Squashing assumptions about infant loss + life lessons after losing my son chit chat

[@ummyusuf8817]

My daughter lost her son when he was 15 months he would of been 10 years in oct she has only just got over it she is in a happy relationship and just found out she is pregnant and due in oct. Dont let anyone tell u how u should be feeling. She never heard him say mum or walk or anything. U hang in there ❤

[@liftingmotherhood]

That breaks my heart but so happy for her that she's found a way to love life again with her partner and soon to be new baby!! Congratulations to her!! And thank you so much. This journey is a complicated one for sure💔

[@ummyusuf8817]

@@liftingmotherhood yes i just wanted to share everyones journey is different to heal, no matter what other's say or feel. She said the same as u as time went on got worse not better. I hope you begin to heal when your ready, either way he loves u and his proud of u and watching over you ❤️‍🔥.

[@heistruth2865]

I'm not sure if using "just got over it" is very compassionate. As one never "gets over" the death of their child..❤ Grateful your daughter has found love & is pregnant. ❤

[@angelacimmino1102]

Sending you a hug angel mother from another. ❤ May Carson sleep in heavenly peace. I lost my son Dan due to stage 4 cancer at 28 almost seven years ago, and it still feels like yesterday. No parent should ever have to bury a child. 💐

[@liftingmotherhood]

I'm so sorry for your loss💔 it's always so hard to hear someone so young having cancer and passing away from it. I hope you are doing well and taking care of yourself🤍

[@angelacimmino1102]

@@liftingmotherhood Thank you so much. I have my good days and my not so good days. I have a strong faith and deep belief in the promise of the resurrection and eternal life. Some day, we will all be reunited. You remain in my prayers always. 💕

[@nisreenhalim1563]

Am so sorry for your loss 🙏🏻🤍

[@angelacimmino1102]

@@liftingmotherhood Thank you so much. 💕

[@ashtyn680]

I’m 20 years old and just recently lost my first baby, Athena. She was in the nicu her whole life until she passed on January 10th. She was 2 weeks away from being 3 months old. We are having her funeral service this Wednesday. It’s absolutely gut wrenching and we don’t know what to do. I’d never wish this on my worst enemy. Losing your baby just sucks the life out of you

[@monabrown2566]

I am so saddened for you losing baby Althena💔 This will no doubt be one of the hardest times in your life. But you can and will make it through somehow. You have youth on your side, if it's in your desire try again .If you find that you're not getting along ok, join a support group or seek therapy. But don't hold your feelings in. Althena will forever be with you! ❤️🩷💜 Wishing you peace 🕊️

[@ashtyn680]

@@monabrown2566 thank you for your words 🩷

[@liftingmotherhood]

I am so sorry for your loss of Athena💔 and I’m so sorry that you have to go through this at age 20. I wish I could give you a huge hug!! Please know you are not alone and definitely allow yourself to grieve and feel every emotion. Wednesday is going to be a very difficult day for you as every day after that and since Athena passed away. Please reach out if you need anything🤍 thinking of you and praying for you!!

[@jessicaleibret8772]

Hugs❤

[@ashtyn680]

@@liftingmotherhood thank you so much 🩷

[@autumngrubb1468]

Everything you are sharing about all the stages of grief is right! It’s real and it’s raw and so hard to do. Losing my son and having to still care for my daughters was a lot and thankfully I had my husband like you do. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that life will get better as time goes on, because it doesn’t! How can it when you have lost one of your children.?! Been several years for me and life is just as hard as the first day he passed away. I love you momma, and you’re so brave for sharing your story to the world. You are NOT alone. 💜

[@liftingmotherhood]

Thank you for sharing your story!! And I’m so sorry for your loss💔 I’m so thankful for my husband for really holding it down and taking care of our girls on those many days where I felt like it was impossible to get out of bed. So much love to you and thank you for being reassuring🥹🤍

[@time4change56]

So many people think grief goes away, but from my experience, it doesn’t. You just get used to carrying it, and letting it be a part of you . And keep on carrying on.

[@autumngrubb1468]

@@time4change56 yes! You are right💔😞

[@jennebeattie3168]

As a Mother that has lost a beautiful, perfect 14 year old son, I agree, time makes it worse. Fortunately I never felt bad for laughing or smiling. I had to do that for his beautiful, perfect brother. I am here for his brother ❤. No other reason.

