Starting life over at 35... as a divorced single mom

[@JamieReviewsStuff]

Girl, I feel ya! At 34 I decided to leave my horrible husband right after we lost our baby. His reaction to that was all I needed to know I was making the right decision to leave. But at 42 I’m now happily married, with 2 amazing step daughters and a husband who is so supportive and amazing. Cheers to coming out a better version of ourselves!

[@melissahernandez5501]

Yayyyy 😊😊❤

[@Jess_Smith0903]

Im so sorry you had to go through that. I don’t have kids and my heart aches to just imagine the pain of losing one. Glad to read you came out the other way stronger and happier though! You’re a fighter!!

[@jilles789]

Hi

[@yteu7198]

I got divorced at 35 after almost a decade of relationship, I feel very relieved

[@JamieReviewsStuff]

@@yteu7198 I wish you nothing but the best of luck, sending healing vibes and wishing you all the joy in the world as you start a new journey!

[@Nalkaaa]

I got divorced in 2019 as a 29 year old. Single mom to a 5 year old. I left an 8 year marriage that did not serve me and where I was headed in life! Best thing ever, at the time it was difficult but I’m so happy I did that. I spent 3 years finding myself and not competing to any relationship. Today I am married to the man of my dreams, with another child 6 month old and my 10 year old from previous marriage. I am an entrepreneur, with a very supportive husband. We live on a 5 acre land living my version of happiness today.

[@Manifesting_Secret_Sketchbook]

Sounds so wonerfull. 😊 WELL DONE congratulations

[@Eaudenina]

I’m 29 and about to go through this 😢

[@zeynepschmid6219]

I have ghoosebombs

[@TheGoodLifeStarterPack]

Divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me. The breakthroughs, lessons, growth, self-worth epiphanies, and my strengthened relationship with God was birthed from it. It all works out. 🙏🏾✨✨

[@chanelymoo]

As a child of divorce, I can say that what matters is not the divorce, but how your parents choose to live their lives and work on themselves afterwards. Your path to loving yourself again is the best thing you can do as a parent. I've been feeling lost in life and really resonate with your struggles in your 30s - watching you gives me hope that I can learn to love life again. You're glowing inside and out!!

[@funnygirlever]

"Not starting over. Starting new" New book. New chapter. New you! You got this. This will be a new happy you. Stay strong, focus, and happy. You got this! ❤

[@moniqueirizarry7547]

Starting New... I love that concept!❤

[@peaceloveunity3794]

Yep. We're not starting from scratch now, we're advancing because of experiences/lessons learned✨️💚.

[@nd1267-p9m]

oh I lovee this perspective - not starting over starting new!

[@mariejansen7291]

I was diagnosed with cancer just before my 30th birthday while I was TTC and it's completely changed my perspective on life. How I show up to work, how I view friendships, how I plan to live the rest of my life, etc. I know I would have looked back on my death bed regretting so much if this hadn't had happened to me. It's crazy what divine things have to happen to make us realize happiness isn't in things, it's in experiences with the people around us and in our mindsets

[@MA-ci9rv]

Hello Marie, I hope you are better now

[@GwenuanaDDean]

@@MA-ci9rv Prayers!

[@hannahm.9881]

I left my husband of 12 years last year...he put me and my kids through hell...and then i found out he did the unforgivable 😢 We are starting over as a family. Today I turn 33.

[@GwenuanaDDean]

Prayers!

[@654ujala]

Starting over is scary especially when you’re in your thirties, but it’s the best thing to do if you’re in an impossible marriage. I divorced at 36 , got lots of therapy, worked on myself and then I dated for a couple of years (that was not fun! The pool of eligible men had changed quite drastically compared to what I was used to when I was younger). I finally met a wonderful man and remarried at 39 and have had two healthy babies with him. Although it didn’t feel likely at the time, anything is possible. Never give up on yourself and expect to be unconditionally loved by your partner and always walk away from anyone who has your dealbreakers. Good vibes and good luck to you!

[@Actavella]

How did you date? Online? Through getting out?

[@blueseptember2174]

And he's a good guy without secrets? I don't trust anybody now knowing what I know now about cheaters and p@rn addiction and men.

