12 Ways to Create More Self-Love

[@topdigitall]

Rilke said: "Let everything happen to you Beauty and terror Just keep going No feeling is final" Feel theese words deep inside you, every moment...you need nothing else.

[@lisar2801]

Ive always been an empath and a people pleaser. Blessing and curse. Recently i have been involved with a very toxic manipulative person and its been awful. I realised i needed to change my approach to these people and to work on myself its so difficult but i am much more aware now amd im starting to set boundaries and putting myself first and loving myself for once. Its taken me nearly 40 years to realise this! if you loveve yourself know who you are and are comfortable in your skin you'll attract the right people in your life the ones you deserve. Accept yourself first You shouldn't need to have to be accepted by others if they don't they shouldn't be in your life. Life lessons kids should be taught this stuff! Love your channel beautiful lady xx

[@iuanejones1638]

Lisa Weaver

[@ireneiddy1177]

Lisa Weaver you’re not alone sister

[@homenhungry4987]

Malignant Narcissists hunt for, search out, manipulate, and try to destroy empths like us..... I'm 58, have wasted too much time and energy dealing with those types. No more.

[@catlikedat8705]

Exactly!! Nearly 58 here...who knew that self love meant that! Especially if we were never taught if you came from pack of narcs that you love because their family et al (which is the crux of my own hard re-wiring of past 5 decades) BUT their actions and behaviour are painful and damaging and real hell. Not a great role model for foundations to find partner out there.

[@gretchenburton7184]

@@homenhungry4987 yes. I am 75 and keep getting ripped off and manipulated. One trauma after another. So am getting better, catching it earlier. Rebounder helps!!!

[@muibatmustapha8049]

Tips to improve self love 1. Practice self awareness: take responsibility for personal feelings 2. Practice positive self talk: listen to affirmation 3. Spending time alone: 4. Physical exercise: take care of yourself 5. Listen to your intuition 6. Practice forgiveness 7. Don't judge yourself: Love yourself unconditionally 8. Celebrate yourself

[@marywolfe7293]

my birthday is coming up, maybe I'll make myself a cake!

[@malcolmglennie8418]

I like that idea

[@ellyess7203]

mary wolfe; Happy Birthday! Sorry if I'm late, Hope you had a great time! Love yourself! [flowers]

[@appleappl3]

Ok

[@LadyofCleves65]

Ya, thats a great idea. What I do from time to time is buy myself flowers.

[@KatesTeaTime09]

:D

[@ladennayoung2939]

This is almost three years old. Yet it is right on time for me. God truly works in mysterious ways, and He truly is an on time God.

[@apex11177]

Your comment is almost 3 years old and it is right on time for me! 🙏

[@claudettesmith7612]

You have explained self love in a uncomplicated way. Thanks for sharing.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Thank you!! It is so important! 💗

[@Queenslayer149]

So I only caught 8 bullet point I am working an I missing something . This video is great btw. Self awareness Practice self talk Spend time alone Take responsibility for your own happiness Listen to your intuition Practice forgiveness Love yourself unconditionally Celebrate yourself

[@funnygirlever]

❤

[@rosegarcia2371]

Me too! I took notes and had only 8. I guess they are in there somewhere.

[@rachelarmel7547]

I also took notes and only got 8. This video got cut off abruptly at the end so I hope she can add on the last 4 in a part 2 of this!

[@emmalarsson1141]

Me too

[@zabdy_love]

Listen to Positive Affirmations while you sleep & Take care of your Health

[@bcdmovement6856]

Self aware take control of thoughts check in with urself positive talk yes love affirmation yes for sleep

[@ellyess7203]

Stephanie Lyn Coaching Thank you again, for so much! I was scared when you started to say "people who spend time alone.." because I spend most - almost all - of my time alone - well, with my rescued little dogs that is.! So I was so glad to know I am healthy on my own, so long as I love myself! Just recently I was attacked by a neighbour (I was trying to help her) and it has had a very bad effect on me, but just afterwards, on my YT page, was your video about Projection and it described exactly what she did in anger ! Now I am learning from you with this video. I am so grateful to you Stephanie, you are a truly good person. I send my Granny-love from here in the UK, to you and your family. (P.S. the photo isn't me! it's an actress I admired, now deceased, who played Agatha Christi's "Miss Marple" the quaint and very clever old lady detective. I wish I could be like her!)

