10 REALISTIC Habits for Getting Your Life Together at 20, 30, and 40+

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Last year, I found myself in the odd position of having to start over at age 40, which left me feeling down, anxious, and stuck in a rut! However, I'm no stranger to starting over, so I rolled up my sleeves and hit the reset button on my life! One year later, I'm happy to say I'm feeling SO MUCH BETTER, and I just wanted to share the realistic habits that I used to get my life together, so that YOU can use them to reset your life as well. If you want to get your life together in your 20s, 30s, 40s, or beyond, here are the life-changing habits that can help -- let's dive in!
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[@wesleywinchester1890]

I'm sooooo happy that you guys DID NOT win the bid on that other home bcuz this home is freakin AWSOME😊

[@sofycleme]

Thank you for sharing ideas, but mostly thanks for being vulnerable about how you’ve been feeling. I relate to some so I appreciate I can know I’m not the only one feeling this way. It helps me be motivated to do better.

[@AtoZenLife]

Thank you and it’s one of my biggest wishes that more people would open up about these things! 🥹

[@pollymcfadden1405]

What an informative video. Thank you for sharing these strategies for life. You are an incredibly strong woman and I love hearing your tips. Thank you for all your hard work.

[@nainakapoor8888]

Dear Marissa, thank you so much for this video and your E-Mail which came right at time! Me, 40, started studying again because I was not happy with what I was doing! The first few weeks were quite overwhelming and hard because of kids, family, work plus studies.. but here I am, a few weeks later, feeling so much better about the decision I took 😊 so keep motivating others and stay motivated. All the best to you 🥰

[@AtoZenLife]

It takes so much courage to do something like that and I’m cheering you on as you move forward on this journey. 🥳👏

[@GinaArch]

I am 56 years old... and starting over decluttering my house 😊

[@kristinm4005]

Hey Marissa, Im 43 and needing to make some changes. As long as there is the desire for improvement and change then hope is always possible. Thank you for your honesty, its always appreciated❤

[@AtoZenLife]

Thanks so much for watching and wishing you the best as you navigate those changes, Kristin. ❤️

[@beverlyness7954]

I really appreciate your video today. All the things you said resonated with me. I felt like I'd started over several times in my life. Finally one day I realized I needed to stop thinking I was starting over - it as my life. I'm now 71. I raised my 2 kids almost alone while holding down a 50+ hour workweek at a very physical job. When I was able to retire I'd lost my home to the 2008 mortgage crisis. This year I finally got out of debt with everything except my home of 6 years. Though my health and weight are not the best, getting out of debt and marrying a man this year who has loved me since high school has really helped. Thanks for your insights every week - or whenever you post!

[@AtoZenLife]

Thanks so much for sharing your experience and journey with me, you’ve been through a lot! Congratulations on your marriage and wishing you all the best for your future!

[@suzanneroelofse5970]

Thank you for sharing about binge eating. It's such a hard addiction to deal with because you have to eat food to live. Finding a balance often feels impossible! I'm so sorry that you have to battle this, but I am selfishly grateful to know that I'm not the only one who is fighting this war. ❤❤❤

[@AtoZenLife]

So true and I know what you mean - it’s nice to know you’re not alone 🥹❤️

[@angelroost]

Same. And, it's often triggered at times when you most are trying to be in control and take charge but are also in a state of paralysis.

[@jenniferroy6288]

As a regular watcher, I’ve never commented until now. I’ve always enjoyed and learned from your videos but today You have made me feel less alone. And feel better about myself. Thank you! You’re doing great!!

[@themasseyhomestead7614]

Thank you so much for this video. 48 and going through divorce

[@AtoZenLife]

Hugs to you, my friend! 🤗 You got this. 💪

[@robinr5669]

How about getting your life together at 67?

[@AtoZenLife]

Sure!

[@Jazmin-mb7ju]

Bless you Marissa! This is all so good. It’s all things I’ve been practicing in my 40s. Your content is so good and you’re pretty amazing being vulnerable and helping so many 🩷🥰

[@olivemaycards]

❤ Putting on nice clothes makes a huge difference! And a soft easy dress like the one you’re wearing is just as comfy as pjs (maybe even more) but looks like you’ve made an effort. People often compliment me on my outfits on the days when all I’ve had the time/energy to do is throw a dress over my head and walk out the door.

[@DP-dr6gi]

I really needed this today. Thank you so much for sharing yourself and your struggles. ❤ I love the plastic balls concept. I have been treating the things I WANT to do as the glass balls. And treating the things I don’t want to do as the plastic balls. For me, it is my health. So, my home is clean and decluttered (I love to declutter), but I have gained weight and feel tired a lot because of that. You helped me so much in your videos on emotional decluttering. Now, this video is coming at just the right time. Thank you.

