Spilling Matt's Secrets (Feat. Matt's Mom!) - You Can Sit With Us Ep. 98

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YOU CAN SIT WITH US
Maggie, Becky, and Ariel are your new best friends. In their weekly podcast they dive into female friendships, current events, and what's going on in their lives. Sit down with them, and enjoy!
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PODCAST PRODUCER
Miles Bonsignore
PODCAST INTERN
Rainie Toll

[@FlagCutie]

"He WAS listening to me all those years!" Oh I love Betsy already!

[@kaodi6993]

all moms 🤣

[@FlagCutie]

@@kaodi6993 I know right!

[@samanthaure5098]

i love how in touch matt’s mom is with his and eugene’s relationship. it’s so refreshing

[@Clio..]

Did you all notice how Matt just started being on vids for like a minute untill there's an actual friggin episode and now a podcast about him! and we NEED a pod with all the try parents! 💕💕

[@bethdeever322]

Picturing Matt and Ariel doing a choreographed dance like Ross and Monica on friends. 😂

[@teamoxfordcomma]

I saw "Matt's Mom" and I've never clicked so fast

[@thiagomestres579]

It's a shame Eugene isn't in this episode because of all the ball jokes he'd make 😂

[@misteryA555]

I will never understand people wanting to go "off script"" when their spouse gives them a list of things they want. It's such a blessing to have someone be so upfront with you, ignoring them is basically shutting them down. Maybe you want to be some sort of perfect partner who knows them so well you can buy the perfect gift, but that's just to make you feel better. And nobody can ever truly know a person, not even themselves, so it's way better to just listen to them and pick from the list. You can always make the packaging something cool and fun

[@ulrikanilsson6395]

Well the perfect combo is to give them something they knew they wanted and surprise them with something they didn't know they wanted

[@ttaylor3294]

Matt & Betsy are twins!! They even sit with their legs crossed the same way🥺

[@robineras477]

Seeing matts mom talk about Eugene was so wholesome. As someone with a complicated family I teared up a bit. Edit: around 36:36 if you want to see 🥰

[@PrincessHeathaB]

My husband and I have a rule: no practical gifts unless expressly requested. No one wants an iron or something for Christmas. He likes me to give him a list that is large enough that he can pick a few things so it is still a surprise and thoughtful.

[@niamhrice2698]

Besty and Matt are so similar in the most adorable way!

[@siddubois4753]

Matt & his mom sit the same exact way 😭💕

[@pinkphlamingo2100]

As a teacher reeling from yesterday's tragic events and trying to get ready to go into school with a smile on her face instead of the tears currently in my eyes...thank you for the reprieve. ❤️

[@gix9461]

First thing I thought was Eugene saying "I'm sorry... Hi Betsy!" in the "Eugene ranks the cheapest wines" video lmaooooooooo Anyway, I loved Betsy and now I know where Matt got that classy vibe he has. Something that surely Eugene sometimes lacks (especially when it comes to his gross jokes lmao), so I feel her when she says that they are complete opposite... But you know, even through a screen we can see they work so well together as a couple, so imho that's a blessing lol Btw I love your podcast, everybody! It's always so genuinely interesting. Sending love to each one of you

[@PrincessHeathaB]

It’s so neat to see someone’s parents and realize, oh so the bone structure comes from mom and oh, everyone’s on dad’s side has the same ears. I remember the first family dinner with my now husband and looking over and seeing the same profile in quadruple with his dad and uncles. The way genes are passed down is so interesting.

[@mjollygarza]

I'm forever annoyed that KZbin doesn't put the exact date videos were published because this currently says 1 year ago and it's 2024. Buuut we all know shit went down at the end of 2022.

[@camilletourault1967]

OMG, Matt looks so much like his mom it's crazy!!

[@pixiestxNyomouf]

When they said, we needed to meet Betsy, they meant it!

