How To Make Him Chase You...

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Make Him Chase You... In this dating advice video, I will discuss the idea of men needing to chase women and if it's okay for you to make him chase you. The idea of how to make him chase you might have crossed your mind during the first date, online dating, or somewhere in the dating process. Take heed to the make him chase you tips I will share and ensure you watch the entire video.
I don't want you just to let him chase you before you understand that there is a lot that comes with the chase. The reality is that many of you have been told that it is okay to let him chase you. Ensure you have watched this video before you make him chase you again.
Before you think about learning how to make a man chase you, I want you to understand that a lot comes with making a man chase you. Therefore, I will not only talk about how to make him chase you in this dating advice, but I will also explain other important matters regarding the chase that you need to consider before you let him chase you.
As a certified life coach, relationship coach, and dating coach, I want to make dating and relationships easier for you. I pray that you find this video helpful, and that you will be able to enjoy dating and have a fulfilling, healthy relationship.
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[@reesa103]

WOMAN PICK MAN I DO ANYWAY LOL

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[@poohselena]

I have a question is there anyway to talk to you about a situation I'm in

[@sandraeastman9776]

😊

[@kortiniamartin9682]

I don't want to be chased I want to be embraced

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

[@PharmersConsulting]

Pursued

[@MegaMarquette]

They'll embrace you alright but not all will chase.

[@AuntieAriiii]

This!

[@lishamarie7808]

Facts, amen to that

[@melissalara523]

I love how Stephan encourages women and men to heal and treat each other with compassion, instead of treating each other like adversaries

[@gabrielleaumont3971]

Oh yes! Game-playing will backfire.

[@debsmith2789]

He encourage complassion but doesn’t tell us how to do so. Women doing the most is one-sided .

[@Afternoon99]

@@debsmith2789 maybe we have to suggest him doing the video for men to understand women better on the other channel of his, maybe he would take the suggest

[@oliviaroy1932]

that's basic.

[@atlsongbyrd6084]

Well said!

[@AB-ib3nf]

I'm a former model, & Stephan tells no lies. Men will chase & leave after or they'll stay, be toxic & stalk. Just have honest communication, everything else is a game, & in games 1 person has to lose. Appearance doesnt matter either, you could be his ideal, & if he's not mentally, or spiritually ready, nothing else matters.

[@gabrielleaumont3971]

Well said and true!

[@lilu2830]

Wow. I love ur comment. Well stated.

[@bellamorenita6138]

It's best to be single. The one we like dont like us. The one that likes us we dont like😂

[@yolondataylor2717]

Exactly… This is exhausting..🤦🏽‍♀️I’m ALMOST to the point, “To Hell with It”… ✌🏼.

[@shellyfullerton]

Very true. 😢

[@katiethequeen88]

Why is it like thisss😂😂😩😩

[@shellyfullerton]

@@katiethequeen88 ikr

[@MsSadeBrown]

My partner started pursuing me from day one. I wasn't looking for a relationship. I offered him friendship, he wanted more. His consistency opened my mind to the possibility of being with him. I let him know how I felt about him and sat back and allowed him to lead the relationship. He matches my energy and I match his.

[@verarobinson6759]

Beautiful ❤

[@earth7451]

“You don’t have to chase what God sent.” Brilliant!

[@1962Virtuouswoman]

Absolutely, God will send the right man!

[@katrinajackson7994]

Absolutely No one has to chase what God has sent and both parties will know.

[@charlita25]

Love ❤️ it

[@Joy-zo6ci]

True words Amen 🙏

[@ChildofYAH]

Exactly! Soulmates are very REAL. It may not seem like it at the time or it may seem superstitious but soulmates exist, and you only get ONE. When GOD is your top priority, (no not Jesus but GOD), He will bless you because He knows your deepest desires and wishes. Just know GOD comes first before ANYONE, He created us, not Jesus. Just give it to God and he'll handle everything else. Love and blessings to you all. ❤️

[@tamaralandreneau8005]

"The same walls that protect you, are the same walls that keep you from your blessings!" Amen. ❤️

[@dawnsmith4311]

Oooo I felt that. Scared me a little

[@koeykoey125]

You are giving the best advice. I do feel uncomfortable and unhappy when I have to pretend I don't care and not being myself. From now one, I am going to be myself. If being myself remove attraction, then we are not meant to be.