[@AtoZenLife]

I’m glad this video helped and take care ❤️ that’s awkwardly parked there

[@ambermray]

Such a great video! Your channel has given me such peace in a lot of ways in my life and I am so thankful for you and the content you bring.

[@marielerennie1572]

I needed to hear this today at 45.

[@lormor460]

Thank you, Marissa. Today, I’m not feeling well, and this falls on the heels of a very stressful August and September. I can’t fix all the things that cause my stress but I may be able to heed summer off your advice.

[@AtoZenLife]

I hope my tips can lift some of your burden ❤️🙏 and things improve soon!

[@Raczyna]

Yeah, first things I pay attention when I feel something is going wrong, is broadly understood selfcare. I make sure I sleep at the same hours, after getting up I expose myself to the sun, take a shower and change my clothes. I pay more attention to food because I tend to eat emotionally. Food must be whole and clean.

[@AtoZenLife]

So critical and food is one of my biggest struggles. 🙌

[@Raczyna]

@@AtoZenLife When my dad was dying, I noticed that I was gaining weight rapidly. I started observing myself and noticed that I was buying sweets in larger quantities and eating them all in a short time. At the time, I didn't know it was compulsive overeating. I had a hard time mastering it. My weight has fluctuated all my life. I have been using IF for 4 years, and this year I introduced longer fasts. And I finally have the body I'm supposed to have. Healthy, slim. I finally feel good about him. It's a pity that only now, when I'm 45 :)

[@wesleywinchester1890]

Marissa so happy you found the perfect spouse AND HE IS BLESSED TO HAVE YOU. And your children will not go thru the terrible experiences that you did because they have smart healthy parents

[@carmenlheureux5435]

I love to see bits of your beautiful new home!

[@AtoZenLife]

I’m so excited to start sharing it with you soon 🤗❤️

[@oklyuchinskaya]

I used to think evening munchies was something everyone has from time to time. and then I started antidepressants for a completely different reason... and they never got back

[@Daniellelee86]

Thank you so much for an honest and relatable video. Recently I have struggled mentally. Like you, I have an alcoholic father but he left when I was young. Long story short, I recently had to pay several grand to save him from homelessness and get medical attention he needed. The state of his health and mind really weighs on me (plus the added stress of money on my credit card from it). When I need a pick up you are the first one I go to for motivation. I’m sorry to hear that you have been struggling with stress. I hope that now that you are settled in your home that you feel somewhat relieved!

[@jmsl_910]

wow. you are the best... i'm in that place rn... this is very well-received

[@AtoZenLife]

I hope things get better for you as well ❤️🙏

[@reginaw4115]

Liebe Marissa, ich lebe in Deutschland und in der Zuversicht, dass du verstehst, was ich schreibe, tue ich das mal auf deutsch 😊 Ich folge dir schon eine Weile und finde es toll, wie du deine verschiedenen Lebensphasen meisterst! Du hast echt viel schweres erlebt, und du redest hier offen und ehrlich darüber...das ist so mutig von dir! Dass du auch heute noch mit so manchen Problemen zu kämpfen hast zeigt, die Schwere deiner Vergangenheit und nicht einen Mangel Kraft und Fähigkeit damit umzugehen. Deshalb möchte ich dich ermutigen: mach weiter, gib nicht auf!!! Ich freue mich, dass ihr endlich ein Haus gefunden habt und umziehen konntet! Ich wünsche dir viel Freude beim Einrichten eines gemütlichen "Zuhauses" für dich und deine Familie! Und weiterhin viel Kraft auf deinem, persönlichen Lebensweg❤

[@quoththeraven13]

Second and excited for this one 🤗

[@AtoZenLife]

Glad you’re here! 😁✌️

[@dawnsullivan6794]

Thanks for another great and helpful video! FYI: For the last sew weeks I haven’t been getting a notification for your videos. But that doesn’t stop me from finding and watching them! 😊

[@AtoZenLife]

Thank you, I appreciate you watching and also for sharing that issue! I actually contacted KZbin support about that months ago, but they couldn’t figure it out. 🥲 Glad I have a loyal sub like you watching out for me!!

[@smontone]

Yay!

[@AtoZenLife]

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[@maryellenerikson1397]

You might find the book, "Glucose Revolution" by Jessie Inchauspe helpful. It is full of the science and hacks to get insulin levels stable. Both insulin and dopamine play a huge role in binge eating and mood in general. Insulin will also affect dopamine levels (and vice-versa) so getting one balanced will help balance the other. Dopamine is at the root of addiction so getting it back in balance is essential.

[@AtoZenLife]

Thanks, I’ll see if I can find it at the library 📚🤔

[@almutimkerbell88]

Love the video and the Bruce the Almighty moment (or at least thats where I think the inspo came from😅)! I am starting over at 35 and it's hard and I am pretty much lost, so any advice is much appreciated!

