What do asexuals think about sex? | Voices of Ace

[@transformations4684]

I love being able to interact with a person and even give compliments without the assumed sexual subtext. Can't I just find people's humor, intelligence, joie de vivre pleasurable for what it is?

[@dragonsarethebest6453]

My favourite symbol is the dragon. I've liked dragons even before I knew what asexuality was but I think they also fit the community well. They're fantastic creatures and, in my experience, many acespec people like reading, watching movies, generally engaging in fictional worlds, so for me the dragon embodies our love for fantasy worlds. For the same reason I love the memes about us being gods/dragons etc. as a response to people saying we're not human

[@nicholaslandry6367]

I'm on the phoenix side of that (though have big appreciation for the winged scaley flamethrowers) I especially like the concept of there harmonious union especially when looked at as dragon=neutral & phoenix=balance so they're like angels=light & demons=dark but aged up, wiser, they've learned from the other & shifted from war to peace, from hate to love, from opposite to complement... I'ma stop there cuz I've thought about this a lot

[@newsjunkie7135]

My favourite ace meme is "Sex is great, but have you ever ...?"

[@mylife-23]

Had garlic bread 👀

[@CrazyKungfuGirl]

Asexuals: we literally don't give a fuck.

[@christianrolle2548]

Out of all the ace symbols the suit of cards are my favorite; It's literally THE symbol and It feels so cool to have your own suit of cards to represent you. But also cake is the best!!!

[@christianrolle2548]

I'm amazed at the poll results I'm so glad to see the diversity in responses!

[@micahthefish8652]

“A lot more interesting and desirable in theory than it is in practice”. Yep.

[@Evesclawthorne]

I really love dragons and axolotls as ace symbols as well as the colour scheme of the flag and that the community is very diverse and we can all relate about the societal pressure that are put on us that are deemed normal.

[@intheneighbourhood]

Idk where on the scale I am, as I'm chill with sex jokes and convo-ish things, like idc if others engage in it but once it comes down to me, I have no desire or want to have sex, despite wanting a romantic relationship where kissing, cuddling, etc is all chill. But sex itself is completely off the table. I don't want it. I don't date because of this and how the sex convo has went, the concept of never having sex is just a no go for everyone. I'm trying to get used to the idea of being alone. Plus the job I'm seeking can be a strain on relationships.

[@abyssxoxo]

Same I don't want to make someone miserable either

[@mugglescakesniffer3943]

I am pondering this. I like being asexual but I take seroquil, lamictal and clonazerpam. How much of me being able to be Ace is the meds and how much of it is me naturally?

[@Eggsther]

I mean regardless if its natural or not, if labeling yourself as Asexual makes you happy and comfortable in expressing yourself then I think its alright and still valid

[@nicholaslandry6367]

I actually think giving yourself the opportunity to view medicated you & unmedicated you kinda like alternate versions of the same base person might be helpful Both are whole Both are valid Both are real Both are self Both are unique Both are ordinary Both are different Both a similar And you can identify with whatever identities help grant you access to better understanding of yourself, &/or access to language that help you communicate your needs/perspectives/boundaries/& limits to the world around you I hope you're already "good to go," and this was entirely not needed, or that if you're still working through it that it helps without being overwhelming Good luck

[@sabrinusglaucomys]

I know I don't own these terms, but I personally think they're supposed to pertain *specifically* to actually having partnered sex, not things like talking about sex and enjoying erotica or being okay with other people having sex, so most of these responses were frustrating to hear. There's a big difference between *wanting* sex (which is what sex-favorable means) and just being generally supportive of the idea of sex existing in the world. I think compulsory sexuality also skews ace-spec people to identifying more toward sex-favorable/sex-indifferent than actually reflects our realities. (I say this based on my own experience of 14 years of trying to have and enjoy sex even though I never liked it.) I suspect a large portion of those identifying as "sex-indifferent" are actually sex-averse: Sex-indifferent should (imo) refer to people who want to have sex at least some of the time when their partner wants to have sex, and find it an at least mildly positive experience on balance, but wouldn't want to have sex out of their own motivations. Whereas sex-favorable people actively really enjoy the experience and would seek it out for that reason. If sex isn't something you'd ever say "yes" to or if you feel like you're merely tolerating a mildly bad experience for your partner's sake, that falls under sex-averse IMO. But people are reluctant to identify as sex-averse because we know people would see us as prudes, debbie downers, etc.

