StepDaughter Junkie Dad Returns & Now Am " Half The Men His Bio-Dad Is" So I Cancelled My Checks

[@brooksroth345]

My niece 14 creates drama by falsely accusing people of heinous things for attention. Then thinks an apology will fix things. Things she said got police and cps involved. She is now learning actions have consequences. My brother with my support got her placed in a group home for 2 months. Glad this girl is learning this. Should have happened 10yrs ago.

[@robertamaclean3384]

I completely understand what you're talking about.

[@robingibson6561]

First, I'm sorry but please stop making college funds for kids that are not yours OR stop telling them that such a fund exists, this way they can't expect anything from you should things go south. This demon was not your responsibility. There is no fu**ing way I could have put up with this child and her horrible attitude. You put a roof over her ungrateful head, food in her belly but she had the unmitigated gall to say her sorry ass excuse of a father was twice the man you were, she would have seal her fate with me. Why didn't she have a job when she got of age? The only thing that gonna reach this child is for her to be ass out, no financial help, so she can see, and hopefully learn to appreciate, just how good she had it. Reality not therapy is what this child needs.

[@selfaware3940]

..and where do you think your niece got the idea of blaming men of crimes for attention? Assuming its a false allegation then that's grounds for going no contact.

[@jasonrustmann7535]

@@selfaware3940 yep. I'd never be alone with her, or even just around her in general after that, without at least one camera with audio on me at all times. False accusations are just as bad as the crime itself and need to be punished accordingly. No more kid gloves for woman, the legal system is far to soft on them, and it shows in our society.

[@mohdsufiansalleh4085]

Lose the rod, lose the child they say

[@vickichavez9956]

Tory treated her step father like dirt after years of putting up with her disgusting behavior I would not pay for her college either

[@oneuup2490]

No, op allowed her to treat him like crap.

[@Elizabeth-tb5wh]

And if she’s eighteen I’d boot her out.

[@margaretgarlando7911]

​@@oneuup2490 nooo op gave a child 5 yrs of support not just money either. Wasn't his kid, not his responsibility. Just my opinion that you and all your participation trophy friends won't change.

[@delorescannon455]

This is the reason why Some men Hate women with kids

[@oneuup2490]

@@margaretgarlando7911 as I stated. He allowed her to treat him like that he allowed it to continue for years and years what did he expect? This child had no respect for this man his trifling wife which was the child's mother allow her daughter to treat her husband like that which took care of her and her child. And only a weak, desperate person would allow themselves to keep continually being mistreated like this. I don't want to hear anything about love. I would never allow someone else's child to treat me like this I don't care if we are married, dating, engaged: whatever I will not all allow that. And I would have sent the mother and her daughter packing.

[@kimlehman8179]

OP was right to take away Tori’s college fund. She needed to learn that actions and hateful words have consequences.

[@indirastone7382]

When letting a petulant child run the roost goes wrong! Joyce should’ve checked her daughter from the beginning. I don’t see anything wrong with OP reallocating the college fund. Rewarding bad behavior never works. Tori was 18 years old. Time to GET OUT!

[@jackchop1576]

Exactly. Seems like everyone in the comments is glossing over the mother in this situation.

[@delorescannon455]

The mother is the main problem

[@rebeccajohnson8579]

I love my son's, but NO WAY would i have tolerated the DISRESPECT, he showed against the only DAD who shared, took time out for him when his bio-dad NEVER took the time! It's what I did, shipped my son to his POS DAD, so he could understand what a DAD was truly all about! HE LEARNED and the very reason he calls his STEPDAD .............. DAD TODAY! For NO Way would I have tolerated what his wife TOLERATED from her daughter, when her DAD could not do a dang thing to care for her! SEND HER TO HER Dad, this is where she BELONGS!

[@maggielucy9824]

Most teens are incapable of appreciating the responsible adults who are taking on the burden of supporting them. Wishing Tory well. She'll experience karma and reflect back on her behavior.

