🕊Someone's close to going no contact with you. Can you accept uncomfortable truths about self?

[@anniray1221]

I can take it, doesn't mean I'll accept it - discernment is key.

[@noslraclwehttam]

I don’t think this is about me. There’s nobody left to go no contact. There’s no one here.

[@noslraclwehttam]

Forgiveness is for you. It’s not for anyone else. It’s not permission to abuse.

[@angelinadivina24]

Thanks Wendy. At first I was listening thinking it was a message for me, but I have been turning over all the stones of truth in my life and looking under them to see what I can heal for anyone I’ve encountered harmfully. As an empath lightworker, I don’t shield myself from uncomfortable truths. I face them head on and heal them so I can continue in high vibration and unconditional love. I am currently detaching again from my DM and not watching his stories as I used to, truly focusing on myself. So it may be that dynamic you are picking up on. I am not engaging or giving him any effort/attention, not out of spite but because I deserve love and compassion from him and will settle for nothing less if he comes to me. He has to want to heal. This is his journey. But I love him unconditionally and I can never cut him out of my life, nor do I want to, because I know he’s wounded, healing, and he is my counterpart. We share a soul. ❤ Thank you.

[@rbethgeiger]

🥰❤❤❤ much love to you and your journey❣

[@marniebuchanan2710]

I still relate it to my 2 older sons ( and maybe dad.. who died 2 years ago) …. I’ve apologized so many times to my son’s in 10 years and I just can’t MAKE my boy’s, especially the oldest… I didn’t mean to emotionally cause them pain… at THIS POINT… HE’S hurting ME by acting like I never I DROPPED EVERYTHING FOR THEM ANYTIME THEY HAVE NEEDED ME. I’m the FIRST to criticize MYSELF and save OTHERS instead. At some point…I MATTER TOO! I love my family and hell…. Everyone , unconditionally, and will always be here, but again…. It’s NEVER been about Me-emotionally (even as a child) . I had to learn to love myself and I do…. Yet, I still cry over my 13,23 and 26 yr old(I’m close to the 13 yr old- he was a baby) EVERY DAY. I FIGHT the pain and I’ve FELT THROUGH it and CAN’T FIX IT. SO… ITS A HORRIBLE FEELING KNOWING I MAY NEVER GET THAT CHANCE. I LOVE MY MOM… YET, SHE HURT ME🤷🏻‍♀️🌹. If they think I’M untrustworthy…. Where were THEY WHEN I thought I was going to die with DAD. Friends, family, bf (only cared about SX to “help” me… lol…Nope… I did it all alone. YES, I’M telling MY story AGAIN… but trust me, I’m aware of being wrong(still am) and I’ve learned. I also learned that I matter too. My job is to grow(I have) and HELP others (I DO and ALWAYS WILL) . I don’t know how to help my pain ( therapists don’t help and OBVIOUSLY CAN’T understand…. They’d consider me crazy) Bless you and best wishes ! Light and love

[@healingheart333]

Thanks for the reading. It can become difficult to understand that none of us are responsible for the way other people feel. On the flipside, if it feels like someone is not communicating like they used to, it's never too late to reach out and ask questions. If they don't want to communicate concerns, then it can't be forced. Operating from a place of love is key. In the end, the only person responsible for the way we feel is ourselves. There is a fine line between being over-empathic and over-narcissistic. I totally agree with understanding, but the only person that can harm ourselves is us. It's not an easy realization to come to. Much love

[@Pandak8-gj1rc]

Going backwards is never a good idea. The trust is lost. The pain isn’t forgotten. You can forgive but going backwards is never gonna do any good. Especially if the betrayal is bad. It can take a lifetime to heal.

[@kikib859]

I agree! I forgive myself for the things I put up with in the past. Moving forward now!

[@cmlittle206]

They made their beds. Now lay in it. I'm done with the manipulations and games. I forgave them and it's over. Now move on with your lives. Not doin their pitty party.