[@rachelaureenb6]

Important message for the Gift Girlfriend-it sounds like to me she feels the same way about gifts as I do which is that I don't like Stuff. Pins are just nice to look at, a Fandom necklace is just nice to look at. I prefer to get and give gifts that DO have a utility and purpose, even a fun one like board games or an expensive bra you'd never buy yourself. I think directing the conversation into what makes you happy to give and why helps. It helped my relationship bc my partner does like Stuff only meant for admiring. Hope that makes sense!

[@AznGurl87]

I love Matt's mom ❤️ would love to see the "You Can Sit With Us" Moms have a special episode 😊

[@rainieday3423]

I’m surprised that no one said that Matt’s mom sounds just like Becky’s mom!! I was shocked lol

[@abbylynne9798]

26:00 I’m so proud of them for not making ONE ball joke. They were right there.

[@DandySprat]

Re: The gift giving advice. I try to supply a general list for gift ideas that still let the giver be creative within a parameter that they know I'll enjoy. Like instead of saying "This specific thing" or "This specific brand of X" I'll be like "yarn or fiber/crafting supplies" or "take me antiquing" (I am not an old lady, I swear!) that way they know the genre of a thing I'm interested in and can still put thought into their gift.

[@gracekellman8049]

Im interested in discussing Ariel’s hip hop comment at 15:00 in a racial context. Black horse jockeys used to be prominent before being barred from riding so that in turn means Black music was also excluded from the sport so I feel like hip hop should be welcomed in this context

[@KeeperCicero]

It felt like her calling it “fancy” was her realizing mid-sentence that what she was saying was not okay. Definitely left me like 🥴

[@elizabethmanion258]

Hello from Syracuse!!! This ep was so fun! I love you guys bringing your moms on!!! They're always a little nervous at first but then they just get to gush about their kids and share some crazy stories and share some really lovely advice. It's so sweet and always makes me want to call my mom ❤️

[@thegreatmanda]

The whole gift conversation made me a little sad. When I hear someone say that buying off someone's gift list is "cheating", what I hear is, "I'd rather engage in some imaginary competition with myself, than be 100% sure this person wants the gift I get them". I'm not saying they consciously realize they're doing that, but it's still what they're doing.

[@ttaylor3294]

I like being gifted items I want that I can tell the person giving me the gift CHOSE this certain one. I think it’s sad that people expect perfection when a gift should be at least a little personal… just have them give you money if you want specifics

[@lucy_zey]

They probably just have a different insight in terms of gifting. They can view gifting as an tangible representation of connection of the first person and the second person, not only considering the person that will receive. Or imparting a tangible "part" of the giver, so that the receiver would be reminded of a certain moment with or characteristic of the giver. Of course, this does not mean that this should be applied every gift giving especially with a long-term partner or family.

[@ebbandflowph]

I agree. When I give a gift, I prefer that the person who receives it actually wants the thing.

[@theiaxo]

shoutout to the "I look exactly like my mom" crowd!

[@hannalarsson985]

I'm a speech and language pathologist too, that made me so happy to hear 🥰

[@kaylheecarroll3186]

Matt's mom is so sweet

[@VISITORFROMTHEVOID]

Y'all made a friend of mine really happy today Re'al is a massive fan of yours and it means a whole heck of a bunch that you shouted her out.

[@SimoneWorld1]

They have the exact same smile 🥹 I love this episode!!

[@emmyemu33]

Lays chip gate 2022 is Matt's sassier side

[@route2070]

With the gift receiving list, give a list, but encourage some related to the list maybe. Maybe not something exactly, but related to the list, or maybe one or two categories. Maybe like cups and shoes as two categories.

