Why Being With A Man Who LOVES YOU MORE Is The Wrong Approach!

[@StephanSpeaksClips]

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[@jazswank2790]

I don’t agree with this. When women say this, they mean that the man should show more effort. The man is the initiator so he should. Doesn’t mean to not love a man back or to not be open. Just don’t do the most for a man that isn’t doing much for you.

[@lovelylinda8891]

💯👏🏾 Bingo

[@someonespecial581]

A man who loves you more isn't the same as one who knows how to be in a relationship with you

[@Jackie_Bernal]

I agree with you 👍

[@rubysundae134]

Nah. They mean exactly what they're saying. Women who say this are settling for a man that they don't really like that much. He's good enough and workable.

[@sisid6295]

I agree with U Jaz

[@Goldenheart2911]

Love is not a competition. When two perfectly imperfect people can find each other, truly connect, take time to heal, put the past in the past and want to live in the present their focus will be on each other and not on keeping score.⏳ To love is to be loved.♥️ Keep the faith and never settle or give up on finding the love you truly deserve. 💛

[@clarissegomez9275]

So true. Love is not a "competition" there you go!

[@TheFiestafan123]

“A man who’s not worth it dismisses your feelings, does not care, is constantly, blatantly doing the wrong thing. He’s not showing that kind of effort [being willing to listen etc.]”

[@julzluvzdollz]

A man must chose you to be the one he wants. Otherwise it will not work! I agree with Stephan you shouldn’t be choosing a man that that loves you more but a man that loves you and you are his one and you feel mutual. It’s really a special blessing and must be equal.

[@CK-solutions]

I went for a man who I thought loved me more. He was sentimental. Showered me with gifts. Told me everything I wanted to hear. Unfortunately, he was a deceptive and manipulative backstabber, when it suited his purposes. I didn't realise how much, until he left after 24 years. Several people came clean about what they knew he'd been saying about me, behind my back. They didn't want to tell me at the time, because we looked happy. Long story short, a man that loves you, will tell you the truth - even when you don't want to hear it. I don't mean insensitively, but he will tell you what he thinks. Which is a sign of respect, esteem and love. Sugar coating everything with flowers, is really the sign of an insecure man.

[@khanyisilemakhubane9098]

but were you as hurt as you would have been if you actually loved that man?

[@CK-solutions]

@@khanyisilemakhubane9098 He who is faithful with little, will be ruler over much.

[@vidhudisney]

There is a saying in my culture. Marry a man who likes you than the man you like. This does not mean you marry a man you feel nothing for. Both of these men have passed all your provide protector criteria, look attractive in your eyes but the dealbreaker is who likes you the most. That always keeps the man ahead and in the lead position. It is better for him. Not just for the woman

[@michelelynn6113]

My mother always told me to be with someone that's into "you" more... Amen it's a gentle tug-of-war

[@annekajordan6952]

Romantic love is a two way experience - The joy to give love should be equally as strong (if not more) as the joy to receive love - such a beautiful & powerful thing when both have each other’s best interest in mind 💞

[@786afg4]

can you make a video on us knowing the difference between love and attachment?

[@lanam1636]

Thank you Stephan :) almost married a man I didn't love just because I wanted to be "safe" you're absolutely right

[@HoneyLee13]

If he’s able to provide, protect & give you the life you desire, why not try growing to love him 🤷🏾‍♀️💓

[@lanam1636]

@@HoneyLee13 because it's not fair to the man before it being not fair to me, the first person I'll be hurting is him, forcing myself to have a spark that's not there, I don't want to be a cheater or a heart breaker just cause I married someone I don't really love it's not fair to my kids either what do I say to them? I married your father knowing he doesn't give me butterflies in my stomach just cause it's convenient, if I was the kid I'd say "then why do it mom" and that's a great question, I wanna marry for love not conevninace

[@HoneyLee13]

@@lanam1636 Wow! You made me look at this from another perspective, thank you for sharing I totally agree

[@lanam1636]

@@HoneyLee13 you're very welcome :) God bless you 🙏💕

[@PrisantyaFridayana]

@@HoneyLee13 for some people it doesnt work.. I've tried to grow my feelings to him, as he is consistent coming to me.. But the feeling is not there even after 4 months.. To the point, I dont like seeing his face.. I dont like to be touched by him.. I feel it wont be good to both of us in the long term..

