Why Women Lose Attraction For Men

[@SkillofAttraction]

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[@benjaminnielsen4288]

The part about being decisive when it comes to choosing a restaurant is so damn true. I had this issue with my ex wife where I always asked her and the girls where they wanted to eat, and she would always put it back in my lap and say i dont know or up to you. Of course like an idiot, I would throw it back her way and argument would ensue. I wish I would've known all of this back in those days. Now I know. Next time it will be, "look woman, listen you... this is where we're going to eat. Now go get ready, babe."

[@SkillofAttraction]

Yes, that's exactly how you should handle it. Of course her input is welcome, but you must make the decision.

[@benjaminnielsen4288]

@@SkillofAttraction the thing is, I eax always thinking she wouldn't like my choice of establishment, but really she didn't care. She just wanted me to make a decision. Lessons learned. Thanks for these videos. Btw, another girl that had me blocked for sometime has now unlocked me and reached out, but it's all BS and breadcrumbs like usual. I'm trying to distance myself from her dumb friendzone. Wish me luck. Looking forward to your next video.... How about, how to thoroughly deal with a woman's breadcrumbs especially when she is seeing some other guy. That's my case anyways. Cheers

[@SkillofAttraction]

@@benjaminnielsen4288 You just can't worry what she thinks. Plus, it's always better to make the wrong decision than to not make a decision at all. While not exactly your situation, you may find this video helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/laWtpqSFeb6Ze7s

[@benjaminnielsen4288]

@@SkillofAttraction great video. Thanks!

[@annettesallee2209]

So glad I found you, I finally feel validated as to why I am feeling suffocated and smothered, and like I have an elephant sitting on my chest

[@SkillofAttraction]

Happy to help! I can be very beneficial for a woman (or anyone) to understand why she's drawn to certain men, sometimes when she knows they're not good for her, & why she's not drawn to certain men, sometimes when they ARE good for her. My point being, you probably won't agree with everything I have to say, but you can learn a lot about female attraction.

[@GnosticCushite]

Once I form an opinion about her it's difficult to turn that around. Goes both ways

[@SkillofAttraction]

Very true...& I do say at the end of the video that this goes both ways. However, since my videos are directed towards men, that's who I'm singling out.

[@nolagospeltracts8264]

Thanks a lot Alan Alda!

[@SkillofAttraction]

Alan Alda?

[@nolagospeltracts8264]

It's a joke! He was the quintessential 1970's sensitive male who taught a generation of men to get in touch with their feminine side

[@nolagospeltracts8264]

Must be dating myself.

[@SkillofAttraction]

I teach men to get in touch with their masculine side.

[@nolagospeltracts8264]

Yes, I dig your channel! You are doing some great work. Alda is an example of what NOT to do.

[@TRUTHSORE]

What's wrong with your website?Firefox won't let me access it.

[@SkillofAttraction]

really? I use firefox & I just tried it. Seems to be fine. Perhaps a hiccup in the server when you visited.

[@jaym8451]

Great video! But what do you mean by that a man is the gatekeeper of a relationship an how do you achieve this role of the gatekeeper? Also, can you name some more examples of taking control of the relationship?

[@SkillofAttraction]

Thanks man! What I mean is that men are the final deciders if they want a committed relationship with a woman or not, as long as she wants one too. The same way women are when it comes to sex. Most men these days focus on having a relationship with a woman when they should be focused on their purpose in life. The lady in your life & a relationship with her should come second to your purpose.

[@tiabdia9306]

Grab her by her hair and pull her closer, beam your gaze into her eyes and tell her your ready for desert. Then ask if theres ice cream in the freezer. 🍦 🤷🏻‍♀️simple as that.

[@elmalanmalan2175]

It sounds like is really hard to please women and make them happy. it is a hassle to deal with that.

[@SkillofAttraction]

It's not about pleasing them. It's about pleasing yourself & inviting them along for the ride. Many of the things I discuss in this video are what men subconsciously do in order to please women. I'm only making you aware.

[@SonyCamry]

My gf just broke up with me. Said her feelings changed. i just dont get it. im decent looking educated. she ddint even finish HS. I'm so much better than her. wtf. I wasn't needy i didn't d oanything that u said wtf edit; ok i gave her too much power i think i dont know feel sad.

[@SkillofAttraction]

Yes, if you give her too much power she will lose feelings/attraction. For now, as difficult as it is, you want to implement the 'no contact rule'. I have a playlist dedicated strictly to 'no contact' which should help you understand how it works. Don't ask/beg/plead for another chance. You want to let her come to you.

[@SonyCamry]

@@SkillofAttraction Hey thanks for your response. I'm so confused. I broke the no contact rule and started talking to her. It seems that she actually lost feelings for me because i wasn't spontanious with her and didn't make enough effort with her. The thing is , she posts on social media scandalous pictures etc and this made me not want to make an effort with her. Ugh, i'm so confused now. I do like her, and want a second chance , do you reckon i should ask her?

