An Autistic Sociopath's Story (A Life with Few Emotions)

[@ChocolateAutizzy]

Thanks for interviewing me ☺️

[@jfinney225]

I commented already that it’s terrible your mother said that to you but I’m so proud of you for doing what you still felt was right for you regardless of what she said. Way to go dude. I just wanted to make sure you seen this. ❤

[@tanyaranks]

I'm a 37 years old french woman, and i feel exactly the same, that's crazy.... !!!!

[@ScottyFang]

Thank you for doing this interview! I find a lot of similarities in what you said and have often wondered if I have sociopathic tendencies (not GENUINELY caring about people in the way you see other people capable of caring, and in my case with seeing people as objects, I more premeditate any interaction I have with anyone to go in my favor. I don’t care about love so I used my body for money thinking “well if men are gonna use me, I’ll use them right back, get paid” and I’ve also not reeeeaaaally felt long term happiness for quite a few years now, so I’d just like to say your honesty IS valid, and your interview is MUCH appreciated for people like us who can SEE what normal should be but we just can’t…get it if that makes sense? And I’m sorry you felt SO uncomfortable opening up in the interview, I also laugh when I’m nervous and rock myself to self sooth, you’re not just numb, you’re brave, and I appreciate you doing this so those of us with any type of mediphobia who are afraid of all the bills that would come with a diagnosis can relate and self reflect within ourselves. Thank you ❤

[@hellaSwankkyToo]

THANK YOU for sharing your story. i'm especially grateful as a fellow deeply melanated Black woman. 🥰

[@belandino]

A few seconds into the video and I feel like I have to post already. What I want to say is: don't worry, nobody is "normal". There's no such thing.

[@stars_moon_sky]

"Why are you masking right now?" Wow, loved how he recognized that and let her know it was unnecessary.

[@drjsauber2879]

❤❤❤

[@PhyreReighn]

Introverts have so many beautiful, outstanding qualities & gifts. Extroverts need facebook, society, religions & groups to listen to them play out their facades. Who does her diagnosing? Another Extrovert !

[@jasmine3847]

i want to gain a better understanding of masking ASPD, could someone explain how she was masking when he caught it?

[@kara7145]

@@jasmine3847 i’m not an expert, but she explained that she mimics people and doesn’t act like “herself” often, so when she’s giggling and bubbly that is her masking and trying to make the situation more comfortable for the people around her i believe. that’s how he caught it

[@ISeekSilence]

@@jasmine3847 She knows that if you call someone your friend, you should have genuine feelings for them and care for them, so she's trying to hide the fact that she doesn't and giggles playfully. If she weren't masking, she would most likely say outright, that no, she doesn't care for them and if her friend were hurt by that it wouldn't bother her. That's what he's calling her out for. (Thankfully, her friend, Joseph, seems to know that Cassy has trouble recognising her own emotions and sticks around anyways, because Cassy is a really interesting person.)

[@m00dyalien]

I love how she said "what normal people do automatically, I have to do manually". That is such a quick and clear way to explain being neurodivergent.

[@RuthMcDougal]

Yes!!!!! The amount of energy NDs have to use because of this.

[@onceuponawalkingdeadpll8355]

What is neurodivergent

[@treeaboo]

@@onceuponawalkingdeadpll8355 A broad term for conditions wherein people diverge in mental or neurological function from what is considered typical or normal. The term was coined for Autism and is usually applied for such, but can also include ADHD and various other similar conditions, many of which have neurological relations to Autism and ADHD, and are often comorbidities (anxiety disorders, dyslexia, etc). Its antonym is neurotypical, as in someone who doesn't have such conditions.

[@onceuponawalkingdeadpll8355]

@@treeaboo bless your heart THANK YOU 😊

[@ambo9569]

Yes 🙌🏽

[@breetoldyouso]

What she’s talking about is “cognitive empathy.” Technically she doesn’t _feel_ empathy the way people without her diagnoses do, but she practices it cognitively. She chooses to be empathetic, which I think is pretty cool.

[@poot-poot]

“Is it better to be born good? Or to be born evil, and achieve goodness through great effort” - Paarthurnax

[@MsMckenzie2011]

@Wooters1I feel like most people have to occasionally. You can’t genuinely care about everyone that exists🤷‍♀️

[@chrisbarrett8377]

Thats what I had to learn in life. Otherwise I would have been the worst

[@kerryh3833]

isn't that called sympathy? Empathy is a feeling, isn't it?

[@OedipusSimplex]

Cognitive empathy? That's like saying cognitive romance. It's not a difference of _feeling_ empathy but a *lack* thereof. Feigning an emotion isn't practicing one. She has no brain circuitry for empathy. She has no intuition for it. If she could get away with not masking she would prefer that. There is nothing cool about it.

[@rudecanadian4067]

I’m only 6 minutes in and this young lady sounds like she’s just in survival mode. My heart breaks for her & I adore how conscience she is of others feelings. We are all pretending lots of the time too.

[@wombat7961]

As someone who has been on a journey of learning cptsd from "the therapy wave" this past few years I feel as though I recognized myself in her as well.... Someone who is very isolated, maybe raised on television and don't understand interpersonal relationships... She keeps nervously laughing, something that I also do, seeking so much validation and trying to feel how others feel for appropriate behavior so that you can be a social chameleon maybe? Dang.... I'm just like man community is so important I've never gotten to the point of expressing outrage because I dissociate alot, I zone out alot, exercise, read, binge, etc so I just distract or build myself up or procrastinate. But on some level I understand that I have to distance myself away from being isolated because thats how most illnesses are born. I'm thankful for cptsd its given me some clarity and perspective for life and connecting with myself and allowed me to have a relationship with myself.... You can see how she can never just make a decision about how she feels because it's not in service to people please or fawn, or something. This analysis paralysis and executive decision making has also been a cumbersome burden for me as well it makes me feel stuck in life too

[@giselerex6244]

@@wombat7961 have you ever felt content in life?

[@ih2246]

⁠@@wombat7961you literally completely described me, I’m sorry you have to deal with this too 🥲

[@nathalian.7209]

yes!!! same...wish i could tell her she is loved and worthy of joy and safety

[@jaymitaylor9937]

I’m just confused as to why she’s laughing about it when she says “everyone else ran away” …

[@catness1809]

Not having empathy doesn't automatically make someone a bad person. Even without empathy, one can practice compassion, and it seems that she does.

[@kaileymo]

True. Not only that but I think compassion, by definition, is treating someone well when you really don't want to.

[@michaelsi6770]

lol, it's like a man can practice being a woman and get pregnant one day........................

[@AJTheInvisibleGirl]

what are you talking abt. @@michaelsi6770

[@kuroyamaevisekai]

​@@michaelsi6770womanhood isn't defined by getting pregnant nor is every women able to get pregnant anyways and empathy and compassion are wildly different concepts to that anyways so idk what you were getting at lmao

[@kuroyamaevisekai]

@@Narcotic_Venus You can understand why a situation might be hard for someone with logic and what you learnt without necessarily feeling their emotions or knowing what exactly it's like for the other person, cognitive empathy as opposed emotional empathy in other words

[@thewoman2blame706]

Her mom disowning her is a prime example of mental illness stigma. It’s awful.

[@Solscapes.]

That fact (among others) makes me doubt her diagnosis, and think it's more fitting for her mother.

[@abjectmadness1111]

@@Solscapes.…yeah no. Let’s not use her diagnoses to insult others??

[@recoveringsoul755]

Autism is genetic. Maybe her mom wants everyone to think her family is perfect and has no problem. That would tie in with not getting help for her child, not acknowledging her child could possibly even need help. Many people think anything less than perfect is a weakness and reflects badly on them. Even though autism is from birth and not something a person has control over. The mother might feel ashamed that her daughter somehow is flawed. This is interesting though. And is good to know a person can be autistic and still be antisocial personality disorder too

[@Solscapes.]

@@recoveringsoul755 actually, there are a lot of scientists saying that, but they can't find specific genes, just clusters of them that seem to imply genetic susceptability, not a genetic cause. There is still an environmental factore that is not being addressed, for at least a large portion of us. It's not a vaccine. Isolation, whether through neglect or just overworked parents, causes too many "autism-like" syndroms for me to discount it. I was left alone as an infant for most of my first years. People in the hole develop it. The romanian orphans did. People in lockdown.... Genetic "causation" is the capitalist narrative so they won't get blamed for all the autism THEY cause by overworking parents.

