Starting over at 40 

My husband and I have decided to separate and I want to document and share this experience because I think it will help other people realize, they’re not alone it’s okay to start over again. We are both in a good place. We both are supporting each other. We just knew it was the right thing to do. I hope everybody will join me on this new journey 

[@TheKneadyHomesteader]

Here to pour love and prayers over you....your future....your new direction on your channel. I am so sorry about Snowflake. About your Dad. Your marriage. Loss. Grief. It's shatters you....but from broken pieces a beautiful mosaic can be made....full of light and reflection. New chapter in your book of life. God bless you, friend. And congrats on your new apartment! It's beautiful.....and it's all yours!

[@Gardeninginpearls]

Oh Heather you know of what you speak. Beautiful words. ❤

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you for that.

[@Gardeninginpearls]

You’ve got this! I had brain trauma at 23, started over. My boyfriend died at 27, started over. Hit by another drunk driver at 33, started over. After 24 years of educational recidivism at 45 I finished my BA… 46 I was widowed after a 117 day marriage. Needless to say started over and last year at 61 my man of 14 years passed after a 15 month fight with cancer so here I am at 62 starting over. You are not alone, you are seeing a counselor! Self care is imperative. If I can do it and see the optimistic joy in a moment each day so can you. Love and blessings dear one. ❤

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Oh my. Thank you for sharing that! That’s a lot of starting over. I’m sorry to hear all that. Yes I’ve been in counselling for the last three years. And don’t plan of stopping. It is really helpful.

[@janeb7612]

Just hang in there. A lot of us have "been there, done that." Not gonna lie to you, there will be some dark days ahead. But there will eventually be more bright days than dark! But you gotta hang in there! Prayers!

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

I’m not looking forward to the dark days. Thank you

[@debbyplank2189]

A rock and a hard spot with a beautiful flower on the other side. Everyone is here, even for an emotional walk. Hugs to you my dear, hang in there.

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you

[@scratchkitchen8422]

I had to do this a few years ago. With a ten year old daughter. You can do this.

[@tlfromva]

You displayed a lot of courage posting this. May that courage help you as you move forward into this next phase. Prayers, best wishes and hugs to you.

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you for that. It wasn’t a easy decision to post this video, and I made sure I had his consent before I posted this video, and as he said, it may be our story, but your journey

[@copperpenny0209]

Sending hugs. You have a lot going on, but one day you'll feel settled and will be celebrating your decision. It's better to start over at 40 rather than later on.

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

I will be very busy for the next bit. But it will all pay off in the end

[@lesleyhoban6559]

Tu for sharing I'm 71 and seriously thinking I'm ready to be alone ... my thoughts r with u

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you. I understand what you mean

[@lin1038]

Wishing all the best…and I’m sorry about Snowflake…you can do this! Please post what you can when you can…you will have lots and lots of support from us! 💞

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you so much!

[@shelly7391]

Sis... hugs to you. I was 50 at that point. Change is very scary but once you get your bearings you're going to be so fine.... Better than ever! Take this time and get to know yourself in your new walk. Take your time, no rush. Just breathe when things get heavy. Cry when you need to. Be patient and kind with yourself. Life is so much better. I'm proud of your strength and courage. It's not easy but you've got this. Praying for you, Sis. Hugs.

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you! Just breathe is tattooed on my forearm to remind me. I keep looking down at it. It’s helpful. I’m sure I will cry once I’m fully moved in. But learning to be patient with myself will not be easy

[@activistgranny2.066]

It will be the adventure of your life. Enjoy it!

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

It really will be

[@carolstrickland6979]

First- Hugs. Being by yourself for the first time is wonderful and scary. I like going to a movies and going to out to eat by myself. I usually take a book. I learned to enjoy my own company. I talk to myself, the house, etc. Enjoy yourself. I am glad you have support. Many blessings.