[@654ujala]

@@Actavella online. I met him on eharmony.

[@jesseeec]

We are so worried how we look to other people that we end up so miserable in making ourselves shiny on the outside all to realize years down the line…no one cares. No one literally cares. They only care if it benefits them or your life provides gossip for them. Why work so hard for other ppl? Do you girl. ❤

[@facheso]

I resonate with your story. I stayed in an abusive marriage for 11 good years. I was broken beyond repair, but God has been putting my pieces together. I am now a single mom and taking each day as it comes. I am now discovering who I am and appreciating peace. Hugs from Kenya

[@WendyWilliamsLiving]

I started over FROM SCRATCH at 53 and left with nothing except for what fit in my car. It was hard, but it made my stronger and happier!

[@yvonnep.5194]

I’m glad you found happiness after leaving. I just subscribed to you. You have lots of great videos. Can’t wait to see them all. I hope you continue to make new videos. Would also love to see videos of how you started over. They’re inspiring and helpful just like this one. May God continue to bless you. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💕

[@txspacemom765]

I am with you, at 49! We got this!

[@carrieannkouri2151]

Same. I'm 55 and just getting started.

[@TheGoodLifeStarterPack]

Same. And guess what: in the end, everything will be ok.🫶🏾✨✨

[@dechi.m]

Hi im turning 50…same route but struggling to let go :( i need help

[@KerinaWang]

You are one STRONG mama!!! I am so excited for your new chapter in life. Sending you LOTS of love❤❤❤

[@Anujaaa01]

Within 2 months of marriage I don’t feel happy. I feel trapped and dependent.

[@May0408]

Wow, I'm really impressed by how you were able to describe your journey - with clarity and confidence, while conveying the raw sheer pain you experienced for so long, acknowledging the role your culture, society, relationship, and even your own decision making played in the process, while also not tearing anyone (including your former self!) down and instead channeling all the pain into your own growth and love for your child. That really speaks to your growth, compassion, and maturity. Congratulations, and thank you for sharing.

[@linaanderson5427]

Having a baby and another life to think about really changes EVERYTHING. I’m so proud of you for taking that leap and having the courage to choose yourself and chase happiness. My first baby was also born on Feb 20th and let me tell you… after I had her there was this huge flush of clarity and desire to protect that little baby that I cut out so many toxic family members like my own dad. So you go girl, I’m rooting for you!! ❤

[@jubby89]

I feel this to my deepest core. I also got married at 25, same reason. A check box. I also had an an awakening once my son was born. I also had a rough postpartum, i had open heart surgery after my son's birth. I will also be 35. And now going through divorce. I see so much of myself in you. Thank you for this video.

[@biancaenache8206]

Same here.we are 💪 😊

[@HanaMilly]

I cried hearing your story, It must be really tough to go through all of this alone, take care of yourself during this challenging time. Your well-being is important

[@giannabaenana]

I left my relationship 2 and a half weeks ago and I feel so incredibly free. Not just being single but that world I have in my hands- no children, no responsibilities, turning 30 next year. 29 IS MINE ❤ imagine having all the possibilities in the world all over again. Reinventing isn’t the word for me. For me, it’s finding me and I can go anywhere I want to, do it all, and dream my life from scratch! I did not think it would feel this way at all. I grieved for 6 months whilst in the relationship, without knowing it and then one day, I was just ready. For anyone struggling to leave a relationship, I advise you to start spending time with yourself, doing things that make you feel happy and taking care of yourself. Decenter them and center you. A friend told me that after her breakup, anytime she needed to break down, scream and cry, she embraced it as releasing the negative energy from the past. You got this!!

