SOLO DATE VLOG - how to date yourself, my self love journey, boost confidence & solo date ideas

HI GUYS! So excited to share this video with you all as you'll get an in-depth look into how I solo date! Throughout the video I'll be answering your most asked questions on self love and solo dating. Topics like how to stop caring what others think, feeling awkward doing things alone, building the confidence to solo date, mindset shifts, and a storytime on my self-love journey will be discussed. I hope you love it! Comment you favourite part of the vid :)
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[@rageena_b]

I love taking myself out on solo dates! I’ve been to 2 concerts by myself and it was the best experience ever!!

[@tamkaur]

Love!!

[@Meliexoxo_]

I am going to start doing this thank you ❤

[@Alliappalachian]

Love that! I've been too uncomfortable to do that but I definitely need to something like this ❤

[@akirarza3689]

I‘ve travelled alone, went to concerts, went to movies, going for meals, looove bookshops, gym or going out to dance alone. WHY NOT? 🎉❤

[@valerieEswenson]

Same! I try to never use the excuse that I am single to not go to concerts and comedy shows. The few people I have in my life are either married with kids and I’d be the third wheel or can’t get out w/out kids. Or the friend isn’t into what I like or don’t want to splurge and that’s fine. So I just go by myself.

[@driiaaa]

"you're the one who's always been there for you your entire life. You're the person you can trust most on this planet." ...... it's crazy how much that reminder is needed

[@tamkaur]

🥹🧡

[@driiaaa]

@@tamkaur so proud of you for vlogging publicly also! thats such a big deal - so glad i found your channel, ty for gifting us w your presence & insight 🫶🏾🤍

[@nurinbatrisya8412]

6:48 “the key to loving yourself is loving yourself when you dont have the achievements” this makes me sob i love you so much🥺🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

[@bca-2257]

The no phone rule is sooooooooo good! I thought I was pretty good at solo dating until I started watching you. I realised all this time I'd been dating my anxieties and my phone. I could go out solo, but I spent the day usually avoiding X cafe because I was too scared of getting stared at and didn't know how to order / the waiters looked rude etc or avoiding X clothing store because I didn't look rich enough to go there.... etc. AND I was alllllllllways on my phone, spending time chasing other people on messages, social media. Thank you so much for the tips! You're helping me enormously

[@tamkaur]

Good luck I hope u love it!!

[@rainbowcat9700]

I'm out in different city for study alone and without friends. Now I think solo dating can really help to boost my energy! Thank you!

[@tamkaur]

You got this!

[@moraaomae6716]

I completely agree. I go for concerts, shopping sprees, museums, parties and restaurants solo & it’s so fun tbh. Most times I’ll find someone I know and say hi and keep it moving lol I am planning to do a solo trip soon so yeah let’s see how that goes 😊

[@calistaj2284]

I highly admire that she had the confidence to go out places by herself. Even though I'm currently 15 I know that it's something I'll have to get used to later on in life when I move away from my parents to a different state and live on my own. But when I turn 16 I'm definitely inspired to get used to going out places by myself because as introverts who prefer spending time alone we deserve to enjoy life at it's fullest when we're not always with someone. I also liked how she said that you should just embrace your emotions of feeling uncomfortable because that's the only way you'll get better at it and at the end of the day you'll be proud of yourself for doing what you wanted to do despite the way you felt.

[@tamkaur]

You got this!! ✨

[@bonjyotsna_gogoi_]

Same, I also want to go solo. Solo lunch or dinner will be the best idea. Or going to a mall, or playing games

[@megjanice6171]

I have anxiety really bad. The gym is the main thing that helps me but I was too scared to join because I didn’t want anyone else watching me workout. After watching your videos you gave me the confidence to sign up for a membership. Yesterday I was the only girl in the gym with a bunch of men. The old me would’ve left immediately, but I ignored them and did my workout. Accepting the uncomfortable instead of avoiding it is seriously the best advice and now I go to the gym regularly regardless of who’s there/who’s watching.

[@ashlynnleray5640]

Solo dates should be normalised…it never bothered me until people made me feel awkward about it😅.

[@nami5889]

NOBODY CARES trust me guys, nobody think about you or judge you, if you think they are judging you it’s because you do it to your self. People look because they have eyes, they don’t look intentionally at you and if they do it most of the time it’s because they found you pretty or you are wearing something they like

[@tamkaur]

Yes !!

