Stay Away From Sexual Contact With The Narcissist

[@jans724]

When I think back of intimacy with the narcissist I feel disgusted. The worst is that it has made me avoid meeting anyone at all. I just want my peace.

[@kevinjanghj]

That's me as well. I say that I am asexual although I am not in order to get people off my back.

[@lisahutton3754]

Same here. I was afraid it was just me.. Thanks for sharing

[@tad1111]

Same

[@tanyamaree6432]

Two years down the track and I'm the same. Never felt this way till after being with him.

[@nmc1859]

​@kevinjanghj believing they fight against normies or empath s in a spiritual way. Makes you wanna guard your energy esp intimately

[@jeffcollins9640]

There is only Selfishness and a constant need for attention with ZERO Love. It is a demonic spirit that lies, cheats and prefers Chaos and Drama over Truth

[@ND-or5so]

@jeffcollins9640: That's a fact

[@aviricky6026]

True that.. Without Chaos or Drama they can't get their fill of life. They are like leeches who will drain the life energy Outta you. Their aim is to destroy you to the very core so that you become a walking zombie. And maybe create a worst narc out of yourself

[@godsownedeejay2359]

Let's get it straight. If you've been trapped by a narcissist or find them in the same cage with you, all you see is that NARCISSISTS are vampire-staff of Satan's embassy on earth.

[@JustinRabJDog]

“There are those who curse their fathers and do not bless their mothers; 12those who are pure in their own eyes and yet are not cleansed of their filth; 13those whose eyes are ever so haughty, whose glances are so disdainful; 14those whose teeth are swords and whose jaws are set with knives to devour the poor from the earth and the needy from among mankind. 15“The leech has two daughters. ‘Give! Give!’ they cry. From Proverbs

[@codyshepp7432]

Jezebel

[@ZonyWest]

They're just disgusting.. . They don't care if they're married, in a relationship just sleeps around non stop with anyone who will give it up!

[@lindanorris2455]

yeah. yeah.

[@Big_boi277]

Facts

[@Big_boi277]

HIV carriers

[@Appellonia]

BINGO

[@howboutnaw]

Their lifestyle literally puts you at risk!!!!

[@finabond8926]

I'm scared to meet up with people, because the most of them are narcissist.

[@Aigentcy]

Facts

[@pernilladomander7648]

Avoid datingapps!

[@valeriesharp4875]

😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@valeriesharp4875]

Many control freaks out in this world. Plenty self centred people all for their own gain. Try not despair. There are still some really good people. Get discernment from the Higher Power. Your gut, intuition will speak to you in order to avoid or have absolutely no contact with these types of people. 😊

[@spitfire8539]

80% of people are, yes

[@ritadoran5039]

Anyone else notice the intense eye stare they give you during the act? It's a eye contact but not loving more control like?

[@kristikiser8762]

YES...😮😮😮

[@FluidMotionEnergy]

Y cant people just enjoy lookating at each other tho ? Avoiding eye contact seems to me like u both just want to have sex and not be intimate

[@brianmitchell8552]

Definitely! It’s weird! A look in her eye that she doesn’t have any other time.

[@tad1111]

Yes, also when kissing her I'd open my eyes and she'd be intensely staring at me, almost inhuman, very creepy.

[@ritadoran5039]

Eye contact is a beautiful thing between 2 people in love I enjoy it, I wasn't referring to that look but a unsettling primitive stare

[@realconvhersations5367]

I felt so disgusted and my body actually began to reject him…so glad I got away🙏🏽

[@azailialankster657]

Likewise

[@NikkiJ]

How did your body reject him?

[@realconvhersations5367]

@@NikkiJ I felt off..I didn’t want him touching me..I felt nothing and was completely turned off

[@NikkiJ]

@@EverNeverN why? I have experience myself but different people get different symptoms/experiences.

[@NikkiJ]

@@realconvhersations5367 I understand the feeling

[@wenniferjay903]

My body my heart and soul is beginning to reject him

[@alegnavblack]

Save your soul and your sanity and RUN!

[@hggtg]

Mine already has. I hate him so much. I just can't get out.I'm raising my grandson my daughter move into I can't leave her alone with this person. God only knows what he'll do.Please pray for me🙏😢

[@DorcasNakawala]

Was in a relationship with a narc. He only took, took, but never gave me anything. He always want to be given. He couldn't even kiss you or touch you but just got in because he wanted Satisfaction.

[@HeidiPhilbrick]

I’ve begged for so long, why not kiss??? Omg I thought I was the only one.

[@Hatbox948]

With my nex I did all the work. He really expressed little enjoyment or satisfaction despite how hard you tried to please him. He'd threaten to bring hookups home if I didn't comply. I'm done with it all now. I'm too old and my health has deteriorated from the stress of the "relationship ". I even have high blood pressure now.

[@dizasadorableanimals6554]

⁠@@HeidiPhilbrickMe too. So sad.

[@jamessouza7065]

wtf? I always loved touching & kissing! I hear about some weirdness how some dudes do thier buisness I don't understand being selfish like that? But also I don't see how that automatically proves one's being a narcissist Just means thier a selfish prick I love pleasing my lover how some people do the me me me me in the bedroom is probably the biggest dickhead move I can think of just tell that clown to kick rocks trust me theirs plenty of good hearted passionate men out there.

[@michaelthompson-li7zs]

I give give give to my N lover ! Love it . Lots to give , she wants it

[@soaringhighly]

I prayed a lot for God to save my marriage,I'm so blessed and loved by God,He didn't answer my prayers in the way I wanted, because He loves me so much,now I realize was for protection!!!

[@realestatecoach8626]

Amen

[@marivelsilva9378]

Yes it happened to me in the exact same way! God works in mysterious ways! 🙏❤️

[@c.h.5389]

As it has been said: "Rejection is God's protection."