[@snowbellamama6130]

Oh girl, the best is yet to come! 🎉. I turned 48 this month. Every year I toast to no longer being in my 20s. 😂 Thirties were great, and 40’s have been even better. ❤ It broke my heart when you said you just realized that you are worthy of being loved. YOU ARE!!! 🥰 And now that you finally know that, no one can ever take it away from you! That knowledge is going to shape your life in every single way. ❤Can’t wait to get to know the authentic you! God bless you! 🤗💗

[@annathystdream9062]

I’m turning 35 next month and I am a newly single mama too 🤯🤯 Omg I needed this video so bad it’s so inspiring and positive and is helping me feel like this is such an amazing new chapter instead of feeling like a failure. I’ve never seen your videos I literally just looked up “single mom have faith” lol. Thank you so much 🙏🏻 I resonate with so much of what you say. I cried when you talked about your love for your son because I feel the same way about my son. My son makes me want to be the best version of myself so I can give him the best life and ever since I was pregnant with him I have completely changed my entire life. I would love if you posted more about your journey with your son what your daily routine looks like with him and what you’re discovering about yourself in this new freedom you have 🧚🏻‍♀️🩵🙏🏻

[@dr.danalabat]

What has it been like for you?

[@guhreenskittles]

When I subscribed to you, it was because of your style. Nowadays it’s more about your incredible personality! Excited what the future has in store for you!

[@ericaluna01]

My life started when I had my son at 36 years old ❤ your perspective changes when you become a parent. Divorce is like grieving a death. That’s the only way I can explain it.

[@mrsamirza4392]

I'm 36 too wt a 18m old baby and wanna leave his dad ,but don't know how

[@PC-yk9ix]

I’m in the same boat. But I’m a guy. It’s like Spring will be much brighter. If only I could separate from NY now!

[@Clleonie]

Do you have somewhere you can go to and take your baby too ?​@@mrsamirza4392

[@wLBlue]

​@@mrsamirza4392why? Why have a child with someone you don't want to be with?

[@mrsamirza4392]

@wLBlue shit happens and we drifted aways,don't regret anything though

[@Shaneka-d4p]

Hey Erica! I remember meeting you and your ex in college. I think we were all in a group project together in one of our accounting courses. Although we did not talk a lot or spend a lot of time together, your presence left a very strong impact on me. I remember thinking how strong and well put together and infectious your energy was at that time, and from the looks of it, those things have not changed. I appreciate your vulnerability and your choosing to live the life that you truly want to live. It is a moment that many do not get to and for those that do, like yourself, it is something that is so precious, despite some of the rocky roads necessary to get there. You are in a new chapter of your life and there are so many great things ahead. Wishing you the best!

[@missejlouie]

Shaneka!!! I remember you!! I’m so deeply moved and appreciative of your kindness, I really can’t express the timing and impact of this comment in my life right now. I wish I could give you the biggest hug 🥹 hope you are happy, healthy & thriving in all areas of your life. Looks like you are still killing it in business - never stop soaring, babe. Sending you all my love & gratitude. Hook em!!

[@leahnibert3849]

I am 31 and will soon be divorced. I've been married to my husband for 7 years, and 6/7 years have been HARD. He has suffered from addiction for over half of his life, and my son & I have greatly suffered from it as well. He's been in and out of addition, in and out of jail/prison, and recently has gone back to jail for drug possession again. And this was the last I could take, after everything we've been through. I have compassion for him, and still will be his friend, but I cannot be his wife anymore. This hurts so much - I invested so much of myself into him and our relationship all these years, tried to be the best wife, and I've lost myself. I know divorcing and moving on is the best for me and our son, even though it is very painful. I am looking forward to healing, and building a life that is good for me and my son. I am looking forward to peace and freedom. And I'm looking forward to one day having a real, healthy relationship with a strong, whole, healthy man who will love me and my son. Thanks for sharing your story. 💛

[@ald2253]

❤

[@654ujala]

Addiction is something a person never overcomes. I divorced my exhusband because of these issues. I didn’t have any children with him so the situation was different. My advice to you is to have compassion for him from afar. You cannot be his friend; you need to just be his ex wife so you can move forward with your life. You couldn’t fix him when you were married, you won’t be able to fix him now.

[@PC-yk9ix]

I agree with both of you. I’m a guy who never had these issues but it’s all over the place. Terrible. I see two beautiful smiling faces so you have a lot going for you! I guess it’s not easy but you can do it!