[@Purdin347]

@@jackchop1576 yeah, but the daughter knew better, but I would have put the mother down the road. The mother was part of problem, but it comes down to personal responsibility. She definitely wasn't a good wife or woman, by letting her daughter carry on as she did when younger.

[@RCMN-2024]

She didnt just disrespect the stepdad but bullied and abused younger, innocent kids just because they were stepdads family, they were right to refuse to pay for college, stepdaughter is lucky the parents didnt press charges

[@delorescannon455]

That I blame step dad and crazy mom for, by putting children in harms way

[@dancedummy6886]

To those of you who think the stepDad was wrong for taking away Tori's college fund. With the way Tori had treated him, we'll call it Tori's college fund after she gets a job and starts contributing to it herself. Until then it's her step-father's money to do with as he pleases.

[@tracyperez1755]

Tough love. Sorry but this is the best way to handle it. It is better for her to learn that actions, words and attitudes have consequences relatively safely, than to let her think she can get by with anything and run into someone who won't cut her slack and end up dead or in jail. I have to give bio dad and MIL kudos for backing up the other parents, bio dad, even with his problems, has better sense than that daughter.

[@delorescannon455]

Not ever giving it to that step monster

[@rebeccajohnson8579]

@@tracyperez1755 Amen, amen & AMEN! No way would I have tolerated that behavior against the ONLY MAN that took care of us, no freaking way! If it were me, I would have demanded that ANYTHING that she needed, that she goes to her PRECIOUS bio-father for ALL YOUR NEEDS! In fact, go live with him and I will pay him child support from my meager earnings! If she behaved like that for a couple of months, she would have been PACKED UP and moved in with her bio-dad!

[@fox0yeah410]

Facts well said folks 😂😂😂😂😂

[@wandahaines7143]

@pnorbert2222 Children are not even entitled to THEID parents money. They are responsible of making sure you have clothing, food, and a roof over your head, nothing more.

[@bonb213]

Tori is no longer a 12yo girl. She's 18 and old enough to know that you can't disrespect someone, treat them horribly and expect them to give you large sums of money. Why was she expecting OP's money, when her dad was such a much better man? She jeopardized her own future because there is no way that she did not realize how her lifestyle improved after having OP around.

[@delorescannon455]

Selfish spoil brat

[@bill8384]

She can still go to any college she wants IF she sucks it up and pays for it herself!

[@rhondasisco-cleveland2665]

Narcissists are entitled to everything, and responsible for nothing. They believe anything they do wrong is someone else’s fault.

[@gamero31o]

It’s people like Tori that make me grateful for my parents so I don’t end up spoiled.

[@LordGertz]

Her bioDad said it best, "Don't bite the hand that feeds you."

[@susierosenquist3920]

Huge red flag ~~ I never would have gotten married into that.

[@susanfalconedaquino3623]

Bull! Her stepfather does not have to pay for her college. She does NOT deserve it. Let her work to put herself through school.

[@kevinjohnson1958]

Joyce should have corrected Tori's attitude long before she was 18, and I would let her know at 14 exactly how her irresponsible Dad was. There is no way I would put up with 6 years of disrespect, shout-out to the MIL who always had his back.

[@leighnisbett9691]

They tried sending her to a therapist about her behaviour towards others as a teenager .

[@delorescannon455]

Luv mother in law 💯

[@delorescannon455]

@@leighnisbett9691 that want work sometimes people are born evil

[@robingibson6561]

MIL tried her best to check Tori. Grandmother is 💯. Too bad HER daughter (Tori's mom) didn't take after her,🤐

[@wendigos_eat_people7177]

@@leighnisbett9691 The therapist was useless and they didn't bother to take her to a different one. The mother messed up.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Tory behaving the way she did at 12, a year after her parents divorce is one thing. But, continuing that behavior at 18, is unacceptable. Also, title mix up again. I love you channel, Mr. Reddito, but you need to improve your editing skills.

[@donnahardy3582]

I wouldn’t give my money to someone who wouldn’t even speak to me respectfully.