[@EtherealGoddessMiriam]

Keep on smiling momma You moms do so much for us.. my mom is sick arthritis in her hip the highest stage, was in the hospital at the beginning of the year i was so scared i couldnt imagine living on 1 other day without my parents.. i grew up having this strong anxiety about losing my family especially my parents and my sister... i wish i would never have to face this day but i will... i dont want them to bury me either its a though situation that everybody is in in some extend but the anxiety is so vivid in my life.. i worry alot. I try to help my mom as much as i can shes very understanding my anxiety makes it hard to go out in fact i havent been out for a week now which is not alot but that shouldnt happen and eventhough she is sick herself she is more interested in making me feel better and it breaks my heart.. mommas are so amazing❤😢

[@EtherealGoddessMiriam]

Oh yeah why i was worried abt her life was bc she had a pneumonia she didnt notice a broken hip from coughing and probably unstable bones cause bones dont break willy-nilly.. its like my nightmare became true.. this year sucks.. i have seen her cry so many times and i cant take it i want her to be okay i love her so much i dont want anything ANYTHING happen to her😢

[@EtherealGoddessMiriam]

Broken rib* damn sorry

[@BeFruitfulMomma]

I am praying for you, your husband and your girls. You're amazingly strong. I will forever pray for you. Your experience impacted me more than I would have expected. The level of transparency you've displayed and admirable.

[@lifewithlacy7190]

Don’t ever apologize for the way you feel, grieve or your tears. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers 🤍🙏🏻🤍🙏🏻🤍🙏🏻🤍

[@welcometosusansmukbang9215]

📬 I'm sorry about your loss. My heart goes out to you. Sending love from New Jersey❤

[@heistruth2865]

I lost my baby boy too 2/8/24. You sharing your pain...is comforting to me in my pain. Thank you for not isolating yourself from the world although people have asked and/or made insensitive comments. Your videos are therapeutic for every momma who has suffered the death of their baby/child.

[@totallymekc]

Please don’t apologize for your tears! sending hugs and better day for you and your family

[@jennebeattie3168]

Yes, from waking to sleep. You can't forget for a nanosecond. As C.S Lewis said "his absence was like the sky. It hung over everything". That's exactly how it feels. Also lost a son 😢

[@CaRib0u_L0u]

I go through that same question! I also ask how am i supposed to live here and take care of her siblings, but i lost my first child, my first baby girl... its so hard. I'm sorry i wanna hug you so bad!❤

[@jessicaleibret8772]

Big hugs ❤ carson wants u to be happy. And ur girls need you! Theres no answer's but one day u will see baby carson again ❤

[@liftingmotherhood]

Thank you so so much🤍

[@annabelleattwood]

Wow sis, you are very admirable to help other.🎉❤

[@time4change56]

Please don’t apologize for your tears, or feel you shouldn’t cry. Allow yourself to experience your grief . I hope you can feel the love , understanding, and compassion your subscribers have for you. It’s very wise to focus on raising your girls and not letting them miss out on anything, as you bravely carry the burden of your grief.

[@bright6200]

6 months ago my coworker found out their 2 year old daughter was diagnosed with a rare brain cancer. He was just informed that she only have a few weeks left. I feel so bad for him not even sure what to tell him right now.

[@jennebeattie3168]

As a Mother that has lost a child, all you can do is be an ear should he need one. And all you can say is "I am so, sooooooo sorry.". We know that there is NOTHING on this earth that can make us feel better. Nothing anyone does or says can change our grief. We can't even fix it ourselves.

[@jennebeattie3168]

I hate that one too, "but what about your other son (the alive one)?". Exactly that!!! Just because I am grieving one, does NOT MEAN that I don't adore and love my remaining son. He is the only reason I still live and breathe. But yes, people assume you automatically are neglecting your remaining child! How RIDICULOUS!!! 😡

[@heistruth2865]

💔💔💔💔💔💔💔 If I may recommend, words may be very few. But please do not devalue the power of your presence, the power of offering to take him to lunch (pay for his meal), the power of offering to help w/ house chores or yard work as I'm sure there are many doctor's appointments. Do not be silent because you don't know what to say or do...do not be silent or stay away while his heart is breaking daily. ❤❤

[@heistruth2865]

