Steve Harvey Breaks Down Stepfamilies

The author of "Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man" offers relationship advice.

[@cmichole]

My step father always took care of the household. I never really had a strong connection with him though. I’ve always respected him and have been kind but wouldn’t confide about personal things. Or go hang out. You can’t force things. He’s my mothers husband and I respect him for taking me in and helping raise me.

[@Yomama1029]

I’m a stepdad. I never had children and I have difficulties in the relationship but I have a step daughter whom I met at the age of approximately 9 1/2 yrs while dating her mother of course, and her brother who is doing well for himself helped raised the child. To make along story short there is the son of my wife now that is involved in our lives is approximately 30 yrs of age with a beautiful 3 yrs old daughter. I have had issues with him in the past. There is no real connection between us but on the other hand he is trying to get close for his mothers sake, me on the other hand no so open to the relationship because of the past between us. I am just wondering do I have any obligations towards the relation between us other than being respectful and I guess courteous do the reason it is my wife’s son.

[@BlackGirlLovesAnime6]

If he took very good care of you why did you never have a bond with him? Was it you that didn’t want to get close because he’s not your dad?

[@jenfoster128]

@@Yomama1029 No you don't have a responsibility to form a bond with the son. Polite and respectful is enough.

[@lilmizzpoet]

That respect goes a very long way. That’s all that you have to do.

[@kamijenkins4202]

@@Yomama1029 So nice to hear you being so honest. I am a new stepparent of 3 and have a son of my own. All kids are grown except for one of my husband's kids. I would and do try everything in my power no matter what to be open, honest and try to stay as close as I can to all of the kids. I do not know you personally, but to read this I just have to say that this must be on your mind more than you let on to others. So that means that this is affecting you. TBH I think that you should try to make amends the right way and open your heart, mind, and your mouth to let the said kid or kids know how you feel in a non-threatening way. If you try and if you pray about it most of all, things will begin to come together as it should be. You can do this. Best of luck and God bless you all.

[@dalmaingrant2470]

I tried the blended family thing and it ruined my life and leave everyone unhappy,I view all 5 as my children ,I never identified any of them as step children, that created grudge and bad feelings, the wholeness I fought so hard for fell apart quickly partly because there was a lot of back stabbing from the people who were suppose to have my back and help me make it happen

[@waynepolo6193]

Did the ones who were "supposed to have your back" have any issues with the new partner or the new family at any time? Is there a chance that they might've felt you havent *their* backs?

[@sh3stunning628]

Please say more

[@marietgagliardi]

It's not easy. I don't recommend

[@mafiooato7233]

Never be a stepfather. It will destroy you for life.

[@augustineramos_]

Step families rarely work. Don’t let the media fool you for all we know there’s big drama at Steve’s house when the cameras are off.

[@angelicarodriguez4488]

If a step parent has earned that title of "mom" or "dad" from a child/teen it's because they're doing right by that child/teen. It takes a level of maturity to accept and coparent. Some people don't have it. Being a step parent is a thankless job. It takes someone special to be able to love their partners children as their own.

[@willjackson4505]

Angelica Rodriguez what happens when they don’t want to be liked or loved by you?

[@Not-Ap]

@@willjackson4505 Then you respect them and give them space so long they don't act bratty. Treat them like roomates basically. Friendly but not friends.

[@gixxerhoff7502]

And some children no matter how right you do by them just don’t have it in them to accept you. And that sucks big time for the selfless step parent that continues sacrificing and providing to only be rejected. Don’t be that kid

[@anthuanjm]

@@gixxerhoff7502 this is so true 👍

[@graysonwalker]

My step dad was good to me & my half brother (his son), but my step dad wouldn't have anything to do with his son from his first marriage & when he left his first wife, that son was 2.

[@augustacorns]

Your stepchildren are NOT your children. Respect that boundary at all times.

[@marietgagliardi]

Unless there is a bill to be paid. Then they are your kids 😅

[@dianpowell6416]

The step father step mother curse. I dnt want to deal with that at all.

[@vanessaroper3028]

Nope it’s a sh*** position to be in and ungrateful task too

[@aishahstriggles6779]

Steve, he is a very positive brother.

[@lyndsiemmiles]

My husband and I thought, studied and prayed hard before jumping into blending our families. We have been married about a year and a half. He brought 5 with him. I brought 6 with me and we just had number 12 six weeks ago. It is hard. But worth it to raise some amazing kiddos.

[@hhlech2852]

We have 8 between us. We each have sole custody. I love my step kids. It’s also really hard.

[@keneilwemokoka3134]

Tell me about it.it is hard.

[@Dailyprofitqueen]

How are y’all doing over there?

[@kendrickburnett2305]

Crash dummies

[@SisterSanMiguel]

Ew

[@TheVANITYKILLJOY]

I always thought to my self that if one of my parents remarry, I wouldn't consider their new husband or wife, my step parent. I would consider them my mom or dad new husband or wife. and their kids they would just be "that guys" kids or "that lady's" kids . not my step-brother or sisters

[@k.g.1698]

+ned bigby That's a very sad way to look at things, Step and half sibling can truly be a blessing. I hope someday you will see that.