[@angelinaesposito3058]

You have to Always ! Be Yourself & Authentic in Every way@ And the right people will be drawn to you & others will pull away from you. That is Very Very good!

[@MW-uk5ji]

Thank you so much Stephan. I think you are one of the only relationship coaches that doesn't encourage toxic game playing and manipulation. I hate those channels- I'd rather be alone than in a relationship you have to screw with someone's head and heart. That's not love. That's bad juju magic. Thank you for being a light in the dark.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy that my videos are helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

[@rosannareyes472]

Listen to @Rcblakes

[@DivinelyFavored32]

@@rosannareyes472 I love his videos too!!

[@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473]

Yes RC Blake 🔥 🙌🏿💯 he is the father of healed healthy relationships Stephan is the brother of healed healthy relationships It’s good to hear from a younger and older man They are amazing and set such a great example for other black men

[@lonaisaacs]

@@DivinelyFavored32 me too

[@tinacole2237]

Chasing equates with running away from something and avoidance of self power. The one running away needs to be let go of. Being present and being open to love requires being open to vulnerability, self awareness, self growth and self love. Often that comes with age, experience and wisdom. Live your truth, heal your abandonment issues and let men off the hot seat. We as women must do our own work and heal ourselves which will result in being open to healthy love and connections.🥰

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

[@tinacole2237]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I appreciate your wisdom and only speak from my own experience. Also as a therapist for many years I realize so much of our female experiences with men outside of social constructs is a result of childhood abandonment trauma. Abandonment recovery work is a powerful step in healing and having healthy loving relationships for both women and men if willing.❤️

[@danacooper6723]

Truth!! There are so many women that are unhealed and lack maturity.

[@karlar8648]

Exactly. Let them go.

[@annbressie8615]

This man speaks the absolute honest truth. Going the safe route leads to pain and regrets. Being authentic and healthy in communication and true feelings is gold. Thank you for this video although I wish I had heard this many years ago.

[@rainejonespersonal]

“As he gets older” + “trauma.” This is SO true! Currently in this situation. Stephan, you have a gift! Thank you for sharing your gift.

[@Eg-jd9zt]

My friends in happy marriages never did any of this chase me stuff either. They were just living their life and when they met the one they were open. That’s it. They didn’t chase, but they didn’t play all these games either. They just stood still

[@annk.3545]

They just stood still-yes! Thank you!

[@QueenBees456]

Hmmmm… I think men generally speaking, like a challenge if he makes an investment in time, resources and emotions to get you he is actually less likely to walk away.

[@leesalemon2953]

❤

[@KeitraBriSings]

This was always my issue.😂 I told a guy I liked that I wasn’t interested in being serious so he stopped taking me seriously😂😂😂 I was so upset but then I asked for myself, “sis.. why would you do that?” 😂😂😂

[@hulabae1541]

😂😂😂😂😂 I felt this

[@cindyglevine]

I married a man who chased me and I was never in love with him. We divorced a year ago because he cheated. Next time I will only married if I'm in love.

[@8mmel]

I made the same mistake. Getting divorced after 7 years

[@clove8763]

I think what had me not accept just a chase is because I've experienced real, genuine pursuit before that greatly synchronized with my interest in him. I didn't know what to do with it (But that's another Life lesson to go over at another time 😂), but I knew how our matched chemistry made me feel alive as a Woman. Now in no way am I comparing future pursuits with my past; however I use how he made me feel as a study guide/checklist : Do I feel butterflies? Do I find myself thinking about him sometimes throughout the day? Does he make me smile (Even when he's not trying to)? How does he looks at me when he thinks I'm not noticing? Am I dreaming about him?... and trust me, the list can go on and on. Bottom line: If a Man that's chasing me doesn't make me feel ANY of the above things I've just mentioned...And he could be chasing me for years (Which one recently did and found out that I could still care less 😂)--NO DEAL!!! Here's to hoping that all of our future pursuits/romance make up for all the wrong ones we came across. #StayEncouragedLadies

[@theworldisimmense]

You dont make sense . You married someone you didn’t find attractive and love him just because he chased you? Come on

[@clove8763]

@@theworldisimmense Trust me, Cindy's scenario is more common among women than you realize. I know women who have pressured other women to fall for lackluster romance just because he chased her or showed interest in her first.