[@starrebirth88]

I just wanted to share that i was in the same boat as you when i separated from my ex husband in 2020 thinking that he would change if he’s “out in our life” as his consequence. Guess what, years passed and he is still in denial of his addiction. Our divorce was just approved last year in December. Can’t describe the feeling at the time. It was freeing but also something inside me is grieving. I am 33 now with 2 kids I solely raise. There are days when it’s lonely. I sometimes would still get jealous of other families but it definitely gets better. ❤

[@lindayee024]

Thank you for your transparency, your strength and your wisdom ❤I went through something similar .I got married young at 22 and left that toxic relationship and now I’m remarried to the love of my life! I’m 36 years old now and a proud mom and I never regret that decision I made.

[@meciesmoments6550]

I am so very proud of you, Erica! As a divorce attorney, I am all too familiar with the all-out wars and then the peace that comes after divorce! Sending light and all my love to you and Clark! God bless you now and always! Keep your head up! Keep going! xoxo

[@ResaReckless]

Happy to see you back. I have been there, starting over with a little one is tough but just know that baby sees you and one day he’s going to thank you for choosing yourself and your happiness to be the best mommy for him ❤ cheers to you!!

[@monicabroniecki7624]

You have incredible courage and you have done what I wished I had. You are still young. I can say that because I’m 65years old. Was concerned because there were no posts for a while. Really looking forward to your future content. You’re a good person and you’re amazing.

[@Airys01]

You’ve made it through 100% of EVERYTHING that has happened in your life! How powerful is that?! You are amazing and that sweet boy is so blessed to have you as his mommy! They say that God gives his toughest battle to his strongest soldiers and you are a testament to that.

[@buffy4525]

This genuinely brought tears to my eyes; tears of agony at seeing your pain and understanding your emotions (I have a similar story), and tears of joy for the freedom you now have to experience YOUR life, consciously, lovingly, and fully. Erica, you are a truly beautiful soul. You are an inspiration!

[@susieplus5]

I felt this❤ I divorced last year after 16 years. We have 5 children together, I went back to school and will graduate next year with a B.S. in Nutrition/dietetics. I've traveled, essentially got brave to do whatever the eff I wanted. Most people don't get married to divorce. It takes courage to step away from something that is harmful and unhappiness. Single motherhood is hard but at least I have peace. Proud of you and to all the women and mamas that decided it was enough. We are deserving of peace and love. And if it's doing it alone to be at peace and to love yourself then we made the right choice.❤

[@jessicacollado5380]

Erica!! Thank you first for sharing your story. We have parallel trajectories and those expectations can cause us to deviate from our true paths. This experience hurts, but then that pain is replaced with moments of joy, new memories with your loved ones and the journey of discovering yourself. Here's to a new chapter 🎉

[@vickypan5972]

I’m happy for u, brave girl! I ended a relationship that lasted for 9 years when I was 32. And I have never regretted it cos now I’m 41 and I am married to a husband who is supportive, considerate, and reliable. So really, u hv to leave a bad relationship in order to meet the right guy. Whether u are gonna hv the next relationship or not, u are now a better version of urself and u know what u want and urself more clearly. There is surely a bright future ahead of u! Wish u and ur beautiful son a happy life, go girl!

[@brendaoquin]

I’m so proud of you. You’re coming to a place in finding who you are at 35. That is something it takes many women years to get to. Go you!! And look at how brave you are! Go you!!

[@Latteintheam]

Wow, easily one of the most inspiring talks, ever. Authentic, raw, and vulnerable. What gift you have and such a great content gift for all of us. Appreciate you empowering others to feel like this is all ok.

[@missnenenguyen]

Women like you inspire so many. Sharing your story is brave and difficult. But it is so beautiful to see how happy and fulfilled you’ve become ❤ Similar to you, it took several horrible tragedies for me to find the confidence to work on my happiness above all. But like you said, it’s all worth it!!! ❤ I can’t wait to see what your next chapters will look like.

[@miared]

Been watching you since my senior year of high school and I’m now almost 30. I know what you mean by feeling societal pressure to achieve milestones by a certain time. You inspire me Erica, and thank you for continually sharing your life with us. I’m rooting for you!! 😊❤❤

[@BoolaHoola]

It’s not a failed marriage but a successful divorce

[@BobbyEdwards-bu9lx]

its a failed marriage lmao

[@chuachua-hj9zd]

Wow good use of words.