[@user-qb8qm4mp5n]

Generally, narcissists aren't worth the trouble. If I had only known that. Hoovering is to get you back in contact so they can use you again and cause more damage. You're nothing more than a body part to a narcissist.

[@Freethnkr]

Very true...

[@Aigentcy]

The way my ex wife was so distant cold and mysterious is the hook that got me wanting her more

[@susanmayell5707]

And they have others in the wings always

[@natebrehmer663]

​@@susanmayell5707So true!!😮‍💨

[@Denzella2154]

Once I pulled back sex I’ve been able to heal myself best thing I ever did to get away from the toxic soul tie ❤🙏🏽

[@ladyCY413]

Omg your comment is so powerful because I know in my heart of hearts that once I can break the sex off with my guy, that will break the soul ties. I can’t stand to be around him anymore even when we don’t have sex, but sexually and emotionally I am completely detached from him. I don’t have a desire to be with him AT ALL, and we never had a spiritual connection, meaning I shared with him at the beginning of our relationship my thoughts and feelings on wanting to get back right with God and how I was before in my walk with the Lord, and how I missed that. But he never gave any feedback and he NEVER EVER shared his thoughts on where he desires to be spiritually, he NEVER EVER mentioned God. I literally thought he was an atheist because he has never talked about God. I can’t wait, I’m slowly but surely preparing for my exit, and I pray it ends without violence.

[@ladyCY413]

Bu the way, your comment deserves way more likes because a lot of people don’t realize that sex is a very powerful stronghold that can keep that toxic relationship in bondage.

[@Denzella2154]

@@ladyCY413 exactly it was the hardest thing I ever did but I did it an it’s goin on 2 years strong 💪🏽 even he’s in disbelief ( I will remain in my power against the ex narc ) oh and guess what we share kids 6.. if I did it you most certainly can ❤️❤️ (Will Power)

[@Denzella2154]

@@ladyCY413 it was the hardest thing I ever did being as tho I gave 16 years if I could do it you most certainly can ❤️❤️ (will power is key) something the Narcissist does not embody

[@ladyCY413]

@@Denzella2154 If I don’t leave him soon, I’ll look up and it will be 16 years like you, or even 20, because it’s already pushing kind close at 12years right now. We don’t have kids together or even live together, but it’s still very hard to leave him because we have other ties that he uses to keep me in the picture, and he also has other issues that to me, makes it very dangerous for me to leave. Once I get rid of these other ties, which I can’t name, in fear of my family possibly coming across this comment by any chance, because they don’t know I’m going through this because I know better…I’ll be completely through with him and not going back

[@crystaljacobs8380]

I know exactly what she is talking about. When I think back over my last year's, I feel disgusting, they have no morals ,will sleep with anyone. My healing is going well, but I do have flash backs. I don't want to be in a relationship for a long time.

[@Appellonia]

I completely had this exact experience myself. Im sorry girl. I know how bad that hurts. ❤

[@Shirrin9Tarot]

@Appellonia yes, I had the same experience as well I guess we are not alone, Narcissists are every where

[@R.Francois]

Same here i feel that way to as he caused me so much trauma, can't look at relationships the same way again.

[@chubby240918]

God bless and the only one that can give true peace and real love is God

[@SAMSUN21]

Avoid sex with the narcissist, knowing they sleep around you might get the gift that keeps on giving and nobody wants that.

[@HUGHJassle-xp2ih]

Wife was diagnosed with NPD when we were in college (i had forgotten/blocked out- her eating disorder was the reason why she was being treated, diagnosis came during that in-patient program).. i had no idea what that really meant when we were dating and married her, bissfully unaware. 23 years later, she literally ticks every box of a covert narcissist- and i was brought to this topic after seeing her openly flirt at a gym and lied saying she was at work (she didnt see me in parking lot). Ive spent the last 2 months revisiting every "off" situation over my marriage- every time my spidey sense was screaming and i either ignored it or believed whatever excuse provided. I was never her first choice, she constantly thinks about the HS bf that "got away", and engages in inappropriate flirty relationahips with multiple men (that im aware of). I know i dont deserve this - but we have 4 kids- and i am now accuitly aware of how they will be treated/raised if i am out of the picture.. i feel like ive been conned and robbed of my entire adult life.

[@matthewboos7356]

Man, you just told my story. Can't stay, but definitely can't leave either. It's very disheartening to learn, pretty unanimously from every source,,,, this is not curable, not fixable, not treatable:(

[@muhammadsteinberg]

26yrs with my narcissistic wife. I can definitely relate to reflecting back. I'm actually embarrassed that consumed so much disrespectful behavior. I've been a yellow rock for 3mths now. Sleeping ing in a spare room. She's freaking out and tried her typical love bombing crap. I shot it down and walked away not giving her a chance to escalate into negativity. Silently working on divorce.

[@lj_225]

It’s been 40 years with a covert narcissist for me!

[@NehaSharma-777]

Please search "Melanie Tonia Evans - Quantum Freedom Healing " . It will save your life

[@tsholofelohuma7496]

​@muhammadsteinberg u guys are strong, so many years with an abusive, inconsistent liars, and I heard that women narcissists are 10 times worse from males ones, bcoz they use sex to manipulate men and are everywhere giving it to multiple men 😢

[@ella8635]

they hate love, kissing hugging but only sex ..very agressive and don’t care even they already harm your body ..😢

[@Whatkindoffckry]

Oh he was always asking if I'm not in pain lol

[@sk3ffingtonai]

Agreed, objectification. When I was with the NARC, I felt like I was a lamp or just a piece of furniture. At this point in time, I have gone 10 years of no contact with zero slip-ups.

[@archangelvvv]

Congrats! F.Y.I. You escaped a messenger from H-E-L-L

[@joesorrenti6598]

I hate to say it but you were just a piece of meat to them

[@susanmayell5707]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🙏❤️

[@nickel7065]

Learning about her plentiful cheating I'm thankful I didn't get an std. And as soon as I found out I divorced her. Never accept cheating...