[@chocolatequeen06]

Tori is lucky that she didn't grow up in my family with that attitude because she would have been kicked out on her 18th birthday and told to sink or swim.

[@Someone-kf6dk]

The most shocking part of this story was the bio-dad standing up for step-dad! There's was no manipulations or dodgy alienating shenanigans. Just a straight up toe-rags of a person.

[@malificajones7674]

Why do you think Tori is acting up like this? 100% she's responding to negative comments from the bio-dad.

[@michaelplunkett8059]

Divorce wad 10 years ago. This is her behavior and choices.

[@nalaka3488]

There’s a certain point(childhood) when you are a victim of circumstance, and there’s a point where you become an asshole(teenager to adult). Her decisions and the consequences of her actions are her responsibility now. There is no one she can blame but herself for her situation.

[@rhondasisco-cleveland2665]

I agree and disagree. She is making all the choices now, but they programmed her awful personality. Personality is formed between conception and around 3 years. Then they reinforced her personality issues by not correcting her for 15 more years. It’s like leaving an infant with a Wolfpack then expecting it to act like a human.

[@delorescannon455]

@@rhondasisco-cleveland2665 hala

[@nalaka3488]

@@rhondasisco-cleveland2665 the vast majority of our social skills aren’t learned verbally, but by observation. There were more than enough examples in her life on the proper way to behave, and she ignored all of them. Now that she an adult there’s no more excuses. She deserved what she got

[@wendigos_eat_people7177]

@@rhondasisco-cleveland2665 Your kinda right. It's true they did reinforced her personality issues, they are at fault for that, but not out of malice but ignorance that is their saving grace. The brat is now a legal adult now. It's up to her now if she wants to change and not be a brat anymore or stay a brat. She has agency now and it's up to her what she does and will have to be held responsible for whatever choice she makes.

[@sandhermit3665]

His stepdaughter wouldn't have appreciated the college fund anyway. There is no reason she can't put herself through college. She needed the tough love anyway. It was the only way for her to learn that no one owes her anything and that she should appreciate those trying to help her.

[@QuotetheRaven75]

Why doesn't Tori get a JOB. She's 18. She should be working and paying rent or bills or something

[@benrussell-gough1201]

She seems to me to be a strong-willed girl and she probably will eventually but, first, life and expesrience must break her 'happy family with Daddy' ane 'everyone should cater for me' fantasies.

[@0mtrebellcyury993]

Never bite the hand that feeds you

[@leondillon8723]

Why is he whining? He had many pre-views of the upcoming attractions. He still volunteered to take all of the - 8620 the kid shoveled his way.

[@jenaesopretty2606]

I’m glad the family did the right thing I don’t blame OP not one bit!

[@jeaniehayes6196]

Tory didn't deserve the college money

[@lynnechapman6204]

OP had every right to take the college fund. If not then she will think she is getting rewarded for acting like a brat.

[@davidmarion3119]

The people that think that they shouldn't have taken the money away from the college fund or the people that are just like her

[@kaijumage5379]

100% on OP's side. The whole "she had a hard time with the divorce" was true in the beginning but at some point the girl needed to pull her head out of her rear end and learn to move on. If she couldn't muster up some modicum of civility toward the OP in 8 years then she's not entitled to his help. I do have to dock the mother a few points. She should have put her foot down with her daughter a lot sooner before things reached the boiling point like they did.

[@gailgilmour-lim9127]

Op did what he had to do. If that was me once the kid turned 18 out she goes.

[@jmreynaud]

I cant say this enough...if you date a single parent, it usually never ends well. Too much contention, jealousy, drama.

[@malificajones7674]

Facts. OP was a fool to date a single mom in the first place. This is just the sort of BS that usually occurs.

[@geraldinejavier8932]

Sounds like my daughter but I didn’t get divorced my husband died. We moved over 1,000 miles and she became a bully in school then ended up in foster care for two years and she kept blaming me for everything that happened even her dad dying. She finally became nice when she had her own child and she has apologized to me so much. I hope it doesn’t happen like this for this girl, let her learn sooner.