[@liscatcat8756]

That's so true,

[@Maya-so5yk]

This!!!!

[@jordynmessinger2741]

I could not be watching this at a more divine time. I just lost my job, went through a breakup and have also been in back to back relationships so this year is definitely dedicated to self love and solo dating and choosing ME. I can’t wait, I’m honestly excited. Thank you for this!

[@tamkaur]

Ahhh so sorry to hear you went through that! but LOVE your commitment to levelling up your life 😍 you got this! ✨

[@fizahaque]

Wow same here! You’re not alone sis. We got this 😊❤

[@liscatcat8756]

I went on a solo date to a 18th century manor house and gardens ,it such a lovely day I spoke to the guides learnt loads of history, looked round at my own pace then sat in the gardens enjoying an oat latte and vegan flapjack in the sunshine . I'm going to an opera by myself too ☺

[@liscatcat8756]

I took myself on the best date , I went for coffee read my book, sat in a restaurant got myself lunch , looked around the thift shops went to a hippy style shop and bought myself a beautiful rainbow moonstone ring and ended the day with getting myself snacks and going to the cinema ... I have a partner 😂

[@macvictok6322]

I felt bad yesterday because I was so stressed out and decided to go on a solo date today. So I got myself some pretty flowers and a little candle and went back home to order some sushi and watch gossip girl. It helped me so so much, I’m definitely gonna do this more often ❤️

[@BTSALWAYS075]

When she was saying "read it, read it, reading currently, read it.. " it felt like a bestie talking to us, that gurl who always does the right things and imma read the same books😭❤️

[@Aja-Christian]

Getting ready to take myself out on a solo date to a drag brunch in about an hour. Bought the ticket 2 months ago knowing I'd be going by myself. I'm super excited 🤩 I enjoy solo dating because trying to date these days and I get tired of waiting for guys to be good company. I live in a big city and there's things I wanna do/see. I'm not going to sit around and refuse to have fun because I have no one to hang with. Solo dating and enjoying my solitude has healed my soul, I love it ❤

[@nadjahorvat-marcovic1370]

Drag brunch sounds amazing !

[@isabellazegarra7554]

I love your confidence it’s so contagious, gonna try to solo date this month IN A RESTAURANT

[@jeanneo3317]

Thank you for giving me the extra push to GO OUT THERE AND ENJOY MY SOLO DATE ❤

[@tamkaur]

Have fun! ❤️❤️❤️

[@jeanneo3317]

@@tamkaur thank you!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@Pixelninja974]

I currently discovered your channel and I can’t stop watching your videos. It helped me so much to discover myself, grow and boost my self confidence. You are amazing and helped me so much going through a break up! 💗💗

[@Ypsilion]

Most of the things suggested as solo dates are things I already do, and I never thought of looking at them as dates with myself. Such a nice way to look at it, and I will be doing so from now on! Such a lovely idea!

[@liscatcat8756]

I know what you mean lol I have a partner but he rarely likes going places, I don't have any friends so instead of feeling sad about it I just embrace it and really treat myself . I had a lovely solo date the other day I took myself for coffee, read my book , ordered lunch at a restaurant looked around the thrift shops , bought myself a lovely rainbow moonstone ring from this hippy shop I'd been meaning to visit for ages, had a nice chat with the girl serving and ended the day with getting some snacks and going to the cinema. Such a wonderful day In the summer I often take myself on picnics or to musuem... maybe it's harder for people who are used to having friends around . I don't think anything of it 😂

[@user-ub4zt2eg7b]

I'm here after 5 year long relationship breakup. I really don't know how to chase places, make memories by myself and when I'm not working I just feel so alone and I miss the excitement of going on dates. That's why I just decided to see how people deal with this. Thank you so much girly❤ I'm taking my notes haha😌

[@anumkhan9763]

Love this. First concert i went to alone was The Weeknd and was sooooo much better. When you go with friends, they just hold you back from sneaking to the front row 😝

[@jamie1879]

I had keyed in solo date ideas and this came up....I'm turning 30 next month....a guy I was dating at the beginning of Dec 2023 broke up with me....& I thought to myself, why not finally date myself....I'm so ready for it...I'm so excited....oh my🤗🤗🤗 thank you for all the advise ...you are gorgeous

[@nupursasmal8326]

IMMACULATE! I am 19 and I struggle a lot with self love and acceptance. I'm in a bad place rn but your videos help me sooo muchhh. I love the way you carry yourself and how you've built yourself up. You are an inspiration!! So much love and power to you Tam!!!

