Someone in a position of authority is talking about me - what should I do?

[@canbenchecocat9729]

I agree that being talked about is very upsetting but keep a few things in mind. First, she might be coming from a place of concern and friendship. She's probably worried about you and upset at seeing YOU upset about the situation. You only have a third person's opinion about what she's saying, you don't know for sure. Talk to your friend honestly, tell her what you've heard, and ask her to refrain from talking about you to others. If she keeps it up, I would "demote" her from position of friend and confidant to position of acquaintance. Talk to her about the weather, good books you may have read, and other banal subjects, and don't open your heart to her. Second, I wouldn't report her. You only really have gossip right now. Remember that the only defense against slander is telling the truth. For all you know she could only be saying that you're concerned about dementia and she wishes she could help. Nothing wrong with saying that. Until you talk with her, you really don't know what's going on. Third, I understand that you want peace in your life, but I think you should spend a fair amount of your day around people instead of alone. One idea would be to find a place to volunteer and spend a couple of hours there every day or every other day. Don't tell people about your dementia concerns, so they won't bother you with that. There are animal rescues that always need people to socialize or walk pets. Schools always need volunteers to help teachers, maybe decorating the classrooms or reading to younger children. Libraries often use volunteers to help in reshelving books. A quick google search will show you any places near you that would appreciate help. I think that would keep you busy and give you a few hours' respite from obsessing about your possible future dementia. Sending positive thoughts your way.

[@chuckles1357]

While I can't tell you what to do, if it were me I would move on and let her go with love. You need peace and serenity in your life! She is a toxic person and should just be out of your life, i think. If you do have dementia (you seem very clear and lucid to me), it is in very early stages (so it seems). What is your daughter's opinion? You're getting evaluated anyway you said. Go ahead and go through with that and see what a professional says.

[@dawnturner7010]

Thank you! I was pondering this right after posting and the a quote from Star Trek (of all things!) came to mind. "The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few." My daughter agrees that I'm a little more forgetful but not a danger to myself or anyone else. ❤

[@chuckles1357]

@@dawnturner7010 i am more forgetful as well, and my daughter says the same to me! We can still live alone no problems, in my opinion. I am going to stay in my house because here in the states traveling as you do is not safe. btw, don't forget our Dear Spock's wonderful greeting, "Live Long and Prosper!"

[@dawnturner7010]

A fellow Trekkie! Thank you so much. ❤

[@timmy6355]

Love you Granny

[@dawnturner7010]

​@@timmy6355I don't know which of grandchildren you are, timmy63551, but I know I love you too. ❤

[@patriciaapetrone]

Dimentia is something that will not improve with time. I don't blame people for wanting to get help for you. Denial is not the answer. You must suspect something is wrong since you're making these videos. Talk with someone you trust. Dimentia is not a "character" thing. it can be a physical thing that can be slowed or treated. Don't let others get you help when it's too late. See someone soon.

[@dawnturner7010]

I am seeing a specialist tomorrow.