Extreme Listening with Deeyah Khan | A Bit of Optimism (Podcast): Episode 11

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” ― Stephen R. Covey

[@SuperDavidgrace]

This interview changed my life and my mind how I view of views of others. Driven by love and not by hate.

[@melissashipman8666]

"I'm looking for the cracks where some level of humanity might reside."

[@nadinerichings4259]

So powerful, so insightful. Thank you. Five things: 1. Be patient - change takes time, 2. Make space for others - space to talk and be heard; space to belong, 3. Empathy - be kind and appreciate the other person's perspective, 4. Love - it's at the core, so find the love in others; it's their why, 5 Respect - make people feel seen, heard and valued

[@lemondude6174]

This needs more viewers - more listeners. Seriously.

[@S__Kay]

It will gain momentum, just give it some time. I have no doubt about it. The world needs this.

[@karlakelly8810]

Deeyah Khan, you seem to have elevated and put into practice the tenants of Non-Violent Communication which is when you know someone’s joy and their pain and suffering, you can not hate them. This interview was not only eye opening but heart opening. Thank you!!!

[@wisdom-for-all]

"Listening" just like "Questions", are becoming the new "Answers". Indeed, we should not listen with the intent to reply, but with the intent to understand 🖖

[@charliebogaczyk7734]

Wow! What an eye opener to the reality of these groups! You are a hero Deeyah... A WARRIOR who put yourself in harms way to seek out hearts so you could understand in order to make us understand. Thank you! And thank you Simon for having her and seeking with your heart as well!

[@Shine88Always]

A lot of people are just too distracted to listen. It's easier to just put a label on this and that and sent it off to be judged. People talk over each other to get their point across rather than truly desiring to connect, to understand each other through the sharing of hearts, mind and spirit. Not everyone of us can do it like her in such a big and profound way however I believe if we can all practice listening, such a small but meaningful gesture of love, like you've said, at least to the person to your left and right will make a difference. Desiring to be loved and belong are part and parcel of being human. Sadly, some will manipulate it to their advantage for unethical purposes. I do agree with her. Love is the answer. Love is the basis of who we really are - it is the glue that unites us all. So much packed into a less than an hour conversation. Deeyah Kahn is an amazing person. You do invite exceptional guests. Thank you.

[@victorpalacio7055]

This is a significant and true "seed" to grow a better humanity in the future; I'm overwhelmed by every single phrase in this conversation. Thanks Simon for creating this space to learn about Deeyah's perspective of life and love. Thanks Deeyah for this wonderful gift.

[@SquidDesign]

that moment in the story when the white supremacist said to her "you have a brother now" brought serious tears to my eyes. I wish we would all stop trying to shout each other down and give listening and understanding a chance. Thank you Deeyah Khan.

[@francwoods]

Fascinating lady with a message that needs to be heard esp during this time of racial tension. Thanks Simon for bringing her to our attention. Her documentary and Ted talk are great follow-ups.

[@melanierichardsyoga]

Incredible. So much awe and respect for Deeyah Khan. Thank you for this enlightening interview.

[@gregoryb2963]

This was so insightful. I don’t understand why we can’t have someone like you in government, Simon. The world needs more empathy and a few more people with their “listening ears” turned on. 🙂 Thank you both so much.

[@PH1M0]

“We can not give up on each other” This one of the keys I took away from this talk. Also it’s like she uses Muhammad Ali’s “rope a dope” technique , applied to listening. Where he let the opponent punch themselves to exhaustion before he began his campaign, she allows the speaker to “wring themselves out” to be able to get to their true selves. Im not even sure what to call what she does, it’s way beyond courageous. 🙌

[@djgoodnews288]

I had never heard of Deeyah Kahn before. Thank you for that, Simon. Such an inspiring conversation.

[@elviratukaeva5650]

This is so powerful and emotionally overwhelming. I think everything starts in the family. And we should teach people to establish healthy families.

[@freule.ukulele]

Keep coming back to this inspiring, heartopening conversation. Thank you Simon and Deeyah!❤

[@MelchiMizpah]

An adventurous inspiration from you, Deeyah khan!!! Listen more about what others think and talk less about what we think can drastically improve relationships.

[@maoribaca2655]

Her fire is felt in the truth she speaks. This is such a gift, thank you Simon

[@serenangel]

This is so true. I'm always telling my kids is all about communication. If you don't say something the other person won't know, "don't be physical, use your words."

[@VitaInDC]

Her courage and understanding into the human experience is phenomenal. Thank you.