[@Hazel.Eyed.Gemini]

My mom remarried when I was in my twenties. I called him dad. He called me his step daughter. I called him dad, to my biological father. My “step” dad did more for me than my real dad ever did. To each it’s own though. Love the ones that love you

[@Scorp93]

I slightly disagree with the approach of “This is my house my rules.” As a stepchild who faced step abuse, basically that sounds like “This is now my house, these are my rules, I own you now, your feelings no longer matter, you’re a powerless child.” I think the better approach would to simply tell the child “I respect your feelings. However, I wish we could make things work.” Or maybe even asking about what went wrong, and how things could work. Imagine a random stranger off the streets one day comes in and decides to take over your household and boss you around? Any logic person would say get the hell out. So it’s more about befriending everyone around your significant other and building trust. Otherwise it will be a highly toxic environment. If you bully the household into holding specific beliefs for the step family to look like it works on the outside, resentment will begin to build among the children and parents.

[@bluedaughter]

I understand completely about not using the phrase 'step'. My daughter is not my husband's birth daughter but he has never introduced her to other people as his 'step' daughter. He introduces her as 'and this is my daughter....'. To me and my dear husband that is just how it is. We have been married now for 22 years. I wish that all blended families were this way but unfortunately this is not the case for one reason or another. My daughter respects my husband and my husband respects my daughter. They are two of the most wonderful people in my life. I would not have married my husband if he could not love my daughter as his own.

[@kb93fashoe]

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[@MaddoxNine]

This can work for some families, but it definitely never worked with mine. I still have a dad, and my stepdad calling himself my dad feels disloyal and insulting to my actual dad. It depends on the family.

[@FS02012]

bluedaughter and make sure u talk to your daughter about sexual abuse...and if anything is bugging her to talk to you...many.mothers learn years later

[@ayyoyou6589]

Well I had a blended family I let her call me mom because her mom was completely absent...but even still she manipulated her dad and now we are not together but oh well

[@dominicks19]

bluedaughter be he didn't want to adopt her as his own. Have fun with your fake facade of a family ..

[@macuse2008]

I suddenly got mad respect for this man...didn't know that before

[@selah71]

Please don't impose upon children by insisting they call you mom or dad because doing so can cause turmoil for them and hurt to angry feelings for their biological mom or dad. Also, it is perfectly ok to introduce stepchildren as my wife's, or husband's, son or daughter. Because that is the truth and kids know truth. I didn't call my stepfather "dad" because I had a dad I loved. We kids called our stepfather by his first name and was perfectly fine for everyone, including his kids because he was their dad; not ours! This maintained everyone's position and in a respectful way with no hard or hurt feelings.

[@Not-Ap]

On the flipside though many cultures believe calling adult by there first name is rude. So maybe just call then Mr. or Mrs. just out respect especially if your living with them. What do you think?

[@kurtisstrong4555]

So if the stepdad is doing everything the bio dad should be then what?

[@Jglendab8153]

Love it! When I was married, by ex husband and I stated that there are no steps and no halfs. All of our children and just that; our children. They acknowledge each other as brother or sister.

[@martinmendoza2744]

It wasn’t their choice to have “halfs” or “steps” in their family, it was YOUR choice, so you shouldn’t try to force them not to say the TRUTH about things when it was YOU the one that decided to get involved in that type of situation 😉

[@MsRae-ev9hs]

This is why I don't do blended families. I respect that others can do this but I don't have the patience to raise someone elses child and invest money and time into a kid that isn't mine and won't respond to me well if I make a simple request and I can't retaliate simply because they are a child. I am not putting my time and money into that.

[@richardwilliams3130]

Love your show you gave me a lot of guidance growing up never had a family man but at least when I was sad turn on your radio show and laugh my butt off god bless you

[@deermechanic1159]

I'm a step parent and it's hard just have Faith in God and do what you do for your husband. Their mom are toxic when they fill their heads with foolishness but the truth will come out at the end! Meanwhile my husband and I set rules and they have to go by them.

[@alishaelzie7348]

I'm definitely going through this now. My SO doesn't believe me when I tell him about all the foolishness the girls say "their mom said". Just total disrespect. I've been a "step"mother for a year now, and I am so close to walking out.

[@stickerlady1774]

Audio/video record everything as proof.

[@peggyferguson9817]

@@alishaelzie7348 I know I have been going through this also and they call you a liar but put Faith in God and let him do the work if you love your husband. Kid's will test you especially if not your own!

[@alishaelzie7348]

As much as I loved his children, I recently decided it was time to call it quits. I had to face the reality that he is an abusive covert narcissist. His oldest daughter brought everything out in the open, even stating he knew about everything that was going on. Almost 2 years down the drain and I don't think I will ever receive answers to why or an apology. God heard my prayers after all!

[@peggyferguson9817]

@@alishaelzie7348 I'm so sorry but hold your head up cause you will have a blessing.

[@gercacn]

For a free online course in stepfamily realities, problems, and tips from a veteran stepfamily therapist, see sfhelp.org/sf/guide7.htm

[@kikataye6293]

My ex step daughter, that was grown already when we married hated me because I wouldn’t watch her children ( i’m disabled ) let her move in with us ( she never lived with him before so why after we married) She was a horrible person that I thought was very nice. Her dad described her to be a very nice person and everything that he said about her such as not smoking weed and drinking Tequila etc…( wasting money buying it and begging for money afterwards, having an aggressive temper cursing all the time etc…was not true about her. She doesn’t get along with her own mother either. I’m so glad that I don’t have to deal with that anymore!

[@Dreamweaver777]

People don't realize they will grow old and if they make a mess of things with their kids their own lives will be a mess. Unity out the gate makes for unity through the years. My mom and step dad were self absorped and gave each other permission to favor their "blood" kids and grandkids. They are now old, frail and largely alone. I used to tell mother that these days were coming if she didn't put a pot of pasta on and facilitate peace with her kids and step kids. No bueno.