[@ellyess7203]

P.S. The "Get lost" on your Tee Shirt could say "Get Lost in Unconditional Self-Love" or "Get Lost in happy thoughts" or "... in a lovely place" etc.

[@jackiefrances3272]

Good advice

[@QuIeT_KhA0s]

This is truly eye opening. Please don't ever stop doing what you do. Again and Again and Again. -Thank you Always💙

[@mariamistretta3860]

Self love is the meds ever self care self acceptance self value self worth self respect self help self discipline self challenges self happiness self knowledge self education self control self believe self belief self like self awareness self defense self stand up for myself self qualified self trust self involved self worksachoic self guided self spiritual self understanding self expression self optimist self confidence woman.

[@Autumnpilar]

Yes, listening to our intuition and trusting ourselves is proof of self-love and healing.

[@kayla6681]

I’m going through a self healing journey but the hardest thing about it is not knowing what healthy thoughts/emotions/actions etc actually are. It makes me doubt or question myself when it comes to standing up for myself or putting myself first around the people I know. Sometimes I feel like I’m a bad person for trying to get my needs met. I was brought up in a very unhealthy environment and was never taught what you are teaching the world. If it wasn’t for videos like these and people like you on KZbin I wouldn’t know there was another way to live and continued my life in a environment that was unsafe/unhealthy for me but also my comfort zone because that’s all I’ve known. Thank you for showing me there is another way and because of that I feel more at peace in my inner self.

[@jacinta5169]

Wow....This is exactly what I needed to hear at this point of my life. I've been going through a really dark time & this video really hit home for me. I wrote down all of these points & I will read them every day to remind myself of self-love & how truly exquisite & important I am. Thank you so very much for taking your time in making all of these amazing videos, Stephanie. You are incredible! 💞

[@Snappinbeauty]

Jacinta I'm in a really really dark place also. I'm not sure how to get out I'm stuck I feel like. My partner makes my life hell which has made me get this way and I feel stuck I don't know how to get out.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Jacinta I’m so glad you’re loving the videos! This stuff is so important to learn and it shocking that we can go majority of her life and not know these things. It is all about standing up for yourself taking time for yourself putting yourself first learning how to have positive healthy self talk! So so important!

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Casey Jones what is going on that you feel this way? You can send me a private email On my website.

[@doladutta7699]

Jacinta ditto

[@empireorganizing]

I could listen to you for HOURS I love your whole outlook. It’s always fair and real and makes SENSE. Thank you

[@escapingnarcissism]

Stephanie ! you are amazing and you have helped me more than any therapist! I am greatful for your information and it is totally incredible that you put these videos out to the public. I am very thankful, you have helped me through the turmoil, pain and confusion I have been feeling after leaving a 25 year marriage to a full blown narcissist. I have come to realize that I am a highly sensitive person and an empath and I am building strength everyday because of YOU !! Thank you Thank you Thank you !!!!! God bless you girl !

[@hhosin]

first off you are so so beautiful inside and out 😊. I was shattered into what felt like a million pieces so which thoughts are my true self are hard to distinguish. Most are negative and wounded self. It's been a year and I'm finally getting a little better. I want so much to find myself again. I am an Empath male 41 and Divorcing my narcissistic/borderline soon-to-be ex-wife that betrayed and cheated on me very blatantly and traumatically after 13 year marriage (3 kids) which led to drug abuse relapse, stroke and complete self devastation.😔Your videos are so helpful thank you so much you're an angel! Learning to love myself one day at a time😉 11 months clean I Rock!♥️❤️♥️

[@Annamelese]

hhosin i hope you doing well!!