[@jamesspry3294]

Wow! Totally blown away. Thank you Simon and team, for such a beautiful piece of work. You are making the world a better place. Cheers, Jim

[@cristabuznea8049]

The best podcast yet! After listening, I went straight to Deeyah's documentary and watched it - I don't think I would have watched it without first listening to the podcast - as it made it more digestible. What a story! Thank you so much Simon and team for sharing

[@danielvelho6627]

Thanks to both of you for this highly practical master class about being human

[@adiroots]

What a great dialogue! I find so much value in it. Listening and feeling heard are such rare but precious gifts.

[@renatastumberger8002]

Excellent point of view. Truly brilliant. Eye opening understanding. Thank you deeply Deeyah and Simon.

[@madferrituk]

Brilliant insightful interview. I knew nothing about her work before, and now I want to watch her work. Sounds fascinating!

[@adrineong3249]

aaa

[@janine9871]

I have the same reaction

[@alyona_sm]

This is SO BIG! Till goosebumps... Thank you @Simon for sharing different perspectives of love and feeling belonging.

[@Patricia36163]

I have learnt so much about myself listening to your motivations and having guest on your podcast. I am learning to listen and also to be the last person to speak,thank you...

[@racaciaruth4460]

Oh wow Ms Khan, yes we all want to be loved, heard, understood, respected and have self dignity. It's being patient in the discomfort, to listen to others before speaking only to be effective as a human. Yes we do learn about ourselves more. You are absolutely motivated, purpose driven and mindful to your cause. Lead on and God bless you as you inspire TRUTH to change our world. Love is the greatest commandment. 🙏 💘💘. Simon thank you ❤️.

[@iamneokay]

My father tells me all the time to 'listen' if its my weakness he says. I understand now what he means. Insightful and very necessary podcast. Thanks you.

[@AndreaSchillingBohme]

Such insight. She is amazing. So human. So beautiful.

[@janine9871]

Thank you so much for the conversation, it is amazing and what the world needs to hear right now. Much ❤️

[@engineertech8708]

Hello, Simon. Thank you and the other speakers for all the "A bit of optimisim with Simon Sinek" conversations. They are really insightful. With the online lectures during Covid-19, I have become more sure of how the real presence of the professors and the articulation they use maid our lectures more impactful and easy to follow them. I guess it would attract a lot more new viewers and listeners and help them too a lot if we could have these dialogues with the actual video of the speakers talking.

[@cedrusatlantica7]

OMG this episode is so AMAZING!!!! Listening like this is the only way to bring out the humanity in them. This is so powerful. Thank you for sharing this!

[@pauljung3534]

SS & DK, two beautiful beings, blessing us with their heart & presence. Wonderful. Expansive. Much needed.

[@MindNow]

*Optimism can help us get really far. Even if we don’t have all of the answers in the world, but having HOPE keeps us going forward so why not?* 🙏

[@jsgglr]

Option C! Love this approach that doesn't require a total anylation of option A or B.

[@anaaraia9384]

Michael Ende's Momo grew up and she's still healing people by listening, one talk at the time. 💖 I have watched Deeyah Khan's movie, White Right: Meeting the Enemy, and it was incredible hard to watch. Because speaks a lot abut how we neglect our strongest weapon, empathy, turning instead to self-righteousness and increasing the violence in the world.

[@omarpervaiz]

Great interview Simon! Loved and followed Deeya Khan's work before but found out about soooo much more through this interview. Oh sorry I always forget to introduce myself. I too am an optimist. Thanks for helping me know myself better Simon.

[@Lanceitc]

Wow!! What a great interview!! These two people have a in-depth understanding of the world and how we tick, excellent Podcast, thankyou for sharing this with us all.

[@sylviekaiser1064]

Thank you- I had tears in my eyes- this is the real work

[@jonathanross1436]

Extreme Listening is my favorite thank you for sharing!

[@modoulaminsaidy5970]

Thanks Simon Sinek

[@marijaorel7299]

This is inspiring. Thank you both for a very thought provoking discussion.

[@SumitKumar-zn2po]

I love this woman.

[@alisonborg5548]

Exceptional interview!! Im looking forward to listening to more. Extreme listening is so important now given the Covid environment and ensuring we stay connected to our family, friends and colleagues.

[@eftsoulpath333]

Omg. Thank u. So motivating and inspirational. God bless you DK 💕

[@mennoblom165]

I suppose to sleep but I couldn't stop listening; very interesting👍

[@ivibrown2213]

I am humbled to the core by this... thank you.

[@TheLegendaryLife_Official]

Amazing talk. Thank so much.

[@afroplato6389]

This brought me to tears.

[@cthornton523]

This fellow who broke off from the Neo-Nazis... He reminds me of folks reinventing their lives after 20+ years of alcohol or drug abuse. It takes time to settle into one's new life. Be patient. It's worth it. I promise.

[@nooreenhimmatkhan445]

Very insightful and inspiring. Excellent interview worth listening

[@GrahamCStrouse]

I love Deeyah.