[@kingjoseph5901]

Wild its still around in 2023

[@dinosaursaregreen4859]

I feel bad for her because it’s so obvious that she hates that she doesn’t feel bad, like logically she knows not feeling certain ways towards a certain situation is bad, but emotionally it doesnt matter, and that internal conflict really sucks. And when she says ‘idk’ she does, she just doesn’t know if she wants to express herself how she truly does, or more so doesn’t feel, knowing that it’ll reflect poorly on her despite her best efforts to fell or make others believe she feels

[@avocados1707]

This!!!!!!! Exactlyyy

[@lucianac3650]

Not having empathy is what's protecting this girl's brain from the trauma she experienced.

[@graceaxisa4213]

I agree 😔 she's been through a lot.

[@Rainydays-o5i]

I wonder if these disorders could be treated by addressing the trauama

[@CookiesCreations-tm5ts]

@@Rainydays-o5i….what a revelation. That’s literally what therapy is.

[@DanielleIbyme]

​@@Rainydays-o5iit will definitely make it better to cope with

[@krystalpringles7344]

That’s the only way to heal yep.. if we turn a light on our shadows

[@raeperonneau4941]

If I take her story about her therapist at face value, that therapist was totally out of line. It isn’t the patients job to commiserate, empathize, or modify their story for the therapists benefit. If a therapist is triggered by a patients reality then they should refer the patient to someone else. Period.

[@windsongshf]

My ex husband and I were going through our break up of our 15 year marriage, and we both saw the same therapist separately, because we had read that having the same therapist put our odds in favor of getting back together (instead of separate therapists where they only get one side of the story) and we both wanted to give it a good shot. She was very helpful in many ways, got to some issues I needed to deal with etc. but as time went on, I knew I could never be with my ex again and eventually came to that conclusion. When I told her we were going to follow through on the divorce, she started to cry softly. It was very uncomfortable. I mean I don't blame her really, I'm sure after getting to know us she was rooting for us, but just something about it suddenly becoming personal for her made me feel very awkward. I didn't make any further appointments after that. Btw, my ex and I are very happily married now to other partners for the last 20 plus years now. We chat every once in a while like old friends. We were kids back in the day when we got together.

[@ClearwaterKB]

Which really makes me question the ASPD diagnosis given to her by that therapist.

[@windsongshf]

@@ClearwaterKB After a few other therapists for other reasons, I just don't trust them as much anymore. I remember the whole "repressed memories" thing back in the early 80's. Sure sometimes stuff happens and you suppress it, but it was such a "thing" back then. I think a lot of times therapists love "labels" and quick fixes!

[@matthews832]

there are so many different qualifications that allow someone to become a therapist. the industry is a mess and there are so many people who enter the field who have absolutely no business doing what they're doing.

[@katiekawaii]

​@@windsongshfYeah, that caused, and continues to cause, so much damage. It's awful. But I wouldn't let that turn you off therapy entirely. The spectrum of psych professionals is so vast, it can take a lot of trial and error to find a good one, but there _are_ good ones are out there. Great ones. I've had two excellent ones, and I'm so glad I kept at it until I found them.

[@SocksPropaganda]

Despite her diagnoses, it's obvious she's still trying to be the best person she can be. That says more about her than her diagnoses!

[@Mybawws]

Commending her on how hard it takes to fight her own self to make you comfortable makes me feel our society is profoundly sick

[@foldedchip7551]

@@Mybawwsit’s not that simple, though. It’s okay to have autism, and it’s okay to have disabilities, but part of this woman’s disability is a disregard for other people’s well-being. You have to take other people’s well-being seriously if you’re going to live in a community. That’s different from other qualities, like not relating to your peers or having a different range of emotions. I agree that people with any kind of disability should be accepted and valued as members of the community, I’m autistic myself, but I don’t think it’s wrong to commend someone for changing behavior that truly harms other people, and isn’t just different.

[@medeacassandralogos]

Exactly

[@georgplaz]

you don't know that. is she trying to be her best self? or is she trying to be as good as she has to be in order for people to stay with her? And I don't say this as a value judgement, there just usually isn't an internal motivation to be a "good" person with ASPD peeps

[@TheoRae8289]

@@georgplaz She did mention not wanting to be alone. Rejection is something she knows hurts her ability to navigate the world. She's just been so traumatized her brain rewired in a way that didn't include the ability to naturally connect with others. Cutting yourself off to any sort of vulnerability to ward off the possibility to more of that harm.

[@MrsNxn]

I'm a therapist. I work with people with severe and persistent mental disorders. That therapist you saw was very unprofessional. Thanks for sharing your story. You've given me a lot of insight.

[@theboujieproletariat]

Im another therapist, and I completely agree. Cant believe a therapist acted like that! I really feel for this lady because from what I see she is still deep in her trauma, she is uncomfortable. She appears to demonstrate shame (physically). She says some slightly anti social things, like about her friend, but she is autistic and that really isnt uncommon. She has a history of physical abuse... how much head traumas or shaking did this lady experience as a child, was she malnourished? Should doctors be applying such simple labels to such complex cases with so many potential causes...?

[@deebedwell9877]

As a mother of a grown son who has high functioning autism, I believe people with autism just need help to connect with their emotions. It's not that they don't have them, but rather struggle to "connect" with them.

[@letsallgoforawalk]

​@deebedwell9877 yes. From what I saw it seemed like she was struggling to name her feelings rather than not having them at all. Other sociopathic people I've seen confidently state when they dont care about something and divert the conversation in the direction that serves them. This lady doesnt like how she feels but doesn't know what that is and let the interviewer ask questions that made her feel not good instead of finding ways to spin it in her favor.

[@embermystery]

She has every right to be angry as she was abused as a child and that is so wrong.

[@christinaleigh7156]

😢 my 💯 thought as well, and through the whole interview the trust to care is what's at fault

[@irisking8739]

And she said there wasn't a single place that she wasn't being abused.

[@christinaleigh7156]

So heartbreaking....

[@renarich4942]

Jesus can heal totally. I know that has become a cliche but it’s also true

[@surajrshetty]

I beg to differ. 🙏🏽Sometimes people who went through lot of pain use it as a justification to harm others. We all need to preserve our moral compass no matter what happens to us.

[@brit331]

I actually think it’s amazing that she can’t technically feel empathy but she chooses it. It shows that she IS genuinely a good person.

[@petrumare]

She could just turn her emotions on but doesn't. This isn't a good person, she said it herself indirectly in numerous ways.

[@fungustheclown666]

​@@petrumareShe literally never said or implied that you daft dingaling

[@edsp666]

​@petrumare you have a fundamental misunderstanding of her personality disorder. She cannot simply turn her emotions on, she's not a robot.

[@Cobbido]

You're just falling for her lies fool.

[@PISStopherNolan]

No she isn't. You ever heard before that people with antisocial personality disorder are EXTREMELY MANIPULATIVE

[@Crabby-Abby]

One emotion I see from her soooo clearly is shame. She feels so ashamed that she cannot care for others and interact with others the way society expects, and it just adds to the trauma she has experienced. I feel for her and I hope she finds a team of professionals and a community to get her the help she needs. She's so brave and wants so badly to be with others and be cared for in the ways she has clearly been denied all her life, and I hope that she gets that.

[@Lucien234-i2z]

Sociopaths have low or no Empathy, it is highly unlikely she feels a lot of shame as Empathy and Shame go hand in hand. She most likely has shame but it's in a reduced form than normal, she would be able to over come her shame better than most to get what she wants, trust me that's how sociopaths work. Empathy, Shame, remorse stops people from doing anti-social behaviours, if she had high levels of shame she probably would not say things like "I don't care for my friend", "If I had money I would leave him", she doesn't feel shame like normal people that's why she is anti-social.

[@Crabby-Abby]

@@Lucien234-i2z "trust me that's how sociopaths work" are you a psychologist???? She also was diagnosed with ASPD under significantly inappropriate circumstances, which many in this comment section have pointed out. She doesn't fit it in a lot of ways.

[@kt68866]

​@@Crabby-AbbyI'm glad you said that, because ive been like. Identifying with this woman so hard and im like. Stressed 😂

[@Crabby-Abby]

@@kt68866 sending love! Make sure you find a good therapist 🫶🏼

[@jameberlin8539]

@user-hu6lr3vr7g that diagnosis was BS. absolutely shocked at the behavior of the therapist, who should lose their license to practice. You're also misquoting her. He asked "IF YOUR FRIEND STOPPED CARING ABOUT YOU TOMORROW, would you be able to move on without any problem" and she said "if I was financially stable, yes." This is actually different than "if I had money I would leave him." It's a common trauma response to move on easily from relationships. Her diagnosis was egregious, that therapist should lose their license. EVEN IF she fits the diagnosis of ASPD , she should have had so much more in the way of assessments than she got. That therapist marked her for life because she couldn't contain her own emotions which was literally her ONE job.