[@brendastratton1306]

I’m sorry you are going through this, but I know you can do it. I started over at 19, after my husband left me and our 1-year old daughter. I can’t say it wasn’t without its bumps, but we did fine. Then I met and married the love of my life, and we had an amazing 52 years together, and 3 additional children. He passed away in September of 2022 from brain cancer, and I started over again at age 70. I wish with all my heart that things had been different, but I am doing well now. I’ve got this. You’ve got this. We will both be fine. Sending you lots of love and prayers that your journey forward is filled with all things bright and beautiful. ❤️

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you for sharing that. I know it’s going to be hard. But wroth it in the end

[@brendastratton1306]

@@wholesome.heartfelt It will be. ❤

[@lorim.8136]

I was just thinking about you a few days ago while I was canning and wondering if you were going to come back. It’s so nice to see you again 😊. You got this girl 💪🏼

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you!

[@Beautiful_Days9249]

You got this. I thought I would never make it leaving an abuser 21 years ago, but I made and have been single and taking care of myself and my daughter who will be 24. I made it. One day at a time.

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you for sharing that! One day at a time. I like that.

[@lindakeyes9709]

I just turned 63 and have.been through a few start overs. It can be scary sometimes frustrating when its all on your shoulders but also exciting and new you get to find you. So enjoy the process. You got this.

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you so much!

[@jacintheandrews4985]

What your going through is hard regardless of how amicable. You'll be ok. Be strong. Allow yourself to grieve the end of your partnership. Its a big change. Take care.

[@rhondaholt76]

WELCOME BACK. YOU were missed.

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you!

[@catherinehatt1224]

Sending squishy hugs. You got this. It may not be the chapter in your book that you wanted but you can craft it to the way you need. We all have to re-invent our lives to bring out the best, if there is no change there is no personal growth. I believe in you!

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you. I don’t think it’s a chapter I didn’t want. It’s an ending I didn’t expect. And the 2nd copy will be exciting and full of new stories.

[@Fritz0616]

Awe..brought tears to my eyes watching and listening to you -as it’s a mourning process and a total make over of what once was your life but I have no doubt your a strong woman with various skills under your belt that you will be okay..Hugs..

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you for that!

[@tiggerbouncing797]

so good to see you again,Hang in there and take 1 day at a time life sucks sometimes and you have to do the best of what you have at the time.We are here to support you in your time of need

[@janew5351]

Wish you the best, with school, great hair, lucky to find an apt.

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you. Yeah I did happen to luck out on that.

[@69ferfer]

Im so sorry to hear about your separation! It has to be one of the toughest things to go through ❤

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you. Thankfully we knew we make better friends now. So that part makes it easier.

[@thetruckerskitchen772]

If I can start over and make it, anyone can!

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you for saying that

[@leghornlife]

Im so glad you have a lot of support, you will do just fine! ❤

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you so much!

[@AngiesPantry58]

You got this.. Big hugs my friend.

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you!

[@a.minah_c3516]

Hi, it’s sooo nice to see you, how true your words are (you never know ) so so absolutely true . This life can be happy ,sad ok boring exiting or blah and you just never know what to expect. Things have happened to me that I would never of imagined ever and I had no choice but to deal with it and thank god it’s been ok . Some days are harder than others but we fight and we go to sleep and start over again. I hope you achieve everything you want and more god willing xx like you said take care of yourself xx

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you. I don’t plan on settling

[@terrijenkin4657]

Hi. Im so glad you have support. Use it. Here if you need to talk. Hope to see you again soon.

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you!

[@terrisambuco6300]

You have this! You can shape your life as you like! What type of self care are you looking at doing?

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you for that. I do a lot of meditation, reflection, grounding, and crafting For my care.

[@yvonnevance7159]

Sending you love and prayers 💚💚

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Thank you

[@jeanninebooth6415]

Hugs...become a butterfly

[@wholesome.heartfelt]

Oh I been working on that

[@Carol_Pearson]

When I went through my divorce, one of my friends and I were discussing that there should be a gift registry for the recently separated folks to help them get set up at a new place. Hang in there. You got this.