[@villymus]

Ross and Monica Geller new years dance

[@avery6387]

Yea Matt’s Mom ❤️

[@stacyvolpone]

omg this is such a lovely episode 💕

[@strawberrymilkteaa]

I am HERE and I am AWAKE to sit with yall

[@KyndraBarroga]

I love these mom pods 😍

[@WYIN98]

The way everyone tried to bait Matt's mom into speaking about how he came out just left me 🥴🥴🥴🥴

[@daliatoro9429]

yeah i noticed that too, icky

[@cristalrl]

Was it everyone? Or was it Ariel 🙃

[@Therealvjv5]

I am loving the mom episodes 😍😍

[@aisz1643]

aww trypods truly just keeps on giving

[@stephanieearley198]

Oh I feel that, I still can not hit a baseball for the life of me, strikes and foul balls that's me lol

[@sillyghost98]

Wait so does Matt not work in consulting anymore?

[@sj-wz4ig]

I had no idea there was musical dressage and spent 1 hour jut looking at horses "dance" to the beat. omg.

[@niamhrice2698]

It's an honor

[@lucy_zey]

So enjoyable and filled with good advice💙

[@ankitamenon8780]

They need to update the description to include Matt

[@Wincingatwindmills]

This is now a Mrs McClean stan account

[@Checka2004]

I am Becky. I never made my bed. Not once. I would come home from school and like magic my bed was made!

[@Maiseexi]

Loved love these episodes!!!!

[@pinkcheese4557]

Why is Matt literally perfect???? ?? ??? ?? ? ? ?????

[@celestial_avatar88]

Matt looks just like her!

[@madstayy]

ned said what about a list? 👀

[@reesegallagher7353]

as an equestrian, this podcast made me VERY happy

[@fRam_00]

My favorite YCSWU podcast episode yet!! 🤩🤩

[@ritadumler1685]

I miss seeing Ariel.

[@ms6177]

LOVE this!!! ❤️

[@elizabetharena6731]

Loving this episode! My name is also betsie and I went to u of r!

[@ezekiel9647]

ready for hot hot tea

[@aljett6865]

mine is “bc you did colorguard”

[@aljett6865]

i also did cross country

[@ThePamzeta]

An we have all weeks Matt plz ✨

[@sashabush5434]

52:00 oh so THATS how Ned defined cheating. Good to know.

[@ReeniBoBeeni]

I completely disagree with Ariel - I would tell a partner that I didn’t like a gift, especially when there’s a list available that they chose not to use. To me, going off list repeatedly shows that my partner isn’t listening to what I have to say, and that’s a big thing for me. Plus, I don’t think many people realize how rare it is to find a perfect gift that’s not on someone’s list - for every success there’s 1000 failures. There’s a much better success rate using the list.

[@kennaelpis]

Matt is insanely HOT

[@joannasgreen]

OMG MATT’S PARENTS ARE NAMED BETSY AND STEVE!???? OUR PARENTS HAVE THE SAME NAMES!!!

[@aquaflower123]

hi matt's mom!

[@intheyellowcorner]

What a lovely person! Can Betsy adopt me, please?

[@emillyhmelo9516]

they look so similar 💜

[@shielamae271]

Omg I’m so early! This is a first 💓

[@stephaniealderete6888]

Why didn’t we hear anything about Matt’s youngest sibling? Who are they?

[@SunShineOS-20]

I miss ariel 😭😭😭

[@colleenmiayo4373]

first

[@bluetextbooks]

Seeing these videos reminds me that although I am a successful homeowning Millennial, I will never be able to relate to the privilege given to this very narrow group of Americans these videos represent. It was different when Eugene was around. This video was my tipping point. I hope to see you guys in more commercials and for my diversity.

[@Cbop77]

Ok, all the cuts between the girls and Matt/his Mom, are so annoying. Please, less cuts back and forth. VERRRRRRY distracting...

[@madhurachoudhury7839]

Matt is THE white kid Asian parents would be proud of

[@unstablymental1796]

Oh and they would compare their kids to 😭

[@AJ-ht3kf]

The try moms are so wholesome! Would have been nice to have parents who only wanted their children to be happy...

[@PokhrajRoy.]