[@spky_official]

The “I told you there was something wrong with me and you didn’t believe me” part. They don’t want to believe it and then experience it after PROMISING you it didn’t matter and they say it’s too much for them and leave. Crushing.

[@AylaASMR]

The fact that that therapist expected her to comfort the THERAPIST is such a red flag. The therapist is there for you, not the other way around.

[@TheQuantumCapitalist]

If I tell you my story and it brings you to tears, you have got to take a moment to imagine what it has to feel like to have lived though it. Therapists are dangerous....

[@Clawsonjackson]

I understood but therapist are also people with emotions and feelings. So ofc they can feel very very bad to a person to the point of in tears. But i understood ur point and what u mean and i half agree

[@AylaASMR]

@@Clawsonjackson Of course they are! But the therapist should’ve walked out to gather herself in private, not burden her patient.

[@Clawsonjackson]

@@AylaASMR yeah but break downs can happen. They aren't always controllable

[@carolina582]

@@Clawsonjackson but at that point the therapist should have just stop seeing her, send her to another therapist that would be able to do a better job than her. if she started crying shes no longer impartial and had no business even writing anything. breakdowns can happen and therapists are human but the way she dealt with it was just wrong. theres better ways to handle the situation

[@lololola991]

bro this girl is/was abused. Her mom saying she'd disown her? This is TRAUMA manifested. I hope she finds peace and happiness and humanity.

[@Royyal_tee]

I agree with you. There appears there may be some mental abuse which will split off to other mental issues. She's very smart, and has alot of emotions. It just appears noone has validated her humanness. I pray for this amazing young woman. I wish I could tell her, "You are important & worthy of love!"

[@gogogadgetabby]

She says she was in the interview.

[@em-dy3hn]

She could be lying. As her said, don't trust her. Lying is a big part of the ASPD profile.

[@AtheneHolder]

I agree. what type of parent tells their child they'll disown them if they come out and speak on what they're experiencing? that's madness.... wonder what her mother has been through to be able to say some ish like that

[@lololola991]

@@AtheneHolder yup and the trauma cycle continues… poor girl isnt even fully developed mentally (autism) and is being told she has incurable illness(aspd) that villianizes her that she is internalizing as her permanent identity for stability and no doubt is traumatizing others as a result and feeds her mothers issues and abuse as well. I see glimpses of empathy and her person in there… such a shame.

[@SomeGal]

"I will disown you if.." is emotional abuse and probably was the breeding ground of the antisocial personality disorder. This is a really excellent interview. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@lauren8627]

​@isisDarkGoth I know psychopathy is very heritsble, but living with parent/s who are also likely psychopaths HAS to play a role. Epigenetics has a lot to answer for.

[@anoushadewan]

Exactly my thoughts. I don’t think this girl has ever had a moment to be soft.

[@annataymond9529]

@isisDarkGothsociopaths generally have better empathy than psychopaths although typically they have to be prompted to actually think about it and don't really do it on their own often.

[@navigatingjxss]

Thats exactly what i was thinking

[@vickiezaccardo1711]

That is so sad, and I do know what it is like to have someone with similar issues in my life. It can get insane, but I love them dearly. Sometimes you need to put a little space, but I would never discard them.

[@mmckenz89]

"My mom is from the Caribbean." That sentence just said everything, explained everything, like we don't need a professional therapist to explain this. I hope ChocolateAutizzy has a wonderful life from here on. You deserve.

[@juliaanderson7779]

That doesn't say much about her other than where her family's from

[@maroontiger1361]

​​@@juliaanderson7779 The implication is the negative stigma and attitudes around mental illness that are prevalent in Caribbean culture. This person is saying they see how deeply those cultural beliefs impacted her

[@diamcole]

@@juliaanderson7779It says a lot to those of us who understand.

[@fairy12324]

Yes!❤​@@diamcole

[@aolian3]

@@diamcoleding ding ding

[@truegirl2anna]

7:30 is so important to correct, she DOES feel emotions, just not social ones. For example, she feels happy whenever her friend brings her favorite food. Or she feels frustrated when she’s stuck in traffic. She’s not a robot, BUTTTT when it comes to social interactions and situations where if I were to share I got fired from my job and now struggling to get food, she wouldn’t care. She’d logically know it’s bad, but emotionaly not feel any empathy. Just wanted to mention this incase anyone else was wondering how she even functions if she never experienced ANY emotions lol.

[@robertabalbino574]

I was questioning myself exactly about it! It makes sense.

[@CreatorsHubVu-pd2du]

So I'm her then

[@4505Nicole]

Just asking who you are to make that correction? Because as a medical professional myself I know that it is possible with antisocial personality disorder to feel NO emotions, at all! Every case is different and some are more severe than others but just wondering how you know this about her specifically, not trying to be rude or offensive, is this her best friend Joseph?

[@shineon_7660]

​@@CreatorsHubVu-pd2du Same!

[@user-rv7ph1jl5y]

Is that the AsPD or the ASD or I guess both.

[@thomasthebankengine818]

I diagnose her with “every single person of power and family in my life has failed me 100% of the time syndrome.” I love you girlie, and I’m praying for you.

[@MISNM0]

THIS! Of course I can't state as fact but this does look like what you said to me as well.

[@naimahsochi2683]

Yeah she seems VERY SUPER self aware with a cognition that is not typical of Autism. I’m the mom of a 17 year old Autistic son, I’m not an expert but just my humble observation.

[@MISNM0]

@@naimahsochi2683 I agree with the self awareness.

[@2Siders]

Before passing judgment, it’s important to hear both sides of the story. The therapist’s evaluation of ASPD could be wrong, but the girl’s story about the therapist might also be exaggerated, intentionally or unintentionally. I hope she can find a therapist that can help her.

[@MISNM0]

@@2Siders A key point to always be included.

[@HeisenbergFam]

"idk how to talk, my mom said she would disown me if I talked about my disorders" is really depressing to hear

[@AnotherTruth]

Yes there it is

[@keeper6458]

It absolutely is

[@middlechild2592]

Yes. It sounds like her mother is embarrassed and/or in denial.

[@wesleyAlan9179]

I feel like she was mostly joking though

[@FairytaleSF]

My mother doesn't want to tell people I'm autistic because she doesn't want people to see that she has two children with disabilities (my sister is also special needs), but I don't care what others might think. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@thathooligangirl77]

Honestly I feel bad for her. Around 6:00 she talks about wanting to care but not being able to. It reminds me of the feeling I get when I’m really depressed and want to care about the things I usually care about but can’t 😢 it’s probably not the same but I can only imagine how that feels

[@zingbangpow]

Exactly. When I see this, I'm reminded that I'm lucky, to work on myself and allow other people their journey.. some people have real struggles.

[@amberclegg8100]

It’s hard to understand yourself when you’re ‘broken’ as a child because you never know what it feels like to be ‘normal’.

[@2222ela]

Absolutely . It took me over 30 years to finally start understanding the real me...or what was the real me ? What has left of the real me ..I don't know , but you get what I'm saying :)

[@doomngloom96]

I wish I got to meet who I was supposed to be

[@keonashorter9714]

She's not broken. She's different.

[@thefreequency]

What do you mean by this? Genuinely curious

[@ShanellIqbal]

@@doomngloom96😭 good point

[@margarbieadams8200]

As someone living in the CaribbeanI would tell you she is right... they will call you slow and they will punish you instead of trying to understand you

[@rnbsteenstar]

That is horrible!

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

I had a good friend who was very chemically sensitive. I do wonder if Sheila wasn't on some sort of spectrum too. She admitted to being antisocial (her words), yet we would talk for hours until we were both starved. She was very sick w/ environmental illness, and quite a loner. Her mom was Caribbean and was pretty tough from what Sheila said. She said she couldn't tell her mom she was sick, because her mother didn't believe in it, so she tried to make out like normal and just didn't talk to her that much anymore.

[@reekaselman5942]

My life. I grew up in the Caribbean and I have ADHD and my entire life I have had to learn to mask and was misunderstood. When she said “I tell people what’s wrong with me and then they say no you don’t. And then they get upset when you do something”. That is accurate.

[@capricornlove4816]

It's true, I have family from Belize and yes, we don't talk about mental illness at all

[@citrusbutter7718]

And if you talk about it they get mad because you're making THEM look bad.

[@marialoudon4774]

I loved when she said "I mask for them." Felt that as an autistic woman myself. Doing it so neurotypicals don't feel bad.