[@flowersofthefield340]

Yeppp their nasty

[@comfortzone5618]

Well done!

[@manjitsingh4567]

But i get one 😢

[@nadineadam419]

@@manjitsingh4567Me too 🙄 But I think: That is the LAST THING from him. After this I am FREE!!!

[@roycebennett2778]

Yep just found out about her disgusting cheating makes me sick to my stomach when she trys to touch me

[@pwrnthevrse]

I started out as fwb with mine. Went in knowing i didn't want to date her. She used sex(which was our consensual understanding) to get into my life. She begged me for more, love bombed me, learned i wanted children so she used her own and that future faking of one of my own until I thought it was something that i wanted. It was all manipulation. I was so unaware of narcissists and red flags that I went along with it excited that i somehow stumbled across the right person. It was one night when she told me after we were done that she had started going to counseling with her (ex) husband. I asked her how she could do this with me while doing that and she just laughed. This was right after( this is personal and adult) she used the words "are you going to *** in me or be a little ****". Now, red flags aside. After this she said we had to stop. Which i was fine with. But begged me to still be her friend. I said no of course and she proceeded to try and triangulate me with another man at work. After months of this and having a conversation with her husband shes still doing this. I didn't know what i know now. Didn't realize sex was a way to get into your mind and soul. Didn't realize it was a doorway to future faking. And for sure didn't realize how she was trying to be little me into doing something for a future trap. Can't even imagine the world of hurt I'd be in if i would have let her convince me to do that. Point is. They use sex for multiple things. It's all manipulation. You think you're just having fun and it's really a way to lock you in. Whether it's from breaking you down to feel less of a person for control, to control you do do things for them and cater to them, or to get you more deeply involved before the discard to break you down. Be strong about this. Especially the women here. It's easy to think if you give in it's going to be a way to let the emotions flow and the guy will come back remembering the "love" between you two. There is no love with these people. It's all about them. Don't let yourselves get hurt and complacent thinking this is going to fix anything. Cause i guarantee you're not the only one they are trying to have sex with. You're going to get an std or end up stuck life long dealing with this person in your life. And that's what they want. It's a way to force you to be there, for them to be on your mind, and for them to still have bits of control over your life.

[@pwrnthevrse]

@@Low__Key haha, knowing her.. it's possible brother. Fr though, I've learned one thing from watching all these vids. They may react differently at the end of the relationship, but they usually all use the same techniques depending on the type of narcissist they are at the beginning. Just know they picked you for a reason. Wasn't cause you're weak. Cause you've got a good heart and you're strong. They want to break that. And after months it's really something when they can see they haven't done that. It legitimately breaks them. Stay strong bro.

[@jaketedesco9497]

Sounds similar to me except we started a fair commitment all to be seen with her FWB dude before Nye

[@alkebu-lanuniversity2227]

Damn. That part when you said she just laughed. Same thing happened to me, its an evil laugh, its like they enjoy hurting ppl. N its like well are we gona have sex or not, she says smh. I never knew sex could do this either, im still trauma bonded, they make you love the bond, like you deserve the treatment. After what i been thru, im not sure if im capable of love anymore, but working on loving myself again.

[@simonschneider5913]

what a fantastic description. thank you!

[@dampergoldenrod4156]

What about the minor or adult children stuck with parents who have these kind of sick and diseased relationships who will not get out of them? They need advice too to stay away at all costs.

[@archangelvvv]

Never get involved with a Narcissist...EVER!

[@shari9707]

But most time people doesn't know they're getting involved with a narcissist!!!they becomes involves instantly, not knowing whom theyre dealing with.some people may just think its an angry person not knowing in the beginning its a narcissist!!!

[@ashton1952]

​@@shari9707some don't even show the rage fits for a decade... Those are the evasive charmer types. There's a list of questions you can use during the first few dates by which to evaluate whether the new person is a narc

[@tamilynedwards8388]

​@@ashton1952I'd like to have that quiz!!

[@3RedHearts]

Very true. I thought by not having sex with the Narcissist, I would be ok. They still drained my energy...when I was away from them, all I could do was lay in bed. Eventually, every time I was around them, my cortisol spiked, my adrenals were maxed, my muscles were tight. Very hard to break the lust bond but not having sex made me see the REAL person who turned out to be highly insecure, immature and obsessive compulsive.

[@farrislanier6043]

Wow to the T...😮

[@nessauk2786]

I lived this truth.Thankyou for sharing.

[@tabbylove86]

I am an empath From the start itself he drained all my energy.but I still felt the toxic pull towards him.i understood why no one talks to him.i was dumb enough to not even understand energetically that he is pathetic.

[@istj66360]

Everyone, listen to this woman because she's absolutely right about everything she's saying. You feel a lot of disgust in what they do? But why do we keep going back to them? Why do we miss them when they're gone? I can tell you one primary reason. We've compromised our boundaries.

[@doglover9902]

Answer: The Trauma Bond.

[@istj66360]

@@doglover9902 Setting strong boundaries is essential to breaking a trauma bond and if a person has strong boundaries to begin with, the narcissist has a difficult time establishing one. That's why narcissists tend to avoid people with strong boundaries.

[@banderson6470]

soul ties

[@istj66360]

@@banderson6470 you can definirely call it that too.