[@thefamilycore1]

Incredible interview with so much wisdom and truth for blended families 💚

[@carolynwertelecki698]

A step mother will hate her step children a million times more than a step father.

[@realtalktherapyreactions]

No the children respect men more than women so it's easier for them to step parent

[@Not-Ap]

No that's not really true at all. All my almost step fathers always saw me as someone who was in the way or just their. I never hated them either but they certainly never liked me.

[@kenyonjreggleston4827]

That is such a blessing to hear! That you are such a good family and you are such a good father OMG more men out here like you! I had such bad luck when I let a person into my children's life when they were really young I pray to God that they can forgive me and God will 2 because I've always wanted someone that that would respect them and wouldn't treat them dirty

[@gloriaday2533]

You are a blessing to all of us Steve Harvey...common sense...great man..and funny as hell!

[@rikki_25]

I have a two year step daughter ive been in her life since she was 6 months i don't make her call me mom she calls me by my name but i still help take of her and take her out and buy her things her mom is in her life and i don't feel like stepping on her toes. When people ask is she my daughter in passing just say yes because its easier then explaining the whole story ill always treat her like my daughter and she loves me so i don't feel the need to force her to call me mom.

[@johnpowell598]

I know my situation is a little different. My daughter ‘s biological step out and never looked back and never gave less than a damn about my daughter. I have been in her life since she was 15 and I been making it happen for her. I put her thru college and held her down every since. She is 28 now and it seems like she is still stand off ish. I love my baby but she gonna have to come around at some point because it does hurt and is a little embarrassing when she gives me the could shoulder around the rest of the family and friends. The bottom line that dude is not gonna come back and be dad, so she can stop trying to leave room for him in her life and let me in . I don’t know maybe I’m just being overzealous right now. What do you all think?

[@stickerlady1774]

I’m sorry hun, you got played. She does not love you and has used you the whole time.

[@show_me_your_kitties]

Damn you got taken for a ride with that one. Sorry 😢

[@johnpowell598]

@@stickerlady1774 thanks for the reply, I completely agree with you. Sometimes I feel like my wife and daughter benefit more from my life than I do…. It’s all good 👍🏿 last year I started living my best life

[@Talkbookishwithme]

She used you.

[@normabarros3124]

I understand how important a child needs his father in his life. I can't imagine my kids not being able to live with me. I wouldn't have any memories. How could Steve's wife think that was okay and not have maybe a counseling session or something with the bio mom. I wouldn't want my kids to feel neglected not living with their father. If that was the case I would do it now that I'm older. The weekends would have to be open for my children to visit me if they wanted too. I would definitely let my son go but my daughter I don't know, lots of prayer and fasting for the pain of my soul.

[@TheQuietTusky]

because the biological mother sent their child " a minor" on a plane without warning him , called him 30 minutes before the plane was supposed to land , so their was no one to talk to or bring to counseling

[@samuelsantana2995]

Unfortunately sometimes step parents forget that they're only step parents. Thankfully my sons moms spouse and my spouse understand that they are the step parents and know they're place. My spouse knew right away what's was up and had nothing but respect but it took my sons moms spouse to ease into the reality that he was only a step dad and not his dad. Hes a nice guy though and has good intentions just needed to know his place.

[@normabarros3124]

@@samuelsantana2995 amen to that

[@samuelsantana2995]

@@normabarros3124 glad to see they're women who still think this way. Like a lady said in a previous comment, some people act as if "Step" is a curse word. Which its not its only the truth. As my spouse says " I love your son and will die for him like hes my own, but i could never replace his mom and take that title out of respect for his mom."

[@normabarros3124]

@@samuelsantana2995 thank you, I'm glad to know your wife is handling everything well with love and respect.

[@jeffreyvasby3230]

Amen! I'm the Dad that stepped up. I never refer to any of my babies that way. 8 sons,26 grandsons and 2 great grandsons. 5 daughters and 14 grandaughters. I not only love and adore them all the same. I am also Uncle Jeff to everyone I know and meet. Proud Army Veteran and to deal with my PTSD and other health problems. I go everyday if possible and visit,encourage and pray. Wherever I go❤. God made it simple. Love One Another! Love God and one another. Surround you and your family with Godly,Loving, Positive People= Good life! Bad People=Bad life! Yes it's that simple.

[@honey_bearperls6927]

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[@konnichiwala889]

My fiancé 11 yr old son wants to act like a man but he wants to be treated with kids gloves. For one he doesn’t put his clothes away and then acts like he has no clothes. He’s 11 but thinks he is too young to put his own clothes away. It’s not like I’m making him wash his clothes by hand. Just put your clothes away in your draw.

[@dreamingofluxury9444]

The parenting styles can be a big problem. You come into a child's life that has never been corrected or disciplined, and try to raise them up properly with direction and discipline, It's a mess. Their bio parent can know they need it, they just don't want you doing it. But you're a full time step parent because the bio mom left. It has to be some compromise somewhere smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@sungoddess5548]

My situation right now. Only difference is biological mom is involved in the childs life but the child lacks discipline and its hard for me to tolerate bad behavior when the child comes over to visit. But my hands are tied because the guidance I give is immediately thrown out the door the moment he goes back to his mom's house.

[@marymann6407]

My situation right now and when l tried talking to my husband in a polite way he said l don't love his kids .mind you they are 19 and 17 .he said l had to apologise to them. Truth is l don't encourage anyone to marry men with kids especially when they full of their kids drama

[@asmabaqer]

i agree with you completely. i had a step mum and my dad wanted me to call her "mum"! never happened.