💔💔💔 if I may recommend...please do not stay silent or avoid him because of the delicacy of this situation. Invite him to lunch, pay for his meal, & offer to simply be a listening ear. Don't merely say "let me know if you need anything" but be proactive & offer to help w/yardwork or other house chores as I'm sure they have many doctor's appointments. Do not devalue your presence simply because you've never experienced this so what could you possibly offer. Be present, be willing to be silent but present. Community does wonders when our hearts are breaking beyond imagination. ❤❤

[@jennebeattie3168]

@@heistruth2865 BEAUTIFUL ❤️👌🏻

[@Rena64105]

I can’t imagine a child😢With that being said however I lost my momma in 05!!I still cry like a baby for her fact🙏🏻🙌🏻😇On top of that in the pass 10/less years iv lost all my siblings all less than 60 years young,and on more that’s on hospice for liver cancer he just turned 62 I’ll be 60 in June!!I deal w it some real bad days some good days 🙏🏻🙌🏻Hope you didn’t mind I shared my heart ache😢Have a good night young lady🙏🏻❤️😇

[@liftingmotherhood]

I'm so sorry😞 I am going to have a very hard time the day my mom passes. She is my best friend!! Your feelings are all valid and I hope you are taking care of your physical and mental health!! Thank you so much for coming by and being able to vent to me! have a great night🤍

[@Rena64105]

@@liftingmotherhood Ty that means a lot🙏🏻🌺💕❤️😇

[@cking3081]

Breathe and take your time! Don't apologize for your heartache. Whatever emotion has you in that mental [MOMENT]..., FLOW with it!!!! 🕊🙏🏼🌹

[@kaiscote]

Big big hugs 💗 You’re helping many by sharing your journey

[@liftingmotherhood]

Thank you for reassuring me of that🥹🤍

[@andreacowles4587]

Thinking of you and your family. Sending love and hope to you ❤

[@louern123]

we lost my daughters dad in 2020, and i have learned what grief is. it is not the same as other peoples grief or losing a child, but i completely understand that grief never ends. never. I will never be the same . this world without people person you love the most is not the same world and will never be. i do wish i never experienced this grief but i have to admit that i’m grateful to feel other peoples pain, it makes me feel human again .

[@Frealbeauty]

You are very strong mama! God bless❤

[@VickiewithanIE]

My heart breaks for you every day I recently found your channel and I can’t stop thinking about how unfair this is

[@liftingmotherhood]

Thank you for being here for me🤍🤍🤍🤍

[@Jael_xo]

Sending you lots of love and prayers always thinking about you and sweet baby Carson thank you for sharing your feelings with us 😕🩵

[@liftingmotherhood]

I appreciate all of your love and prayers!! And thank YOU for being so supportive🥹

[@thehattersmadness1957]

It’s just not fair! Period.❤

[@Blndbmbshell]

sending you hugs and love ♥ prayers for you

[@liftingmotherhood]

Thank you so much!!

[@Iqqis.kitchen]

Sending you hugs ❤ love you

[@Naturalista_i]

🙏🏽

[@natashajee405]

❤

[@dazzled785]

He is living a wonderful life on the other side, that is what matters!

[@liftingmotherhood]

Amen to that!

[@dazzled785]

@@liftingmotherhood yes, I have a friend who miscarried a few years back and I heard, felt and saw him before she miscarried, he was around 3 or 4 on the other side and same with myself... I went through the same thing and felt a hand on my leg, he/she told me everything was just fine. You are so strong, your mourning is a sign of strength.

[@AC-gp7kf]

❤️

[@liftingmotherhood]

🤍

[@ummyusuf8817]

She was only 19 when he passed she is 27 now. I wish i could of taken away her pain that scream she let out when she got the phone call to say he had past, he had a enlarged heart so was in hospital a lot

[@cking3081]

💝💕💕💕💝

[@deee1776]

‘Unfortunate’ 😡😡😡😡

[@dori-]

The reason you made the video is because you knew you’d make a lot of money from clicks.

[@smudgesaysno524]

Be quiet.

[@saaaaskia]

The reason you're making this comment is that you have no sympathy for a grieving mom trying to help others and instead use your time to spread negativity.

[@louisaashby4099]

You have no right to say that to a grieving mom that has lost her baby boy and is still being open about her emotions, so stop being insensitive and shut up

[@jennebeattie3168]

❤