[@stevecook5842]

This is interesting... 🤔 Now, someone wants to clear the air? I'm not too proud to admit my faults and I have apologized openly to anyone who I may have hurt. This all started with me trying to build more authentic relationships. I wasn't shown love or acceptance... or even decency. I'm not being judgemental or defensive. I'm being honest.

[@thehealingdoula8]

I can relate to this. I was shown decency but not love or acceptance. I’ve come to understand I was given as much as my mom could give and I’ve been able to mend our relationship through forgiveness

[@annestein6431]

I went within and.bent over backwards to heal things but they kept harming ME. I had to save myself. They stole from, me, betrayed, cheated, etc. continue their smear campaign and don't care about me. So I cannot care about the malignant narcissist. I went no contact a long time ago after caring to much in a non-reciprocal situation.

[@kikib859]

I have already chose to move on without them. Whatever emotions they have to work through is up to them to deal with their community.

[@judyfitch5279]

This one was hard to listen to because it brought up an uncomfortable dynamic in my life. I'm not afraid to admit my mistakes or to look deeply at myself. I'm familiar with my shadow aspects. I'll apologize and hear other sides. But as an empath, and truth teller with a strong sense of justice, I am often the one not only willing to speak up but called to do so. This creates storms that aren't mine, and situations where I'm projected upon and on the recieving end of smear campaigns and hostility. I've lost many people to this process. From an outside perspective, it takes on all sorts of storylines. I think many of us are change makers who didn't ask to be. It can cause heartbreaking loss and isolation. This is confused with trauma-response. Those who've experienced trauma are not always repeating old patterns. Sometimes they are the first to recognize it in situations and brave enough to call it out. The secondary trauma comes from the volatile reaction, the shaming, the piling on of the truth teller. We have to be willing as a society to look at our own dysfunction and parts in it if we want to stop cycles of harm. We need to stop disregarding the wisdom of trauma survivors. They are not just flailing around unhealed and causing problems. Some of them are trying to show us the way.

[@judyfitch5279]

this wasn't meant to be a rant. just my stream of conscious response after listening.

[@anniray1221]

@@judyfitch5279 This 🙌

[@daliahoward561]

Yes, we all have reasons to assign blame to those who have hurt us. I find that the true healing happens when you can recognize everyone's role in creating the negative outcome.

[@marciebradley6713]

Spot on reading. The hurt is deep.

[@noslraclwehttam]

I tell the truth. Wendy, I accept that I’m not a safe person to someone that tells lies. If you tell a lie in front of me, I’m highly likely to call you out on it. If that makes me dangerous, so be it.

[@colletteavery1589]

It makes us dangerous because we know their lies we see them for who they are. That makes them vulnerable and weak which makes them want to attack us is what I see

[@noslraclwehttam]

I take full responsibility for my behavior and action. I take no responsibility for yours.

[@noslraclwehttam]

They were being used to punish me. That’s not a good place to be for a kid. They’re supposed to just sit there and watch me get abused. No way. I set an example for them. I am demonstrating a set of skills that they are absolutely going to need. It’s good to see. It’s good for them to see. I am carving a path for them. I did not abandon them.

[@Sherry-rq1jx]

I think we can own it but doesn't mean we want to continue relationship.

[@Amanda-kr8gf]

Standing in my power now taking my health back

[@lorrainemckeegan3435]

Your intuitive skills are magnificent and compassionate 🙏

[@_Balanced_]

Ive been in medical crisis for months. And a family member jumped into the situation. My spirit guides are working through me right now to purge anger and interpritation loops. A lot of karma is being perged atm. Im picking up the mantle for my family even if i cant carry it that far. There are so many karmic problems in this family. Im trying to remove past life karma. Mother wound. Father wound. Medical problems. Boundry issues. Abuse. On and on. This situation is down bad. Christ is trying to get in the middle of this but this is just sad. This is just sad. This whole situation is sad.

[@justasomeone7860]

This seems like a roles reversed kind of reading for me - seems like it could be made for someone I know who I still care about but need to minimise contact with because of the degree of avoidance of recognising their damaging behaviours - in relation to me and others. There's only so much I can do when the walls are so stubborn.