[@jackiehenry3372]

Title maybe messed up, but this girl is a trip. As my mother use to say, when you don't have a pot to piscin or a window to throw it out of, then you need to check yourself. Tory doesn't care, she's not gotten rid of that chip on her shoulder.

[@itzlexxii]

Stories like this makes it hard to date single parents

[@kukala3]

You DONT reward bad behavior!

[@ericcarr4evr]

The day she turned 18 she would be out of the house and whatever happened, well, it is what it is.

[@jackiehenry3372]

Let her go to live with her dad now that he's got his life together.

[@leighnisbett9691]

The biological dad can't afford to look after his daughter as he barely can afford to take care of himself .

[@raindancer1872]

Her mom allowed the behavior as she never stopped it in the beginning as she should have. And laying into Tory is to little to late! He should never have married Joyce.

[@NancyGreen-q1p]

OP is right. Totally on his side, but he should have stood up, and emotionally cut her off much earlier.

[@lori4762]

Well Tori better get a job and take out student loans if she wants to go to that big college

[@jackchop1576]

Joyce is the biggest issue here. OP is deluded thinking that she is an "amazing woman".

[@dcg590]

Facts. She married op for resources, an atm. She is the biggest AHOLE of all she allowed tori to treat him terribly. Joyce is a gold dogger who was a single mother looking for help. Op fell for it. Glad he smartened up before paying for college. Joyce will stick around because she needs a retirement plan and op is it. Op is being used.

[@suncatcher87]

Let's be real, Joyce is a gold digging mom and Tori is her offspring. OP's a doormat.

[@riellekoy7196]

He dealt with 6yrs of disrespect she’s lucky he didn’t kick her out and only took the college fund.

[@stevebanner5609]

Update please-the only people who took the daughter’s side are entitled brats just like Tori, LMAO

[@theevilmilkpudding]

Cant save someone who doesnt want to be saved.

[@helenwoodrum2383]

Disrespecting her stepfather has consequences. She bit, scratched, slapped and mangled the hand that fed her. He put money aside for her college, like a good dad would if able, but she still abused him. I can't blame him for taking it away after that, she didn't deserve it. Her father should be paying for it, but he could barely afford to take care of himself. So her next option was to get scholarships and grants for it. Now that she is eighteen, she is lucky she still at a place to call home.

[@barryelmore1827]

Getting married into that situation was very stupid 🙄

[@jayshutman3101]

If she wants to go to school, she should take out a loan. 😈

[@aleksandarvil5718]

To Tori : *“Play Stupid Games. Win Stupid Prizes !!!”*

[@diannehardgrave8058]

You have the patience of Jobe.

[@The.S.M.Evans.91]

Just like kids shouldn't have to deal with step parents with shitty attitudes, step parents and parents shouldn't have to deal with ungrateful ass kids. Sometimes you just have to cut people off that can't take the time to understand who's really trying to help you out.

[@rebeccajohnson8579]

If I were her mom, #1, she would have gotten a part-time job, SAVING up for when she graduated from high school, MOVE out, stay with friends and get a full time job so she could afford to care for herself! A child this full of HATE, to me is very dangerous and would have numb my feelings towards her! bottom line, I would have SENT her to her father and PAID CHILD SUPPORT!

[@The.S.M.Evans.91]

@@rebeccajohnson8579 I agree!

[@delorescannon455]

@@rebeccajohnson8579 put that demon step monster out of her misery

[@delorescannon455]

🤣 🏃‍♂️

[@wendigos_eat_people7177]

@@rebeccajohnson8579 I AGREE ! I forgot she is dangerous and their are reports of step daughters making false allegations against their step fathers. I know two and one went to prison for four years. The courts and the prison knew he was innocent to such a degree they tried to use the carrot to get him to sign a waiver stating if he finds proof she lied , he won't be allowed to use it in court in the future, if he signed it they would let him out far earlier, but he refused and stayed for his full time.