[@SkillofAttraction]

You have to be careful when women give you reasons for the breakup, because often times it's just their rationalization for losing attraction. In other words, a lot of times women aren't exactly sure why, but this made logical sense. So, if you feel that you honestly weren't putting in effort or not being very spontaneous, then I would tell her something like (in your own words), "You're right. I could have put in more effort. I feel that we have something special & I would like to work this out." If she's not interested or rejects your offer, calmly & politely tell her that she should then contact you if she changes her mind. Then, no contact indefinitely until you hear from her.

[@SonyCamry]

@@SkillofAttraction thanks really appreciate it the advice. I've subscribed

[@SkillofAttraction]

Thanks, man! And good luck!

[@Coneman3]

Isn't a good way to increase attraction to work on inner game, by working on your goals in life. That will give confidence and something to talk about etc.

[@SkillofAttraction]

Absolutely! with strong inner game most of what I teach will come natural. I say in MANY of my videos to work on yourself. However, it's also important to understand why women behave in certain ways & what they find attractive.

[@tinkerz72]

Accurate. He began acting needy. And insecure. I felt smothered. So I left him.

[@SkillofAttraction]

Yes, neediness is pretty much the kiss of death for men.

[@tinkerz72]

I feel really sad because in the beginning, I felt so drawn to him. Now, I broke his heart and I feel terrible for him. But I don’t know if I could ever feel attracted to him again. Sad.

[@SkillofAttraction]

@@tinkerz72 Yes, it is sad. At one time in my life I was that guy & I know exactly how much it stings when I got the axe. I really try to help men avoid these pitfalls & find purpose in their life so they don't feel so needy & overly attached. You did the right thing though. He most likely would have only gotten worse had you let it go & just tried to accept it....& you would have only lost more attraction until you were disgusted. And I hope men see this so they understand that in most cases women really don't want to hurt them, despite what it feels like sometimes. Thanks for sharing.

[@persona7-7-7]

@@tinkerz72 What did he do?

[@FreddyGaming]

Omg Eric thank you so much for this video it's an eye opener...

[@SkillofAttraction]

Sure thing! All this begins to click when you understand what turns on women & what turns them off.

[@volkmann59]

Sorry to complain but is there any way to shorten the long intro on every video?? Great content but dang we hear the same thing for the first 5 minutes!! 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@SkillofAttraction]

It's appx 90 seconds, not 5 minutes. You can skip over it if you'd lie...

[@veronicav1779]

@@SkillofAttraction it's actually 3.39 that's long and how the hell can you skip it if you don't know when it's gonna end??? duh

[@SkillofAttraction]

No it's not. You're talking about the introduction, which is an important part of what I'm teaching you. If you don't like it, feel free to move on. There's nothing worse than people complaining about something I'm providing for free.

[@johngreen9762]

I hate it too

[@johngreen9762]

@@SkillofAttraction providing for free? So you dont get paud for views? U have nothing on the master Corey Waynes

[@ryguy108]

Can you be to playful as a man to your woman? If attraction is at a extreme high and she is completely enamored by you and always acting super cute. Can you be acting too "soft" by reciprocating this behavior?

[@SkillofAttraction]

Of course! You should always be playful with her as much as possible...& there's nothing wrong with reciprocating her behavior as long as you continue to display those masculine qualities...

[@tylermills2181]

good info but man. . . you gotta get your camera in focus. .

[@SkillofAttraction]

Old camera...I have since upgraded.

[@stefanross8129]

.... Again, a very good video Erik. BRAVO Signore!

[@SkillofAttraction]

Thanks man!

[@melcarlo7023]

Be more masculine.

[@SkillofAttraction]

In short, yes, that's really all it takes.

[@tiabdia9306]

Oh my... no no no. I guess im the cookie that breaks the mold... I like to choose the restaurant. Every time.

[@SkillofAttraction]

That's just a common example...it's about men being decisive.

[@bradb1633]

This is great info, very simple and laid out well. Is there a follow up video that's similar to this that talks about all the right things to do?

[@SkillofAttraction]

Thanks, man! There's no specific follow up, but I think you will find a lot of the answers just going through my videos & finding what applies to your personality &/or situation.

[@bradb1633]

@@SkillofAttraction all good, I've watched a ton of your videos and its all good stuff, but this particular one is very straight forward and simple as to what specifics things turn a woman off. Example: Neediness, clingy, following instead of leading, etc. Can you give me a few short examples of the things I SHOULD be doing now that I know what not to do?

