social media negativity, mum guilt + moving to the USA? | getting deep q&a

[@sashapallari]

I’m in total awe of your growth and vulnerability to talk about things the way you have in this video

[@fortifiedcity3655]

I totally agree

[@Lozza95]

I agree

[@rachelbennett5755]

Agreed! Infact I have gone away from this video looking at thing slightly differently and wanting more…. Podcast needs to come

[@beckytheo031]

You have grown up so much since becoming a Mum. I feel like I've watched you grow and I feel like a really proud friend xxxx

[@kym.etherington]

elle i can hand on heart say your growth internally is so visible to me,you've grown into such a inspirational woman,despite your hardships and everything that happened to you,you've come out the other side as a completely different person,in every way possible! i'm so beyond proud of you and an honour to still be a part of this journey,ive been with you for years & here is to many more✨🫶🏻🤍

[@erikabose7927]

Everything you talk about in terms of your inner child, and healing, and mothering is SO important. Thank you for using your platform to talk about such crucial topics

[@kirsten9687]

Sometimes we need to just step away from social media, it’s so addictive but you have to put yourself first ❤

[@hayleyreed8428]

This is not only my favourite q&a this Is my favourite video of yours I felt so lost from you but continued to watch and I feel closer to you than ever I relate to you on so many things the advice you’ve gave you don’t realise how much I needed to hear and how much clarity you’ve given me. I would Love a podcast! X

[@jaynerolph2179]

“Who’s timelines?” That rang true to my heart!! Motherhood has taught me to just go your own pace and I’m still learning to not compare and expect everything at set times etc. well said Elle!! Love this video ❤

[@torimarie330]

Your authenticity is shining! You are such an inspiration, beautiful woman. Energy does not lie and your growth is undeniable 💗

[@immogenroe]

I cried the whole way through this video. You can see that you’ve experienced so much in your short lifetime so far. I can resonate with feeling so alone as a young adult and those times never leave you as a person however you can see how far you have come and how strong you really are. These authentic videos are what it’s all about. The points you raised in this video not a lot of people would be able to speak about let alone publish on a public platform. You’re rocking it, just keep going x

[@jane6261]

As someone with OCD (reoccurring unwanted intrusive thoughts, that will then lead the sufferer to perform compulsions to bring down their anxiety) it is HUGE that someone is talking so publicly about experiencing them. I also experience catastrophic thinking and find it really hard, it means a lot for someone to share this online. Thank you Elle x

[@annabelle3866]

This is what happens to me. Since I was so young. Those compulsions make me late for interviews, my work, just getting out the door sometimes. Touching something “the right way”. Or until it “feels right”. It really does take over your life & this open discussion about it is SO important. I’m so glad influences are using their platform for good💖💖

[@jane6261]

@@annabelle3866 Bless you! They’re so so hard to deal with. Learning about OCD (lots of which I did on Instagram) and reading about it in books really helped with coping with it and stopping compulsions (“overcoming unwanted intrusive thoughts” is a good book). I couldn’t agree more that it’s vital for people with a platform normalising it - you’ll find kids/teens being much more open and honest about them now knowing that people they look up to have them too! Hope you’re okay 💕

[@kirstyj9293]

I also lost my mom when I was 24 from cancer and last yr I lost my sister who was my best friend just like how yours are to you, I gave birth to my baby girl on the same day that my sister passed away 💔 and when you said having your own child is healing I really felt that as my girl is my strength she's me little hero, she's actually just 3 weeks younger than Saint ❤️ loved hearing everything you had to day in this video x

[@leahjones2657]

El this video hit different 👌🏻🥲.. even tho there are differences in all our life situations.. this video is so relatable .. u went in deep and honest and I feel like u hit my nail on it’s head .. Thanku el u truly are one of my earth angels I get a lot of my signs and acceptances from you and u will never even know it 🦋

[@wr1ghtxo]

Elle I'm so proud of your personal growth, thank you for being so real and vulnerable in this video. Love to you and your amazing little family, I'm with the rest of the comments I think you'd do wonderfully having a podcast of your own x

[@milliebingham7765]

I am so happy you came back to social media. Lost my dad when I was younger and I appreciate you being so open about the loss of your mum. You should definitely do a podcast or even write a book! love u elle xxxx

[@Sophia-rb8ii]

I’m 24 weeks pregnant and 24 years old. I lost my mum to a Glioblastoma 3 years ago and trying to navigate this new chapter without her. I relate so much to what you were saying Elle. Thank you for giving me hope that parenthood can have aspects of healing my inner child and trauma, it’s a small gift to receive after such a monumental loss.