[@hhosin]

@@Annamelese I'm struggling lately but Thank you.

[@litlbitz]

I try my best to meditate and bring in positive thoughts all the time. The real challenge to this is when you’re surrounded by people who try and tear it down.

[@radiantly_fatime]

1. Practice self awareness. 2. Practice positive self-talk : Listen to positive affirmations to expand your vocabulary. 3. Spending time alone. 4. Listening to your intuition. 5. Practice forgiveness ( self & others). 6. Self unconditional love. 7. Celebration of Self.

[@nessa5123]

Thank you!

[@verreal]

So we've got 7 or 8 according to another commenter, but she says she's giving us 12.

[@coppersense999]

6:00 This comment relates to semantics, her core message is on point. But for me, when my inner critic or she says wounded self isn't supportive, my first reaction is anger. I think her language naturally echoes that reaction. But the challenge for me (that she obviously has mastered if her calm, non-hostile tone is any indication) is to forgive the wounded self and NOT just shut it up. There is a good go-to phrase I heard somewhere that is a quick fix to both shut down the negative voice while respectfully acknowledging its purpose, maybe so it won't come back. I forget, something like: "Thanks, I know you mean well, but I -- whatever, actually love my healthy body, or can do this with confidence, or believe that I am no better or worse than anyone else, and I expect a great outcome, or at worst a learning experience that will create great results next time. But thanks for trying to protect me from getting hurt. That was a long time ago, and I got this now" etc.

[@davidm4842]

I saved this particular video and will listen to it over and over and over again until it gets into my brain and stays there💞

[@beam8250]

I love this! ❤️ Best self love pep talk I've ever heard.

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Bea M yay!! I’m so glad!

[@katelynk4497]

I always have a hard time forgiving myself..others I let walk all over me and seem to attract the worst kinds of narcisistic people...I don't understand wanting to knock others down to lift yourself up. Or wanting to take advantage of the weak when they are down....

[@pampemberton7450]

What up

[@jessicasun4420]

Please keep posting videos. I am binge watching your videos and I love the videos.

[@vivveene]

The inner work is hard but you are right, it takes practice.

[@rosaliesullivan4367]

I love going out but sometimes I stay home to recharge myself! I love sometimes just chillin out at home by myself!😊

[@liammorningstar4970]

Steph the good u do will one day come back to u a hundred fold...you are great mama

[@jay6817]

Really appreciate your help Steph. Great direct, real useful tools for life. I find I need to talk to my younger wounded self, with my caring adult self, sets me right, whenever I have these sometimes negative thoughts creep in. From Australia.

[@jlatx6803]

Thank you for this. Your voice, your logic, your advice is like a warm blanket to hurting spirits.

[@ruwansolangaarachchi5716]

Good. Nice. Wonderful. Great. Prosperous. Self-love

[@joannabrites6288]

I think you are a beautiful women inside and out and I thank you for all the video's. I learn more from you then i do from my therapist. God Bless you!

[@lsd938]

I just remember one statement of yours... ask yourself what feeds the soul... and I have been doing this... I feel good in nature.. so now I go for walks every single day...and it has helped me immensely... two years I had so much pain.. I could not describe it in words... I thank you whole heartedly for your advice...

[@threeicys]

These are all good things to keep before our eyes and learn to make them normal. I am writing these down, making a post up, re-reading them and practicing each one a little more as time goes by. It is good to know I can rely on myself! Thank you for sharing these powerful tools!

[@eeg122]

I just started a week ago doing the mirror method for 10 min. a day saying "I Love you". It's pretty interesting. I will try to do this daily along w/ positive affirmations.