[@hungry_girl211]

Same

[@isabellazegarra7554]

Girl YOU ARE THE PERSON I ENVISION MYSELF BEING!! 😭

[@ofcouuurse8237]

Hi, luvvv. I have just experienced heartbreak and your videos have immensely helped me. I just woke up having the courage to leave a situationship that doesn't give me what I deserve. I stopped taking care of a field that doesn't feed me. Right now, I have been loving myself even more. Each morning, I would watch your videos to remind myself that I am worthy, and that I am that bitch. I have been enjoying my time alone. I have been doing myself a favor and I have started dating myself. It was hard at first. I have even asked a friend to be with me each time I'd go somewhere, but lately, I realized I should be doing things "Alone" alone. Thanks, luv. God bless you.

[@methusharavi5136]

Thank you do much for making these videos. It's helping me so much. I love how you don't judge yourself for feeling anxious on solo dates. " I'm willing to do through this discomfort to get closer to myself " such a powerful statement.

[@Gratitude501]

My inner child is so happy watching you. Tam you are so amazing ❤

[@arpot2619]

i love your content and the way you edit i really like your voice and the words you use :) thank u i listened while doing my makeup ur awesome

[@khatijakay4107]

For so long I kept thinking “this girl has a Leicester vibe to her” - and then she says she lived there before… so mature at such a young age, I wish I had your wisdom back then, only learning now

[@dovielandie3893]

just found your page yesterday and its fun watching someone that also matches my vibe!! keep it up!

[@tamkaur]

Awesome! Thank you!

[@ms.rushnugent6477]

Just came across your page and I’m so drown to your content…you are truly amazing, I know this channel will be my safe place to come when I need inspiration a, motivation and a little spark in my confidence ❤️❤️

[@israellagumede2397]

Everything she says speaks to me. Love self love. Especially as a Sagittarius being super independent, I like doing things myself

[@annamarasca8130]

I saw this video some minutes ago. And I wanna say thank you so much for making this video. You give to me so much inspiration and confident to do much more solo date in my city. I'm from Italy and I think that here it is weird to do solo date because no one do it. But I think it is important to do solo date because can bring you to love yourself even more. So I just want to say thank you for making this video. You have helped me so much and also inspire me. So thank you. And have a nice day. :)

[@negsanati7593]

this was my favourite video !! pls do more xx

[@wizzardiishlex]

i love how wise you are 🤍

[@j.mxthv9597]

7 HUSBANDS OF EVELYN HUGO IS ACTULLY A RLY GOOD BOOK OMG ONE OF MY FAVS u should definitely get ittt it's rly good

[@parassingh6083]

Just found your channel and I’ve literally binged everything. Perfect timing honestly. Cheers, from one Punjabi girl tryna hustle to another ♥️

[@shivanibais1399]

I cant thank enough for this video, such a great push for me to start solo dating. I have always wanted to do this, but i was bit hesitant to go out alone. I am gonna try this tomorrow 😊

[@Ramanhere468]

Love this! ❤🎉 Celebrate yourself every day.

[@accountname7982]

I literally had goosebumps after watching your video. Loved it. Thank you 🙏❤

[@tamkaur]

Omg thank you!!! 💛

[@srilankantamizhan5832]

I love this video. I get so inspired by you because I love solo dates very much. This is what I think it''s best for me. I love hanging out by myself with my favourite places for dining, nature walks, and etc. I would love to do some more including taking myself on the solo dates to the beaches. I love solo dates because I don't like friendship at high school that much. I love solo dates a lot. Because solo dates can help me improve on being my own competition and loving myself by doing what's best for myself. Thank you very much and I will try my best in doing my own solo dates just like you.

[@AnanyaLikhi-qp5ej]

So inspiring:)I am onto my self love journey from now onwards. Good bye toxic relationships:P

[@sunshine22222]

I'm obsessed with your videos ❤

[@fabianbaptiste1566]

Watching this on valentines day while doing my makeup and getting ready to go on a solo date😳❤

[@swathi.blastmohan]

Now, I feel like I have a new perspective on life! Thanks for this upload

[@flowers6167]

I've moved to a new country and I have no friends and omg this was what I needed !!! All your vdos feel like a big hug to me and they're so so helpful!!! I was so scared to go ice skating all by myself, but I think I will now after seeing this vdo !!

