Standing up to a narcissist when you HAVE to

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@mariegumpel4955 Ай бұрын

do not defend.. do not engage ..do not respond,..no contact .parallel parenting....keep calm carry on..and have very good attorneys..

@davidemm829 Ай бұрын

The disordered, " yes I cheated on you, but I'm back here to help you through it" ...reality folks

@jwonbowling8373 Ай бұрын

This is gold. Accurate as heck. They always agree after the fact but in the midst of the discussion they can't help but be oppositional. Emotional control is your weapon for sure...

@markh4926 Ай бұрын

In front of other people she started yelling at me as per usual, telling me I was incompetent etc. I had a few minutes to get the meeting going so I told her to shut up and let me continue. She hasn't been back for over six weeks. However, she will reappear because the battle is not done.

@OlBlueshound Ай бұрын

I'm just too tired to deal with this BS from my new partner of 3 months as she's just another narcissistic woman that plays with my heart and emotions like a dam yo-yo ALREADY in our short time together. Her righteous sense of entitlement is no joke amazing and after me being very kind and helpful with her problems I get pushed away only to be love bombed a few days later. I am so lucky I politely leave and never go back. I truly feel sorry for the people who have a narcissist in their life that they must work with for the sake of their kids. Hearts out to them!

@IzabelaWaniek-i1x Ай бұрын

Spot on. You have to put your ego aside when dealing with a narcissist and let them have a final word, disengage emotionally, they don’t care about you or your feelings they only want supply from you.

@redpilljesus Ай бұрын

"You have to put your ego all the way to the side - *and under the floorboards*"

@ruebenbrown2409 Ай бұрын

"Diss, diss, disengage" do not engage is always the best policy. Thanks for posting it.

@davidemm829 Ай бұрын

Yes mam, my 2 cents is low/no intensity, no big facial expressions, low voice modulation, non defensive body language, ...casual, living life free from invisible Vice aka: them

@JackVox Ай бұрын

They are still playing the same games that worked for them when they were infants. The don't know how to operate in the adult arena.

@johnnycorn7225 Ай бұрын

💯 perfect comment

@robertbaird5247 Ай бұрын

My now ex left on January 1st. I was devastated as most often are when this happens. I tried and hoped for months afterwards that we could rebuild. It didn't happen and now, learning what I've learned, it never will. What she did to my son(s) is criminal. Below is just one example of many that I'm now finding out about. In spring of 2023, my now ex assault my youngest son. He was 17. She was 52. I don't remember what the argument was about. Regardless, he was trying to walk into his room when she grabbed him, pushing him against the wall and put her hands around his throat. He said he didn't know what to do and was too scared to do anything. She released her grip a few minutes later and he went into his bedroom and cried. He came outside after some time to talk to me about it. He said they were arguing. He didn't tell me about her choking him. He said he can't wait to leave for school and that he hated her and everything about her and home. I consoled him. After about an hour of us talking about it, I came inside and asked her (Cheryl) about it. She said he was talking back and she told him to go to his room. I told her my son said it got heated. She said it didn't and changed the subject. It was a good bet my oldest witnessed this happening as he's almost always in his room and could see exactly where it happened. I asked him about it and he said he didn't want to talk about it. A bit odd but not out of the ordinary for him. He hates confrontation. I pushed him on it and he told me to let it go. He'd just turned 20 and has always been very stoic. But this time I noticed he was acting a bit different. Regardless, he adamantly refused to talk more about it. I thought it was a bit odd but I let it go. A few months after she left us, and it was apparent we were never going to reconcile they both opened up about several things that happened. I sat in complete discust and amazement with what I was hearing. My oldest was in the room, I looked at him and asked him if what I was hearing was true. He said it was. I asked both of them why they hadn't told me about this before. They said they knew how much I wanted the relationship to work and how it would have hurt me badly to know how they were being treated. I'm proud of my sons for thinking of me but disgusted with myself that I these things happen. Had I known, she'd have been gone that day by means of the police. I've told him he needs to file charges against her about this. He says he's scared of retaliation against me and us. I reassured him she's never coming back and can't hurt him anymore. I know he's reluctant but he said he would. Before we lived together, she had a history of becoming physical with me when she becam really angry. Never my sons. I often down played her behavior when I should'nt have. I truly hate the monster she is. I'll never tell my sons but, I feel I failed in my job of protecting them. I hope they learn from my mistakes. She's currently trying to destroy us financially and smearing my name. Telling lies about everything. I told him he needs to charge her regardless of what she'll do to me. There needs to be justice of some sort for all the abuse she infected on all.of us.

@OfSoulAndSin Ай бұрын

My own son hit me. 😢