[@apex11177]

You were 4 years ahead of Mel Robbins high five habit.🤚

[@jodieiscool9351]

Thankyou Stephanie. I love this video. Listen to this one often. This year I celebrated my birthday because I've come a long way in loving myself. Thanks to you. If you ever come to Australia - would love to invite you to my house in the hills..I feel like I need to pay you back for how much you've helped me. Xx Jodie

[@jxtchilling]

I forgive for myself coz I am done living in the past and I want to be happy and move on

[@MsScherchen]

The things you say are just so fantastic, enlightening and fantastic! Actually, I have a lot of self love, but it gets threatened when I am in a close romantic relationship with someone who does not react to me as I hope they will.. mind you, when I start such a relationship, I loose very fast my self confidence feeling threatened by a possible rejection or that I cannot live up to their expectations, and I realise now, that I simply fall back into my relationship with my mum who was abusive and never made me feel loved or accepted, always correcting, fixing, wanting something else than I gave. The fear of this makes me behave like I behaved towards her.. trying to live op to her demands.. failing. and the funny thing is, that this provokes a negative cycle, confusing the other person about my boundaries, actually, behaving that way I tell the other person that I do not believe I am good enough which causes an escalating negative game. At the same time, while being in it, as I basically am a happy person and cherish and value myself, I start an internal fight between the unloved child and the self loving and conscious adult. And everything gets very messy.. 😂😂🤸‍♂️🧚‍♀️🌞 because the child’s instinctive reactions often take over. Actually, as it is now, unless the other person totally behaves as I expect ..and confirms me for good enough all the time ..l I get in that place. So, My problem lies within myself and only I can solve it by not depending of MY need to be confirmed as worthy. In my mind I know I am worthy, but under some circumstances my old feelings take over and just replay the old game from childhood. This is so 😝 crazy! I hope, that understanding my own game, will support me in keeping ,my confidence. Still, I have been able from time to time, to set boundaries in a good way and, to my surprise, every time, I was met in a positive way. So ... time will show how this developes , right now, I just have to focus on separating the past game from the present and meet myself and the person in the present. I am curious to see what will happen, I definitely believe it is worth giving it a try. You are right, it is all about ourselves. It is as if we build our own drama in life when it comes to relationships.. emotions. I mean, life can be hard enough ... illness, accidents, war, even loosing job (ex. Under the crisis) etc.etc. Come from the outside and we cannot always do something about those things.. but how we handle these things and how we manage our emotions and relations and mainly ourselves.. that is on us. Thank you for you very enlightening inputs. I like very much that it is not about the other person but about ourselves.. I mean, if we accept being treated badly, why do we accept it! Having written this, I do not expect things to change from one moment to the other, maybe it will end with nothing, but I wish to give it a chance. I am too curious about life and people and myself and it all, not to try. Ps: my mum was admired by everybody, giving this polished perfect presentation of herself to the world, the abusive things were secret.. i knew she was wrong but the world told me I was wrong.l luckily I felt accepted and loved by my dad, but he was very much absent, and his love was very distant .. he was a cold and distant, very self absorbed person. After their death (also happened in my childhood), i always said that she would have destroyed me totally if he had not been there. Mind you, after he died, she became a bit more human/relaxed. So... maybe she had a similar problem to mine.. 🤗🌞😀 . I wonder whether all this makes any sense to others? Have a great day

[@bcdmovement6856]

Listening to ur intuition and forgiveness

[@rmt3589]

1:15 I can confidently say I don't love myself, which is one of few things I'm confident in. I hope to learn self-love.

[@kirstenwilliams6056]

Love you Stephanie! Fantastic tips that I feel I can definitely start to implement. I think one point to emphasize is that these things might feel weird or uncomfortable at first, but you get used to it and eventually you start to believe them or do them naturally. That has been the case for me :)

[@ysites]

Excellent video. Great practical tips. Thank you.

[@bcdmovement6856]

Had to learn to appreciate time alone

[@laurengala3441]

Thanks so much to you and your families

[@MerlaHubler]

Poignant, valuable video. I already know I’ll come back to this a few times to remind myself. Thank you!