[@CyberSecurityFashionDesigner]

I struggle when in my community, they believe in the man loving you and coming to you and you accept even if you are not attracted to him. It’s wrong and I have been always shamed. It’s all forced. Later ppl end up resenting each other!

[@belvamoore8169]

Who does that? you don't ever have to accept what you don't want. Reject kindly, because later you may find that that's what you needed. Men usually can spot their wife. Never let someone put you with someone and they tell you what you are with that person.

[@CyberSecurityFashionDesigner]

@@belvamoore8169 thank you so much! It’s like men choose and we have to accept! That’s not fair! I’m a visual person too! I want what I like! Just bc time is running out, does that mean settle for the one you do not want? I prefer to not marry that person then!

[@absolve4024]

Yes this is how some culture are

[@mianguyen9739]

Wowed..you are amazing...I’ve been married to a man for 15 year because of I feel safer when he’s loving me more than me loving him..you touched so many senseses. I’m at a crossroad of my life

[@shannonpowell9965]

Facts! Very true...we as women ASSUME a lot not recognizing what's not being said and done by him. We too can have walls up not willing to be vulnerable therefore the guy doesn't feel like he can open up more. Maybe you need to know his love language and tell him yours 🧐

[@mariamjibrin7260]

my dad love my mum more and they have been married for 30 years now even my mum and dad advised me to marry someone that love me more. they explained that the man is the leader and head of the relationship and should put more efforts more than the woman and they have been just fine.

[@DeliaGibbs]

"Just fine" is separate from Red, Hot, Passionate Love. The longevity of a relationship does not attest to the strength of its emotional, intellectual, and sexual connections.

[@carolsabatino8448]

I agree

[@tamjamtv]

We are operating out of logic not emotions, we will ensure he loves us consistently through action & grow to love him because of facts not our feelings.

[@lovemyself9125]

If a woman put out more than he does what's the point of having him around. She giving a $1000 he giving $5. He can keep his $5.

[@arlandosargeant3714]

Goes both ways no?

[@RhondaR4]

I understand what you have said! He loves me more and that pushes me away! His giving to support my needs showed he wanted to help me but his actions showed he doesn’t love me more! I have to love me more not to get hurt!💯

[@bowdred]

I started dating a guy in January of this year and i also gave my all. Every holiday he spent with his 9 year old son and the mother of his son which i was understanding in the beginning. Past Labor day i reached out to him wanting to spend time with him. It was 11:30 pm and i asked why are you still there at her house. He told me if i have a problem with him being at his son house we are friends going forward and he walked away.

[@tequilachanel7312]

Yea I agree, a guy who comes on too strong or love me more can be scary. And annoying. Personally, I fall in love quick but I’ve learned to think logically, and not rush expressing that to a man too early. I also allow him time to fall in love with me. Getting to know a person takes time. I’ve learned to never give Away my power emotionally or physically before commitment or being properly vetted. I feel like being with a guy you’re not that into can lead to security but it can also lead to cheating later on in the relationship especially if you don’t find him very attractive 😩 Ladies you can have what you want. You Just have to know how to play the game. And it is a game, whether you choose to play or not.

[@belvamoore8169]

But also remember that what you want is not always what you need. Sometimes you have to be careful for what you are asking for ,it's not always good for you. And why mess up a good thing. A wise women builds her house, a foolish one pulls it down with her hands.

[@CammyCamz-o8]

Thank you for your words of encouragement and honesty.

[@long3606]

love the passion and straightforwardness u spoke with

[@mercedesdukes1101]

I agree completely..you have it this issue square on the nose... thank you for making this make sense now..You're the best at this...you truly are💜🙏💯

[@cilixialatinantillaise8664]

I admit I had this scary thought...And U're so right! 🙏🏽

[@evelizesther]

But it’s kinda true when u really think about it. A lot of women will at times indirectly force a relationship with a man who isn’t in love with them. As a woman we know when a relationship is based on heighten desires verses love and respect. The foundation of the relationship is very critical and if that man is not emotionally available and his reasons is because he does not feel a deeper connection and the woman keeps overlooking on the red flags, it will not last.