[@theworldisimmense]

@@clove8763 then that’s crazy and shouldn’t be happening. Women has plenty of options and choices nowadays so no need to do that. I been talking to this 23 year old single mom at the gym for a while, maybe give some advice

[@maggiecos2892]

On POINT !!!! NO ONE IS PERFECT 💯💯💯💯. Sooo it's about COMMUNICATION!!! WHEN STUFF STARTS COMING UP IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP "TALK ABOUT IT PEOPLE " !!!!! EXPRESS WHAT MADE YOU FEEL SOME TYPE OF WAY OR A BEHAVIOR THAT YOU DIDN'T LIKE. Whyyyy can't people just communicate????

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Communication is definitely key!

[@shantedavis3620]

I Agree but When You Tell Your Mate the Problem & Nothing is Being Done What's the Next Step ? I As A Woman Shouldn't Have to Beg for Time Especially if You Pursued Me. It Takes 2 Not 1 and I Cant Keep Showing Effort When My Man is Not....

[@maggiecos2892]

@@shantedavis3620 THEN YOU MOVE ON DEAR. PEOPLE WILL GET AWAY WITH WHAT """"YOU """" LET THEM GET AWAY WITH!!!. MEN ""KNOW"" THAT. THAT'S WHY WHEN YOU TALK TO HIM AND HE """DOESN'T LISTEN""" AND ""CONTINUES"" TO IGNORE YOU AND CONTINUE HIS BEHAVIOR IS BECAUSE """HE KNOWS""" YOU ARE NOT GOING TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT BUT TOLERATE HIS ABUSE !!! SO GUESS WHAT???? ITS GOING TO KEEP GOING ON AND ON AND ON AND ON UNTIL """YOU""" PUT A STOP ON IT

[@ToniaAlex13]

@@shantedavis3620 deep down you know what you need to do about this situation. I talked to this guy for a week on the phone alot (before that we texted), we never been on a date bc I went out of the country briefly. He said more than one thing that I didn't like and I explain why I didn't like it. Dude starts pulling back, so what I did pull back too.

[@wanderwithla]

Because when you speak they yell or are defensive so we just keep quiet and walk on eggshells …

[@elenarotestan5823]

Goodness I thank God for you 🙏 🙌 . How can you always be on point!? 😂 'Nobody has to chase what God sent you' hit me hard. 'Trust the flow of life' 🙏

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 🙏

[@nadinegilles5940]

Oh Yessss

[@katrinaraglin8073]

There's a big difference between chasing and pursuing. If someone is chasing, then the other person must be running away.

[@cynthiagomes2979]

A mutual effort from the beginning. It can not be no other way for me. I'm a good woman and need to know I'm loved, wanted and needed, period. A man can't out give a woman. In God's timing. Good advice, you rocked!!!

[@tryagain9098]

I detest games. The hot and cold. Im just watching this video now but us women have to remember guys get shy too, and sometimes us women gotta make some sort of first move. They are scared of rejection too. I came up to the guy and made conversation and he vibed off me well i could tell he appreciated me, showing him initiative. We both were scared to make the first move and if i didnt come up to talk to him another week would have went by.

[@roxy7255]

We might go for the safe guy temporarily but soon get bored and want the more desirable but busier guy 😂 Thank you so much for this video it’s incredibly validating I felt like there was something wrong with me for not wanting to settle for the safe guy who chased non stop. I knew he wasn’t for me but I allowed it for much longer than I should have I won’t make that mistake again after seeing this video!

[@lerya6134]

“The same laws trying to protect you are the same ones blocking your blessings” VERY true! I did this with my husband bc i felt the need to be chased due to my own defensive mechanisms and it was my way of being affirmed and reassured when really that was the way he knew to show to love me and it wasn’t enough for me..& now its one of the reasons why he doesn’t do it as much. can we have more videos like this?? Thank you Stephan

[@lisafossett6193]

God blessed you with this gift to help people understand what good relationships are and need in order to flourish and be successful. I love how you break things down for both the women and the men making things make sense and how both need to take accountability for their role in either building a healthy relationship or how they can break down a relationship even before it gets started. You bring a lot of wisdom to your listeners and I do appreciate 🙏🏽 what God has blessed you to teach. May you and your wife stay blessed always and keep loving one another 🙏🏽 Praying one day I will find that good kind of love with a good man. God bless you 🙏🏽

[@loishall1139]

I pray some one will love me as much as I will love them

[@tamaratindall1688]

I think of it this way. You like me, I like you. What are we doing? You either want me or you don't! I am not gonna keep pursuing you, if you aren't making no effort. I will go on, and not want you at all!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@tamaratindall1688]

Your very welcome. I am so inspired and well taught by your relationship videos. I have learned not to take their crap anymore, or be their doormat. Thank you for all these great videos I love to watch .