[@Madabout1Man]

Hi Wendy. thanks for your reading. I usually find some of your readings that resonate with me right away. This one sounds so different from the others that hit my heart. So I'm realizing that not every reading is going to resonate soles for me but that there are so many other energies in the channel that some may not be completely mine. I take note and then try to implement your suggestions into my life. The one thing that i found that hit home for me was that my so-called "Soul Connection/ Twin Flame" has been a figment of my imagination. I to create a make believe world that I squeezed into reality to convince myself that there was someone out there that the universe said was meant to be with me when in fact that could've applied to thousands of other people who love your readings. I did "disconnect" lol from the imagined True Love who I thought I could communicate with telepathically. I was wrong. Just a loner who reached a point in life where I wasn't happy with the way my life turned out so I decided to "Take and Imaginary Leap of Faith" casting all caution and sense to the wind just to grasp at an invisible world that includes a person who actually loved me. I have had this feeling for some time but I pushed it away out of shame because I felt like...a fool. At my age I can't afford to this luxury of imagining alternate universe that Ilike better than the real one. I didn't take your advice to 'take what resonates and leave what does not." Yet you were so accurate about my past, especially my childhood and my relationships with family members. I took that seriously and confirmed your reading with other readers who actually repeated your words. I wanted to understand how I became this person who I have a hard time liking. SO any flattery or positive statements would get my stamp of approval while others didn't. This one does not seem to be my energy. It's almost the opposite. I beat myself up my entire life trying to please others and making a fool out of myself in the process when I became the laughing stock or scape goat. Your words sounded fair for someone who does not truly care about other people's experiences and feelings about life. I erased myself from my family when I realized that there wasn't a level playing field and there were favorites and then the less than child. Also, I could easily recall many instances when II would reach out to siblings (I don't have friends, by choice. I'm exactly like Jen from Soul Source Tarot). I invested a great amount of quality time reaching out to and then offering support, especially emotional support as well as practical suggestions they could try to implement regarding a particular life situation at work or with a friend who they had vented about. I actually do offer sound and well informed advice because my sisters would actually put my words into action in their lives and they would see great improvements and receive acknowledgement from their work places and staff. I later realized that i had spent over an hour TALKING AND LISTENING INTENTLY to siblings who were never there for me or who would rush me off the phone the moment they suspected I was reaching out to them for support. I was FLUMMOXED that my older sisters, with multiple degrees, couldn't offer me any kind of support other than the boiler plate generalities I can find n YT influencer's websites. Now that I realized how depleted I always felt, I stopped calling and only texted my siblings in our GROUP SIBLING TEXT THREAD." I took my time wordsmithing my texts so as not to offend any of them because past experience resulted in a barrage of hurt feeling and reprimands and other derogatory remarks based on the way I phrased a sentence or the words I chose. It took me back to childhood memories of being the family black sheep and scape goat and how I was always gas lit by everyone all at one time. When I began my spiritual journey toward my higher self and alignment with the universe, I did my own research about AWAKENING and GROUNDING and the Dark Nights of the Soul" and shared my findings along with what I was hoping would be helpful to my life. I would actually send them links to YT talks, podcasts, academic speeches, interviews and more, with a little caveat that it was merely a suggestion that I found enlightening and thought they would too. I didn't expect the BACKLASH I got from all 3 siblings exclamation point. They had started a new text thread for the three of them where they could discuss the problem sibling, Yours Truly. Then the serious ghosting started. All 3 of them ghosted me, as if by an unspoken pact about "how we should proceed going forward with Problem Sibling." It really hurt me at first until I started learning about gaslighting and projection and childhood trauma. I blamed myself and even altered my true self to fit in to their standards and still got no interest. I became a A FAMILY NUISANCE TO BE TOLERATED DURING HOLIDAYS ETC. That's when I grabbed the oxygen mask and put it on myself. The oxygen helped me open my eyes to the reality of the situation. I was hurting myself by resorting to being the scape goat black sheep of the family exclamation point. So that's when I decided to put my own well being into my own hands and toss out any fantasies of having a Brady Bunch-Waltons-Eight is Enough" family. Maybe that was too harsh? Choosing to rescue ME was viewed as a selfish act that hurt others. LOL. There was talk about my mental health as well as sharing information /untruths with external family. So that they solidified a false narrative about me. They'd add veracity to their created narrative about my life by creating scenarios that would fit their story line. I was experiencing a similar situation with people at my job. I began to close up and alienate myself form situation that made me feel terrible about who I was ( in the eyes of the world). It was painful. I began to believe I was a useless pile of flesh with nothing to offer the world. I entered therapy and increased the mind altering medical remedies for depression and anxiety and panic attacks, all brought on my my internalization of other people's own feelings about themselves, their own shortcomings, their own feelings of inadequacy. I did more research and learned more about mindfulness, being in the NOW, AWAKEFULNESS, MINIMALISM, STOICISM and more. Then I came upon the theory of Light Workers, Healers, and how energy connects us. the ONE Movement was an eye opener. I then got onto the tarot reading track to learn more about our universal ENERGY and the battle between light and darkness. There it is. My own narrative. Thanks for indulging my rant. Have a great weekend. I hope the person whos energy you read and channeled will also self reflect an see if they are looking at the Bigger Picture. Take care of Your Selves collective.