[@ResaraAsalizk]

I think it’s manipulation technique

[@Rainingpatchouli311]

I slept with my bf and my girl parts got fishy , I told him about and he responded "that's my fault" . I healed it with proper meds and stopped sexually engaging him... I noticed many red flags and realized he may be a player ..ordering bikini underwear and watching you tube channel On what colognes make women drool😮 he had been begging for bum Entry which I told him "never" . Later he got a fever and flu like symptoms for a week and I seriously questioned if he might have contracted HIV virus from a one nighter/ I ended it a few weeks later when he told me he was working a 16 hr shift over a weekend and home to sleep for 6 hrs only to go back for another 8 hours-yet when I checked to see if he was home sleeping , he was NOT. 😮 he called me with a lame excuse and I said "I'm done with your lies"

[@Willz2HoT4u]

Your vag would smell funky only when U been around the world allday everyday that the stink strong rotten smell of aids, hiv

[@35Zeuss]

It's almost like it was a different person in the same body. 360 degrees

[@nmc1859]

180

[@miketexas4549]

Rotate 360 degrees and nothing changed

[@hardwiredtoself-destructio7614]

I saw the demons in her. Like very hungry ravenly wolves. They're dangerous. They transfer them into you during s*x

[@mernmoon]

Sorry I had to lol but small mistake but slightly funny

[@hardwiredtoself-destructio7614]

@@35Zeuss another deleted comment is all

[@netsurfers9357]

Yes, they are all about control over you! They want to drag you down in life!

[@tommyburley5860]

When I look back she took so much of my emotional empathy. They take a part of your soul…and you never get it back.

[@ashton1952]

You get it back when you heal, and gain knowledge that wouldn't have come any other way.. it's the only path to becoming a powerful empath .. after that you have the ability to see straight through a narc, you're an overcomer, and can help many people. Take heart ❤ we heal, and are way stronger for having gone through that.

[@catherinedubrovna7756]

​@ashton1952 thank you! This motivates and relieves me a bit

[@chubby240918]

I feel you but no they not they just miserable they here cause evil exist and our spirit body and soul belongs to god. And God bless

[@RareAries323]

Jesus will give that back

[@ljrockstar69]

I agree, you will be trauma bonded, better not to get intimate if you see red flags in the beginning. Reason why? it will be harder to leave and will worsen episodes of rumination.

[@elmaswanepoel1598]

So true

[@Freespiritedqueen]

TRUE!!👍🏼💯

[@banderson6470]

yes, the stare, intense and very dark, he would also say to me "tell me you love me, tell me you love me"

[@qaziwaleed3567]

Same think happend to me

[@kathrynrawlings26]

Yesss right before they would …. You know … finish?

[@MarkThomas-n5y]

I stay away and keep my distance and no contact even though it hard but I believe I can get through this nightmare ❤

[@viewerwatching5712]

I was with mine for 20 years and it's been 5 months no contact. Stay strong you got this, it gets better with time!

[@lisaberi5977]

with my husband 27 years now no contact 5 months also. Its been a grieving process but feels so freeing

[@ladybird491]

I could always sense he was cheating and when women started exposing him he played dumb. He kept changing and it got toxic, he kept being cold and hot, and breadcrumbing me and then when i go to leave he would play so hurt and ask me not too. I want out now, period.

[@ladyCY413]

That is exactly how I felt. I’m going to get flamed for saying this, but everything you need to know is in his phone. I’ve seen the text messages, videos and photos, that’s solid proof other than actually catching him in the act. And when I left him, he begged more than a begging homeless man and somehow swindled his back by finessing and manipulating his way back, because get this: I had NEVER agreed to take him back that day. But he manipulated his way back through sex. But this time, as they say ‘third time’s the charm’. Like you say ‘I want out now’…. This year is the year for me, I refuse to let another whole year go by of dealing with this toxicity. And when I leave, I’m not looking back.

[@Nunsense3]

Wow.. you are really an expert in this topic. Their behavior is so predictable. Blessing to everyone creating boundaries to protect their wellbeing!

[@ND-or5so]

Nounsense3 Thank you

[@spectrumifs]

I think I went through 3 or 4 "cycles" with a woman over the course of 3 months. She would send me texts with sexual overtures and then send me texts with the most outlandishly crazy, snide, insulting, non-sequiter responses to my texts. I felt like I was dealing with someone demon possessed or oppressed. First time in my life dealing with a card-carrying narcissist. I realized I could not tolerate this evil unpredictability and decided to part company. I felt a huge weight lifted off my shoulders.

[@barbooood]

The worst is when they think they're entitled to sex and keep asking for a timeline on when they will get sex and then get extremely mad when you dont really give an answer.. lol wtf is wrong with some people 😂😂😂

[@LisaSpanbauer]

WOW! EXACTLY

[@devinepegasus5532]

sexual coercion - the coercive partner doesn't respect the boundaries or wishes of the other. No one should be made to feel pressured into a sexual act.

[@MegaMaveri]

@@desireemfoxthen why’d you marry him? Not trying to be smart ass but a genuine question.

[@desireemfox]

@@MegaMaveri Because he hid his true self in the beginning. Once we were married he let his true self be shown and he has much past shame that he has not dealt with. I am not stupid and these insecure men know better than to show their dysfunction in the beginning

[@adaokeke2784]

​@@MegaMaveriwhat type of question is this? U shouldn't be on this channel if u ask a victim such question

[@maxmaximus8323]

She cut that off many, many years ago and as I've gotten older, I really don't care any longer. There is so much more in life and I'm going to live it. She discarded me 8 months ago, went to go help out her two oldest kids from her first marriage and decided to stay and have very little communication with me. I put up with this for 30 + years and now it's so much better for me and things are falling in place in a great way.

[@ngangakamau9480]

I was discarded in August 2018, after devaluing me for 3 years. I have never touched her again.

[@jaycoxtable9280]

Some storms are meant to clear away debris in order to make new beginnings easier...kinda like a hard reboot to wipe the memory clean. Once you realize that truth it's easier to move on

[@MistresstheMediator]

💯

[@leestodel2543]

7 years of sex everyday but he has been incapable of just giving me a hug when I’m sad. Have had so many health issues since meeting him but I’m finally ready to let go. His backstabbing throughout and trying smear campaigns with MY friends and family let alone his has made me at times want to give up. I’m a granny now so have so much real sources of love to be around. I know my worth now finally!!!! 🦋🦋🦋

[@ND-or5so]

@leestod I wouldn't have had sex with him every day cause he had to be mistreating you if he is a full-blown narcissist, right? I mean, why would you give it to him?