[@tejai1208]

The mother has a lot to answer for, if she had curtailed and parented ger daughter age appropriately, she would not have become a spoilt brat in the furst place. OP did the right thing as he had 10 yrs of putting up with bratty behaviour

[@cooperflats9725]

As a parent, I can bs to this. Sometimes, kids are just bad. and there is no manual for raising kids. you do your best try to guide them in the right direction, but in the end, you do not have a choice on what they do. Majority of kids are good and learn, but some like Tori just do not want to learn from what they do. They are just bad.

[@jackchop1576]

@@cooperflats9725yaaas queen!! useless ass, passive aggressive, Joyce deserves that bag just because she lays on her back for OP.

[@mohamedemad2051]

Yeah, I agree some children are horrible by nature, but it was never mentioned the mother involvment at the beginning, children need guidance and warnings and punishments to help create a healthy responsible adult in most cases, so the fact that both parents failed at this shows how much of an impact they made about her personality by doing nothing about her early awful behavior

[@virtualshoppers6633]

If Joyce went I’m done! That is your child and her attitude started with you! She going to cut off her daughter over a man after she didn’t raise her correctly. If OP mentioned one more he didn’t care I am going to scream! You 18 leave child! Sound like OP is bragging about this child life. You 18 years to late. Joyce is a huge butt!

[@dcg590]

Joyce is the typical selfish single mother who married for resources. Almost got college out of the deal too. Joyce needed help and an atm. Joyce allowed Tori to treat him like garbage so Joyce is the biggest AHOLE of everyone. Op needs to get rid of the gold digger. After all, she needs a retirement plan and he’s it.

[@RandomTrinidadian]

Yea.... i dont see Tori changing at all.

[@joshguerrero8760]

Kick Tory out and let her learn the hard way.

[@Colorbrush21]

Tori is a 😈 😠😡😤😱😈!! So glad OP took back her college fund.

[@leighnisbett9691]

Tori isn't a child any more and needs to learn that actions have consequences ,she bit the hand that fed her and is now reaping the consequences of her own actions .Op was correct in taking away the college fund and enjoying spending it on a romantic holiday with his wife, for all the abuse that Tori dished out she is not going to have a happy life if her attitude towards others doesn't change .NTA

[@AlyssMadigan]

On the surface it starts as a story you wanna side with daughter on. But with details and context, it's very clear that ship has sailed and she is actively being spiteful and disrespectful and doesn't see wrong in it at all. Multiple adults have explained to her on multiple occasions that her behavior is inappropriate and she went to therapy, he didn't attack her or fight her or try to force a relationship. He respected her boundaries and didn't try to be more than he was. He was her moms husband and her mom cares about her so he cared for her when he could. He didn't have to dote on her or fawn over her if she didn't respect it or want it. At a point in her life she HAD to realize that he wasn't the villain. She had to realize that her image of her father as a child was not the person was always was. I just hope that the intervention doesn't shock her into something else, because sometimes reality shocks don't hit 2000's babies well given internet tells them that you can do stuff like this and get away with it because influencers and popular things get in the way of the other stuff.

[@gailsheets6777]

She does not deserve the college fund. The way she treated her stepdad was horrible. I would never forgive her. She needs to leave home and never come back!

[@draineweeks9605]

In my opinion she was not only disrespectful to him but also her mom. Where the mistake was mad was the Mom cutting ties with the father while he was still haan active addiction. She never got to see the bad see the bad side of him when she was old enough to understand.

[@jackiehenry3372]

Tory is a trobled person, but she is delusional. That chip has to come off. Mistakes were made in her upbringing, but she isnt the only person on the playing field. This is her wake up call, she's 18, babying her is not going to work.

[@leighnisbett9691]

They already tried therapy for Tori before her 18th birthday for her attitude and behaviour towards others .

[@user-sk2ij7mo6y]

LMAO love the greedy commenters....OP never owed Tori a college fund to begin with...just because he had the money for one does not mean she is owed it. If you go to a bank for a loan and talk to the staff the way Tori did OP do you think you will get that loan NOPE you'll be lucky to not get police escorted out. Honestly OP was a lot nicer than I would have been because I wouldn't have just taken the college fund.....I'd have given her 6 months to get a job and a place of her own.