[@docjan7812]

Seriously a guy that is interested in you can take 20 seconds out of his day to say that he wants to see you, that is really not too much effort!?!?!!?!!

[@ekklesiajoy]

True. False sense of security. Been there, divorcing now

[@mystiqueself-care6387]

You should let him come to you. Show your interest and be feminine, if he stares at you, smile while maintaining your eye contact. You just need to remain receptive in your energy (behavior) and be confident as a woman. He WILL come to you, he will start to embrace your femininity and maybe hold the door for you, be graceful and say thank you. Don’t help him, don’t suggest a date or your number and absolutely, don’t play hard to get. Exist and focus on your well being and your softness and how you show up. Never give a man anything he hasn’t asked for, he will resent you at some point for this.

[@jessieoakford6113]

I refuse to be the 1st one to approach anymore. Refuse!!! If u want me, u like me, wanna get to know me? Prove it!

[@mignonanderson7756]

I accidentally tapped this and now I feel like this message was meant for me to hear 😮 so deep🤦🏾‍♀️ honestly I actually took notes 📝 great advice in the best way..thank you 🙏🏾❤️

[@reginasavage102]

Straight facts Stephen!! Man is either going to stay or he gonna leave once he feels he has met the challenge. Game ovet

[@jordyn.24]

I’m 20 and just got out of a breakup about two months ago, I really needed to see this video. I’m interested in someone a few years older than me, and It’s so easy for me as a young person to feel like I need to find a way to make him “chase” me because of (what I recognize now as) his availability. I watch a lot of videos about dating from both women and men’s perspectives, and feels like a completely unique message to me. Thanks so much!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏 You will find my video on bad dating advice that keeps women single informative. Feel free to check it out here 👉 kzbin.info/www/bejne/jZPUlXarnK6mh5o

[@frankbobby1930]

Hi jordyn

[@theworldisimmense]

Your just a kid , enjoy your youth and work on yourself and don’t worry about dating now

[@lalaheart76]

​@@theworldisimmense 😅

[@tabithabarasa1362]

I'm letting God handle the rest, I tried.... Thanks dear 💕

[@JustineWord]

Stephan... this video really called me out... I’m literally in disbelief of how it parallels to my current situation and past. I’m taking a long gaze in the mirror to right my wrongs. I so needed this and don’t think it was a mistake that this was suggested to me today. Thank you, thank you, thank you and please keep letting God use you. 💯

[@raerivera5676]

A healthy level of boundaries and standards is extremely important. I think this has just been taken to a toxic level .. I have never met a man who has kept an “easy” woman long term either. Everything is about balance and respect.❤

[@venaetheartist8067]

I'm only 5 mins in but wanted to comment. I came to this channel knowing you would have a video on this. I just saw another vid of a man saying he is disgusted by women chasing men....but what that means was not explained. I am happy for this safe space to get understanding from an emotionally intelligent man with good intentions that wants to help.

[@lindacahoon829]

The part you said around 41 and later, hits home. It has consumed my thoughts quite a bit and distracts me from doing other things mad working in myself more

[@tosinmubarak8646]

Community

[@Eg-jd9zt]

Damn this is so on point. The guy I’m dating explained this very thing this weekend that he was all in crazy over the last and she was not committing and playing games and how he’d never be that way again and it’s nothing to do with me bc he’s cautious and has grown. Was def meant to hear this today. He’s also super busy at this time work wise

[@TheAttractionTriggers]

*I've been wondering how to create that spark and make him chase me, and this video provided some fantastic tips. Can't wait to put these suggestions into action!*

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@moniqueb3917]

Overwhelmed, confronting yet true. Looking back when I waa younger I felt like a man should chase me too. Bad advices followed too. Thank God I am mature grown and look at things diffrent

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@moniqueb3917]

Thank you Stephan

[@zinaboulahia9291]

We live Iin a such unhealthy society when it comes to relationships nowadays, it drives everyone crazy , pulling their hair, and not knowing what to do anymore. God bless your knowledge and advises!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏

[@CdnLady001]

Stephan, I'm so blessed to have found your vids! I've binge watched and now am at peace with being ghosted. Ready to be chased. Thank you!