[@RonSafreed]

I am 68 & a lifetime of narcissistic abuse has really left its mark!!

[@Goldenlp-d8k]

People think sex is everything when it's not best to be solo

[@ND-or5so]

@user-le4yi7... I agree with you. It's not worth it to engage in that way anymore. That's what I'm seeing at this time as I'm healing from the corrupt and unnecessary bad treatment I endured from that wacko covert narcissist.

[@ammamaw]

I can’t believe I got sucked into it and kept the fantasy going so long. It’s like watching water clear after it’s been muddy, looking back and seeing all the mistakes that I did, all that I created in my mind. It’s sickening. Thanks for making this video. Maybe it will help others to not lose themselves for so long.

[@CJP55]

My ex narc and sex, I don't even want to think about it, after I left the relationship, her sexual behavior went through the roof, to the point my children started telling me things when they would come visit me, smh....absolutely no morals, standards, no respect for herself or my children. By the Grace of The Most High, I was granted full custody of our 3 children, since then, I haven't looked back.

[@MONEYAINTATHANG100]

you had kids with that person?

[@neilburlingham8892]

Dirty filthy people

[@tsholofelohuma7496]

They're really disgusting, imagine doing all that when ur children are around 🤢🤮, thank God u got ur kids back

[@shady4eva]

By far the worst decision ive ever made in my life. Hard lesson learned, never under any circumstances get involved with a narcissist. Not worth the pain and mental issues afterwards. Thank you for your videos

[@JoshuaOliphant-k1y]

Who are you talking about

[@caroltapia4917]

Don’t do it! Save your ego and pass on it. A friend of mine told me that her husband said “ I hate you physically”. That night he initiated sex, she couldn’t do it. That was the end of their intimate relationship. Who would have sex with someone who said they hated you physically?

[@ayshakocer8373]

I was with narc for 16 years at the time I didn't know all this information... I would cry after intimacy each time because I could not connect emotionally. I am very much an empathy and could feel that my partner was empty on the inside...emotionless. I was so confused as I craved connection. At the end on our 16th year if he touched me my body would break out into an infection. I went to the police and left him...but now my body has shut down physically... I have sense of smell, I cannot taste anything as my tongue my tastebuds do not work so I ask my kids to taste test when cooking and I don't feel my body when I get a cut or injury...my body is all numb. Phycology said I have PTSD because I stayed in this relationship. My 2 older sons helped me to leave... I think if I continued I would have developed cancer from being so sad and lonely with him.....YES they make you feel completely lonely when you are with them. Now I am trying to heal. I hope everyone becomes aware of these people they are not human they are ruthless at what they do. ❤

[@tsholofelohuma7496]

I'm so sorry u went through that, at least now u on ur healing journey, u got this, let go and let God ❤

[@ayshakocer8373]

@@tsholofelohuma7496 thank you darling for your kind word

[@Whatkindoffckry]

I am so sorry for you... I'm crying reading this. I hope you find peace and love both at the same time

[@marciaannmyers9644]

You go away from the encounter feeling very very empty inside and feeling dead inside. It is an absolutely awful feeling. I lived and learned and don't ever want that kind of relationship again.

[@JusticeHelp-z8g]

Yesss

[@LostSoulSearching]

I stopped, and it has helped me not to feel so unloved and broken anymore. I canteen giving myself to someone who intentionally emotionally checks out or chooses to disconnect.

[@KatRoberts-mi3wy]

It’s a horrible feeling when you are made to feel worthless 😢

[@foxygayla]

My narc ex withheld intimacy from me for 6 months. I didn't know what was going on. I never asked him. I just kept it to myself. I know that bothered him because I wasn't begging him for sex. I understand now that my body was rejecting him.

[@aussieallstar66]

The trauma bond is to me the recognition of an early childhood trauma we unconsciously share. With the narcissist in my life there is a very strong sexual attraction. More than with anyone else in my life. He is a promiscuous sex addict and I am a repressed celibate loner. Opposites definitely attract in our case.

[@liatnavi6839]

Could I ask you Something in pm?

[@davidemm829]

My instinct of self protection kept it platonic .phew

[@ΜΑΡΙΑΠΑΠΑΔΟΠΟΥΛΟΥ-π7ω]

Same here

[@melaniedawn4256]

I'm 12 weeks out of a 12 year relationship that gave me the most amazing 9yo son. I knew I was in trouble two years ago and knew only Christ could get me through it. I highly recommend seeking Christ to give you the strength to move on. And not just your everyday run-of-the-mill Christianity. Pray in the Spirit. Live and breathe Him.

[@Motivation_Rio]

Thats awesome 😊. Hoover attempts, flying monkeys and such, make it such a challenging time. Good luck, stay strong

[@luiscaballero5493]

I would like to add to this wonderful video that, the NARC is going to make you think/believe that you are overly jealous and/or insecure if she/he talks/flirts/looks at other males/females....On the contrary, it is your being/soul reclaiming RESPECT! Because at the end of the day lets be HONEST you probably are BETTER looking than the NARC.

[@TheresaSimpson-pb2pl]

Thank you ❤🎉😅😊

[@Ann-e1s]

Runnnnnnnm, heal & elevate for greatness❤

[@Sanya00007]

The narcissist has left me traumatized so bad that I would never in my life have xes again. Don't want, don't feel it, it causes me repulsion the thought and outright don't want it.😞

[@tsholofelohuma7496]

😢😢😢

[@cherylmcelman6648]

Being hoovered big time and staying strong. I know it’s just my trauma bond trying to screw with me.

[@tad1111]

Me too being hoovered hard .

[@knoxx1111]

I'm dealing with this now too. ;/

[@tad1111]

She keeps offering me intimacy, I know it's not real love or anything, it's a trap, but it's hard to say no. Then she says are you gay.

