Stay At Home Parents | Can Ask Meh?

[@tanyapillay15]

Lawrence (the father) is not just a stay at home dad, he's a full time caregiver to a person with special needs and that is a WHOLE different ball game. So so respectable and inspiring! I hope he finds a better emotional support system because it seems to be quite an issue for him. Most people don't realise but caregivers, in my opinion anyway, actually require more help and support than their charges.

[@lawrenceng1743]

Thank you! I learned so much from my son, and made so many mistakes. I would do this all over again if we could turn back the clock

[@BlackGrapes]

@@lawrenceng1743 OGS should do an ep on autism and caregivers of children with it. I'm curious to hear more about these stories.

[@lawrenceng1743]

@@BlackGrapes that'll be good

[@einom1236]

@@lawrenceng1743 sending you all the best wishes from Lithuania. You're very admirable and doing great! Keep going!

[@mingjie8741]

I feel for the dad. He should not feel bad that he is not the breadwinner of the family. He is also doing a great job by taking care of his son. I can feel his love by the fact that he is making sure he knows his sons interest. Salute to him.

[@akashveersingh528]

Society might make him feel useless fam

[@viet862]

The first thing I did is to post this in my FB as an encouragement to other stay at home parent and second thing, to my friend who takes care of her autistic child. What I feel as a home parent? Many women tell me how lucky I am and then what do I do at home 😑. Some women tell me how challenging she is as a working mother. Many women do not think I hv a higher education being a home mother. But usually men appreciates a home mother. Same goes to a mother who breastfeed publicly without hesitation when the baby cries for food. I find fathers and men appreciate seeing a child being breastfed in public without feeling shame for the mother. Salute to all home parents. Though it is challenging physically and esp. emotionally.. it is a very rewarding “career” if both spouse are supportive of each other

[@viet862]

Sorry ... this comment should be for the public comment section.

[@lawrenceng1743]

Thank you so much! I make so many mistakes. But I get up and keep moving forward. Seeing his sense of independence improves makes it all worth it

[@lawrenceng1743]

Thank you! You are very kind.

[@alyciaang9218]

Takes a village to raise a child, much less a child with autism. I've seen firsthand some of the sacrifices that parents of kids with autism have to make. For the father in red who gave up his job to emotionally support his wife and care for his son... you're amazing.

[@lawrenceng1743]

Totally agree with you! It takes a village. We are very glad eventually my son was enrolled into Pathlight after 5 years of homeschooling

[@zahraali7905]

The father that is staying home parent is a hero ,the way he is very Passionate about his son is so beautiful

[@lawrenceng1743]

Thank you. I learned that every parent is a hero in their own respect, especially those with physical and/or mental disabilities. So much hardwork

[@abcdefghijklmumford]

You can give birth to another healthy child. Who will be the natural caregiver of his/her special sibling. Then your job is done. Every parent does that. Imagine if the parents pass away, who will be the natural caregiver of the special child ? Think FAR

[@abcdefghijklmumford]

Even healthy siblings look out for each other. Love grows and multiplies. Believe 💫 One candle 🕯 can light up a dark room. Two candles 🕯 🕯 also light up the dark room. Siblings have different personalities and always have something to teach each other.

[@wennytan602]

How can stay at home parents give no contribution financially? They are the financial manager at home. They control the cash flow. What have we buy for our meal, how to minimize our electricity bill, everything about kiss and home. This is my view. They don't give you the input but they manage the input so you can have good output.

[@wennytan602]

*kids i mean not kiss

[@Anticlimacticwhale]

That actually makes alot of sense

[@katelynbendinsky5080]

I protect at least $2000 in our budget because that’s the minimum for daycare in my area

[@ESCL2004]

Also, a stay at home parent / spouse fills in so many roles that the working spouse would otherwise need to hire outside help without them.

[@ronne4554]

“I eat noodle then it fall down” I cried.. laughing. so interesting HAHAHAHA

[@unwantedGiberish]

I feel so irritated at the part where they were excluded because they have kids. If my friends have kids, and they wanna bring them, go ahead, I'd love to meet your little ones.

[@lawrenceng1743]

Some people just do, each to their own, no judgement when we were excluded, that's reality

[@lizprice8783]

I was like you, I openly made friends with people who had kids. But when I had my own, they pushed me away. They only wanted to be friends when I could babysit and support their family unit. Be careful who you chose to be kind to and when you do, don't expect it to be reciprocated. Knowing that would have saved me a lot of heartbreak.