[@alexdoe784]

Shedding some tears over here .... Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. I'm not alone, we aren't alone. Perfect timing. ❤

[@angelroost]

All good advice. I am an older person who has been through some stuff. Starting over would be an empty toolbox. Waking from a coma with amnesia. You're not starting over, you're living. Regrouping. Moving on. Most importantly, adapting. The only thing constant in life is change-Heraclitus. Reminding yourself of all the experiences you have had and your tremendous resilience is perfect. When we inherit the trauma of previous generations we also inherit resilience.

[@msunshine4412]

Thank you for another informative and practical video. Sharing your struggles and your solutions has provided inspiration for me. You have achieved so much and simplified so much and shared with us so much. Thank you! And now... to tackle a paper mountain. Just a small mound of paper.

[@jonredd650]

It's always easier when you're good looking like yourself!♥️ Great stuff

[@MsStarbright84]

Thank you so much for this video! I am starting over at 40, I lost my job and apartment so it has been really hard. I has some really low times I did not think I would get through but I did, and this video makes me feel human because sometimes we all have to start over no matter the age. Thank you again for this video ❤

[@fangirl00]

You are such a strong woman. Thank you for sharing all those feelings. I suffer from c-PTSD myself and feel deeply for you. Keep going, you can do it! 💖

[@justakidfromthegutter9252]

Thank you so much for your vulnerability. I am feeling so down this weekend, and this video really helped me

[@VB_Indiana]

This video couldn't have been more timely for me! I will get dressed and make my bed as soon as this finishes. ThankS. PS - I love following you and have for a long time!

[@tania4726]

Thank you so much for this video because there’s so much emotional connection to your choices, emotional health and your spending habits managing your home. Us mamas and parents always on the go, get busy and take care of our home and sometimes we forget to take care of our emotional health❤ I also shared the tears with you as well. How much freeing it is paying something off. Have an blessed week❤️😃✨

[@Cheery1015]

Marissa, thank you so much for sharing. This video was very helpful for me. We are all on a journey, and figuring out how to navigate through life in ways that inspire and renew ourselves is key. ❤️Connie

[@tania4726]

Thank you so much for this video because people really don’t look at the motion aspects of money management and dealing with the emotional connection attachment to the situation. Also crying in tears when I also pay something in debt, you don’t understand how free that is thank you so much for this video and you taking the time cause I know time is valuable breakfast. You have a blessed week.❤

[@robinr5669]

Were your kids bullied because they were mixed race? Your family is beautiful.

[@TGYtco]

You are not alone in the food addiction! I have been mostly free for 20 years, but even now I struggle when a new painful situation hits or something brings up feelings from the past. I just remind myself that I haven't learned to cope with this one yet, but I will! When I am patient and give myself grace, the relapses are very short and occur fewer and farther between as the years go by.

[@joeypal00]

This video could not have come at a better time as my husband and I are preparing to move abroad by the end of the week. We are both starting over in our late 30s 😅 your videos always bring me so much comfort and inspiration, thank you Marissa, all the best to you and your family ❤

[@wandrousvindella716]

So wise ! Still can use these habits in my 60s. The one sided relationships are the ones I'm letting go of ~

[@Walking_w_Jesus]

Thank you for your honesty and being vulnerable 🙏❤

[@2FrenchiesItsCrazyAllTheTime]

I just wanted to say that I am so, so sorry your sons had such a negative experience at their former school. Love to you all

[@HangNguyen-ih8rf]

Hey!!! I fell out of the grid…missed ya❤ 😁

[@wesleywinchester1890]

Wait. Share wut happened at the childrens school.

[@Catplanty]

Shoutout to all the moms out there. Could never do it all.

[@frakismaximus3052]

13:15 was some serious special effects 😄

[@AtoZenLife]

Thank you!! Do you know what movie I was referencing? 😄👍

[@frakismaximus3052]

@@AtoZenLife no, I'm sorry, I'm not very movie literate 😁. Which movie?

[@lindascull6327]

Feeling it at 70❤

[@am9719]

❤

[@Ivy-d3b]

The right foods are medicine, trying carnivore/keto helps a lot! Been there done that , sugar is worse than cocaine. We now use monkfruit sometimes stevia , use electrolytes lmnt or Redmond's , you'd be surprised how minimal you can eat when eating this way and so much easier 😊 people who have helped , Rebekah tailored keto , neisha berry, Laura spath , dr Ken berry, steak and butter gal . At the end of day its more of elimination and keeping what works for you , troubleshooting

[@smeag9280]

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[@betania4584]

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[@ozywomandius2290]

Just wanted to share a virtual hug with you, Marissa 🫂 with respect to your recent struggles. You give so much and share so much to maintain this channel. I’m sure I’m not alone in wishing you some true restorative downtime and healing. You and your family have turned a difficult page full of tribulation. Better things must be right around the corner 🌼