[@scorpionx1503]

asma baqer i wouldn't call my stepparents (if i had them, but luckily my parents are still hapilly married) 'mum' or 'dad' either. that's a total disrespect to your real parents. they are just your mum or dad's new partners and that's it. they are not there to be your extra parent or to replace the real one.

[@jenariceee]

So I guess the step parents shouldn't be responsible to fulfill or be a "replace" worker to do "real mom/dad" tasks like take care of you (feed, love etc.) help raise you because you're not their real son/daughters but just a new relationship?

[@macuse2008]

She supported his fatherly role in the house. It doesn't always go that way, but for sure that alone, that one thing, contributed to his success

[@187Chevy]

Don’t be no fool ppl…the ppl from the 50’s & 60’s did it right but I would not take that chance in no way shape or form ✌🏾

[@JeevesReturns]

“Step”? Ridiculous term. Um, no. You just married someone who has a kid or kids. You are NOT a parent! You have no rights or custody.

[@scorpionx1503]

JeevesReturns that's right!

[@Ad-Lo]

But they do have rights and custody. Dumb comment you made there.

[@scorpionx1503]

Adidas Love she means the term 'parents'.

[@stickerlady1774]

A stepparent is not granted legal “rights” to a child nor legal “custody” of a child unless stepparent is awarded legal adoption and/or legal guardianship of said child through the courts. A stepparent is a term used to describe a legally married man or woman to a man or woman with biological and/or adopted children and is normally viewed as an actual parent in the home with his/her spouse and children. In other words, the stepparent is allowed/expected to take on the role as a parent in the home in an agreed upon manner/extent between the adult married couple, but the biological or adoptive parent or guardian is responsible for most, if not all, parenting decisions, normally with the input of the stepparent. All of this is true regardless of the stepchild’s acceptance or rejection of the novel arrangement.

[@nebakanezaforevermore2452]

Steve Harvey i dont agree. this is a mans world. no matter how low of a father your step children's father may be you can never say youre new their new father. youre disrespecting yourself by belittling another man by claiming his kids. i remember when my step dad told me this, I was so confused and I accepted this confusion as it left me in a dase. step parents just need to love their partners and build a relationship with their partners kids with knowlege and acces to their real parents instead of trying to brain wash them with this "im youre father now" bs. you dont have to be our fathers. all we ask for is love, understanding, and courtesy. give us those and you should have a great house whole

[@davidregi7571]

All I ask is he leave me alone and act more like cool uncle....

[@Ad-Lo]

Speak for yourself. No two blended families are the same.

[@stickerlady1774]

It works both ways.

[@AD-uq4pz]

Should’ve stayed married till the kids are older (like 18) then bounce out of the marriage because the step kid situation is messy

[@michellehyatt4643]

A lot of this would not happen if kids were not forced to visit the parent that has a spouse that the child does not like. I cannot understand what benefit it is to force a child to go into a home and interact with someone they don’t like. Children have feelings and I don’t think telling them they have to except someone they don’t like is the right thing to do. That just is going to create childhood trauma for them into their adulthood. If the parent wants to move on, let them, but don’t force the child to accept them because they do.

[@roughmetaphors]

I couldn't agree more. The parent that left and moved on and remarried it's like they want to assuage their guilt for abandoning their children and play pretend they are a parent every other weekend so they can lie to themselves that they didn't really leave, when they most certainly DID and all it does is traumatize the kid. So utterly selfish. If you want to see your kids, just come take them out to dinner and fun stuff like that, don't force them to go live with a witch who doesn't want them around.

[@2251coco]

Steve unsuppressed me man I love it

[@inspiringminds6822]

You kinda look like Steve lol.

[@jswoleinyourhole2864]

Yeah that all sounds good. But when you have a woman who is more worried about being her children's friends than a parent and then gets upset with you when you get mad that her children talk back, break things and do what they want after being told to do something else then you have to fight with your significant other just because you got upset and are trying to be dad. It makes for resentment very quickly. Don't date women with kids.

[@jasonjones4036]

Thank you. Taking that advice

[@garciasmallenginerepair2133]

Good when they present the ideal Hollywood settings on television. But in real life, no single mother is going to allow you to be the man of the house, much less have your rules apply to her children. And that is precisely the nightmare of being a stepfather and having stepchildren. I have lived that nightmare in person and I do not recommend it to anyone. Look for a woman without children or stay single.

[@bryghtgyrl]

He may not be your natural child but you hold the role of father mother etc in this house and as a member he-she is expected to fall in line. I dont expect you will like me all the time but i expected to be treated with respect at all times.

[@Ad-Lo]

BabeOfBlasphemy you are not allowed to have kids by him?! Umm! How did you respond to that?

[@me2u880]

What do you do if you meeting the adult kids? Already the one daughter is coming around more and hardly speaks... trying to decide if it’s worth putting my heart in it

[@kaylashane1181]

You do deserve to be 'dad' instead of 'step dad' !

[@braxton-z4x]

I have a relationship with my dad so I wouldn’t call my stepmom and stepdad mom and dad because I have a relationship with both of my biological parents

[@investing4arellanos]

Good stuff. Interesting and much needed

[@bjaxon]

3 words. She. Got. Kids. RED ALERT, RED ALERT !!!!! ABORT THE MISSION !!! Run Forest Run!

[@sbc4497]

Never referred my SKs as my steps nor has my family. Yet because of the hangups from their bio parents, I’m the easiest(safe) target because I’m the replaceable member of their family. They do not want to hurt their parents because to the kids, those individuals are not replaceable. As a step parent in the child’s eyes, you will always be replaceable. Those sort of issues will not just end with you or the children you share with their parent. Not always but majority. If one parent is inciting their children to commit violence towards the other parent’s household, all you can do is remove your own to prevent harm. The SO needs to learn to be the parent that teaches their children real boundaries of right and wrong(lawfully) despite what their other parent promotes. Been there to know.