[@hannah1052]

I just lost my dad due to cancer 3 weeks ago & I’m not close to my mom. I really appreciated the conversation about losing a parent❤

[@denisewebb5073]

I'm very impressed by your maturity, wisdom, and depth of this conversation. Your insight and perspective are exceptional.

[@clairesteenson1892]

I think your so brave to share your experience with intrusive thoughts etc. thank you for not letting us feel alone in this ❤

[@mrshan49]

I would love to see a podcast! You are so relatable, and have been through so much that we can relate to. (Podcast vibes, girly, deep conversations. Basically speaking how we all actually feel!) x

[@shshshaunie]

I can really relate to the intrusive thoughts and catastrophizing - to this day when my fiancé is walking home in the dark from work I convince myself he is going to get murdered and be found dead in a ditch. It really takes over your life. The fact you’re talking about it really means a lot to us who also suffer with it x

[@harkus123]

My heart really does break for you not having your Mum here to guide you through motherhood but you are doing incredible and such an inspiration to all other mums in your position 💗💗

[@molllyhepburn]

I lost my mum 3 years ago, when I was 17. I’m still struggling a lot, and I think I always will, but thank you so much for sharing some of your feelings. I appreciate it so much. It makes me feel so much less alone 💗

[@trinity4052]

Truly Thankyou for this Elle it’s so warming and comforting to feel like your not alone in certain situations listening to you open up is comforting a podcast Is definitely needed your voice is just so soothing 🫶🏽🙌🏽

[@elliehuckvale7589]

Really really need the podcast ! You as a person just calms me and I feel lots of people would benefit from you !

[@kourtneypotter4420]

I’m in awe of how inspiring and raw you are. You bring out so much light and motivate us all to enjoy this journey of life. I’d love you to do a podcast! All things spirituality, growth, mindset x

[@katies4089]

just started this video, 10 seconds in, this PINK LOOK IS FOR YOUU!!!!!!!

[@amyturnill6359]

Awe hun, my mum passed away on my 21st birthday and I didn’t have my first until I was 30… I now have 2 beautiful babies and I adore them but I crave my mum every single day of the week. Her advice, her support, everything. Thinking of you. Sending you hugs xxx

[@natashaferran420]

Ive been watching you 4/5 years when you and connor still rented. My dad died when I was a few months from my 10th birthday (28 now) its like theres a missing part of the jigsaw thats been thrown away never to be found again. The day you posted the memory video of your mum that is when I first knew she had passed, it was around 10/11am I ran into my ex who was sleeping to tell him. I couldnt stop crying for you. Sending so much love elle and your mum will be so proud of you xo

[@AC-iw5mv]

So sorry for your loss. May you be reunited in Jannah ❤

[@natashaferran420]

@@AC-iw5mv in jannah?

[@jane6261]

@@natashaferran420 this means “in paradise garden” the happy place for eternity.

[@jemmahixon]

Hi Elle, you’re very brave to open up so much it shows huge strength. I have openly battled with mental health disorders since I was 6. I became housebound with agoraphobia at 18 for 8 years and as a singer continued performing on KZbin. It was so hard to be dealing with such huge things at a young age and having trolls and negative comments about everything from my looks, my body, my voice, which while we’re smaller in ratio to lovely supportive comments really affected me. While I’m still dealing with severe anxiety, panic attacks, depression and agoraphobia, over the last few years I’ve started leaving my home and I’m able to cope more with any negative comments. Intrusive and catastrophic thoughts are a part of my daily life but I find it hard to speak out about it. Past trauma is so hard to deal with so I applaud you for speaking about this. I really connected with you when you said you’ve got a lot that has happened in your life that you’ve never shared and perhaps you will one day, just as I may too. I have also opened myself up to spirituality and it really can be life changing. You’re growing so much and it’s so lovely to see. Sending you love 💖

[@katiekalinski1824]

The fact that the growth from this is so genuine makes me love you more ❤️ keep going Elle 🌸❤️

[@lindajosephine4544]

Love having your videos back, they always make my day. 💝

[@kelseypower999]