[@zipperdeedoodah8616]

I lost it when Lawrence shared about the sprained ankle. Amazing how his love empowered him to soldier on.

[@robkemp7291]

The dad understood what most Mums are doing; grit and move on disregarding own discomfort. Not a lot of Dads understand this cause it’s mostly work sacrifices not physically being there for someone.

[@LittlePanda888]

Our patriachal society can be harsher to stay-at-home dads compared to moms given how it is wired. However, it must have been a tough decision to make to become a stay-at-home dad/mom and making your family one of your foremost priority, as it can be both rewarding and painful. Bravo to all for their courage!

[@MacFizz]

Just a suggestion: Please have the question at the top of the screens for easy reference! I find myself forgetting the question after 1 person has finished talking...

[@pakeechuloh]

I love this specific cast of stay at home parents. All had different experiences and seemed so genuinely supported by their significant others. I personally do not have children...but to see couples working together is a beautiful thing. Great job everyone.

[@rohania.b1855]

I'm single and a stay-at-home-daughter. I am my mother's companion and take care of her. I help her with housechores, go marketing and grocery shopping with my mother. I accompany her to her medical appointments and outings. She enjoys cooking and eating out occasionally. My sister is the sole breadwinner. Even if both siblings work full-time, we cannot afford to employ a helper. Over the years of bonding and being together, my mother and I are now best friends 😁👍

[@lalaland8112]

This is so beautiful, as a working mother, let me tell you, we feel no different. The society, shames you for leaving your kid behind. My husband was not working when I got pregnant and when he informed my mother in law about my pregnancy, first thing she said, couldn't you wait to find a job first and hung up. I was determined to never ask anyone for help in raising my kid in anyway. My husband found a job when my son was 1.5yr old, it was partly deliberate and I never felt he was doing any less work by choosing to stay home. It is tough to shed those gender stereotypes. Do what is best for your family. All the beautiful people here, warm up my heart.

[@retrorider7521]

something about sophia's voice that was really calm to listen to.

[@smallishcookies]

Sounded slightly australian

[@순두부찌개한개]

my dad is a stay at home parent. He raised me and my brother. Growing up, people always ask me what my father do and I said he is a stay at home parent. They would always ask me why he isn't the working one. I don't know WHO made it compulsory that the stay at home parent cannot be the patriach of the family? WHERE and which part of the law said so?

[@charmaine702]

A heartfelt "Thank You" for covering our profession! A unique profession that cannot take leave, no off, no MC (it is a common joke among SAHM-SAHD 🤭) BUT comes in bountiful of joy!

[@Buttongeens]

Normasrifah Yusoff i agree! Thank you for this episode! So relatable!!! Social life? Whats that? Can eat anot? Whats sick? Lol the whole family can fall sick but us. Still gotta get our job done 😆

[@Kenneth-mk1vh]

We should have more stay-at-home dads! More pro-family policies!

[@lawrenceng1743]

Totally!

[@hahalove47]

Having a parent at home with the kids is so great for them. It doesnt matter if it's the mom or dad. The kids never care. They're just happy to have a parent there with them.

[@stayathomemarine]

I totally agree wholeheartedly with having better family policies. However, I think it would be difficult for my husband to stay home considering he isn't able to breastfeed our babies 😝

[@Kenneth-mk1vh]

@@stayathomemarine Maybe a switch after your babies grow up? ;p

[@lawrenceng1743]

@@stayathomemarine I bottle fed the breast milk that was pumped and stored. Non issue. But nothing beats the real thing

[@ht6856]

Hats off to all of them for being so selfless! And Sophia is so very eloquent!

[@Gehslol]

Awwww why doesn't the dad have a support circle, like grandparents/aunts/uncles 😭😭😭😭

[@lawrenceng1743]

Most men are chasing their careers and no time for socialization, I guess...

[@daljitkaur7787]

@@lawrenceng1743 This is an excellent point u brought across.. You must know u are doing a great job Mr Ng!

[@lawrenceng1743]

@@daljitkaur7787 Thank you so much.

[@replyjessica]

Not everyone is lucky to have people offering help… many parents have to deal with the daily things alone with no additional support from others :(

[@juniperjane9582]

Well done to ALL of you. I was a single parent who went back to work full time when my children were 7, 10 and 13. Life was busy but it was easier than being at home. If I had had to do one more six week holiday refereeing squabbling children, feeding their friends and driving them to activities , I would have resigned.