[@lillestiv3523]

I've been into kink and bdsm for way longer than I've been into sex. For most of my life I was werry repulsed by most of inharenly sexual stuff but mostly penetrative stuff and only recently I've switched and am now quite sex favorable. I don't really care who I fuck as long as I'm comfortable with them, sex simply is really pleasurable and fun and has nothing to do with romance and anything but sexual intimacy to me. I do still prefer kink over sex though, it's simply more fun and intense XD. Really interesting video and I think you covered the spectrum quite well and way better then most I've seen talking about it cuz you included examples of ppls experiences and that simply just doesn't really happen. I quite appreciate it and keep up the good work XD.

[@ekadria-bo4962]

Fun fact is my family is almost Acespec 🤣 Only my father is Allo My Mother is Sex-Neutral 😁

[@abyssxoxo]

I'm a heteroromantic ace 🥰 glad to find my people

[@annaelizabeth765]

This was a really helpful video!

[@CallmeOzymandias]

I feel like it's so circumstantial for me. On a day to day basis? Quite averse. But if I know someone well and care for them I'm alright with the idea.

[@wanderingohm]

Im not sure ive figured out all the language but if im ace.. Its neutral and learnt sex favourable (and repulsed at the same time) its so specific to the situation More important to me is that ive connected with the person. Doesn't mean i want to be intimate in the majority of cases. But occasionally when i know someone i do feel a blip of attraction i dont want or have to then pursue a sexual relationship but in some situations i can depending on them and the situation. I don't know... Im still figuring me out

[@YawnyCatBird]

I’m a gray ace, married (heterosexually), and halfway between indifferent and favourable. Yes, I found Amelia’s comment really wonderful as well.

[@sixtenwidlund4258]

I would say I am in a superposition between repulsed, averse, indifferent and favorably

[@abbysworld05]

Im AroAce, for Asexuality I’m sex repulsed, sex doesn’t cross my mind which is why I didn’t realize I was Asexual because I don’t think about it, if anything, I wonder what the heck that kind of attraction means,like I know what it means but I don’t get it,another asexual video I watched about questions about thinking about that stuff,most even allosexuals don’t really think about it unless they have a partner or a crush, for me I never think about that stuff, from what I found is that when people think about it,they are talking about thinking about the actual activity, like doing it with someone or in general,which blows my mind cuz I don’t get it, I thought it meant just thinking about what it is and what sexual attraction is but I guess that doesn’t make since cuz it’s not about that stuff but just asking questions out of not feeling that way so your just confused

[@karenKristal]

This is a very intelligent explaination.

[@Never_again_against_anyone]

I do not want to have it. I do not want to witness it. Other people having it are okay. Films showing it and people only talking about it (including related topics) make me extremely bored. At the same time I can wholeheartedly laugh about good related jokes. So by definition I am definitely sex-averse.

[@bipedalcynodont962]

The person at 8:22 sounds like they might be aegosexual, BUT I don't want to jump to conclusions, I'm just throwing that out there.

[@mylife-23]

I'm averse. Idc that ppl do it, n I may entertain the thought but to actually do it 🤢 no

[@josefagomezschmeisser8356]

Me too, I’m not judgmental about what allos do, is just that I’m extremely uncomfortable by seeing it and I just the thought of doing it with someone is like gross for me , English isn’t my first language so I don’t know if i described it well, but I just dislike it, even when I had a boyfriend and I liked to get close to him, the just thought of having sex was repulsive to me 🤢

[@puan1211]

Samesies, as long as it’s between other concenting adults I could not care less. As long as it’s not me, it’s all good

[@patrickphippspa584]

Schizoid comes to mind.

[@dullknifefactory]

That's me lol