[@kalifornia4745]

Same here for me… you’ve got this!

[@bethh6023]

You can do it!! Stay away!!

[@tuchus8781]

5 months no contact. I feel him coming back. The sex is the quick sand. Watching your videos for strength

[@sinceresong9907]

you will eventually feel disgusted by him

[@ginarenee1625]

My narc ex told me after sex “huh oh.. now you’re in dicksand.”

[@kevinjanghj]

They will sleep around with anyone, even those who are not their type. That is how indiscriminate they are sexually.

[@denisevella272]

Toxic people I’m so exhausted finding what narcissistic people can do

[@michellesawyer7267]

She absolutely nailed it 100 percent . Never heard anyone mention 100 percent of the scenarios as she did perfectly . Now to recover …

[@guenthermarschall01]

Emotional interaction and physical closeness and intimacy with narcissists is pure poison. I know what I'm talking about. I spent six months with a (as I now know) highly narcissistic and sadistic woman, including two weeks on holiday together (two weeks travelling through Tuscany and Italy in a convertible). What sounds dreamlike was pure horror, highly toxic and destructive. Having this person around for 14 days poisoned me. No warmth, no closeness, no appreciation... pure horror. Overall, it was as if my soul had spent six months in radioactively contaminated Chernobyl. In the end, I was destroyed and poisoned. Soul, spirit, self-esteem, joie de vivre - everything was ruined. I experienced the whole range of sick excesses: sadism, victimhood, jealousy, hatred, anger, unreflectiveness, obsessive control, gaslighting... you name it. It was all there. And the worst thing of all was the end: viciously hurting and destroying me and portraying herself as a victim who also wants understanding and support. Even in the last conversation, she was still the victim and wanted to look good to me. Since then, it has been as clear as day to me what a terrible character she is. Disgusting.

[@sonlightpsalm942]

Very nicely put! You've got their number! lol Both the narcissist and the empath or highly sensitive person are both broken through childhood trauma. The narcissist is in your life to teach you that after Source (God), you have to love yourself unconditionally and above all others, so we can love others as ourselves. If we don't value ourselves, then we look for validation through other people, and that's just wrong thinking. This is a journey of hope, healing, and self love, and validation. You don't have to hate the narcissist, you have to understand how they operate, as their neural pathways blocked love or the emotions of love going from heart to brain to be blocked. We don't have to blame them for their trauma, but we certainly have to protect ourselves from their shenanigans or we'll be in a wash, rinse, repeat cycle until we've learned how to show up in this world. Bottom line, you must understand and heal from codependancy. Many blessing to all who seek to heal from narcissistic abuse. Don't be a victem ( like the narcissist), but become an overcomer! 😊❤😊

[@ladytrizzy]

you lowkey give narc vibez with whatever thing you said

[@inaphtali6176]

It's a shagship n nothing more 🏃‍♂️ 🏃‍♀️ 🏃‍♂️ 🏃‍♀️ 🏃‍♂️ 🏃‍♀️

[@pernilladomander7648]

A relationshit I call it :)

[@JoshuaOliphant-k1y]

​@@pernilladomander7648yeah right

[@AstridMonrad]

If there is sex at all, there is no sex at all in narcissist, only pain if you ask me

[@peterknyk1942]

I agree with you, Anoushka, 100%! The intermingling of two diametrically opposite forces physically or emotionally can create a type of psychic chaos that is damaging to the core of our emotional centers. There are much more important or valuable things to do with the type of energy used in a “sexual exchange”. Unless it is fully understood what this process is, and how it affects us it is best to avoid sexual intimacy with a narcissist, as, in the end, it will end up being disappointing and truly fruitless or worthless. A narcissist has only one objective, and that objective is to see how much they can accumulate, and how much they can siphon or take. Don’t give them anything or the opportunity. Let them wallow in their own mess! ❌❌❌

[@k_DAN]

A narcissist would never seek help, because they would never see themselves needing help. So, the only way a few of them might get diagnosed, is if they were going to a psychologist for something else, and the psychologist happens to realize that the person is a narcissist. But if the psychologist even ever brought that up to the person, the person would probably never return. So, in my opinion, narcissists never get treated.

[@staciesykes2908]

I felt like you was talking to my soul just now with this video wow x

[@vickibazter3446]

Sex to a narc is manipulation and supply. Not intimacy.

[@dezbahjolene7493]

We had already broken up and one of the mean things he said to me was that I objectified him. I was so insulted by those words. I couldn't understand why he said that because when we were sexually intimate I was fully into the feeling of love, during. I did notice that he would never look at me, ever, during. Also, he stopped wanting sex. This was one really hurtful aspect for me. I still don't fully understand. Like most Narcissistic relationship, I was the provider of everything, the free place to live, the rides to work, keeping life organized, clean clothes, all that. Yeah, I felt used. It's in hindsight that I can see what I was in.

[@Whatkindoffckry]

Oh I remember when he told me that he remembers every nasty thing I told him which or maybe like which were maybe like 10 to 15 things within 2 years. Within these two years he has done probably 300 to 500 mean things to me. I mean -mean small mean big and mean huge.

[@lalani888ARTblue]

Consider it a violation because it IS.

[@SaqibMukhtarOfficial]

Narc is a child, there are certain conversations you cannot have with children so when it comes to intimacy, they are not capable to do sex either right?

[@tsholofelohuma7496]

That's wat I said, I don't communicate with my husband bcoz he can't comprehend, I feel like I'm talking to a child, and them being tooo sensitive over small things, nah I'm good

[@annettadewitt121]

I'm so glad they left it was horrible 🤦🏿‍♀️ thank you lord

[@MissPrissy6688]

My husband told me once that having sex was no different (emotionally) than taking a piss. He’s been my ex husband for 34 years.