[@exciteart]

I fell you Dad in red shirt, i was just like you. So i made this choice as freelance illustrator, create my channel, and does things in art. There always be ups and down. But i love the way that i could spend my life with my family

[@lawrenceng1743]

thank you bro! If we could turn back time, I would choose to do this all over again. kudos to you too. Tell me your story....

[@esincupcake]

It’s interesting to see the insight of the male perspective on this because I think it points out what some women feel but can’t put into words since taking care for children has always been put upon females. But I guess it’s also harder on the social aspect for men at home. In the end all their friends don’t experience that same lifestyle. It is very hard to talk about who has to stay home (and if one does have to stay at home at all; lately there have been other options!). But I can see why this is a big topic and discussion that has to be held.

[@lawrenceng1743]

there are too few men who is willing to take the plunge, for obvious reasons

[@DevniDharmawansa]

My mother is a stay at home mom, I asked her whether regret it once cause she sometimes worry about not being financially independent...she said I look at you two and think it’s all worth it... cause if it wasn’t for her I don’t we will be who we are today... as a child it’s blessing to have such a parent who is always there for you as soon as you go home...they become more than a parent..they become your best friend!

[@lydiat5819]

I find staying at home to look after the family full time is more challenging than being in the workforce while taking care of family "part time". You cannot take a break no matter what, even when sick or just sprained your ankle because you usually don't get help else where whether you are a man or woman. I feel it is the toughest job in the world. Yet, in parties, women do not receive any applause for saying bringing up children is their proudest achievement while others like a one time scaling a mountain receives thunderous applause.

[@80schunkaymunkay]

I have so much respect for these parent’s but ESPECIALLY for the “stay at home dad”. He is a hero! It’s not just simply a stay at home dad he is caring for his autistic son. This is really different. Hearing his story about when he sprained his ankle brought me to tears. I hope you can make a group for dads at home with autistic children where you can have the support within your area. You are an awesome guy and what you’ve done for your son is more than any money a job could have done! 💚

[@lawrenceng1743]

Thank you so much! It is what every man would do. Every parent is a hero in their own respect! I am very happy with my son's progress. I would do this again.

[@80schunkaymunkay]

@@lawrenceng1743 thank you so much for your reply! I am not sure every man will do that. You are one in a million! 💚

[@kcan4398]

@@80schunkaymunkay In the ancient days, people do practise child sacrifices for whatever reasons. In the modern days, sad to say, "child-sacrifices" are still in practice, except for money wealth career, and other personal pursuits. I hope to see more men taking the lead although it is really hard in our Singapore society where dual income is the norm to main a basic lifestyle.

[@abcdefghijklmumford]

Hina M There are actually many self-sacrificial fathers.

[@ebonyloveivory]

It's truly not easy being home and managing the kids and household all the time. We forget that they hardly ever get a break away from it all. Also, Didi is hilarious omg hahahaha

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[@tommyliangwei3724]

Lawrence 45 - 1974 His Wife 44 - 1975 Their Only Son 13 - 2006 Sue 44 - 1973 Mother of 7 Children

[@trannhatquyen7463]

This series are so meaning. Love this so much

[@vanarts7]

I could relate so much when listening to the dad's thoughts and seeing his emotions. These thoughts and emotions can exist in any stay-at-home parent; it doesn't have to be a parent cum caretaker of a child with special needs. It usually happens when people had a completely different lifestyle in the past and have certain values that are forced to be changed when entering the life of a stay-at-home parent. It's easier for some who are flexible while extremely tough for others who hold on to their principles. The mental support of the life partner plays an important role.

[@priyarewa8337]

Lawrence you are a hero. Dont give up ... I am sure you are an inspiration to many other parents out there as well.

[@factisfact9426]

Respect to all the full time parent❤️

[@Honeymagmangospoof]

Love this series! Please keep it coming!!

[@amandam2181]

I just want to give Lawrence a hug, what a good man

[@ReenaHamad]

please make an episode about adopted children. I'd love to share my story ❤️

[@rachelshuxin]

This was so good. So many gems and different perspectives ❤️ thank you so much for the quality content

[@MayMay-wr6pn]

It is definitely not easy to take care of a special needs kid all alone. My son is autistic too, and he is very difficult when he was younger, and I felt so bad that I had to go to work. Kudos to the father to take the sacrifice. God bless you & your family!