[@countchocula2169]

Why does when Steve Harvey say this is too much fun it sounds like somebody kill me?

[@maj1636]

I don't feel imposing "someone" to my children nor imposing my children to any man and ask him to provide for them.

[@Aunit1984]

So his wife said all the kids even the ones who aren't hers, have to live all together but what about the actually mother's who had Steve's other kids.. what do they say about that?? Because they may not give a damn about all that and want their kids to be with them instead.. that whole moment of what she was saying was kinda weird in my opinion..

[@johnnyd5687]

All I know is having Skids suuuuuuuuuuuuucks!

[@michelledb2988]

Yep it does....

[@davidtichborne2912]

Stepparents are often abusive and very demanding and often want the kids to just respect them even more than there own parents I've had horrible exsperiences with my criminal alcholic abusive and neglectful people I don't think they deserve to be treated good if they are like that and don't you dare exspectations me to like them abusers don't deserve it with that being said I don't think my real parents are any better there pretty much just as abusive and neglectful they don't need respect I think what they need is help figuring out how to properly raise kids and treat people right and possibly need help with there own issues but having issues is no exscuse to treat people like that so please stop talking about stepparents like they all deserve respect I think they do deserve it if they treat everyone how they want to be treated then they probably do deserve it but if they treat people like mine do then I don't think they deserve respect I'm all grown up anyway so I don't have to listen to it anymore and I don't have to Abbey by them but treat others with respect then you deserve respect treat them like crap then people will probably want to return that favor

[@stickerlady1774]

Like attracts like. It’s basic chemistry.

[@The.English.Cup.Center]

i believe the kids have the right to choose who to live with and who to call dad and mom. if they want to call you step dad then you are a step dad. you can't force them to have more than just one dad or mum.that's messed up.

[@Juliusmith91]

Your question doesn't make any since at all... It's like you didn't finish the question. Now I have a question for you, can you give us a deeper meaning of your question?

[@thobanivitaleous2837]

so many kids damn...and some of them are from different marriages..whoooooh.

[@mariejohnson3795]

+Thobani Vitaleous +misscamara12 Actually his exwife sent her son via airplane to him without telling him she was sending him and called Steve 30 minutes before the plane was scheduled to land (reported extensively and her assistant said she bought the ticket and made the call). She is also the one who filed for divorce. He only had 1 minor child when he married his last wife and it's the one that was sent to him via air. So, there were no other parents to talk to because all his other children were adults. Her children are the minors.

[@cmthoughts4803]

Being a step child is not easy especially if you are a respecting one , some stepmothers 👺. If I have kids and die I don’t wish for them to live with anyone, rather take them to foster care.

[@Warsie]

1:18 Oh yeah that worked so well for Europe/Southwest Asia in the early-mid-20th century. "Oh you don't have an option on what state to be in, surprise! There's no problem that can come from this, I fucking swear......

[@4marriages539]

I did nothing but love and been a good father; but time 10 years, no matter what I seem to do year after year they don't appreiate me but it better for us living 140 miles away from MIL but when we moved close 2 years ago all hell broke lose should of stayed here in first place. last 11 mths they gotten lazy not cleaning up after selves living with grandmom but they know with me they have to step up and didn't want to being real disrespectful, rebellious telling me "oh you ain't my father"

[@stickerlady1774]

I hope you were able to release yourself from your hateful step kids.

[@jdods8398]

The Boyz are spoken in a way far worser than stepson's. It absolutely needs to be reestablished that whatever step is now mom/dad, period. Any faltering sets the bar.🎉

[@marcuswilliams7342]

How does it work when you're the sole provider and step dad, but the dad always wants to be around and come hang out at MY home where they (his kids, my step kids)live? They haven't gotten the divorce even though they've been separated for about 3 years. He wants to be around all up in the house for holidays and birthdays. It comes across as though he or them both are trying to live this fantasy where they can still be a happy family as they were before they separated, but enjoy leaving that and going their separate ways at the end of the day... please advise

[@ryansaving]

Yeah, you just need to hear what Christopher had told me to breathe deep and I’m gonna breathe deep again and I’m gonna wait till tomorrow to handle the situation

[@Mixitoa]

My mum has a partner I don't think I'll ever see him as my step dad I just can't

[@tonyacolbert6898]

where does Mary Harvey fit into all this? Wynton's mother?

[@positivevibes5364]

Tonya Colbert exactly

[@MeltingHeartsWaxMelts]

Tonya Colbert Mary sent him to Steve and didn't tell him til the plane was almost there.

[@Hazel.Eyed.Gemini]

Truthful4ever ask Wynton

[@Officialprodbytreybeats]

All great in theory.

[@misscamara12]

Steve's new wife seems controlling. How can you just request that his children from his other wives come live with them? I wonder if the mothers had much say in this. I think it's his celebrity status that allowed him to get the power to take away children from their mothers and have them live with him & his new wife. I don't have a good impression of his new wife based on his video. She doesn't have any biological children for him so connived with him to take away his real children from their bio moms.

[@jgyrwa]

+misscamara12 I dnt think she was being controlling.I think that she felt it was of great importance that the children bonded and got along just as her new marriage was building.She obviously valued family and wanted to exhibit the highest level of love and appreciation by wanting his kids to move in.See,if she never inquired about the kids and just moved her kids in and reap the benefits of a celebrity lifestyle while his other kids were left outside.You all would be painting that picture of her in a negative light. DAMN IF YOU DO,DAMN IF YOU DONT FOR SOME ONLOOKERS OUT HERE.