From Eugene saying “Hi, Betsy!” while being NSFW to seeing her on the podcast, we’ve come a long way.

[@daisy-maethomas3551]

what video was it where he said hi?

[@PokhrajRoy.]

@@daisy-maethomas3551 Becky and Eugene try wines and then Matt comes along.

[@sabarnidas3408]

Yeah... Btw I think you watch Jaby, isn't it?

[@daisy-maethomas3551]

@@PokhrajRoy. thank you!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

@@sabarnidas3408 Yes

[@AngryBerb]

Damn, there's some really good strong genes in that family.

[@cozybean94]

One thought about gift giving from lists… (and this is just a general observation/point of view, not any kind of conclusion about any specific people-mentioned in this episode or otherwise) I understand people don’t always want to go off the list, and sometimes that’s fine. Sometimes it’s even nice and thoughtful, especially if they get you something you would want but may not feel confident asking for directly for whatever reason. Or something they know you would love, but you didn’t even know that thing existed; etc. And that is awesome and thoughtful and wonderful! But sometimes, especially with certain people, them not wanting to use your list feels like it’s more about them than you. Like the pride they get from being able to guess something that you would like is more important to them than ACTUALLY getting you something you’d like. And then there is this expectation and pressure for you to love that gift, or else they will feel bad or deficient in some way. So then you feel responsible for protecting their ego. And now they have made YOUR birthday gift all about them and their ego.. So if that is why said person doesn’t want to go off your gift list, then they need to get over themselves and just use the list, because your gift should be about showing love to you, not them showing off.

[@samanthaure5098]

stan matt’s mom for clear skin🫡

[@lady_kluck]

I think it's so funny and cool that both Becky and Matt's moms are SLPs. My dad is one too. It takes patience and empathy for sure. Love all the moms and Try Partners!

[@theacaban]

We love us some Matt! So excited to see his Mom here. 😍✨🤗

[@xenonh6171]

At my college there was a dorm lounge that was out of the way and nobody used that often. It was a great place to get away from my roommates for a bit and focus on my studies, or cry.

[@shelbieroy8961]

Hello! I am currently a graduate student in Speech Language Pathology and would love a podcast of both SLP moms talking about the field, how they managed being both moms and SLPs, the differences between graduate school and the field, etc.

[@c9566]

“From moms to all of us, the children.” Underrated quote

[@aljett6865]

MATT AND HIS MOM LOOK SO MUCH ALIKE

[@alexare6431]

I like how Becky corrected her "she" to their.

[@annabooher6897]

I want a big hug from Matt’s mom ❤️❤️❤️

[@71lizgoeshardt]

Oh, I miss Ariel. Such a shame.

[@cassidythecat]

17:37 Me, as a Texan, who grew up with tornado warnings and flooding, was about to agree with "the weather can be so unpredictable towards the end of spring!" when Becky started talking about styles of clothes 😶

[@SupaSmartCellistGirl]

I'm also confident the merch bday gift is talking about OSP (Overly Sarcastic Productions)

[@mtracy2013]

Such a missed opportunity not having Miles try out the sauna in jeans...

[@beefnoods1631]

I miss Ariel sm

[@anastasiamorrow3445]

Matt and Matts Mom are treasures!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@robertschwartz4810]

What a fast hour, it just flew by!

[@thahighestgiggler]

I just wish eugene actually wanted to be around. So sick of his annoyed vibes. Likeeeeee why is Matt here if eugene doesn't even want to be.

[@thahighestgiggler]

@@atlas_mccoy I'm aware of his other jobs. But his attutide has been awful when he's been around the guys. Thats my opinion, you don't have to comment 🤣

[@vangoore]

hello hello ! i know you told the other person they didn’t have to comment, but i’m wondering if you could elaborate on what you mean when you say his annoyed vibes ?

[@Barbara-nc9iq]

Is Maggie pregnant?

[@heatherskinner2149]

That's a rude question