[@yaimarip]

You are awesome! These things happen. Nothing harder and more satisfying than being a mother. Just that gives you that super strength. Blessings to you.

[@A.T.0s]

Omg I got out of 6 year relationship at 35 and it was the best thing ever. I feel sooo at peace now and found my true self! Good for you!

[@gems8440]

Sending you lots of strength to you and your son 💕. I got divorced and never looked back - best decision ever to change the course of my life. Go you!!! Here’s to your future 🙌 xx

[@sharongibson1161]

Single Mom of 2, 25 years post divorce 🎉 Never been happier😊❤

[@cherrykindstedt7051]

this is the first video i've seen of yours, but I see your growth and empowerment through the trials and tribulations. Extremely empowering for those that go through super hard times, including the "embarrassment" of divorce when you're asian and have put your life online. I'm really happy for you that you came through the other side. You did good

[@clarity1984]

The intro of this video hit home. I hear you, I went through the same at 37. I will be 40 in two weeks, looking back in wonder (and shudders as well TBH) as everything that's transpired. But we are here, starting anew, strong women, great mommas, doing our very best every day. I honor you and your courage, thanks for sharing your story with us.

[@gastronomee_]

rooting for you! i've been following your content for a few years now, and you've always been a source of inspriation - like an older sister. in fact - you're part of the reason why i started this new account! in any case, you've got us in your corner. cheers to you!

[@Whoa_Nisha]

I’m 34 and a single mom to 3 kids under 8. And I’m loving my life now than ever! ❤ I love being in my 30’s to where you know exactly what you want, no more wasting time girl. You deserve it all 😄🙌🏽🩷

[@jinnapark2194]

We're close in age, though I have not yet become a mother--your stories resonate with me in finding who you are, fighting against everything we were programmed as asian woman. I laughed and cried alongside you watching this, Erica! You are so so strong and as an outside watcher and follower of many years, I want to say I am SO excited for you to create this next chapter of your life, YOUR way!!!

[@nikitacraig600]

Thank you for sharing. This is going to help so many women make that decision to leave or start over. I am a mom of two and I tell you, your child or children will push you to make those changes because you are now living for them. I wish you only the best going forward. To a happy and healthy life; you deserve it. ❤❤❤

[@Criticris]

I’m about to turn 30 and have been in a slump lately. I feel very identified with your story ❤

[@Whatsmyname567]

I'm almost 39 going through a rough divorce right now. It's terrifying yet amazing how you can look back and not recognize the person you were in that marriage. Sending love ❤❤❤

[@minecraftplayslmg9608]

Your story sounds exactly as my story and you could not express it more eloquently. I ended up remarrying 4 years after my divorce, with my true love walked down the isle with my son and I am now 51 and thank every single day my 33 year old self that had the courage to make that decision and now my son is 21 and we both agree that it was the hardest and best decision I ever made. ID embrace your new life.

[@imeredithc]

Thanks Erica for sharing your story! I’m so happy you are thriving and so empowered now. Your story is also validating to me as a 27 year old woman who has been mostly single but focused on my goals and happiness. I’ve had a lot of low moments questioning whether I’ve had my priorities straight due to the constant societal pressure to have been married and have kids by now.

[@End_of_Time2027]

Hi Erika, The way you feel divorced is the way I feel being married these seventeen years. I've never felt better and freer and safer with my best friend!👍 Best wishes in your new journey with baby in tow.☺️

[@blueseptember2174]

A toxic abusive spouse can really drag you down. Sounds like you got one of the good guys ❤

[@monsterbride4615]

I like how you said I GET to reinvent myself (something along those lines). Shows you are truly embracing the growth mindset and not seeing it as a hindrance.

[@veronicasmemories]

Wow, this put so much into perspective. I met this guy when I was 22 and broke up by 25. Obviously we talked about marriage and I was bummed I hadn't hit that milestone. I also felt so dumber wasting 3 years of my life with someone who made me less happy every day but luckily at the time I was able to think well it could be worse it could be 4 or even 5 years. Looking back on it everything that has happened since the break up has been awesome, especially getting to know myself again 💕

[@isabelcantu4474]

I’m 35 also and I feel like this age is the time where we have worked hard to be where we are and we have a long road ahead (god willing) and I find myself feeling “old” around people in their 20’s but watching this video is such a testament to how freeing and awesome it is to be 35 and see the world in a much more practical yet positive light. Your wisdom is growing and it’s already showing. Thanks for sharing your story 😊

[@MelanieD635]

Thankful to have come across your channel. I am 48, just got divorced after 21 yrs. Single mom two teenagers. You said so many things in your video that I have said or thought too. Im looking forward to binge watching more of your videos!!