[@_einodmilvado]

Yep

[@DDtona93]

It's like a nurodivergent love language.

[@EphemeralProductions]

Or so that you don't get judged, yelled at, or piss people off. Like I do.

[@m.micaela6874]

No es por nosotros, es por ustedes que no quieren desencajar.

[@caydancebloom]

or because the energy required to educate them about the issues just feels more exhausting than masking

[@nutellaluvr]

shes so cute :( i love her laugh, i hope she continues to heal from her trauma

[@lydiboo464]

The way she was treated by that therapist was completely unacceptable and I’m sorry that happened. She deserves better

[@19Marc79]

To me that sounded as if the therapist was emotionally overwhelmed or triggered, which most propbably negatively impacted her judgement/perception of Cassy.

[@essenceofpsych]

Nonetheless it is not a patient's duty to support a therapist.

[@brianmeen2158]

I’d caution in believing everything that some random person on KZbin says.

[@Bindismom]

There are a LOT of bad therapists out there and I’m so sorry she was subjected to that one. This girl needs a break! Joseph has certainly given her a soft place to fall for the first time in her life.

[@baph0met]

When I was 18 my therapist after 2 years of getting nowhere cursed me out infront of my mom to the point we both agreed that the therapist was crazy. The therapist said that they basically give up on me, that I'm a lost cause and that this never happened to her before. After few months I got diagnosed with ASD. Turns out many therapist have no experience with autism, so make sure you pick the right therapist before going to them.

[@Bluzthedrpepperprincess]

Like a wise person once said: all children deserve parents but not all parents deserve children

[@kajuha_0]

Fr bluddy i dont even live with them

[@ThePrettyKarma]

True that!!

[@carolynbaker4250]

Not all people who have children have earned the title of parent!

[@missnaomi613]

Amen!

[@FairytaleSF]

Not all parents can deal with children with special needs. They just want neurotypical kids and, when they have kids with special needs, they don't act accordingly and don't make an effort to know how to act with them.

[@meanyapickles]

I felt for her so much when she said she didn't hurt people intentionnaly and was like, "I feel so bad" and he asked "Do you?" and she could only burst out into nervous laughter and say "I don't know..." Like she understands cognitively that hurting people is bad, and that's enough! But it seems like she knows a person would typically _feel bad_ for doing bad things, and _says_ that she feels bad. Like... lacking the ability to feel remorse doesn't automatically make you a bad person! She's clearly developed a moral compass and doesn't hurt people on purpose, yet she still feels the need to say that she "feels bad" and gets so nervous when called out on that fib. It's like she can't quite pull the mask down for fear of looking bad or being judged as a bad person, and I can't imagine how exhausting that must be.

[@Didleeios88]

Sounds kinda BPD more than aspd. She doesn't know herself at all

[@uniquebluekash12]

You explained that so well 😢

[@uniquebluekash12]

@@Didleeios88no I have bpd definitely different we feel emotions intensely we have no control of our emotions so it hard to place which emotions is accurate and we can also become numb with alil sprinkle of imposter syndrome 😭

[@Didleeios88]

@@uniquebluekash12 I see thanks for sharing. I had heard that BPD have a hard time identifying who they really are but I didn't realize how differently that manifests. Take care of yourself 💕

[@Didleeios88]

@@cDumstr you might want to edit that to say self-flagellating 😅😅 (sorry I have a ten year old boy's sense of humor)

[@writinghappyhour6945]

This poor girl is so incredibly brave to talk about this stuff. It takes more work for her to be a "good" person but she's trying. And she has to process the world differently. Her brain is trying to protect itself.

[@lindsayschmidt2177]

“I think I’m broken. I don’t think I can ever be repaired” is something I’ve literally said word for word before, it’s so accurate to the experience of having a personality disorder. It feels like something fundamental that makes you human is just broken and can’t be fixed.

[@BerryBlue123]

I’ve felt this way about my adhd (which is a developmental disorder not a personality disorder so it’s not quite the same! And there isn’t as much stigma) There are all these things society says we need to be able to do and it can be so frustrating!! There is no one way to be human-we’re mostly just trying to survive, and we all deserve to shape our own lives into one in which we want to live. I hope good things happen to you soon!

[@astromoonie]

Waking up angry is so horrible, and its definitely a trauma thing. Much love to her. I hope she finds contentment with herself. She is worthy to exist and find contentment just the way she is.

[@nandeboleine]

I couldn’t believe that I heard that come out of her mouth. I feel so seen. For much of my life, I’ve woken up every day angry that I’m still alive. I’ve never heard anybody else say this.

[@brainwithani5693]

Chris is almost a therapist himself. His questions are so insightful and kind.

[@missselite]

I love him, watching these videos has changed my life❤

[@tinyking11]

His questions are fantastic 🔥🔥

[@saileebniss1782]

Chris has autism

[@derekaitken]

He would probably be a better therapist than 80% of the ones who have PhDs. Our system sucks.

[@dewilew2137]

@@derekaitken most therapists don’t have a PhD.

[@Seschal]

4:15 THIS is especially common for neurodivergents. When they are conscious they are being "perceived", they immediately become a caricature of the collection of people they want to be like.

[@InsideLookingOut1]

Interesting 🤔

[@AILIT1]

Joseph is the GOAT. Shout out to him for supporting her while she figures things out.

[@laulago3771]

I think she's using him

[@AILIT1]

​@@laulago3771I agree but unfortunately I think he's one of those people that's totally ok with it. It's hard to believe he doesn't realize it.

[@zodsi]

@@AILIT1i think he is aware of that and she is aware of that because of her disorder, and he is being a good friend and good person overall to help her

[@bunnigummi9065]

@@laulago3771he knows she is

[@missionheights1474]

@@bunnigummi9065 Y'all do not know that man or their situation lol just wish the best for them

[@veronicajones928]

This interview helped me understand my son(15) a little better. He always says he has to pretend around everyone except me, so I get the anger and sadness. He says sorry 100x a day but it doesn’t seem he really cares. Thanks for sharing your story Cassie

[@highpeacetess]

That's so amazing he has you to be real with, I think he really does mean he's sorry he just needs someone to hold safe space while he gets it out 💕

[@simplymanda523]

Wow I’m mentally ill and my mom and sister see the worst side of me. The two people I love most and it breaks my heart. But I cannot control it sometimes and it sucks

[@simplymanda523]

Thank you for making your child feel comfortable. We need that. More than you know!

[@catsseighteen4365]

You are an amazing mother if your baby doesn’t have to pretend around you. Blessings

[@c.hlorine]

I'm glad you're taking some time to try and learn about it. Sometimes I show my angrier, uglier side to my mom and I feel incredibly guilty.

[@natashastokes4265]

Watching this young woman struggling to feel "real" emotions, makes me feel sad for her. It feels like her true personality is hiding behind all of her trauma. Her nervous laughter is almost like a cry for help. I hope she finds emotional safety and healing one day 💗

[@crazymike1706]

I feel bad for her too. The problem with the term real emotions is that it can be subjective

[@ratelhoneybadger]

They can refer to her as anti-social, emotionless, whatever... what my eyes see is a VERY sensitive soul.

[@idkanymore6204]

Well said

[@marispsi]

For me, she just dont feel that its OK to be herself in the world and that the anti-social symptoms are just an psychological colateral effect of that… Also, by her description of the first moment she experiencied ASPD, I feel like that in some point of her life she understood that people was not really caring for her, perceiving her at all… so why botter doing that? 🤔

[@NickNightfall1711]

Same. I really feel for her, she was failed so badly by so many people. I hope she'll be okay and that she'll be able to start healing from her trauma and find happiness, she deserves it.

[@nbeutler1134]

She is very sensitive which is why her brain represses emotion- to shield the pain. After trauma and your surroundings have forced you to practice that for long enough, it can be essentially irreversible

[@MartaBrown-my8ii]

Amen

[@hasselett]

It takes a lot of courage to be so transparent and so vulnerable about a very stigmatised topic. People usually have understanding for most disorders and behaviors straying from the ”norm”, but sociopathy is still a topic that’s being tiptoed around and rarely talked about in greater detail. By the way, that hair is absolutely FAB.

[@annamnaushad7431]

moi ll lm lllll loll

[@debrahubscher2514]

You're beautiful & you've helped me understand a little more about what you deal with. Thought he was a tad bit pushy on such a delicate issue...?

[@starry_night05]

@DonnellOkafor”atrocity” you mean.. an Afro?

[@cerealis_5432]

@DonnellOkaforthe hair that naturally grows out of her scalp? Do you hear yourself?