[@shakoorah1]

Loved the concept of this video❤ I’ve also often solo dated. Similarly since a teenager. I’d not often thought about it much; just felt doing it was important for me as I didn’t have much friends and often my siblings or friends I do have didn’t always have the time when I did. Great for you to film such a video xx❤

[@tamkaur]

Thanks for sharing!!❤️

[@Lalalandia11]

You’re such an inspiration ❤

[@arunimaaa]

Watched this video on my first solo date today. Sipping on my coffee and listening to you ❤ Love you Tam. Literally my mood improved so much.

[@hammad9915]

Seriously love your content. Thanks for this.

[@annh90]

Well done girl so inspiring I'm loving your vids they are so empowering and so helpful 💜❤ I love going on solo dates too 🥰😀

[@TNT_1398]

I didn't realize I was taking myself to solo dates since highschool. Whenever I need to study or write a report for school, I'd go to a cafe if I'm mentally blocked from being in the same environment for so long. I was so focus on my business I didn't realize people were staring at me. I also do many stuff alone which I never thought was an issue, again I didn't realize people stare at me. I think the hardest to do will be having dinner by yourself as it is a gathering occasion, but breakfast and lunch is easy because students and corporates do it all the time esp on a busy schedule.

[@chrassr]

It's now been 2 months since you recorded this video, but I wanted to let you know about "The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo". I've read this book in June 2022 and up to know it is my favourite book. I am a reader-although lately I hadn't had time for it- and I've read many book mostly fiction butI promise you that this book is worth it. It's fiction but while reading it the way the author wrote this novel, it makes it seem like you are having a casual conversation with someone but at the same time like you are part of the story. Essentially, it is an amazingly written book and is very captivating!

[@yv2372]

so proud of you for vlogging in public❤

[@alleyajepson1465]

I feel like these kinds of videos are super good for people who are single but also people in relationships. You should still do these things for your self no matter what 🫶🏻 I love your insight it is extremely motivating!!

[@PolinaKul]

You're amazing, thank you for the inspiration💖

[@tamkaur]

Thank you so much!

[@streetsubw2518]

You're such an inspiration!!! I love you so much!!!❤️❤️❤️

[@tamkaur]

Thank you so much!!

[@A.L.E.O.M.I]

11:23 is giving, you are an icon!

[@pragya2788]

This is very inspiring. You are my role model.

[@LuhRen]

Watching this made me realize I've been taking myself out on solo dates my whole 20's lol I'm always wanting to try new things and go new places and I don't like waiting around for people lol😅 😅 due to life being life I stopped dating myself. Love the idea of watching a movie by myself in my room. Love the idea of taking a hike with a podcast. Thanks for the reminder!

[@ananyagaur2412]

I'm so in love with her videos,,,i really owe you a lot for my self development Thank you so much ❤❤

[@miasalehie6686]

Love your channel and everything your about! Love you 🤍

[@tamkaur]

Love 😚❤️

[@arubz05]

Amazing video! Thank you a lot for this) You have inspired me so much and so I decided to go solo dating tomorrow😍❤

[@thebutterflyjourney33]

What an inspirational video! Just come across your channel ❤❤

[@tamkaur]

Thank you so much!

[@fatimazohrazahid7981]

I have been doing solo dates since my teen. .. I'm glad I found u ..ur the kind of friend I always wanted in my life u really inspire me .u I hav dealt with similar stuff tht u do in ur daily life

[@NataliaCopeland]

Love that idea!!!

[@kalpanak1024]

Loved the video didi😊 i admire you so much 🙏❤

[@a.personofficial]

I prepare myself to start solodating when spring starts because it’s freezing and i also tend to deal with the leftover bit of social anxiety, so the hurdle is still too HUGE But the video helps a lot ❤️

[@anushkatiwari3708]

Love this vid!

[@tamkaur]

❤️❤️❤️

[@kimberleylauren9411]

Omg I live in the same city as you I just realised 🤣 you make the place seem far more exciting, thank you for your videos 🧡

[@k.6160]

I think I'm going to do this tomorrow or next weekend!

[@raman_kaler]

Love the video! You definitely have to read The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugos! It’s such a good book!

[@tamkaur]

I’ll add it to my list!