[@misscamara12]

+jgyrwa I agree, that's a good perspective to look at it from. I just don't like to see children taken from their mothers for another woman to raise, but I agree that she probably just genuinely wanted all the children to be treated the same. However, if he was just living with her children that wouldn't be a good look for her. Maybe the mothers of Steve Harvey's children might have been okay with him having custody.

[@jgyrwa]

misscamara12 Yes, because his former Ex wife is currently in jail. Steve being the breadwinner also means that he can provide a better quality of life with opportunities than any of his ex spouses.Thats in the childs best interest no matter which parent is holding the money.Im just saying...

[@mariejohnson3795]

+jgyrwa She sent Wynton to steve via airplane and didn't tell him until 30 minutes before the plane landed.

[@mariejohnson3795]

+misscamara12 Actually his exwife sent her son via airplane to him without telling him she was sending him and called Steve 30 minutes before the plane was scheduled to land (reported extensively and her assistant said she bought the ticket and made the call). She is also the one who filed for divorce. He only had 1 minor child when he married his last wife and it's the one that was sent to him via air. So, there were no other parents to talk to because all his other children were adults. Her children are the minors.

[@alisiawilliams7390]

As long as these grown people get what they want from a rich man...I'm sure everything will be just peachy keen! I would have loved my step father too if he was rich!!! LOL

[@toscasmith6878]

yes, only Steve!

[@aqueenwaits]

I believe in the same logic! Great video!

[@Kiki-wi7px]

"STEP" Should Never BE Used in a Household. WHO Has Your Back?🤔

[@positivevibes5364]

love him

[@ElectrickSoundz]

Interrupting our bodily functions

[@Splenda2021]

This all is alot easier to go thru and make it When you have millions and step dad is a star. Try it when your broke and a nobody . Let’s be real come on

[@kerethat1683]

I loooooooove you always Uncle Steve 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️ , I truly never like you that word , even though it's the reality but it's not a sin or crime so to some people are more comfortable with it , so it's cool 👍🙏🏼♥️♥️♥️

[@joycea3290]

What is a step sister?

[@Leolioness44]

Steve Harvey do the real mothers and fathers of the children have visitation right and shared responsibility

[@futureknoxy]

I don't think so coz he has the full custody of his child

[@ElectrickSoundz]

Saving the breath saving the breath saving the breath saving the right same number same number I've seen your brothers like vocal cord speaking forever

[@ElectrickSoundz]

Organizing organizing organizing organizing being born and organizing organizing

[@cameliaturda6472]

💜

[@erazco6568]

Oh ok I can see that working two single parents hooked up with one another instead of a single mother hooking up with a guy without kids or a man hooking up with a woman without kids etc

[@jmodz7392]

Still works I and my girlfriend been together about a year she has a daughter at the age of 4 now she turning 5. It was hard at first because she would get extremely jealous and wanted all the attention even though her mom would be with her all day she would through tantrums non stop I can be working all day and soon as I get home she starts acting out in front of her mom to get her attention it was fustersting because she wouldn’t respect me even though I was nice to her snd she always been nice to me but boy soon as I start giving attention to her mom she switches up. Then I realized you have to give attention to her also and tell her it’s not ok that she’s doing her tsntrums n stuff she was spoiled and expected soomething to buy her every time we went to the mall or something she didn’t knew the word no she wouldn’t take no as an answer. Until her mom had enough of it and started spanking her and putting her in time out she’s been good ever since she’s knows what’s right and wrong I agree she’s still a kid but she needs to know her place that we are the parents and we are the boss of them not the other way around so it does work you just have to play shat a dad does but she will never be yours though best thing to do is be there for them snd if they don’t like it then act like you don’t care at longest you snd your girlfriend or wife are happy that’s all it matters she will live on to her own life and what she does with her life she’ll know deep down we always been there for her there’s nothing you can do

[@erazco6568]

She had a daughter things would of been different if she was a boy with the dad still in the picture

[@bridget4858]

@@jmodz7392 Would love to hear more as I am in a similar position.

[@kristine8338]

But, you still have the biological mother or father haven't you? And their families? Grandparents...

[@thedeekabides]

Steer clear, gentleman. Buying used cars is frugal, and that's about it.

[@countchocula2169]

Morgan hot af

[@cicyzoe9755]

I completely detest the word step mum, step dad. Simply because the word step mum and step dad are used as penetrating stereotypes towards families trying to make it work for their kids. I am not trying to take the place of real parents, but I'm only trying to create a family bond, a sense of belonging that can overcome whatever step mum step dad stereotypes the world has got about step parents. As an African, every kid grew up with a lot of Pitt towards those who lived with a step mum with the image of this wicked merciless punisher of a woman called step mum. This image was equally created in Cinderella where she's treated bad by her step mum and step sisters. That's not who I am. So I'm completely against any step mum step dad names. Call me aunt, uncle, if you can't call me dad, mum.

[@vannorgirl35]

I dont care what you do for my child youre not her Dad youre Steve or whatever and she will never have another mother.

[@mondaytuesday699]

Buck Vannor ok cool but when ur daughter's step dad doesn't treat her like "his daughter" don't get mad when he's out buying stuff for his real kids and not ur daughter.

[@Xenlacasa45]

@@mondaytuesday699 they want the benefits but don’t want to give loyalty. The nerve of these people.