Thank you for this, I’m currently half way through! I suffer with intrusive thoughts & have never reached out! I’m now going to seek some therapy, it all resolves around myself & my daughter(myself because she needs me as she’s SEN no one else will fight for her like I do) all traumatic thoughts it’s not very nice! I appreciate you speaking about this and helping others 💕

[@ellieleightwood4886]

Hearing you talk about you losing your mum and becoming a mum honestly has really helped me. I lost my mum a year ago and am currently pregnant with my first baby. So thank you Elle for sharing and being so open and honest 🫶🏼💗

[@maria.s4472]

Yes please a podcast would be amazing, I'd love to hear you have more deep conversations 💗

[@chloeneal3359]

A meditation through labour! Podcast yes yes yes I love listening to you and your sit down chats really relaxes me and puts me at ease ❤❤

[@suzannegrachek926]

Great video Elle. Thank you so much. I hope you know how much you touch people in what you share and talk about here. We are all here to love, be loved, be kind, listen, share and learn from each other. Wishing you everything that is good and light today.

[@kayleighdavies6891]

I’m not sure your aware how much you help individuals, your a beautiful person inside and out. The More I watch you the more I see your the most real lady on KZbin. We love you ❤❤❤❤

[@ffionhanford2158]

Your strength to come back after all that’s happened, and deliver this video the way you have, your amazing Ell🤍

[@caitlinburton975]

Hi Elle I’d LOVE a podcast from you regarding your journey/healing! You speak with so much wisdom! Please make it happen! 🥹💖

[@mollybaker6116]

Morning my lovely. I just wanted to message to say thank you SO MUCH for touching on your inner child & growing up needing a adult which wasn’t always present when you needed in emotional & physical ways. & since becoming a mum making sure you are that person for saint. Honestly it touched my heart in so many ways as I’ve had similar upbringing in regards of my parents dealing with their own shit & sometimes me being lonely & my biggest fear is having my two boys experience the same from my past trauma. No matter how you end up sharing that chapter of your life I want you to know you’ll have endless support as I’m sure many more aswell as me can relate & I just want to thank you for feeling like the best friend & the warm cuppa t we all need. Always here girlie. Endless thank yous, the feelings that re surface when you become a mum can be so triggering 💓💓💓

[@bonniepink9534]

Loved this video, an at 24 minutes in you said something so relatable to me and it’s is so true! When I had my first son, it totally changed my mindset, the way I felt, thought, treated people, spoke to people… when you become a mum you become the Upgrade of yourself I feel. You become more compassionate, considerate, kind etc… purely because (well for me, maybe others) having a child gives you a new lease of life an purpose, something clicks and you think to yours in every situation would I want my son/daughter to be spoken to like this or treated like this etc… it’s a feeling that’s unexplainable but totally relatable

[@Lydt95]

I’m so glad you’ve spoken about intrusive thoughts ect. I’ve just had my third baby and the intrusive thoughts are horrendous. No body talks about it after baby and it’s such a strong and real feeling! Xx

[@freyah7292]

I Definitley needed this video this week! Thank you Elle, keep being your lovely self xxx

[@carolinestow7165]

If you do a podcast which would be AMAZING!! I'd love to hear more about your life (in depth) how you stay fit and healthy. Love You Elle, this video really touched me and I loved it xxx

[@leahmulls2034]

You should definitely do a pod cast and most definitely name it “ watch this space” love you always Elle! ❤

[@abigailpriceharrison6396]

Always happy to see you upload, especially when it’s a cosy chatty video ❤️

[@kellyfrancis3656]

Thanks for sharing all of your beautiful memories with us. You are such a kind soul with so much love to give others and I know we don't know each other but I feel that I have known you for years and you are part of my life. One of the things I took from your video was, no matter how hard life can be, you can get through it you are not alone in this big scary world and there is people out there who will listen to your problems and not judge. I'm a lot older than you but have always looked up to you. I want to wish you all the happiness and love in the world and your beautiful family. Thanks for being Vulnerable and showing us that's it's ok to be like that 🙏🙏💗

[@JamilaNoor-dk5lj]

Thanks for watching☝️Get-in-touch , Let's discuss on Financial Planning.