[@hawkinsburleson384]

Can I share something with you!!

[@mannyfernandez1601]

There is also that as you get older you mature and realize that chasing isn’t worth it, to pour all this energy into someone that has no interest in you and losing yourself in the process

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing I appreciate that 🙏🏼

[@nataliewilson5393]

Emotional Maturity is the beginning of the foundation without it there is no base.

[@ladytee2017]

Yep, all of this!!!!

[@vaksehund2]

This was the best (trust me I've listened to a few other's advice & they're bad). Now I can rest in that pouring into each other is the best thing. ❤❤❤

[@ronkeronke1284]

People got idea of Chase from Nollywood Drama. Chasing is depressing for Men, be nice ladies🥰

[@HollyBealer-fc6xl]

Ladies. I beg you to please stop reacting sensitively to the weight issue. The sensitive reaction is an unwillingness to work on improving the way we look. Why? BECAUSE , IT IS HARD WORK!! The reality is when we don't have a deep desire to look good and stay in shape, outside of physical disabilities, is that we do not value ourselves enough and have self-love. Love is a God-thing. Draw closer to God through reading his Word. In God is ALL we need. GOD through his Word will teach us to love and take care of ourselves. Also, we will in turn learn to love sufficiently (without fear)enough to recognize, enter, and maintain a relationship with the right Godly man. Much Love ladies. Thank You Stephan for all you do for us. You have helped me greatly. MUCH GRATITUDE!

[@mariaquintino1670]

Stephan I’m so happy I clicked on your channel. You have opened my eyes to so much. I have learned all the ways I went wrong when choosing my partner. And I agree with you 100% and the lady you mentioned. The chase comes from a negative place and I’m about love and caring and cherishing so it doesn’t not work. Thank you for your great video. 😊❤

[@nandamaharjan2985]

Stephen, you brought up some really good points that we all women need to know. Women have been brainwashed by other women (mostly) to make the guy chase you . There are self-claimed relationship guru on KZbin who are misleading women on acting hard to get, ignoring him, or if not manipulate the situation to get his attention which are so unhealthy. I know it because I have done it myself following the instructions from some KZbin channel. But Stephen, you are so honest and real, and you show that you genuinely care. Every woman should hear you at least once, thank you 🙏

[@jelenastevanovic5314]

I've always been a bit confused in defining or recognizing what is actually a reciprocated effort in relationship... and what is confusing breadcrumbing for effort... Then I go back an fort into extremes of giving too much - or thinking that I am giving too much, and in receiving breadcrumbs - or thinking that I am not thankful enough... Where is this healthy golden line of reciprocity?! 😪

[@patriciahetherington1709]

The bottom line is to know where you stand with a man and don't chase him let him show you more interest in you and give him a taste of what you got not the meal .

[@Ravilette]

Bonjour Stephan! I’ve been watching your content since you started on KZbin. I wasn’t ready to date yet, because it was too painful for me, so I only searched content like yours and Kev Hicks etc, because I wanted the black males perspective and to be educational correctly - little by little at my own pace. I just subscribed today after revisiting the idea of dating. I believe this video just set me free. I’m ready. Thank you so much. God bless you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Welcome aboard, and don't forget to click on the notification bell to be notified whenever I release a new video ❤ 🙏

[@orcaoracle]

You must teach this as a subject at schools! Amazing Stephan, thank you!!

[@taliagoodwomanmann]

Fun fact- Many spider species have something called nuptial gifts. It's were a male spider gives the female spider a gift wrapped up in silk (the web material). The material inside is either ant parts or other insect parts, flower bits, or sometimes nothing. Some males try to fake a gift. The female spider will let the man come to her to mate while she opens the gift. When she sees the nuptial gift and does not accept it, she will stop and leave, not letting the male keep mating. Sometimes she will kill the male. Some males have found a way to hold the female and keep holding on to her even when she tries to move away.