[@mrpickle9117]

Families are not for everybody and I’m glad I don’t have a family of my own. It’s more peaceful and I love my simple life without expectations.

[@Not-Ap]

You mean without responsibilities on your person, time, or money. Which is fine so long as you don't sugar coat it.

[@adamwarlock5286]

Why You lucky stiff

[@heidimaxham9661]

@Annette Key no. I got diariah. Deez Buffalo wingz is ripping my booty open. I'm Botta blow my guts all over the place. Botta bust a bag, son. Stomach is too sensitive deez dayz

[@BlackGirlLovesAnime6]

@Annette Key 😂

[@Valtron771]

Its great but your missing out on the good sides too

[@eugeneeverard9717]

I think it is probably a lot easier to get someone’s kids to move in and like someone when they are funny, rich and famous.

[@brittanybitch4908]

That part

[@carlenemccutchen4570]

lol 🤣 so true !

[@Yomama1029]

@@eugeneeverard9717 yeah!

[@aurelli3]

I think Maury says it best...YOU ARE NOT THE FATHER!!!

[@Tracey122872]

Alice s i totally agree, as long as your married to a woman that will tale care of “her kids” financially, emontionally, and time consuming wise.... these relationships will work fine

[@xsidx232]

FACTS

[@PrincessAndHenry]

"Step" is not a curse word. It is okay to refer to your spouse's kids as your stepkids, because that is what they are. It's not a bad term to use. They have parents already, you cannot just come in and insist that you are "mom" or "dad".

[@analafee-diaz7499]

P xO I agree. For the most part, when I talk about the kids to people around I say "My kids". But they definitely refer to me as their stepmom which is totally fine. Its who I am. We have them 50% of the time and their Mom is very much a part of their lives

[@beazy5621]

Totally agree

[@demnslayer09]

My step-mother is such a cunt I just refer to her at my Dad's wife these days, but my Step-dad is so amazing I sometimes call him my second Dad. I usually refer to him as my step-dad, and he usually calls me his step-son, but he has said something very powerful that I'm sure a lot of people have heard. "I love you as if you were my own kid. I think of you as my son, but I never want to try to take your dad's place because that's his role." I think a lot of people think because they are the step-parent that they should try to take the role of the parent and that's really not their place (there's always exceptions). Take the role of a supportive family member. Be the person they can come and unload on. I like to think of it as pretend you are an Uncle or Aunt first and over time you will build and earn that relationship of a second parent.

[@leija8005]

Agreed

[@darylcray9463]

I agree however the single parent and step parent should talk about situation because its a big step being involved in a ready made family and ground rules must be discussed so things wont get of track

[@sherryd3299]

Nobody considers that when you divorce it's like throwing a grenade into the child's life. Then when either or both parents remarry it's another grenade. The child gets no say in the situation at all. The parent says this is my new wife/husband. These are your new siblings. I love them and that's all that matters. Nobody cares if the child loves the new family, new rules, new parent, new siblings.

[@vanessaroper3028]

Exactly

[@tammiepage6489]

Not trying to be mean but don’t put your own feelings like that’s how it is for everybody cause I know other people that has had a family that remarried and they had a happy life so there’s not always a damn case so stop running your mouth about some that might’ve happened to you I had a stepfather and I was better than my real father. Did you know Mr. parents take care of his even after the divorce to because he’s been case of them divorcing and they still considered. Their kids still are kids and I still see them this case of that too. Do you research don’t go there and run your mouth or criticize things and you know what you know the kid don’t have a say to that or 18 anyway, so yeah I do agree with that he does not have a say to the 18 so what should a long as the person is not hurting their child because it’s hard to get a kid like them but again, don’t put your own feelings out there like cause lotta cases where it works out I mean what’s the difference between people divorcing that actually have the kids together that happens to there’s no different so don’t put your damn feelings out there like it’s like that for everybody it’s not again I have a stepdad and to me he’s my father my real father wasn’t in my life my real father didn’t wanna be part of my life. Sometimes I have a stew and I have a sub dad that actually took care of me. I was always there for me now I get that some who are not as luckier and yeah you’re right sometimes it does happen not all the time and that’s what you take, and for the most part yeah most people that remember they usually get to let them get to know their kids before they even remarried and they’re our parents also, they do talk to the kids before they remarry been in the day. No the kids don’t have a say because they have a say anything else it’s really pathetic do you think a child should have a say when they’re the fucking kid now I think the day long as the parent to child first and long as the other person is trying respect but you know how hard is it for some stepparents sometimes kids don’t like them for dumb reasons, but again don’t put your own experience on somebody else because sometimes it actually does work out. Actually a lot of times are worth a lot more than you think there are times that it doesn’t work out but that’s called life now I will say it’s bad when somebody puts their spouse before their child and that doesn’t matter of a step parent or the personal parent, you know the birth parent it don’t matter their child should come first no matter what, so no matter who they marry that doesn’t mean the child doesn’t come first they should but Eric is a difference it also third act like you know that’s always the case cause you’re running your mouth like that’s always the case. No it’s not. There’s a lot of cases where it works out but I guess you shouldn’t take a chance because it might not work out well you can sit there and live under a rock for the rest of your life and be afraid because they might not work out

[@roughmetaphors]

oh my god so much this.