[@PC-yk9ix]

Great encouragement MelanieM!! You (and all women) deserve your best life!!

[@dr.danalabat]

Would you be open to an interview sharing what your experience has been through divorce and having teenagers?

[@Varellaau]

Such amazing strength you have! It’s a heartbreaking journey and to know that you will be spreading healing in abundance to all of us here on this wonderful platform. ❤

[@PC-yk9ix]

You’re sending such great advice! You (and all women) deserve to live your best life!!! Who needs a stupid annoying guy laying around the house annoying you!! 😋 (and this is coming from a guy!!) enjoy your new freedom!!

[@sandraalonzo]

I love you!! I needed to hear this. Going through a divorce after 27 years.

[@seaha9256]

Girl, this was such an inspirational video!! You didn’t let materialistic things and a fake façade get in the way of living a free, peaceful and happy life!! Sooooo happy for you!!

[@lyn2669]

Thanks for doing this video. This video gives everyone who are going through the process a lot of courage and reminder that we as woman are stronger than we think.

[@anastaciad5119]

Thank you so much for being sooo honest! I feel like so many people due to family or culture has to walk by there standards. Not their own. I am 38 and I do feel like at 35 you’re truly growing and in the 30’s is when most people should get married so I do have a lot of friends who had been divorced and are now with partners they know they want to grow old with. I personally went from being a hustler single mom for years and now that I’m married to my second husband I now want to be a stay at home mother. Just know things change in life all the time. Ladies learn to love and grow with and in every season in your life. Give yourself a good amount of grace and remember no one knows everything and the things you do know teach the next generation of women to help them. ❤❤❤

[@sphoul]

Love this for you!!! Thank you for sharing. I went through my own divorce journey not that long ago and can empathize with all of what you said. I felt I had completely lost myself and then as I was finding myself I realized I had no idea what my style was. I worked with a personal stylist. She helped me figure out my style and empowered me to shop on my own. It felt great to be able to embrace my body and love myself again ❤ thank you again!

[@iLilahn]

Many years ago I followed you bc of your eye for fashion. Though throughout the years my personal style has changed and no longer aligns with yours, I am still glad I have been a subscriber and have watched you go through life. In many ways you feel like an internet big sister to me, as I’m nearly a decade younger I have always viewed you as an empowering and loving woman, so it comes as a surprise that you were so deeply struggling with realizing your self worth. Of course, social media is where most only display their facade of happiness and success, it’s only understandable you acted accordingly. I am rooting for you in this next chapter in your life! I have no doubt you’re now on this path to unlock this next level of finding your true identity and creating a life you are truly proud to live and love Thank you for sharing your life with us and being vulnerable. You continue to be someone all can look up to. As a fellow Asian American woman, seeing you break the mold of what success is defined to be is incredibly inspiring Happy (belated) 35th Erica! Looking forward to watching you bloom 🌸

[@Babybecks143]

I feel you! Babies are such blessings if you let them be, they completely reprioritize your life. I have never worked harder yet been more fulfilled, happier, and actually full of self-love. I’m glad you’re doing wonderful!

[@michellebabcock7794]

Been here since the beginning. You can totally see the light in your eyes! Wow, what a journey and what an amazing grasp on the situation you were able to have at each point. Each moment of realization and then growth! Very excited for you. True inner peace ! Amen 🙏🏼

[@Katice634]

Your story resonated with me so well. I’m a single boy mom of a 5year old. I will never forget that moment of hearing his cry. Went through a traumatic break up but having my son gave me the strength to leave. No regrets. Just lessons. I’m 36 but I feel like my life is just beginning.

[@TriciaDrury-v3s]

Just found you on accident looking at Nordstrom sale and I love this post. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. I just divorced too after 20 years and left my high paying hospital job. I'm rebuilding too. I'll continue to follow you because this did resonate.