[@littlelittledeer1435]

Thank you for this. I have no desire for him at all & haven't for months. I'm on day 45 of no contact & I'm coming alive again. I haven't seen him since the morning he said "F---Off & Die" when I wouldn't have sex on demand. Known him for over 50 years, we were engaged & I thought I loved him. Not any more. He disgusts me. It was all a lie. I did nothing but love him & he can never love me. Who needs that?

[@Whatkindoffckry]

Never said that to me and yet I can literally see him saying this to me at some point

[@kandlewood1]

God Bless anyone who has been hurt by a Narc!!! this is the most damaging experience a person can go through. In real time you never diagnose what is really happening! I went 20 years of marriage with a person who never loved me 1 day out of 7,304 days before God Intervened and bless me with a KZbin video about narcissism, and then I was instantly healed!!! I remember balling up on the bathroom floor crying like a baby at 6 foot 230 pounds of man lying there broken in pieces once I found out what this disease was. Then I became addicted to researching about this disease and try to reach as many people as possible, because we walk around here not even knowing what is happening to us. And to think that some people actually take their own lives when being hunted by something that they don't even know what it is SMDH

[@martaszyszka7654]

Stay away from ANY sexual contacts. Period. abstinence from sex is the best way to healing oneself. Jumping into bed with another, and another, and another guy is not the way to live a life.

[@Gracehope49]

This makes sense even Biblical. No sex outside marriage and do not date someone who have no true faith in God. My 8 year experience with a narc now made me detest sex and somehow I think it's a blessing in disguise.. I do not look for relationships now just to satisfy my urges.. am now looking at relationships by God's design.

[@CoastersThrillsAndAirtimeHills]

I realise that I am attracted to the toxic traits of a narcissist. The intense passion and love bombing, I fall for at the very beginning so think its something I really need to work on.

[@vernetta111]

Its sick its left me so traumatised about sex since 😩 he was so cold and empty throughout 😪 and i didn't see it until afterwards

[@MHLivestreams]

I understand, my ex wife was the same, again, didn't notice myself either. Quite weird really. Kind of makes you feel unworthy, eh. It's affected my to this day, 20 years on. I hope you're doing okay though.

[@vernetta111]

@@MHLivestreams slowly getting there

[@IngridDavies-i3i]

2yrs going with a narcissist no sex not even a kiss on lips I've walked.😊

[@okeyuzoewulu3528]

Every unheald broken individual is a narcissist unless they allow their healing to occur

[@carolynmerritt7100]

Funny thing is I feel detached from the narc each time I have been around him. To the point I do not enjoy their company and even the sound of their voice. You are right, it takes days to recoup from even 1 visit, ugh. Just users. Eeek don’t touch me in anyway. I am utterly disgusted. Demons. I feel so much better when that thing isn’t near me in anyway. Wonderful post, thank you.

[@darlenemoses4692]

I wish that I had this Nolledge 20yrs ago,I would have never allowed myself to get involved with such a evil man

[@gilliangiles7589]

Thank GODbi woke up. it was a process. but I realised who i was dealing with. THANK GOD ❤❤🙏🙏

[@Jeff-xs1do]

At the end of the relationship,my narc would let me give her a hug nothing else and afterwards I would have a severe headache for 2 days

[@rogersjourney]

that's some kind of toxic energy there..🙏

[@flowersofthefield340]

Their spiritually toxic

[@Freespiritedqueen]

​@@flowersofthefield340🎯💯

[@lindafodor7755]

Because they are demonic

[@ArchAngel435]

I didn't know about narcissism until after the reverse breakup. But in the last decade, I stopped providing him sex after he was caught cheating. Early on in the marriage I felt that he was denying me intimacy, spent more time away from me than with me. He was sexually aggressive, would threaten to leave if I refused him sex, even disrupt our lives. More often than not I'd comply just for the peace. After I'd stopped the sex, I'd often feel sorry for him, and would feel like going to him, but recalling the abuse, the lack of intimacy, his boredom with sex that would cause him to have sex while I was asleep, his begging for sex like a lost child put me off. He finally left with new supply after triggering a fight and using my reactive abuse to justify himself. I'm glad I stayed true to myself.

[@Whatkindoffckry]

What's reverse breakup

[@RareAries323]

I've become closer with God after that abuse. I'm actually grateful for her in that sense. I'm also on seed retention and there's no way in hell I'll ever let her steal my life force ever again! It's a disgusting act and she used my body to masterbate. Took full advantage of my huge heart and empathy.

[@nuzhatahmed8376]

I don't even know what is taking back in love from a man . 34 years of unhappy uncared life ended in 2020 due to Corona. I never knew this man was a Narcissit. When I am.hearing you guys I realise that he had all the characters you described about a narcissist. God save me from.those off and fit memories I have ! 14:10

[@ninma9]

This is genius! WTH 💯! My first feeling was gross, then angry, then sad.

[@CynthiaCinelli]

It's over ty lord,.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@richardlenz2655]

I am very happy I did never have been intimate since 20 years with my narcissistic wife. This saved my life, I think today.

[@Appellonia]

To let someone go you have to let them go. Period. I had to let mine go to save my own life. He was going to end up ending my life with some STD because he had no self respect for his own body let alone mine and would sleep with anything with a pulse, or hed end uo ending me in a rage. Which he nearly succeeded in doing a couple of times. It hurt, and i still miss him. We met at 15, were each others first everything. And we were together for 27 years. The funny thing is when he was 15, 16, 17, he never would have cheated on me, called me terrible names, physically hurt me. Only when he got older. And I promise you the older he gets the worse it gets its like he is devolving . He always hated his father growing up for the way he treated his mother, cheating on her , breaking her heart. Now he is that man. Now he is behaving exactly like him. And no matter how often I pointed it out, he just doesnt care. So...I got to the point where im willing to break my own heart to find a better life. Anything is better than living in hell.

[@royalkarmaproductions]

I have the same story, wasted about 19 years of my life with the narc in my presence. He is his father’s mirror. It’s been a year since I let him go.