[@night7168]

Im in love with this girl omg 🥺❤️

[@tamkaur]

🥺✨

[@bhumiiiiie]

ME binge watching your videoss 🤍

[@tamkaur]

Glad you like them 🥺💖

[@celinalinley1131]

i love solo dating. i took myself to a dance club last december which was awkward at first since i was standing in line solo for an hour but i just wanted to dance.

[@journeywithjasmine_]

This was Soo good and I love your outfit,, it's giving confident rich girl. Such great tips. Love your vibe.

[@tamkaur]

Thank you so much!!

[@apollosol_]

Omg I had no idea the Waterstones in Derby is so fancy! I live nearby and am definitely gonna check this out. Thank you! Ps you’re like my ideal friend. We love a supportive, confident, independent and self assured queen 🎉

[@tamkaur]

🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@israellagumede2397]

This girl loves books. Beauty and brains 👑

[@CKatze-tx9wf]

Seriously, I want to have someone like you as a best friend so bad.

[@luciaramirez2693]

I'm going on a solo date next thursday, i wanna go to the mall and enjoy a coffee and watch the titanic movie because it comes out that day and i'm so excited, i'm about to binge watch your videos hahah

[@tamkaur]

Omg love!! Hope u have the best time 🙌🏽

[@Meliexoxo_]

I believe solo dating is great I’m going to. Start ❤

[@tamkaur]

Best of luck! X

[@shockedpikachuface7376]

This video of yours has inspired me to book a ticket to the cinema *alone* !! I know I'l be in the dark so no one will see me, but it is still a massive step to being alone publicly that I have always been too scared to take, just wanted to say thanks and I'll update to see how it goes :)

[@ayybibi]

awe how did it go :) i hope you’ve gone on many more

[@shockedpikachuface7376]

@@ayybibi I'll be honest and say that I hated that solo date😂 but afterwards I went on so many more and loved each one of them!! I also solo travelled recently, enjoyed my own company and met sooo many people. Two months certainly makes a difference in mindset because I definitely feel much happier and present in the moment, it was all worth it!

[@MonikaDaddarwal]

I gave you a round of applause lol loveeeeee

[@emmacheng3788]

Hi Tam! This video is so helpful in giving me ideas of what I can do for a solo date. I also love the chunky silver bracelet you're wearing (The David Yurman-esque one on your left arm at timestamp 15:25), where is it from? Thanks!

[@israellagumede2397]

That breakfast looks so good 😍

[@SergelinePetitpapa]

Starting here wish me luck 👌🏾🙏🏾

[@user-vk8mi3kn3g]

tam the 7 husbands of evelyn is literally sooo good

[@polinaemelyanova7733]

Wow! Such a young girl and already so much wisdom 💔

[@aditipatel2675]

i love yaaaaaaa💝

[@methusharavi5136]

I've read the 7 husbands of Evelyn Hugo, I think u'd love the book it has themes of glam, self love, mystery, being the queen of an empire.

[@sairathealchemist]

I need the furry coat details!!

[@tamkaur]

PLT! ❤️

[@namhladlisana1532]

I love your content all the way from South Africa

[@tamkaur]

Thank you 😊

[@bihararathnayake4056]

Thanks girl 🦪

[@caitlinhyem7342]

Love this video! I went for a solo bookshop date last week and it was so fun! Quick question, which self-help books would you recommend the most? Think I'm due some new ones 😊

[@tamkaur]

Thank you! Check my Amazon link in the description. I have a whole folder in there of my self help book recs xx

[@a.personofficial]

@@tamkaur the link doesn’t work for me. Maybe because I’m not from uk and amazon is often buggy

[@booksswiya2403]

I recently finished reading Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo. Its amazing. Simply wow. You can try that definitely ❤❤ btw yhanks for your videos. You really inspire me .

[@k.6160]

I always overdress and I don't care. It makes me good! I literally wore a tiara on New Years Eve!! Everyone else looked like a slob!!😂😂😂

[@bhawanakalsi]

Love yaa 💓

[@tamkaur]

❤️

[@milktea3825]

I’m 18 and I’ve genuinely never been like out solo. But now I have access to money and stuff and free time cuz schools over. I’ll be moving to college and it’s on the other side of my country and I’m scared because I’ve heard ppl there are more aggressive and also just, more outgoing. So tomorrow I’m going to a cafe and clothes store near my house as the first step

[@letsbecomebetterversion]

How can someone be sooo beautiful even without makeup 🥹