[@sylvanajoyce3185]

I feel you so hard. I hit rock bottom a couple of times in the last couple of years but hoooo I am a frickin’ Phoenix, and my peace/freedom/creativity/son/family is what I am FERAL for. I am happy you are claiming your life, healing, and sharing the journey with us. Thank you ❤

[@PC-yk9ix]

That’s great encouragement SylvanaJoyce! You are a pretty impressive human and talented as well. You (and all the other women) deserve the best!

[@Nomakeupmama]

I'm literally feeling this exact way at 31 (with 3 little kids). So much freedom and gratitude, knowing I am valued and worthy. Except I am still going through the legal system and the divorce. The no control and stress is real. Figuring out coparenting is ridiculously scary. Going from being a stay-at-home mom to being the primary financial resource and being mom. The stress is real. Good on you for letting go. Sometimes you don't have a choice. Staying IS worse in some situations. When someone doesn't want to change you can't make them change. If they are mentally and emotionally abusive, you do not deserve to be treated that way. period.

[@roarul]

I hope you are aware how brave you are to be this honest. Your video story is very inspirational. Thank you for sharing your life journey and knowledge. Lots of love and blessings! ♥♥♥♥♥

[@natachajospitre5608]

I’m so proud of your growth. Enjoy the Beauty while you are growing. The journey is the prize. Keep sharing your journey as a series called finding me or loving all of me. We are like flowers, we grow then bloom. Eventually our soils needs to be replaced or we need to be replanted. You have now replanted yourself for your growth and new blossoming journey. Every season this happens. Yours is now. Excited to see you grow and blossom. Stay blessed. Peace and blessings. ❤

[@claudiatamas8358]

Have been a follower of yours for 10 years, never left a comment, but this video spoke so much to me. I am 36, I have 2 beautiful children and I got divorced 2 years ago. It was the hardest thing I ever did , but the best thing I could do for myself. I related to every word you said so much I shared some tears listening to you speak. I am so happy you found your power and wish you all the best! Kisses from Romania

[@ktlktl0913]

Your journey resonates with me so much, you are not alone. I cant wait to see your new content! And more importantly, how much you grow from this, i can already tell its going to be an amazing new life ✨ I would love to continue seeing more of your glow up journey and all the things youve learned along the way.

[@jillianlee274]

Thank you for describing going to therapy and experiencing shame, guilt, etc. I am there now, struggling, and I do appreciate your honesty.

[@acardoza86]

You sound so much happier the last time I watched you! During the last Nsale I honestly wanted to reach out and give you a hug because I could tell your usual spark just wasn’t there. So proud of your journey and we honestly will watch anything you do as long as you are truly yourself! Cheers to 35 mama! ❤

[@Julie-hn7gw]

We all put a lot of pressure on ourselves,but you will do great,now you know what you want❤❤i am happy you are back..

[@kailamcd]

I turn 35 this year, I'll have been divorced almost 3 years by my birthday. I didn't have the courage to leave, but I eventually had the guts to tell him to go and think things through. He wanted out because he thought he'd found better. He left when our youngest was 1 month old. I am so grateful to not be married to him anymore. I'm not dating, being single has been to wonderful. Eventually I hope I'll have the kind of companionship I want, but he's gonna have to be better than being alone which is a high bar to clear!

[@mrsamirza4392]

Have a 18 month old and want to leave too but can't find d courage to do so ,left him once and went back after he went for therapy and thought he was a changed person boy I was wrong and regret getting back every second of my life 😢

[@izzylove89]

THANK YOU SO MUCH for sharing your story. I have a similar story and I don't feel so alone now!! It takes so much courage to choose your own path, Rather than the path society expects of you. I applaud all the single moms out there carving their own path. You are the strongest humans on the planet. Love to all 💞

[@stylebyliberty3683]

I would love to hear how you process and struggle through just being a woman and mother in this world. Not necessarily Momvlogs… more self reflection… self growth, challenges, self correction… planning… motivation. As a late thirties mom and woman reentering the workforce and doing it on my terms (happily married), there are so many interesting aspects that I don’t feel many people discuss in open platforms like this. Also can’t wait to see how you reconnect with your style and find your footing in this world. Sending Love! ❤️

[@charlottemakala2106]

Thank you for sharing this. I feel like I am also starting from scratch in my 30s but in a different way. I love how you shared that its all about how not letting the external define you. I'm rooting for you to continue thriving!!