[@PurpleNoir]

@DonnellOkaforher hair is gorgeous!

[@valentinacardona173]

When she said "I wake up angry , angry because I woke up" I totally understand . I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and it is a very different mental condition but that part I get it .

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

I don't have that kind of anger, but I can relate to being disappointed that I woke up, again, and have to face yet another day.

[@ambriaashley3383]

❤❤❤❤❤❤ sending so much to love to you both. That is a very lonely feeling & yet we’re not alone

[@hatake5587]

Girl bye.

[@itzlazyalex1811]

​@@hatake5587?

[@RubyGeeScuderia]

"I'm angry that I woke up" SO relatable. Oh my gosh. She's great at putting things into words even when it's hard to. A great interview.

[@itsnevertoolatetodotherigh3271]

😢

[@FutureStar1533]

VERY

[@moisavictoria]

When he said when is the last time you genuinely laughed and she said she didn't remember that broke my heart

[@NekpenOgbebor]

She has experienced a lot of pain in childhood which is showing up in many aspects of her adult life. She needs love and understanding. I hope she finds the right professional help and support she needs. Sending her hugs

[@sillybitty]

Wow. Her level of self awareness is beyond. Thank you for sharing this interview

[@magical571]

be careful. it is something performative. Them being aware doesn't mean them truly feeling that is wrong, or feeling genuinly bad for how they treat others. See, even in how she talks she is vicitmizing herself, but we do not know how sh etreated those who left. it is commong for those under the aspd umbrella to be assuvie friends, partners, etc. do not infantilize them because of a sad backstory.

[@Hbk-gc7st]

​@@magical571Victimizing?! Have you heard what she went through? She was very forth-comming about what she did to others. You sound like the therapist that "diagnosed" her. Stop projecting, because you don't know her

[@prettygemini3432]

​@Hbk-gc7st i hope you have this same energy and empathy for narcissists who may hurt you😂

[@sunnyskys2428]

She seems like a good person because she is trying to be a good person even if she feels she doesn't feel it inside. She has a choice of good or bad but chooses good.

[@em-dy3hn]

There are no "good" or "bad" people. Simply wanted and unwanted acts.

[@possibly12]

I think reality is somewhere in the middle between your comment and @em-dy3hn 's. It's entirely unhelpful to subscribe good and bad here, but also simply wanting and unwanting feels a bit too simple. At least it does to me after hearing Cassy, who goes to great pains to communicate how different her inner workings are. She still has anger. As well as, yes, legitimate wants for herself.

[@itsgaylebitxh]

She was abused all the time. That's one of the common things about being neurodivergent. Everyone needs love and support, and human minds can't develop properly without it. I wish I could be her friend. She seems very funny, and it's great that she chooses honesty and empathy.

[@AstroMoonGoddess]

I appreciate this. I understand why she doesn’t go completely mask-off. Her livelihood depends on mirroring. If she removes the mask then she might risk where she sleeps or her next meal.

[@dann736]

I agree , she seems like she's been through a lot it makes sense that she's masking.

[@lucy4660]

Nailed it, pretty sure in a soft white underbelly interview she details being bullied in a women’s shelter for that exact reason

[@StreetcarDesire]

Period. This is the reality for a lot of people.

[@thesilvershining]

Bingo. She can’t help how she is, she has to do what she has to do to survive

[@justinw1765]

@@thesilvershining To say that she can't help how she is, is to say that she doesn't have the potential for positive change, growth, healing, and/or transformation. It sounds like she has already grown and changed some for the positive--I'd to think that she can even more. I know you said what you said out of empathy, but I'm a big believer in the power of will/freewill also.

[@boohbee7849]

I love Chris' non reaction to her obvious masking reactions to make people comfortable. Chris, you are such a gem and unique soul.

[@minerchick1258]

Seriously, he is a kind soul

[@Forexroadrunner]

his approach so genuine and warm

[@catlover4319]

do you mean like the laughing and the smiling

[@boohbee7849]

@@catlover4319 yessums

[@Kempster_K]

Yeah I was thinking it was cool that he asked "do you" about her saying she feels bad, but, at least to me anyway, it felt like he wanted to know to understand better as opposed to the accusatory way most people would ask if someone actually feels bad when they say they do. It comes across nonjudgmental.

[@kansasmain2062]

I have ASPD, and it really sucks. You have to work twice as hard to think and operate as a “normal” human. You want to be around people, but you can get burnt out super quickly, because normal people don’t understand your differences. They lack the patience it takes to relate to you and understand you enough to connect with you. They tell you to try harder to be normal, without realizing that you’re being as normal as you’re able.

[@LoverofSunflowernBees]

You know I just might have ASPD too and PTSD. And I do have an Anxiety disorder and OCD and Social Pragmatic Communication Disorder. But no Autism. And no Bi polar. I also feel some are being very overly diagnosed too! Due to lack of research and lack of interviews like these, Shout out to Chris thanks for getting involved and doing these interviews. I was worried for her safety please protect her after this interview.

[@prestonferry]

That sounds more like autism to me

[@waneshawright-smith7162]

I'm not diagnosed with anything but isn't amazing when someone tolerates or includes you? Sigh of relief

[@firdosabashir6585]

can you please state those mental ill differences @@LoverofSunflowernBees

[@Mybawws]

Be yourself unless that person is obsessed with trains

[@cmbhalupowski]

Im convinced that every laugh is actually a deep sob for help. I feel she is on the brink of cracking.

[@ChocolateAutizzy]

Facts

[@laurenfranks5037]

I found this fascinating. She tells you not to trust her. She tells you she doesn’t care if she causes someone pain. She says sorry but never means it. It must be exhausting masking like that. I’m glad she has a friend who clearly accepts the situation for face value.

[@bluelight8664]

can u indicate the moment she mentionned the thing about causing pain i did not hear that

[@laurenfranks5037]

@@bluelight8664 she said that she hurt a lot of people by lying and manipulating them causing them pain but she acknowledges and understands she does it but it isn’t malicious. It’s just part of the disorder where she can’t feel emotions good or bad

[@magical571]

@@laurenfranks5037 i've been at the recieving end. for 14 years, and it tore me appart, i got used and abused. If someone can genuinly stay there unharmed, more power to them. but no amount of understanding or empathy justifies staying there just taking it. i wish people wouldn't infantilize her, or fall for the sad backstory. I did, for years, because i myself suffered trauma and abuse and have always been as understanding as posible of mental health, and it really only added more trauma in my life for years to come. Now i fear being treated and abused by people like her because of my trusting nature and tendency to empathize with people with family issues. And it never was and still isn't easy for me or people like me to take the decission of stepping back, or setting a boundary, or saying goodbye, and it creates a breeding ground for people like her to abuse others. Do not misunderstand her cognitive capacity to understand what she did wrong and how it is prcieved as wrong, with her actually feeling bad or being able to treat others well with any degree of consistency much less if they get close like a real friend or a relative. I even got victimed blamed and mocked, just so i would take it all in no matter what. People, stop it.

[@Shaeshree]

I​@@laurenfranks5037

[@LisaTaylor-Austin]

Wonder if the friend understands the nuances of her ASPD

[@mariedouglas4650]

So sad Cassy wasn't protected as a child and given the proper care she deserved. The lack of care and support has huge ramifications not only for Cassy but for society as a whole.

[@skitty449]

This makes me wonder how much our emotions form based solely on experience rather than simply on chemical imbalances in the brain. We learn compassion and empathy by watching others as children, or by being told/shown genuine examples of it. If she never felt compassion from others as a child, or if she never had someone speak directly to her pain, then she has no real example. And repeated pain and abuse stays with someone. And she’s very intelligent, but experience is what speaks to the heart, and that void was created by other people who could not speak to her heart. You’re doing your best girlfriend, we see you, and thank you for sharing your story. Healing may be difficult, but I hope you find it. ❤️

[@mrod87]

i often feel like after an emotion passes I question "did i really feel like i just acted or did i just do all that bc thats how i am used to happen when this thing happens? could i fight that behavior and do something different bc i dont even know if thats how i really felt when i did that" so i totally understand what you are saying. i feel like my parents often do not understand that even though they made sure i was fed and well cared for....the emotional behaviors I learned TORMENT ME and i feel like i dont know how to fix it...

[@emilyjade_4]

Many recent studies have actually shown there is little evidence to support the idea of 'chemical imbalances' in the brain - there was a big one in 2022 disputing the depression/serotonin link. It's never been that simple. I'd recommend giving it a little search if you are interested.

[@JohnSmith-mc2zz]

The chemical imbalance thing was pushed to sell prozac. There is a bit of truth to it.

