how not to raise a narcissist'

[@musabegq]

@@yourstoplossismyentry 100%

[@anifamango6756]

Most of the times is child upbringing, life experiences as you grow. But majorly it's the parenting style. That's why most narcissist are men... Because they are told to be tough and all that nonsense and the girl child is taught to be submissive, obedient to the brothers and all that nonsense of traditions. Eventually the lady turns out to be a people pleaser and a super empath and the brothers turn out cold and mean. But that does not mean we don't have narcissist women... Narcissistic people come in very many versions. It's not black and white.

[@marggyowino5650]

Thanks Benjamin! All the characters that my stepdaughter posses....I refused to stay with 34year old with one kid ....who always selfish and everything revolves around them......

[@mamawatorotalks8208]

Kik item

[@reconnectwithpetra913]

Character Assassination!

[@DOCTORSAMMYBAYA]

Great video

[@quesubembe7481]

Solutions to the issue

[@roselyneoduor802]

God have mercy 🙏🏿🙏

[@tabithakasina3711]

Great insights

[@madamg.3489]

Benjamin I have a question,I fight my husband from meeting her sisters because they can party for a whole weekend,they can decide to have road party and at this time his phone is off..then I will know he was with them on Monday...one of the sister is a lesbian,so she always meet him with her girlfriends.and remember at this time he never told me that he will not be around over the weekend. This act hurts me most and once he's back..there is always a quarrel .so he now says am separating him with his sister's. am I a nastiest?

[@margaretwachoro7532]

There is a show that Benjamin said if your partner never tels you his or her abouts it only means he doesn't care about you from Friday until Monday is he even serious with you?he is not the right man for you

[@anifamango6756]

Is that a problem that really affect your peace? Is it a deal breaker for you? Is it something he's willing to work on? How consistently is he doing it? Like is it a pattern?. At this point it's not a him problem but rather a you problem. You are the enabler ... You have to choose to either stay or leave after considering all the factors.

[@rozzycate5239]

Yve married yourself sister.. go where you are valued.. you Don't need to be told You know the answer

[@brendakerubo7398]

just watching this reminds me of the story of John Depp, a famous actor who has sued his ex wife, amber, for defamation. men too are abused and should s[peak up. thanks Zulu for the rich knowledge

[@cikuciku2355]

The disciples of JESUS CHRIST were 72 then reduced to 12.....Glad to hear that Benjamin don't believe in the bing bang madness theory.....Good job Benjamin.

[@theannointedqueen6470]

About forgiveness I don't forgive easily.So am a narcissist 😳

[@Lisa-bc1qe]

If you don't forgive bc you enjoy seeing other people beg for your forgiveness, then you are

[@eunicenjoki6006]

Benjamin...it's Eunice from Kenya...Is nercissistic character hereditary?? Please answer me Benjamin

[@Sarah_64]

WHAT IF YOURE MARRIED TO NARCISSIST SHOULD YOU DIVORCE?

[@margaretwachoro7532]

YES because you are leading yourself to the grave run for your future as early as now.

[@anifamango6756]

They will never change... Leaving is a choice you'll make it on your own.

[@RipfumeloTiko]

The “still” conversation is boring

[@enockikonye8219]

✍️

[@wanyamuthimookariuki2012]

Those needs zullu to deal with them and not get alsers and start smelling bad out of acute tressss

[@angelaogucha7591]

I can relate

[@apikowinnie7702]

Oh my goodness.. this topic......is soooooooooo loud....