[@cutie13581]

Lol 😂

[@taliagoodwomanmann]

@@cutie13581 True story. 😂😂😂😂

[@cutie13581]

@@taliagoodwomanmann 😂😂😂

[@taliagoodwomanmann]

@@cutie13581 Someone needs to do a comic strip of these type of spider interactions. Their activities are worse than the state of the human relationships. 😫🕷️🕷️

[@Citystarchaos]

Omg The universe literally knows what it does I just came on to look for a video and the girl that reached out to you the way that she told you she felt is exactly the way I feel and is the reason why I started to look for a video in the first place mind you I have currently pause the video to say what I’m saying because it is crazy how you dead don’t go to people for advice just ask the universe and the universe will lead you to the right people oh my goodness I cannot believe it is common is literally a testimony you have no idea❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

[@kiawalker6203]

Thank you for clearing this up Stephan. U are the best

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help 🙏

[@myillumination5054]

Totally agree with everything you said. Excellent video! Thank you for such high quality material 🙏🏽

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@TKSH628]

Gods guidance came straight from. You. Straight up. So much knowledge and truth. Thanks❤

[@justdreadest]

FYI Feminine men will not chase you. Masculine women will have to take the initiative 😅

[@sonyaromero2010]

This literally saved me today. I was against and tired of the games i really like this guy who is really pouring into me and i have made him chase and it has gone wrong

[@GiePena]

This is what I should keep practising. Let go of control

[@anabella1341]

I love the idea of equal pursuit

[@MissRooti]

Insightful; especially when we seek God for guidance! Thanks!

[@Ms.Shree330]

I loved this video thank you so much. I needed this so much. Thank you for including God in there he is first and the main priority. Letting him guide me and me taking the time to actually heal is what I need. Oh Man.. THIS WAS SOOO GOOD! MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS YOU❤

[@barbaraedwards5675]

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. For shedding some light on what might be happening with older men, i.e., 60, 70. I always complain “They have no follow through!”

[@jayc5756]

Its crazy how the current dating scene got to this point. The good women used to be in a great position. Now they listened to some bad dating advice somebody gave em all. I'm Still tryna figure out who told them these crazy things to make them change and felt that they need to play games, pull back and all that stuff. And on top of that...social media. They got jealous of the thots on social getting attention...so they was so jealous of that attention that they starting losing themselves. And they actually thought they were doing a good thing too. They were already good...but felt they needed to fall back more or play games and stuff. The problem is...the players and manwhores and stuff are the ones giving these other thots attention...and the good women see that and tryna get their attention. So when they encounter some good men who just want to get to know them normally and not playing games...they feel they gotta play these games with us. And it just turns us off. SMH! So yeah, imo...thats what happened unfortunately. Hopefully these ladies wake up and get back to how they was before. But idk. That wanting attention thing may still be there. And since social media isn't going anywhere, idk if they will fully get back to how they originally was per se. But hopefully they can still wake up. We will see.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@jhica5718]

A mf once said to me, "those blondes at work likes me but they dont have the chase like u do"........and i weren't even playing games.....

[@msdavis0326]

Very well stated.

[@jayc5756]

@@msdavis0326 Thank You sis!

[@jayc5756]

@@mslove2913 Thank You sis!

[@doragruner8931]

Beautiful advice. I love this and I believe it. We all want to feel special, men aren’t exempt 💞

[@FashioNstyle85]

We both r not chasing. He wanted to meet n I was out of town n when I asked he was busy. So I said I can wait for the right time. Week later we both stop texting not bec I don’t want too but I m mirroring his behavior.

[@shaiii222]

My situation now. I felt like this 2wks ago and again the past few days, but I'm realising he likes me more than he saying. It's confusing for me because we are mirroring each other but no one speaking upb😂 Also I've given sooo much to men friends and family in the past, now I've healed it's like I don't care for nothing. But this man I care for a lot but we both lame!! 🤣 Pray for us all!

[@aunttonyaboveriaandrassy5663]

You are preaching in the ending of this video.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

[@NARCDELUSION]

Yes, those last sentences were gold. 👏 👏 👏

[@honeydove_4844]

This just took a load off. I waited a long time to manifest a good man and now I gotta him make him chase me??!😮 Good video

[@franceska-fm]

Wow, i was so wrong and that’s why my boyfriend left because he was giving 100% in the relationship and me nothing and now I’m the one that is calling him, and asked him to forgive me… and he said “ no no more this is done”. And I love him so much…💔But like u said I’ll leave everything to God🙏he has the control.

[@AshBashOneOnly]

Whew. Ouch And Amen. Thank Stephen!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@mamaknow8056]

I’m not those other issues he went through. Guys gotta restart that engine. This info needs flipped n spoken to guys cuz so many are unhealed. 43:00 is gold btw,, thx Stephan you’re so good!