[@TrippDon]

@@tammiepage6489not reading all that crap. Just take accountability and Shutup

[@kamijenkins4202]

@@tammiepage6489 The whole point of a post is to tell your side from your experiences or feelings. They were just saying their opinion on the topic of the subject. Just like how you are responding to what they posted. Everyone has the right to tell their opinions and thoughts on things.....just like how I am responding to you. I would never tell you to NOT SAY whatever you have to say on the matter. Everyone has an opinion, and no one should be told to not speak just because you do not like what they have to say. I don't care for what you said, but I am not telling you to not post your thoughts. I just think that your post sounded pretty hateful and that is not nice. Just pointing out the fact that we need to choose a better and nicer way to respond to people and not be so rude. I hope you have a very blessed day. @sherryd3299, was just explaining how she felt on the subject.

[@heatherann4390]

Don't date someone with kids. Problem solved!!!

[@mondaytuesday699]

Lady UnPlugged amen

[@marimarielove]

Heather Ann when you're on your early 20s that logic makes sense, after a certain age there is likely no such thing

[@damionjackson1743]

Only if it was that easy.

[@marimarielove]

Haze if you don't mind me asking, how old are you

[@marimarielove]

Haze I wasn't trying to be a smart ass or anything when I asked how old you are i really just wanted to know because I understand exactly what you're saying about the adult children from my own experience and I don't often find people who agree with me, everyone tends to think if the children are not actually children everything should be smooth sailing and that's not the case unfortunately, I've found adult children in blended families tend to be needy, territorial and down right disrespectful when in all actuality they have plenty going on in their own adult lives that they shouldn't be worried about what their parents have going on as long as there is no abuse or anything like that...I say all the time, after going through this experience I'd rather date a man with small children than adult children

[@immanuel6117]

Man im glad my parents divorced and meet new people when i was big enough to move out.... Poor children living in this situation having to adapt to parents choises

[@Hazel.Eyed.Gemini]

IMMANUEL 👼 don’t most children adapt to parents choices

[@IKSRTFO]

@@Hazel.Eyed.Gemini thank you

[@nicholusbaker2830]

Poor step parent having to deal with a spouse with baggage and disrespectful/self entitled/sociopathic step children.

[@dfourdior9318]

@@nicholusbaker2830 then leave

[@Spokentruths725]

@@dfourdior9318 lmao right poor step parent who made the decision to be in this situation smh stfu. The kids dont make any decisions yet have to really deal with it for the rest of their lives.

[@braxton-z4x]

But If the biological or mother father is still involved in their lives it makes it really complicated

[@raeo7963]

Yes it does!!!!

[@johnnyd5687]

And if they are not involved it’s still very complicated. I have had fatherless Skids for 12 years. Its horrible

[@stvnmcdwll922]

thats why so many people dont even want to deal with it cause its a potential timebomb

[@mikes7446]

I’ve had a step mom for well over 15 years. To this day I still can’t call her my mom. I don’t have a relationship with her. I don’t get good vibes when I’m around her.

[@belle4126]

Same way with my stepdad

[@belle4126]

TikTok Show yeah I completely understand that my stepdad is just an anti lgbt guy so he is not so nice

[@nokwandamhlanga]

Same feeling

[@WhitneyAbrina]

My step mom is a total bitch.

[@mikes7446]

@@strwbrywoman who's crying here clown?

[@SesameStreetRacingChannel]

Given the odds for second and third marriages with kids...it is an ABSOLUTE MYSTERY as to why people do it...PEOPLE IS CRAZY.

[@tsholofelomaruatona5836]

Well i hav a stepson...but biologically i dnt have a child..he is my joy,I luv him very much....I told myself dat not even 1 day will I eva call him my stepson....i knw very well down da line he may change but for now I will play da role as a mother and totally doing it from da goodness of my heart without expecting anything in return

[@dullare]

blessed!

[@zanelemofikoe2374]

My husband loves my son the way you describe this love - its beautiful. So may I ask - he does your family feel about your step child, and what will happen when you have kids of your own, see husbands family don't really vibe with my son, its hard for them to give love, so now I don't allow my other child to visit he's grandparents,, cause I don't want to separate my kids and I stand by this.

[@mareek2007]

@@zanelemofikoe2374 I'm sorry if this seems intrusive but isn't that emotional blackmail? Your husband supports this? Do they outwardly mistreat your son or just have trouble showing affection? Also doesn't your son already have paternal grandparents of his own so why force the relationship with the steps? The reality of the situation is they're half siblings with two different sets of family on Dad's side.You cannot force your first son Dad's side to love your youngest child and vice versa.They will always have a special love for their biological one, that's human nature,as long as there is no abuse or mistreatment going on. The reality with half siblings is that there's always going to be some sort of divide at some point that's out of your control.That doesn't change the love between your sons though,just focus on their relationship with each other. My parents have half siblings who didn't even grow up in the same household as them yet we're so close the half doesnt matter.

[@whitneyw.7919]

Selfish people who divorced now want everything to work out- it doesn't really work that way.

[@LuxeprivaeMedia]

What about those that are not selfish? I mean as long as we are making up labels for people that we don't know...

[@stickerlady1774]

I can relate to both these statements.

[@ellenkh4422]

steve harvey is an spoiled, entitled, bully. I feel sorry for his kids. it is abusive to force a parent relationship on a step-child.

[@Yo-dd3en]

This is a joke, and def more programming. These marriages should not have occurred. Period. Its not the true design of marriage. The children always suffer and if this actor think he did a great job at rearing his children and step children ...please look at them now. Praying for them and all blended families.

[@levanahbatlila859]

dictatorship? Sounds abusive to me.

[@jenniferw5095]

Since my stepchild wasn't raised properly, it's her dad's responsibility to keep her in line. She's manipulative and lies. Learned all that mess from her mother. I think she's realizing she can't manipulate me.

[@nadishah8241]

Same here