[@Mamakaymmkay]

Mr. Reddito the story head line doesn't match the story 😢

[@Swnsasy]

It's weird because the thumbnail does.. Lol

[@connierichards9121]

Lol. He a busy man. Not the 1st time it's been wrong. Still love the stories though.

[@Swnsasy]

@@connierichards9121 It's not him though, it's his editor.. Hehe

[@katyarb5745]

Yeah, sucks not to match

[@theresiasingleton7055]

😅 I'm sorry but, ABC University sounds like an elite college for toddlers!🤣 We gotta love Mr. Reddito's hella funny since of humor!😂

[@Seir84]

OP did the right thing. Tory was horrible to him from day one. She bit the hand that feed her and now she will have to fend for herself. She's lucky OP didn't kick her out.

[@stephanietaylor142]

So nice to hear one who respects himself from the start

[@GenZPhantom]

She needs to learn to not lash out on people who didn't do anything to her.

[@brendonrookes1151]

I thought the house would be included in a trust fund

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Drew can pay for toris college himself

[@boozer305]

I understand this one. I’m a stepfather and I would cry if my step daughter told me this. Thank God she is an angel.

[@karenshort3880]

Tori needs to wise up and grow up. It’s a hard lesson to learn. But she needs to learn it. Op is right to take the college fund away. Basically it is his money. And Tori didn’t want anything from him. And clearly she was ugly and rude to him for years. She isn’t grateful for anything he did. So why would he give his money to someone like her. She needs to grow up.

[@redcastle12b31]

I feel this dude... my wife's sons treat me like garbage. I don't do crap for them.

[@willburkett]

It might have been forgivable for two or three years after they started dating but at this point it had been 10 and that goes from understandable to unreasonable.

[@Epoxinator]

Kind of confusing when the characters used for the ex husband and OP look almost the same. So given the girl's attitude why did OP ever consider contributing to her college fund?

[@lesterbottomley7641]

I guess the wife has a type

[@kia20794]

:( Mom found herself a Super Simp Money Daddy :( He married her KNOWING what kind of child she had.. No Sympathy for such Super Simps :(

[@dcg590]

Facts. She was a single mother looking for help. Op fell for it. Mom let daughter treat him terribly, he still provided and raised her. Now that she’s 18 mom decides to be strict? Why? Because op is her retirement plan since he already funded her kid’s childhood. Joyce is selfish and op is a massive simp for allowing this. Never ever date or marry a single mother. All you are is a bank to them.

[@azulazul3233]

Dude should of kicked her out... Not his child, he gave more than enough... Her future is not his responsibility... You need to give in order to recieve.... She didn't give so why would she expect that from op... That's what her father should have been covering. Ops wife should it made it clear op was the man who was providing and should be respected

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. Drop her and let her bio dad deal with her

[@meghanvidler9147]

Play stupid games sim stupid prizes. She is old enough to know better.

[@rebeccajohnson8579]

OP, this is a WOW story! Is the mom all this and a bag of chips to tolerate a child like this! If I was her mother, I would have FOUND her father and SENT her to him or place her into foster care! OP, you are a FOOL!

[@leeroberts925]

She needs a real wake up call and anyone who thinks she is being wrongfully treated she is 18 teen people who her negative feelings about a man who is paying for all needs it's not good to bite the hand that FEEDS you he done her more good by letting her find out about the Golden rule treat others like you want to be treated

[@bill8384]

Play silly games, win silly prizes!

[@davidmarion3119]

First off they been divorced for years second off she don't deserve the money third off he disrespected the man that was her stepfather and said her deadbeat dad was more man than him so no she gets nothing I stand with the dad not the a******

[@johnkochen7264]

Just another reason to avoid single mothers like the plague. If the mother does not have issues, the kid most likely do.