[@livelaughlovin_lifeafter50]

Another great video! I think people have gotten this 'chase' and men are the hunters misconstrued. I would never chase a man in the sense that today's women do putting it all out there for the man and even proposing to a man. I'm traditional and tend to stick with traditional values that are in alignment with the way God wired men and women. It still stands even today that for most men there's no sense in buying the cow when the milk is free. My personal values are that women should never chase, but allowing a man to pursue you first and chase doesn't mean you leave him hanging with no reciprocity. That's stupid and what's the purpose? We have our womanly ways of showing interest so if a woman ia not reciprocating (not by giving up the goods or chasing him hunting him down) she's simply not interested. It's very arrogant and rude and selfish to make a man put all of his energy into you without reciprocating in some way to let him know you're into him. A relationship is not a one-way street. You have to flirt to show him you're interested once he's pursued. The conversation flows in a positive direction and you continue to give him a significant amount of energy but, not all of your energy because you still have to protect your heart until he's proven himself...as in proven himself not to be one who is just after the conquer and on to the next. That's where women get it wrong. They go all in giving up the goods, wearing their heart on their sleeves to be trampled on without going through the process of allowing enough time to pass to ensure that he's properly invested in you and not just after the "conquer" and chase" that feeds the ego that is spoken about in this video. On the spiritual side of things God also puts His children through tests to see if we are truly pursuing Him and truly want a relationship with Him and not just in it for the things we can get from Him. We should also test a man's motives..that's really the purpose of the "chase". It's just wise to do so because not every motive (a man's interest) is good and pure.

[@imnoemit]

Love this explanation sister🙏💜

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@Kiki-jx6by]

Yes. I call it after the two get “ involved intimately “ they get comfortable.

[@BooDotBoo]

This is a struggle. Like, I have heard this many times, as well, to let a man chase you, but it does come off like a game, to me, as if I'm a prize to be won, but I'm not a prize, and I don't mean that in a negative way, but a realistic way. With your game analogy, once you win a prize, it goes on your shelf and you go off to find another challenge/game, why would I want that to be a situation I'm in? If I like a guy, I don't want to act like I'm not interested when I am or that whole "he didn't text me for five hours, so I'm about to make him wait 8 hours before I text back" stuff. I want it to feel natural and be open with my feelings, both of us feeding into each other. I don't want anyone to chase anyone; I want us both wanting to be there and liking each other clearly, both putting in the effort we can. No guessing, no games. I've found honest communication helps this issue, but it's uncommon to find someone I like, who also likes me, and who actually communicates their feelings, good or bad, to me. Too often, I'm trying to be real, but the other person falls into game mode and then I'm turned off. Because I don't want to have to chase someone, like I'm sure they don't want to have to chase me. Plus, some guys are a little too careful because they're worried about coming on too strong, so I feel like being open and honest about how I feel gives them a greenlight and more comfort, as well, rather than me trying to do that hard to get stuff and them having to guess or getting frustrated because they can't "figure me out". I want a partnership, not one of us thinking we're a prize or something. I know that kind of goes against a lot, but if he's putting in the level of effort to meet my needs, I'll put in mine to meet his, and we can grow. That's all I need. But I'm also going to add this because it's been my experience. The guy who drops everything to be with you, all the time, and seemingly has no life, he can text, call, come over, etc, at any time, tends to be more... obsessed, if that makes sense. Meaning, his priorities are often off. He also tends to expect the same from you, so if you make plans with a friend and he calls you up, he will be upset if you choose hanging out with your friends instead. However, a guy who makes time for you, while still having his own life, meaning he will say no to you, sometimes, or not be able to call//text/come over all the time... his priorities just seem more healthy. Because he knows how to exist without to you being there and can accept you having a life, as well, so you don't become his EVERYTHING. It's just always worked out well for me with the second type of man. And it doesn't mean he doesn't put in any effort, but it's a healthy amount, I guess. You still know he's into you, you don't need to question it, but it's not overboard.