[@sarahobrien4403]

I lost my mum to cancer ending with a brain tumour when I was 5 months pregnant, I feel exactly what u say, it’s so strange because my mum had horses and I never got into it, now my daughters are insanely horse mad has a pony and my whole life revolves around her riding which is so strange not having my mum here to enjoy it because she would be buzzing, but weirdly it feels like she made that happen xx

[@meganmarriott6512]

You’re amazing Elle. I relate to everything u said In this video. Lots of love and keep strong. Your mum is walking right next to you in every thing you do in life❤️💋

[@pippa21lotte]

What an amazing video. I would listen to your podcast anyday 💗

[@megchiplen610]

Elle, this is a great video. I LOVE your vlogs but this was my favourite. I love how positive you are and the advise you give🤍

[@gembets]

I’m so happy your back honestly 🥺 I missed you so much as soon as I saw you made your comeback a few months ago I was beyond happy ❤ love you so much Elle

[@Thequeenkatz]

So amazing to see how far you’ve come and I’m so happy to see it❤️

[@stillolivia2230]

Your actually amazing. Could listen and watch you ALLLL day. P.s more vlogs days in the life please xxxx

[@jessicacapald5629]

It’s nice to see you being comfortable with your growth now Elle, it shows in this video! Intrusive thoughts since having my little boy are at a ultimate HIGH, I’m in a phase where I’m questioning my own health but I’m working on it & thankyou for sharing I’m not alone xxx

[@nicoladwyer4262]

Thank you so much for this video and being so vulnerable. Everything you’ve said is so eye opening and truly inspirational. Sending you a big hug❤

[@beccaburton6808]

Yes to a podcast 🙌 all about self development and growth, spirituality and law of attraction ❤️

[@christineclune]

I adore the honesty and can’t relate more to your thoughts on losing a parent. My Bub is 1 month older than Saint and I love that I feel we are on this parenthood journey together xx

[@oliviaowen6074]

Loved this video so much.. your growth and strength is so inspiring. I would love nothing more than to listen to your podcast. Sending so much love xxx x

[@JenMcMillan]

Intrusive thoughts is something that I really struggle with and started during lockdown, I’ve only told around 2 people and don’t speak about it at all as I just don’t know how to. this is the first time I’ve heard anyone speak about it online and as much as it’s an awful thing it’s comforting to hear that I’m not alone🤍

[@alisonwatkins445]

Mother hood is so difficult but also so rewarding! Mum guilt is always around but I try to remember to keep a healthy balance. I started following you when you found out you was pregnant as we was pregnant at the same time now my little boy is 14 months. I’ve loved it arching your journey as I relate so much and just absolutely love your content and life 🤍 x

[@rachealmanning1813]

Elle Darby podcast is needed!!! Talking about growth and happiness manifestation motherhood positive vibes 😍💖

[@loafollower9590]

I would love a positivity, spiritual, LoA weekly talk from you girl ❤ Also share what you want it’s your channel, people who don’t care for motherhood parts they can watch or skip.

[@flowerasmr4983]

Wow I could listen to you talk for hours! So relaxing because it’s so relatable! ❤ please bring out a podcast! Keep going girl xxxxx

[@jessicaveighey754]

Needed this video today💗 lots of love from Ireland xx

[@jessobrien304]

This was so powerful to listen to and I would LOVE to listen to a podcast! I love them to listen to in the car or on dog walks. I like to laugh at some but also love the deep chats too! Will be listening whatever you decide to do! X

[@shannonstlawrence5760]

Woah, I never knew I needed to hear that until now, thank you❤

[@Crystalnancyolivia]

Needed this thank you for your honesty 💖

[@eb7076]

LOVED this video❤️ You are so wise and articulate your feelings about hard hitting topics really well. I would love for you to start a podcast or maybe write a book?

[@Ginger127]

I feel this kind of content, where you’re just talking about topics, is so much more ‘you’ and I feel like it’s a lot more genuine than some of your other content so I really think a podcast would be great from and for you!

[@JamilaNoor-dk5lj]

Thanks for watching☝️s end a text , Let's discuss on Financial Stability.