[@angelicrobles6292]

My heart and prayers for you and your son. ❤ You have so much more to look forward to! At any point in life where you feel that you've lost it all, and are left with nothing, please don't underestimate how powerful that nothing is--- now you have more room to grow into who you truly are. 🥰 More room to discover and re-discover so much of what life and awful systems can suppress. ✨ I am wishing you a wonderful 2024 to bring this fresh start to the table, and of course, to enjoy this new beginning you are building. 😎

[@amberful]

Stumbled upon your look book but this video is why I subscribed! Loving the empowerment and the inspiration! Can’t wait to watch this journey unfold for you! ❤

[@barbarabrown7164]

You go, girl! So eloquently expressed! We are all behind you.

[@leenanarak]

Hey Erika! Just wanted to say, your journey from a tough, long-lasting divorce to now embracing life with peace is truly inspiring. Your strength and resilience shine through, and it's been amazing watching you bloom. Sending you so much positive energy on this beautiful new chapter! Keep shining 🌸💪✨

[@ShannonAmmon-oy3xd]

So happy to see you again! so happy to see how confident you are. Congratulations for making it through a very difficult decision and time. Looking forward to all of your upcoming content.!!!! XO

[@Buaastroctyes]

I grew up watching your videos! Sorry about your divorce but it’s a blessing :) a woman can do amazing things on her own. I’m almost 30 & single not married. ❤

[@sherryfang4320]

We have such similar story. I got an accounting degree because I wanted to please my dad, got an education degree because I wanted to please my mom and determined to marry and have kid by 30. By 35, I woke up and truly look at myself and think about what I WANT. I got divorce that year, became a single mom, started my business all at the same time. 5 years after, I went through 3 plus years of court to make sure I have my daughter's custody and got a director level of job at a respected company. It's been hell of a self discovery but man it was worth it. Congrats!!!! You are such an inspiration and can't wait to see what you will accomplish next.

[@susanvarughese3283]

I get you gal! I started over when i was 34. I moved country with my daughter. No support system in place.I survived it all. I believe motherhood makes you strong.

[@tuna4483]

Thank you SO much, I mean SO SO MUCH for sharing your story. It really helped me through my tough times

[@mantra4ia]

Content I need: more of this. Passion, compassion, gratitude, self-inventory, perspective taking, love, and 🔥. Congratulations on reclaiming yourself, your story, your love. It really was something I needed to hear.

[@ceejee85]

Wow... Thank you for sharing you're story. I really needed this as I'm going through the same thing. Single mom at 38 with an almost 4 year old and walking away from a very toxic relationship. I would love to see more videos like this ❤

[@missfrosty98]

i have never seen a video of yours and never heard of you, but this video really made me fall in love! something about your story and your personality really resonates with you. thank you for sharing.

[@priscilacobradore4049]

You go, girl! So happy to watch this video and not only see, but feel how free and happy you really are!

[@lcheinz]

Congratulations! We never know where life is going to take us I'm starting over at 65 years young as a widow. You just never know God's plan. Have a beautiful life.

[@rebeccaly]

Erica, thank you so much for sharing this with us. Such grace, courage, and beauty you are. I really appreciate your vulnerability. You sound so healed and confident. So much love for you!! ❤❤❤

[@jenlv_]

So proud of you! ❤ 3 years since my divorce and I am so proud of the life I am living! 🙏 God always making things happen!

[@dandeliondoodles]

I’ve been patiently waiting for you to come back 🥹♥️ thank you for being so honest and thank you for sharing your journey with us. Love you girl! ♥️

[@YvonneYam]

You are a brave woman and you got through this whole phase of life stronger than ever. Looking forward to your reinvention. 💕😊

[@atxbrowqueen]

You’re glowing & im here for it 🩷🩷

[@apleat1]

My God, what a powerful video of resilience and strength.