[@bakkwa8705]

Not single mothers , singles parents . Also on the avoid list : partners with difficult parents , blood sucking loser siblings etc

[@columkenn]

His first mistake was dating a single mother

[@p.k.953]

I think people still doesn't understand that it's still no fault of Tori at all to begin with! She was just 8 when her parents divorced! She didn't knew about economics at all she just must've assumed what is mostly shown in movies (dad earns, mom cooks) she never got to know how to terrible of a person her bio-dad actually was cause he would still manage to impress her, love her! How do you expect a child to forget (in her perspective) a loving father and accept a stranger as a new one! (Even thought that was not what stepdad and her mom meant to do) From her perspective, she just doesn't see stepdad as a family and the fact that her mom is now with someone else even though her bio-dad is such a good person (in her eyes) makes her feel like her mom betrayed her dad and is living with another man! Her behaviour to me seems completely normal and it seems her parents never taught her to respect elders which maybe why she disrespected stepdad everytime which is wrong on her part but it's not her fault! She just wasn't raised correctly!

[@CS-pi5oc]

The step dad & mom r both to blame for the tyrant, abusive, snarky kid. Bought her gifts, overlooked, let her abuse others…not on my watch. She will be an adult who abuses. It’s more abt who the kid was rather than a divorce. Trip a kid and u get taken home, dropped off to a caregiver and I’d head back to the party. U have to be one step ahead of an abuser.

[@Ominvus]

Seriously! What the hell is wrong with this girl!? I thought she would mellow out at least 2 years into the marriage. Like a tough girl type of persona but with a caring heart. Does she autistic type of mind or OCD that everything has to stay the same in order for her point of view of the world to make sense? I want to know what the hell is wrong with her! Everyone, even her Bio-dad, are call out on her crap. And those replies at the end, why are they siding with her? She causes misery to her family and her stepfamily. WHAT IS WRONG WITH HER!!!!?

[@benerval7]

Paarent and step parents are NEVER required to pay for offsprings college. There are other things that can be done by the offspring to cover college costs.

[@Purdin347]

I am 60 years old, and since, so many parents stop spanking their kids. Kids have gotten worse and carry the bad behavior into adulthood. Op didn't put his foot down soon enough. She needed a trip or two to the wood shed.

[@CS-pi5oc]

Spanking has nothing to do w/the situation. I was beaten & saw my mom enjoyed it by the look on her face. I refused to beat my kids. I had few rules but they were hard and fast. We adopted two kids & one ch was a rule breaker. I nvr wavered in grounding. He was very social…sorry u have two weeks grounding. U do not have to beat a kids tender skin to raise them. I have raised a nursing home worker, a dr., a lawyer, and a flight attendant with a major airlines. They all call, visit, text, & care for me & their siblings.

[@Purdin347]

@@CS-pi5oc there is a difference between spanking and beating. And sad you don't know it.

[@Purdin347]

My dad use to tell me the spanking hurt him worse then it did me, I always thought he was nuts, until I had to spank my daughter. Getting spankings or grounded taught me, that there are consequences for doing wrong. And we either teach them while they are young or a judge will. Or even may have to disown. And either of those are worse then any spanking.

[@rikubrown8109]

​@@CS-pi5ocsorry for what happened to you, but thats abuse and not discipline. Spanking a child when he does wrong is a good thing(as long as it doesn't cross into abuse), then you have a discussion with your child about his actions and why he got the punishment he did.

[@bautistalover]

@@CS-pi5ocgood for you. But spankings work for some people and not for everyone. Groundings work for some people and not for others every family is different. From what you described that wasn’t a spanking that was your mom abusing you. Parents who spank their kids don’t enjoy it.

[@antoinettebates244]

So glad Step Dad came to his senses!! Tori is on her own!!