[@kvanar]

"You wouldn't know what it is to lay down your life until you've had a child." Her sense of pride in being a mother is palpable and we applaud her for that. Her statement is ridiculously sweeping and obviously false. Having children is not a pre-condition for laying down your life for anyone.

[@31330496RachelYang]

Joseph Kalai She is probably just talking about her own experience/reflection. It’s an interview afterall :)

[@fennicecastielle2657]

Thank you so much for this, it helps me so much knowing I'm not alone. In the joys of stay at home parenting and the challenges, a lot of the things each of you mentioned really touched my heart.

[@srivaylan2631]

'My children are worth more than my job'. How many women of today value their career less than their families?

[@clairelim1661]

Why most people praise just the stay home dad? I think all of the stay home mums are wonder women. The things that they do may looks like what ordinary mum does, nothing special. The things that they do is no less. Kudos to all that put all their heart and soul into bringing up their children.

[@jimw8615]

It's stupid to ask about favourite parent. Don't compare the Father and Mother or tell the child to choose either one. Both of them are one, don't separate them.

[@lawrenceng1743]

I guess the questions were meant to be provocative to stir some thoughts...

[@aurathenomnom]

i'd really love to see these interviews with the spouses of Stay at Home spouses/parents

[@szeliangtan4759]

exactly how does a mother of two suppose to look like? I get that all the time, people are so insensitive and rude. Stay at home parent works 24/7 and we don't get paid.

[@smroc7205]

everybody has a different life situation, like fingerprints, there's always small differences that changes how we handle things, so we should stop saying "well this one did it, howcome you can't do it"...there's no such thing. Stay at home or Working parent, as long as there is love towards the whole family, it's something to be proud of already, no parent should need to explain and defend their situation anymore.

[@moonstar9555]

Shoutout to all stay at home parents!! You guys are awesomeeeeeeee!!!!

[@lawrenceng1743]

you are very kind!

[@vim92]

Kudos to stay at home dads.

[@HQ93]

The lady in the scarf, so much wisdom 💪🏼

[@abcdefghijklmumford]

The lady in the black scarf is woke

[@00Nobody99]

The woman who spoke with a slang... gives me the chills.. 😨😨

[@melxieying]

It baffles me how people could unlike this video. Did they like somehow forget that these stay-home parents are nurturing the NEXT future generation of useful members of society? Someone explain.

[@syakirahp3708]

You make a very good point!

[@blubeedoobee]

just want to get an opinion. do yall think stay-at-home parents from a middle income household should go back to the workforce when the children are old enough to take care of themselves?

[@charmaine702]

Yes, that will be great to keep the mind and body active, engaging and contribute to economy & family finances. However, I hope there will be Employers/Organization that welcomes us too - factoring our lost of time.

[@cheriesim]

Yes. The need will be different when they are older. So you can start with freelancing, part time, then full time too.

[@みお-b6r]

yes!

[@kcan4398]

Do what is best for the whole family, not just for the kids or the parents. the decision impacts the whole family and discuss it as a family. but the person who makes the final call is the parent himself or herself. there is no right and wrong decision. adjustments would need to be made along the way as time progresses.

[@abcdefghijklmumford]

Lawrence (father) is so woke 👍🏾 Father’s Day is for fathers like him.

[@samanthataylor1761]

The mum with glasses was so fucking funny and cute.

[@elyphant8626]

Why would anyone dislike this video?

[@reneecrotty6910]

I cant wait to be a stay at home mum and be a good mother and wife ♡

[@lawrenceng1743]

I am sure you gonna be a GREAT mom!

[@factisfact9426]

Respect:) you will be a great one

[@BaptisteC1995]

3:19 I totally can relate: When i was home dad take care the kid, sometimes my wife is at home too, she wouldn't allow me to take a nap, but she could allow herself to take a nap.... and since then I always feel guilty to do things. And when we were separated because of the virus, I was working hard, two jobs one full time and one part time teaching, I just wanted to go party and sometimes nap she would be mad and "having a good life" that was so frustrating...

[@fallen6667]

I’m 52 seconds in and I already liked this video. I’m only a half stay at home mom of three babies. I work PT because I’m not ready to give up my sanity and freedom just yet.