[@janisdunbarakasugarlips5621]

I can't say that I loved a man more than myself. You got help 🤗 you like it LOVE IT

[@jayc5756]

Speaking All Facts bro

[@phoenixrising8007]

The man who’s not worth it versus the man who’s not perfect 👌😎 Gr8 distinction

[@joanagain007]

True, it don't work, when we make sure of that, we are afraid and we don't give ourselves the full hundred, and when we think we've got it where we want it, then we start releasing ourselves, it can dam fully well backfire.. . This thing is just so tricky!!!

[@cynthiagomes2979]

First of all men can't love more than women. I know a man can't love more than I can. God made us to be nurtures. I know he's not perfect, I'm not perfect. I just want him to love me, be in love with me. I am waiting on God to send WHO he has for me. This way I can operate in my birthday suit!! I will know all those situations will not apply to my relationship. With God as the head it can't do anything but succeed, no failure with the Lord.

[@cynthiagomes2979]

@Queen Of Paintings thank you!! Making me cry!! Know in your heart, it was work!! The Lord needs me to be strong as an ox!! I feel like Daniel. Bring it on!!😁 I love the Lord with everything in me, legs, arms, nose, he has showed me so much of himself and believe, their is nothing impossible for him. He is alive and well. He loves us more than anyone. So sweet and compassionate. Yes, never, ever leaving him. You be blessed always.🤗♥️🙏

[@MelissaElene]

But scripture says for the men is to love their wives and wives respect their husband.. so men have to love more… No?

[@cynthiagomes2979]

@@MelissaElene no, why shall they love us more than we love them? As you already know, our makeup is different. We need love, they need respect. God gives us guidance for life in the bible to include relationships, marriage. We as man and woman have different needs. As for me I don't want a man to love me more than I love him. I may not love him enough if that's the case? Equally yoked is as much as I can give, as much as he can give is enough for me, a beautiful thang!!

[@Luver4lyfe]

@@cynthiagomes2979 my good sis. Please reread Ephesians 5:25-33, as you may be misunderstanding scripture. Do not get hit wit the okie doke! Your husband should love you as he loves himself, and love you as Christ loved the church to the point of self-sacrifice if the situation calls for it...Meaning your husband should love you more and put you FIRST. This distortion over the years is why so many relationships are failing: women are doing the most, when she's supposed to be virtuous and let her man prove himself worthy, while she submits herself to him.

[@cynthiagomes2979]

@@Luver4lyfe he should love me as himself, yes. I thought it was should love me more than I love him? I've read and understand what it says. I misunderstood the question. No he shouldn't love me more than I love him to be my King.

[@goddessoflight74]

Well handsome, I thank you and I love you. We can only take your words and apply it to people that have connections. Everything else, can be, and should be left behind, with the understanding that is what is meant for you, key word... meant, will never pass you by. ASE.❣

[@seriousfromnyc]

@Stephan Speaks Clips This video posted right on time for me, I have been getting love bombed non-stop for almost a month now, I'm steady waiting for the other shoe to drop.

[@yolandaperry86]

Sorry, but it never seems to work well for me unless the man loves me more.

[@UnaffordableTiff]

Yes, get us all the way together!

[@MissPinkapples]

I don’t agree my dad advise me to always date a guy that loves me more than I love him because he’ll treat me better

[@natashatwine7818]

Listen to your father, he'll never steer you wrong. Don't listen to worldly guidance, new way of thinking.

[@Luver4lyfe]

your father is not wrong. This is even biblical Ephesians 5:25-33.

[@natashatwine7818]

@@Luver4lyfe You better say that. 🙌🏾🙏🏽

[@natalied6923]

THANK YOU, Stephan 🙏💕

[@shalisadavis1294]

This really resonated with meeeee! Thank you

[@tracynunez3157]

Daaang min 7 “ONLY feels safe because there’s lack of vulnerability “ I surrender lol reading me THIS WEEK BRO 🙋🏽‍♀️

[@narviaflournoy3869]

Thank you for sharing, Amen Amen !! 🙏🌎🏙🌃

[@dina_ganzheitlich_gesund83]