[@fatimakhatun5788]

Toris mum should have told her from the start what Dre was like. Then she could’ve appreciated and perhaps lord and respected OP

[@crystalyana9533]

He put up with that BS for 10 years!! He’s better than me…

[@shirleyjohnson1930]

That girl is no longer a child. She is a grown woman and from the beginning she was shitty and disrespectful. How could she not know that her father could not support her. She slept in the room while he slept on the couch. He was trying to get his life together and maintain a positive relationship with his daughter. I commend him for being honest with his daufghter instead of saying disrespectful things about her mother and her husband. There are many childen in the same situation, myself being one, and disrespect is somerthing my mother never allowed or tolerated. I think she needs to 1) get a job 2) start saving for her own education and 3) stop being a cruel, bitter, callous, and hateful person. Everyone realizes this, but her.

[@eiland369]

OP 1, the child was a problem from the very beginning so why volunteer to be financially responsible for her???

[@robertboring5817]

She was biting the hand to feed her. She is so stupid. Those side the daughter are stupid. She doesn't want him be her father. Plus real father is mad at her..

[@TruckingShooter]

Never date a single mother. But the bear incident should of ended it. That girl isn't your daughter and never will be. Not your problem.

[@crystaline1093]

Your wife is at fault. She allowed all of this attitude for to long.

[@suejones1962]

Definitely not on the side of demon child

[@MarkCanty]

At the end of the day, her mum should have been more open and honest earlier, she did her no favours in 'protecting her' from he truth so much. Bio Dad was also an AH because he wanted to play the part of the cool dad, and only when he couldn't avoid admitting the truth did he step up and act like an adult. At no point did OP have any obligation to the daughter to pay for college etc. In fact, the final intervention and everything else might be the daughter's best chance to become a decent person and a functioning adult, by hook AND by Crook

[@Rolletti21]

OP 👍 Daughter 👎🤡👺

[@onepieceisking5493]

I'm not surprised that Tori got mad that her own bio dad was telling her how she should treat op and her attitude. Nor am I surprised that she tried to leave because she felt she was being "attacked" and didn't like that EVERYONE was telling her off about her horrid attitude and entitled behavior. That she has to grow up and act like an adult. Of course the brat holes herself up in her room and refuses to speak to ANYONE because she's upset about everything. That no one is putting up with her attitude, her mom threatening to cut her off if she refuses to stop treating op horribly, everyone telling her off about her entitlement, her bio dad not siding with her, and not going to the college she wants. Not surprised that she also refuses to talk to her bio dad since he didn't side with her, probably believes he sided with op, and for threatening to cut off their lunch dates if she refuses to shape up.

[@cathyheckman7415]

Believe me, I have lived this life and opened my home and heart to 2 children. One child loved me and was grateful but the other child made our life miserable! She ended up destroying my relationship with the other sister. She has Autism Spectrum, and had her first psychotic break at 13. This child had a cognitive level of 6-8 years old (she just turned 30). The “normal” sister still does everything she can to hurt me.I loved both those girls with everything in my being and now all i have is a broken heart.

[@johncasteel1780]

Alas, it is true: "No good deed goes unpunished." My sympathies, Kathy.

[@a-a-ron2336]

That must've been one hell of an expensive vacation 😂 but I'm sure it wasn't 240k the story was half believable to that point.

[@Zzzzz.zzzz_]

He said they are planning to vacation at least once a year. So no it wasn't 240k for one trip but however much it was doesn't really matter atp. The rest was set aside for the future endeavors .😂😂😂

[@jenniferpeck4344]

I dont blame him for spending the money elsewhere. I would have cut the mannerless stepchild off sooner by disengaging and freezing her out.....

[@davidignacio3009]

Bitterness between step relations is a common thread in most blended families now. There has to be a law that mandates that before couple with children from previous marriages (and their children) should undergo a state-mandated counseling before marriage and explaining what are the consequences and effects of living under a common roof between them,. Resentment is almost always present when parents marry with another person. It becomes so complicated and some people are not emotionally and psychologically equipped to deal with it.

[@louellacharlton4425]

We do not need a new law! Government has no business being in this. Good grief have you learned nothing from the last 2 1/2 yrs? Government is why we are having such a hard time.

[@michellelowetransactioncoo2538]

State cannot be involved in Everything😮