[@SkillofAttraction]

Well, I do have videos for some of these things, but it really all depends what areas you need work. However, here are a few videos you may find helpful... Bring out her best: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pIbRf4COe8lpmMk Your drive & ambition: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mWe8hn6AoKp2Y5o Women love mystery: kzbin.info/www/bejne/opi6ZKeVmMyDr68 Act like her lover: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hqqtn4WDjdONhtE Women love to be wanted: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mXLacmCeidJnjdU Make dates fun & exciting: kzbin.info/www/bejne/d4SZeo2aapisbtk

[@larryrubin5150]

Great great advice in a great great way to listen to and apply Thanks sir. Your videos are spot on

[@SkillofAttraction]

Thanks for watching!

[@robertdavis2147]

Good video dude

[@SkillofAttraction]

Thanks man!

[@10314347]

The Doors!!

[@SkillofAttraction]

Haha! Yup! You know it!

[@marcosdelossantos1308]

This generation of men ( including some men of my generation) with 5 year old mentally prefer this stupid fortnite video game rather than spending quality time with their women. Than they’re wondering why the girl dumped their ass. Real mature men don’t play video games. A alpha male ain’t wasting his time on stupidity. They’re getting smarter, richer, in better shape. Do y’all know why there are not tv advertising for cars like ferrari? Because guys that can afford these cars are not in the car playing XBox.

[@SkillofAttraction]

Yes exactly!

[@Toasty667]

Do you watch tv or movies? All you're doing there is staring at a screen. I know many men in successful relationships that play games. Nothing wrong with entertainment.

[@f.ijazminsharif7836]

As a woman I would everyone has the right to unwind whether it's TV, video games, sports or whatever but when being in this mode is a person's whole life, (gaming or whatever not being a paid career) well then that's very very unattractive to me as a woman. The man's purpose should be first in my opinion then his woman and children... If a video game has priority over me then clearly I need to exit.

[@palopalo8359]

I mean while it's wrong to play videogames too much (or doing too much of any other activity, really), being this over the top about yourself 24/7 is a little bit delusional. I mean c'mon man.. You're telling me you are never unwinding?! I know successful men that drives fancy cars, dress in expensive clothes and all that stuff, but nevern learned to be happy. If you like to get better, you are strong and on the good path, but it's not about all this Andrew Tate kinda bullshit

[@distantstorm3808]

This is pure ignorance. Everyone needs escapism in some form or another, but not to the point of addiction. I highly doubt many women will be watching this video, so I have no idea why you would make such a simpish post like this. It wouldn't impress them in the least. If a woman doesn't like a man playing video games at all, then how's this for a novel idea - maybe she should try to be more fun than the video games.

[@ch1bob]

What does taking her for granted mean in the start of a relationship?

[@SkillofAttraction]

Basically I mean being a bit too overly cocky that you've got her.

[@pualo9263]

@@SkillofAttraction yeah, they always have another guy texting them. They treat us like shit. They can go to hell.

[@naveensehdev9973]

very good video Erick!!

[@SkillofAttraction]

Thank you!

[@SirNicholascat]

Do you think it is controlling to ask your Girl not to make out or have sex with her best friend who is a woman because she has expressed that she would be broken if I ever touched anyone who isn't her and I want to feel confident in myself because confidence is sexy but why do I feel this pit in my heart and stomach?

[@SkillofAttraction]

Not at all controlling to not want your girl having sex with anyone else. When you love a woman, it doesn't matter if she's having sex with another man or another woman (depending on the person of course), it's crossing most men's boundaries. However, you can't control what she does. All you can do is tell her that's crossing the line for you; even more so since she wouldn't tolerate if it were the other way around. If she goes through with it anyway, then the relationship is over; cheating is cheating. I once had a girlfriend who tried to impose the same terms. I told her, unless I'm joining her & her friend in bed, it's absolutely unacceptable. She couldn't bear the thought of me with another woman. So, I said, "then there's no deal. And if you go through with it, it's over between us". Those are clear & healthy boundaries...& there's nothing wrong with that.

[@SkillofAttraction]

Her thinking you may feel it's sexy is understandable. And you're right, there's a good chance she wouldn't have been able to look at you the same. While some people don't have a problem with it, many committed couples would have a difficult time after indulging in something like that.

[@miltonpowell9520]

👍👍

[@MechExplained]

Yes.

[@DoriansPortrait]

It feels like I have to be perfect in every way to get a woman.

[@SkillofAttraction]

You don't have to be perfect. Besides, perfect is boring to women. You just have to understand female nature & what women actually find attractive. Society (& often women) will give you the wrong information...

[@nathanb605]

100% true

[@SkillofAttraction]

Yes!

[@isaackid]

If controlling behavior is such a turnoff for women, why the hell do so many women stay on those kinds of relationships? Makes no damn sense.