[@Daniqueinstyle]

This is great. Setting a reminder to check in with yourself. Sometimes we get so wound up we don’t get to pick that we are thinking negative. Thank you

[@Daniqueinstyle]

Forgiveness within yourself, unconditional love, celebrate myself and taking care of myself, loving and supportive of myself not lookin for someone else to support me. Do it for myself! And everything in moderation! Another good point.

[@teresaspurlock590]

You really have to love yourself before you can love someone else and to achieve your goals in you.

[@dianaboughner7977]

👍💖 Well this clarified quite a lot of the difficulties with building self-love. I do practice a lot of self-care aspects but the emotional key is the big challenge. Like you say, if I can love and care for others but not be equally considerate, accepting, and forgiving of my own flaws then this is the work (or play) to be practiced.

[@linda3649]

One of the most amazingly important video I ever watched Thank you

[@allforthegloryofjesuschris6250]

Why did I need this today thank you so much Stephanie God bless you

[@bobhunley6143]

Thank You Guardian Goddess. 😎

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Bob Hunley thanks for watching!

[@alcudiababe1]

Yeah you are right if you don't forgive they're okay and getting on with their lives while it's you in the discomfort. That's actually a new way to look at it x

[@sambarreto9639]

You Are Awesome.,God Bless You and Yours.Your Positive Outlook and Advise to Help Others Is So Beautiful..You Are Special / Aren't We All, Lol..I Am Doing Good.,Thank You So Much for Everything.❤

[@AlanCohenalco67]

Stephanie, love your channel, as always,.. you are spot-on!

[@simon.houseaccount4807]

It’s nice to be able to put urself first. .. I on a better fitness jornee now at 45. In s great. So thank you great video

[@lessonswithdelmi4495]

Great stuff!! Thank you Steph.

[@bcdmovement6856]

I like the wounded self term

[@spiritfilledwoman6272]

Happy New Year. This is the last video , I’m watching in 2020. I strongly need this for 2021.

[@lindseydrake2085]

I love love love your channel!!! Thank you!! 🙏

[@darylannweigel9688]

I look at the shirt as a positive. Go out, GET LOST, in the moment! Enjoy the clouds and mountains…..nature. Listen to Leanna Crawford “How Can You Not”

[@shivamtomar7229]

1 month into positive affirmations and it is magic.

[@rosegarcia2371]

Very well put. A nice video with great ideas. Thanks !

[@tikax2085]

Your videos are so helpful. Please keep doing them ! I enjoy them

[@carolbullard251]

Powerful Message 🔥 🔥 🔥

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you for super advice !

[@skyelite5284]

Love being by myself & enjoy family also putting narrcisitic ppl st a huge distance

[@jonadakaloshi7370]

You are a blessing. So good 👑.

[@lilylily5952]

To love.to forgive.to offer the best of who we are

[@k.j.jordan7355]

Guided meditation to healing a broken heart

[@shivaferasat]

I soooo needed to hear these, thank you so much my dear Stephanie 😊🙏🏻

[@wvfsd070]

Getting addicted to your voice and videos

[@user-ud4fs3vx8o]

so good, thank you!

[@mariamistretta3860]

Positive self love. 😀🤗😊

[@GabeWells]

Your videos are really helping. Thank you so much!

[@WiseMan341]

Decoding you was a little tough. Thank You 🙏

[@adelecosmetics9305]

You are Amazing thank you ❤️

[@slgreetings]

You are Awesome

[@markfarran5401]

New to your channel and enjoying how you express your topics. As im currently healing from someone who lied and manipulated me, i know that i should forgive this person to help me move on but am struggling to do so. As i regularly am forced to keep some contact, i am reminded of the pain and sadness and thus struggle to forgive. How you explained forgiveness was very helpful and logically put. Thank you.