[@racheljeannettet]

Take heed. I chose a man who chased me and I mistook the love bombing for true love and am divorcing him after 13 years and 3 children due to narcissistic abuse. I’m healing and learning how to not repeat that mistake. He actually told me I’m his property 😮

[@TheJoaneD]

Stephan I love your passion and clarity in explaining complex concepts. This is my favorite video. 💯

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I appreciate that ❤ 🙏

[@Coco-kr7gr]

Don’t call him don’t do it 😂😂😂😂 all truth absolutely 🤞🏾

[@JustBeingAwesome]

I'm sooooo happy for your words. The whole circular dating method feels so off to me.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@MT-yx5cu]

Are you really pushing payday loans with the state of people's finances and financial illiteracy today? C'mon now Stephan😂. Great message about chasing!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for watching, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@saraflory-zv4bc]

Thank you I needed this. I’ve watched videos that talk about men chasing women. I also have fear from being hurt. But you hit the mail on the head with me. I didn’t take that advice because I want to be me. So I had that conversation with myself. If he don’t like me reaching out to him and that’s just who I am. Then maybe he’s not for me.

[@diademmedia8262]

Am sure it goes both ways. If a woman allows a person in her life without much resistence, or consideration she can get played. Similarly if a man allow a woman in their life without much resistance or consideration, he may also get played. As they say "easy come easy goes". Dating is either russian roulett or a mexican standoff. Lol. Scary.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@Meral903]

Thank you so much for this information and especially the part about listening and trusting what God wants for you

[@katana1871]

This is incredible true… Nowadays you see so much crap on the internet, even from some friends. I just can’t believe why we have to mix toxicity and love. NEVER. Love is love. It should feel like it.

[@yolacorreia4651]

I’d like to know stories of men that have been played by women, because I only hear the women side and never met a woman that play with man… I don’t know why but sometimes I think men don’t suffer as women or they just hide

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@toriambrr]

being honest with myself has been huge lately. even if it sucks, i’d rather be honest than play games, lie and stress myself out. however, my boundaries are strong af lol

[@samuelgarrison1199]

Hey Steven you are the man you got some good points made and I hope they listen and God will guide all of us keep up the good work brother

[@Ahbhswrzq9221]

It is so true I don’t feel safe until the man shows me great desire through s’insultent chasing then I can give a tittle my emotions

[@dionnesimpson6183]

Any dude I've been with had to WORK for it!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@dianearrington6666]

It’s the dynamics for me, and my adult family 💁🏾‍♀️.

[@naomianche7580]

Wow! Wow !! Thanks for this video Stephan. Because I've been criticised by family that i should let the man chase me and pouring out on a guy I genuinely like is BAD. I take their advice and hold myself but when I do I find out am not myself and I become anxious because what I wanted doing I couldn't. But when I do what my mind tells me to do I find PEACE. and when I feel like calling I don't but I really want to. But at the end of the day I tell myself to do me only 1 thing I get scared of is to get hurt. But I show the guy I like that I care. So its up to him. Thank you for letting me know its not bad to pour into a man

[@vanessanedd6784]

I was taught by my dad never to chase a man. I am now 56 years old and I will continue not to do that after my divorce. God will give me the man he wants me to have. Bless!!!

[@adrianasanchez8191]

You are great. We all need this advices. Thank you ❤

[@MelodysKitchen]

This video feels so liberating.

[@cindybuntain9361]

Honestly that was the best advice I’ve ever heard!

[@weinerwagon6667]

I e stopped communicating with the guy I was seeing. He’s backed off a lot. And I realized I’m “chasing”….ill see if he comes back. If not, not meant to be. Period.

[@thaithai9559]

“Does God really want me to do that?🤔” 🤣🤣🤣 Amen

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@cassybeauti]

🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️Question❓ Stephan, can you talk more on the purpose alignme and trusting God, between a woman and a man!☺️ I would love to learn your thoughts 💭 😎

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

[@cassybeauti]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Wooohooooo! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I’m excited 🤗 I’ll be patiently waiting 😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬

[@hawkinsburleson384]

@@cassybeauti please I want to share words with you

[@tanea7942]

Great talk! Yes I gave been conditioned with a man giving me consistent attention. I am guilty if judging one from the other based on availability. I love the metaphor if the reward if conquering a game then moving onto the next. My concern is men are good at falsifying their love or feelings to get into the panties. He does all the right things just to get the reward. Its so hard to determine whose real or not these days. Lately the last 4 attempts, it starts off so well. We are compatible, have many things in common, then after 2-3 months all 4 tells me they aren't ready for a relationship and I deserve better. Thus definitely weighs on my confidence or leaves me confused on Chatham I doing wrong??? Because it seems so right.