This is the main reason my Merriage didn’t last! I was hiding my fears. Fear of true love! I’m so thankful to God, He gave me a second chance to experience and have true love! ✨🙏🏻✨thank you Almighty! Please heal yourself , heal your femininity and go for true love!! Allow yourself that your true love, your man to find you! Wish you all much love from Germany ! ❤️❤️🫶🏻

[@belvamoore8169]

Lust override flaws. So a person can end up with a wrong person. Friend zone them ,but know how to move out of the zone, But not friends with benefits. I feel the man should always show interest in the woman first ( although some men are shy / reluctant to approach a woman). Him being interested in you don't make him a good catch, sharpen your discernment he could just want to play. That's ONE reason not to test the waters. If your not sure, see if you can miss them awhile and see what he ( or she for men)got up there sleeves( might be a rabbit).

[@Lawyerbaejess]

A man should love his wife as Christ loved the church. Christ gave his life for the church. A woman should never want, be required to, or expected to die for a man. Thus, a man should definitely love his woman more.

[@JustforusCanada]

Speak on it

[@jr38499]

Such a good point and biblical reference to explain this principle.

[@jennf.8355]

Thanks for sharing I just subscribe🙏🏾 💪🏾💯

[@kimberlybarnett835]

An older man gave me the same advice. I didn’t understand why he told me that. He passed away shortly after that and was married to his wife for 53 years.

[@neshacummings1666]

So I do Agree. I say that bc Yes, I was that person and abt 2 b 2yrs ago. but I Conquered Thru That.(Learned n Grew) but in between that Growth,(Sitting back looking at things) Giving My Love, Support,ETC. 2 Wrong Person. I also learn how Powerful my Love An (S**) Really Is!!! In It's Crazy 2 Say but I Asked For Kids 🤦🤣 He gave them 2 Me Right Season in Time (He didn't Say by who)🤣Also I'm Not Scared 🤪Yes,I'm Ready And Definitely Serious.

[@flojj7519]

This is liberating.

[@shesroyal8463]

Thank You Stephan!❤️

[@phoenixrising8007]

Faith over Fear 🙏❤️🙏

[@lheens]

Thank you Steph

[@Novembersongbird]

Wow!! You dropped a jewel " "Attachment" not Love... its never good to be in a relationship when someone loves you more and you really don't love at all because its safe.

[@larosabradley2745]

Love this

[@khanyisilemakhubane9098]

MOST ARRANGED MARRIAGES WERE SITUATIONS WHERE THE MAN LOVES THE WOMAN MORE AND ARRANGED MARRIAGES HAVE BEEN SHOWN TO LAST THE LONGEST. I BELIEVE THAT WOMEN HAVE MORE CAPACITY TO LEARN TO LOVE AND COMMIT TO A MAN THAT THEY AT FIRST DIDN'T LOVE BUT MEN MAY NOT HAVE SUCH ABILITY. WOMEN THRIVE AND ARE MORE CONTENT IN ENVIRONMENTS WHERE THEY ARE LOVED RESPECTED AND PROVIDED FOR AND WHERE THEY AREN'T HEARTBROKEN LIKE IN SITUATIONS WHERE WOMAN LOVES THE MAN MORE. YES IT MAY BE ROOTED IN FEAR AND NEED TO PROTECT ONESELF BUT IT IS A MUCH BETTER CHOICE THAN UNREQUITED LOVE AND WASTED TIME ON SOMEONE WHO YOU MAY BE DISPOSABLE TO.

[@mikyl-fo8rh]

If he suspects she has been in a romantic relationship in the past and she won't give him a chance, he needs to leave.

[@Enjoying_her_journey]

Oh this is good. I love it!

[@janisdunbarakasugarlips5621]

You brought it back are you analyzing me. Yes it's a Match

[@daliaa5294]

My fiancé loves me more and I think that works for me. I love him obviously But women give more and sacrifice more than men It takes a lot for a man to be in love

[@khanyisilemakhubane9098]

exactly

[@reflections4me]

I don’t agree with what he is saying. Ladies please don’t accept this advice because it is soooo wrong in so many ways. Naturally as a woman you are nurturing and also naturally you are a giver, if you end up with a man who you love more it will not be well with you. Even their Bible says a man is to love their wife and women is to respect the husband. Respect naturally , when you as a woman is being loved well and protected equals submission. Please ladies don’t be, never ever married a man who you love more.