[@jenlfc9720]

God bless you girl your mum would be so proud ❤

[@dannihill2550]

Your doing amazing I’m a full time store manager and my daughter is a year and a half as soon as I get up I get to have half hour for breakfast time with her then get to do dinner and bath time when I get back and I definitely have mum guilt on my days off I make up for not being there all the time and buy her loads of stuff toys , clothes anything I can I will buy her I need to get out of mum guilt because I know I’m letting her have a better life working and having the money to do everything she wants so I fully understand the struggle your an inspiration Elle thanks xxxx

[@rosiewillis3300]

Thank you so much for filming this video, you're helping so many people ❤xx

[@daisywiles813]

Thank you for answering my question on the pressures on social media. I will take ur advice on board. Love you and your videos!!!!💓✨🎊

[@leahjones2657]

16:53- 17:16 😇 real talk hitting different!! ( genuine life reality check )

[@coral8486]

I know it’s pointless as everyone likes to wear their wedding bands however they wish, however I was recently informed the actual wedding band is meant to be worn on the bottom and the engagement ring on top (on the finger first wedding band then engagement ring) xx

[@paulanelligan6643]

Such a beautifully raw video, An OG follower but I’ve connected with you on so many new levels. ❤❤

[@isobelpriestnall4631]

A real inspiration 🤍✨ Such a comforting video 💕

[@SuzySaidlerDan]

This was a very good video Elle. Thanks for sharing ❤️

[@Shurkett1710]

Thank you for you honesty, an insight of your personal growth and for all the advice given throughout this video. It's been really insightful and lovely to listen to 💜 a podcast would be great for future reference 💜

[@kieraquinlan5182]

Love these videos! So good how open you are, helps me through so much 💗

[@Bexxywhit]

I loved this video, so much!! Pleeaaassseee do a podcast! Lots of deep conversations like in this video with subjects like self love, self acceptance, law of attraction, your journey etc. xxxxxx

[@staceybee123]

Throughly enjoyed this video Elle, thank you. I needed this x

[@lilybaxter-smith2251]

Your growth Elle ❤ such a lovely girl

[@tinahurdman12358]

I would love love love you to do a podcast!! Would love to hear more about your growth journey, your healing, your spirituality. I think you give such good and well thought out advice and it’s really interesting and helpful! ❤️

[@ashleigharlette8958]

This is pure help to me I’m going through my first pregnancy and it’s been so tough there are some days that I feel excited but I feel most days I’m so down like we had our baby scan when we first found out and I thought I’d feel happy and emtional but I didn’t feel anything and I don’t know why as I’ve always wanted to be a mom so some days are better than others right now but this has really helped xxx

[@alexwegner4221]

I hope you make a podcast because I adore the positivity you bring to my day x

[@leilalouisa896]

Yayyy I’ve waited for an updated q and a 😊😊

[@sarahbaverstock3834]

Have only watch half the vlog so far. 6.35am just about to get up and get sorted for a morning of football with my boys. I really get what you are saying about being the adult your child needs. I felt the same growing up. So I’m super aware of being their for my boys and always having their back. They are now 12 and 10 and we have the relationship I never had with my mum. They can talk about anything to me with no shame or worry of being judged. It’s a great feeling. Xx

[@JamilaNoor-dk5lj]

Thanks for watching☝️s end a text , Let's discuss on Financial Stability.

[@jadereadsx]

This video was exactly what I needed today, thank you 💗

[@jessyellen3136]

You inspire me so incredibly much ❤

[@nicolaveighey4248]

What a lovely video, you help so many young girls Elle 💓xx

[@jordanmason5692]

Thank you for sharing Elle, also STUNNING! x

[@mindiesaint9519]

I struggle with OCD most people think it’s cleaning etc and I hate it when people say I’m so ocd! I’m currently doing CBT therapy for mine I check count and have constant intrusive thoughts similar to yours not letting my family get in the car without me thank you for talking and explaining it’s a really hard thing to live with xxx

[@user-zf2xc6xy1o]

Love love love a podcast

[@zoedcruz]

You are honestly so beautiful inside and out your growth and self worth is what I aspire to have ❤❤

[@abbiepiercy4668]

Podcast would be amazing! Things like how to heal your inner child, self love, spirituality, meditation etc. All the things you’ve spoke about in this video but in more detail x

[@deannayoung5311]

You Elle's 💓 Make my day so much brighter You help me Keeping positive 🙏 and you give out such Lovely advice as well ... Your such an amazing person, I have been seriously ill.. Yet Watching your videos has Given me tremendous joy I Appreciate 🌟 you And love you... my sweetheart 💕

[@MaisieandHollyTv]

I loved this video so much!

[@nickyratcliffe3812]

No one should lose there parent so young 🥲 your one special lady elle never forget that xxx