[@abcdefghijklmumford]

Stay-at-home parent really is such big sacrifice

[@beamanlangit6869]

I salute these parents especially the stay-home dad . 👊❤. .. My mom is a stay-home parent since I was 9 (it is almost a decade now) ,and I admit that I like her more than my father HAHA because we bond most of the times ,she understood me and we treat each other as best friends as well. I'm their only daughter so they (mostly my mom) always says 'I love you'and kisses me often which I did to them also . (Even though after three months,I'm turning to 19)

[@drjennyli]

Hi Lawrence!!!! I was so surprised to see you here!

[@lawrenceng1743]

Yes!!! How are you?????

[@pheobetirzah1115]

Stay at home parents are working parents.

[@samanthataylor1761]

Aw. That guy should feel guilty about napping. That sucks bro.🥺

[@rockinprincess357]

That dad is amazing!! Can we talk about how BUFF he looks!?

[@lawrenceng1743]

I wanted to model exercise and healthy eating to my son, that helps

[@abcdefghijklmumford]

The most woke parents always set example instead of just force the child to do homework 📚 when you yourself don’t want to read ONE book 📖 everyday. Or force the child to practice piano 🎹 when you yourself don’t have the discipline to practice a musical instrument every single day

[@MsRoriT]

Lawrence is a hero! ❤️

[@Irkkan]

Tbh stay home parent quite common in sg. And in some religion men must provide for the fam while women should be provided no matter what.

[@Magichuman123]

Champion dad and moms!

[@epiphadipity]

I EAT NOODLE THEN IT FALL DOWN HAHAHAHHAH SO CUTE

[@kelseywang5022]

can i just say dad in red shirt, you look fit and good :)

[@lawrenceng1743]

Thank you bro. I am past mid 40s, going towards 50

[@timamiyp]

oh my god that double ankle sprain!!!!!!!!!

[@r_ramendump9681]

Man I wished my parents were stay home lol

[@Anna-uy7te]

This series so good I really love it because im learning English besides it very meaning ♥️ from vietnam with love ♥️

[@chenyiwen89]

Daddy looking good despite the respondsibility he have

[@lawrenceng1743]

Thank you. I wanted to model exercise and eating healthy as a lifestyle to my son

[@farihamohamedhilmy4700]

It must’ve been hard to be a stay at home parent

[@topramencurryflavour191]

My moms mother is in here!

[@Chewybacca]

It's kinda sad that most of the comments are recognising the dad's selflessness and overlooking the rest of the moms. Being a stay home parent is a sacrificial choice, whether you're a father or mother, period.

[@ikaustim]

Sacrifices needs to be made!!

[@Muthuraja345]

I know Pricilla her daughter is Phoebie

[@norah5196]

thank you so much for this video loved it

[@tommyliangwei3724]

1st December 2018

[@ameera.m2936]

woah that women Didi seems very wiseee

[@rumeshitheva123]

Incredible people and completely underrated

[@MyProbIsnotUrszxc]

Was the woman at 1:08 in another episode before? She is really familiar but I don't know which episode

[@heyyyitsjoelle8569]

i thought i was the only one

[@niroshini2922]

m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/lV7bXmCng7ypmrM Her family and her appeared on the Family Affairs Season 3 :)

[@vanessatoh3785]

CNA's on the red dot! the one with a supersized family

[@MyProbIsnotUrszxc]

Vanessa Toh thank you

[@MrBenHaynes]

I need to practice listening to SG accent. Could understand everyone except the Muslim lady (ming bai 50% only), despite having a SG (hakka) Lao Po. I need to jin bu!

[@tommyliangwei3724]

Priscilla 26 - 1993 Sophia 32 - 1987

[@happymichieworriah8881]

Ya dad helps against depression n tohear song good lifee one republicc

[@happymichieworriah8881]

Take care cook mayb so sad he cry...or order

[@calebhwang2459]

pogchamp

[@APrivateRoom]

Pls do one for working parents! Haha

[@tommyliangwei3724]

Didi 43 - 1976

[@silverbells4732]

a singaporean chinese with 7 children????? is she a catholic?

[@reikaratnam]

Why would anyone allow strangers to look after your own children? Leaving your child(ren) under anyone’s care but your own is a huge risk, even when it’s leaving them with their grandparents

[@lawrenceng1743]

agree!

[@sofiahokmah9195]

Grandparents have done their duty raising their own children, they should be enjoying their golden years and not burdened with looking after their children's children.

[@pupplemupple]

epic