[@SkillofAttraction]

That depends on what behavior you consider controlling. Women DO love dominant men who lead, but most women find domineering men, who are very controlling, to be very unattractive. But in most cases when women stay with controlling men because of their other masculine qualities...or simply fear of setting him off by leaving.

[@nathannuurah]

Good stuff

[@SkillofAttraction]

Thanks!

[@Ariun97]

Good job

[@SkillofAttraction]

Thanks man!

[@xawi117]

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[@SkillofAttraction]

That's for women to attract men...

[@Coneman3]

Your kind of advice seems to suggest that looks are not that important, but Lms videos say it's mainly about the looks. Which is correct, or is it that both are important?

[@SkillofAttraction]

Well, for women looks are important to some degree, but it's more about your personality & behavior first, physical appearance second. Being good looking will definitely help, & women will tolerate a little more unattractive behavior if you're good looking, but it's your personality & behavior above all else, as long as you have some sort of style & are well groomed.

[@themadmattster9647]

those LMS guys are incels, which is not what this channel is about

[@honestfella836]

girl show attraction behaviour for 2 days i wont respond..and she start stay distant in gym.

[@SkillofAttraction]

Perhaps she thought you weren't interested & she pulled her attention away from you.

[@honestfella836]

@@SkillofAttraction that cool..but nowdays girls give too much short of time cant even realise much.

[@gildastigliano7936]

same script that is read to women by their relationship coaches! ha ha this is sooo interesting.

[@SkillofAttraction]

Hardly a script...just human psychology.

[@gildastigliano7936]

@@SkillofAttraction just meant the women's coaches say the exact same things,that's all

[@SkillofAttraction]

@@gildastigliano7936 Oh, I see. Yes, a lot of this is the same for both men & women. There are some small differences in masculine & feminine roles, but for the most part it's largely the same.

[@mare011]

Each of these points are true to the point that it hurts.

[@SkillofAttraction]

Yes, it stings when you realize that you were doing some of those things all along, especially if you lost a good woman as a result. When I first started learning about female attraction I couldn't believe how many mistakes I had been making...& for years!

[@esq.m7076]

Women go for the rock solid rickshaws

[@SkillofAttraction]

I'm not sure I understand the analogy...

[@esq.m7076]

well are you a woman?

[@SkillofAttraction]

@@esq.m7076 Do I look like a woman?

[@esq.m7076]

Skill of Attraction do you need to look like a woman, then?

[@SkillofAttraction]

@@esq.m7076 Did you watch the video?

[@rockymckay1705]

Feminism definitely didn’t do this, don’t be dumb.

[@SkillofAttraction]

It depends what you're referring to...but feminism & the sexual revolution absolutely did ruin the masculine/feminine dynamic.

[@wildflowersmile3224]

RANT: I hope the sexes can find a better balance. I'm glad coaches like you are promoting other solutions for getting along besides the new-age MGTOW/WGTOW. Fundamentally, I believe we need each other in more ways than the continuation of the species. The whole family dynamic is in danger and the next generation will suffer the most. Humans are naturally community animals and little ones need BOTH a feminine and masculine influence in harmony to grow into balanced individuals. I believe that women did need a revolution because they were being abused, raped, slaved, dumbed and oppressed in so many cultures since the begining of time. We need equality but also to balance, respect and to maintain our differences and dependence on the other sex.

[@SkillofAttraction]

@Sandra Elizabeth - Me pointing the finger at feminism is not me suggesting that women don't deserve equality & to be treated with the same respect any human deserves. But what feminism has become is feminine superiority; pushing men down in order to lift women up. Many men are afraid to embrace their masculinity due to being shamed & ostracized for simply being men. Studies have shown that both men & women are unhappier when it comes to romantic relationships/marriage due to this. It's one of the reasons why women are always saying these days, "What happened to all the real men?" Well, laws & society have suppressed them. Men & women are to complement each other. Both genders have their strengths & weaknesses, & they need each other to build families & a better life. When I talk about perpetuating the species, I simply mean that is why we're attracted to each other, why we become romantically involved & ultimately why we have sex. Of course that doesn't necessarily mean that making babies is the goal, but biologically speaking, it IS the goal. If you're interested in really diving deep into the psychology behind all this, I do have a recommended reading list. Most of the books (not all) are aimed towards men, but many women read them, as they tend to learn a lot about themselves & why they make the decisions the do with men: www.skillofattraction.com/books/

[@wildflowersmile3224]

@@SkillofAttraction You stated it perfectly, and I couldn't agree more! I am for both sides. Men complain about women sometimes and even though I am a woman, I have to agree on much of their point. It really is about equality for both sexes, not about becoming each other. Society is gone too far left if you ask me (ok, getting out my popcorn now for the haters to hate on me for that comment).

[@SkillofAttraction]

I don't like to touch on politics publicly, but I agree with you.