[@Appellonia]

@@royalkarmaproductions I'm glad you got out! I wish you nothing but the absolute best. And I promise you the best revenge on a narcissist is us living a fulfilling and happy life. THAT is how they get the karma they deserve. By us being truly happy. Forgetting them. And in case no one has said it, I'm proud of you 👏🏻 I know how hard that was.

[@royalkarmaproductions]

@@Appellonia thank you Doll. Your testimony resonated with mine. It was almost a reminder not to look back. I was also fighting an std that cleared soon as he was gone and I’m so much happier and healthier. Too bad we have kids together though. I hope you are happy and that you find even more happiness. Thank you ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘

[@joanbaczek2575]

They use sex to deepen the trauma bond. Then sex gets more and more rough detached demanding, and perverted

[@aralsea1]

The confusing thing about narcs is that both often accuse each other of being one.

[@staciacrick3373]

Projection

[@janiebutterfly5251]

Thank you sooo much for helping me soooo much Anoushka you are absolutely AMAZING im in a dark place atm lives next door can't get aeay away from his manipulation bringing new supply flaunting them in front off me 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@dougretter]

Just look at them and laugh hilariously! He won't know whether to wind his watch or look out the window!

[@annrobinson3509]

Same here mine next door to doing exactly the same jokers all do the same thing chose to ignore them live my own best life

[@caseteamcouture8633]

*hugs*

[@rogersjourney]

Interesting. In my case, I had begun losing sexual interest in my (what I have come to believe is a) malignant narcissist girlfriend because of her intermittent, unpredictable explosive rage mostly. In general, it seems to be in my makeup to withdraw sexually when I feel disrespected. In such a scenario, I lose the desire to share that part of myself with someone who mistreats me. I've been told that's unusual for a man. I can't speak to what's typical in this context, I only know about myself. I am a SIGMA-INFJ, that may or may not be relevant to the topic of sexual contact with a narcissist or this situation I'm sharing. Getting back on point, and to make my related statement. It had become a point of contention that we weren't having sex as often. In this case with me, not her having pulled back (or withholding). I had shared the aforementioned reasoning at one point not long before our breakup. In this case, I left the relationship. At the point it was clear to her she was not going to be able to manipulate me into staying (this time), she stated the following: "You could have at least given me sex one more time before leaving me."... I didn't even know how to respond to or where to file that.

[@johnnycorn7225]

Sigma INFJ here too brother. We are pure throbbing kryptonite to these types. I too have heard how weird I am because I will close up after disrespect and put my armor on and no one or nothing penetrates or dominates a determined INFJ, the J means judgemental, and if you're a preference for J is very strong you are an immovable human being once you make a decision. I know these things well because one of my best friends was INFJ and he too was like this. Trust me cease ALL interaction with these types we have a special gift for making them explode and presenting them their own true self which makes them rabid. Leave quietly, cover your tracks, and radio silence.

[@johnnycorn7225]

Oh and how to interpret that statement let's translate from narcanese, " I'm attempting to guilt trip you and shame your masculine identity because you successfully thwarted my attempt to bring you into my evil realm so I can torture you before I discard you AGAIN so I win this fed up game I compulsively repeat while playing the victim as I revel in your pain, AGAIN" . Yeah, FTB

[@SgtPepper138-n2l]

I had a very strong sense that you’re an INFJ before you revealed it, as I am. 👋

[@carloshenry337]

For some reason I done the same thing I just did not want her anymore and it did not feel the same so I know she was doing things with other men.🤬

[@lindafodor7755]

It’s not just you I had the same experience. And my narc ex-boyfriend said the same exact words to me when I left

[@GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp]

🎉🎉🎉🎉 thank you so much for this video yes it's true thank God I had no sexual contact at all with the ex narc I used to be with for a year and a half I haven't saw him but the last time I spoke to him was 8 months ago so it's the best life and the best thing that I'm glad that he's still out of my life yes thank you again ❤

[@lynnrainbow9008]

Every single video I have watched of yours describes my ex narc to a T. Your experience has been identical to mine in every way. 5 years of constantly being on/off, it was so mentally, physically & emotionally draining.

[@alloftheabove4106]

It transforms into rape. They will trick you into sleeping with them and convince you of anything. I started screaming and crying every day because it felt wrong. Of i tried to leave he called me a whore and tried to hurt me and at times I thought he would kill me. And also the making you feel worry for them etc etc.

[@alkebu-lanuniversity2227]

Can anyone stop the narcs???!!!! Only solution is put yourself first. The discard over n over is what hurts, when or how does a narc change? These are just terrible ppl, i dont know what their purpose is in life!!!

[@caseteamcouture8633]

They are useless

[@deb2319]

Great point made..they have no purpose just to control anyone and everyone along the way.

[@BlueAvians]

Their purpose is to destroy - like the devil does. They are not of God.

[@michaelturner8420]

You never know what you could catch off the weirdo's

[@annewoodcock-rr8zv]

Exactly what has happened to me. It felt instantly better after taking the decision to put a stop to it. He still keeps trying and I take comfort from the fact that although he has chosen someone else, he still needs me more than I now need him.

[@AndrewCharles-u2t]

Thank you very much. Now I know why I was drained out financially. I am from Papua New Guinea in the Pacific ocean region.

[@EclecticMusicMan]

It leaves you feeling raped. And that happened to me before I met my ex narc, it’s very similar feeling. Try telling the police and they don’t believe you, instead they think you are the problem.

[@Gotoworkkk]

I’m so sorry. Women sure know how to play the victim.

[@sbella6719]

Thank you for sharing that. Over the years that's exactly what it started to feel like.

[@fionam3735]

I am a narc magnet 😢 I’m exhausted. My body is exhausted. My brain knows better but I don’t know better it’s all I’ve known. I’ve never had my needs met as I’ve Never had needs