[@khanyisilemakhubane9098]

thank you

[@RhondaR4]

I’ve never experienced a good man, non abusive man! I’m scared to feel the love my heart desires! How do I embrace vulnerability?

[@kelvinroy2782]

Good men exist Rhonda.You gotta be vulnerable and put your heart out.

[@RhondaR4]

@@kelvinroy2782, Thank you! GOD BLESS YOU!🙏🏽

[@naomidavidson1866]

I understand you completely. I've always given more , fought to be noticed, never had one man in my life that I could trust including my father so now I want to play it safe.Im tired of men who treat me disrespectful. Now I'm going to go with someone who adores me,provides for me (yes,I work), wants me to be by his side , dependable , tries to please me.

[@janisdunbarakasugarlips5621]

Hanging out it'll be just business right you don't sleep with each other and nothing because that's how it's been I'm just a reply on your videos what's the problem is to come up YEAH OFF ME LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE! 🙏🏽🔥

[@gloriakuhn8670]

Sorry, but we have no choice but to have a man that loves us more. That's the only way that we don't get used and abused. I have lived for 39 years as a woman and this is reality, not negativity.

[@urainaheyward190]

To me when a woman is vunerable, she gives SO much, seems like always to the wrong person, then she gets used and abused.

[@rosameijering5161]

When you do this, its not nice for that man and the opposite.

[@harrietbih2238]

One morning two weeks ago the Holy Ghost pressed this revelation on me and I posted it on my instagram. He said it's driven by a spirit of rejection, control and manipulation sort of like witchcraft. Rihanna once said her grandmother gave her that advice. An older woman I used to work for gave me such advice. That's what Apostle Peter in his New testament letter referred to as "old wives tales" and warned us to not practice.

[@janisdunbarakasugarlips5621]

I can't do I love privacy because of who I am

[@anonymous6594]

Ever done a dedicated video on soul ties?

[@carriebell3566]

It should be equal. Just different expressions!

[@briceleste100]

Can someone link the original full video? I know this is a clip but I wanna watch the entire thing

[@neyyleanpz1621]

Can you make a video on hot and cold men..

[@abigalestoll]

💯 agree.

[@janisdunbarakasugarlips5621]

You are one of them

[@kerrserrant5230]

In the real-world love does not exist. How many times does a woman have to put her heart out there just to have it broken.

[@downbad2874]

Men are now being taught to get a woman who loves u most so I guess everyone dealing in hurt

[@gloriakuhn8670]

Men may be taught that, but I haven't seen one that actually takes that advice. In fact they usually discard the woman as if she's nothing if she shows too much love.

[@deardiadem]

@@gloriakuhn8670 Thank you. Men abuse women that love them more. I've seen too much to make that mistake. God forbid

[@janisdunbarakasugarlips5621]

You were on my other page

[@neyyleanpz1621]

How you you describe love vs being in love?

[@janisdunbarakasugarlips5621]

Look what I've been into sense / since then LOL 😆

[@lynnanderson1923]

If you want a permanent relationship and they don't, does that not mean you love them more?

[@janisdunbarakasugarlips5621]

Can you guys comment his video like I do I don't want to feel alone there happiness for him advice work

[@trafficcontrol2420]

Stephan ❤

[@natashatwine7818]

The Word of God says the husband should love the the wife as Jesus Christ loves the church. The wife should respect her husband. The Word never says a wife has to love ❤️ her husband. Therefore, this is not true.

[@gyolande]

The logic in that statement is flawed. First off how do you measure who loves who more? Secondly I feel like if someone is “loving” the other person “more” then they are bound to be taken advantage of 🤷🏽‍♀️.

[@janisdunbarakasugarlips5621]

Don't get the stupid Tax let's move on this chemistry

[@JuWannaRoland]

💎💎

[@downbad2874]

Who’s giving women grace because I see no grace just men using things against women

[@lisajones-franklin3574]

🙏🏾🙌🏽❤

[@janisdunbarakasugarlips5621]

Go get this free therapy does charge me $196 a session just come say hi Janice what's going on now and they don't want me there because I don't need no medicine things are just going great as their concerned but for me I need somebody to talk to 😂