[@snehadonni3767]

Just beautiful 🙏🙏

[@MBPeaceBeWithYou4397]

Wow Simon thank you for making this to happen and share Deeyah’s perspectives. I learned a lot on how to listen more. ProjectMe noted - listen more. Again thank you with respect. MB out!

[@JohanJohnJohnson]

Thank you for this.

[@denise2169]

We need Sinek and Khan to help our politicians!

[@yantinisro9368]

So touched with this amazing conversation makes me cry at the end of podcast 🙏💜

[@susanbertoncini4761]

Wow, this is so insightful and powerful.

[@bronsonstrange3827]

"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."-John C. Maxwell

[@Buildingcorey]

Thank you for this bit.

[@sunshineenase7257]

I loved the conversation , thanks for both of you

Brilliant podcast.....

[@MonaMarMag]

What we need is evolution not revolution . We seem to forget why we are here , ( what for ? ) and our purpose of being here .

[@CherylPaulina]

love this sentiment! Evolution rather than revolution. Very deep.

[@EmmaSol94]

For those new to her, you can watch her documentaries on KZbin via the channel Fuuse! They are all just about an hour and I recommend them greatly.

[@StartupFundingEventGlobal]

Great podcast! Super interesting and courageous woman.. :)

[@4whirledpeas]

Right now, there is an army of internet trolls spreading hate and disinformation. The way we "win" is to create an army of people who spread love and truth online. That takes responding thoughtfully to posts (while still standing in your truth).

[@JGooden762]

Charity never faileth...

[@NalinWijetilleke]

Awesome!

[@francesscajoan3037]

Love you both

[@doyle6000]

I find Deeyah Khan so inspirational. I first listened to her on Sam Harris, then watched 3 of her films. I'm having trouble accessing all of them though. Does anyone know where I can find them??

[@SharkaOfSea]

While listening to this podcast, I was thinking about trying to improve listening and patience. Up until the point when she said: "You're going to learn about yourself." Nope. Nope. Nope. That vault of horrors has to remain closed!

[@spacedreamer9055]

I might not agree with all viewpoints at this time, yet definitely a lot of food for reflection within myself.

[@sky-kg3de]

Thanks 👍

[@nalinmoh4188]

❤️

[@reginamason3352]

Thanks so much. Lots of points to reflect on. But I disagree with Simon that you need love to be able to sacrifice for others. Through being willing to sacrifice parts of your own life, you develop love. Noone has true love. But sacrifice will help us embody love.

[@ebtihalfaisal7045]

Love this

[@calinfilip6646]

Silent, is just outrulezingly correct.

[@elizabethdeluna5874]

Does anyone know where I can watch White Right? I was able to watch her other documentaries on KZbin, but can't find this one anywhere.

[@elizabethdeluna5874]

Also, thank you for everything you do Simon. I'm getting my Ph.D. in conflict resolution and this just motivates me to continue pushing forward to do what is right and bring people together.

[@josephgonzales9649]

This message is key. How do we spread this message to the world?

[@CherylPaulina]

It starts with you ... share the conversations with your circle, have the uncomfortable conversations with loved ones, sit with discomfort, extend patience in difficult times ... practice presence and, keep going. It's a circle, there's really no beginning and no end. It is with each one of us to embody the kind of loving human being we want to see in this world, moment by moment. Show up with intention, being relational, and keeping practicing until there's really no more effort and you just show up with presence, kindness, and love with such ease and grace. Observe and embrace the impact and effect YOU have within and all around you ✨

[@user-bi1iz9wh4n]

Are your talks available through Spotify?

[@WisconsinCountryLiving]

❤💛💚💙💜

[@jeronimotamayolopera4834]

LOVE MILTON FRIEDMAN.

[@BBones-w3y]

They go on and on....will have to ask chatgpt if it knows what the point of it all is

[@BBones-w3y]

Did Deeya, follower of Islam, that has a worse manifesto than Nazi, go to understand the muslims on why they follow the koran?

[@Khorothis]

To call her amazing and educational is to call the sun bright and warm. Time to git gud.

[@harishkumargujudhur2234]

Simon Sinek listens. He is a better listener than Jordan Peterson (I mean, he's got old and was probably better at this when young).

[@deepashriram4308]

Never give upon people..

[@alisabrown9103]

I lost a relationship with a wonderful, intelligent, brave and sweet man because he worships Donald Trump and listens to Tucker Carlson religiously. The hate won. My heart is broken.

[@4whirledpeas]

Liberals know intellectually that "it takes a village" however, conservatives are actually much better at BUILDING villages. We need each other :)

[@jamesspry3294]

Wow! Totally blown away. Thank you Simon and team, for such a beautiful piece of work. You are making the world a better place. Cheers, Jim

[@shadiranjbar9169]

❤️