[@shannons8752]

This reading was very helpful. Thank you Wendy!

[@wingspiritualclarity1233]

You are so welcome

[@noslraclwehttam]

I lost everything. I lost every relationship. I lost it all. You can’t take it with you.

[@marniebuchanan2710]

lol… that’s why he NEVER responded or responds to apologies (even ones I’m not sure of, but willing to accept- ) for YEARS. . And rarely responds to ALL MY… I’M SO PROUD (ALWAYS HAVE BEEN) of you and I LOVE YOU(s) 3 swords are in my heart ( hmm maybe that’s why I have 3 roses tattooed on my chest(heart) ~One for each son . I hated tattoos and needles, but for some reason… I did it 4-5 years ago I swear I feel this “trigger” is another test Not fussing at WENDY…. SHE’S READING CARDS and I can FEEL it’s not easy to deliver.❤

[@SherieParlier-f7h]

This person did so much gas lighting in cheating and hurting me so so bad that after the breakup I hurt them back. But I then acknowledged the pain that I hurt this person! I do realize this is wrong. This person hurt me over and over and over and over! I do take accountability for hurting this person

[@Twindragon-tu1wd]

Yes. Responsibility for my reactions . Confirmation. Thanks 👍.❤

[@wingspiritualclarity1233]

You’re welcome 😊

[@stonedoliveees]

You Hurt Me Poetry "You planted thorns in my chest with hands i once trusted. And now every breath feels like an apology i shouldn't owe" 🙏🕊️🌹 Some of us were initially blooming Roses that found ourselves in a dry desert....to Love everything and eveyone into being took its toll. I forgive myself.

[@jeanniegreen8685]

I hope they never have contact 😅 I've done too much healing 😊 I Finally chose ME❤

[@jillconyers2710]

This reading is for me ,just have not been able to face the truth,that I have played apart .

[@joyfulinternecion]

I was in hermit mode and trying to cut out all codependency but perhaps I cut too far because they have been there for me during some of my hardest moments

[@noslraclwehttam]

The judge took the kids. I didn’t leave. The judge took them. I did not abandon the kids. Talk to the judge. I’m waiting for the judge to give them back. You don’t think I miss my kids. You don’t think I wanna be there with them and watch them. Get out of here.

[@desireechauke6666]

Thanks for the clarity

[@wingspiritualclarity1233]

You're welcome 🙏

[@rebeccaevans3492]

I didn't hurt him. I didn't do anything except anticipate all of his needs. Make sure he took all of his meds. Made sure he ate a healthy diet. We were supposed to get married that week. I guess he got cold feet and changed his mind.

