Real Talk! Weepy and Resilient :-) Mental Health Updates

[@Whole180withAliyah]

Steve, thank you for speaking so openly & sharing your experiences, the struggles & the triumphs. My mental health is at an all-time low & listening to you helps me re-center & remind myself of how much I've overcome, giving me strength to keep going until I'm able to work myself back up again. My thoughts & prayers are with you & Marc. You two are such a gift to us all & I'm so glad you're here on KZbin, sharing your lives. 🤗💖🙏

[@greencove]

Thank you for sharing your struggles. You are not alone. ❤

[@mr.mcphoebe5622]

Steve, you are not whining, you are sharing with people who care and can relate to many of your feelings and anxieties. You and Marc have weathered much together, and have persevered through, still trying to be optimistic and positive. Life certainly doesn’t always make that an option. Thank you for talking with us and both of you Take Care.💕🙏🏻

[@craftbyjay]

Yay happy to hear marc is back at work

[@lovemyferals]

Hey Steve, I'm always pulling for you and Marc, for good things to come to you both because of how awesome the two of you are. For two people to be as kind and caring as you are after all youve been through in your lives is a rare thing. Many people use their hardships as an excuse to be not so nice to others. You are both very resilient, life is about being resilient, getting up when you are knocked about both physically and mentally, emotionally. It's about doing the right things when it's hard and when that gets too hard sometimes, it's about leaning on friends and loved ones and letting them take some of the weight off your shoulders for a while. That's what good people do for each other. If you didn't ask for help now and then, life would be impossible. And I'm sure you don't need to hear all this, you know it so I'll stop. One Uber safety tip: without identifying yourself, when the car pulls up to you, ask the driver for the name of the person they are picking up. If they are the Uber driver, they will be able to tell you. If they are trouble, they will drive away. I remember when you got the SUV, looking forward to seeing your next car! Take care!

[@SarahH-ui5vv]

I absolutely love the real talk videos! I watch the VM old ones too! Thanks!!!

[@goldenretrievermom7945]

I don't think you ever diminish what Marc is saying, you are very respectful in listening to him and the two of you treat each other so well (at least on camera, don't be gettin into mischief offscreen!).

[@edgarpoe264]

Hey Steve, I’m impressed with you. I appreciate that you are willing to share your real self with us! It takes courage to do that. I’m sure that you sharing will impact & may cause someone to be willing to seek assistance. So thank you, my friend! Ciao, hey to Marc.☮️🙏🏻

[@honeyfungus4774]

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[@middleofnowhere1313]

Me too man, i am bad with stress. I flip shit. Complex trauma just blows. Not getting into the weeds but it's been a mess. Just glad you guys are alive and well.

[@goldenretrievermom7945]

You know what also is it's GOOD to cry! All of those bipolar feelings need somewhere to go and shit if it's crying before you go to work then go ahead and cry it out! I cry too at least every 2 weeks if not more often, I'm bipolar as well. We can't just take meds and expect that to completely eliminate the emotions although that would be really freaking nice. We are so hard on ourselves when they leak out. But it's OK and NORMAL to cry! Non-BP folks cry too. And it's ok. You are no less of a man or a person for doing it. Once you get it all out, then you can really get perspective and normalize the situation for yourself, but if you're still in the throes of the emotions then let yourself be there for awhile as you need. If you have a day off especially on that day. It's totally normal for BP friends to just need to stew it in it for awhile. It's OK if you can't get perspective for a couple of hours. You don't have to snap back immediately, and I don't think anyone expects you to or SHOULD expect you to! Sometimes we just need to be in it. And that's actually healthy for BP recovery from what I have learned. Or bipolar knowledge of ourselves, we can in those moments build our own self-soothing skills and integrate some of the CBT / DBT things we have learned. Gotta rip the bandaid off to heal kind of thing.