[@zatoichiMiyamoto]

​@@mrod87learn how your machine works and fix it.

[@minerchick1258]

Its not a chemical imbalance its more of a neuropathway development- her brain experienced trauma and significantly cut off pathways in order to keep her self

[@inoshishi8]

This is a TREMENDOUS woman. She comes off very intelligent and is astoundingly brave. I hurt for her circumstances esp what her mom has horribly said/done to her. I'm just so glad she's reached out and really is trying bc ppl with too intense of emotions or too lil emotions don't have the proper balance of emotions naturally. 🌸🕉️

[@city687]

People need to understand that just because some ppl don’t feel or experience emotions doesn’t mean they don’t have morals. I think there’s a lot of good people with personality disorders like this. It clearly takes a ton of work to get to a good place but it’s possible

[@clintparsons3989]

Like Dexter

[@tenshimoon]

True, and even the lack of emotions in itself isn't even proof of having a personality disorder. Lack of emotions or understanding them can also indicate things like Alexithymia, severe PTSD/C-PTSD, emotional burnout, or even major depression. (Edit for spelling error)

[@aldogama999]

I prefer no to be the one that will try to find out ahah

[@jonasandezekiel1109]

​@@clintparsons3989that's a fictional character. Stay in reality.

[@jonasandezekiel1109]

​@@tenshimoonshe was diagnosed with aspd so you're just making excuses for her. I guarantee you she's not someone you want to know in any capacity, especially when she needs something, and thinks you might have what she wants.

[@Peertje304]

Her hair is so beautiful, the volume, I love it

[@Linaosaur]

I have similar hair but im not black, what you said makes me feel better

[@Clawsonjackson]

Ikr she is also soooo pretty

[@Littlevillager2004]

​@Linaosaur how long u been growing out for?I'm bald so😂😂😂😂

[@Linaosaur]

@@Littlevillager2004 i cut it often lol😭

[@turnleftaticeland]

As an autistic person I can relate a lot to feeling bad/etc on the surface but deep down not actually caring. Every time Chris asks “Do you?” I feel really bad (genuinely) for Cassy because I know what it’s like to be in that awkward spot where you’re supposed to care but you don’t. I’m not diagnosed with ASPD and my childhood wasn’t nearly as bad as how Cassy’s sounds like it was, so I can only imagine the level of hurt and trauma she must be dealing with. This is really brave to share and I feel a little bit seen. Thanks for sharing your story Cassy

[@modernmusic52]

It sucks so much. The awkward nervous laughter when she's supposed to say sorry and say she cares and be genuine but can't. I'm stuck in that spot a lot too

[@babenberg]

25:05, I thought "do you feel comfortable..." is probably not the stressless way to ask to a person who struggle to feel emotions. I suggest to ask for capabilities, or wishes, as in "can you explain...", "do you want to tell more about...", "what are your thoughts about...". I guess that adapting the questionnaire environment (key words, concepts, sociocultural map, approach... parameters) to the mental representational system of the interviewed may help to open up ways of self expression and communication. Me, ASD+ADHD.

[@ifmusicbethefoodofloveplay2290]

I hear you. Chris is great, but he could've used a better approach here.

[@lyssasletters3232]

It is perfectly okay not to care!!!!!! The pressure to care just leads to feelings of guilt and shame, which are unproductive because they don’t lead to greater caring! Instead, people in our lives should model how to care for US. When we receive care and acceptance and love, we have the opportunity to learn how to be caring towards ourselves and then how to care about others. I started to care more for others when my own emotional needs were met.

[@zia_kat]

same. i'm autistic and i really relate to a lot of what cassy does and doesn't experience regarding caring. i don't have an aspd dx but have often wondered if i really love people or not or what my feeling towards them are. i'm not sure that cassy isn't just an autistic person who has been very hurt and traumatized reacting in a normal autistic way to that trauma. i also want to thank cassy for her bravery and honesty and i hope she is able to create/find a life that makes her happy.

[@Iuxinterior]

this poor girl seems so smart and sweet she deserved much better family members than the ones that didn’t do their job teaching her how to socialize and feel protected

[@Cas3PhD]

As a therapist, her behavior was highly inappropriate and you did nothing wrong. Thank you for sharing your story. I learned a lot from you!

[@boingthecoin601]

@@TELKXthey’re talking about how her therapist treated her

[@Karin-fj3eu]

​@@TELKXI haven't gotten to that part yet and was so confused

[@0redfr0g0]

As a therapist, you should know to take someone's one-sided interpretation of events with a grain of salt and not say, "You did nothing wrong." When you don't have a clear understanding of the situation.

[@michellef1847]

Enough trauma can literary make you emotionally numb and even "crazy" (whatever that mental disturbance or alteration looks like).

[@OnsceneDC]

Sociopaths and people with autism are generally considered to be "rational". I wouldn't put them in the crazy category.

[@megansheared]

This. You can put a wall up and shut down and NT call you “crazy”.

[@sachafreedom9134]

Absolutely! My adult son has autism and was bullied in school. As an adult he wanted friends, but because of autism, he could understand how to make relationships work. He was taken advantage of which caused him emotional trauma. Now he has PTSD and he has encapsulated himself emotionally and now feels apathy (not having feelings), due to the trauma.

[@Wordsthatbloom]

I do agree but would keep in mind that will never validate the unfortunate actions that people with this high level of trauma do to others. So yes they need help but the actions that hurt others do to these people being so traumatized is not okay

[@MISNM0]

Agreed.

[@ithoughtyoumightlikethis500]

This baby is in survival mode. She's protecting herself, her whole self.

[@ande1805]

Yessss c-ptsd bad

[@Eatthispuzzee]

relatable

[@guhrizzlybaire]

Yeah I was seeing a lot of myself, I was wondering how much is her stifling so much down. Poor girl.

[@markstoyreviews6641]

I can’t be in Survival mode talking about my own Disorders

[@porscheprairie3232]

She's just crazy

[@Thatsclassicaly]

She's a decent person by choice, not just because it doesn't feel good. I think that's incredibly brave and noble.

[@amarijackson9270]

im a 21 year old black girl who was recently diagnosed with bpd and autism and cptsd and this was so therapeutic to listen to especially the waking up angry all the time😭thank you for sharing your story i know it was hard

[@natbb777]

I'm autistic and a psychology student, l relate a lot with everything you've said but the way the ASPD was diagnosed sounds to me (as a psychology student) wrong, being autistic and having so much trauma can definitely change the way you feel emotions. I would definitely try to get a second or even third opinion, specially from professionals that study autism in depth

[@isaacl.r4609]

Definitely.

[@Anne-pj7ny]

You want her to keep seeing doctors until they tell her she doesn’t have ASPD? Because you are a student who disagrees?

[@itsme-dt1xb]

I‘m also a psychology major and I doubt the ASPD diagnosis too.

[@Esquilo]

I'm a neuroscience student and I agree

[@shellyeditsalot]

​@Anne-pj7ny have you never heard of 2nd or 3rd opinion? it's just to confirm with absolute assurity that the diagnosis was right.

[@estrellasjournal]

“People can do things normally that I have to do manually” yep, that’s how it feels and she put that in words so well. I think she’s adorable. We all have flaws and things we need to work on.

[@LiL.Git_Boi]

i cryed watching this because every fidgeting movement, the way she speaks, and the general mannerism she does ive never seen anyone else do. i deeply align with her and it makes me feel happy seeing her speak about things i cant.

[@commenter4368]

I absolutely get this.

[@crimsonmckenzie98]

It's hard to FEEL human, when the people the closest to you are bashing you for BEING human...

[@crimsonmckenzie98]

@alzzz Agree 100%

[@ascendingneet2263]

THIS

[@EmpressAshe]

Facts

[@manfrummt]

I've been diagnosed twice with bipolar. They were wrong. I was reacting to situations. That has settled. Childhood trauma is the real source.

[@elnombre5597]

I've had a similar experience, to this day i'm still not entirely sure wether i actually have Bipolar or not. My doctors and care team continuously go back and forth between me having bipolar and not, but recently when they realised that I have dissociative identity disorder, they've kinda come to a conclusion that those episodes were more likely to be trauma reactions like identity switches

[@JamiePackmule1]

I’ve stopped identifying with the labels they gave me. I’m capable of so much more than my diagnoses, and once I realized that it was so freeing. I’m just me

[@Darkempress45]

@@JamiePackmule1I love this!!!!!! I’m so glad that you were able to identify this and break free! Bravo!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@jessejohnson9514]

Ah. Better luck next time.

[@manfrummt]

@@jessejohnson9514 I know right? Maybe I'll score with some schizophrenia next time, ya?