[@DimityLong]

❤ love you Sissy you're blessed I'm blessings to the collective😊 good morning going to have a cup of coffee and connect the spirit

[@CraigNaDun]

not being the narcissist I am unable to see that perspective

[@BelindaPadro-jh4zo]

Thank you for your articulations regarding Willful ignorance. (There are not enough)

[@adrianbaumgartner5719]

So very helpful dealing with the ex from hell!🙏🙏🙏🤗

[@rebeccaevans3492]

Still not a word from him since he left me in a Dublin parking garage in July. I still don't know what in the world happened

[@Monicaphelan-kiely]

I don’t 😢I could have done anything in the situation

[@Shen-kz1yc]

I'm afraid I couldn't even listen to this one. This could be me - but I give a load before speaking up. So if anyone is considering breaking ties they should go ahead and do that. I'm past caring.

[@WonkyWomanLife]

That happened last year

[@OoSpellheartOo]

Thank you Wendy ! ❤🎉

[@Confessions089]

I need more information. ✨️

[@CappyGoat67]

Good morning, Wendy! This is spot on, as well as many of your readings since I found you. However, this one is reversed. I do own my mistakes, apologize, learn & grow from them. I have love, compassion, care, understanding, grace, and respect. I am in no way shape, nor form, a perfect person. The other person is at a choice point. This is a "friend." Very toxic situation. I love her and her and her family. However, I love & respect myself enough to know my worth and value. I try to help others. This "friend" definitely broke my trust. 😢🎯💯

[@karenbarkhouse305]

We have had no contact for 3 years !

[@Jewelmind]

Thank you. Great message ❤❤❤

[@wingspiritualclarity1233]

You are so welcome

[@golgothapro]

Funny, I was just wondering why I hadn't see any thumbnails for your videos in a whle. I divorced my 2nd ex over 30 years ago for being an untrustworthy narcissist and have been hearing readings about her wanting to return for over a year now. I have no accountability to accept for someone that got an injunction for domestic violence against me for a mere slap, got me thrown out of my own place, sold off my valuables, and threw the rest out in the car-port which I had to get others to pick up for me, much less after she tried to help the prosecution in an unrealated murder case against me which a jury of 12 middle-aged women determined to be a manslaughter AT TRIAL. Building trust takes time, and after repeated betrayals what makes her worth the risk of granting her anymore? I couldn't care less about her or her fate. She is nothing but a manipulative, jealous, needy, parasite, and a pathological liar. Even her energy is a GD lie. I haven't harmed anyone except the guy I accidently shot over 30 years ago and I never went back to alcohol since. She always played the victim, gaslighted, and lied her ass off, and as far as I know she hasn't changed. I can't think of anybody more toxic than her and we haven't been in contact since my child-support obigations for our only child were met in 2008 when I took our daughter a HS graduation gift. The only thing I ever "did" to her was decide to leave her the F alone, and she's probably still lying about that to this very day. Enough sympathy for the devil already !

[@Wildmmm]

Trust me, I don’t care

[@dennisryan6370]

Promises promises....🤗🤗

[@margaretlouiseable]

Yep.

[@PalepossumZQ]

❣💯❣💫

[@hannehartmann9562]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/iJO6koKdnLBsqrssi=sB7tVAc4oGBgxaqt 👈👈👈

[@karenbarkhouse305]

I mirrored his behavior and he list it it! I left!

[@karenbarkhouse305]

Oops lost it!

[@karenbarkhouse305]

It destroyed our children as I moved 4000 miles away!

[@karenbarkhouse305]

My children!

[@williamhumphrey777]

I did nothing wrong

[@stonedoliveees]

What people don't do is as harmful. Third parties possibly interference incapacitated us to be able to help and was a good guess as any that sprung to mind, crippling agony does that and you dont want to foist it onto another who cant cope with their own. ...so what about that? I don't see "third parties" in spiritual warfare, shouldering the blame our have guilt dumped onto them though. What about that perspective on why betrayal of this flavour happens...possibly set up hacked to happen? Its all the more futile if the other doesn't believe in "spiritually" let alone understand...go figure. Sorry😐 Not buying it.

[@RobinEss-p1x]

This reading hurts to hear. Wowsers

[@kanwar23]

🙏🏼