[@thunderbirdroad4004]

Hang in there, Steve. I remember a time when it seemed like I cried every day before work. :( Unrequested advice: Try to avoid debt in buying your replacement car. A bit of savings helps reassure ME that I can feel a little more resilient; that it buys me a little time to figure out the best way to go. 😀

[@okallie]

For whatever reason, the metaphor of heavy versus light days/seasons is really helpful, especially around work for me. My mental health and just life and general can make work feel so heavy. Whenever I feel like that I try to remember what I do when things are literally heavy - take more break. Small wins are still wins. Remember that either things get lighter or I get stronger, so it’s not forever. Idk if that helps at all, but sometimes just telling myself that I am in a heavy season helps me be kinder to myself. ❤ You are doing an awesome job!

[@goldenretrievermom7945]

The morning cig is the hardest one to quit. The very hardest. But if you can stave it off and just keep telling yourself you can have one after lunch, and you successfully do that once, then just never go back. And say "I USED to have one in the morning and now I don't until lunchtime". And hold yourself to it. Then you get good at that, and used to it. And then you can stave off the lunchtime one, "I can have one after dinner", and hold yourself to that, and successfully do that once, and never go back. And now you're only having one at dinner. And then it's "I can have one at bedtime". And hold yourself to that. Rinse and repeat until you can tell yourself "I'll have one on Friday" and on Friday decide, you know what, I've gone without all week and I don't need it. It never helps you feel any better anyway. That's how I did it. Took a few years and I had to do the gum too but eventually I had to face the facts that I was paying good money to kill myself, and that was stupid, and that I didn't believe myself to be an idiot so why would I keep doing something so stupid? The $$ you save is HUGE as well. HUGE. You don't notice how much you spend on it until you don't spend money on it anymore. Between you and Marc that's like another paycheck probably.

[@DonLaPierre-ho8ng]

Cats tell ALL

[@oldbroad797]

Hi Steve and Marc! Wow, things seem to happen all at once, and sometimes we wait for the hammer to drop lol Deep breath, and just do the best you can. I know, I know, easy for me to say, so just hang in there kid. Thank goodness for you and Marc.

[@AWitchAndACat]

I am in a similar place. A lot going on and just trying to stay grounded and keep it together. I appreciate you sharing your experience. We will move on together going through our individual journeys, but I am grateful there are people walking the same journey beside. Hope this makes sense and hope you have a wonderful weekend.❤

[@SmokeySteveAndMarc]

Thank you for the kind words! ❤️

[@sarbear5129]

Hey Steve, glad you are both okay! Your transparency and honesty makes me feel less alone in my bipolar disorder 💓 the mornings are tough and it feels very “high school” at 34 some days. You got it exactly right.

[@christines.1546]

I think there must have been something in the air this week cause it was a super hard one for me as well. I always laugh because I feel like I talk to Marc more but I feel like you and I have a lot in common as well because this week I have also been trying my best to be resilient. Big hugs your way and know that you can get through this((one day at a time & chin up and all of that))

[@DonLaPierre-ho8ng]

I think you need to step back stop passing judgment and just look to where you are most needed and grab a shovel your a good kid Steve !

[@DonLaPierre-ho8ng]

I have been after foodie as well for eating nothing but Triglycerides 7/11 crap Sorry if I came across nasty . I love you and Marc ♥️. I Really Do !!

[@SmokeySteveAndMarc]

@DonLaPierre-ho8ng lol you are just fine! 😀

[@DonLaPierre-ho8ng]

Shop for another Lucerne a lot cheaper now just buy a well kept one. I am a car guy and it’s an excellent choice that 3.8 v6 will not die

[@SmokeySteveAndMarc]

@DonLaPierre-ho8ng Thanks for the info! In snowy weather, that thing was a tank. It also chewed through motor mounts, beyond "normal" wear and tear. I miss it 🙂

[@DonLaPierre-ho8ng]

You’re not foodie. Now imagine going out and catching a peek in the mirror before hand. She doesn’t cry She laughs off all the Haters

[@ErnieCG]

You look a bit down,talking to Marc,your parents and you tube too to let your feelings out,it’s been stressful for you both when Marc hard his accident so that might be why you are thinking how you are feeling at the moment.

[@DonLaPierre-ho8ng]

What’s wrong w/. How you look 🤔

[@DonLaPierre-ho8ng]

Steve go back and reassess You’re always talking about your job and how many days off you get and all the time in between the accumulated time and it’s so much more to live on now when you’ve been there for 10 years stop stop