[@stacygordon3322]

I empathize so much with her. Having Carribean parents while having a mental disorder is very difficult, just because of the culture and stigma behind it. Basically, most think these disorders dont exist or they minimize what you have. Personally, the worst feeling is your feelings and emotions being invalidated because you're too young to be depressed or stressed. Or better yet, their struggles throughout life are far more superior to yours, therefore you have no right to feel this way and there's no way you can be diagnosed. I really hope our people can be better educated one day. Because if your mother was serious about disowning her beautiful intelligent daughter, that is a huge mistake on her part that she will live to regret.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

I hear Caribbeans are pretty tough. All the ones I've known have been real stand up people, hard working and all and very stoic. A friend was saying she couldn't explain her environmental illness to her mother, who was Caribbean, because her mother just didn't register things like that.

[@renarich4942]

It’s not a black issue though other races have this issue

[@nadzjam]

​@renarich4942 note: Caribbean and Black are not synonymous. Caribbean refers to a specific geographical region. Black is a label used to refer to people categorized as belonging to a certain "race". There are people from different races in the Caribbean.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

@@nadzjam Aren't you referring to different ethnicities? There is a very small white minority and some Indian. I would think that the prevailing culture of tough parenting would be fairly similar among the races, since it is a very distinct culture.

[@DeriandDeri]

Agree. I can relate to her not knowing my own voice

[@Thatsclassicaly]

She makes so much sense. She's so clear in so much of what's going on in and around her life. She's really smart.

[@erinsmart8422]

No way. She is grifting. Her stories change btw this interview and the vids on her own channel.

[@pizzaboynizzaTV]

Reminds me of the point at which I realized I had been lying to my therapist for about a year. The truth was I didn’t have a damned clue how I felt about anything. My entire life was based upon expectation.

[@nandeboleine]

Same! Everything I’ve ever done has been to try and be who someone else wanted me to be. I feel that I have no identity or personality when all that is stripped away.

[@beaniedewitt]

She’s so right….it was not her job to comfort her therapist. Good lord that therapist is in the wrong profession

[@EMVelez]

There’s so many unqualified ones out there. I have experienced it first hand.

[@darcymoon2109]

I would have been horrified if my therapist had a breakdown in front of me.

[@nas4375]

And it is this therapist who diagnosed her…

[@libera7161]

I was SA as a kid, I don't have ASPD, but I'm the same way when it comes to this. I remember when I told my sister, I fully understand that she was crying but at the same time she seemed to expect me to be miserable when I already cried waaay to often and to much because of it that I can't cry about it anymore. It's over. For people who hear this story the first time it's like a fresh wound, but for me it's a wound that no longer bleeds and already healed leaving a scar. So yes, this therapist definitely should do something else if she gets angry because a victim doesn't cry. But maybe she got angry that the abuse happened and we misunderstood the reaction.

[@NickNightfall1711]

​​@@nas4375yeah, that fact really concerns me, especially since she mentioned that the therapist got angry with her for her response (or lack of response) to the therapist breaking down. Someone in that position can damn someone with a diagnosis like that and make getting treatment almost impossible, just because they don't like or understand them or get upset with them, I've seen it happen before and I'm worried it may be what happened to her.

[@Kat123-v9n]

Her laughs were stress induced. It breaks my heart to know she's been through so much. You can see she wants to empathise and not hurt people; she just can't connect to those emotions. Yet she still understands that certain things she says or does will make people feel a certain way, therefore she should apologise or "feel bad". Honestly I think its amazing that she's making the conscious choice to be empathetic rather than just say "stuff it" and carry on with life not caring about how it affects people.

[@AtomCatsGarage24]

That's terrible....her mother should be the first one to support her, not hide her and make her feel like she has to mask who she is

[@effie3798]

It’s easy to judge parents… who knows what this girl may have done to the mother.

[@Chaz_Mahoney]

The girl probably ruined her mother's dreams and aspirations for the rest of her life

[@chipkid]

@@Chaz_Mahoneydemonizing much?

[@Mooms]

@@Chaz_MahoneyWhy are you demonizing her?

[@HaightTheGreat]

As a parent you raise your child to succeed in the world they live in. It's very difficult to do that when your child is clinically different from that world. Difficult for all parties involved.

[@ArtyAntics]

I’m autistic and been through trauma. I never thought I had positive emotions to feel but I’ve started feeling them again. I hope you can one day too 💜

[@lovisah99]

Something that helped me a lot was that when I really did get positive emotions, I immediately wrote them down. It's easy to forget that things won't always feel the same.

[@mentholcrystals]

Wow, incredibly enlightening interview. As an aspiring psychiatrist, ASPD is one of the areas I struggle with learning about the most because I was very deeply wounded by a person with ASPD in the past and as a person with extreme empathy (to the point where it can be harmful to myself) I've always struggled to keep an open mind when it comes to the "carelessness" seen in antisocial personality disorder. This interview gave me insight I've searched for in countless research articles and pages and documents but nothing has given me the level of understanding that this woman sharing her story has. I'm incredibly impressed and incredibly proud of her.

[@HaruKomorebi]

It sounds like you're challenging your biases and trying to be objective. That's a huge, and admirable goal for successful therapy: nonjudgment and working through unconscious biases!!

[@HaruKomorebi]

She sounds very self-aware and open to change. I think that's the determining factor in the therapeutic relationship: is this person genuinely willing to be a better person?

[@SeuOu]

Maybe you're going into the wrong line of work....

[@dame3892]

Thanks for trying, as someone with an aspd diagnosis who was severely mishandled by therapists in the past it’s good to have someone who’s trying to understand the nauances.

[@Darksphere101]

This poor baby has been tormented past the bounds of breaking. Terribly sad. I hope she finds peace.

[@k.c.r.5974]

Chris is making me laugh sometimes when she talks about feeling a certain way or being sorry "I'm sorry!!" - "Are you??" - "I feel so bad right now..." - "Do you??"

[@aanimavilis1492]

My therapy session often looked like this! This is very helpful to make you aware that you have feelings! I have very similar history and my symptoms was VERY similar to her I started to feel positive emotions after four years of being in and out therapy Ofc every story is different but I think she could be happy! Just need professional help

[@QGuides]

Yes. I loved this.

[@LeanAndMean44]

It’s a valid question. And she said multiple times that she either doesn’t know, or doesn’t feel that way. And you would know if you feel it.

[@k.c.r.5974]

@@LeanAndMean44 would you though???

[@bridgettemccool4820]

Because she doesn’t, she’s just learned to use the giggling and silly behavior to manipulate others.

[@TheFreelunch]

Nails it about the therapist crying, getting angry and then being triggered enough to triple label her in a psych eval that will probably follow her around and cause yet more issues for her. "Like, I thought they got training so they wouldn't take on the client's issues ?"

[@georgplaz]

don't jump to conclusions whenever you only have one side of the story. maybe especially if that one side is a person with ASPD

[@The_Food_Police]

I've definitely heard of therapists becoming unprofessional ​and actually making it harder for their clients to get the help they need, or being so triggered by their clients personality/behavioral issues that they end up publically exposing them or lashing out at them. @georgplaz Of course this is in no way the norm. I'm just saying anything is possible

[@victoriarobertson266]

Her laughter reminds me of children who are still developing how to express their emotions; sometimes laughter comes out when they don't know how else to process the emotion. I'm glad she's physically able to laugh.

[@tworfling]

I feel attacked

[@nadaleenatasha]

I was a bit confused because she laughed so much in this interview and it seemed so genuine

[@prettygemini3432]

​@@nadaleenatasha she literally said it's not genuine

[@amymiller6854]

I'm so sorry for the trauma that she experienced that caused her to have this disorder. My heart goes out to her.

[@girlfromsouth214]

Cassy is so pretty and she seems so smart and eloquent. I really appreciate her honesty. It takes massive strength to share such intimate details in an effort to educate others. I think the fact that she was hesitant to hurt her friend and others shows that she cares for them as best she can. I know many neurotypical people who don't show that kind of thoughtfulness. And, Joseph seems like a great guy and an amazing friend.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

Joseph is one helluva friend. He must know how much she appreciates him, even if she isn't in touch w/ her feelings. He must be lonely too, to take care of her like that.

[@AlmtyIsis111]

Do not be fooled into trusting her. Her disorder or very real.

[@knowthyself3188]

She started the interview saying she feels like & would describe herself as a different kind of person, & finished it by saying we are just like everyone else. That's quite a fundamental shift. It was like saying her thoughts out loud helped her reached a more positive state. She has more good traits than she realises.. I hope you can find moments of peace, Cassy.