[@dariasterle1861]

I agree like 100% :) you are amazing. ❤👌 thanks for sharing it with us

[@willyorfanos]

Thanks! Wonderful stuff! So I have learned the hard way on most of the stuff your talking about, Life can be difficult as we all know. Celebrating good things in our life is very good advise but also we must celebrate the hardship and trials because this is when we truly grow. After one particular hardship I remember looking only at the closed door in front of me, instead of the doors that where opening around me. Now however I have learned that pain is essential for physical and mental growth but misery is optional. I now look at trials as an opportunity to grow and find myself no longer staring at closed doors.

[@dougmcclow673]

it's august of covid 20 and stumbled onto your channel. Timeless, helpful and thank you. do you love /give yourself like you do your kids or best friend. hmm Forgive self - you can't attract what you want if you are carrying around bitterness and unforgiveness and baggage. hmm. Lots to reflect on and thanks for simple and practical ways to help crack the code.

[@jc8258]

Thank you. 31st December 2020 7:52a.m.

[@symoreprimus2303]

I enjoyed this.

[@callierosechurchill3375]

All of your videos are amazing! Thank you!

[@catrionamacfarlane4949]

Excellent video....thank you .

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Catriona Macfarlane thanks for watching!

[@jbr84tx]

The SL in the lower right corner stands for Self Love.

[@javeriaharoon7957]

Great tips

[@chooochoo9603]

This is so powerful.

[@79britchik]

I never understand how I am not supposed to expect happiness in my marriage and just make myself happy .I know I’m not supposed to expect someone else to make me happy but what about happiness in a relationship? aren’t we supposed to get something back if we are honestly making an effort ? Maybe I’m just not getting this I can make myself happy thing if I’m fighting narcissistic traits and my own emotional baggage.Love your videos Thankyou so much

[@terencehennegan1439]

Great video 👍

[@angelaschmidt7303]

I am 50 years old and I have just now started the healing journey. I don't know that i would of ever gotten help but i have been forced to face my past. 13 yrs of domestic violence and trauma from my childhood. I have never really felt love for myself because i am my worst enemy. i am glad that i have finally started this journey but im stuck at loving myself. I have no self estteem. How can i love myself if i don't know how to love myself pleasse your videos are very helpful but i need help

[@jonug7660]

I like all your videos

[@ariescandelas4855]

All I can say to you is thank youuuuuuuu love ur videos

[@thepromiseland.4867]

All of sudden I am feeling like I have this big responsibilty on my shoulder to compensate for all the damage people did to me..lets prepare a list..me to myself baby what do you want to do now😀💁‍♀

[@dimondalmasalmas278]

thank you so much 👍🏿💋💋💋💝💝💝💝💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

[@lilianrajcic]

Thank You Stephanie - this is truly precious ! By the way.... your "SL" you can associate with SELF LOVE for yourself too - like the SELF LOVE - COACH ; - ))

[@rachelarmel7547]

Loved the video (and all your videos are excellent btw) but this one seemed to get cut off abruptly and there were supposed to be 12 Ways but I took careful notes and only got 8. Was wondering if maybe you could do a part 2 of this topic to add on the other 4? Thank you.

[@ladennayoung2939]

Yeah we are real hard on ourselves.

[@stellasam]

Your videos are so amazing and helpful Thankyou so much

[@katelynk4497]

Woah I needed to see this. Your videos are so helpful thank you.

[@katelynk4497]

Is there such thing as spending too much time alone?

[@cgchaser]

Its easy so long as I remain in good health and able to do the things I'm passionate about :) But if my health were to ever fail for some reason what then??? I believe self love is only possible so long as I never become a burden to anyone.

[@cjennings6179]

Self PROTECTION FEELS GOOD!!!👍 Check in with Self Awareness.💡😅💝 Peace of MIND is Analytical logic thinking: PATIENCE. SELF-RESPECT SELF-CONTROL LOVE: AGAPA type.💝💡👍