[@fancydeer]

Having someone who just accepted her and listened to her made a huge difference.

[@clevernamerighthere9240]

I think it can be both, they are different type of people then most and when interacting with them it should be considered, but as for the level of respect you should give someone, or the existence of their emotions, those things are still very much there and like everybody else. They just may have different triggers or ways of conveying those feelings as well as a difference in level of intensity for some of those feelings the point where the fluid nature of feelings makes it difficult to distinguish what there actually feeling. That’s my inference anyway.

[@Royyal_tee]

❤

[@em-dy3hn]

Lying is a big part of having ASPD.

[@DenkyManner]

They aren't mutually exclusive. She doesn't feel like a normal human and her point at the end is society should be more accepting of people like that because 1 in 30 people are like that. I didn't detect any shift

[@lilynadel6128]

Normally I feel like Chris is goofy with the kids and its fun and all, but I'm really enjoying seeing this side of him!!!

[@royakonopka7072]

Sometimes when she "laughs" I have a feeling like she is about to cry like nobody has ever cried before. Or at least her laugh makes me want to cry. It really breaks my heart to watch her. So does the part where she says she imitates people like keke palmer. I do not have any of her disorders but I know all too well how disconcerting it can feel to constantly mimic another person in order to fit in/seek normal.

[@sapphirelane1714]

She has more of a heart than most neurotypical people I’ve met! I’m a black ND chick, also, so I understand it’s rough not fitting the stereotypical “black woman” role. Masking is also so exhausting! Sending much love to my fellow ND sista!❤

[@miniamo_]

@lawm1549As a black person in her exact situation, it’s more complicated than that. Not all black people are the same, no, but neurodivergency is heavily looked down on by the majority of our community and we HAVE to mask to be let in. There are people who will be okay with you taking down the mask slowly, but people make so many preconceptions about nd that they decide whether they want to even speak to you or not based on the signs. And that’s for everyone, not just our community, I’m just saying why it’s harder to be let in.

[@plushwishes]

Same here she seems so lovely. She needs so much more support and love Than she received

[@MusikkFreak27]

fr! Some of the meanest comments tend to come from fellow Black people. Many think I'm rude or dismissive, but I'm actually just riddled with anxiety and expecting the worst.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

​@@MusikkFreak27you are awesome

[@qv8402]

Thank you for this, love to you sis

[@evie9239]

just to let everyone know, because people make over-simplistic assumptions about autism and emotions, that autistic people can struggle with emotions and not have ASPD. Many have alexithymia, which is where it's difficult to feel and identify emotions in a 'normative' (whatever that is) way. For example, not feeling hungry, or getting confused between emotions and bodily sensations. ASPD is usually trauma related, as are the other PDs. And autistic people experience a lot of trauma.

[@thepicklegambit]

This is all true. Thank you.

[@nugget6635]

It's important to keep in mind that biologically an ASPD can feel everything. ASPD is a personality that puts down emotions like... For example... "why are you happy?" then stop feeling joy. So ASPD is a disorder where the thoughts get in the way of feeling.

[@90sbby37]

its been confirmed she actually has alexithymia and not ASPD! good catch!

[@evie9239]

@@90sbby37 ah amazing- thanks for letting me know. Will watch the video later!

[@terrakim218]

What she said about having to do manually what neurotypical people do naturally, I think was a great way to explain how she navigates emotions and empathy. Great video!

[@carlahaiduk1878]

It must be exhausting. No wonder she has depression.

[@AD-cc7bj]

@@carlahaiduk1878 yes. studies show masking is very detrimental to health.

[@Enlightened08]

Im just 3 min and I want to hug her. The fact that her family has disowned her for an illness makes me both sad and angry.😢

[@LexAnnalyn]

First off, I loved seeing Cassy openly stimming, closing her eyes against the lights, etc. Thank you. We need to see that, so we can do what feels good for our bodies, too.

[@isthataspider7410]

Ikr!!! (Also adhd-er) I am absolutely ENRAGED at that awful therapist. Using the obvious symptoms of autism and ptsd against her patient because she was offended by something that isn't her problem? She should get fired from her job!

[@Dominq-v5z]

As someone who works in mental healthcare, many therapists don’t work with people with autism. They would likely have to see an occupational therapist or some other kind of autism specialist.

[@nugget6635]

She does have the ASPD traits though such as being confused about people and having numb feelings and also transactional logic (which is not altruistic).

[@prinniesforeveryone321]

Get a job

[@emilylambley2480]

@@prinniesforeveryone321what?

[@ridingboy]

I really appreciate how Chris does the interviews with so many and so different people. His sense of balance actually amazes me. His interviews are never unnecessarily sentimental or exploitative or sensationalistic or cheesy. They are very educative in the best sense.

[@wayward_identity]

she's very acute about her background, and how she turned out to be that way. a supportive family would've made a world of difference, that really stings. also i like how chris is asking his questions with respect, he's learned a lot, more than most therapists actually

[@lisabrightly]

She has personal insight. Thats a huge postive. I've know a few sociopaths and they were so cold and emotionless.

[@ScotlandKell]

Shoutout to Joe for helping take care of this woman. Thank you to all involved for sharing!

[@loritamannorita6819]

Okay, I identify with her on so many levels. I'm confident that she has been misdiagnosed because of her autism. I really wish Complex PTSD had made it into the most recent DSM. I will never forget learning about it, in an article that said they felt like they don't feel human and feel like they are watching the world from the outside. There are some excellent resources out there regarding recovery, but to be honest, it takes serious work and can last a lifetime, but if you want a life worth living and the ability to love and feel joy again, it's worth climbing that mountain.

[@lordtette]

Yeah I recentl found out I have cptsd (check your psych notes everyone) though I suspected for a while. I'm still trying to learn more but 5 minutes in and I saw myself in her, as an aspie who's gone through trauama. Also not diagnosing her but she might also have adhd.

[@Romo2055]

I'm 100% on the same wave length as you, she needs someone that *actually* knows what they're doing to help her

[@derekpmoore]

Developmental Trauma Disorder

[@autismstrongmom]

Videos like this make me sad. I don't believe she has antisocial personality disorder. I have two teen girls with autism and many family members with autism and have seen autism in many forms. I agree with previous comments that she has ptsd from trauma, but as far as the symptoms she describes as ASPD is actually her Autism. One of my autistic daughters is very much the same with not understanding social relationships and has very little to no empathy or understanding others feelings. She also copies and masks along with coping other people's personalities because she doesn't understand emotions and wants friends. I could go on. My other daughter is the opposite with empathy and feels everything very deeply and get stuck on emotions. Autism is definitely different for everyone. But I am sad that her Autism is being described as a mental health disorder such as ASPD. It causes further misunderstanding of autism. 😔 I really hope she can get some counselling for her trauma and Autism to better understand her world.

[@asympti2185]

@@lordtette She did say ADHD was one of her diagnoses.

[@ScottyFang]

The incredible amount of nerves she’s feeling in the beginning of the interview 😢 broke my heart just watching her try to cycle through 5 self soothing techniques all at once, hoping to find something that calms you down, I get it girl…

[@louweezyanna6974]

No one in her formative years gave her an origin story for authentic emotion/care/love. Based on her diagnosis, it's unfortunately easy- yet heartbreaking to understand why she masks and why it is hard to understand authentic interactions with others. Thank you for doing this interview. Your internet aunties and uncles love you and sincerely wish you a happy life. You aren't broken, you don't need to be "fixed." I hope you continue to surround yourself with a supportive community.❤

[@lindak3030]

I want you to know that if you are manually practicing empathy, you have empathy. I guarantee you that many many people who seem empathetic naturally actually really don't care. Manual and intentional empathy is good enough. You seem to have really done a pretty good analysis about who you are, and lots of people never do that. I hope you find a therapist who has the experience to help you, and that you don't think it's your fault when a therapist isn't up to the job.

[@xtinaaaaah]

I completely agree with and adore your comment and I hope she reads it.

[@CatManDoom84]

This! Yes! Most ppl can be empathetic because its a cultural norm. But to actively and CONSCIOUSLY practice it is rare.Not that im sayin ppl cant be naturally empathetic, they totally can be.

[@SpecialBlanket]

No, I don't have empathy. Empathy is feeling how other people feel. Instead of trying to persuade us we really are like you, why not just say it's okay to be how we are?

[@SpecialBlanket]

I think the correct claim here is that you can manually practice MORALITY and that you don't need empathy to be moral.

[@peacehappyb237]

Yes, that is cognitive empathy. She has to understand that will be the best can do and it is fine.